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Bare Marriage
Tired of Christian pat answers about marriage? The podcast that goes in-depth into marriage, parenting, and even sex--to see how we can live the passionate life we were meant for. Paired with Bare Marriage--the blog!
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Episode 166: A Deep Dive into Ephesians 5 - Why Hierarchy in Marriage Doesn't Work
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Episode 165: The 3 Types of Libido
Send us Fan Mail Links to things mentioned: Our Patreon! Support where this blog is going for as little as $5 a month! The Boost Your Libido Course and The…
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Episode 164: Scary Body Language & Telling on Yourself
Send us Fan Mail Links to things mentioned: Our Patreon: https://patreon.com/baremarriage The study on Who Cheats More…
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Episode 163: Let's Talk Ogling and Dressing for Attention - Research Deep Dive Episode!
Send us Fan Mail Links to things mentioned: See the study! Want an easier way to read a summary of the study? Read yesterday's post. Previous podcast: are men…
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Episode 162: Why We Need a New Standard for Healthy Teaching Today
Send us Fan Mail Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the…
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Episode 161: Should Pastors be Expected to Give Sex Advice?
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Episode 160: How Marriage Advice can be Misdiagnosed
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Episode 159: How Christian Marriage Books Set Me Up For Failure ft. Natalie Hoffman
Send us Fan Mail Links to things mentioned: Natalie’s Flying Free site, and Natalie’s awesome Facebook Page, Instagram, and YouTube channel. Plus listen in to…
Bare MarriageEpisode 158: Pastors Plagiarizing: An Example Using Josh Howerton--with Scot McKnight's commentary
Send us Fan Mail Should pastors be allowed to plagiarize in their sermons? I’ll be frank: I think evangelicalism has a problem with celebrity, as we talked…
Bare MarriageEpisode 157: Celebrities for Jesus -- Who should we follow? ft Katelyn Beaty
Send us Fan Mail Evangelicalism has a problem with celebrity culture. I mean, everyone has a problem with celebrity culture. But it can be worse in the church…
Bare MarriageEpisode 156: How The Authors We Critiqued Responded to The Great Sex Rescue
Send us Fan Mail One of the most frequent questions I’ve had since The Great Sex Rescue was published has been: “Have any of the authors responded to your…
Bare MarriageEpisode 155: The Rise of Lonely Men - Plus How to be Inspiring!
Send us Fan Mail We’ve got some wonderful inspiring stories to share with you today–plus a new research study with implications for dating. Today Rebecca and I…
Bare MarriageEpisode 154: Katharine Bushnell: Another Hero you NEED to know ft. Kristen Kobes Du Mez + Julie Coleman
Send us Fan Mail Time for another hero of the faith! Well, three, actually! This month we’re telling amazing stories of women that God used in history to fight…
Bare MarriageEpisode 153: Josephine Butler: The Hero You Never knew
Send us Fan Mail Have you ever heard the name Josephine Butler? If you were alive in London in 1880 you likely would have. In her time, she was as well-known…
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Do You Know What Your Wife Has Been Taught About Sex? (Rerun Summer Episode)
Send us Fan Mail What if your wife has been taught toxic things about sex–and you don’t even realize it? Links to things mentioned: The Great Sex Rescue: Our…
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Duty Sex isn't Sexy! (Rerun Summer Episode)
Send us Fan Mail Links to things mentioned: Andrew Bauman: https://andrewjbauman.com/ And his book The Sexually Healthy Man: https://amzn.to/3p4JmyF Benjamin…
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Can We Stop Talking About Girls Being Stumbling Blocks and Causing Men to Lust? (Rerun Summer Episode)
Send us Fan Mail Links to things mentioned: The Blog: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com 4 Stages of Porn Recovery…
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Unconditional Respect is NOT a Thing! (Rerun Summer Episode)
Send us Fan Mail Unconditional respect isn’t a thing. And yet we’re often told that men need unconditional respect, just like women need unconditional love…
Bare MarriageEpisode 152: What is Killing Women's Libido?
Send us Fan Mail We wrap up what can cause women’s libidos to plummet–and what men can do about it! Because it isn’t always men’s fault (in fact, it’s often…
Bare MarriageEpisode 151: Why John Piper Should Stop Speaking on Marriage -- and turning the other cheek!
