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Ep. 9 "Tired of the Shrimp?" · We Talk Back

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Speaker 1: We're just too unapologetically black women with an opinion. Who
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Speaker 1: talks back? Hey, welcome to a new episode of We
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Speaker 1: Talk Back. It's your girl a j Hello, my babies,
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Speaker 1: it's me tam vam. I missed y'all. Girl, you sounding
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Speaker 1: like Monique over there, my babies. I'm fat, like mommy,
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Speaker 1: no bitch or not. Matter of fact, Monique can't even
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Speaker 1: my fatom ward, So I don't know she got fat
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Speaker 1: girl sway, she probably still got a fat bit hidden inside.
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Speaker 1: She's a fat bit heart, so am I I don't
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Speaker 1: want to claim it if we all right, So we're
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Speaker 1: doing key to y'all. So we uh we try not
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Speaker 1: to be fat, but just at heart and on the outside. Girl,
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Speaker 1: I still going one snacks. I'm hungry right now, bitch.
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Speaker 1: I'm not going to bite your grass in a minute.
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Speaker 1: Oh bitch, let me not this bit with a good
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Speaker 1: time exactly. I like this right, I like how to
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Speaker 1: start keiss. Well, we got a good show lined up
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Speaker 1: for the day. Yeah, this is really entertaining episode right here.
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Speaker 1: So you know, our first episode, we had some guys
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Speaker 1: on and they were we were trying to figure out
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Speaker 1: why men cheat, as if we don't know it's a choice, right.
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Speaker 1: So this time, so that men don't feel like we
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Speaker 1: just man bash, we have some women on so we
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Speaker 1: can better understand why women cheat. Right. But here's the kicker.
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Speaker 1: These women are all married. They are not single cheeters.
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Speaker 1: They are married cheaters. Excellent, excellent. These women are in
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Speaker 1: witness protection. We talked at witness protection to make sure
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Speaker 1: that they're safe from your judgment because your motherfucker's dead
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Speaker 1: as hell. So listen in. Hello, ladies, how are y'all doing?
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Speaker 1: Thank you for coming out. We talked back today. I'm
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Speaker 1: so happy to be here. Thank you, thank you for
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Speaker 1: having us. So, um, tell us your names and tell
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Speaker 1: us a little bit about yourself. Well, my name is
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Speaker 1: Time Tisha, and I am a real state agent. I
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Speaker 1: have been married to my high school sweetheart for eighteen years.
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Speaker 1: We have been getting since fifteen. I have four kids,
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Speaker 1: and um, I guess I would say I like traveling
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Speaker 1: just kind of you know, getting out, getting out the
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Speaker 1: house and kind of just having some self care and
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Speaker 1: self time because you know, marriage and kids do all
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Speaker 1: got seeds of you know, one seat where you put
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Speaker 1: yourself back seat. So I man kind of like this
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Speaker 1: leave back to the because you never know when your
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Speaker 1: last day will be your last. Dame absolutely So you
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Speaker 1: said you were married eighteen years. Yes, yes, same same dick,
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Speaker 1: eighteen whole year, whole years. And I'm gonna got a
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Speaker 1: cab any being faithful years years. That's what that's the
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Speaker 1: tea I'm trying to get to. That's so for social
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Speaker 1: Security years. Eighteen years. But we had dated since we
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Speaker 1: were fifteen. So alright, real quick, let me just ask
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Speaker 1: you this the first time. We're just gonna talk about
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Speaker 1: the first time you stepped out. You can introduced the second. First. Oh,
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Speaker 1: I was going to the station next. I mean, yeah,
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Speaker 1: years got me like you tell me about Eddie lay
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Speaker 1: to tell me a little bit about your girl. I'm sorry,
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Speaker 1: I almost forgot. Well, I'm Stacy and as they say,
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Speaker 1: a domestic engineer, a housewiter. Um, I'm our marriage number two.
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Speaker 1: My first marriage was lasted about five years and this
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Speaker 1: one is rolling into her seven. Um. I have three
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Speaker 1: children of my own and two step children. Um, he says,
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Speaker 1: he said. You know, we just like to do our
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Speaker 1: own things sometimes. But for the most part, you know
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Speaker 1: that nice wife, hpecial baby, that takes care of home,
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Speaker 1: that perfect step for wife, m and then the whole
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Speaker 1: outside of that. Every now and then, whenever I can
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Speaker 1: get a chance, we're talking. Absolutely, I don't open up.
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Speaker 1: I'm getting rid. So ladies, all right, So we did
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Speaker 1: like a video earlier about women being tired of the shrimp.
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Speaker 1: I don't know if y'all got to hear it, but
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Speaker 1: we discuss how, you know, in relationships, people get tired
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Speaker 1: of the same old thing over and over and over again.
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Speaker 1: And that applies not only just to men, it applies
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Speaker 1: to women as well. So when that happened, because I
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Speaker 1: know y'all have been tired of the shrimp, when that
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Speaker 1: happened to y'all, what did you do? How did you
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Speaker 1: handle it? How did you move? Because women move a
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Speaker 1: lot smarter than men. So this is teacher, Um, I
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Speaker 1: guess you know. I always tell people that since we've
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Speaker 1: been together so long, my husband and I change. I changed,
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Speaker 1: he's changed different seasons, you know. So I'm not the
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Speaker 1: same person that I was in my teams, my twenties,
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Speaker 1: my thirties authorities. Um, you know, I'm not the same
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Speaker 1: person that I was going to be first got together.
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Speaker 1: So I've gone from teams to twins, thirties, and when
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Speaker 1: I started realizing that things were the same with him,
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Speaker 1: but I wasn't. You know, the first thing it to
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Speaker 1: us to do is to communicate, and I did. I communicated.
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Speaker 1: Now I was born say working. You know, I'm not
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Speaker 1: the same person that like this and like that sexually,
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Speaker 1: mentally or whatever. And you know, I don't think he
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Speaker 1: was receptive known to that. You know, I think he
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Speaker 1: was just comfortable with you know, going away in here
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Speaker 1: that's what is going to be. And so I think
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Speaker 1: what happened is just that, you know, I was out
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Speaker 1: working place, friendship turned to one thing or another and
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Speaker 1: then go to the first one happening, because there's been
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Speaker 1: many it's always the word husband, that game. Hey, look
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Speaker 1: you know what he makes for the most part. You know,
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Speaker 1: I have a philosophy that, um men, women need a
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Speaker 1: reason to cheat. Men oftentimes just need a time and
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Speaker 1: a place. So obviously your workplace, the opportunity do you
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Speaker 1: present presented itself. But you communicated to your husband, hey
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Speaker 1: I'm not happy or um I know, therapy, counseling do
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Speaker 1: you did you guys do any therapy anything like that?
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Speaker 1: We did that early on, um and but it didn't
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Speaker 1: last long. It wasn't lone enough. Um, he's the kind
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Speaker 1: of person that he wants that that outside image to
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Speaker 1: kind of always look with. So you have to preach
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Speaker 1: somebody else in your or your business. You know, No,
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Speaker 1: he doesn't want that looks. So unfortunately, I think he
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Speaker 1: would be content with the factor knowing that you are
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Speaker 1: uncoppy at home, but you're just going to sit back
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Speaker 1: and there and bring it because you know we're like that.
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Speaker 1: We're like to James, were like the perfect person and
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Speaker 1: couple when we're out in the streets, and that was
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Speaker 1: okay with him. That I was lonely as well. Every night.
