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Frustrations Reveal Expectations · High Level Wife Podcast with Chelsey Holm

• 0:33
  SPEAKER_00: We're back with another high-level wife espresso shot.
• 0:37
  SPEAKER_00: This is frustrations reveal expectations.
• 0:41
  SPEAKER_00: It's gonna be a quick one because we got a lot going on right now.
• 0:44
  SPEAKER_00: But have you ever noticed how quickly frustration rises?
• 0:48
  SPEAKER_00: The dishes weren't done, he forgot something, the kids interrupted you, plans changed.
• 0:53
  SPEAKER_00: But here's what I've learned through this is that frustration is often revealing an expectation.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, sometimes that expectation is healthy, or sometimes it's unspoken, or sometimes it's unrealistic.
• 1:05
  SPEAKER_00: But sometimes it's actually become an idol.
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  SPEAKER_00: James tells us that what causes quarrels and fights among you is it not this that your passions are at war within you?
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  SPEAKER_00: James 4-1.
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  SPEAKER_00: Conflict usually starts long before words are spoken.
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  SPEAKER_00: It starts in the heart, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: The last couple espresso shots here were teaching you about what you focus on, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: What you look for, your brain's gonna validate and look for the evidence of that.
• 1:33
  SPEAKER_00: Conflict usually starts long before words are spoken.
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  SPEAKER_00: It starts in the heart.
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  SPEAKER_00: So instead of asking, why am I so frustrated?
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  SPEAKER_00: Try asking instead, what expectation did I have?
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  SPEAKER_00: And actually, in high level wife, we train you to put off expectations.
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  SPEAKER_00: Why we do that and how we do that.
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  SPEAKER_00: But then you need to ask yourself, did I communicate it?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is it biblical?
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  SPEAKER_00: Or do I simply want life to go my way?
• 2:00
  SPEAKER_00: God often uses frustration to expose where he's inviting us to surrender.
• 2:07
  SPEAKER_00: Stuttering Stanley here.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, you know, and that's the cool thing about God is God is big enough that he invites us and wants us to bring our frustrations to him.
• 2:17
  SPEAKER_00: We don't need to perfectly package or manicure ourselves before God.
• 2:20
  SPEAKER_00: He wants our whole heart, our real heart, our authentic heart.
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  SPEAKER_00: He already knows it, anyways.
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  SPEAKER_00: Go read James 4, 1 through 10 today.
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  SPEAKER_00: Ask the Lord to reveal any expectations that are competing with his will.
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  SPEAKER_00: And remember, surrender brings peace where control never can.
• 2:38
  SPEAKER_00: This was a high level wife espresso chat.
• 2:41
  SPEAKER_00: I'll see you on the next one.