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• Deion: Peace and bless to family. Welcome back to the volume shift. Jhalil: And if you heard part one, you already know how we talked about how dating looked today. Deion: Now we gotta go deeper. Jhalil: Cause it's not just what's happening. Deion: is why it's happening. Jhalil: Why so many people struggling to build something real? Deion: Our connections start strong and fall apart easy, fast. Jhalil: What are we avoiding about ourselves in the process? Let's get into it. Deion: How about doctors the doctor without the doctor? Jhalil: And I'm John Little, Urban Activist slash The Blacktivist. You know what's going on. Deion: And part two of this thing, man, we had to come back, you know I'm saying? Because dating today, that involves everybody. So our favorite tapped in and said, she got to jump back on this joint for the part two. So welcome back, pound cake. ⁓ Jhalil: Yeah, for sure, for sure. One of the funniest in the video, know. jaquetta: What's up, what's up, what's up? I'm Poundcake from the North Side. You already know Poundcake, make the ground shake. Part of one of the many people that's gonna be a part of this healing cartel because I'm starting something major, man. My dream is to heal the world. yeah. Jhalil: Be so... Deion: I was a dream, you know what saying? Happy you on that mission, you heard me? Jhalil: Real right, though. We need more of that shit in the world, man. jaquetta: Yes. All right. Deion: So tell us a little bit more about it, like what's going into. Jhalil: And what can we do to help you, feel me? jaquetta: Okay, so it's basically letting people understand and process their emotions. I feel like a lot of people don't understand why they feel the way they feel or why certain things make them feel the way they feel. I feel like when we get to the root of why we feel the way we feel or why it made us feel the way we feel, then we can start like ⁓ kind of pulling back some layers. But I honestly feel like Deion: Thank jaquetta: Healing the world is going to take some time, but it's more so just individually. Everybody needs their own individual treatment plan. You know, music works for people, grounding works for people, plus our things work for people. We just gotta kind of like find that individual, that individual specifically, and what kind of helps them and shapes them with understanding or feeling their emotions and what helps them. I know artistry is one. That's one of the reasons why I'm in comedy. Deion: Yeah. Jhalil: . jaquetta: because of artistry. you know, I'm make people laugh. They keep me from crying and I still cry, but you know, it's a release. I don't look at it as ⁓ like I used to look at it. I used to look at it as a weak emotion, but it's actually a cleanse. And when we start looking at it ⁓ as a cleanse and I think we'll do it more and we'll have a lot more people be able to express and stop holding it in because, you know, a lot ⁓ of emotions, they try to dictate. ⁓ who you are because of your emotions. ⁓ Jhalil: Yeah, especially with our folks, you know, like... Deion: So, jaquetta: Yes. Jhalil: You can't be angry, can't be emotional, you can't be this, you can't be that. Only the shit that they suggest. So yeah, it's just here to change that, you feel me? And we with you. jaquetta: that in. You see what I'm saying? ⁓ I to change this because it feels so good to be loved. And I'm always going to be a goddess of love and a warrior of love because I feel like if I let this world turn me cold, then they've They've won. Somebody got to come across me and be like, damn, it's proof that motherfuckers really is sterile. Motherfuckers is really love. Like people are intentional. Deion: So, jaquetta: It's people out here that don't want nothing from me, even if that, you know, even if I do, I just want people to know it's still genuine good people out here. It bugs the fuck out of me when I hear guys or I hear women vice versa talk down about each other, right? And it's just like, damn, well, I'm right here. I can't say that. you know what I mean? It's like, can't, it's just so hard to explain. But yeah, we got to change it. We can start with that. Deion: and I'm going to be the importance of of importance of importance of importance of the importance of Jhalil: It ain't like a one size fits all type situation. And that's when you know us as a people now. jaquetta: Yeah, yeah, and I feel like our people do that a lot. Our people cast, I feel like guys and girls, women and men, cast the residue of the bitches they dealt with onto everybody else, insane for the females. And it's like, bro, everybody is not like that. But you gotta be careful, because sometimes you can attract the same energy in different people. Deion: Okay. ⁓ jaquetta: But that's because you ain't took the time to take care of yourself. Jhalil: Exactly, that's what it is. You get what you put out. That's the number one thing right