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Untoxicated Podcast
Sheri and Matt Salis just wanted a regular life–regular marriage, regular careers, a regular house, and happy kids. Instead, they lived a life of lies and terror as they struggled with Matt’s alcoholism and emotional abuse. Unfortunately, their experience is quite regular. Sheri and Matt talk to other experts, to roundtable panels, and to each other. No subjects are off limits: The trauma of active addiction, the pain of recovery, the impact of emotional abuse, the “should I stay or should I…
Episodes
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Ep254 – Are Resentments Holding You Back?
Sheri and Matt talk a lot about processing resentments together, and how it helps repair their relationship. But what if your partner is not available, not…
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Ep253 – Authenticity while Honoring His Memory with Melanie
Melanie fell in love with her best friend - a nature-loving, long-haired bad boy with a good heart. They built a life together including marriage, kids…
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Ep252 – Is Fear the Only Emotion?
Matt reveals to Sheri his theory that there is only one true emotion: fear. The couple discuss how fear drive's Matt's addictions, and how fearlessness is a…
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Ep251 – Alcohol-Free Beverages and Culture with Billy Wynne
Billy Wynne is the co-founder of Awake, Denver's first sober bar, alcohol-free bottle shop and coffee house. Billy joins Sheri and Matt to discuss the…
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Ep250 – The DD 10:1 Intimacy Solution
To celebrate this milestone episode, Sheri and Matt go into more detail, and share preliminary research indications, about the importance of intimacy work for…
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Ep249 – Busy is a Matter of Priorities
What could be a higher priority than your own health, safety, growth, and discovery? And yet, people often say they are too busy to work on recovery from…
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Ep248 – Change How You Feel with Lori Pannell
Lori Pannell is a leadership coach certified in Conversational Intelligence, and she is an Energy Leadership Index master practitioner. She is also a valued…
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Ep247 – Vulnerability Rewarded with Kathy and Mike
If you are searching for hope and inspiration, please listen to the story of Kathy and Mike Mazzerina from the Defining You podcast and facebook page. By…
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Ep246 – Detachment is a Result, Not a Tactic
Detachment is not necessarily something you do, as people often assume. Detachment is a natural result of living in hyper-vigilance, in nervous system…
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Ep245 – Emotional Abuse with Paul Colaianni
Everyone knows what physical abuse is, and it is clearly not acceptable in modern relationships. What makes emotional abuse so sinister is that it is often…
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Ep244 – Vulnerability Makes Us Feel Normal
Vulnerability and authenticity are hard when you have experienced alcoholism first or second hand, but they are also essential to recovery and discovery. Maybe…
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Ep243 – Staying in the Relationship Roundtable, Part 2
Listen to Teaubrian, Rich and Ben discuss their evolution of thinking and experiences in both personal and relationship recovery after beating alcoholism. This…
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Ep242 – Staying in the Relationship Roundtable, Part 1
Listen to Jane, Karen, Nickie, Lori and Nicole describe their decision making and experiences staying in their marriages as they recover from the alcoholism of…
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Ep241 – Unrespected Advice
After the chaos and trauma of active alcoholism, loved ones naturally lose respect for their drinkers. Advice from the recovering alcoholic is often not…
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Ep240 – Be Nice
During Matt's active addiction, Sheri and Matt had to try to run communication through a variety of contrived filters in order to be nice to each other. On…
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Ep239 – Impact of Alcoholism on Sex and Intimacy Roundtable
There are two things that can happen to sex and intimacy in a relationships suffering through alcoholism. On this episode, Sheri and Matt welcome Nikki, Rene…
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Ep238 – Origins of Anxiety
The chaos and trauma of active addiction is obvious. But what about before we acknowledge alcoholism? What about before we cross that invisible line? The…
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Ep237 – Jason Polk is Back to Talk about Marijuana and Porn
Original co-host of the podcast, Jason Polk is a relationship therapist with a sub-specialization in addiction counseling. On this episode, Sheri and Matt ask…
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Ep236 – Deceit Betrayal
The lying is worse than the drinking. Sheri and Matt have heard this sentiment expressed countless times by partners who are suffering from the trauma of…
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Ep235 – Relapse with Anna and Mitchell of We Are Recovery
After five years of sobriety, Mitchell relapsed. After five years in recovery from codependency, Anna's boundaries were tested. On this episode, Sheri and Matt…
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Ep234 – Military Culture
Do you think your industry or environment has a heavy drinking culture? You are probably right, but you are not unique. In this episode, Sheri and Matt talk…
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Ep233 – Toxic Relationship Patterns with Heidi Rain
Heidi Rain is a relationship expert focused on the link between codependency and addiction. She helps people break free from toxic relationship patters. Sheri…
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Ep232 – Question FOR Listeners: When do kid decisions become unilateral?
