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Phuck It · We Talk Back

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  Speaker 1: We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion who
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  Speaker 1: talk back.
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  Speaker 2: What's up, y'all? Thank you for tuning in for a
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  Speaker 2: new episode of We Talk Back, a show dedicated to
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  Speaker 2: you dreamers and chasers and everybody else in between. It's
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  Speaker 2: your co-host, AJ Holiday. What's up, Tam?
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  Speaker 1: I'd like to dedicate today to the niggas and hoes
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  Speaker 1: once again. Just in case y'all feel left out, we still...
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  Speaker 1: We still here for y'all. I love y'all. I love
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  Speaker 1: all y'all.
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  Speaker 3: It's me, Tam Bam, y'all.
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  Speaker 2: Hey. Hey.
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  Speaker 3: How you doing, AJ?
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  Speaker 2: I'm good, girl. Trying to stay out of this damn heat.
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  Speaker 2: It is hot outside. My car be screaming, boy. I
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  Speaker 2: be swearing to God my damn tire is going to
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  Speaker 2: stick on the asphalt.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's so hot. It's so dumb hot. Like, it
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  Speaker 1: is great in lock weather. I swear to God. I've
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  Speaker 1: been flat ironing it. Straighten these edges with a hot comb, like,
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  Speaker 1: almost every day. I know they're going to burn out
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  Speaker 1: if I don't make no changes.
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  Speaker 2: Girl, I can't even make no changes in my hair
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  Speaker 2: right now. I don't know. All the girls out there
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  Speaker 2: who be doing their lace fronts and wigs and shit,
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  Speaker 2: the glues have fucked me up. I have a fucking
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  Speaker 2: chemical burn on my forehead.
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  Speaker 3: You need to stop wearing them and let your edges breathe.
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  Speaker 2: No, this is, so I don't even have it glued
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  Speaker 2: down right now.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, but you say- I didn't glue it down. Why
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  Speaker 1: don't you get you some locks of braids for a
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  Speaker 1: little while?
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  Speaker 2: I can't because my forehead is burnt right here, right now.
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  Speaker 2: That's why you should get it. Yeah, but when do I, like,
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  Speaker 2: this thing is going to be out for people to see.
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  Speaker 2: Fuck people, let your skin heal. I can't do that
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  Speaker 2: right now. I have other things to do where I
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  Speaker 2: can't just be walking around with a fucking burn on
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  Speaker 2: my forehead, but that's what's going on. And I feel
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  Speaker 2: like we're under attack. Did y'all not see the clone
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  Speaker 2: tie we're on this weekend? They putting shit in the
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  Speaker 2: damn perms. We've been knowing that. What are y'all doing
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  Speaker 2: to the wig glues? I have been gluing my wig
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  Speaker 2: down for many years. Why all of a sudden a
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  Speaker 2: chemical burn?
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  Speaker 1: It's probably because your scalp is like, because too much
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  Speaker 1: of anything is bad for you. If you drink too
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  Speaker 1: much water, you'll drown on the inside, right? So you've
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  Speaker 1: been gluing them wig.
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  Speaker 3: No, you really will. Don't be looking like that. You
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  Speaker 3: really will.
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  Speaker 1: You've been gluing wigs down for a minute. You just
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  Speaker 1: need to let your edges breathe.
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  Speaker 2: But I actually don't, though. I don't always have my
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  Speaker 2: hair glued down. During the week when I'm going to
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  Speaker 2: the gym and all that shit, I don't have my
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  Speaker 2: hair glued down. The only time I glue my wigs
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  Speaker 2: down is if I'm doing something. You know what I'm saying?
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  Speaker 2: Other than that, my shit is off at the house.
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  Speaker 2: I have on a fucking bonnet or whatever. So I
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  Speaker 2: actually went on Google and went on YouTube, and it's
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  Speaker 2: a slew of people. It's not just me. Oh, so
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  Speaker 2: they have- Yes, bitch. They've changed the formula.
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  Speaker 3: They put it all in the hair glue.
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  Speaker 2: It's something. It's something. And it's Goldspawn that I use.
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  Speaker 2: Goldspawn is one of the oldest lace glues. Before black
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  Speaker 2: women started getting more into weave, this is for toupees.
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  Speaker 2: This stuff has been out. But I look on the
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  Speaker 2: bottle and guess where it's made at?
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  Speaker 1: China. Germany.
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  Speaker 2: Germany. It's the fucking N-O-T-S-E-E's. It's B613.
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  Speaker 1: It's something.
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  Speaker 2: Going on, girl. But what'd you do this?
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  Speaker 1: Oh, what we do this weekend. I was about to say,
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  Speaker 1: we were together. We hosted Henny and Waffles in Charlotte.
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  Speaker 1: It's a huge traveling party. They go around the country
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  Speaker 1: having brunch and lots of good music. And we hosted
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  Speaker 1: that party, you guys. It was so much fun. We
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  Speaker 1: got to talk to some fans, so that was cool.
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  Speaker 1: I took a picture with one girl. She was behind
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  Speaker 1: me on the section, and I was looking back, but
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  Speaker 1: I didn't realize what she was doing. Baby had was
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  Speaker 1: biting my booty.
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  Speaker 3: Not for real, but.
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  Speaker 1: Had her teeth on my ass.
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  Speaker 2: I was like, wait a minute.
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  Speaker 1: Ma'am.
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  Speaker 3: And then what, y'all? One fan came up and was like, hey.
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  Speaker 1: I love y'all. I want to say hey to AJ too,
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  Speaker 1: but I know she don't like people. I was like,
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  Speaker 1: she do like people. Go say hey to her. I
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  Speaker 1: promise you she will say hey back.
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  Speaker 2: And what I told her, if you listen to girl,
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  Speaker 2: I said, I like good people. That's what I like.
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  Speaker 2: The hell? I do like people. Humans, like sometimes humans
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  Speaker 2: get on my goddamn nerves, y'all. You know I'm not human.
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  Speaker 2: I'm a whole alien out here. But I do like people.
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  Speaker 2: I like good people. And that's what I told her. Girl,
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  Speaker 2: why somebody at me on Instagram, on a post, It
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  Speaker 2: was Doja Cat. People were asking Doja Cat to tell
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  Speaker 2: them they love her.
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  Speaker 1: Love them. And she was like, kittens, you're my kittens.
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  Speaker 1: And she's like, I don't know. You're not my kittens.
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  Speaker 1: I don't fucking have kittens.
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  Speaker 2: No, Doja Cat said, I don't know y'all. And somebody...
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  Speaker 2: added me on there and was like, this shit sound
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  Speaker 2: like AJ. Listen, what I do, I have a lot
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  Speaker 2: of gratitude and I appreciate the supporters of this show.
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  Speaker 2: Now to just say I love everybody. I don't know y'all.
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  Speaker 2: And some of y'all may hurt me. I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying? I'm not out to hurt anybody.
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  Speaker 2: But you just never know people. So like how insecure
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  Speaker 2: are you in your own life to where somebody like
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  Speaker 2: a Doja Cat gotta tell you they love them. Like
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  Speaker 2: this person was pressing her. Like, you need to tell
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  Speaker 2: your fans you love them. I show gratitude. Much gratitude.
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  Speaker 2: Much appreciation.
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  Speaker 1: And Tam Bam love y'all. Don't worry about that.
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  Speaker 3: She's grateful.
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  Speaker 1: I'm grateful, but I do love y'all. But I love everybody.
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  Speaker 1: That's just the God in me.
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  Speaker 2: Girl, I guess. Let's get into some stupid internet news.
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  Speaker 2: How y'all going on this week? So, okay. Y'all, I
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  Speaker 2: mentioned it a couple minutes ago, but watching they clone Tyrone.
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  Speaker 2: I have literally been waiting for this movie to come
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  Speaker 2: out since last year. They kept pushing it back. Last year,
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  Speaker 2: October is when I saw the first trailer. And then
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  Speaker 2: it was supposed to come out in December. Then in January,
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  Speaker 2: they said, oh, it's not coming out until July. I'm like, man,
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  Speaker 2: what the fuck? And then in the midst of all that,
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  Speaker 2: Jamie Foxx disappears. So I've been saying they clone Tyrone.
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, y'all ain't seen that trailer, this movie that
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  Speaker 2: was supposed to come out since last year. Now this
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  Speaker 2: nigga missing. Like what the hell is happening? And now
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  Speaker 2: you reappeared two weeks before the damn movie comes out.
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  Speaker 2: Put a statement out the week before. It could be
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  Speaker 2: a marketing ploy. I don't know. But what'd you think
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  Speaker 2: about Jamie Foxx reappearance and his appearance?
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  Speaker 1: I think we all getting older. We all getting sick
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  Speaker 1: or something because we all going to die.
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  Speaker 2: Knock on wood. I'm healthy. Y'all are not getting sick.
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  Speaker 3: Well, we all going up out of here one way
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  Speaker 3: or another.
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  Speaker 2: Choose your words carefully.
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  Speaker 1: All right. We all going up out of here one
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  Speaker 1: way or another. And Jamie Foxx is like in his
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  Speaker 1: fifties and they sound like he had like maybe a
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  Speaker 1: stroke or something or some type of illness that, you know,
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  Speaker 1: hit him hard. And it just so happened that the
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  Speaker 1: movie was coming out at the same time. I don't think,
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  Speaker 1: cause I mean, he clearly, he, you know, he released
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  Speaker 1: a video thanking people for support and going, asking them
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  Speaker 1: to watch the movie. And, He clearly looks, like, unwell.
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  Speaker 1: He doesn't look like himself. Yeah, he looks sick. So,
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  Speaker 1: I mean.
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  Speaker 2: So now people are putting, like, before and after images
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  Speaker 2: of Jamie Foxx online. And he looks to me, the
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  Speaker 2: current Jamie Foxx, he looks similar to the old one.
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  Speaker 2: But it looks like two different people.
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  Speaker 1: Well, if you take a screenshot of me right now
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  Speaker 1: and then take a picture for me Saturday. Okay. You'd
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  Speaker 1: be like, they cloned Tammy.
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  Speaker 2: Well, I mean, there's a lot of clones on social media.
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  Speaker 2: Everybody be super filtered up, child. There's a lot of
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  Speaker 2: clones on social media. But Jamie Foxx, men usually don't
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  Speaker 2: be with all that shit that we be doing with
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  Speaker 2: the filters and on top of fucking makeup.
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  Speaker 1: I just think it was the lighting. I think he's
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  Speaker 1: still trying to heal from whatever.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, because he's light skin.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. And he lost some weight from whatever is going
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  Speaker 1: on with him.
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  Speaker 2: A lot of weight. Yeah. His face. His face even
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  Speaker 2: shapes totally different now. That's what a lot of people
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  Speaker 2: was pointing out, like his hairline and his chin area,
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  Speaker 2: even his nose.
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  Speaker 1: Well, his hairline ain't never been real, so that shit
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  Speaker 1: probably be shifting all the time.
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  Speaker 2: Exactly. Like, I be having to draw my brows different
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  Speaker 2: every fucking day.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Trying to get that hairline the same every day might
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  Speaker 2: be a challenge.
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  Speaker 1: Right. So, I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: I wish all the best of luck.
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  Speaker 1: Get well, and y'all go watch that movie. It's pretty good.
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  Speaker 1: It's interesting. There was some loose ends for me But overall,
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  Speaker 1: I don't want to say it because I don't want
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  Speaker 1: to spoil it because it's still just fresh out. I
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  Speaker 1: want people to see it and form their own opinion.
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  Speaker 1: So maybe we can come back in a couple of
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  Speaker 1: weeks and talk about it.
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  Speaker 3: But there was some like, wait, what?
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  Speaker 1: You know, moments.
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  Speaker 3: But for the most part.
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  Speaker 1: It was really, really, really good. I enjoyed it.
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  Speaker 2: I think it's like a hood classic. I put it
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  Speaker 2: like with Friday and shit like that. I have watched
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  Speaker 2: it twice now, two and a half times I've watched it.
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  Speaker 2: Because that shit got it. Y'all know I be on
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  Speaker 2: my conspiracy shit, which a lot of things are no
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  Speaker 2: longer conspiracies, but y'all don't want to agree with me.
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  Speaker 2: It is fine. But that movie was disclosure and confirmation
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  Speaker 2: on a lot of things. But if you think that
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  Speaker 2: these things aren't happening, then, you know, you just think
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  Speaker 2: it's entertainment.
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  Speaker 1: When I saw this first time, I was like, I
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  Speaker 1: know AJ somewhere rubbing her nipples watching this movie because
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  Speaker 1: this is right up her alley.
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  Speaker 2: All the shit. But y'all think it's entertainment.
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  Speaker 3: No, no.
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  Speaker 1: I think, you know, there's some truth to all, you know,
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  Speaker 1: all conspiracies.
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  Speaker 2: Just think about how stupid y'all was going during COVID
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  Speaker 2: for the damn chicken sandwich at Popeyes. Fighting. I believe
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  Speaker 2: somebody died during that time. And even then I was saying, man,
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  Speaker 2: if they wanted to do something to black people collectively,
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  Speaker 2: just put that shit in a chicken sandwich. A chicken
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  Speaker 2: or fish sandwich. Y'all niggas would be awesome. Crab leg sauce.
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  Speaker 2: They got damn garlic sauce. Y'all be liking to smother
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  Speaker 2: your goddamn Okay.
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  Speaker 1: What the fuck did I do to my sandwich? Give
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  Speaker 1: me another.
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  Speaker 2: I was just about to say, and eat it again tomorrow. Yo,
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  Speaker 2: that's wild, man. Let me tell y'all, one thing about me,
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  Speaker 2: when everybody doing something, I go the other direction. I
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  Speaker 2: ain't doing it. I'm going the other way, man. I
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  Speaker 2: got to watch and see what happened to y'all motherfuckers first.
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  Speaker 1: Yes. Listen, as far as vaccines and medicine, you ain't
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  Speaker 1: going to get me. But with the food, you might
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  Speaker 1: motherfucking get my ass. You might fucking catch me with
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  Speaker 1: that one, my boy.