there. Like, you're gonna keep getting the same thing you put out. You don't want to change nothing. How you expect something to change? That's crazy talk. jaquetta: Eww. Deion: You know, in the vein of the combo and transitioning right to the segment is like, trauma dating trauma. Like, what y'all think about that? jaquetta: Well, ⁓ you could go first because I was just talking. So you go first and then I come. Jhalil: I don't know with me, I'm always been like a happy-go-lucky type boy, you feel me? It's time for seriousness and it's time to just be yourself. I always felt comfortable with being myself. I'm outgoing and shit. I do my thing and I expect the same from the other person that I'm dealing with. So my energy that I put out. That shit is pure most of the time, you feel me? So I ain't never really run into like all these fucked up situations and I ain't grow up with all this trauma and all that. Like, yeah, I'm from the projects and this and that, but I ain't gonna lie, mom dudes held it down. you feel me? Like the shit that she told me and she put in me was like that niggas was destined for greatness. Like I always believed that and felt that. So that's always what I put out and got back. So you feel me? jaquetta: and Jhalil: So when I look on social media, I be heard. I'm like, damn, we can't keep doing all this East Coast, West Coast life. Because at the end of the day, for black men, black women are only allies. For black women, y'all only allies, black men, or you feel me? And vice versa. Don't nobody else really, you know, they want to grab what they can grab from our culture, but they don't truly support it. You feel me? And that's what I get out of it. jaquetta: Shut out, shut out the room. Deion: Okay. you jaquetta: Yeah. Jhalil: So like you said, I'm here to change that too. That's what we on. That's why we shift the volume on all that. jaquetta: Volume said, yeah, real rick. Deion: But like trauma, trauma being like you not even having your dad, right? And like now you dating and that gotta be inclusive and it's probably not at the forefront, but it's inclusive because it happened, right? And so that's a part of your trauma. These traumas are Jhalil: Mm-hmm. Mm. Deion: maybe a little quieter and not really so loud, you know what mean? But when you're getting into it with other people, right, other humans, you know I mean? And they might got their traumas. And traumas is like, I'm talking about, bro, like, like everything could be going good with y'all dating and everything. then, you know, somebody throw a monkey wrench in the drum because of how Jhalil: Thank you. Deion: you know, they might have got hurt before. You know what saying? So, so if you got hurt before, it's like you might want to do the hurting first now before you get hurt again. You see what I'm saying? So you got a little stuff like that. That's kind of more quieter, but it exists. You know what I'm saying? So I know, I know with you, you like, I ain't never really, you know what saying? But if you think deep about it, Jhalil: and jaquetta: Hmm Deion: Like little arguments, little beefs, why y'all broke up. Like little shit like that, you feel me? Like that could be inclusive in the trauma, dating trauma type shit and the reason why it might have not worked. Jhalil: you Yeah. jaquetta: get that. I get that a lot. ⁓ No, because I dealt on both sides of the fence, it's like with women, we hold a lot of our trauma. We hold a lot of our trauma, but we kind of like suppress it and it like unfolds into the new relationship instead of, you know, it kind of peeks through in a new relationship. Man, I feel like... I could tell a man when he's very traumatic, a lot of real traumatic men can't stay with one woman. They just can't. A lot of men that has a lot of trauma, it's hard for them to deal with just one woman. I don't know it could be from, again, like you say, they were hurt and now they want to do the hurting first because it's an ego thing that plays into it. But I know women can survive and live. Deion: Thank . jaquetta: and they hire self like in a emotion-wise and love still in trauma form. But when men do it, it more so I think it come off as sex. Jhalil: Yeah, that shit is definitely harder. I can imagine that shit being harder because when men deal with trauma, bro, you know it's trauma from, it could be like you said, it could be from your pop not being around the family structure. It could be relationships and not being able to hold those relationships, even like friendships and all that. Like that's a relationship too, like with your friends and all that. ⁓ Deion: Okay. jaquetta: it. Jhalil: If you got all this traumatic stuff going on, then life is already stressful. So it's like some people that would force a person not to stay connected with one person or be distant. Deion: Okay. jaquetta: seen it. I've seen it, you know, like even even with me because I've been dating and I've dealt with people that