During Matt's active addiction, Sheri had to pick and choose the times she discussed big parenting decisions with him, and there was plenty of stress and…
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Ep231 – Marriagevolution Retreat Roundtable
Five couples retreat under a foot of fresh powder to the Rockie Mountains to bask in the glow of the fireplace and revive sore hiking (and shovelling) muscles…
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Ep230 – Expectations
What are your expectations for recovery, for you or the people around you? Some expectations are absolute necessities. Others are unachievable, and even…
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Ep229 – Roundtable: Navigating Custody of the Kids
***Trigger Warning: Death from alcohol abuse is discussed. Julie, Rachel, Becky and Melanie join the conversation and help Sheri and Matt break down the issues…
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Ep228 – Loneliness Leads to Drinking, Drinking Leads to Loneliness
We would never blame one person's alcoholism on the attitude or actions of their partner. But it is also naive to ignore that loneliness in a relationship is…
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Ep227 – Recovery Rumble: Amber vs. Matt
In this corner, making her third appearance on the Untoxicated Podcast, is Master Addiction Counselor, star and host of the Put the Shovel Down YouTube…
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Ep226 – Enthusiastic Consent
The more Sheri and Matt learn, the more undeniable the connection is between emotional intimacy, physical intimacy, sexual satisfaction and trust…
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Ep225 – D!@k Olympics: Size Isn’t Everything, but You Are a Big One
Early sobriety from high-functioning alcoholism is plagued with dopamine depletion and identity crisis resulting in mood swings, tension, sadness, thin skin…
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Ep224 – Remembering Why We Fell in Love
There is conflict inherent in alcoholic relationships. And conflict brings guilt. Regardless of the outcome of the relationship, the conflict and guilt…
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Ep223 – Reconciling the Role of Family
Merry Christmas! During the holiday season, strained family relations manifest in challenging ways. There is perhaps no better time for Sheri and Matt to talk…
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Ep222 – Scary Ghost Stories of Christmases Not Long Ago
It's the most wonderful time of the year. At least that's how it is hyped. If you are living through the holiday season with active alcoholism or early…
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Ep221 – Be Careful What You Wish For with Traci and Andy
Traci is back on the podcast! And this time, she brought her husband, Andy, along for the conversation. It has been over three years since Traci laid some…
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Ep220 – The Pain Concoction
There are a lot of universalisms in alcoholism and recovery, for the drinkers and the loved ones. One thing that sets each of us apart is the pain concoction…
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Ep219 – Barbara’s Grief, Guilt and Growth
*** Warning: suicide and death are discussed Barbara first appeared on the podcast almost three years ago on Ep70 when she shared the story of her husband's…
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Ep218 – Holiday Triggers and the Healing Power of Time
Traditions and triggers go hand in hand, and at no time is that more prevalent than during the holiday season. Sheri and Matt discuss how triggers and…
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Ep217 – Separation Roundtable: The Critical Mindset Shift
We did not set out to record three episodes on the topic of relationship separation, but the response to parts one and two has been overwhelming, so we are…
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Ep216 – Lowered Standards and Disappointing Outcomes
***Trigger Warning - Talk of Self Harm and Suicide It is common knowledge that alcoholism is a progressive disease in relation to the volume and frequency of…
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Ep215 – Expectations
When is recovery over? When can we call declare success? Sheri and Matt discuss the baseline expectations that everyone deserves to have met in a thriving…
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Ep214 – The Healing Power of Separation Roundtable
Sheri and Matt welcome Nicole, Lisa, Sarah, Shannon and Kelly to the podcast to share their real-life experiences with separation from their alcoholic spouses…
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Ep213 – Detachment and Separation
Sheri and Matt deal with Matt's hypocrisy about supporting detachment in alcoholic relationships. up to and including physical separation, when the couple…
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Ep212 – Curiosity in Relationship Recovery
No transition was more important to Sheri's and Matt's relationship recovery than when Matt stopped telling Sheri what she was doing wrong and started trying…
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Ep211 – The Recovery Revolution with Cory Martin
Comedian and Recovery Coach, Cory Martin, joins Sheri and Matt for this insightful and deep episode That's right, she's not just about laughs. Cory pairs humor…
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Ep210 – Is My Husband’s Alcoholism My Fault?
