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First Answers
The First Answers podcast features Dr. A. Lynn Scoresby—experienced psychologist, executive coach, business and education consultant, father, and grandfather—talking about the first and best answers for 21st-century families so you can improve and have more fulfilling relationships. Topics range from marriage and parenting to ethics and character, stopping violence, and more.
Episodes
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Lighting the Fire of Your Children's Faith E4: Parent-Child Communication That Determines Whether Children Have Faith and Keep It
Discover the types of parent-child communication that influence whether children are receptive to parents' teachings, and see how ritualized forms of…
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Lighting the Fire of Your Children's Faith E3: Discovering the Connections Between the Family and Children's Faith
For many years, we thought of faith as an individual quality that develops within each person. But research has revealed that families influence children's…
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Lighting the Fire of Your Children's Faith E2: What Parents Don't Know About Teaching Faith
When Dr. Scoresby began to ask what parents do or could do to teach their children about faith, he said he got a lot of strange looks and then was told by many…
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Lighting the Fire of Your Children's Faith E1: Why You Should Light the Fire
What would you say if someone asked what you thought was the one single thing we could do to help our families and our society? Lighting the fire of your…
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A Parent's Guide to Gender Identity E10: Helping Children Sort Out Confusion
In this episode, learn how to resolve two risk conditions for healthy gender identity: emotional enmeshment and influence from the internet. Emotional…
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A Parent's Guide to Gender Identity E9: What Parents Can Do And What They Should Not Do When It Comes to Gender
Learn more about what you can do to avoid the errors that can lead to gender-related problems, and learn how to solve the extreme emotions that many consider…
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A Parent's Guide to Gender Identity E8: Mutual Respect Early Improves Relationships Later
We are often allowing children to learn negative words and hostile reactions to the other gender. As a result, both boys and girls often carry these ideas and…
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A Parent's Guide to Gender Identity E7: Succeeding in Relationships with the Other Sex
It now appears that parents will need to prepare their 21st-century children to succeed with the other sex. In past generations, this seemed to be a foregone…
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A Parent's Guide to Gender Identity E6: Three Experience Areas for Gender
In this episode, learn how children form their inner core of knowledge about themselves, and learn about the family's role as a small community where children…
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A Parent's Guide to Gender Identity E5: How Gender Identity Forms
In this episode, you can learn the process children go through developmentally to acquire their gender identity. Understanding this process will help you to…
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A Parent's Guide to Gender Identity E4: Five Types of Identity and How They Form
When children acquire self-knowledge, learn about free choice, develop awareness, and then participate fully in their families, five possibilities emerge. By…
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A Parent's Guide to Gender Identity E3: Learn the Steps to a Healthy Identity
Researchers have identified four experience domains that make up an individual's identity and shape how it develops. In each of these four areas, there are…
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A Parent's Guide to Gender Identity E2: The Types of Identity and Their Conclusion
Reviewing Erikson's eight stages of identity can show us how identities develop over time. With this in mind, you can also learn what you can do to influence…
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A Parent's Guide to Gender Identity E1: You Can Influence Your Child's Gender Identity
The remarkable increase lately in gender-related problems tells us that we should be searching for a better way to help our children. This episode introduces a…
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Instead of Divorce, Try This E2: Find the Rhythm of Positive Communication
The people most likely to get a divorce think the problems between them stem from some personality defect or inadequacy. Affairs, for example, are considered a…
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Instead of Divorce, Try This E1: Avoid the Principal Causes of Divorce
Instead of being numbered among the rising tide of those who get divorced, learn proven methods in this series of avoiding or solving serious relationship…
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Parent Leadership for 21st-Century Children E18: Creating the Ties that Allow You to Love Well
When your children become young adults, it can be one of the best times for your family if you have prepared them well. Learn what to do to successfully…
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Parent Leadership for 21st-Century Children E17: Parenting Young Adults—Free Yourself from the Ties That Bind and Create the Ties of Love and Respect
Today young adults are running into more contradictions, biases, and intolerance that may not have existed at any other time since the civil war. In addition…
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Parent Leadership for 21st-Century Children E16: Make Your Children's Teenage Years the Best Years
Adolescent children face significant challenges that can be harmful to them or prepare them for success. Their success may even depend on what you do. Learn…
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Raising Children Who Continue Their Faith E1: Enduring Faith
Most of us know someone with one or more children who have left religion and are unwilling to exercise faith in God and Jesus Christ. Even with great resources…
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Parent Leadership for 21st-Century Children E15: Threats to Teenage Children, Ages 12–18
For 21st-century children to succeed, they need parents that understand the threats to their growth. Learn the 15 threats that impact your teens so you can…
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Parent Leadership for 21st-Century Children E14: Firm, Flexible, Conversant, and Accountable Parenting, Ages 12–18
Adolescence is considered a critical period in our society because teenagers' development can be impacted in so many ways. This is one reason why it is…