I've dated and you could you could see the trauma on them. But it's just me being I guess an empathic creature is like I look at it and I see a project. I don't really look at it and see trauma. I see ⁓ I want to help this person. I want to kind of heal this person and that's where my a lot of my trauma come from. trying to heal the motherfuckers that can't really or not ready to heal themselves. So now I'm left with trying to heal me, licking my own wounds because me trying to, you be everybody motherfucking therapist. Deion: Mm Mm hmm. Jhalil: Alright. Thank Deion: Yeah, for sure. Like, I think the number one trauma for men is like getting cheated on. You know what I'm saying? Like, that's probably the hardest get back from that. You know what I'm saying? Because at a point, we were vulnerable. You ain't never been cheated on before. You ain't thinking about it. jaquetta: Mmm. Mm-hmm. Deion: So you just carrying it like you would normally carry it naturally. So if you love this girl, and I'm gonna say girl, cause most times it was when we was teens, right? Like, you know what I'm saying? jaquetta: Mm-hmm. But sorry to cut you off. I just, you know what's crazy? How a girl can go through so many motherfucking frogs, right? And still be optimistic about love and finding the next one. Right? What y'all would do, y'all would come across one frog that will fuck up the rest of, that will fuck up for everybody, all the other frogs in the pie. Why is that? Why do it take just one fucking heartbreak for y'all to just be like, yeah, no, I'm never doing this again. Jhalil: It's because niggas be loving hard, you feel me? It's hard, like hard from the rip. It's like, with a man and woman, I don't know like what the time period is, but like with us, it takes some time to really fall in love and like really to be like locked in. So then once you get to that point where you're locked in and then that shit change, it change everything. And it's like that should have had you like redetermining if it was from you. If it was like how you are, it's like you lose yourself at a point. Once you build that love and then, you know, it's kind of different. jaquetta: Cuz it's like... Deion: And then like you equate like a lot of masculine type stuff like so the bros going going geek on you. You know what saying? The bros going like talk so crazy to a point is like, it's almost like a motherfucker saying like, you can't hold your castle down. You feel what I'm saying? Like you ain't the man, you let a woman like do this to you. You feel what I'm saying? It's like, but that ain't the case. You feel me? Because anybody could get cheated on. You feel what I'm saying? Like it don't make you no less of a man. Jhalil: It's the ego shit, bro. Like, we don't even talk about that shit to the bros, like, you feel me? Like, we don't really just, you know, bro, such as like... Deion: You get what I'm saying? jaquetta: It actually is. Jhalil: That's kind of hard for us to even, you know, open up in that manner. Deion: And I'll tell you too, like to give that much early on, like you really put, and I'm a Capricorn, so like you took that trust, I don't get trust back. Like, you know what mean? Like once you cross that line, you know I mean? And I gave you the utmost, like, you know what I'm saying? I put the, I put everything in your hand and then you, like, I remember I was a punk, right? And I thought I had like one of the. Jhalil: Yeah. Deion: the baddest little Jones in the hood, right? And I remember like, I'm in love, like love songs, everything. hear me? Darnell Jones, the whole shebang, you heard me? Like, you know what I'm saying? Like, every day, like singing to them Jones. And she was from the block. Jhalil: Yeah Deion: You know what mean? So I walked to the top of the block one time and I seen her with a little nigga. You know what mean? Like a little, like, it kind of like a short guy, like, you know what mean? I don't want to say midget, but like, yeah. You know what saying? And they fucked me up, because I'm like, like what? Like, you feel what I'm saying? Like, so that. That crushes you as a man, bro. Like, you feel me? Early on like that. And at a young age, you don't really got nobody to really talk to, you feel me? Like, mama might rub your back and say these bitches ain't shit or some shit like that, you feel me? But it don't resolve, it don't resolve the hurt though. You feel me? And then every day, I'm talking about every time I got. Jhalil: Yeah jaquetta: ⁓ So that means, so that means me. Yeah, so that means y'all carry that. Y'all carry that into adulthood. Deion: I got like seer and shit. You know what mean? Like, and I'm hurt like that. Like you little bitch. Like I'm that hurt. Like you get what I'm saying? But at the same time it's like, hindsight what I grew to learn and now I'm accepted to it is like we all got our journey. We all got our paths and shit, right? So I'm locked in. Jhalil: ⁓ yes. Deion: and she