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Speaker 1: You know, I'm at home texting and you know, born
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Speaker 1: in lonely because I'm you're not listening to me. I'm
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Speaker 1: telling you about spoke the person ever and you're just
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Speaker 1: not listening to what my needs are. So it was
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Speaker 1: almost like you kind of type my names and what
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Speaker 1: else do you expect me to be? All right? So
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Speaker 1: when you told him like I'm unhappy, did you just
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Speaker 1: come out and say it or was it like subliminals
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Speaker 1: or like how I wouldn't know how to express that
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Speaker 1: to my nigga, Like, baby, yo, Dick, ain't that good?
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Speaker 1: But it's not all about sex, right, it's other things
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Speaker 1: as well, not just sex. Yeah, it's not even just sex.
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Speaker 1: And it was just more of communication, time spent um, sponsority,
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Speaker 1: the romance and they keep your mind. We've been together
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Speaker 1: for so so long, so you know, it wasn't all
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Speaker 1: a long time. I didn't just reword to take everything
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Speaker 1: out and just say I hate blah blah blah blah blah.
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Speaker 1: You know, it was slowly, you know, a conversation after
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Speaker 1: like the next day, ins getting intimate of can we
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Speaker 1: try something different and we try this way? And you
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Speaker 1: always used to like it that way? Well, yeah, I
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Speaker 1: used to being now just like I might want to know,
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Speaker 1: you know, I don't know. Yeah, yeah, I mean you
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Speaker 1: want to know, Like you know, it's not just like
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Speaker 1: different things turn me on as I get older, so
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Speaker 1: you know. And I've even asked you to bring a
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Speaker 1: female in to and he declined. He declined, Yes, Oh wow,
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Speaker 1: that's unusual. Yeah, the old school, old spirit type man. Yes,
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Speaker 1: hold on, before we get into anything else, let's pay
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Speaker 1: some bills real quick with for women. Intimacy starts in
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Speaker 1: the mind. You know what I'm saying. It's not all
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Speaker 1: physical like we can't argue all day and not like
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Speaker 1: each other all day long, and when it's time to
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Speaker 1: go to bed, you're tapping me on my shoulder something, dick,
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Speaker 1: and you ain't been nice to me all day. Because
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Speaker 1: I I do that, I will start just so we
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Speaker 1: can't have like, oh no, y'all toxic toxic don't want
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Speaker 1: in toxicana too. Yeah, but sometimes that makes it a
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Speaker 1: little bit more intense. You don't feel like that when
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Speaker 1: I smashed this pill over your face and try to
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Speaker 1: choke you while I'm riding you that. Don't everybody do that?
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Speaker 1: But organic arguments? Yeah, y'all want you to sun the
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Speaker 1: shot out of me after organic argument. But I'm a
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Speaker 1: feel crazy if I started an argument just so you
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Speaker 1: can smash me up. I don't understand. It's crazy. So
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Speaker 1: no therapy. He didn't. I guess he didn't receive the therapy.
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Speaker 1: My question, do you think, uh, your man feels the
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Speaker 1: same way about you that you're feeling about him during
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Speaker 1: that time? Um? I don't do so, you know because
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Speaker 1: I think that if he was pretend and you know
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Speaker 1: he has other hobbies outside and you know I used
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Speaker 1: to all these thinks like we gotta be up up
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Speaker 1: to somebody else. There's no way. But you know he
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Speaker 1: comes home, he's the bills. He just has outside our hobbies.
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Speaker 1: He likes working on the cars, and so that's his
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Speaker 1: hobby to have multiple projects. So that's what I think
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Speaker 1: was actually taken away from me because it's almost like
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Speaker 1: that hobby was like a few bales. And I don't
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Speaker 1: think we understand that if they have video games, that
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Speaker 1: they got car projects. So they've got football. That's another woman.
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Speaker 1: And so I don't know about anybody else who's listening
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Speaker 1: that with you. That's not gonna work. And I don't
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Speaker 1: get that attention. I'm gonna find it somewhere else because
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Speaker 1: I think that's still really good. What if what if
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Speaker 1: he just had you food like you had him food
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Speaker 1: and you think he working on the car, but he
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Speaker 1: working on caresia casa. So would you feel away if
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Speaker 1: like to know that other women are desiring your men,
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Speaker 1: like sometimes that bring a little spice, you don't think.
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Speaker 1: So yeah, and this is two sha and yes I do,
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Speaker 1: because that's the whole point of me trying to bring
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Speaker 1: another woman in because I think if I was to
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Speaker 1: see him with another woman, watch it, see it I
12:27
Speaker 1: want to get that jealous arousal if that makes sense.
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Speaker 1: You know. Um, as crazy as it sounds, I've even
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Speaker 1: set him up from the beat with the ex girlfriend
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Speaker 1: and he went on bait and so I wanted to
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Speaker 1: get here play by play. I was hoping he was
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Speaker 1: gonna smash so that we came home and we were
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Speaker 1: good that night. But he was a gentleman. Nothing happened,
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Speaker 1: and I'm like, ship, you know what he just what
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Speaker 1: if he doesn't know that that's what you want to hear?
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Speaker 1: So he he knows when I tell you, like, hey,
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Speaker 1: I want this is what we need to do. I
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Speaker 1: want you to hear. Hey, I we're recorded on it.
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Speaker 1: I want to see it, you know. So I'm that wife.
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Speaker 1: I mean, I think we've been gonna so long that
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Speaker 1: you got to get creative. So it might sound crazy
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Speaker 1: to some viewers, but whenever you get in your household
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Speaker 1: that works for you, guys, let it. Do ain't long
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Speaker 1: for that ship, Okay, Now, I do want my man
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Speaker 1: to be desirable, you know, like if I taught him cheating,
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Speaker 1: I probably wouldn't leave. How well, burn, I ain't set
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Speaker 1: me nigga up because I know people. I know that
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Speaker 1: for certain, because when we got together, I knew he
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Speaker 1: was the home and that's what made him desirable for me,
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Speaker 1: because he tried to get with me prior to me
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Speaker 1: getting married the first time, and I turned him down
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Speaker 1: because I was like, no, you worked too hard. I
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Speaker 1: don't want me to go to work all the time.
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Speaker 1: I want me to don't boy, And that's what I
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Speaker 1: got and I'm married and that should get worked. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: don't you don't want a dope boy no more? Because
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Speaker 1: this regularly the office new security. That's why I'm a
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Speaker 1: domestic engineer. I can stay home and do whatever I want.
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Speaker 1: I drive a very very nice car. You know, I
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Speaker 1: have a very nice home. He tells me, I don't
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Speaker 1: want you to go to work, and I have no
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Speaker 1: desire to go to work, you know, So that part
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Speaker 1: is what I desire from a dope boy. But of course,
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Speaker 1: you know, I come from an era we thought about
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Speaker 1: like New Jack City Ship like that, like wee me
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Speaker 1: and Teacher grow up in the nineties. So that's mean,
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Speaker 1: you know, rewards sold dope. There wasn't nothing me to
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Speaker 1: give you, like seeing grand or twenty grand. You know,
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Speaker 1: do what you want. But these new dope boys they're
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Speaker 1: making no money. Now you got to get them in
14:42
Speaker 1: a little for one kicked me. I gotta worry about
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Speaker 1: nobody keeping in my dough. You know, I know that
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Speaker 1: for sure he's gonna pay the bills and things like that.
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Speaker 1: So if he did step out, I wasn't sure because
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Speaker 1: I ain't gon towere. I'm seven years. I've had two
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Speaker 1: more years before I could get part of you know,
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Speaker 1: years and one day. But you know, right, I mean,
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Speaker 1: just like said, it's for someone else to design that
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Speaker 1: turns you on because you're like, okay, but that that
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Speaker 1: feeling came along with time, right, because if y'all were
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Speaker 1: fresh in a relationship, you wouldn't be okay with somebody.
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Speaker 1: None of us want a man that nobody else wants.