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Since our podcast has always been sponsored by FirstAnswers.com, it will now be called First Answers. Same great host, same great content. Follow First Answers…
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Parent Leadership for 21st-Century Children E13: Find Uniqueness and Create a Strong Family Community, Ages 6–11
As parents, we adapt to our children as they mature so we can provide the conditions that will help them avoid the pitfalls or threats to their growth. This…
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Parent Leadership for 21st-Century Children E12: Individualizing and Belonging, Ages 6–11
When parents adjust their leadership to match their children's ages and stages, they will also need to have two types of knowledge: what healthy development…
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Parent Leadership for 21st-Century Children E11: Promote 5 Kinds of Growth in Children, Birth–5 years
There are several things you can do to create a great formula for success as a parent leader of children in this generation. In this episode, you will find…
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Parent Leadership for 21st-Century Children E10: Clear, Predictable, and Nurturing Leadership for Children, Birth–5 years
The exciting benefits of parent leadership can be seen when parents adapt to the maturing of their children, to individual children, and adapt their family to…
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Parent Leadership for 21st-Century Children E9: Getting the Good Things You Teach in Your Family Applied Outside Your Family
Good parents want to make sure the important lessons they teach their children inside the family will be applied when children are away from the family. This…
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Parent Leadership for 21st-Century Children E8: Be a Strategic Parent
When you become a parent, you have a choice. You can simply try to cope with all the new demands you face, which is necessary, or you can develop a strategic…
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Parent Leadership for 21st-Century Children E7: Be an Intentional Parent
It can be very easy when your family is young to get so preoccupied with the demands on your time that you unwittingly become parents who are busy reacting and…
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Parent Leadership for 21st-Century Children E6: How to Create Change
Some people still think that leadership is not important and all parents need to do is just manage a few details of family life. If you believe this, you are…
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Parent Leadership for 21st-Century Children E5: Impact Practices That Motivate Children to Follow
One of the most vital questions in parenting and leadership is how leaders (or parents) can motivate children to participate and follow. In this episode, Dr…
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Parent Leadership for 21st-Century Children E4: Turn Your Family Into a Learning Lab, Part 2
Turning your family into a learning lab will do great things for your family. First, it will be more fun and engaging for you as a parent, and second, you can…
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Parent Leadership for 21st-Century Children E3: Turn Your Family Into a Learning Lab
Learn how to organize your family so you can adapt better to individual children and also better provide opportunities for them to learn and grow. Visit…
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Parent Leadership for 21st-Century Children E2: Make Sure Your Children Know That You Know Them
Learning to more accurately observe and understand your children in five developmental areas can help you better understand what your children are growing…
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Parent Leadership for 21st-Century Children E1: A New Form of Leadership
The parenting ideas we have traditionally believed in might not be as effective anymore because our children are facing some situations we have not experienced…
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What Makes Marriages Work E9: Rearing Children with Healthy Relationships
In this episode, Dr. Scoresby shares how you can organize your family and use it to create happy and lasting relationships with your children. This makes…
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What Makes Marriages Work E8: Marriage Traps That Prevent Happiness
In this episode, Dr. Scoresby talks about destructive patterns couples can get into that may seem harmless because they seem natural, but they can catch one or…
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What Makes Marriages Work E7: The Marriage Partnership
While marriage is a partnership, it's a different kind of partnership than any other relationship. This is because the tasks married people share are among the…
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What Makes Marriages Work E6: The Most Exceptional Form of Friendship
Much of who we are is influenced by the kinds of attachments we have with others. You can find more lifelong happiness and fulfillment when you go beyond just…
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What Makes Marriages Work E5: Practical Solutions to the Most Common Marriage Problems
Sometimes problems in a marriage aren't a sign that the relationship is failing. Sometimes problems mean that people care a lot but just need good ways to…
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What Makes Marriages Work E4: It Is Impossible to NOT Communicate
In this episode, Dr. Scoresby talks about why communication is an essential part of human relationships, types of communication to avoid, and the kind of…
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What Makes Marriages Work E3: Finding More Love and Happiness Than You Can Imagine
Dr. Scoresby talks about how it is possible to learn about and get better at loving and feeling loved. Visit mattersmostmedia.org to find more about the…
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What Makes Marriages Work E2: The Bridge Builders
In this episode, Dr. Scoresby talks about how two people build bridges when they create a new relationship, and often these are the same skills used when a…
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What Makes Marriages Work E1: Five Qualities of a Fabulous Relationship
Many people don't know what makes a quality relationship anymore—let alone how to create and maintain one. Dr. Scoresby presents 15 qualities that make a…
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21st-Century Children E23: Building Social Confidence and Self-Esteem, Part 7
Excellent research has been done to find what helps build social confidence and self-esteem. In this episode, learn how promoting delay of gratification in…
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21st-Century Children E22: Building Social Confidence and Self-Esteem, Part 6
Research showing how to build confidence and self-esteem includes the valuable role of emotions—and not just positive emotions. Learn how to become a good…