could have been locked in to a certain extent but at the same time she had a little wiggle room to where it's though you know what saying like she was still you know Jhalil: Thank Deion: accepting applications, I should say. You get what I'm saying? But also too, like she had her, like probably her... Jhalil: You lose. Deion: like her thing, you feel me? Like her type, like that she like, you know what mean? Like a nigga that was probably her height. You know what I'm saying? I don't fucking know, but I be thinking about all the good shit to not make me feel the type of way so that I could move on. You feel what I'm saying? And I ain't really. And I ain't even really moved one month for real because like, you feel me? Like, that shit carry doing forever for real. Like now I'm looking over my shoulder, like, you feel me? And I messed up a relationship like that. Cause I'm like, bitch, I'm like, I want you to be super honest. Then she was super honest. Then I was like, man, no, no. jaquetta: Yeah Jhalil: couldn't take you. Deion: Like, no, like we go into the movies like, I'm like, bitch, you looking at these niggas like, you know what saying? I was that type wrong. You feel me? Like, but that's what it get. You get me? Know what I'm saying? Like when a man get, you know the definition of salty in Philly, like you salty. Like that is not a thing you could just bounce back from. Being salty, depending on how salty you are. Jhalil: Yeah! Deion: And that's another thing too we can equate with the nowaday. Because people don't get that same embarrassment. That embarrassment back in the day used to make us change. You get what I'm saying? jaquetta: Yeah, yeah, that is true. Like now it's okay to be fucking played on, keeping it P or keeping it player or you know, and then these niggas don't even keep it player. Cause it's like, if you got a sneak, that's not keeping it player. If people are like, yeah, like if you keeping it player, you keeping it player. Everybody know about everybody and everybody playing they part. Deion: Yeah. Jhalil: Yeah, that's bitchin'. Like, I ain't gonna lie, you cheatin' the game. jaquetta: I hate when the motherfuckers be trying to act like they keeping the play and they pillow talking and they doing it wrong and they causing a whole bunch of fucking confusion. Deion: But all of that stuff be like manipulation so that the wrong could stay the wrong. You feel me? The same thing like how we like overlook anything and then put snitching at the top of the fucking totem pole. Like that really matter. You get what I'm saying? Like we ain't playing a game. We playing a game we ain't supposed to be playing. You feel me? And then we gonna put snitching at the highest. jaquetta: Yeah. Right. Deion: The same thing like when Jay was like, I don't respect the, what do you say? I don't respect the shooter. No, he said, I respect the shooter. Not the one that like, that's the same thing. Like niggas respect the nigga who doing the cheating versus the victim. You get what I'm saying? jaquetta: person is getting cheated on, that's facts. don't do it. There people that's like that. They'll cheat first before I get cheated. Like what? Deion: So long. Jhalil: Thank Yeah, you playing the game wrong. Like, you feel that? I just, that don't make sense. Deion: But that's what I'm saying, jaquetta: I just feel like this, right? Because again, the hurt, you know, everybody experienced that pain and that hurt before. I think I'm the complete opposite. I don't want to cause that pain intentionally. Know what I mean? Like, granted, I know if I'm a cheat because I got to open my legs to receive it. But I got to know what type of mental, what mental place I'm in. Deion: Really? jaquetta: for me to say, let this other nigga enter my body. Like, do I feel alone? Do I feel like, you know, I got a man, but at the same time I'm alone in the house. Like, you come in, I don't even feel you, you don't feel me. It's distance, we two ships passing in the night. And then, you know, I bump into a motherfucker just, you know, just having a good time and the motherfucker is giving me any and everything and talking to me and doing all the shit that I really want from you. Yeah. Deion: Okay. jaquetta: could go home to you but if I go home to you you want some you could be on some possible weird shit don't want to be bothered or not even near and then was like I'm feeling good this nigga looking good You know, and it's just like damn that's why I feel like I feel like cheating it takes two I feel like for cheating it takes two it takes a motherfucker to cause that like the kind of like push you and navigate you towards cheating you got some people out here that just like to cheat but you got some motherfuckers that really never they really didn't want to cheat and honestly just did it because they were they felt like They they got what they was missing Deion: you Jhalil: Alright bro, motherfucker leave that cancel door