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Speaker 1: I always say that, like I want my man to
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Speaker 1: be able to get bitches. I'm not necessarily saying I
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Speaker 1: want him to have fucking bitches, but I want to
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Speaker 1: know that I'm not just desirable. Yeah, I don't want
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Speaker 1: to be the only person want my nigger, Like I
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Speaker 1: don't want you at that point, just like right, I
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Speaker 1: don't have me like they please. I don't want nobody
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Speaker 1: for a start, sunny, because it's words getting played by nothing.
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Speaker 1: That's nigga the most man that you know other bitches want,
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Speaker 1: like you understand why women want him, but some nigga
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Speaker 1: you're don't settled for and he's pep playing. You know,
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Speaker 1: I can't handle it, Like I know you're ugly play me.
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Speaker 1: I'm gonna do my best to get your ass back
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Speaker 1: so I can drop you. You ain't gonna with men.
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Speaker 1: So look, before we move on to the next segment,
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Speaker 1: let's have a word for our sponsors. So let me
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Speaker 1: ask you this. Have you ever been caught doing something
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Speaker 1: wrong and how did you get out of it? Story
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Speaker 1: Once upon a time not long ago. Yeah, um, yeah,
16:48
Speaker 1: so I switched phones. My phone die and so that's
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Speaker 1: my thing. I'm still talking to that. Um. So, yeah,
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Speaker 1: I switched phones because my phone had died or some thing.
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Speaker 1: And so, um my husband's in kind of like the
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Speaker 1: computer field, so he's he's savvy on that. So I
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Speaker 1: went to Atlanta and met up with an old friend
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Speaker 1: and apparently I was did not disable my message your account,
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Speaker 1: and so my husband was able to see all of
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Speaker 1: my messages and so I get to call it my hotel,
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Speaker 1: Like did you Funa whoa what we're talking about? And
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Speaker 1: you know, I've been doing this long enough that when
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Speaker 1: you started asking specific questions, you know, some ships, so
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Speaker 1: I can't not and so, um, pretty much, yeah, he
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Speaker 1: he found out about it. He knew he read all
17:41
Speaker 1: the text text messages from the fact that, you know,
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Speaker 1: the guy was all in my good night before and
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Speaker 1: how store I was, and he read every day detail.
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Speaker 1: And um, that was to get out of it. I
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Speaker 1: don't think it's gonna get out of it because I
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Speaker 1: still think that he's hurt to this day. But um,
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Speaker 1: that was probably about two years ago. Did you did
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Speaker 1: you from around? To be honest with you, he's been
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Speaker 1: around for about four of my affairs. No wait wait
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Speaker 1: what the side? The side nigga been around? No, my
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Speaker 1: husband has stayed after learned about four different affairs. And
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Speaker 1: how many affairs have you learned about? Um? None? Oh
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Speaker 1: you're the nigger? Yeah, yeah, that's name. Yeah, I'm sorry
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Speaker 1: to ask this, but what what is your husband's dick like? Um,
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Speaker 1: it's medium, it's the shp It's it's medium shrimpish, you know.
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Speaker 1: But yeah, so it's medium shrimpish. But at the end
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Speaker 1: of the day, I think that was not a gil
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Speaker 1: breaker because I know I had a game provider. Like,
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Speaker 1: he's a great husband, he's a great kid, um, you know,
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Speaker 1: great father to the kids. Um. So it was like
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Speaker 1: I've had worse, but also didn't have all these other
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Speaker 1: plusses with Okay, so we're talking about so he has
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Speaker 1: the eighty and you're you've been going out to complete
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Speaker 1: your happiness trying to find this twenty right damn it man.
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Speaker 1: So now women who like some women like you know
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Speaker 1: you asked him like, hey, can you live with a
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Speaker 1: man with bad sex? Could you be with a man
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Speaker 1: with bad sex? Women always say yes, but it's obviously
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Speaker 1: a lie. You're gonna eventually cheat, right, Yeah, I think
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Speaker 1: I believe it's if it doesn't if you don't do
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Speaker 1: what I think it's gonna be, it's definitely gonna be
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Speaker 1: close to you doing it. This is stacy now for me,
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Speaker 1: I have not cheated at all. All the reason why
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Speaker 1: it's like I really times I'll be reading about me
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Speaker 1: because I think with me and my husband, like I said,
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Speaker 1: we've been married for seven years and we've known each
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Speaker 1: other for a little bit of time. Matter of fact,
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Speaker 1: he he we started dating because I was sucking his
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Speaker 1: best friend and what his myst friend. RCA went and
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Speaker 1: told him about me, about what we were doing, and
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Speaker 1: he told him. He was like, you know, y'all, needuld
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Speaker 1: be together because we like crazy bitches and she crazy.
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Speaker 1: And so after that he started presuminging. So when we
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Speaker 1: started dating, you know, I was I always you know,
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Speaker 1: it was a little stand office because I'm like, you know,
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Speaker 1: I don't want to come between your best friend. But
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Speaker 1: clearly he wanted me that bad because he was like,
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Speaker 1: he doesn't matter about the best friend. But even though
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Speaker 1: we've been married, you know for seven years, I think
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Speaker 1: there's between us. We don't trust each other and up
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Speaker 1: because I don't trust to say, as far as he
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Speaker 1: can throw you know, he don't trust me as far
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Speaker 1: as he can. But you're not cheating on each other.
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Speaker 1: So why why is the trust only as far as
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Speaker 1: you can throw me? I guess you know, well, my
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Speaker 1: opinion is is probably because how he acquired you, maybe
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Speaker 1: how he acquired me, and because I know I know
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Speaker 1: firsthand his past. You know, it's it's different when you
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Speaker 1: marry someone, um you know that nobody knows about you know,
21:31
Speaker 1: where we're from is very small here, So I probably
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Speaker 1: know about five or six girls that he's spoke and
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Speaker 1: their friends we can not really friends, but associated with me,
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Speaker 1: you know. And I mean I'm sure he he thinks
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Speaker 1: he knows about what I've done in the past, but
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Speaker 1: you don't really know. You really really don't know what
21:49
Speaker 1: we probably would have married. Yeah, I think sometimes men
21:52
Speaker 1: find comfort and knowing. Like you said, just y'all from
21:54
Speaker 1: a small time town. So he can find out about
21:57
Speaker 1: you if he needed to, if he wanted to, and
21:58
Speaker 1: he probably has. So he probably may not say anything,
22:03
Speaker 1: but he probably knows some ship. Why because the means
22:06
Speaker 1: like trust. I don't trust no fucking body. I have
22:09
Speaker 1: faith that people do do the right thing. That doesn't
22:11
Speaker 1: necessarily just for my lover, but just people in general.
22:16
Speaker 1: And see, I think with us, it's like, um My
22:20
Speaker 1: Musban likes the floss, he likes really nice things, you know,
22:24
Speaker 1: he likes, he takes joy. And now I'm saying, Okay,
22:27
Speaker 1: I can do this for my wife. I've give him
22:29
Speaker 1: my wife this, I can do this that the third
22:32
Speaker 1: and plus when a lot of people see us together,
22:34
Speaker 1: like damn, how do y'all you know together? I mean,
22:36
Speaker 1: he's not a bad thing guy at all. But I
22:39
Speaker 1: mean I'm pretty straight, you know. So they as like, well,
22:44
Speaker 1: how do you end up with her? So I think
22:47
Speaker 1: I'm just one of those nice things that he's acquired,
22:51
Speaker 1: and you know, therefore he'll do whatever he has to
22:53
Speaker 1: do in order to keep me happy and keep me here.
