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Season 3 - Episode 277 - Always be stronger than your excuses! · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning from the Chicken Coop podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermindset
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop, along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning back out at the chicken coop.
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  Very excited to be back out here this morning.
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  Feels so much better to be in this space.
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  It's amazing how attached I get to the process and the rituals
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  of every morning and when I get to get back to them, how great
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  they make me feel. So today, what are we talking
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  about? Well, want to share with you a
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  little a card, a quote on a card that I put inside of the books
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  that I handed out at the event that I just taught at.
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  And that quote was be always be stronger than your excuses.
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  And somebody came up to me when I handed the books out
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  afterwards, they came up and they asked me to sign the book
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  and they said this quote makes me tear up.
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  And I said, why does it make you tear up?
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  And she said, because I feel like when I'm stronger than my
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  excuses, I feel like I always have to push, push, push, push,
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  push. And that's just makes me feel
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  sad that I have to push. And I said I, I, you know, I
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  agreed. I said, yeah, that must feel
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  terrible because that must feel terrible when you feel like you
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  have to push, push, push, push, push.
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  So how I ended up taking that on with her and believe me, this
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  was like a 15 minute conversation so I could coach
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  her on demand with this, but I wanted to share it with
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  everybody because I think it's really important.
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  So she said, you know, for her, she felt like her excuses were
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  things that were very, very legitimate.
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  And you know what I always say, and if you're a fan and you've
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  read the bus book, you know that I'm constantly tell you our
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  emotions are here to teach us things.
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  Our emotions are here to give us clues.
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  They're a guidance system, and it's our job to listen to said
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  guidance system and make sure that we are not ignoring the
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  clues. Because if we are ignoring the
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  clues, you know what ends up happening?
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  We end up having to do a lot of work to navigate that.
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  And you just got to look at the clues.
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  You know, if you keep making lefts and the GPS keeps telling
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  you, you must go right, what does the GPS system do in the
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  car? It's annoying, right?
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  It keeps going. Turn around, turn around, turn
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  around, and it keeps poking at you until the car is going in
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  the right direction. Well, that's exactly what
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  happens with our emotions. So her overwhelming feeling of
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  that, it's so hard, it's so hard, it's so hard, was trying
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  to tell her that ultimately what was going on for her was a clue.
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  It was a definite clue. It was trying to tell her we
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  can't do things the way we've always done them because this
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  isn't working for us. We're not happy.
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  And she just didn't want to hear the message.
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  So she kept making the excuses. And then when she tried to get
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  past them, she would cry. She wasn't filled with joy, with
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  saying, OK, yes, let's do it. She wasn't excited when she
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  recognized it. She was filled with angst and
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  pain. And why is that?
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  Well, she was filled with angst and pain because she ultimately
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  understood that she was not where she was supposed to be.
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  And in not being where she was supposed to be, she was getting
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  that message loud and clear. And the pain was too much and
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  she was ignoring it. So the message was there.
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  The message was holy, right in front of her.
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  But then she felt bad because she was being a quitter as
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  opposed to a listener. When you quit and you walk away
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  from something, if it's not something you really wanted to
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  begin with, is it really quitting?
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  I mean, think about that, my friends.
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  It's like, is it really quitting?
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  No, it's not. If it's not something that you
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  really wanted, it's misaligned with you.
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  It doesn't have your heart in the right space.
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  It's not caring for you and helping you in the right way.
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  Then what is the point? What are you doing there?
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  What is happening? So we're we're putting ourselves
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  into a position that doesn't serve us any longer.
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  And that's where this comes in to be such an important lesson.
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  Because if you're not aligned with it and you let go of it,
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  you're not a quitter. And at least in my version of
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  the world, you're not a quitter. You're actually attuned to
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  yourself. You're actually aligned with
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  yourself. And you know, and some people
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  would say, well, maybe that's just because this person's
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  selfish, OK, but they're still aligned with themselves.
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  They're not telling false truths.
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  They're just, you know, living. They're not living a false life.
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  They're just aligning with themselves may may be good.
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  Well, it's better than being misaligned and mistreating
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  yourself and people along the way.
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  So the most important part of this is your excuses are what
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  come in. The way I like to think of this
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  phrase is I know I really want something.
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  I know like, OK, let's go back to writing that very book that I
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  put the the the card, the postcard in that book was a
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  challenge to get it done. And the way I ended up including
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  a couple of sections of live coaching sessions with
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  fictitious clients that I had to create and do both sides of it
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  was a very difficult thing for me to write.
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  And the after I did the first one, I was mentally drained
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  because I was playing both sides of the identity.
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  And writing is hard. If you've never written a book,
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  writing is hard. And it was, I was tired after
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  that. And then I had to do four more
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  and I was like, I committed to what I was going to do.
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  I committed to that's how I wanted the book to be. 5.
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  I wanted 5 leaders to be outlined in the book and then I
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  started making excuses as to why I was not doing the other four.
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  I was like Oh well I got this in the way or this had to be done
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  or this had to be taken care of and they were all excuses
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  because I knew I really wanted it.
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  I wanted to be that person that finished the book.
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  I knew that was my book to write.
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  I knew it was in my head and they were picking at me going
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  come on, come on, come on, come on, come on.
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  And I was making excuses for all the other things I had to do.
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  So did I end up getting past my excuses?
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  Yes, pretty quickly, yes. Obviously that's who I am and
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  what I do. But The thing is, I was still
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  aligned with the goal. So that's where the word excuses
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  come in. Because it's hard doesn't mean
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  it's not aligned with you. If it's hard, it's probably good
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  for you to do so, as long as you are aligned with it.
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  So remember that as you're going through this and hopefully that
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  little quote will help you and stir the pot and get some
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  thoughts going. All right, my friends, I hope
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  you have a blessed day and I will see you all tomorrow.
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  Bye.