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The Covert Narcissism Podcast
Covert narcissistic abuse crushes one’s soul. This podcast is devoted to understanding covert narcissistic abuse, its effect on the victims, and how to heal.
Episodes
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How to Set Boundaries with a Covert Narcissist
People often come to me and say, “I need to get better at setting boundaries.” Ok, what have you tried so far? I tried telling him/her - I don’t like it when…
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Episode 5 - How Do We Turn the Survival Skills Off?
So how do we build healthy relationships after being with a covert narcissist? How are these trauma responses affecting us still? How do we turn them off? Our…
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Why is it so Hard to Set Boundaries with a Covert Narcissist?
Have you ever been around someone who believes the rules don’t apply to them? Of course you have or you wouldn’t be here listening to me. Do not trespass means…
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Episode 4 - The Survival Skills of a Covert Narcissist and their Victim
Have you ever wondered if you are the narcissist in this relationship? Maybe you have even been accused of it by your abusive partner? Have you seen glimpses…
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Walking on Eggshells
I heard the phrase walking on eggshells, and I thought, “I’m sure glad that I’m not living that way.” This applied to other people. People who were not at…
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Episode 3 Tactical Responses to the Trauma of Abuse
Have you ever found yourself to be extremely defensive, feeling the need to protect yourself before anyone even attacks? How about having the burning need to…
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Learning on the Appalachian Trail
Have you ever made a bucket list? Things you want to do in this world. You should! Why not? What would be on your bucket list? Not only are they fun, these…
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Episode 2 - Internal Trauma Responses to Covert Abuse
Has your partner ever accused you of pulling away from the relationship? Of shutting down? Of being emotionally unavailable? Maybe you even feel that you are…
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The Point of No Return
There is an invisible line, imaginary and yet very real, that once pushed past it, you simply cannot come back. No amount of effort will bring you back from…
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Episode 1 - Reactive Abuse: The Physical and Outward Reactions of Victims
Have you wondered about your own sanity in all of this? Have you reached the end of your limit and simply exploded. Now you are the one yelling and screaming…
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Narcissistic Relationships are Addictive Relationships
Narcissistic relationships are quite addictive for both individuals. But that addiction looks different for each of them. The victim of narcissistic abuse is…
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How to Save Our Kids During a Traumatic Divorce with a Narcissist
Psychologist Dr. Erica Ellis joins us in this episode. She brings wonderful expertise regarding high conflict divorce and how to protect the children. Dr…
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The Power of Perception and Gaslighting
What is gaslighting? When someone denies you the right to your own perception. Telling you that your perception is wrong. Working to convince you that their…
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Guest episode on Pathological Lying
The pathological lies of a covert narcissist leave a wake of devastation. Not only do they affect your immediate life and life choices, but they leave deep…
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Narcissistic Rage and Narcissistic Simmer
What sets off narcissistic anger? Anything and everything!! Asking them to help in the kitchen, asking them to pickup a few groceries on the way home - how…
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I Lost Myself to a Covert Narcissist (Special Throwback Episode)
A Covert narcissist takes over your life. I have heard so many victims so I don’t even recognize myself anymore. I just want to be me again. I feel like I lost…
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The Religious Covert Narcissist
God told me! Scripture tells me. you're supposed to love me! You're supposed to forgive me! I'm the most Christian person you know. You're just letting the…
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How Does This Get Better (Special Throwback Episode)
How do I fix this? I used to ask that for years. Every day of my life I can fix anything. If I can just help him to see… If I can just find the right words……
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The Power of Destructive Messages
“You're not good enough!” may be the exact words that you hear from an outwardly arrogant overt narcissist. But the covert narcissist won’t say this directly…
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Covert Narcissists See Their World Through a Filter of Anger (Special Throwback Episode)
Covert narcissists seem to have absolutely no emotional intelligence, inside themselves or with the world around them. The general consensus is that they have…
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Why did I Put Up With This for So Long?
Why did I put up with this for so long?? How is that possible? I never even saw it! Are you kidding me? In the words of Debbie Mirza in her book Worthy of…
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Two Things You Should Never Say to a Victim of Covert Narcissism (Special Throwback Episode)
There are some things that people should just never say to a victim of narcissistic abuse, and specifically covert narcissistic abuse. As a victim myself, I…
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Emotional Abuse is Physical
At least they didn’t hit you! At least it wasn’t physical abuse! Have you ever heard those words? You are trying to explain to someone what you have been…
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Interview by Ross Rosenberg, part two
I was privileged to be interviewed by Ross Rosenberg, an internationally known expert in the field of narcissism. It was quite an honor to meet with him and…
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Out of alignment: Time to reclaim your mental space
Imagine getting all fancied up for a first date. Super excited to be going out with this person. You’ve been waiting for a while for this evening, and now it…
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Interview by Ross Rosenberg, Part One
I was privileged to be interviewed by Ross Rosenberg, an internationally known expert in the field of narcissism. It was quite an honor to meet with him and…
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Gaslighting Our Kids is Damaging
“If I validate my kid's feelings about their dad, then I'm bad mouthing him. If I tell my kids he's not that bad, and he really does love them, then I'm…
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Guilt Manipulation: How a Covert Narcissist Uses Your Own Guilt Against You (Special Throwback Episode)
Guilt is such a unique thing. It can be wonderful and horrible all at the same time. Many of us are raised to feel guilty when we do something that we should…
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Q&A Parenting with a Covert Narcissist
How do you feel in this relationship with a covert narcissist? Describe it. What are your feelings? Confused. Hurt. Angry. Overwhelmed. Like everything is my…
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What Really is a Covert Narcissist? (Special Throwback Episode)
Many people are struggling to understand what a covert narcissist actually is. I recently heard a podcast that was trying to figure out what a covert…
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Self-Regulation Skills for Our Kids
When a person feels threatened, physically, mentally, emotionally, psychologically, there will be a response inside them. This will happen. No matter what age…
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Brinkmanship: The Crazy-Making Skills of a Covert Narcissist (Special Throwback Episode)
My covert narcissistic husband loved the word "brinkmanship." He bragged about how no one knows what that word means and how great he is at it. This should…
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What About the Kids?