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  Speaker 2: Shit, they putting stuff in the food.
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  Speaker 1: It's like Baby D. There's a new chicken sandwich out.
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  Speaker 1: And when you bite into it, cheese squirt in your mouth.
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  Speaker 2: Yo.
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  Speaker 1: I'm here for it.
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  Speaker 2: You remember when KFC had those double chicken sandwiches?
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  Speaker 1: Yes.
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  Speaker 2: Like with two chicken breasts, no bread, just the two
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  Speaker 2: chicken sandwiches with the meat. I mean, with the vegetables
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  Speaker 2: and stuff.
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  Speaker 3: In between?
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  Speaker 2: Yes.
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  Speaker 1: That's why our Americans are fat right there.
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  Speaker 2: That is some fat shit. Who came up with that?
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  Speaker 2: And my homegirl was ordering that shit every day. Like, ma'am,
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  Speaker 2: are you well?
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  Speaker 1: Right, because that don't even sound appealing.
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  Speaker 2: So moving along. Go ahead.
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  Speaker 1: Over the weekend, Jess Hilarious and Tia's Medicine had a
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  Speaker 1: heating exchange after- The comedian reacts to trans women saying, cis,
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  Speaker 1: and not S-I-S, but C-I-S women don't own womanhood in periods.
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  Speaker 1: So Jess Hilarious received some mixed reactions to her comments
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  Speaker 1: on the trans women community. While reacting to a video
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  Speaker 1: of what seems to be a transgender woman discussing cis
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  Speaker 1: women not having ownership over ministration.
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  Speaker 3: And womanhood, the internet person- Ministration. Oh, I said ministration.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. The government administration. The internet personality sparked a huge
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  Speaker 1: online debate and prompted a response from trans activist T.S. Madison.
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  Speaker 1: And basically they got into it. And Jess Hilarious begins
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  Speaker 1: blasting trans women for what seems to be a rant
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  Speaker 1: against naturally born females. The individuals argue that cis women
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  Speaker 1: are often transphobic due to the audacity and arrogance they have,
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  Speaker 1: believing they can gatekeep periods in menstruation.
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  Speaker 3: How you say it?
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  Speaker 2: Menstruation. Periods. Periods. I mean, this is dumb.
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  Speaker 1: You know, like gatekeeping womanhood is like, we birthed y'all.
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  Speaker 1: You can never birth us.
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  Speaker 3: End of story.
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  Speaker 1: That's it. There is, there is, it shouldn't be no
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  Speaker 1: argument because we birthed you and you can never birth us.
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  Speaker 1: And until you can birth us, there's no conversation to
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  Speaker 1: be had. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: You know, when we was on 85 South and I
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  Speaker 2: even saw some of the comments on that 85 South
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  Speaker 2: YouTube video, because I talked about partheogenesis and this is
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  Speaker 2: a process, right? Mostly reptilians are known for procreating without
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  Speaker 2: the male counterpart, like the female can't create. If Adam
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  Speaker 2: and Eve were the first, if we talk about that
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  Speaker 2: creation story, right? They had three sons. It was Adam, Eve,
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  Speaker 2: and Seth. Unless the three sons went back to Eve
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  Speaker 2: to make other people, how do we create the whole
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  Speaker 2: world from a man? It's impossible, okay? So women are
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  Speaker 2: the gods, on earth because we do give life you
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  Speaker 2: cannot come in a sock and create a human being
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  Speaker 2: okay but there was a time and i feel like
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  Speaker 2: we eat we might be getting back there because if
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  Speaker 2: you haven't noticed the birth rate for men is just
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  Speaker 2: males are going down if y'all haven't looked at the
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  Speaker 2: data it is going down and then on top of
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  Speaker 2: it especially in the black community a lot of our
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  Speaker 2: men are dying they're just missing to the prison system
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  Speaker 2: or to to death you know being murdered and shit
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  Speaker 2: like that.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, it was Adam and Eve and not Adam
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  Speaker 1: and Steve for a reason.
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  Speaker 2: Exactly, right? And so we see these things, and it's Christians, right?
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  Speaker 2: If you're a Christian and you subscribe to the Bible,
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  Speaker 2: we are in Babylon. There's some shit happening right now
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  Speaker 2: that's unexplainable, and I stand with Jess Hilarious 1,010%. You
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  Speaker 2: can call me whatever you want to call me because
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  Speaker 2: I'm not homophobic. We're just going with the science, and
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  Speaker 2: we're going with what makes sense. I'm not homophobic, I'm
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  Speaker 2: not transphobic. What makes sense? Men, women come from women.
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  Speaker 2: Y'all can't exist without us. So let's even go back to,
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  Speaker 2: what's his name? Saucy Santana was saying, we the blueprint.
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  Speaker 1: We're the prototype. Women are the prototype.
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  Speaker 2: Even gay white men, they wanna act like a black
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  Speaker 2: woman when they're gay. Like that's just what they naturally
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  Speaker 2: just start wanting to act like, right? Did you see
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  Speaker 2: that video with Quay?
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  Speaker 1: Mm-hmm.
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  Speaker 2: Quay's way, Quay way. And he's like some baby mama song.
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  Speaker 2: He has this prosthetic belly on. They making a mockery
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  Speaker 2: of black women.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I feel like. And we should not be okay with
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  Speaker 2: this shit. There should be no black woman not standing
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  Speaker 2: with Jess Hilarious right now.
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  Speaker 1: There should be no woman, period. Not just black. Just
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  Speaker 1: all women.
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  Speaker 3: It's definitely under attack.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it is.
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  Speaker 3: And it's like, all right, enough is enough. Like, it's okay.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, you... We can all coexist. Nobody's trying to take
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  Speaker 2: anything away from them. But how can you be called
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  Speaker 2: a woman, but we got to be called cis women?
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  Speaker 2: But y'all can just be a woman. No, I'm just
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  Speaker 2: a woman. Cis is an antonym for trans. That's what
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  Speaker 2: it is. So cisgendered is heterosexual. We just women. And
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  Speaker 2: y'all are trans women. And that's okay. But I'm not
• 16:08
  Speaker 2: about to hallucinate with you. Like at what point does
• 16:12
  Speaker 2: the buck stop?
• 16:13
  Speaker 3: My thing is.
• 16:15
  Speaker 1: Why are y'all trying to like minimize what makes us
• 16:18
  Speaker 1: women to make y'all feel more like a woman?
• 16:21
  Speaker 2: It's not okay.
• 16:22
  Speaker 1: It's misogyny.
• 16:23
  Speaker 2: That's the ego. It's a dick slinging contest because these
• 16:26
  Speaker 2: are still men. Don't nobody even hear from trans men,
• 16:30
  Speaker 2: which are biological women, right? Because they're still women and
• 16:33
  Speaker 2: don't nobody give a fuck about women. But you have
• 16:36
  Speaker 2: a bunch of adult males, right? Pushing an agenda because
• 16:40
  Speaker 2: this is patriarchy. It's the high, and I keep saying this,
• 16:43
  Speaker 2: this is patriarchy when a man can say, bitch, I'm you,
• 16:46
  Speaker 2: because I feel like it. You can't be a woman.
• 16:49
  Speaker 2: And a lot of them still have their male parts.
• 16:53
  Speaker 2: So you're not really even, you haven't really transitioned, actually.
• 16:58
  Speaker 1: Well, I feel like, honestly, even if you remove your
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: male part, you still have the, what is it, XY, XX,
• 17:07
  Speaker 1: I don't know.
• 17:07
  Speaker 2: The chromosome.
• 17:09
  Speaker 1: Until they find a way to completely change your genetic code.
• 17:14
  Speaker 1: I don't know. Right.
• 17:15
  Speaker 2: So let's just stick with the science and just stop.
• 17:17
  Speaker 3: Cause I mean, let's just stop altogether.
• 17:19
  Speaker 2: I don't, I think, so there's a lot of women
• 17:21
  Speaker 2: who just want attention from men so bad that they're
• 17:23
  Speaker 2: okay with this happening. You know what I'm saying? They
• 17:26
  Speaker 2: have a lot of, they have allies from actual women,
• 17:28
  Speaker 2: you know, maybe it could be cause maybe these people
• 17:30
  Speaker 2: have children that are this way or, you know, adult kids, whoever,
• 17:34
  Speaker 2: but I'm never going to be okay with this. I
• 17:36
  Speaker 2: stand for women, natural women, Yeah.
• 17:40
  Speaker 1: Me too.
• 17:41
  Speaker 3: I'm okay with you deciding.
• 17:43
  Speaker 1: If you wake up tomorrow and you feel like a
• 17:45
  Speaker 1: woman inside and you want to be a woman, that's fine.
• 17:48
  Speaker 1: But don't minimize what makes me a woman to make
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: you feel more like a woman. And we're good.
• 17:53
  Speaker 3: The only sis I recognize is SIS.
• 17:55
  Speaker 1: Moving right along.
• 17:58
  Speaker 2: Period.
• 17:59
  Speaker 1: Poop.
• 18:01
  Speaker 3: Yeah, listen.
• 18:02
  Speaker 2: You know, people be scared to talk about these things.
• 18:04
  Speaker 2: We've had an episode... What is a woman? We did
• 18:08
  Speaker 2: that episode before.
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: People were mad. We got some bad reviews because of
• 18:11
  Speaker 1: that episode.
• 18:11
  Speaker 2: And that's fine.
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: Everybody ain't going to agree.
• 18:15
  Speaker 2: And that's fine. And it's just weird when it's actual
• 18:19
  Speaker 2: women that come for you. Do y'all not see what's happening? Yeah.
• 18:24
  Speaker 2: This agenda is not for you, ma'am. It's not for you.
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: So, all right.
• 18:29
  Speaker 3: Let's move on to some real stupid, more stupid shit.
• 18:32
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: The Nigerian man wanted to create a Guinness World Record
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: for longest time crying, and he went blind temporarily trying
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: to cry. Now, I'm just trying to figure out how
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: the fuck you woke up and you was like, I
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: want to be in the Guinness Book of World Records today.
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: What can I do? Hmm. I'm going to cry for
• 18:53
  Speaker 1: a long-ass motherfucker time and get in the book. There's
• 18:59
  Speaker 1: something wrong with that motherfucker to even want to do that.
• 19:02
  Speaker 3: It's not even a skill.
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: It's not like I cook for 100 hours or I
• 19:07
  Speaker 1: jog like motherfucking Forrest Gump.
• 19:10
  Speaker 3: This nigga cried. This nigga cannot be trusted.
• 19:14
  Speaker 2: When I cry, I be looking in the mirror and
• 19:17
  Speaker 2: I realize how stupid I look crying, so I stop.
• 19:21
  Speaker 2: That dude was looking so crazy crying. I know he
• 19:24
  Speaker 2: had a fucking headache. I know that's why he went blind.
• 19:29
  Speaker 2: Your head has to hurt.
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: Right, because you're just forcing tears out of your body.
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: Because he was forcing that shit.
• 19:35
  Speaker 3: I'm sorry.
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: After some time, okay, you might be crying for real,
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: thinking about all your trauma, your stress. But then after,
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: there's a point where it's like, okay, now I'm just forcing.
• 19:44
  Speaker 2: He might got a lot of trauma and stress to
• 19:46
  Speaker 2: help promote those tears. Yes.
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: Do they get.
• 19:50
  Speaker 2: paid for guinness like do you get money for being.
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: In guinness world record accolades i don't think it's any money.
• 19:57
  Speaker 2: Nah dog i need to check i'm about to be
• 20:00
  Speaker 2: crying for 100 hours That's weird. He's a.
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: Maniac. Crazy.
• 20:13
  Speaker 2: I would not. How could you even trust a man
• 20:16
  Speaker 2: like that in a relationship? You can't. He's going to
• 20:19
  Speaker 2: start crying randomly.
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: I love you so much.
• 20:24
  Speaker 2: I cheated because I'm hurt.
• 20:27
  Speaker 3: I miss my grandma, y'all. You remember that?
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: Who said I miss my grandma?
• 20:35
  Speaker 2: I don't know.
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: Who, man?
• 20:36
  Speaker 3: Cardi B, man.
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: When he got caught cheating, he made.
• 20:39
  Speaker 2: A phone call to that picture. Offset did that? Yeah. Yo.
• 20:47
  Speaker 2: I cheated because I miss my grandma. That's a good one.
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: Oh, goodness. Yeah, I'm going to say that one just
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: in case I get a nigga and I do something
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: and I ain't got no business. I be wearing her
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: around my neck every day I miss her that's why.
• 21:04
  Speaker 2: I fucked her up while I was smashing I had
• 21:07
  Speaker 2: her on actually ma'am.
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: No the next man I get the next man I
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: get I ain't cheating on him I promise baby wherever
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: you are I'ma love you.
• 21:19
  Speaker 2: Down are you a cheater you think you a cheater
• 21:24
  Speaker 2: no I'm not a cheater no more but in relationships
• 21:28
  Speaker 2: were you a cheater I've cheated in relationships before.
• 21:31
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 21:32
  Speaker 2: I never initiate cheating. That's one thing I don't do.
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: I'm not going to initiate it. And I think I
• 21:39
  Speaker 2: can't cheat living with somebody either. Like that shit is
• 21:42
  Speaker 2: wild to me how a motherfucker can leave out the
• 21:44
  Speaker 2: house and go cheat and then come back like ain't
• 21:45
  Speaker 2: nothing happened and kiss me in my mouth. I can't
• 21:48
  Speaker 2: do that to anybody either.
• 21:49
  Speaker 1: That's terrible. I've only lived with one man and I
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: didn't cheat on him. But I cheated on my nigga
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: who lived in California and I was all the way
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: in South Carolina. No, I was in Atlanta and he
• 22:01
  Speaker 1: was in LA. We both was cheating.
• 22:03
  Speaker 2: I don't think that's cheating. Yeah, like that's a mutual cheat.
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: We're Cheetos.
• 22:07
  Speaker 2: At this point, it's a mutual cheat. Yeah, I definitely
• 22:12
  Speaker 2: cheated on him. And can you hear that bell? I
• 22:16
  Speaker 2: do hear that.