22:56
Speaker 1: And I think the same thing with mine. Mine is
22:59
Speaker 1: very not flossy to himself, not somebody that's on social
23:03
Speaker 1: media like that. Don't want people in this business is
23:05
Speaker 1: marriage country country boy, And here I am coming from Jersey.
23:09
Speaker 1: When I live down here, um a city like Nade
23:13
Speaker 1: country boy, that didn't work, you know, So I like
23:16
Speaker 1: the attention. I like, you know, if I walk into
23:18
Speaker 1: a room, I'm I'm only got that room, not about
23:20
Speaker 1: fifteen twenty people. So being that he's so quiet and
23:26
Speaker 1: prison just to himself, we didn't Nash, you know, But
23:30
Speaker 1: eighteen years later, here we are basically yeah. Yeah, and
23:37
Speaker 1: it works sometimes, you know, but also when you get
23:39
Speaker 1: to other categories like sets, intimacy and things like that,
23:43
Speaker 1: it doesn't work. It works when we're paying deals, it
23:45
Speaker 1: works more discipline these kids. It works when we're trying
23:48
Speaker 1: to be empires and things like that. But it doesn't
23:51
Speaker 1: work in all areas with that union game. So it's okay.
23:54
Speaker 1: So have y'all had because we've we've had episodes about
23:57
Speaker 1: open relationships. We actually had a guy on who has
24:00
Speaker 1: been an open marriage for open relationship for five years.
24:04
Speaker 1: Have y'all ever had a discussion with your husband's like, hey,
24:08
Speaker 1: we should just be in an open marriage. Like, I
24:10
Speaker 1: love you, I want to spend the rest of my
24:11
Speaker 1: life with you, but sometimes I want to experience other people. Yeah,
24:16
Speaker 1: I have, because you know, you know, you realize my
24:19
Speaker 1: track record is something wrong. Yeah this is teacher apparently
24:23
Speaker 1: something about working and so yeah, I did I get
24:27
Speaker 1: approaching with that and once again being that old school
24:31
Speaker 1: country boy, No, we're not having that at all, you know.
24:34
Speaker 1: And I'm like, well, we're gonna keep following the same
24:38
Speaker 1: path because apparently you're not the most to me. You
24:41
Speaker 1: like to keep this trophy wife. But at the same time,
24:44
Speaker 1: you know, I have needs, you know, you know, because
24:46
Speaker 1: even to this day, I have a twenty twenty three
24:52
Speaker 1: year old dope boy right now, um, and I am
24:56
Speaker 1: like in my forties, and so it's like, I, you know,
25:00
Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't know sor right when you
25:03
Speaker 1: laugh and I'm drinking that possibly goes over here. I'm
25:16
Speaker 1: so all right, all right when you're you said your
25:19
Speaker 1: husband has found out four different occasions you're not really
25:22
Speaker 1: good at how your ship. I just want to say
25:24
Speaker 1: that you shouldn't. That's part for but yeah, more times. Okay,
25:32
Speaker 1: that what you have to think about. It's been through
25:35
Speaker 1: the duration of um twenty years plus known each other.
25:39
Speaker 1: So some of those things were before we got married,
25:42
Speaker 1: got together, things like that. So I mean some of
25:44
Speaker 1: the things we would have times we're here, let's start fresh,
25:47
Speaker 1: let's go in and see what we've done, let's talk
25:49
Speaker 1: about stuff or whatever, that kind of thing. So, um, no,
25:52
Speaker 1: I'm good. The only thing about getting caught was that
25:56
Speaker 1: phone situation. But the other times it more like before
26:00
Speaker 1: we really got good into our marriage. You know that
26:03
Speaker 1: it was more or less before we got married, when
26:06
Speaker 1: we were college things like that. Tica. Did you ever
26:11
Speaker 1: have fear of losing your husband? No, that's yeah, yeah,
26:20
Speaker 1: and you know what I used to. But I actually
26:22
Speaker 1: think that I don't know if marriage materials for me,
26:26
Speaker 1: you know, being marriage is for me. But I think
26:28
Speaker 1: I stayed because I came from um a household where
26:33
Speaker 1: it was a single bomb trying to raise kids, and
26:36
Speaker 1: I see it that game to me and my siblings,
26:38
Speaker 1: and so I think I stayed more for the children.
26:41
Speaker 1: To be honest, I think I did. You know, if
26:46
Speaker 1: you could hear this, he'll slap your heads between the
26:49
Speaker 1: way I told you can come get slipping with y'all.
26:56
Speaker 1: Same way. Though, this is the only thing like when
26:58
Speaker 1: a woman says, it's like so on, but these men
27:00
Speaker 1: are feeling the same exactly. Yeah, they just they kind
27:06
Speaker 1: of put us on a pedestal. You know, I asked
27:07
Speaker 1: my fiance, they don't put me on a pedestal. And
27:09
Speaker 1: that's not saying like, don't think highly of me, but
27:11
Speaker 1: don't think that I'm supposed to be just this perfect
27:14
Speaker 1: person because you aren't, right and I'm you know, I'm
27:17
Speaker 1: not perfect. I'm gonna fall short. But for whatever reason,
27:21
Speaker 1: like men pet women put women on this pedestal, I
27:24
Speaker 1: guess we probably contribute to that because we lie, you
27:29
Speaker 1: know what I'm like, We don't tell people everything a
27:34
Speaker 1: lot of times, you know what I'm saying. So I'm
27:36
Speaker 1: a really honest person. Why I well, no, I'm on
27:41
Speaker 1: this person right, So I like to be able to
27:43
Speaker 1: tell people exactly who I am, right, But then sometimes
27:46
Speaker 1: some men are used that against you, like some women
27:50
Speaker 1: just like, oh, I'm you know I have only been
27:52
Speaker 1: with two people, But that's a fucking lie, like you
27:54
Speaker 1: know what exactly exactly why lie? And then when you
27:58
Speaker 1: when a man comes to me, is like, I'm not
28:01
Speaker 1: a liar. I'm gonna tell you what it is and
28:02
Speaker 1: then you're gonna do it in my face and your
28:04
Speaker 1: parents to Now this is Stacy talking. I learned this
28:11
Speaker 1: from my being married the first time. You know, you
28:14
Speaker 1: try to be open honest things like that, and um
28:18
Speaker 1: that will always come about you and ass So the
28:22
Speaker 1: second term around, it's not that I lie at all
28:25
Speaker 1: as far as things like you know how many people
28:27
Speaker 1: are being with or whatever, because I mean if I
28:29
Speaker 1: tried to lie about that, I was gonna give me
28:31
Speaker 1: the side out like I know, I know, damn well,
28:36
Speaker 1: I see you out so I know. But you know,
28:39
Speaker 1: like I mean, the things that I feel that we
28:42
Speaker 1: lie aboll is married women. It's like, you know, like
28:48
Speaker 1: I've heard on this on the should before when um
28:51
Speaker 1: Tam Bawn said, you know you sleep with the guys
28:54
Speaker 1: like five minutes or whatever. He feels like he just
28:57
Speaker 1: knocked it out the part. You know, as a single woman,
29:00
Speaker 1: you're not apt to say you know that ship was barby,
29:04
Speaker 1: you know, as a married room, your spirit, those feelings,
29:08
Speaker 1: you're like, oh that's great, waiting for the fall asleep
29:11
Speaker 1: and you need to pull out your toy, do what
29:13
Speaker 1: you gotta do or what you're gonna work the next day.
29:16
Speaker 1: Oh gosh, I just I'm still feeling. I'm on age.
29:18
Speaker 1: So you gotta go in and just help, you know,
29:21
Speaker 1: relieve yourself, you know, because you just try to spare
29:24
Speaker 1: feeling and just try to keep the home happy. You know.