open. Like what you expect? Deion: You know, You know why a lot of people don't have religious conversation? Because they fear that it'll move them off of that, off of what they believe. You get what I'm saying? So a Muslim versus a Christian, right? If they're not strong on their drone, they are opt out by being defensible. You know what I'm saying? Quoting what they know or whatever like that. But they ain't really trying to get into that conversation because... jaquetta: Mm. Mm-hmm. Deion: It can startle your shit. It can fuck with the balance of how you believe in all of that. And that's the same thing with straight men not having gay conversations. You get what I'm saying? You think it's going to change you? You're not real sturdy on who you are. And so I say all of that to say, you got questioned in your relationship, jaquetta: Because once you know, know! RAAAGH Deion: Like that, like if once upon a time somebody can come around and then challenge like how you feel about your mate, your joint ain't that strong. You know what saying? So to me at that point, if you not, if you going, if you not being honest with yourself, you not going to reveal that. And that's, that's the thing. You feel what I'm saying? Cause we could be in something. Jhalil: Ehhhh jaquetta: You Jhalil: Okay. Deion: We don't know that we not compatible yet until we get in. Now we doing it. Now there's like, oh, a lot of stuff like I would have to make you do it. jaquetta: Mmm. Deion: just to fit me. So then you... jaquetta: And that's where the cheating come the fucking at because what? Why do I make you do all of this shit just to fit me? At the end of the day, nobody knows how we want to be loved. I can only love you how I know how to love. But if you teach me how to love you, I can't. But why do I got to do all of this, that and the third tap dance and all that in the rain for you to understand? Deion: But it's like, why you asking those questions when you should be asking like, why am I with this person? If it don't align with your genre, then to me, like I ended up being in a lot of relationships just because of how I valued myself. jaquetta: Mm-hmm. Mmm. Deion: but the stuff I really wanted because I thought my value was so low, I didn't go to achieve it. You get what I'm saying? Like niggas just rather stay in the hood with the hoes than to go downtown with the women with the suits on. Cause it's more intimidating. There's more stuff you gotta be responsible. You gotta hold your dick. You get what I'm saying? You got to hold your finances. You got to be more, you get what I'm saying? So niggas notice already. jaquetta: ⁓ Jhalil: Thank Deion: So I'm a play in the little kid yard. I ain't gonna go in the big dog yard because my value's low though. And that's the piece that we'd be missing. We don't go back into ourselves to be like, you know what? I was in that fucked up relationship because of my shit. You know what I'm saying? Because like, if you're not highly about yourself, like that's why I'm saying. If you're not strong on your religion, anybody could come talk. Jhalil: you jaquetta: Yeah. No, yeah, yeah. Deion: They talk and then your beliefs switch. If you like that, you shouldn't be in no drones. jaquetta: No, that's a f***ing- Thanks. Deion: And that's the real cheating. You cheating me and you cheating yourself. You cheating time, you cheating life. jaquetta: So, we... Deion: You know what saying? That's the real cheating. Like, that's how we cheat in each other, by lying and doing all of these things. You get what I'm saying? Because otherwise, like, you'll find your mate and you can do your damn thing. But that brings me into it, like, you know, a lot of people want love, but they don't want to do the work. jaquetta: Mm-hmm. Fix. Fix. Deion: Now think it comes from if you're not willing to do the work, I think that's not your person. Cause if it's your person, you gonna want student work! jaquetta: That's a fact, that's a fact. That is a fact. That is a fact for real. Cause I'm always the fighter. I ain't gonna lie. I've always been a fighter, but I also know when to surrender. Deion: But as you getting into Jones, cause you don't want to be lonely because of how you viewing yourself or like, you know what mean? Like I was thinking about it the other day. I'm like, damn, do men take whoever want them versus women picking who they want? jaquetta: Mmm. Jhalil: That's a good question. I ain't gonna lie, lot of niggas definitely do take what they can get, bro. Like, real shit. jaquetta: Ready? That's the Deion: And you know, didn't that really make it inclusive and why a lot of dudes like that cheat? Cause if you won't get it like that and you get the attention in the club, you're gonna be out. You ain't thinking twice about your skinny cus. Like, you like, this is hot and she want me? Like, yeah. Jhalil: or whatever. jaquetta: No bullshit, no bullshit. That's why I love men with good dick management. I really