Send us Fan Mail Recently John Piper had a podcast telling a woman how to deal with a “harsh” husband. It was atrocious advice–especially since women in…
Bare MarriageEpisode 150: Escaping a Sex Cult: Alyssa Wakefield's Story Part 2
Send us Fan Mail Let’s face the fact that fundamentalist Christianity in North America is basically a sex cult. That’s Alyssa Wakefield’s conclusion in Part 2…
Bare MarriageEpisode 149: Groomed for an Abusive Arranged Marriage: Alyssa Wakefield's Story Part 1
Send us Fan Mail What if you grow up in what you now call a sex cult, and you marry because your dad told you to? Did you really consent to that marriage? And…
Bare MarriageEpisode 148: Is Sex a Yes Space For Men? And What Does That Do to a Woman's Libido?
Send us Fan Mail Have we made sex–and marriage–into a “Yes Space” for men? And if so, how does this affect libido? Links to things mentioned: The Orgasm Course…
Bare MarriageEpisode 147: The Porn Triage
Send us Fan Mail Can we have a nuanced discussion about porn and the likelihood of recovery? One of our goals for what we do is to help people have “informed…
Bare MarriageEpisode 146: Let's Talk Attachments Styles and Marriage with guests Milan & Kay Yerkovich
Send us Fan Mail How do our attachment styles–or love styles–affect our marriage? So often we think that our marriage problems are about communication, or…
Bare MarriageEpisode 145: Connection Not Punishment: A Better Way to Parent feat. Wendy Snyder
Send us Fan Mail What if discipline and spanking aren’t synonyms? What if there was a much more effective way of disciplining your kids where you connect with…
Bare MarriageEpisode 144: How To Misuse Statistics for Dummies - feat Wendy Snyder
Send us Fan Mail In the last of our three podcasts with Joanna where we talk stats, we tackle a few more ways that research is often handled poorly, using the…
Bare MarriageEpisode 143: Do You Know Your Attachment Style? (Start Your Engines)
Send us Fan Mail Attachment research is the science of how we relate to others. We can all have different attachment styles, based on whether we’ve got…
Bare MarriageEpisode 142: No, Christians Don't Always have Better Marriages and Sex Lives--a response to Josh Howerton
Send us Fan Mail Last month Josh Howerton, lead pastor at Lakepointe Church in Dallas, wrote a Twitter thread sharing research with 5 reasons Christians are…
Bare MarriageEpisode 141: The Most Misunderstood Women in the Bible - and Research! ft Mary DeMuth
Send us Fan Mail We misunderstand women in the Bible–and we misunderstand gender aspects of research! Links to things mentioned: Mary DeMuth The Most…
Bare MarriageEpisode 140: A Victim of Bill Gothard's Story: Escaping a Cult & Finding Freedom with Emily Elizabeth Anderson
Send us Fan Mail Today Emily Elizabeth Anderson from Thriving Forward joins us to tell her story, and to tell what she’s passionate about now. And especially…
Bare MarriageEpisode 139: How Many Men Are Sexually Safe?
Send us Fan Mail We talked about the findings from our survey, as described in this post last week on how many Christian guys are sexually safe. Links to…
Bare MarriageEpisode 138: Echoes of Menstruation (...really, Focus on the Family?!)
Send us Fan Mail Rebecca noticed that in Focus on the Family’s PluggedIn movie review for Turning Red, they had put references to menstruation under “sexual…
Bare MarriageEpisode 137: New Research Blows Away the Evangelical Idea About Lust
Send us Fan Mail We saved some of our most important findings from our men’s survey for this special podcast! Andrew Bauman, a licensed counselor and author of…
Bare MarriageEpisode 136: The Uncomfortable Truth About Waiting for Marriage for Sex
Send us Fan Mail Does waiting for marriage really guarantee a great sex life? Sheila, Rebecca, and Keith weigh in on this week's podcast! Links to things…
Bare MarriageEpisode 135: How Much Sex Have We Rescued? Plus, Elizabeth Fisher Good!
Send us Fan Mail It’s the one year anniversary since The Great Sex Rescue was published! Rebecca and I want to talk about what we’ve rescued and how it’s been…
Bare MarriageEpisode 134: What Guys Can Do If They've Messed Up
Send us Fan Mail Because our church culture teaches guys that they need sex the way newborn babies need to be fed in the middle of the night or the way an…
Bare MarriageEpisode 133: Birth Control & Lust Control
Send us Fan Mail Special thank you to our guest Patrick Weaver for joining us today! We look forward to having him on the podcast again in the future! Links to…
Bare MarriageEpisode 132: All About the Sexual Response Cycle
Send us Fan Mail Too many people don’t understand the sexual response cycle–so let’s spell it out and figure out why this lack of info has become so prevalent…
Bare MarriageEpisode 131: The woman who was crying in the shower is here!