• 22:16
  Speaker 3: Y'all, Tammy got a new dog.
• 22:18
  Speaker 2: Do you hear this? We can't even record no more.
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: I'm sorry.
• 22:20
  Speaker 2: She's got that puppy all in the recording. She might
• 22:22
  Speaker 2: as well join the team.
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: Listen, Bella is my new family member, y'all, and I
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: almost yeeted that bitch over the side of the balcony, y'all.
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: I ain't been able to get no motherfucking sleep. I
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: really feel like a new mom. I'm going to have
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: to take that bell off. I'll take it off before
• 22:38
  Speaker 1: we record next week, so y'all won't hear it next time.
• 22:40
  Speaker 2: Yo, she just took the Christmas tree down. Now she
• 22:44
  Speaker 2: got bells in the goddamn house. What is happening? Santa
• 22:48
  Speaker 2: Claus in the ghetto. Y'all look, this week we talking
• 22:53
  Speaker 2: about fuck it. The power of saying fuck it. Listen,
• 22:57
  Speaker 2: I had a fuck it moment this weekend, but I
• 23:00
  Speaker 2: didn't do it. I didn't take the high road and
• 23:03
  Speaker 2: say fuck it and just ignore it, nigga. I got
• 23:05
  Speaker 2: a random ass text message from an ex about some
• 23:09
  Speaker 2: random shit. From 2020. And you took the bait? And
• 23:15
  Speaker 2: I took the demon bait. And I responded gracefully. I
• 23:19
  Speaker 2: was like, you know, our perception and perspective of how
• 23:22
  Speaker 2: our relationship went and what transpired in our relationship is
• 23:26
  Speaker 2: obviously different.
• 23:26
  Speaker 3: Was it after?
• 23:27
  Speaker 2: Hold on.
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: Was this after you posted your video of you dancing?
• 23:32
  Speaker 2: Absolutely. Oh, what did I tell you? What did I
• 23:35
  Speaker 2: tell you, bitch? But look, for the record, I don't
• 23:39
  Speaker 2: do nothing for that nigga. I don't do nothing for
• 23:41
  Speaker 2: no nigga. I do shit for the current nigga. I
• 23:43
  Speaker 2: don't do nothing for no previous niggas.
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: When I saw that video, you was looking fine as hell.
• 23:49
  Speaker 1: I was like, oh, niggas is about to pop up.
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: Niggas is about to pop up.
• 23:53
  Speaker 2: I'm like, God, what? It's Sunday. Are you well, sir?
• 23:59
  Speaker 1: If you over there happy and fine without me, I
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: hate you.
• 24:02
  Speaker 2: Exactly. disrupt some shit and you know before I would
• 24:09
  Speaker 2: be like super triggered I wasn't triggered about it but
• 24:11
  Speaker 2: I did give him I fed that thing in him
• 24:13
  Speaker 2: right that probably just wanted to fuck with me for
• 24:15
  Speaker 2: the day but I wasn't fucked with though so I
• 24:18
  Speaker 2: might be doing a little bit better okay right you
• 24:21
  Speaker 2: know what I'm saying like I'm like I hope you're
• 24:23
  Speaker 2: doing well in your current relationship I hope everything's doing
• 24:27
  Speaker 2: better now because we didn't bring out the best in
• 24:29
  Speaker 2: each other and I'm okay with that are you Can
• 24:33
  Speaker 2: you move on happily at some point?
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 24:37
  Speaker 2: I'm happy. So I don't know.
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: All right, y'all.
• 24:40
  Speaker 2: More power to you, my nigga.
• 24:42
  Speaker 3: We'll be right back with some more fucking.
• 24:48
  Speaker 2: Y'all, we back. Okay. And, you know, today I wanted
• 24:51
  Speaker 2: to have a conversation about just fucking life. You know
• 24:55
  Speaker 2: what I'm saying? Because life be life. And like, that's
• 24:57
  Speaker 2: a real famous phrase today. I feel like shit since COVID,
• 25:02
  Speaker 2: for real.
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: Bruh.
• 25:03
  Speaker 2: Life be lifin'..
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: Life has been lifin' so much lately. If it ain't
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: one thing, it's another. I just feel like it's not
• 25:10
  Speaker 1: enough time to even process one thing before the next
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: thing has come, you know?
• 25:15
  Speaker 2: Mm-hmm. Basically. But, I mean, there's ways to cope with life, right?
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: But I saw this thing. I saw this meme. It said,
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: life be lifin', but God be goddin'. It is true. Mm-hmm. Like,
• 25:27
  Speaker 1: I won't put nothing on you that you can't handle
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: or you.
• 25:30
  Speaker 2: Shouldn't be able to handle. Some of that should be
• 25:31
  Speaker 2: having hands, dog. Yeah.
• 25:33
  Speaker 1: And feet.
• 25:33
  Speaker 2: And really be having hands.
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: And feet. Like, all right, tell me one thing, like,
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: that's going on right now in your life that you're like,
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: this too much.
• 25:46
  Speaker 2: Nothing really. Like, right now at this moment, nah, nothing
• 25:51
  Speaker 2: I can't handle. I feel like it's, when you single...
• 25:56
  Speaker 2: It should just be going a little bit easier.
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: Man, you should get there.
• 26:01
  Speaker 2: Yes. I feel like I do my best when I'm
• 26:04
  Speaker 2: by my damn self for the most part. It's usually
• 26:06
  Speaker 2: when I'm in a relationship I be feeling like life
• 26:08
  Speaker 2: be lifin'. Because now you're not just having to consider yourself.
• 26:11
  Speaker 2: You got to consider somebody else.
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: You know what? Yeah, I think all my things that
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: are really affecting my life is honestly other people's shit. Exactly.
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: I have a friend who's really, really sick with cancer
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: right now. My dad has depression. He's, you know, trying
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: to get through that. And I just think those things,
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: even though they're not directly my shit, it affects me
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: in such a huge, huge, huge way. And it be
• 26:38
  Speaker 1: making me feel like life be life. And then I
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: feel like I, oftentimes I'm, Extending myself to so many
• 26:44
  Speaker 1: people all the time that when I look up like them,
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: I have not even poured into myself at all.
• 26:49
  Speaker 2: Exactly. That's what I'm saying. So you got to try
• 26:52
  Speaker 2: to find a way to like transmute all that energy
• 26:55
  Speaker 2: because we know for sure that stress causes a lot
• 27:00
  Speaker 2: of illnesses. So you got to find some type of
• 27:02
  Speaker 2: way to deal with stress, maybe your own or some
• 27:05
  Speaker 2: stress that somebody is imposing on you. Somebody else's stress.
• 27:09
  Speaker 2: You got to find a way to like transmute it. So,
• 27:12
  Speaker 2: you know, I did a lot of research.
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: I see you did your big one with this one now.
• 27:17
  Speaker 2: You know, we like to, the internet, the cell phone
• 27:20
  Speaker 2: is like a whole computer at your fucking fingertips, right?
• 27:24
  Speaker 2: So anything you want to figure out, you can pretty
• 27:26
  Speaker 2: much find it. And this is a book that I have.
• 27:29
  Speaker 2: It's called The Power of Not Giving a Fuck. I have, literally,
• 27:35
  Speaker 2: I've had this tattoo on my finger, on my middle finger,
• 27:37
  Speaker 2: on my right hand, since I was probably like, I
• 27:40
  Speaker 2: don't know, 24? I was living in Atlanta. I went
• 27:47
  Speaker 2: to a tattoo house party. And everybody was in there
• 27:51
  Speaker 2: getting all these big dumbass tattoos. I literally thought about
• 27:55
  Speaker 2: this tattoo for many years. Like, I'm going to get
• 27:59
  Speaker 2: apostrophe E-M on my fucking finger, on my middle finger.
• 28:01
  Speaker 2: Because things I can't control, it's for real. Fuck them. Like,
• 28:04
  Speaker 2: you can't list shit. fester that you can't control. It's
• 28:07
  Speaker 2: the little things that stress me the fuck out. Big things,
• 28:10
  Speaker 2: I just be like, damn, I got to deal with it.
• 28:12
  Speaker 2: It's not going away. The longer you wait, it's going
• 28:15
  Speaker 2: to get bigger. So handle it today. It's little things.
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: Give an example.
• 28:19
  Speaker 2: That stress me out. I can't even think of none
• 28:25
  Speaker 2: because they just be so fucking minuscule. Like, bitch, why
• 28:28
  Speaker 2: is you tripping?
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: You know what? A little thing that I can think
• 28:31
  Speaker 1: of that gives me stress. Is getting older.
• 28:37
  Speaker 3: That stressful to you?
• 28:39
  Speaker 1: It has been.
• 28:40
  Speaker 2: The only stressful thing to me about getting older is
• 28:42
  Speaker 2: not being a millionaire yet. I don't give a fuck
• 28:45
  Speaker 2: about getting old. I just want to enjoy life while
• 28:47
  Speaker 2: I'm living though.
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: Let me tell you something. I did a cartwheel the
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: other day as a bed. And this right shoulder, you
• 28:54
  Speaker 1: ever pop this now? It ain't been the same since,
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: my nigga. Little shit like that is just getting different.
• 29:01
  Speaker 2: No, I'm going to lie now. I was walking down
• 29:03
  Speaker 2: some steps earlier at my friend's house, and I'm like,
• 29:05
  Speaker 2: why the fuck is my knee still hurting, bitch? I
• 29:08
  Speaker 2: was riding dick so crazy earlier last week. My knee's
• 29:11
  Speaker 2: still fucking hurting.
• 29:14
  Speaker 1: You was putting a frog on top of that dick.
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: It wasn't even a frog.
• 29:18
  Speaker 2: It's just my knees be like the pressure beat in
• 29:20
  Speaker 2: the bed and using that nigga chest to do all
• 29:23
  Speaker 2: type of shit. Told y'all I was an equestrian. Now
• 29:30
  Speaker 2: my knees hurt. Yeah, little shit like that. Just getting older.
• 29:34
  Speaker 2: I need to ice my knees, bitch.
• 29:36
  Speaker 1: I be like going to sleep fine and waking up
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: with new shit wrong. How did I hurt myself in
• 29:40
  Speaker 1: my motherfucking sleep?
• 29:41
  Speaker 2: No, that's how you know you plus 30. Yeah. Because
• 29:44
  Speaker 2: when you just fucking stand up. And break something wrong.
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: When I go drinking, I be sitting on the top
• 29:54
  Speaker 1: of the couch and party. I still got it. Two
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: days to get back straight. Two days later.
• 29:59
  Speaker 3: It take two days.
• 30:01
  Speaker 1: I don't like that. So getting older has been stressful
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: for me, that part. And then the fact that I'm,
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: you know, even though my age is really fluid. Hold
• 30:10
  Speaker 1: your finger up. Fuck him.
• 30:13
  Speaker 2: Fuck him.
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: Fuck him. I'm not married. I don't have kids. I
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: just feel like some of these things I should have
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: done by this stage in my life, and I haven't.
• 30:24
  Speaker 2: Is that what's stressing you out?
• 30:26
  Speaker 3: Yeah, that does bring me stress. And I'm still single.
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: I'll be like, eh, I'm outside. I'm single. I ain't
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: got those problems y'all got. And then when I'm sitting
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: at the house at my tray table. eating my little
• 30:35
  Speaker 1: meal by myself, I'd.
• 30:36
  Speaker 2: Be like, Lord Jesus, send me somebody, please. Now, I
• 30:42
  Speaker 2: do want to be in a relationship. I am a
• 30:44
  Speaker 2: relationship prone person, even if I be doing like some
• 30:48
  Speaker 2: little shit in between time. But for the most part,
• 30:51
  Speaker 2: I like to be in relationships. I don't really don't
• 30:52
  Speaker 2: like being by myself. I don't like being outside, right?
• 30:55
  Speaker 2: But the kids thing, I don't regret not having kids
• 30:59
  Speaker 2: earlier because I was just having a conversation with one
• 31:01
  Speaker 2: of my best friends today and we were talking about
• 31:04
  Speaker 2: like kids. I'm like, when you, there's some things you
• 31:07
  Speaker 2: don't see until you get older, right? So I feel
• 31:11
  Speaker 2: like I watch parents, I watch people parent all the
• 31:13
  Speaker 2: time and I'd be like, y'all are terrible. The fuck?
• 31:17
  Speaker 2: Why y'all, like why you get so aggravated with your kid?
• 31:19
  Speaker 2: Like I feel like kids, the longer you take to
• 31:21
  Speaker 2: have kids, you realize how much of a gift they
• 31:24
  Speaker 2: actually are. Like people who could just spit a baby out,
• 31:27
  Speaker 2: they don't recognize that You're not the gift to that kid.
• 31:31
  Speaker 2: That kid is a gift to you.
• 31:33
  Speaker 3: I don't know.
• 31:33
  Speaker 1: I know a lot of mothers that are absolutely in
• 31:36
  Speaker 1: love with their kids.
• 31:38
  Speaker 2: Some. And how old are they? Most of them. When
• 31:40
  Speaker 2: did they have a kid?
• 31:40
  Speaker 1: Most of them. Are you talking about like 22-year-olds?
• 31:43
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 31:44
  Speaker 1: Even them.
• 31:44
  Speaker 2: Even like... I don't know. That's not fair. I don't
• 31:47
  Speaker 2: believe in postpartum. I believe that a lot of times
• 31:50
  Speaker 2: women just don't have the support. That's where the stress
• 31:53
  Speaker 2: comes from after having a baby.
• 31:54
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 31:55
  Speaker 2: If you got a man that'll rub your back and
• 31:56
  Speaker 2: rub your feet and love on you after you had...
• 31:58
  Speaker 2: I saw a pit bull. The pit bull was laying
• 32:01
  Speaker 2: behind his bitch while she was breastfeeding the kids. And
• 32:04
  Speaker 2: she looked so comfortable and stress-free. That's where I think
• 32:09
  Speaker 2: a postpartum situation manifests when you don't have help.