29:27
Speaker 1: In my case, you know, if I'd rather not purchase
29:32
Speaker 1: give us because I know the ship. Even though he
29:34
Speaker 1: may he may act like he's taking the constructive criticism,
29:37
Speaker 1: but that ship's gonna through with his ego for months
29:40
Speaker 1: and months to come. Yeah, and they can be honest
29:42
Speaker 1: with us, like my man can tell me like I
29:44
Speaker 1: don't then had all these three sims out of your
29:47
Speaker 1: cousin as long as you ain't sucking them right now,
29:49
Speaker 1: I really don't give a fun. But you can't tell
29:53
Speaker 1: him about anything anything you've done. Um, you can't tell
29:58
Speaker 1: him about any man. You know, I'm fun like it's
30:00
Speaker 1: gonna come up. So basically, okay, I'm engaged, I'm not
30:03
Speaker 1: married yet, So basically with y'all bitches, y'all married bitches
30:06
Speaker 1: is telling me to lie. Well, I don't think it's PA's.
30:10
Speaker 1: It's probably about keep the feast, because once you get married,
30:14
Speaker 1: you gotta think about it. People are in it for
30:16
Speaker 1: the long run from forever. So do you want to
30:20
Speaker 1: bruce his ego and chip away at his ego or
30:23
Speaker 1: his heart every year that you're married because you're too honest?
30:29
Speaker 1: Is it that women's hearts are stronger than men? Then?
30:32
Speaker 1: Because you can tell me anything and it's not going
30:34
Speaker 1: to bother me to the point to where I'm not
30:36
Speaker 1: gonna let you sleep at night. I'm gonna bring it
30:38
Speaker 1: up every other day. It takes too much energy had
30:41
Speaker 1: to be to be mad about it. I think that
30:44
Speaker 1: women have always been stronger. But I also will say,
30:47
Speaker 1: once you get married and do two years in, let's
30:50
Speaker 1: have this conversation again, because that strong heart that I
30:53
Speaker 1: was as a single woman is not the same heart
30:56
Speaker 1: that has as a married woman. Because when you start
30:58
Speaker 1: having your children, when you start having you know, married
31:03
Speaker 1: life careers, all that you change it's not the same
31:07
Speaker 1: single life, because I swear I wouldn't have to have
31:10
Speaker 1: him feel like I was single. Everything, Like, hey, I
31:12
Speaker 1: gonna move on to the next one. But when you
31:14
Speaker 1: are in for the long run and you have other
31:16
Speaker 1: people looking up to you or waiting or expecting or
31:19
Speaker 1: in the result, you change a little bit. So yeah,
31:23
Speaker 1: let's but we'll have this conversation after you get married, um,
31:26
Speaker 1: and then see if it's that same heart and the
31:28
Speaker 1: same honesty driven. Um, you know you're choose, You'll choose
31:32
Speaker 1: your battles. You're just like, okay, this shi even worth
31:35
Speaker 1: you know, and acting like a little bit because trust me,
31:38
Speaker 1: you tell them and you hurt their feelings. It's different world.
31:41
Speaker 1: They'll never let you forget it. They're like they'll dwell
31:46
Speaker 1: on that ship forever. You're saying you're going out somewhere,
31:50
Speaker 1: and you didn't told him something that I already can't
31:53
Speaker 1: go to Walmart. So hey, look, I'm at a whole
31:58
Speaker 1: nigger house. When I'm at a Mark and I literally
32:02
Speaker 1: being t J Max for two hours sometimes obviously I
32:06
Speaker 1: was sucking dicking them to hours and I didn't even
32:08
Speaker 1: know that all. Yeah, so don't come on tired because
32:14
Speaker 1: if you come on time, damn what the fuck? So
32:20
Speaker 1: y'all really don't think y'all men fucking anybody else. I
32:22
Speaker 1: honestly feel like side, really feel like they both they
32:26
Speaker 1: definitely be. They gotta be. It's no way especially um no,
32:31
Speaker 1: I promise. And when I tell you that, I wouldn't
32:34
Speaker 1: even be surprised or hurt because I've been like, yeah,
32:37
Speaker 1: I deserve. I'm just waiting for it, and I think
32:40
Speaker 1: I'm getting it through my kids acting up, but I'm
32:42
Speaker 1: not getting it through him. Like we have this app
32:45
Speaker 1: for our kids and we can keep up with them
32:47
Speaker 1: and we're all on the app. I don't don't have
32:49
Speaker 1: got damn app because I know I don't know what
32:51
Speaker 1: I'm adventure out. So I don't want to be at
32:54
Speaker 1: My ex boyfriend is in prison, right, my ex boyfriend.
32:58
Speaker 1: I never was thinking he was eating, but this nigga
33:01
Speaker 1: like was literally fucking bitches five o'clock in the morning.
33:04
Speaker 1: So pussy is open at five am, they's supposed to
33:06
Speaker 1: be getting fucked. I didn't realize this ship was that
33:09
Speaker 1: deep until like he's in prison now, right, so now
33:11
Speaker 1: he has a whole kid out here at the same
33:13
Speaker 1: age as how long he's been in jail, So you
33:15
Speaker 1: were cheating. But I didn't know you were cheating because
33:20
Speaker 1: of how he moved like he literally was always in
33:22
Speaker 1: the house. But the thing about it, and you know
33:25
Speaker 1: every situation right with mine, I'm talking to you several
33:29
Speaker 1: times during the day because it's something that on house related.
33:32
Speaker 1: When you get off, you're calling me. Um. With that app,
33:35
Speaker 1: I'm seeing where you're app and then you pull up
33:38
Speaker 1: the same time each day and that is seven days
33:40
Speaker 1: a week. So you got your nigga on the app,
33:43
Speaker 1: but you on the app. Yeah, I refused him, but
33:48
Speaker 1: I used the excuse that I told my kids, I'm
33:50
Speaker 1: not being on the app seat I can't catch y'all
33:52
Speaker 1: because I want y'all. I want to sneak up on
33:54
Speaker 1: y'all because I want to make sure y'all doing right.
33:56
Speaker 1: So I'm not on the app though. You real slick
33:59
Speaker 1: T think you got a big dick. Okay, got a
34:03
Speaker 1: big y. She gotta check all right in your relationship?
34:11
Speaker 1: Are you the alpha and he's definitely the beta male?
34:14
Speaker 1: Is he a beta mail or would you consider him
34:15
Speaker 1: an alpha male? He's a beta male? What about you, Stacy?
34:22
Speaker 1: My husband, Um, I let him in the alpha. I
34:27
Speaker 1: let him feel like this is idea, Oh so she
34:30
Speaker 1: didn't just that if I want something, I'm knocking the
34:34
Speaker 1: let up. So if I wanted, I'm gonna keep and
34:38
Speaker 1: if you're telling me you're gonna do it, I'm gonna
34:40
Speaker 1: hold your ass to it, you know. So I let
34:42
Speaker 1: him be the man. You know, I knew that if
34:44
Speaker 1: I if I want to take control, I can. But
34:47
Speaker 1: because of the position that I played, you know, I
34:50
Speaker 1: allowed him to. It makes him feel good to say, Okay,
34:53
Speaker 1: I'll pay you all the deals. I'm like, that's great,
34:56
Speaker 1: you know gold to dude, you gotta do. But I
34:58
Speaker 1: know if I had to good, But you know, it's
35:01
Speaker 1: just I just sit back and let him do what
35:03
Speaker 1: he do. You know, I feel good with allowing me
35:07
Speaker 1: to have the alpha role. I don't want to be
35:10
Speaker 1: the head bach in charge. I really don't. It is.