do. Because it's like, are the, it's just something about those men that got the, like, yeah, I know you want it, but I ain't gonna give it to you. Jhalil: We're have to be. ⁓ I play the game. I ain't with all that. If I'm cool, I'm cool. You can't just buy in. You can't just try to give me what you think I want and all that. Deion: Thank You jaquetta: Get here because I ain't gonna lie. Just like it's a turn off, just like it's a turn off for y'all men to see an easy woman. It's a turn off for women to see an easy nigga. Like you just easy as fuck. Like you ain't, like damn bro, like is you cool? Like do you get some M's? You don't get nothing. Like yo, I don't know. It's just something about being around a man that can control his dick. Like it's just like, in the picture mine at ease too, because it's like, I know he ain't on it. Like even when we was friends, he wasn't on it. So I know we, if this becomes potential, whatever, I know I'ma be in a comfortable place. Like to be, you know, I ain't going at the question trip. Deion: Okay. Jhalil: Yeah, but I know like, it's like 80 % of us, gotta grow to that mentality. You feel me? Cause at a certain age, it's like, that shit is practice. Like you gotta get your game up. Like you ain't just gonna be able to just dodge everything. Like that shit takes some. jaquetta: That was a moan. Deion: Yeah. jaquetta: No, but I get it too, cuz, cuz y'all, y'all, I mean, not all y'all, but majority of the men, y'all should start, start working early. So I be feeling like, okay, y'all gotta get y'all fuck on. Cuz it's like, it's like at the certain, ay, I mean, niggas is not eating healthy, we gon' keep it a bean. Y'all, you feel me? Like, you, ⁓ nine times out of ten, y'all shit, y'all need. Jhalil: Yeah, that's cause niggas don't be eating healthy and all that shit. Deion: So jaquetta: Y'all need blood pressure flow. We just like you can say our shit drop, but we can get it wet. And I mean, if it's dry, we can get it wet either way. We ain't got to worry about our shit getting hard or soft. And it's like, now I get the whole jest of it because it's like damn y'all. If y'all got good, maybe a good 40 and some change years before y'all should just stop dropping. keep dropping. Unless. Jhalil: Great. early. Deion: You know, they say, ⁓ jaquetta: Unless you drink your water, take your vitamins, get you some Seymour's, exercise maybe half an hour a day, you'll be good. Keep that blood circulating. Jhalil: Move away. Deion: You know that you gotta work hard and all of these things, right? But now it's like we discovering like it ain't really about working hard. It's about like what you working hard at. You feel me? And in the same vein, right? With men is like. jaquetta: Mm-hmm. Jhalil: Mm. Deion: Do the quality over the quantity. Jhalil: Yyyyy Deion: Because we don't even know if we ain't fuck all these bitches that our drone would have lasted at longer in age. It's not just about what we eating, but all of that stuff. You feel me? Like, super duper masturbating. You get what I'm saying? Like all of that contribute to ED. You get what I'm saying? jaquetta: Thank you. Jhalil: Bro, shit, bro. It's our vitality. That's our life force. jaquetta: No, but you know what? That's a double edged sword too because that roll shit, I just found out, Jhalil: Yeah, that shit take away and prior. Are you all of them, man? jaquetta: There's so many, it's so many nerve. It's so many nerve and there's over a hundred thousand nerve endings in the clitoris, right? And now that they popularized this rose, I start, you know me, I'm a conspiracy theorist. I start thinking deep. The rose popped out around fucking COVID. Motherfuckers is in the house, vitamin deficiency and all that, bitches is home. Niggas is out working, trying to figure out. Deion: Stimulation, number one. jaquetta: was what? this was just zapping, zapping, zapping, zapping. I ain't gonna lie, I did a social experiment with myself. I did it, I did it, I did it, right? I got the rules, we grown. I got the, I did the rules, not the rules, because I can't do the rules. Unfortunately, I can't do the rules. I did setups. But I did it for like a week. And then when I got a a real sensation from a man, from a man mouth, it took me forever. It took me forever and I hated that for him. Deion: No, but that's that's that that right there is Edie That's that's what he did for me Jhalil: Niggas can't compete with no machine, like, especially no machine from China. ⁓ jaquetta: No, it ain't even about... This is what I'm saying. It's not about the computer and the machine. It's about... It's about... It's about, right, that's what I'm getting to. It's about the constant vibration on your clitoris, on your nerve, and it kinda kills the stimulation part of your clitoris. That's why they say masturbating or any type of vibration constantly, because sex toys was accidentally invented for mental health. Like back in like the early 17, Deion: Yeah. you Jhalil: And. ⁓ jaquetta: 17, I want to say 17 to 1800, 16 to 1800s. The vibrator, the vibrator started for the orgasm to help release mental health. The like women that were stressed, depressed, they start a doctor wind up doing like a study or something, wind up creating a machine where they orgasm and they realize after the orgasm, Jhalil: That's crazy, never knew that. jaquetta: they did the study and seeing that the woman was less susceptible to stress and she was better, her skin was, it was all geared around men. Jhalil: And wait, wait, who was it like created by and like who was using it? Was it like Europeans and all that? jaquetta: Okay, so of course they put the Europeans at the forefront of everything. Jhalil: And no, look, and I'm only asking that because in those times, bro, like them motherfuckers wasn't even showering. They wasn't doing none of that anyways. jaquetta: Facts, we taught them how to clean themselves. Facts, facts, they didn't know nothing about how they move. Deion: Okay. Jhalil: So it's like, who about the, like, which man in they right mind about to, like, go in the swamp? Yeah, man, come on, bro, like. jaquetta: But what you gotta realize and what I had to realize too is stink stink to us because of what we eat and consume and what we ate now. Back then, if we didn't have deodorant, deodorant didn't exist, Vaginal, shit didn't exist, stink didn't stink. If you get what I'm saying, if that makes sense, stink didn't stink. Jhalil: Yeah. Deion: Thanks. Jhalil: I don't know, like in our culture, I think that shit always was a thing, bro, like, Hadrian. Deion: Yeah. jaquetta: No, but our culture, our culture, we had oils, had shea butter, had scents, had frankincense, we had incense, we had pound mile of oil, we had all the shit that the Morris, the Morris Empire is brought over here and through the trade, you know what mean? Like, we had a lot of stuff that kept us. Jhalil: Where has anybody been around since? jaquetta: Yeah, I mean, when them Europeans was dying off wherever they was at and came over here to try to figure out what the fuck was going on over here and you know, got our practices and stuff. That's when it was like, yeah, but we always had holistic approaches. You know, the motherfuckers was dying off by diseases because they want to fuck on animals and no shade, but that's just what it is. Anytime you turn around, it's something getting sprayed by an animal. We don't do bestiology. It's not in our nature. Deion: you Jhalil: Hey. And now. jaquetta: We've been in jungles and shit with monkeys you've seen. You've never seen a half a motherfucker coming out of a crate. But the people, the people, they play like that. I don't play like that. Motherfuckers be coming out with four arms and three eyes and six feet tall. But. Jhalil: Yeah, they get down with it. It's crazy. Deion: But yeah, like, finish that point on the vibrate and that stimulation and all of that. jaquetta: ⁓ yeah, I got it. I got got to I got to find out who the doctor was. I seen the study. It came across me because I do my own. I educate myself. Self educated. I'll be fine and shit. And I look up into it. I look into it. But when I come back on here, because I will be back. We were talking about that. I'll let you know that the actual what that. But yeah, like you said, vibrate in the vibrator. That's like a female form of ED for real, for real. And if bitches keep doing that role shit, ain't nobody going to be you not going to be able to orgasm. You're not gonna be able to get that orgasmic feeling. And I'm a stem cell. Jhalil: Is that the reason like a lot of females be like, yo, we don't need no niggas? You think that contributes to some of that? jaquetta: It's not that. Let me tell you something. It ain't nothing like a natural scent and aroma and feel of a man. Fuck that road. I mean, it's cool. It stimulates. But to be held, to feel the smell and the strength and the aroma of a man, I don't give a fuck if that road's vibrating 90 miles per hour. It's not going to be a quiver. Jhalil: Yeah ⁓ jaquetta: It's not gonna be equivalent to the smell and the scent and the feel of a real man. I'm sorry, it's not. It don't do no justice. Me, cause like after my orgasm, after my orgasm. Deion: It definitely is a different drone though. jaquetta: After my orgasm, I wanna feel muscles. I wanna feel arms around me, wrap the fuck around me. Like, yeah, it feel good, but after a while, that shit don't work. Right, that shit is a dumb ass. Deion: You just get immune, jaquetta: Yeah, you just shit. Now, it used to be like, ⁓ my God, yes. Now it's like, all right, bitch, go to sleep. Wake up with this shit still in her hand. Like, yeah, all right, cool. Like, it's... Jhalil: Like drugs or something, right? Deion: Yeah, shit like a addiction and shit like that, you feel me? jaquetta: Blaine, no. But because of my situation, it's definitely a healthier alternative. That way you won't have a lot of