• 32:13
  Speaker 3: With the baby.
• 32:14
  Speaker 2: Well, not often.
• 32:14
  Speaker 3: You know, I have.
• 32:16
  Speaker 1: I've seen where one of my friends, she suffered from
• 32:19
  Speaker 1: postpartum really bad. And she had a huge, like, huge
• 32:22
  Speaker 1: support system.
• 32:23
  Speaker 2: Like, It wasn't from the man, though.
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it was her man. He had a bunch of sisters, mom,
• 32:29
  Speaker 1: her mom, her sisters, everybody was, you know, there to help.
• 32:32
  Speaker 1: And she just did not feel connection to her baby.
• 32:37
  Speaker 1: And then that made her feel even more sad.
• 32:39
  Speaker 2: Right, I can imagine.
• 32:40
  Speaker 1: Because why do I feel this way? Why do I not? So,
• 32:42
  Speaker 1: I don't know. Like, what you're saying is probably true,
• 32:46
  Speaker 1: and that does happen sometimes. But there are times that
• 32:49
  Speaker 1: it's just some chemical imbalance within a woman that happens
• 32:52
  Speaker 1: after pregnancy that, I mean, after childbirth, that causes this sometimes.
• 32:56
  Speaker 2: You know, I kind of fear that, like, because I
• 32:58
  Speaker 2: know if I had, and this is just being open,
• 33:00
  Speaker 2: completely honest and transparent. So I don't want to say
• 33:05
  Speaker 2: I have fertility issues, but I don't have any kids
• 33:07
  Speaker 2: and I have had problems, not conceiving, but carrying, right?
• 33:11
  Speaker 2: So I think sometimes, like, if I do in vitro,
• 33:15
  Speaker 2: will I feel connected to the baby?
• 33:16
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 33:17
  Speaker 2: Because that's like GMO. That's an AI baby. That's an
• 33:22
  Speaker 2: AI baby.
• 33:22
  Speaker 1: All right. What is it? All right. I don't even
• 33:24
  Speaker 1: know exactly what in vitro is.
• 33:26
  Speaker 2: And so it's when you take the sperm and you
• 33:29
  Speaker 2: fertilize the egg.
• 33:31
  Speaker 1: But it's inside your body though, right? No.
• 33:32
  Speaker 2: So if you can go... So the other process, like
• 33:35
  Speaker 2: if people freeze their eggs and stuff like that, they
• 33:38
  Speaker 2: would do... But that's out of utero. So they would
• 33:41
  Speaker 2: inject the sperm into the... And then put it in
• 33:43
  Speaker 2: your body? And then insert it. And then transplant it
• 33:46
  Speaker 2: to your... Your uterus. Yeah.
• 33:50
  Speaker 1: Well, that doesn't technically count because, I mean, it's still
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: growing inside you. I think once they start a grown
• 33:55
  Speaker 1: baby in the incubus.
• 33:57
  Speaker 2: Incubated. Why are y'all teetering? You see what I'm talking about?
• 34:00
  Speaker 2: That's a mama outside right now yelling at her fucking kid.
• 34:03
  Speaker 2: Be grateful for the babies.
• 34:07
  Speaker 1: She grateful for that baby. Don't you see them in
• 34:09
  Speaker 1: there doing the podcast?
• 34:10
  Speaker 2: Shut your ass up.
• 34:14
  Speaker 1: Get your ass back here.
• 34:16
  Speaker 2: They be frustrated with the kids, man. I don't be
• 34:19
  Speaker 2: liking that because kids have half the life experience of adults.
• 34:23
  Speaker 2: So you can't put them on a pedestal and expect
• 34:25
  Speaker 2: them to be better than you. Obviously, you want your
• 34:28
  Speaker 2: kids to grow up to be better than you, but
• 34:31
  Speaker 2: you got to give them some grace.
• 34:33
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree there.
• 34:35
  Speaker 2: Yeah, so y'all life be lifin'. And the power of
• 34:37
  Speaker 2: fuck it is amazing, right? So things you can't control,
• 34:42
  Speaker 2: fuck it.
• 34:42
  Speaker 1: Right?
• 34:43
  Speaker 2: So this article I read, I took a lot of
• 34:46
  Speaker 2: notes from it to try and give people ways to
• 34:52
  Speaker 2: deal with challenging or overwhelming situations while life be fucking lifin'.
• 34:57
  Speaker 2: So the first one is take a step back. Pause
• 35:00
  Speaker 2: and give yourself some space to reflect on the situation.
• 35:04
  Speaker 2: Assess what specifically is causing you distress or difficulty and
• 35:08
  Speaker 2: try to gain a broader perspective on the situation. So
• 35:12
  Speaker 2: I know I be.
• 35:13
  Speaker 1: That's hard for me.
• 35:15
  Speaker 2: It's hard for me too, bitch, because I be on
• 35:17
  Speaker 2: go in my brain.
• 35:18
  Speaker 1: Yeah, me too.
• 35:19
  Speaker 2: So sometimes if you do take a moment to just
• 35:23
  Speaker 2: shut the fuck up in your mind.
• 35:24
  Speaker 1: This is We Talk Back, so I don't know if
• 35:27
  Speaker 1: that's possible for us.
• 35:28
  Speaker 2: But did I not just tell you recently that I'm
• 35:29
  Speaker 2: tired of fucking talking though? It's We Talk Back, but
• 35:32
  Speaker 2: a bitch is tired of talking. I'm tired of it.
• 35:36
  Speaker 2: It's stressful.
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: That's something I really could work on is just, Because
• 35:40
  Speaker 1: sometimes in hindsight, I'll be like, damn, I could have
• 35:43
  Speaker 1: just shut up. I could have just shut up. Really?
• 35:46
  Speaker 1: And it would have just saved me so much stress
• 35:49
  Speaker 1: to just not even bother.
• 35:51
  Speaker 2: I always say that. Sometimes it's okay to shut the
• 35:54
  Speaker 2: fuck up. Sometimes it's okay not to say anything. One
• 35:58
  Speaker 2: of my exes, dog, he just felt compelled to just
• 36:01
  Speaker 2: tell people what he thought about them or just talking shit.
• 36:07
  Speaker 2: I'm like, dog, sometimes it's okay to shut the fuck up. Like,
• 36:10
  Speaker 2: who the fuck are you?
• 36:11
  Speaker 1: I have this one friend that he, we talk all
• 36:14
  Speaker 1: the time, but he just irks my nerves. Who?
• 36:16
  Speaker 2: Do I know this friend?
• 36:17
  Speaker 1: No, you do. Irks my fucking soul.
• 36:20
  Speaker 2: He probably irks my nerves, too.
• 36:23
  Speaker 1: Sometimes I talk to him. Just so I can go
• 36:26
  Speaker 1: off on him.
• 36:28
  Speaker 2: You need somebody to go off on right now?
• 36:29
  Speaker 1: I know he going to say something that's going to
• 36:32
  Speaker 1: take me there.
• 36:33
  Speaker 2: Now, that's feeding the toxic side of you now. If
• 36:35
  Speaker 2: you know that you can get that thing in you
• 36:37
  Speaker 2: fed by talking to this person, because me, I'm not
• 36:40
  Speaker 2: talking to them. I'm not talking to anybody that causes
• 36:43
  Speaker 2: me anxiety, unnecessary stress. Like, I want to disconnect from
• 36:47
  Speaker 2: your ass immediately.
• 36:48
  Speaker 1: We'll go back and forth and argue, and I'll be like, oh,
• 36:51
  Speaker 1: I feel so bad.
• 36:52
  Speaker 2: That is toxic, bitch. There's something wrong with you. But
• 36:57
  Speaker 2: do y'all hear this? I just want y'all to take notes.
• 37:00
  Speaker 2: Do y'all hear this?
• 37:01
  Speaker 1: All right?
• 37:02
  Speaker 2: So when you see.
• 37:02
  Speaker 1: But it'll be like great debates. It'll be like great debates.
• 37:06
  Speaker 1: You know exactly what.
• 37:07
  Speaker 2: I'm talking about. His debates do not be great, dog.
• 37:09
  Speaker 2: Like the... And I hope you hear this, nigga, so
• 37:11
  Speaker 2: you can leave us alone sometime. But he will send
• 37:14
  Speaker 2: like posts... It's raining, y'all. But anyway, he will send
• 37:18
  Speaker 2: posts online with a paragraph attached to it. 7 o'clock
• 37:23
  Speaker 2: in the morning. Like, did you even brush your teeth yet?
• 37:27
  Speaker 2: And you want to debate me about some shit early
• 37:31
  Speaker 2: in the fucking morning. It's to the point I'd be like, okay, Now,
• 37:37
  Speaker 2: don't think just because I say okay that you're right.
• 37:39
  Speaker 1: Sometimes I'll hit him with that, but sometimes I'll be like,
• 37:42
  Speaker 1: you know what? You picked the right motherfucking day for this.
• 37:45
  Speaker 1: And I'll be like typing with my whole soul.
• 37:48
  Speaker 2: I don't like to argue via text, which I'm calling.
• 37:52
  Speaker 2: So I don't talk to him on the phone. It's
• 37:54
  Speaker 2: just goddamn Instagram. So yeah, he's definitely stressful. But even
• 37:58
  Speaker 2: in those situations, if we just take this, take a
• 38:00
  Speaker 2: step back.
• 38:01
  Speaker 1: And pause.
• 38:01
  Speaker 2: Yes. Yes. But you said you take the step forward
• 38:05
  Speaker 2: because you like.
• 38:05
  Speaker 1: That energy sometimes. Sometimes I'll be ready, like, let's go.
• 38:08
  Speaker 1: This is going to help me release some pent-up stress
• 38:13
  Speaker 1: arguing with you about something that affects me.
• 38:16
  Speaker 2: Trivial. Just stupid shit.
• 38:18
  Speaker 3: The earth is round, motherfucker.
• 38:20
  Speaker 2: Oh, let me tell y'all about our last argument, me
• 38:22
  Speaker 2: and this nigga. He sent me an article about paternity testing.
• 38:31
  Speaker 1: Right?
• 38:31
  Speaker 2: Did he send you that?
• 38:32
  Speaker 1: Oh, yeah, he sent me that.
• 38:32
  Speaker 2: Okay, so he sent an article about paternity testing. And,
• 38:36
  Speaker 2: you know, I'm a real-life, matter-of-fact type person. Like, that's
• 38:40
  Speaker 2: why I research. I'm going to read. So I don't like,
• 38:43
  Speaker 2: you know, people say all the time I be spreading misinformation. Nah, bitch,
• 38:47
  Speaker 2: you just hadn't seen it yet. Right? So he sent
• 38:51
  Speaker 2: me some shit. And I'm like, I don't like when
• 38:53
  Speaker 2: people throw out data and statistics. Please send me your source.
• 38:57
  Speaker 2: Don't just say, oh, a 10% of women ain't shit. Like,
• 39:00
  Speaker 2: I don't want to hear that. Like, I need the source.
• 39:04
  Speaker 2: So basically it was on paternity, right? A girl was
• 39:07
  Speaker 2: saying she knew a guy who worked at a paternity
• 39:11
  Speaker 2: clinic or a blood testing site. And he quit because
• 39:15
  Speaker 2: of the stress of having to counsel couples after the
• 39:18
  Speaker 2: baby come back, not the guys, right? And she was
• 39:21
  Speaker 2: basically saying that the guy was like, it's 40% of
• 39:23
  Speaker 2: the time. is not the man's baby who's getting the
• 39:28
  Speaker 2: paternity test. So my thing to our friend was, this
• 39:32
  Speaker 2: is not 40% of all pregnancies. This is just the
• 39:35
  Speaker 2: people who go get tested because they feel like they
• 39:38
  Speaker 2: need to get tested for this fucking kid.
• 39:40
  Speaker 1: Right. Then.
• 39:42
  Speaker 2: I have to argue with him and going back and
• 39:44
  Speaker 2: forth about why people should get... I don't disagree that
• 39:47
  Speaker 2: men should get their kids tested.
• 39:49
  Speaker 3: I don't disagree.
• 39:49
  Speaker 1: Me neither.
• 39:50
  Speaker 2: Look, life be lifin'. The only difference between men and
• 39:53
  Speaker 2: women is that we can get pregnant.
• 39:55
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 39:55
  Speaker 2: All right? If men could get pregnant, they would have
• 39:57
  Speaker 2: a bunch of babies that don't belong to that bitch.
• 39:59
  Speaker 3: Who that baby mama is?
• 40:02
  Speaker 2: If I had a dick today, I would get a
• 40:03
  Speaker 2: lot of y'all niggas pregnant and leave. No, you would not. Yes,
• 40:07
  Speaker 2: I would. I would be a daddy. You would be
• 40:10
  Speaker 2: a good father. Not you would be a good father.
• 40:18
  Speaker 2: But shortly after the damn video, we all off topic,
• 40:21
  Speaker 2: but it's funny. Shortly after the video, I'm looking on
• 40:23
  Speaker 2: Instagram and here come a post. It's a fucking judge,
• 40:28
  Speaker 2: one of them judge shows. It's a black guy on there.
• 40:32
  Speaker 2: He done brought a diagram to the motherfucking courts to
• 40:35
  Speaker 2: show how all his kids got this particular eyebrow arch.
• 40:40
  Speaker 2: And he said, he got seven kids. He said, all
• 40:42
  Speaker 2: seven of my kids got this eyebrow arch. That's not
• 40:45
  Speaker 2: my baby. I mean, the court's laughing, the judge laughing
• 40:47
  Speaker 2: at his ass. It's one lady, one baby. And he's like,
• 40:51
  Speaker 2: that baby isn't mine. These seven kids, these my kids.
• 40:54
  Speaker 2: That baby is not my baby. They laughing like the
• 40:57
  Speaker 2: judge going in on his ass. Bitch came back from commercial.
• 41:01
  Speaker 2: You are not the father.
• 41:03
  Speaker 1: He was like, it ain't the arch.
• 41:04
  Speaker 2: And I said that to old boy.
• 41:05
  Speaker 1: It ain't mine.