35:14
Speaker 1: It's very exhausted, and I guess my my alpha roll
35:17
Speaker 1: comes in from more make sure, householders in order, kids online,
35:21
Speaker 1: things like that. But from a financial aspect, I don't
35:24
Speaker 1: have to pay anything. Everything's taking care of about him.
35:30
Speaker 1: But because he's that keep the peace type person, he
35:33
Speaker 1: really gonna argue when the kids try to jump bad
35:36
Speaker 1: if you want to sit back and I argue, but
35:38
Speaker 1: I'm really like, I'm trapping on my shoes, Like, Okay,
35:40
Speaker 1: we want to fight, I'm gonna have a conversation. Kids
35:42
Speaker 1: like don't you probably gonna do so he's that keep
35:45
Speaker 1: the peace. But it's because we were raised different, and
35:48
Speaker 1: you know, when you get to know him, I realized
35:51
Speaker 1: our up room is different. I'm from the city he's from.
35:54
Speaker 1: I introduced him to a lot of things that he
35:56
Speaker 1: didn't have, Like they never really did a Christmas tree.
35:59
Speaker 1: You know, We've traveled so many different places. I was
36:03
Speaker 1: his first time ever on a plane, and so it
36:06
Speaker 1: was just so many different things. I think that's what's
36:08
Speaker 1: made his love for me really beat because I introduced
36:12
Speaker 1: him to a lot of things he would have never
36:14
Speaker 1: done before. So you got turned to go out the woods.
36:17
Speaker 1: You're pretty much those be the best ways though some
36:25
Speaker 1: day Yeah, until they started sucking their cousin or something.
36:32
Speaker 1: You're his whole first cousin. Hey, look that's what they're
36:36
Speaker 1: cheating with family. Yeah, that's my You're gonna see some
36:44
Speaker 1: damn text messages in video footage of cousin think This
36:49
Speaker 1: is stacy like um with me and my husband. You know,
36:53
Speaker 1: we don't touch like some people like I know I
36:55
Speaker 1: was called to his phone. You know, we don't touch
36:58
Speaker 1: each other's phones. We don't. You know, there's a lot
37:02
Speaker 1: of things not Sometimes it's like a double edged sword
37:05
Speaker 1: because I don't know a lot of ship, you know,
37:07
Speaker 1: not because I'm like you know, if I look for it,
37:11
Speaker 1: then I'll find as you know, for him. You know,
37:15
Speaker 1: I could be doing my own things this. They could
37:17
Speaker 1: be on the phone all day long. You're don thinking
37:19
Speaker 1: he's looking at TikTok and ship. But I come downstairs,
37:21
Speaker 1: I looking over that shoulder, I'd be seeing fucking em.
37:26
Speaker 1: But you know what, I don't even get because I
37:27
Speaker 1: don't want you to ask for my phone, right and
37:30
Speaker 1: look that's me all day long. Don't touch my phone.
37:33
Speaker 1: I'm not touching yours because I'm not into her in
37:35
Speaker 1: my own feelings. Yeah, and I'm good with that, you know,
37:39
Speaker 1: just having our lives to do over and us having
37:42
Speaker 1: our lives separate, you have to maintain some type of individuality.
37:47
Speaker 1: Well yeah, definitely. Yeah, and this is shure. My phone
37:50
Speaker 1: has locked on it and know I over at night. Yeah,
37:55
Speaker 1: we're unlocking this phone. But I have his code, and
37:58
Speaker 1: you know my kids have the code. Took my phone
38:00
Speaker 1: in and the again, something was that happened to me,
38:02
Speaker 1: But he doesn't have to hold to it. But now,
38:06
Speaker 1: because like you said, I mean, I need something that's mine.
38:09
Speaker 1: You know, if everything is open and joined and shared,
38:13
Speaker 1: what is it that I have? You know, I don't
38:14
Speaker 1: have anything. And I start feeling like you lose yourself, Yes,
38:20
Speaker 1: you lose your identity. Yeah, so you're not even on
38:24
Speaker 1: the same phone, man. And when I go with like
38:31
Speaker 1: when I've had a couple of surgery, when I go
38:33
Speaker 1: on with surgery, I said, my phone into surgery, I
38:37
Speaker 1: have my home. Brother, Like, there's something happens to me.
38:39
Speaker 1: Take the mother, smash it against break this long. I'll
38:47
Speaker 1: be talking to others. I've experienced that though my one
38:51
Speaker 1: of my cousins, her um long term. She was a
38:54
Speaker 1: long term side bitch basically because this is somebody else's
38:57
Speaker 1: husband that she was living with. They were living together.
39:00
Speaker 1: This nigger had a heart attack and his phone was there,
39:03
Speaker 1: like he died, and I literally watched her fucking face
39:07
Speaker 1: her and like from sad to angry as fuck. While
39:12
Speaker 1: this nigger was dead. I said, I don't want to
39:15
Speaker 1: end up from having at getting cleanated, because all right,
39:21
Speaker 1: put the bitch in the dirt, watched that bitch down
39:26
Speaker 1: the saint. Nobody in the house, none of my ship.
39:33
Speaker 1: He's gonna burn it all. Look, I tell you right now,
39:35
Speaker 1: all my messages get deleted. I am not keeping anything.
39:39
Speaker 1: Names have been changed to the anti flow Joyce keeping
39:44
Speaker 1: nothing in there. Every message, every picture goes into a
39:47
Speaker 1: special vault. No man him while plant emoji exactly. You know,
39:55
Speaker 1: you know, trying to get with this new age. So
40:00
Speaker 1: the three year old dope boy that you got on
40:03
Speaker 1: the side, does he know that you're married or do
40:06
Speaker 1: you like, how do you engage with these men outside? Like, yeah, yeah,
40:11
Speaker 1: he knows that I'm married. He has his son's mother
40:14
Speaker 1: who he's with, just because if they aren't. She's saying,
40:18
Speaker 1: oh you won't see him, y'all have y'all to that
40:19
Speaker 1: type thing. And I could care less about it because
40:22
Speaker 1: you know, I have a house and the take care
40:25
Speaker 1: of so it's more or less a fun thing whenever,
40:28
Speaker 1: um we meet up. But you know one thing, like
40:31
Speaker 1: I just had a conversation with him last night. I
40:34
Speaker 1: told him, look, I got some street smarts to me.
40:37
Speaker 1: I'm from Jersey, so don't play with me when it
40:40
Speaker 1: comes to you trying to say, hey, I'll give you
40:42
Speaker 1: twenty grand to leave, like I asked him that you
40:45
Speaker 1: give me twenty graham, so you're coming with me, like
40:48
Speaker 1: we're gonna be together. No, I'm still gonna be over here.
40:51
Speaker 1: But then I ain't going nowhere because I could triple
40:53
Speaker 1: that twenty grand stand over here where I'm at. So
40:56
Speaker 1: you know, it's a matter of I think because he
40:58
Speaker 1: thinks I'm older and he's young, and he's feel he's
41:00
Speaker 1: gonna be able to get me. But I've been doing
41:02
Speaker 1: this because I'm a nigga so exactly. And it's also
41:07
Speaker 1: the unattainability that he's probably obsessed with, like trying to
41:10
Speaker 1: get you, keep you man like he probably don't really
41:13
Speaker 1: want you. It's only two niggas in this world. I
41:15
Speaker 1: really want you, and that's a nigga who really loves
41:18
Speaker 1: you and one who ain't suck it. And I told him,
41:25
Speaker 1: I was like, look, I would risk it off. You
41:27
Speaker 1: tell me he was gonna be with me a hundred percent.