Send us Fan Mail We are so honoured to have on the podcast today the woman who wrote that letter we discussed back in episode 129. She joins us to share her…
Bare MarriageEpisode 130: It's Time to Jump out of the Boiling Water
Send us Fan Mail At what point do we realize that something is terribly off with the way the evangelical church sees women? Keith talks about his manifesto…
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Episode 129: The Podcast Where Emerson Ignores Marital Rape
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Bare MarriageEpisode 128: How YOU Can Make the Church a Healthier Place for Marriage
Send us Fan Mail Should you stay in such a church? Some people should, because the church is changing, and you feel called to be a “missionary” of sorts there…
Bare MarriageEpisode 127: Putting the 'Christ' back in Christian Marriage
Send us Fan Mail Welcome to a new year with the Bare Marriage podcast! We're glad you're joining us again after our break for the holidays! Links to things…
Bare MarriageEpisode 126: The Disease That Must Be Named + feeling less homeless!
Send us Fan Mail Today on the podcast we hear Rachel Perry’s story of vaginismus, and then I get cozy in my yellow chair where I work and just tell you how I…
Bare MarriageEpisode 125: Why is Marriage Advice Mostly Aimed at Women?
Send us Fan Mail Ever noticed that most marriage books center the majority of their advice on women? And most instructions for how to get marriages to change…
Bare MarriageEpisode 124: Does Your Vagina Have a Brain? The Mind-Body Connection
Send us Fan Mail How do we live our feelings through our bodies? How do we learn to inhabit our bodies more? Join us as Rebecca and I jumpstart this series…
Bare MarriageEpisode 123: Let's talk Sexual Favours Postpartum
Send us Fan Mail Rebecca’s postpartum! So we thought it was the perfect time to look at the postpartum advice given in evangelical circles to women. Links to…
Bare MarriageEpisode 122: The Making of Biblical Womanhood ft Beth Allison Barr
Send us Fan Mail The amazing Beth Allison Barr is joining me today to talk about women and the history of the church. It seems like people who buy The Great…
Bare MarriageEpisode 121: Finding Your Own Path ft hosts of NeuroDiverse Christian Couples Podcast
Send us Fan Mail We’ve got two different segments on today’s podcast, both regarding what it means to make your own way as a couple: Another look at how to…
Bare MarriageEpisode 120: Why Too Many Can't Let Go of the 'Obligation Sex' Message
Send us Fan Mail What if the reason authors can’t give up the obligation sex message is that they fear women won’t have sex otherwise? Links to things…
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Start Your Engines Ep. 17: How To Be Sex Positive Without Being Creepy
Send us Fan Mail We try to show how men and women may approach sex information differently. And how there’s a serious creepy factor for many women that we all…
Bare MarriageEpisode 118: What Are Christian Resources NOT Telling You About Abuse? ft. Gretchen Baskerville
Send us Fan Mail We are thrilled to have a wonderful guest joining us this week! We hope you enjoy Sheila's conversation with author Gretchen Baskerville, as…
Bare MarriageEpisode 117: All about BOOBS!
Send us Fan Mail We have a VERY special guest joining later today! For the first time ever we have Sheila's mother, Elizabeth, here to share all her wisdom! We…
Bare MarriageEpisode 116: Why Teenagers SHOULD know lots about Sex!
Send us Fan Mail For this special edition of the Bare Marriage Podcast we created an episode that you can listen to WITH your teenagers! Rebecca and Connor…
Bare MarriageEpisode 115: Are 'Pink Brains' and 'Blue Brains' Real?
Send us Fan Mail Today it's Rebecca and Connor coming to you, to discuss some neuropsychology! We know, it's a lot, but bare with us! We hope you enjoy this…
Bare MarriageEpisode 114: Life Hacks to Help Know Which Christian Book are Toxic
Send us Fan Mail Many of you have asked for a step by step guide to clarify how to gauge whether a book is harmful or helpful. So today, we thought we'd do…
Bare MarriageEpisode 113: Are You Doing Sex on Hard Mode?
Send us Fan Mail We are thrilled to bring you another weekly edition of the Bare Marriage podcast, with a special guest appearance by friend of the show Andrew…
Bare MarriageEpisode 112: You're Supposed to be a TEAM!
Send us Fan Mail Thank you to our lovely guest Micah for joining us today! You can find her online here. Links to other things mentioned: On Elisabeth Elliot’s…
Bare MarriageEpisode 111: Are We Making Christian Marriage Harder Than It Needs To Be?
Send us Fan Mail Join us this week as we discuss the idea of how our expectations of marriage highly affect how we experience it-- and how expectations might…