You find yourself married to a covert narcissist. Researching like crazy. You are stunned at the treatment you have allowed and the behavior you have accepted…
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Taking the Scariness out of the Idea of Divorce: Interview with Eleanor Marks
Today's episode is an interview with divorce coach Eleanor Marks. After living her own life with a covert narcissist and going through a divorce with two…
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Devalue Your Abuser
He was my knight in shining armor. The perfect match. My soul mate. I even said that I feel like he is the male version of me and that I am the female version…
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Q&A with Debbie Mirza Part 3 - When Their Image Looks So Good
It is such an honor to have Debbie Mirza on my podcast. She has been a huge part of my own healing journey, and I want to make her part of yours too. She has…
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Breaking the Trauma Bond
Why can’t I just leave? What’s wrong with me? I need to get out, but I just can’t. The Cleveland Clinic defines trauma bonding as when a person who is or has…
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Q&A with Debbie Mirza Part 2 - How to Move On
It is such an honor to have Debbie Mirza on my podcast. She has been a huge part of my own healing journey, and I want to make her part of yours too. She has…
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Development of a Trauma Bond
Do you find yourself fighting for this relationship, knowing that it is unhealthy, toxic, manipulative, maybe you even know that it is abusive? But you…
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Q&A with Debbie Mirza - How to Heal
It is such an honor to have Debbie Mirza on my podcast. She has been a huge part of my own healing journey, and I want to make her part of yours too. She has…
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Vulnerable Narcissists, a Contradiction of Terms
Vulnerable narcissists? What? Is that really a thing? Can a narcissist be vulnerable? I’ve never seen one that can. I’ve said for a long time that the…
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A Grenade Inside a Tank (Special Throwback Episode)
Someone who has experienced covert narcissistic abuse is like a grenade inside a tank. On the inside, you are wound up so incredibly tight, over-thinking…
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Seeing Your Own Reactive Abuse
So, I want to paint a picture here. Imagine with me. For many of you, this will be incredibly easy to imagine, because you have lived it. You grow up believing…
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4 Hooks that Covert Narcissists Use to Rope You back in Once Again (Special Throwback Episode)
Covert narcissists are experts at hooking a victim back in over and over and over. They know how to play on your sympathy. They know how to make you feel…
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When I Actually Filed, Part Two
To donate to the Covert Narcissism Podcast click the link below. https://patron.podbean.com/covertnarcissismpodcast Ten days! Ten days was the amount of time…
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The Bone Dry Exhaustion of Life with a Covert Narcissist (Special Throwback Episode)
A narcissistic person cannot even do step A to help a relationship. You can wear the entire alphabet out multiple times, and they still haven't even found step…
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I Want Out! Now What? Part One
To donate to the Covert Narcissism Podcast click the link below. https://patron.podbean.com/covertnarcissismpodcast “I can’t live like this anymore. I want…
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Interview About Covert Narcissism (Special Throwback Episode)
Victims of covert narcissism have so many questions running through their mind. While I do get asked many questions, some questions show up in almost every…
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The Wounds from Childhood
To donate to the Covert Narcissism Podcast click the link below. https://patron.podbean.com/covertnarcissismpodcast Everyone carries wounds from childhood. No…
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Just Hard to Relax - Living in a Courtroom with a Covert Narcissist (Special Throwback Episode)
Living with a covert narcissist is like trying to live in a war zone or in a courtroom when you are the one on trial. My son is traveling this week with his…
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Conditioned to Accept Their Behavior
Today we are talking about conditioning, the process of training someone to behave in a certain way or to accept certain circumstances. In the Boy Who Cried…
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Q&A Session on Parenting With a Toxic Partner (Special Throwback Episode)
Parenting with a toxic partner is the single hardest thing I have ever done in life. It is a living nightmare! You are not co-parenting. You are counter…
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Emotional Childishness of Covert Narcissists
Will they ever grow up?? Am I dealing with a child or an adult? Sometimes I really am not sure. I’ve talked before about the lack of emotional growth in covert…
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Shouldn’t I Just Be Grateful that it isn’t Worse? (Special Throwback Episode)
This podcast is audio taken from 2 short video clips that I made just recently. I want to share it here! The first piece is Shouldn't I just be Grateful that…
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How Do You Handle the Guilt?
Why do I feel so guilty? After all they have done to me, what is wrong with me that I now feel guilty? Guilt is one massive piece of the confusing puzzle when…
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Clinging To The Breadcrumbs (Special Throwback Episode)
Have you ever said...But we have some good times together. Remember that one day…. Remember that one time…. Are you building an intimate relationship on…
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Learning from a Covert Narcissist
Will you help me? Will you meet with me? I hear this from so many people. And yes, I will meet with anyone who needs that support. What I don’t hear often?…
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Why Do I Wonder if I am the Narcissist? (Special Throwback Episode)
Many victims of covert narcissistic abuse wonder if they themselves are the narcissist. Why is this? We finally begin to identify what is going on in our…
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Complex PTSD and Covert Narcissistic Abuse
I had heard of PTSD, but what is this C-PTSD? What’s the C stand for? What’s the difference between the two? Is it just another form of PTSD? The C stands for…
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No Reconciliation Ever with a Covert Narcissist (Throwback Episode)
It is impossible to reconcile with a covert narcissist! All relationships have disagreements and misunderstandings. People in healthy relationships help carry…