41:29
Speaker 1: You know I'm lying, But ship is sounded again in
41:31
Speaker 1: the nest you know, in the next stage. But I'm like, look,
41:34
Speaker 1: tell me you want me, I'll risk all that's fine,
41:37
Speaker 1: and so I'll light you later. Yeah, I bet you
41:39
Speaker 1: will because you're not And so I don't care how
41:42
Speaker 1: much you want to throw this way. I'm not leaving
41:44
Speaker 1: where I'm at when I have equity and I have
41:47
Speaker 1: houses and we have cars and so, you know, it's
41:53
Speaker 1: one of those things like yes we can play, we
41:55
Speaker 1: can meet up and things like that, and yes, you
41:57
Speaker 1: make me feel young because you are Austin telling me
42:00
Speaker 1: I'm the most beautiful thing in the world. And when
42:02
Speaker 1: I send you pictures, I get compidents from him, so
42:05
Speaker 1: I don't get from my own household, you know. So
42:08
Speaker 1: it feels good. But at the same time, I know
42:11
Speaker 1: actually speaks out of the words and I'm stupid. Mm hmm, yeah, girl,
42:17
Speaker 1: on leave your young niggas. They did me a little
42:22
Speaker 1: tangy anyway, nobody got time to be packing the bag
42:27
Speaker 1: lunch for no young niggas. You gotta take that dick
42:29
Speaker 1: off and drop that dick off. All of them, all
42:34
Speaker 1: about our husbands were young niggas too. You know. It
42:38
Speaker 1: was different, is, you know, than what it is now.
42:41
Speaker 1: You know, like in the beginning, everything was fresh hot,
42:44
Speaker 1: you know, you just beating my bast out like nobody,
42:46
Speaker 1: you know, like like you was working for a job
42:48
Speaker 1: and I was like, okay, yeah, you got the position.
42:51
Speaker 1: But then when they get older, all of young needs
42:54
Speaker 1: turned over and they go through changes and there dick
42:57
Speaker 1: don't get hard like it's used to ship. It changes.
43:01
Speaker 1: That's where it's wives. We have to still make them
43:03
Speaker 1: feel like it's still that young bull before reality it
43:14
Speaker 1: is it is you know, I have that sex. It's
43:17
Speaker 1: vacations or like we'll do staycations, We'll leave the kids
43:22
Speaker 1: and trying to go, um you know, get a room
43:25
Speaker 1: for a couple of days or whatever because they're old
43:27
Speaker 1: enough to stay home and watch themselves. But that's the
43:29
Speaker 1: best sex. And I think it's because you don't have
43:32
Speaker 1: to think about the stresses of every day or whatever.
43:34
Speaker 1: And so yeah, that's the best one. Now, So what
43:37
Speaker 1: do you think y'all could do, like to make your
43:39
Speaker 1: relationship is better with your husbands where you don't or
43:41
Speaker 1: do you think this is just gonna be it? This
43:43
Speaker 1: is just how your life is going to be. I know,
43:45
Speaker 1: um Stacy. Stacy said she hadn't cheated no, not, because
43:51
Speaker 1: I mean I've had some spectacular bit in my life.
43:56
Speaker 1: So really, I mean for me, if I reach, it
44:00
Speaker 1: would be more an emotional cheat. And once I go there,
44:03
Speaker 1: I don't think that I can go back. So you know,
44:05
Speaker 1: if I have a little bit stocking ego, that's the
44:08
Speaker 1: beast I can do. But what I'm getting out of it,
44:11
Speaker 1: you know, So I don't think that I would cheat
44:14
Speaker 1: because if I cheat, I'm gone. So your sexual fulfillment
44:17
Speaker 1: takes a back seat to everything else for the rest
44:19
Speaker 1: of your life, for the rest of my life, because
44:22
Speaker 1: I mean at times we get gremors of light here
44:25
Speaker 1: and then you know it's not awful, right. But I
44:29
Speaker 1: think really where my downfall was in the beginning is
44:33
Speaker 1: that I didn't communicate as much as I needed to,
44:36
Speaker 1: as far as telling him like that's you, you know,
44:40
Speaker 1: so I would just need you know. But now that
44:42
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go, oh, do you know how old people
44:44
Speaker 1: say with something to see what's on my mind? Because
44:48
Speaker 1: I mean, what you're gonna think you're gonna leave me
44:49
Speaker 1: because I was working honest right right, Let's see, I
44:52
Speaker 1: just want to be honest from the beginning because to me,
44:54
Speaker 1: that's all the open relationship is like the open lines
44:57
Speaker 1: of communication, Like I should be able to say something
44:59
Speaker 1: to you what out having it come back in my face. Yeah,
45:03
Speaker 1: you should, But it just really depends on the type
45:07
Speaker 1: of man that you have. And it's okay because we
45:09
Speaker 1: all we're supposed to change and evolved and things like that.
45:12
Speaker 1: Our bodies change, you know, like I have to explain
45:15
Speaker 1: to my husband before you know, you might haven't even
45:17
Speaker 1: took my right TV and just roll over and put
45:19
Speaker 1: it in just splitch flash. But now you know I'm
45:22
Speaker 1: not a microwave. I'm over the crop part. You gotta
45:27
Speaker 1: damn you get flowing. Wants to get flown good. But
45:30
Speaker 1: you can't just think you just push on button and
45:33
Speaker 1: she's right, pressure is yours in a microwave. Air Fryertle
45:41
Speaker 1: air Fryer puts out right there, little christ and I
45:49
Speaker 1: like the question. I'm not sure who asked it by saying,
45:52
Speaker 1: you know, it's ours. Our sexual desire is going to
45:54
Speaker 1: have to be that seat, you know, possibly it will
45:59
Speaker 1: it possibly will be that seat. But at the end
46:01
Speaker 1: of the day, if I was to give up the
46:05
Speaker 1: eight for the twenty, would it be worth it? Because
46:08
Speaker 1: if I have some money. You would just you know,
46:10
Speaker 1: blow my back out every night. Am I gonna have
46:12
Speaker 1: to worry that you're bringing me home STD, bringing on
46:15
Speaker 1: another baby to care for? You know that kind of stuff.
46:18
Speaker 1: So that's not having ship. Yeah, And so I think
46:21
Speaker 1: at the end of the day, I think I'm okay
46:23
Speaker 1: probably with um letting that stay back seat because I
46:27
Speaker 1: know the AD is far greater than that. So you know,
46:30
Speaker 1: I've been able to kind of sit back and you know,
46:33
Speaker 1: talking with Casey and some other friends about business opportunities
46:38
Speaker 1: and starting things because I'm trying to put my energy
46:41
Speaker 1: of what's lacking there in my need for attention and
46:44
Speaker 1: stuff like that into business moves, right, And now I've
46:47
Speaker 1: been able to open up a couple we put it
46:50
Speaker 1: into like you know, starting the businesses and things like that.
46:52
Speaker 1: So that's what I've been kind of you and so
46:54
Speaker 1: you know it's gonna be a safe space for me.
46:56
Speaker 1: I believe. Well, that's good, that's healthy. This was Oh good, y'all.
47:01
Speaker 1: Thank you for sharing your hotels. Ain't got no hotel,
47:07
Speaker 1: Stacey hotels living her goddamn head. I don't Stacy to
47:10
Speaker 1: get fucked. I don't know how are you gonna do that,
47:12
Speaker 1: but it's a guy out here that we can line
47:17
Speaker 1: up for me. Look, I do got a dick delivery service,
47:29
Speaker 1: no attachments, no feelings, just dropping dick off and go ahead.
