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Narcissists LOVE to make you feel like you're going CRAZY · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on beautiful folks?
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  Today we're going to be talking about why narcissist love to
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  make you feel like you're going crazy, why they take power and
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  pride in making you go crazy. If you're new here, my name is
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  Lee Hammock. I'm a self aware narcissist and
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  welcome to another episode of The Narcissist Coming.
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  I love that theme music, y'all, but I appreciate y'all being
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  here and whatnot today. That's exactly what we're
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  talking about. Why narcissists love to make you
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  feel that 5 letter word. Why they love, love, love, love
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  to make you feel like you're going crazy.
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  Before we hop deep into today's episode y'all, make sure you
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  check out my reaction channel. It's Lee actions on YouTube.
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  I do reactions, I do story time, I do subscriber emails.
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  I do all kinds of stuff on that Channel right there.
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  So make sure you do make sure to go ahead and follow it Lee dot
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  actions. But yes, the crazy talk crazy.
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  Why do narcissists love to make you feel like you're going
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  crazy? Because y'all, it's powerful.
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  It makes them feel powerful. It really does like with a
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  narcissist is making you feel like you're losing your mind
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  when you are confused, confused like they take power, they take
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  pride in it. You know what I mean?
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  That's exactly what happens. They are, they feel extremely
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  empowered in this situation to just feel as powerful as they
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  possibly can. This is how it goes.
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  This is the narcissist mindset right here.
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  And I tell people this to people all the time.
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  Like when you are dealing with a narcissist, a toxic person,
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  whoever, you have to understand this.
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  You have to remain grounded. You have to remain in your
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  reality. You have to just stay as
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  powerful as you can because they benefit from your confusion.
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  They benefit from your from the way you feel.
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  They benefit from your craziness, they benefit from it
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  y'all? So they're like, that's why I
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  tell people all the time when you feel like you're going
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  crazy, they feel like they are winning.
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  That's it right there. When you feel like you are going
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  crazy, they feel like they are winning because that's the
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  mindset. That's it.
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  That's how they feel powerful. Like your confusion, you not you
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  questioning your reality, you self gaslighting you just
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  thinking that you are the problem.
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  They win, they benefit from it. Most narcissists are going to do
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  things that benefit them in some way shape or form.
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  They just are. Is it.
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  You know, narcissism in and of itself is a selfish mindset.
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  Point blank period even not just narcissism in and of itself.
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  The disorder is just I'm I'm me. I'm me and what I think and what
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  I do is most important, right? So that's the mindset, that's
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  the mentality of so many toxic, abusive, narcissistic people.
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  And I say that to say this. You can win.
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  You can, you can win. This is what we talked about in
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  my, my, my support group called the mental healthers, right?
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  This is what we talked about, staying grounded in reality,
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  like getting clear. The clearer you are, the more
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  clarity you have, the better your life will be.
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  I promise you. That's how it goes.
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  The clearer you are, the better your life will be.
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  You. You see what I'm saying?
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  Because if they cannot keep you confused, if they can't
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  manipulate you, what, what power do they have other than being
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  maybe, maybe, maybe if the narcissist is a, you know, male
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  person and whatnot, maybe other than being bigger and stronger
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  than you, what other power do they have?
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  You know, when people resort to physical, they typically have
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  lost the emotional and mental part of they had, they've lost
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  their mental and emotional control.
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  You're not confused anymore. You're clear, you have clear
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  boundaries. You have clear, you know, if you
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  have clear boundaries, you know, you know, typically you avoid
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  narcissism in the 1st place, but this is what happens.
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  Like you're confusing you not understanding up from down left
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  from right, like you not understanding that you not
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  getting it. I promise you, promise you
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  promise you it benefits them greatly.
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  They love it. Narcissists love it.
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  I'm just being realistic. They love it like it just, and
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  some of them treat it like a big game.
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  Some of them treat this type of stuff like a big game.
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  When they're hiding your keys, when they're doing things, when
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  they're hiding things and stealing things and helping you
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  look forward, knowing that they know, knowing that they know.
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  They already know that you're not going to find it because
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  they have it in their pocket. Let's say your wallet is
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  missing. Where's my wallet at?
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  Babe, I can't find my wallet anywhere.
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  I said it right here on the table.
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  There's nobody else been in the house but being you.
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  Where's my wallet at? I don't know I'll help you look
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  for it whole time the wallet is in your back pocket.
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  You know you're just a Kiki Ken. They play these type of games
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  because they when you feel like you're going crazy, they win.
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  When you feel like you're going crazy, you reach out to your
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  friends and family members and tell them sometimes that you you
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  feel like you're going crazy. You act, you start sometimes,
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  and this is not me calling you crazy y'all sometimes you start
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  to act crazy, you start to get out of character, you start to
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  do things that you normally wouldn't do.
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  And that even benefits the narcissist, right?
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  Because if you're stalking them, like you end up stalking them or
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  following them or bugging their car record.
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  If you end up doing a lot of this stuff that you normally
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  wouldn't do, you're yelling and screaming at them on camera.
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  You become you look abusive. You haven't reactive abuse
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  episodes. They then they have it on
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  camera. They can blackmail you.
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  You're yelling and screaming at them in public.
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  They they're doing a dog muscles and trying to trigger you on
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  purpose and you look, you look like the abuser and they love
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  that. Y'all you feeling like you're
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  going crazy, you question your reality allows them to be the
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  victim. It allows them to play the
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  victim. It allows them to be in to be in
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  to stay and be steeped in victimhood.
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  And I'm just telling you that they love it.