• 41:06
  Speaker 2: He knew what his kids look like.
• 41:08
  Speaker 3: You know, at this age.
• 41:12
  Speaker 1: I will never be in a situation where I wouldn't
• 41:14
  Speaker 1: know who.
• 41:14
  Speaker 2: My child's father is.
• 41:15
  Speaker 1: Me either.
• 41:16
  Speaker 2: Because if I don't know, I'm not about to be embarrassed.
• 41:20
  Speaker 1: What would you do if you asked for paternity? Oh, no.
• 41:24
  Speaker 2: I thought you were saying, this is like if I
• 41:27
  Speaker 2: actually did some shady shit and.
• 41:31
  Speaker 1: I'm confused.
• 41:31
  Speaker 2: Just don't know who my baby daddy is. I'm not
• 41:33
  Speaker 2: having the baby is what I'm saying. Whoa. That's not
• 41:37
  Speaker 2: what I was saying. But no, that's not happening. I'm
• 41:39
  Speaker 2: not out here smashing multiple people without a goddamn condom,
• 41:42
  Speaker 2: first of all. Right.
• 41:44
  Speaker 3: That part. And just not outside like that.
• 41:46
  Speaker 1: But if I was, I just have to be honest
• 41:49
  Speaker 1: with everybody and dap everybody up.
• 41:51
  Speaker 2: Why you scratch the back of your neck when you
• 41:52
  Speaker 2: said you were outside like that?
• 41:54
  Speaker 1: Because my neck was itching.
• 41:55
  Speaker 2: That got to look like a lie. I'm not outside
• 41:59
  Speaker 2: like that.
• 42:00
  Speaker 1: I got a glue in and it was itching. I'm sorry.
• 42:02
  Speaker 1: It's not a lie. I'm not outside like that right now.
• 42:05
  Speaker 1: Me neither, girl.
• 42:06
  Speaker 2: All right, y'all.
• 42:09
  Speaker 1: Next.
• 42:10
  Speaker 2: Practicing self-care. This is one of my favorites because I
• 42:12
  Speaker 2: love fucking self-care, okay? And self-care is never selfish. Engaging
• 42:17
  Speaker 2: in activities that promote your well-being and help you relax.
• 42:21
  Speaker 2: This could include exercising. One of my... Trying to get
• 42:24
  Speaker 2: back in the gym better. Meditating, one of my favorites.
• 42:28
  Speaker 2: I meditate when I wake up and go to sleep.
• 42:31
  Speaker 2: Spending time in nature, another favorite. Pursuing hobbies or engaging
• 42:37
  Speaker 2: in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment. So what's
• 42:40
  Speaker 2: some of the things that make you happy?
• 42:42
  Speaker 1: Weed.
• 42:45
  Speaker 3: That's one of my favorites.
• 42:46
  Speaker 1: But outside of that, I just started sewing. Believe it
• 42:50
  Speaker 1: or not. What?
• 42:50
  Speaker 2: On a machine or by hand?
• 42:52
  Speaker 1: I bought a sewing machine.
• 42:53
  Speaker 2: I got two of them.
• 42:54
  Speaker 1: And I've been making outdoor pillows for my patio. Nice.
• 42:57
  Speaker 3: And they look so good.
• 42:59
  Speaker 1: I'm so proud. My friend was like, oh, bitch, here
• 43:01
  Speaker 1: you come with a new hobby. Next thing you know,
• 43:03
  Speaker 1: we're going to see her on Instagram talking about, we
• 43:05
  Speaker 1: outside pillows by Tam.
• 43:08
  Speaker 2: This is some pillows, babe.
• 43:09
  Speaker 1: Why not? Shit. I know. But you know what?
• 43:12
  Speaker 2: I like sewing.
• 43:13
  Speaker 1: I don't think I would turn it into a business.
• 43:16
  Speaker 1: It's just something that I've been enjoying. Yeah. And I
• 43:18
  Speaker 1: like making my patio look real nice and pretty.
• 43:21
  Speaker 3: And pillows be expensive.
• 43:23
  Speaker 2: So why you can't just make your own shit?
• 43:25
  Speaker 1: So I went to Joann and bought some fabric. Got
• 43:27
  Speaker 1: me a little sewing machine. And it's half the price
• 43:30
  Speaker 1: doing it that way. But it was 4th of July weekend.
• 43:33
  Speaker 1: And I'm outside on my patio putting up.
• 43:36
  Speaker 2: 4th of July weekend?
• 43:37
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 43:38
  Speaker 2: Oh, okay. Yeah. Yeah.
• 43:40
  Speaker 1: And not in the future.
• 43:43
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 43:43
  Speaker 1: Right. And I was like sewing pillows. And it was
• 43:49
  Speaker 1: like live outside. It was motorcycles, horses riding down the street,
• 43:53
  Speaker 1: people on those bikes, that beer bikes and shit. And
• 43:56
  Speaker 1: I was like, damn, I'm washed. That's what I was
• 43:59
  Speaker 1: thinking because why am I in the house sewing pillows?
• 44:02
  Speaker 2: Because that is fucking fun. Shoot.
• 44:04
  Speaker 1: It was cool or whatever, but it just seemed like
• 44:07
  Speaker 1: I felt washed.
• 44:08
  Speaker 2: You felt like you needed to be doing something else?
• 44:10
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it was all that electricity outside and I'm in
• 44:12
  Speaker 1: here like somebody motherfucking auntie sewing pillows.
• 44:17
  Speaker 2: Maybe because you are someone's auntie.
• 44:18
  Speaker 1: Girl, fuck you.
• 44:21
  Speaker 2: Hold your finger up and point it at yourself. Fuck them.
• 44:27
  Speaker 1: Oh, goodness.
• 44:28
  Speaker 2: Let me see some of the things that makes me happy.
• 44:30
  Speaker 2: I like cooking. I like cooking, and then I like
• 44:33
  Speaker 2: serving people the food, and I'll stand there.
• 44:35
  Speaker 1: And watch you eat the whole thing. Y'all, when I
• 44:39
  Speaker 1: was at her house, she made this omelet, which was
• 44:41
  Speaker 1: really good.
• 44:41
  Speaker 2: What was in it? Tell them. It was like.
• 44:45
  Speaker 1: Salmon.
• 44:46
  Speaker 2: There's no salmon.
• 44:48
  Speaker 3: Crawfish.
• 44:49
  Speaker 2: It was blue crab meat, scallops, and shrimp, okay? Fully loaded, okay?
• 44:55
  Speaker 2: It was so good. Three eggs, sweet peppers, sweet onions,
• 45:00
  Speaker 2: nicely seasoned. Listen, you can't get this at a restaurant.
• 45:03
  Speaker 1: But it was just like kind of weird because I'm eating.
• 45:05
  Speaker 1: I keep feeling like someone burning a hole in the
• 45:08
  Speaker 1: side of my motherfucking head.
• 45:09
  Speaker 2: I'm like, you straight? Yeah, I'm good.
• 45:12
  Speaker 1: And then look right back at me, watch me eat
• 45:14
  Speaker 1: the whole thing. So that makes you feel good when
• 45:17
  Speaker 1: people enjoy your food?
• 45:18
  Speaker 2: Yes. I like people to tell me my food tastes good.
• 45:20
  Speaker 2: That's one of the things that make me happy. So
• 45:22
  Speaker 2: just cooking a good meal, eating good. And serving, that's
• 45:27
  Speaker 2: the things, those are the things that make me happy
• 45:29
  Speaker 2: outside of like money and family.
• 45:31
  Speaker 3: And weed.
• 45:32
  Speaker 2: I think it's, right, dick and weed. Because I don't
• 45:35
  Speaker 2: just do weed by itself. It has to come with
• 45:37
  Speaker 2: the dick.
• 45:38
  Speaker 1: Really?
• 45:38
  Speaker 3: No, I would be, like I was in there.
• 45:40
  Speaker 2: I don't like just being high.
• 45:41
  Speaker 3: I was in there with a.
• 45:42
  Speaker 1: Joint in my mouth like this, showing what she was.
• 45:47
  Speaker 2: Straight foolishness, dog. Yeah, just like that.
• 45:51
  Speaker 1: Saw my pillow and was like.
• 45:52
  Speaker 2: Look, but if you're having a tough time and you
• 45:55
  Speaker 2: feel like you can't find the things that usually made
• 45:58
  Speaker 2: you happy or aren't making you happy, the next thing
• 46:01
  Speaker 2: is seek support. All right? So reach out to trusted friends,
• 46:05
  Speaker 2: family members, or a support network for assistance and guidance.
• 46:09
  Speaker 2: Sometimes sharing your thoughts and feelings with others can provide
• 46:12
  Speaker 2: valuable insights or emotional support.
• 46:16
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree. You got to find your village. I
• 46:19
  Speaker 1: told you about my friend who just got diagnosed with
• 46:22
  Speaker 1: breast cancer. Excuse me. Y'all, she found out that she
• 46:30
  Speaker 1: had cancer in her lungs and her sternum and her
• 46:35
  Speaker 1: liver on her birthday.
• 46:37
  Speaker 2: That is wild. That is life-lifing in a major way.
• 46:41
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that is life-lifing. On your birthday, you get this
• 46:43
  Speaker 1: news and we just rallied around her and we all
• 46:47
  Speaker 1: cried together. We sang together.
• 46:48
  Speaker 2: We did.
• 46:49
  Speaker 1: We partied, you know, that for her. Cause we still
• 46:51
  Speaker 1: was like, we still celebrating your birthday, you know? And
• 46:54
  Speaker 1: at first she wasn't into it, but then she got
• 46:56
  Speaker 1: into it and we had such a good time and
• 46:58
  Speaker 1: she had a good time. And I think, you know,
• 47:00
  Speaker 1: just us rallying around her like that made a huge
• 47:04
  Speaker 1: impact on her, at least her birthday. You know, I
• 47:06
  Speaker 1: know it's still going to be a long road for
• 47:08
  Speaker 1: her to, you know, get healed.
• 47:10
  Speaker 2: But, um, Mentally and physically. Yeah.
• 47:13
  Speaker 1: She was, you know, she called me this morning and
• 47:14
  Speaker 1: was saying, like, they asked her about her village. And
• 47:17
  Speaker 1: she was like, I'm just so blessed to have these
• 47:20
  Speaker 1: people around me because they really are helping me feel better. Right.
• 47:24
  Speaker 1: So having that support group is very, very important.
• 47:28
  Speaker 2: Yeah. So any, you know, that's what I was saying
• 47:30
  Speaker 2: about just discarding people that give you some just stress.
• 47:34
  Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying? Like you, the people at
• 47:37
  Speaker 2: our age, at this big age, right? Mm-hmm. The people
• 47:41
  Speaker 2: that you allow in your space should be the people
• 47:43
  Speaker 2: that put a smile on your face every time you
• 47:44
  Speaker 2: see them.
• 47:45
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 47:46
  Speaker 2: Every time you see them, it should be good times.
• 47:50
  Speaker 1: Well, I can't really say that every time I see
• 47:53
  Speaker 1: the people I love, they put a smile on my face.
• 47:55
  Speaker 1: Because sometimes y'all get on my nerves. Who are you
• 47:59
  Speaker 1: talking to? Who talking back?
• 48:05
  Speaker 2: Jordan, you going to let Tammy talk about you like that? No, fuck, bitch. Look,
• 48:10
  Speaker 2: first of all, anytime I've gotten on your nerve, you've
• 48:13
  Speaker 2: gotten on my nerve. So we've equally gotten on each
• 48:15
  Speaker 2: other's nerves. So I'm not getting on your nerve right now.
• 48:18
  Speaker 2: So why are you even talking about it? Listen, what
• 48:20
  Speaker 2: I'm saying is- Did I get on your nerves this time?
• 48:21
  Speaker 2: Did I do anything to you this time? No, what
• 48:23
  Speaker 2: I'm saying is- You didn't do nothing to me this time.
• 48:25
  Speaker 1: What I'm saying is- Sometimes the people that you love,
• 48:29
  Speaker 1: it's not always a smiling situation. And that's okay because
• 48:32
  Speaker 1: that's normal.
• 48:33
  Speaker 2: Well, I won't say love because to me, like we
• 48:35
  Speaker 2: talked about unconditional love in another episode. You know, I
• 48:38
  Speaker 2: feel like love and liking are two different things because
• 48:43
  Speaker 2: I can like you. I don't think that you can
• 48:45
  Speaker 2: like a person and not love them, but you can
• 48:47
  Speaker 2: definitely love a person and not like them.
• 48:49
  Speaker 1: Mm-hmm. Right?
• 48:50
  Speaker 2: So liking is fluctuating and fleeting oftentimes.
• 48:54
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 48:54
  Speaker 2: You know, but the love is still there.
• 48:57
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 48:57
  Speaker 2: But it's liking. So what I mean is the people
• 49:00
  Speaker 2: that you fucking like. Yeah. Dog, it's certain people when
• 49:03
  Speaker 2: I see them, like, I know it's going to be
• 49:06
  Speaker 2: a good day. Right. You know what I'm saying? Like,
• 49:08
  Speaker 2: that person, when you are going through some shit, as
• 49:13
  Speaker 2: soon as you, you know, see them, you cry, that's
• 49:17
  Speaker 2: your people. That's your people.
• 49:20
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 49:21
  Speaker 2: But y'all, we're going to take a break right quick.
• 49:27
  Speaker 2: All right, y'all. So we're back and let's get back
• 49:30
  Speaker 2: to how we deal with life. Okay. Some things you
• 49:34
  Speaker 2: can do, some practices. So practice resilience. Understand that setbacks
• 49:40
  Speaker 2: and difficult times are part of life. Life be lifin'.
• 49:44
  Speaker 2: Cultivate resilience by maintaining a positive mindset, focusing on solutions
• 49:48
  Speaker 2: rather than problems, and learning from past experiences.
• 49:52
  Speaker 1: I feel like practicing resilience is embedded in black people.
• 49:57
  Speaker 1: I think that one is just one that we just
• 49:59
  Speaker 1: do naturally.