47:37
Speaker 1: I'm not need to start a company like that. Dull
47:41
Speaker 1: be a multimillion dollar damn started started. I'm joking that
47:48
Speaker 1: never happened. But no, I wouldn't say for anybody who
47:51
Speaker 1: istincting about getting married in a serious relationship, just to
47:54
Speaker 1: find just listen to what we're saying. Make sure you
47:57
Speaker 1: know who you're marrying, over all the scenarios of what
48:02
Speaker 1: comes with being married, and understand that. You know, it's
48:07
Speaker 1: okay to walk away before you go down the altar,
48:09
Speaker 1: you know, and you don't have to see up here
48:10
Speaker 1: and married that person if it it's not fit. You know,
48:13
Speaker 1: I think we're trying to put we, you know, square
48:16
Speaker 1: pigs in a circle hole, and it's not gonna work
48:19
Speaker 1: like that, you know, So if you can do me,
48:21
Speaker 1: if I had to do it over again, if I
48:23
Speaker 1: had to read this, I would not be married to
48:25
Speaker 1: the person where I'm with. And I say that with
48:27
Speaker 1: everything because I know I have heard him tremendously and
48:31
Speaker 1: I really didn't do it on personally on purpose. But
48:34
Speaker 1: I really would not go down this path. I would
48:37
Speaker 1: have took my twenties into um embrace them and kind
48:42
Speaker 1: and do things to kind of live. And that's what
48:44
Speaker 1: I tell my kids because I don't want them to
48:46
Speaker 1: end up like me and their father. I don't want
48:49
Speaker 1: to be You shouldn't be a wife in your twenties.
48:51
Speaker 1: You should be living miamiing worlver you want to, you know.
48:55
Speaker 1: And I tell my daughter that I'm more all with her?
48:57
Speaker 1: Do you miss your whole face? And now you're making
48:59
Speaker 1: my hopefully exactly on this whole stays to hand her
49:03
Speaker 1: whole face. So that's why I have not cheated. Yeah,
49:07
Speaker 1: oh yeah, so and that makes sense. I guess that's
49:10
Speaker 1: where you've got two perspectives of one who missed their
49:12
Speaker 1: whole phase, one you did not, and then the outcome
49:16
Speaker 1: of it seventy years later, basically the same. We're both
49:20
Speaker 1: lines of the movie. Because your twenties, for any young
49:24
Speaker 1: women listening, your twenties is for firing niggas when they
49:28
Speaker 1: don't act right. It is not for constant compromise. You twenties.
49:34
Speaker 1: You have the option to pick, choose and refused. Yes,
49:38
Speaker 1: thank you. Ladies so much for coming on our show
49:41
Speaker 1: and sharing your lives and your stories with us. We
49:43
Speaker 1: appreciate you. Yes, and we won't be following up because
49:47
Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure listeners are going to enjoy this episode, right,
49:50
Speaker 1: So if they have questions, just just if you got
49:53
Speaker 1: questions for Staysty and Teacher, let us know. Anyways, hold
49:59
Speaker 1: on before we go. Yeah, so y'all have any great
50:02
Speaker 1: dumb bit stories to share with us aside from I'm
50:05
Speaker 1: not calling your situations dumb bit shit because it's just
50:07
Speaker 1: a regular life ship, but like any situations where you
50:10
Speaker 1: just felt played right mm hmmm, um, I would say
50:17
Speaker 1: what I was in my twenties before I got married.
50:22
Speaker 1: I slept with like up and Kim of NFL player,
50:25
Speaker 1: and you know, at that point, I'm thinking like, let
50:28
Speaker 1: me go ahead and get the piston whoever who is
50:30
Speaker 1: going to take care of the long term. And so
50:33
Speaker 1: after we stepped together, he blocked me. I don't know.
50:39
Speaker 1: I thought it was good. My ship was wet like
50:41
Speaker 1: I was twenty and so it was like get you
50:43
Speaker 1: like an ocean. So I don't know why I got blocked,
50:46
Speaker 1: but I just think it was a game. But here
50:48
Speaker 1: I am thinking of I can capitulated plan and with
50:51
Speaker 1: him it was just you know, everything else. So I did.
50:54
Speaker 1: I felt played because I thought I was gonna be
50:57
Speaker 1: one of those girls at the NFL pick way, catch them,
51:01
Speaker 1: you know, kissing them on the field. And it was
51:03
Speaker 1: not that way, So you don't be my story. It
51:07
Speaker 1: was that T shirt, Stacy, that was T shirt. That's
51:10
Speaker 1: my T shirts been hurt. Stay do you have one?
51:21
Speaker 1: You know? I mean, let's just leave. I don't think
51:25
Speaker 1: I do have one, only because I always had a
51:28
Speaker 1: mentality them to get that nigga before getting so like
51:33
Speaker 1: when I was going through my own fingers, I was
51:34
Speaker 1: really sucking home like there was no screws attached, Like
51:38
Speaker 1: I didn't care if he was in the NFL. I'm
51:41
Speaker 1: in your home boy, And then both of y'all, yes,
51:48
Speaker 1: I have before. I mean I think one time I
51:54
Speaker 1: gave even nigging my like my PlayStation or something younger
51:59
Speaker 1: than or whatever, and he was in collegue and he
52:02
Speaker 1: hit the fourth I was pretty spectacical, so I did.
52:05
Speaker 1: I bought game PlayStation and after that we were talking
52:09
Speaker 1: to some good dumb bit stories. They ain't really dumb
52:16
Speaker 1: bit stories. That's fight all us put some head one time,
52:20
Speaker 1: and he's I think it's so fired all about my
52:27
Speaker 1: pocketbook while he was eating his pussy. You know, my
52:32
Speaker 1: body was gone until I got to the gas station
52:35
Speaker 1: because I didn't let him funk. I just he just
52:37
Speaker 1: ate my pussy. So now trying to buy some batteries
52:41
Speaker 1: for my vibrator and my fucking five dollars is gone.
52:45
Speaker 1: I don't think, yeah, you got me beat because I
52:48
Speaker 1: guess my story didn't work. I'm sorry you want the
52:55
Speaker 1: up got it? It probably don't even fight dollars. It
53:00
Speaker 1: might have been like from two to fight all. You
53:04
Speaker 1: should have been right, all right, really appreciate it, y'all
53:12
Speaker 1: have a good word. Thank you again. Alright, girl, I
53:23
Speaker 1: just don't know what type of bitch I'm gonna be
53:25
Speaker 1: in the marriage. Will I be uh Mary Magdalene over
53:29
Speaker 1: here or will I be like Stacy? I don't know.
53:33
Speaker 1: I guess it depends on the dick. Huh. I definitely
53:35
Speaker 1: don't want to be married for a long time and
53:37
Speaker 1: halfway miserable. For none of them sounded miserable though. They
53:41
Speaker 1: just sounded like they have decided that this is what
53:44
Speaker 1: it is and this is how it's gonna be. And
53:46
Speaker 1: they decided. Though, so how do men field like, God, damn, girl,
53:57
Speaker 1: fuck your husband. Good. But here's the thing, all we
54:01
Speaker 1: know is what they told us. They might be securing
54:04
Speaker 1: their marriage because their men are keeping what they're doing
54:07
Speaker 1: so secret. They're moving like they got a dead white
54:09
Speaker 1: beach in the trunk, you know what I'm saying. That's
54:11
Speaker 1: how they're moving with it. You think he's working on
54:14
Speaker 1: the car, but really he really, you know, doing his thing.
54:16
Speaker 1: And if you're doing it that way, that's how I
54:19
Speaker 1: wanted to be done. I wanted so secure that yes,
54:24
Speaker 1: expect I mean, people are gonna do show. You can't
54:26
Speaker 1: be married for eighteen fifty years and you know nothing happened.
54:29
Speaker 1: Nothing happens in your relationship like that to me is respect.
54:33
Speaker 1: We never finding out either we open with it or
54:38
Speaker 1: just move stealthily. Nigga. So if you enjoyed this episode,
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