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  They love it. Narcissistic people love it, so
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  that's why I'm just telling y'all if they can't y'all.
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  One of my most popular sayings is if I can trigger you, I can
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  control you. I created that.
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  You see somebody else saying those exact, that exact words.
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  I made that statement up like nobody has said it before.
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  But if they cannot trigger you, they cannot control you, right?
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  So they love to learn what makes you tick.
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  Even from the beginning of a relationship, narcissists love
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  to learn what makes you tick. They love to learn what sets you
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  off and makes you go a certain type of way.
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  What makes you act a certain type of way, What makes you get
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  out of character the easiest. They love the shortcuts to
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  manipulation. Tell me your deepest, darkest
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  secrets. I'll tell you mine if you show.
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  I'll tell you mine if you tell me yours.
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  And then you share and they focus on yours.
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  They don't. They don't share anything.
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  You know what I mean? They show up to you.
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  They show up to the first date in a red shirt with a red with a
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  red shirt and a red flag bib. You know what I mean?
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  With a red mask on. Sorry, I didn't see you there.
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  It's like you know how to you know how to the brides have
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  what? What do you call when you get
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  married? The what do you call it?
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  The the Ville. The Ville.
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  They show up to the first date with a red flag Ville.
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  Oh, and then they take it off. It happens, y'all, it happens.
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  I promise you. It happens to so many people, So
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  in these situations, you need to be grounded in reality, Lee.
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  How the hell do we get grounded? You keep saying, but you're not
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  giving us any tips. I hate you, Lee.
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  Why you hate me? I did nothing to you.
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  You know what I mean? In order to stay grounded, you
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  like this is the easiest way to stay grounded right here.
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  Write down the truth, y'all. Record like do I?
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  I've, I've in my support group, Y'all I tell we, we talk about
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  journaling. Of course everybody can journal.
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  You can write stuff down, but a lot, a lot of people are not
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  good at writing. But you know what?
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  Everybody has one of these video diary video journals.
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  Like you know how you can go on iPhone?
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  You can create albums on your iPhone for videos and things
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  like that. You can create.
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  I think I don't know if you can create private albums where you
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  can have a facial lock on them. Let me hit the plus button.
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  New everything you can. New album, you can create a new
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  album. I can.
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  I can create a new album on my phone.
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  It says video diary. Save it.
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  And any time you record a video, you can just add it to the video
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  diary. You can go in video diary.
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  You can, You go. You go in there, you can hit
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  add. And then I don't know, y'all can
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  y'all? Y'all can, Yeah, I'm not phone
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  savvy. I'm learning just like y'all.
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  I'm pretty sure you can add it after you record a video.
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  If you record a video, you can add it.
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  That's how you stay grounded in reality.
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  Tell yourself the truth. When things are going on, when
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  things are happening and whatnot.
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  Tell, look, tell yourself the truth.
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  I look I would just yelled and screamed at for no reason.
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  I know I didn't do anything, but my partner keeps trying to
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  convince me that I said something that I did something
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  that that I'm cheating that I'm lying, that I'm being
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  manipulated, but I know I haven't done anything wrong.
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  I just did. I just recorded a video right
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  there, y'all. So I recorded that video.
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  I'm gonna go to my phone. I'm gonna hit that video
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  yourself. The truth I see it's me having a
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  video and then you can go to Oh yeah.
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  You can hit add to album. You can click.
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  You can hit add to album and you can hit right there.
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  Now it's in the video diary. You see what I'm saying?
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  You can do, you can video diary, you can video journal and things
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  like that. You can share in my support
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  group, the mental healers, you can share in the group and
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  whatnot. Yeah.
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  It just, it just helps you stay grounded in reality because you
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  feeling crazy, you acting crazy, you thinking you're crazy.
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  It directly benefits them and takes away it strips the power
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  from you, right. So they're going to do things to
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  help keep you confused. They're going to they love it
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  when you're questioning your reality when they can gaslight
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  you right in front of your face, right, But they can gaslight you
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  and just tell you I've never had, you know, I don't use cocoa
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  butter lotion. I've never I don't, I never wear
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  cocoa butter lotion ever. This is cocoa butter lotion.
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  Y'all wait, that's that's cocoa butter lotion.
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  No, this is not this is not cocoa butter lotion.
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  It's just butter lotion. Like, goodness gracious, you're
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  crazy. You're just saying it's little
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  stuff like that. I know that sounds like a just
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  an obviously silly example, but it's little things like that to
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  have you questioning yourself. It's little things like that to
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  have you question your reality. It can start with small stuff.
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  It's not always. Yeah, gaslighting is not always
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  going to be huge. There's not always going to be
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  these big grandiose examples of gaslighting.
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  They're going to be little things about gaslighting as
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  well. They're going to be little
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  examples of gaslighting, little examples of manipulation, little
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  examples of things like that. This is part of the process of
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  healing and growing. This is part of the process of
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  being as strong and powerful as you possibly can.
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  This is part of the process of growth and healing and just
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  standing in your truth, standing in your power.
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  Video diary, video journal, do things like that.
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  I'm just telling y'all it, it can.
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  At the end of the day, it can help you out.
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  It can help you just stay strong and stay rooted in reality.
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  Because the more rooted in reality you are, the stronger
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  you are. The more clear you are, the
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  stronger you are. I'm just happy.
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  I just want y'all to be powerful, the strongest y'all
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  possibly can. Anyways, y'all, I had to hop off
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  this thing today. It's Sunday, the Ravens are
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  playing. Our next workshops are going to
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  So we're going to be doing on one-on-one on a Saturday, or one
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  on a Sunday, or one on a Friday, one on the Saturday.
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