• 50:00
  Speaker 2: We're going to see when this economy really crashes, we're
• 50:02
  Speaker 2: going to be standing because you know them people can't
• 50:04
  Speaker 2: live without it. Resources. We can.
• 50:06
  Speaker 1: I was talking to one of my guy friends. He
• 50:09
  Speaker 1: came to help me put up this table that I
• 50:11
  Speaker 1: bought for my patio. Yeah, my patio about to be fire.
• 50:13
  Speaker 1: I'm just saying that. But he came to put it up.
• 50:16
  Speaker 1: And I was like, slowly, as I was cutting fabric
• 50:19
  Speaker 1: to make another pillow, I was like, slowly but surely,
• 50:21
  Speaker 1: I'm turning into my grandmother. I was like, next thing
• 50:23
  Speaker 1: you know, I'm going to be preserving fruits and vegetables.
• 50:27
  Speaker 2: As you should be.
• 50:27
  Speaker 1: Preserving fruits. He in his 20s. Preserving fruits and vegetables.
• 50:33
  Speaker 1: Why you just can't buy more fruits and vegetables? Because
• 50:36
  Speaker 1: it ain't the same. I was like, it's different. And
• 50:38
  Speaker 1: I was like, what if there are no more? What
• 50:40
  Speaker 1: if they run out? Now you have jars and jars
• 50:43
  Speaker 1: of stuff on the shelves there. He's like, what if
• 50:48
  Speaker 1: they run out of vegetables? The grocery store always got vegetables.
• 50:52
  Speaker 1: Do they?
• 50:52
  Speaker 2: Because did he not see what the fuck was happening
• 50:54
  Speaker 2: during COVID?
• 50:55
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 50:55
  Speaker 2: They was intentionally fucking with the food supply. Yeah.
• 50:58
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 50:59
  Speaker 2: Like one day I went to the grocery store and
• 51:01
  Speaker 2: there was no butter.
• 51:03
  Speaker 1: Mm-hmm.
• 51:04
  Speaker 2: The next day, it was like three or four packs
• 51:06
  Speaker 2: up there. Where y'all find three or four packs of
• 51:07
  Speaker 2: butter at?
• 51:08
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 51:09
  Speaker 2: Who y'all playing with? Bring that motherfucking butter out the back.
• 51:12
  Speaker 2: Out the back.
• 51:13
  Speaker 1: And start playing with it. Yes.
• 51:16
  Speaker 2: Yeah, so, yeah, black people definitely, I think.
• 51:18
  Speaker 1: We're resilient.
• 51:19
  Speaker 2: We have lower, anytime I hear about a black person
• 51:22
  Speaker 2: committing suicide, it's like very shocking to me. Mm-hmm. Like, dad,
• 51:26
  Speaker 2: what the fuck was happening that you had to get
• 51:28
  Speaker 2: up out of here? You know what I'm saying? Like,
• 51:30
  Speaker 2: because that's just not, Especially a black woman. It's just
• 51:33
  Speaker 2: not like something we do.
• 51:35
  Speaker 1: We definitely are just the most resilient people on the planet,
• 51:37
  Speaker 1: I feel like.
• 51:38
  Speaker 2: For sure.
• 51:39
  Speaker 1: But in the event that you don't feel resilient, this
• 51:44
  Speaker 1: is something you can do. Start maintaining a positive mindset,
• 51:48
  Speaker 1: which is hard when you're going through stuff. That's why
• 51:51
  Speaker 1: that village is always good because they'll help you get
• 51:54
  Speaker 1: out of that. What was the other one?
• 51:57
  Speaker 2: Focusing on solutions rather than the problems. Okay, that's my problem.
• 52:02
  Speaker 2: All right. So I am solution driven when it comes
• 52:05
  Speaker 2: to like business and shit like that. But just regular
• 52:07
  Speaker 2: fucking life shit is like, I'd be needing to know
• 52:12
  Speaker 2: the why. Why the fuck did you say that? Why
• 52:15
  Speaker 2: the fuck did you do that? That's when I can't
• 52:19
  Speaker 2: focus on the goddamn solution. I'm focusing on a problem
• 52:23
  Speaker 2: because I just don't even understand why there was a problem.
• 52:26
  Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying? I'm trying to figure out
• 52:28
  Speaker 2: why that even happened.
• 52:29
  Speaker 3: You know, why?
• 52:30
  Speaker 2: That's my problem. Just dealing with people and relationships and
• 52:34
  Speaker 2: stuff like that. Why was that even a thing?
• 52:35
  Speaker 1: But is the why important?
• 52:37
  Speaker 2: It is to me, right? It is to me. Because
• 52:40
  Speaker 2: I don't go out of my way to fuck with people.
• 52:44
  Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying? So anytime it's done to me,
• 52:46
  Speaker 2: I'm like, man, what the hell? So like when you're
• 52:48
  Speaker 2: in a relationship, and this is what I learned once
• 52:52
  Speaker 2: in couples therapy, you know, they always like to say,
• 52:55
  Speaker 2: you know, you make the problem the enemy and not
• 52:59
  Speaker 2: each other, right? But it's very hard because it's also
• 53:01
  Speaker 2: like one of those things where people say, other people
• 53:09
  Speaker 2: are not responsible for your happiness. But if somebody can
• 53:11
  Speaker 2: make you sad, they can also make you happy. And
• 53:14
  Speaker 2: I feel like they're confusing peace with happiness. You know
• 53:18
  Speaker 2: what I'm saying? People should be responsible for your peace.
• 53:21
  Speaker 1: Right?
• 53:22
  Speaker 2: Why are you putting me in an unpeaceful... No. Dog,
• 53:25
  Speaker 2: if you come in the house every day and you
• 53:27
  Speaker 2: cause a fucking chaos and taking a peaceful place and
• 53:30
  Speaker 2: make it into a chaotic place, that is a problem.
• 53:33
  Speaker 1: You need to remove them from your space. Right.
• 53:36
  Speaker 2: Absolutely.
• 53:37
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 53:37
  Speaker 2: Right? But in the midst of it, you're in chaos. Yes.
• 53:42
  Speaker 2: I mean, until you do remove yourself.
• 53:44
  Speaker 1: So then the question would be like, what is the problem?
• 53:47
  Speaker 1: So we can attack that. Not why are you causing
• 53:51
  Speaker 1: chaos here? What is the problem?
• 53:53
  Speaker 2: Some people are just chaotic. That's just some people's genetic makeup.
• 53:56
  Speaker 1: And then they just have to go.
• 53:57
  Speaker 2: Yeah. That's just some people. While you're trying to figure out,
• 54:00
  Speaker 2: that's why I don't really believe in couples therapy. I
• 54:02
  Speaker 2: believe that people should have individual therapy. Right? Because once
• 54:05
  Speaker 2: you're in a better healed place, you'll then attract that.
• 54:09
  Speaker 2: If you're still attracting a bunch of toxic people and
• 54:12
  Speaker 2: toxicity and toxic situations, that's because it still lives in you.
• 54:16
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 54:17
  Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying?
• 54:17
  Speaker 1: Well, couples therapy is necessary because even if you feel
• 54:21
  Speaker 1: fully healed and this person feels fully healed in themselves,
• 54:24
  Speaker 1: for whatever reason, your healed self and their healed self
• 54:27
  Speaker 1: is butting heads, you have to sometimes need help figuring
• 54:30
  Speaker 1: that out.
• 54:31
  Speaker 2: I don't know, man. I feel like that's where communication
• 54:33
  Speaker 2: comes in at.
• 54:34
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 54:34
  Speaker 2: So if you get to a place to where you're
• 54:37
  Speaker 2: healed and you have also a healed person. And when
• 54:39
  Speaker 2: I talk, we talk about healing all the time. Maybe
• 54:41
  Speaker 2: that's a whole nother episode because I know that right
• 54:44
  Speaker 2: now I'm in Charleston to heal from my childhood traumas
• 54:47
  Speaker 2: in a real fucking way. And shit has just been
• 54:49
  Speaker 2: slapping me in my damn face.
• 54:51
  Speaker 1: But do you feel like it's working?
• 54:53
  Speaker 2: Absolutely. Because now I can pinpoint things and I can
• 54:56
  Speaker 2: course correct myself. Now, do I need a therapist to
• 54:58
  Speaker 2: do that? I feel like I've been I've been in
• 55:01
  Speaker 2: therapy before. All this fucking time. You know what I'm saying?
• 55:05
  Speaker 2: So I don't feel like getting into a....
• 55:10
  Speaker 1: Wait.
• 55:11
  Speaker 2: I done fucked around and my brain just skipped, bitch.
• 55:13
  Speaker 2: Skipped the whole beat.
• 55:15
  Speaker 1: You said.
• 55:16
  Speaker 2: No, we was talking about therapy. And I'm saying I
• 55:18
  Speaker 2: don't need therapy with another person. Like, oftentimes, if we
• 55:21
  Speaker 2: are good, we should be able to communicate. That's what
• 55:23
  Speaker 2: I was talking about. Communication. We should be able to
• 55:26
  Speaker 2: talk about things.
• 55:27
  Speaker 1: We should be. But oftentimes, people have trouble communicating their feelings,
• 55:31
  Speaker 1: especially with someone that they love.
• 55:33
  Speaker 2: That's where self-awareness comes in. I feel like a lot
• 55:35
  Speaker 2: of people aren't honest with themselves. So then you can't
• 55:37
  Speaker 2: be honest with nobody else if you can't even look
• 55:39
  Speaker 2: at yourself in the mirror.
• 55:41
  Speaker 1: But maybe that's not what it is. Sometimes we have
• 55:44
  Speaker 1: trouble expressing ourselves with people that we love. What I'm
• 55:50
  Speaker 1: trying to convey is not being received. Or what you're
• 55:54
  Speaker 1: trying to convey is not being received to that person.
• 55:56
  Speaker 1: And there's a mediator that can come in and help y'all.
• 55:59
  Speaker 1: Because y'all might be saying the same fucking thing.
• 56:01
  Speaker 2: I think a lot of times people be saying the
• 56:03
  Speaker 2: same shit. A lot of times you're saying the same shit.
• 56:06
  Speaker 2: But I think that respect also plays a big part
• 56:10
  Speaker 2: in it. If you don't respect the person you're talking to,
• 56:13
  Speaker 2: you're not going to hear them. But I do believe
• 56:15
  Speaker 2: that your people hear you differently. I believe that. You
• 56:18
  Speaker 2: know what I'm saying? I could say the same thing
• 56:19
  Speaker 2: to 10 different people and they hear me. different from
• 56:23
  Speaker 2: who I have the issue with you know what I'm
• 56:24
  Speaker 2: saying yeah so I don't know therapy is a good
• 56:28
  Speaker 2: thing seek professional help seek professional help you got to
• 56:32
  Speaker 2: get a good therapist even those relationships dog you got
• 56:35
  Speaker 2: to really have some discernment because they're not really in
• 56:39
  Speaker 2: the business of healing okay because they need to get
• 56:40
  Speaker 2: that check.
• 56:41
  Speaker 1: So sometimes they are but sometimes you have someone that's
• 56:44
  Speaker 1: like no offense to people who are fresh out of
• 56:46
  Speaker 1: school but they're just kind of like I find like
• 56:49
  Speaker 1: the therapists that I went to that are like new therapists,
• 56:53
  Speaker 1: they're just giving me some shit out of a textbook.
• 56:55
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 56:55
  Speaker 1: And they haven't had the real life experiences I need
• 56:58
  Speaker 1: to help me. So that like I was like, girl,
• 57:01
  Speaker 1: what the fuck is this exercise? And she just had
• 57:04
  Speaker 1: me unpacking my shit, sitting there on the table. And
• 57:06
  Speaker 1: then she was like, well, that looks.
• 57:08
  Speaker 3: Like it's our time.
• 57:09
  Speaker 2: I'll see you next time. Bitch, I take cash out.
• 57:11
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 57:12
  Speaker 3: Bitch, I'm about to go jump off a cliff, bitch.
• 57:14
  Speaker 2: Right. You just had me unpack all this shit. We
• 57:16
  Speaker 2: left it on the table. Right.
• 57:17
  Speaker 1: I'm sitting here, my eight-year-old self right now, and she
• 57:20
  Speaker 1: can't drive home. So you need to help me with something.
• 57:23
  Speaker 1: You better come up with something else.
• 57:24
  Speaker 2: Bitch, take me home at least. You know, I remember
• 57:28
  Speaker 2: going to therapy with my mom as a teenager. And
• 57:31
  Speaker 2: it was a young white girl, probably just out of school.
• 57:35
  Speaker 1: Right?
• 57:35
  Speaker 2: She had her little office right by the house. And
• 57:40
  Speaker 2: we're talking. My mom's crying. I'm like, I'm going through
• 57:43
  Speaker 2: it as a teenager, right? And I think sometimes parents
• 57:46
  Speaker 2: forget that kids are human, too. Like, they have bad days, right?
• 57:49
  Speaker 2: Some days they don't feel like going to school, just
• 57:51
  Speaker 2: like you don't feel like going to work. It's all
• 57:53
  Speaker 2: type of shit, but you forget, like, you were never
• 57:55
  Speaker 2: a fucking kid. So now we're going through all type
• 57:57
  Speaker 2: of shit. We're going through therapy because we just really
• 57:59
  Speaker 2: bumping heads. And I remember my mom telling my ass
• 58:01
  Speaker 2: when I was, like, 14. She was like, you're going
• 58:03
  Speaker 2: to be out of here by the time you turn 15. And, bitch,
• 58:05
  Speaker 2: I was the fuck up out of there. She put
• 58:07
  Speaker 2: me out. Because we're just alike for the most part.
• 58:11
  Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying? Not just. There's a lot
• 58:12
  Speaker 2: of things now as an adult. I see who you
• 58:16
  Speaker 2: are now as an adult. But anyway, this therapist, I
• 58:19
  Speaker 2: felt so terrible for her. And I'm sitting there, my 14,
• 58:22
  Speaker 2: 15-year-old self, and my mom is just going off on
• 58:25
  Speaker 2: her and telling her how she don't know how it
• 58:27
  Speaker 2: is because she don't have kids of her own and
• 58:29
  Speaker 2: above reproach. What do you do with a client like that?