No. That's the short version of the title question's answer. An emphatic, "no," in fact. But as with most of the world's hard-to-solve problems, there is much…
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Ep209 – A Fit for Everyone: Recovery Program Roundtable
Our six panelist share their experiences and perceptions with a wide variety of alcohol addiction recovery programs. Some common themes emerge, like the…
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Ep208 – The Developing Story Writing Workshop for Teens
Sheri and Matt welcome the most special of guests, their daughter, Cathryn, for a return visit to the podcast. This time, instead of working through the heart…
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Ep207 – Happily in the Middle
Sheri and Matt discuss the personality type that often underlies high-functioning alcoholism. Removing the alcohol doesn't change the personality, and for…
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Ep206 – Surviving and Thriving with Kim Augustus
Kim's nervous system, her mental health and her marriage were all suffering from the trauma of addiction. A happy ending seemed woefully unlikely. But with…
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Ep205 – The Addiction Triangle
Addiction sucks so much of the air from any relationship. Then in early sobriety, recovery work replaces alcohol taking priority over the alcoholic's family…
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Ep204 – Love, Loss & Forgiveness with Bhavini
It's the story of a romantic courtship and the rekindling of a spark felt when they were in their youth. Bhavini loved him and wanted so badly for it to work…
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Ep203 – Bravery
Bravery is not just about what you do or say or refuse to tolerate. There is another component. Bravery is also about what you are up against. In this episode…
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Ep202 – LIVE from the Echoes of Recovery Retreat
Who has the right to tell the story and seek support? When you are involved in an alcoholic marriage, your stories are woven together, and opening up means…
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Ep201 – Alcoholic Parenting: Teaching Dishonesty, Fear & Hatred
Ep200 was Cathryn's story. Sheri's and Matt's insightful and intelligent daughter shared her experiences of growing up with high-functioning alcoholism, and…
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Ep200 – Our Daughter, Cathryn
What better way to honor our bicentennial episode than with the most special guest in the history of the podcast, Sheri's and Matt's daughter. Cathryn…
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Ep199 – Relapse
There are short-term relapses that last a day or a weekend or a week, and there are long-term relapses that last weeks or months. Can you guess which type of…
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Ep198 – Roundtable Q&A with Amber Hollingsworth
She is back with her signature combination of charm, empathy and brutal honesty that many of our listeners recognize from her engaging and informative YouTube…
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Ep197 – The Shame and Hiding Continues after Alcohol
This episode quickly devolves into an hour long therapy session for Matt. He and Sheri talk about judgement, shame and hiding, with a healthy dose of religion…
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Ep196 – Guilt
Guilt can be a motivator. Guilt can be a moral compass. Guilt is not all bad. But the guilt that builds and festers in a family that is dealing with alcoholism…
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Ep195 – Back Home Again in Alcohol(ism?)
Back home Again in Indiana, and Sheri and Matt were thrust unexpectedly into the deep end of alcohol impact. If you think addiction is required in order for…