• 58:33
  Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying? She wasn't equipped. And all
• 58:37
  Speaker 2: she could do is look at me like, because I'm
• 58:39
  Speaker 2: telling you, I can't talk to my mama.
• 58:41
  Speaker 1: And she's like, bitch, I can't talk to you anymore.
• 58:44
  Speaker 2: That's exactly what the hell I'm saying. I'm about to
• 58:46
  Speaker 2: sit on the couch next to you. We're going to
• 58:50
  Speaker 2: bring in my peer. Because this ain't working. All us
• 58:53
  Speaker 2: need therapy at this point, girl. Black mamas, man.
• 58:56
  Speaker 1: Oh, goodness, that's funny.
• 58:57
  Speaker 2: Because it's true. But listen, so like I said, another
• 59:03
  Speaker 2: way of dealing with life and lifing is saying, fuck it.
• 59:08
  Speaker 2: Fuck it. So now the conversation. of not giving a
• 59:11
  Speaker 2: fuck is not often associated with the idea of not
• 59:14
  Speaker 2: being overly concerned about the opinions and judgments of others.
• 59:18
  Speaker 2: I mean, see, that's what it's about. Just not being
• 59:20
  Speaker 2: overly concerned about the shit, right? It's about prioritizing your
• 59:23
  Speaker 2: own values, desires, and well-being over the external validation and
• 59:27
  Speaker 2: expectations imposed Imposed by society. Here are a few aspects
• 59:33
  Speaker 2: that highlight the power of not giving a fuck. All right.
• 59:37
  Speaker 2: So the first one is authenticity. You see, that's what
• 59:39
  Speaker 2: I was talking about, that self-awareness. It takes some time
• 59:42
  Speaker 2: to become self-aware. A lot of people aren't self-aware until
• 59:44
  Speaker 2: they're like, I don't know, 50 or plus. You know
• 59:49
  Speaker 2: what I'm saying? And it's a journey, but it does
• 59:52
  Speaker 2: have an end.
• 59:53
  Speaker 1: It stops.
• 59:54
  Speaker 2: It stops.
• 59:55
  Speaker 1: I remember when I was working at Ulta, it was
• 59:57
  Speaker 1: this girl that was working there with me. And if
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 1: I could see her now, I would apologize to her
• 1:00:03
  Speaker 1: for how I treated her at the time. She used
• 1:00:06
  Speaker 1: to wear one blue eyebrow and one red eyebrow. And
• 1:00:10
  Speaker 1: I used to be like, get the fuck out of here,
• 1:00:12
  Speaker 1: Harley Quinn, you.
• 1:00:14
  Speaker 2: Fucking ass bitch.
• 1:00:14
  Speaker 1: Like, I used to just like, that's ugly. Like, I
• 1:00:17
  Speaker 1: used to be mean to her.
• 1:00:20
  Speaker 2: That's terrible.
• 1:00:21
  Speaker 1: I wouldn't be like, get the fuck out of here,
• 1:00:23
  Speaker 1: Harley Quinn. But that's what I'd be thinking in my head.
• 1:00:25
  Speaker 1: And I was like, that's not going to catch. But obviously,
• 1:00:28
  Speaker 1: she wasn't doing it to catch. For people to.
• 1:00:31
  Speaker 2: It was for her.
• 1:00:32
  Speaker 1: It was like, fetch. Nobody's going to say fetch. That
• 1:00:34
  Speaker 1: was me. I was a mean girl. But she did
• 1:00:36
  Speaker 1: it because it made her feel pretty. It made her
• 1:00:39
  Speaker 1: feel authentic. It made her feel like an individual.
• 1:00:42
  Speaker 2: It was her thing.
• 1:00:42
  Speaker 1: And here was I like, girl, what is that?
• 1:00:45
  Speaker 2: Be like everybody else, bitch.
• 1:00:47
  Speaker 1: Blue ass eyebrow, bitch.
• 1:00:49
  Speaker 3: You ain't got no blue or no red.
• 1:00:51
  Speaker 2: That was me.
• 1:00:53
  Speaker 1: So wherever you are, girl, I'm sorry. I hope you're still.
• 1:00:56
  Speaker 2: Doing your blue and red thing. Because even if those
• 1:00:58
  Speaker 2: things were in your head, I'm pretty sure they manifested
• 1:01:00
  Speaker 2: in your face when you saw her.
• 1:01:01
  Speaker 1: In my face and how I was like... Talk to
• 1:01:04
  Speaker 1: her like.
• 1:01:05
  Speaker 2: With the Nike check lip?
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 1: I apologize, girl. You were being your authentic self. And
• 1:01:12
  Speaker 1: who am I to tell you that there's anything wrong
• 1:01:15
  Speaker 1: with that?
• 1:01:15
  Speaker 2: So apologies. So this authenticity, again, that goes back to
• 1:01:22
  Speaker 2: being self-aware, knowing who you are. Mm-hmm. Being yourself. Now,
• 1:01:27
  Speaker 2: you know, we had this episode where we were arguing on, right?
• 1:01:30
  Speaker 2: And a lot of people online kept saying stuff like, no,
• 1:01:33
  Speaker 2: everybody don't think like you. I am the same person
• 1:01:35
  Speaker 2: on this fucking podcast that I am in real life.
• 1:01:38
  Speaker 2: And some people was like, I didn't want to see
• 1:01:40
  Speaker 2: those personalities. I'm not a personality. I am me through
• 1:01:44
  Speaker 2: and through every single day. You're going to get the
• 1:01:48
  Speaker 2: same fucking person. So the wrath of me looks like that.
• 1:01:52
  Speaker 2: That's just what it looks like. You know what I'm saying?
• 1:01:55
  Speaker 2: So I'm not here to put on a persona for
• 1:01:59
  Speaker 2: the world, right? I worked a corporate job for a
• 1:02:03
  Speaker 2: very long time, right? Where, you know, I'm a black girl,
• 1:02:06
  Speaker 2: and when I walk in the office, it's like, here
• 1:02:08
  Speaker 2: comes trouble. I've always been me, even in a fucking boardroom.
• 1:02:12
  Speaker 2: I've never not been me. So, and now I get
• 1:02:15
  Speaker 2: to actually make money being myself. That is fucking... That's awesome. Yeah.
• 1:02:20
  Speaker 2: Y'all mad.
• 1:02:21
  Speaker 1: Shit.
• 1:02:21
  Speaker 2: Because that, like, this is the ultimate flex for me.
• 1:02:26
  Speaker 1: So, here's the thing. I'm... Sometimes I feel like I
• 1:02:30
  Speaker 1: shouldn't be so much of me all the time.
• 1:02:32
  Speaker 2: No, fuck that.
• 1:02:33
  Speaker 1: Sometimes it's okay to tone it down a bit. Y'all,
• 1:02:39
  Speaker 1: before we started filming, I put my mouth around this
• 1:02:42
  Speaker 1: whole thing to see if I could do it.
• 1:02:43
  Speaker 3: I didn't have to do that in front of y'all.
• 1:02:45
  Speaker 1: That was inappropriate.
• 1:02:46
  Speaker 2: It was not inappropriate. That's who you are. Don't apologize
• 1:02:49
  Speaker 2: for it. Don't apologize for it.
• 1:02:52
  Speaker 1: Sometimes it's okay to say stuff later.
• 1:02:54
  Speaker 2: Later. You know, I think that a lot of us,
• 1:02:57
  Speaker 2: and if any of you have ever read the book,
• 1:02:59
  Speaker 2: The Four Agreements, it talks about like childhood, right? And
• 1:03:03
  Speaker 2: healing the childhood traumas and the things that adults do
• 1:03:05
  Speaker 2: to childhood. Adults are dream killers. That's what I'm learning
• 1:03:09
  Speaker 2: in Charleston. Adults are dream killers. And I'm a fucking kid,
• 1:03:13
  Speaker 2: a big one. And I don't plan on growing up
• 1:03:15
  Speaker 2: no time soon. And I feel like when adults be lifing, right?
• 1:03:19
  Speaker 2: And you got to pay bills and you got to
• 1:03:21
  Speaker 2: do all these things and you got the kids. You
• 1:03:23
  Speaker 2: always telling them to sit down, shut up. You are
• 1:03:26
  Speaker 2: stripping them of their soul. You are stripping them of
• 1:03:29
  Speaker 2: their essence and who they are because now you're trying
• 1:03:32
  Speaker 2: to make them into you. You want them to dress
• 1:03:34
  Speaker 2: like you, act like you, sit like you. No, man,
• 1:03:37
  Speaker 2: I'm not doing that to my fucking kid. So if
• 1:03:39
  Speaker 2: you want to be in the line at fucking Harris
• 1:03:42
  Speaker 2: Teeter and you want to press all the buttons on
• 1:03:44
  Speaker 2: them people's shit, I'm going to let you. I'm going
• 1:03:47
  Speaker 2: to let you run through this motherfucker. Because one thing
• 1:03:49
  Speaker 2: about it, white people let their kids explore. Black people
• 1:03:52
  Speaker 2: be like, sit down and shut up. And that really
• 1:03:54
  Speaker 2: shows up.
• 1:03:55
  Speaker 1: And don't dirty your clothes.
• 1:03:56
  Speaker 2: Yes. That shit shows up in us as adults. You
• 1:04:00
  Speaker 2: know what I'm saying? Meanwhile, our white counterparts, they are
• 1:04:04
  Speaker 2: out conquering the world because they were never limited as
• 1:04:08
  Speaker 2: children to what they can do.
• 1:04:11
  Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know what goes on in
• 1:04:14
  Speaker 1: white households, honestly.
• 1:04:15
  Speaker 2: Girl, we see them all. We be wanting to beat
• 1:04:17
  Speaker 2: their kids in public. Okay. Some of that stuff.
• 1:04:21
  Speaker 1: Be like, because there's a fine line between letting your
• 1:04:25
  Speaker 1: kids have their own identity, and then letting them just
• 1:04:30
  Speaker 1: be a wild animal and disturb other people and hitting
• 1:04:33
  Speaker 1: you with a cart in the grocery store. I wanted
• 1:04:35
  Speaker 1: to backhand this white baby so bad. Like, bitch, you
• 1:04:39
  Speaker 1: better get this little motherfucker because I'm going to slap
• 1:04:41
  Speaker 1: you first and then him.
• 1:04:43
  Speaker 3: Hit me in my leg one more time.
• 1:04:45
  Speaker 2: Shit. Miss Helen. I can't even talk. No, move on. Metallica. Self-confidence, y'all.
• 1:04:54
  Speaker 2: That's next. Not giving a fuck. Can't boost your self-confidence.
• 1:04:58
  Speaker 2: When you detach your self-worth from external validation, you become
• 1:05:01
  Speaker 2: more self-assured and secure in your own identity. You rely
• 1:05:06
  Speaker 2: less on others' opinions to define your worth, which can
• 1:05:08
  Speaker 2: lead to a greater sense of self-acceptance and empowerment. Fuck
• 1:05:13
  Speaker 2: them people. Fuck that job. Fuck them bills. I mean,
• 1:05:17
  Speaker 2: a little bit.
• 1:05:17
  Speaker 1: Social media has, like, really fucked up when it comes
• 1:05:20
  Speaker 1: to self-confidence because, especially young girls, because they're always comparing
• 1:05:25
  Speaker 1: themselves to others. Like, it's in constant comparison. And comparison
• 1:05:30
  Speaker 1: is what is the, what is that comparison?
• 1:05:32
  Speaker 2: It's a dream killer. Yeah. Yeah. So now I'm hearing on,
• 1:05:36
  Speaker 2: I listen to a lot of conservative radio, right? Because
• 1:05:39
  Speaker 2: I've been needing to know what these white people up to.
• 1:05:41
  Speaker 2: And so they have class action lawsuits against these different
• 1:05:47
  Speaker 2: social media platforms listing these things, right? Having self-identity issues, insecurities, depression,
• 1:05:56
  Speaker 2: all of these things. These platforms know that their product
• 1:06:01
  Speaker 2: causes these things, especially in impressionable young people. So now
• 1:06:06
  Speaker 2: you can sue.
• 1:06:08
  Speaker 1: Well.
• 1:06:09
  Speaker 2: It's a real thing.
• 1:06:10
  Speaker 3: I can believe that.
• 1:06:12
  Speaker 1: I can believe that.
• 1:06:12
  Speaker 2: You know, do things. Get your hair done. For black women, like,
• 1:06:15
  Speaker 2: get your hair done, bitch. That shit make you feel
• 1:06:17
  Speaker 2: good right then, automatic. Right away, as soon as you leave.
• 1:06:20
  Speaker 1: I know that's one of the things I love about
• 1:06:21
  Speaker 1: doing hair is when a woman leaves feeling beautiful. You
• 1:06:24
  Speaker 1: can see the difference when they come in and when
• 1:06:26
  Speaker 1: they leave.
• 1:06:27
  Speaker 2: Exactly. No matter what you're going through. Like, I keep
• 1:06:29
  Speaker 2: telling my mom, go get your hair done. You're around
• 1:06:32
  Speaker 2: here sad and shit. Like, that could fix a lot
• 1:06:35
  Speaker 2: of shit in two hours.
• 1:06:36
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 1:06:37
  Speaker 2: Go get your damn hair done.
• 1:06:38
  Speaker 1: I feel good.
• 1:06:39
  Speaker 2: Focusing on what matters that's the next one right so
• 1:06:42
  Speaker 2: by not giving a fuck about trivial matters since that's
• 1:06:45
  Speaker 2: me I dwell on low shit or other people's opinions
• 1:06:49
  Speaker 2: you can direct your energy toward what truly matters to
• 1:06:52
  Speaker 2: you you can concentrate on your goals your passions personal
• 1:06:56
  Speaker 2: growth instead of being preoccupied with pleasing others or conforming
• 1:07:00
  Speaker 2: to societal expectations.
• 1:07:02
  Speaker 1: Or cut some motherfuckers out see the other day this
• 1:07:05
  Speaker 1: girl sent me some slick shit right About some nigga
• 1:07:09
  Speaker 1: that I don't even fuck with, right? And old me
• 1:07:13
  Speaker 1: would have cussed her the fuck out, right?
• 1:07:15
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 1:07:15
  Speaker 1: But new me just blocked her instantly.
• 1:07:19
  Speaker 2: It's a block party.
• 1:07:19
  Speaker 1: Because girl, I'm not going to argue with you. And
• 1:07:21
  Speaker 1: it was the same day that I, you know, my
• 1:07:23
  Speaker 1: friend told me all the news about her health. And
• 1:07:26
  Speaker 1: it just made me realize like so much what matter.
• 1:07:29
  Speaker 1: And like this girl arguing with her, just what did
• 1:07:31
  Speaker 1: that do for me? I don't even, you know, deal
• 1:07:33
  Speaker 1: with this nigga.
• 1:07:35
  Speaker 2: I just feel like that day you was a little busy.
• 1:07:37
  Speaker 2: Because any other night you be arguing, going back and forth.
• 1:07:45
  Speaker 3: I was busy, but I just wasn't ready.
• 1:07:48
  Speaker 1: I just wasn't like really honestly having someone that I
• 1:07:53
  Speaker 1: love going through this cancer their way. It just really,
• 1:07:56
  Speaker 1: really put things in perspective for me in a new
• 1:07:58
  Speaker 1: way because some shit just don't matter. That shit really
• 1:08:03
  Speaker 1: don't matter arguing with this girl about. I don't even
• 1:08:07
  Speaker 1: fuck with the nigga she mad about. Right. So it's like, get.
• 1:08:11
  Speaker 2: Bye, bitch. Bye, little bitch. Emotional freedom. Not being overly
• 1:08:17
  Speaker 2: concerned about what others' opinions of you are can liberate
• 1:08:21
  Speaker 2: you from the fear of judgment and rejection. It allows
• 1:08:23
  Speaker 2: you to let go of unnecessary stress, anxiety, and self-doubt,
• 1:08:28
  Speaker 2: leading to a greater sense of emotional well-being and freedom. Listen,
• 1:08:33
  Speaker 2: I don't give a fuck. For real. I don't give
• 1:08:35
  Speaker 2: a fuck. Like, especially if you are not somebody that
• 1:08:40
  Speaker 2: I fucking know, like, and love.
• 1:08:42
  Speaker 1: So, all right. Emotional freedom. I'm trying to understand what
• 1:08:45
  Speaker 1: that means because.
• 1:08:47
  Speaker 2: Not being overly concerned about others' opinions of you.
• 1:08:52
  Speaker 1: Oh, okay. That's fine. So, what's the difference between that.
• 1:08:55
  Speaker 2: Nothing nothing okay like moving on to the next one
• 1:09:01
  Speaker 2: is the same shit setting boundaries when you embrace the
• 1:09:06
  Speaker 2: power of not giving a fuck you become better at
• 1:09:08
  Speaker 2: setting healthy boundaries and relationships you prioritize your own needs
• 1:09:12
  Speaker 2: and values which can help you establish clear boundaries with
• 1:09:15
  Speaker 2: others and protect your emotional well-being yes get get the
• 1:09:19
  Speaker 2: get back stop that shit.
• 1:09:20
  Speaker 1: As soon as you see it that's something i'm just
• 1:09:23
  Speaker 1: now starting to get better at is creating boundaries and
• 1:09:27
  Speaker 1: it's not what people like because it's easy to create
• 1:09:30
  Speaker 1: a boundary with people you barely know but it's the
• 1:09:33
  Speaker 1: boundaries with people that i'm close to that right learning
• 1:09:36
  Speaker 1: how to create now better and learning that no is
• 1:09:39
  Speaker 1: a complete sentence period period So, did you watch that
• 1:09:45
  Speaker 1: new episode of Black Mirror? Like, moving right along.
• 1:09:48
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 1:09:49
  Speaker 1: No, that's it, you know?
• 1:09:52
  Speaker 2: Absolutely. I like No. complete statement yes resilience not giving
• 1:09:58
  Speaker 2: a fuck can make you more resilient in the face
• 1:10:00
  Speaker 2: of adversity it helps you develop a stronger sense of
• 1:10:02
  Speaker 2: self enabling you to bounce back from setbacks criticisms and
• 1:10:06
  Speaker 2: failures you become less affected by external negativity and more
• 1:10:12
  Speaker 2: capable of navigating challenges with resilience and determination absolutely.
• 1:10:18
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 1:10:19
  Speaker 2: We talk about resilience when life be lifin'. Okay. Right.
• 1:10:22
  Speaker 2: But now we're.
• 1:10:23
  Speaker 1: Talking about resilience in terms of not giving a fuck.
• 1:10:27
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 1:10:28
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Anyway. Yeah.
• 1:10:30
  Speaker 2: This is great, though. I needed some of these things.
• 1:10:32
  Speaker 2: I'm actually going to go back over them right quick.
• 1:10:35
  Speaker 2: Boundary setting? I don't have a problem setting boundaries, man.
• 1:10:41
  Speaker 1: I don't. I will overextend myself. And I'll look up
• 1:10:45
  Speaker 1: and I'll be like, I got so much of my
• 1:10:47
  Speaker 1: own shit to do. Why am I here right now
• 1:10:50
  Speaker 1: doing this? I just, I'm doing too much.
• 1:10:54
  Speaker 2: I used to be like that, right? When I realized
• 1:10:56
  Speaker 2: when people don't come through for you, how you come
• 1:10:58
  Speaker 2: through for them, that complete statement, no, is easy. Because
• 1:11:02
  Speaker 2: what I don't want is to do something for you
• 1:11:04
  Speaker 2: and then be complaining about it after I already did
• 1:11:06
  Speaker 2: it or while I'm doing it. So just say no
• 1:11:08
  Speaker 2: if you feel like you're going to be bothered, if
• 1:11:10
  Speaker 2: you don't have the time or you're tired. You could
• 1:11:13
  Speaker 2: say no.
• 1:11:14
  Speaker 1: That's the thing. I be feeling like... Because I feel
• 1:11:17
  Speaker 1: like in the event that these people do need me,
• 1:11:20
  Speaker 1: they will be there, right? I mean, when I need them,
• 1:11:24
  Speaker 1: they will be there. But it's just so many motherfuckers
• 1:11:26
  Speaker 1: that need something at the same time that makes me
• 1:11:29
  Speaker 1: feel exhausted, you know?
• 1:11:31
  Speaker 2: Yes, and also I think that if you are a
• 1:11:33
  Speaker 2: person who always says yes, people take advantage. They're going
• 1:11:36
  Speaker 2: to come to you every single fucking time. Every time. Like,
• 1:11:40
  Speaker 2: you don't got nobody else you can depend on?
• 1:11:41
  Speaker 1: No, they come to me about everything but money. I'm
• 1:11:46
  Speaker 1: your last resort when you need some cash friend don't
• 1:11:48
  Speaker 1: come to me for that Did you call your mama?
• 1:11:51
  Speaker 1: Did you talk to your father?
• 1:11:53
  Speaker 2: Did you talk to the nigga who dick you sucking?
• 1:11:55
  Speaker 2: The church. Did you go to the church? No, first
• 1:11:58
  Speaker 2: and foremost, the nigga you fucking go to him first.
• 1:12:01
  Speaker 1: Yeah, absolutely.
• 1:12:02
  Speaker 2: He owe you. Shit, bitch, you should have sent that
• 1:12:07
  Speaker 2: nigga an invoice already, Ben. That's really why you mad,
• 1:12:10
  Speaker 2: because you've given all that free pussy. You ain't got
• 1:12:12
  Speaker 2: no boundaries on that pussy anyway. Y'all, I love this episode. Yeah.
• 1:12:19
  Speaker 1: Because life has been life and life has been life
• 1:12:22
  Speaker 1: for everyone. And I think it's important to be. They
• 1:12:26
  Speaker 1: didn't say nothing about this in the list, but be
• 1:12:29
  Speaker 1: kind to people. You don't know what people are going through.
• 1:12:31
  Speaker 2: Exactly.
• 1:12:32
  Speaker 1: And you could be the one person that can help
• 1:12:34
  Speaker 1: somebody get through something or make shit just that much
• 1:12:37
  Speaker 1: worse for them. So just be kind to people, man.
• 1:12:40
  Speaker 2: Even when you calling customer service, dog, don't be fucking
• 1:12:43
  Speaker 2: them people day out while they at work.
• 1:12:44
  Speaker 1: Right. Just mean and nasty because your Verizon, your phone
• 1:12:48
  Speaker 1: about to get cut off.
• 1:12:49
  Speaker 3: That's not that lady's fault.
• 1:12:50
  Speaker 2: And you want that $ 30 fee reverse? No, bitch.
• 1:12:53
  Speaker 1: Bye.
• 1:12:54
  Speaker 2: Bitch, if I were to own like a big company
• 1:12:58
  Speaker 2: like that, like you're going to get the service that
• 1:12:59
  Speaker 2: you give. So if you call my people talking that shit,
• 1:13:03
  Speaker 2: they have the right. There's no customer service over here, bitch.
• 1:13:06
  Speaker 3: To hang up in your face.
• 1:13:07
  Speaker 1: Or people who are mean to... People who work in
• 1:13:12
  Speaker 1: the service.
• 1:13:12
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 1:13:13
  Speaker 1: I do not like, if you're one of the people
• 1:13:15
  Speaker 1: who are nasty to servers at a restaurant, I do
• 1:13:19
  Speaker 1: not want to go out and eat with you. Girl,
• 1:13:22
  Speaker 1: what is your problem?
• 1:13:23
  Speaker 2: I'm leaving.
• 1:13:23
  Speaker 1: Why are you talking to this lady all condescending and shit?
• 1:13:26
  Speaker 1: I'm leaving. Yeah, fuck, why don't you be?
• 1:13:28
  Speaker 2: I had this girl, I went out one time with
• 1:13:29
  Speaker 2: my homegirl and her friend, and we were at Cheesecake Factory,
• 1:13:32
  Speaker 2: I think, and they put like little shrimp on her
• 1:13:35
  Speaker 2: pasta and said like the jumbo shrimp. She was like,
• 1:13:37
  Speaker 2: I can't eat these, these little shrimp, they scare me.
• 1:13:43
  Speaker 2: They just disgusting, they scare me. I'm like, yo, I'm
• 1:13:45
  Speaker 2: about to, can I please get my fucking food to go?
• 1:13:48
  Speaker 1: Please, because who wants to put up with that? But
• 1:13:52
  Speaker 1: I used to date a guy who would not let
• 1:13:53
  Speaker 1: me send my food back, and that used to piss
• 1:13:55
  Speaker 1: me off. He was like, You're not even paying for it,
• 1:13:57
  Speaker 1: so don't send it back.
• 1:14:00
  Speaker 2: You just order something else?
• 1:14:01
  Speaker 1: Just eat it.
• 1:14:02
  Speaker 2: No, nigga.
• 1:14:03
  Speaker 1: He would be like, just eat what you ordered. It's okay.
• 1:14:05
  Speaker 1: You don't have to send it back. It's rude. I
• 1:14:08
  Speaker 1: don't like it. Can I order something and I pay
• 1:14:11
  Speaker 1: for it myself, nigga? Just eat what you ordered.
• 1:14:14
  Speaker 2: No, nigga. If it doesn't taste good, I'm not eating it.
• 1:14:17
  Speaker 1: That's how he was.
• 1:14:18
  Speaker 2: Look, in my last relationship, I swear I used to
• 1:14:20
  Speaker 2: be forcing myself to eat some nasty shit this nigga
• 1:14:22
  Speaker 2: beat on Cook and he forcing the kids.
• 1:14:24
  Speaker 3: To eat it.
• 1:14:25
  Speaker 2: So I'm like at the table, like, but the cry
• 1:14:27
  Speaker 2: just like them. Like, man, I don't like this. One
• 1:14:32
  Speaker 2: day he put like red onions and spaghetti. Like that
• 1:14:36
  Speaker 2: shit was overbearing. Like, why would you put red onions
• 1:14:39
  Speaker 2: and spaghetti? Are you dumb? I've never seen that done before.
• 1:14:42
  Speaker 1: No, that's like that video of that girl going to,
• 1:14:44
  Speaker 1: it's a man and a woman. She's like, I cook
• 1:14:46
  Speaker 1: for you. And she was baking spaghetti, but she was
• 1:14:49
  Speaker 1: taco seasoning on the meat. And he was like.
• 1:14:52
  Speaker 2: It's taco. Right. It's taco spaghetti, nigga.
• 1:14:56
  Speaker 1: What's wrong with you?
• 1:14:57
  Speaker 2: You better eat that shit. You're a big dumbass. I'll
• 1:15:00
  Speaker 2: flip this table over. Somebody eating this shit. And I'm
• 1:15:03
  Speaker 2: slam dunking everybody's plate. Give me that plate. It got
• 1:15:05
  Speaker 2: to a point where I'm like, nah, we ain't eating that.
• 1:15:07
  Speaker 2: Give me that plate. Throw that shit right in the
• 1:15:08
  Speaker 2: trash in this nigga's face. Everybody crying. All right, y'all. Listen.
• 1:15:14
  Speaker 2: This was a great episode, Tam. If you enjoyed it,
• 1:15:17
  Speaker 2: tune in every Thursday on iHeartRadio app or wherever the
• 1:15:20
  Speaker 2: fuck you get your podcasts at. This is your co-host
• 1:15:23
  Speaker 2: AJ Holiday 2.0 on Instagram. Y'all holla at me now
• 1:15:27
  Speaker 2: if you want to get on.
• 1:15:28
  Speaker 1: Y'all, it's official Tam Bam. I love y'all. Thank y'all
• 1:15:30
  Speaker 1: for tuning in. Remember to speak now.
• 1:15:33
  Speaker 2: And never hold your peace.