soul ties and a whole lot of unnecessary bullshit. do. But after a while, you know, it's good to just practice some form of restraint. I mean, some form of restraint. Yeah. Deion: I'm gonna ask you right? What ⁓ What's datin'? jaquetta: Man, I don't think we, our definition of dating is like the YT definition of dating. And I'm gonna say that because I feel like our people are the urban people rather. Let me say the urban people, they don't date. Motherfuckers talk, wind up becoming baby mom and baby dad. I think we skip the dating era. I don't think we do that at all. Like the only time I really... Deion: But what would that be though, like what would that be? jaquetta: What, dating? Deion: BLEUGH Jhalil: Yeah, like what's dating to you basically? Like what you see is this. jaquetta: Okay, so they into me is pretty much quality time. I don't give a fuck about the police. It's the person. Deion: Is that quality time with one person or as many? Like I don't be understanding dating. I don't get it. jaquetta: So look, so look, so me, me personally, right? I'm gonna just speak from me. ⁓ when I date, I like to date one person at a time. I'm not big on dating multiple people only because my attention span ain't like that. I, ⁓ I struggle with remembering sometimes and I'm getting better with it, but I struggle with remembering sometimes and it's like, sometimes it's like, I just don't want to pour. Deion: Alright. jaquetta: my energy into so many people at once. I rather just pour it into, you know what mean, one person at time. Like we date like a couple months. All right, cool. If that don't work out, then I'll chill and then I'll date again. I like to spread my shit out. I really don't think... ⁓ Deion: See how you keep using that word? I'm in my head, I'm like, what the fuck is that? But you feel me? It's almost like a key word, a catchy word that women just use, but you keep stopping. I stop and be like, yo, what is a date? What the fuck do that mean? You feel me? Because if I stop there on Kensington, the woman gonna walk up to my car and say, yo, you trying to get a date? jaquetta: What? No, that's not. ⁓ no. Well, they call it. That's that's that's basically slang for them. That's not no fucking that's not the real definition. Now, if you want to say, all right. So if you want to say that because, know, I had shorty, I had shorties on the stall. I had shorties on the stroll. And they used to be like, ⁓ bitch, I got a client. Right. The bitch never did home care. So what kind of client? Deion: I'm thinking, all right, like, you know what I'm saying? Yeah! Jhalil: Yeah Deion: Hey! Jhalil: Anyway. jaquetta: Know what I'm saying? They take that and use that as slang. That is slang. So, all right. So go back, to go back, Dr. Buck, to go back to what you were saying, because I'm sobering up now. I'm getting back. Dating, dating typically is when two people get together and they, you know, they go out and they get to know one another. It could be from a day to a couple of weeks to a month. Some people date for years. Deion: Yeah, and that's why I'm saying it sounds like that. Good. jaquetta: It don't have no cap on it. Understand what I'm saying? Dating to me is pretty much getting to know somebody to see if they're a potential suit. If they're a potential suit to continue to date or they are a potential suit to continue to be like, know, to possibly be someone that I have sex with because I don't want to have sex with multiple people. Like it could be multiple reasons why people date. I just know a date to me is quality time. I don't give a fuck where it's at. It could be in the park. It could be at a movie. It could be at a restaurant. It could be on the roof of a fucking mail truck. Like it doesn't matter to me. A date is when you spend quality time with a person, you get to know them and have meaningful conversation, not surface level shit, like meaningful conversation. Like when I leave you and you leave me, you like. Deion: All right, and that, is there a level up from it? That sounds like, because I look at the profiles and they say dating with purpose or with intention. Is that like a level up? jaquetta: from dating. Okay, so when you see when you see dating with purpose of dating with attention motherfuckers is dating to find a person motherfuckers is dating because they they're not dating the date They're not just looking to date go out on date and spend money and fuck they want to actually be with somebody they want to Deion: All right, so how do you think like, all right, is it a picking thing? Like, all right, let me ask a couple of questions to a bunch of niggas. Cause you gotta think about it, we're dealing in social media now. So the options is like, you know what mean? Like, if you... jaquetta: broad. Well, I mean, everybody but everybody choosing though. For what I'm saying, like everybody have to like, everybody have options, everybody choosing. So it's like, yeah, it is a broad spectrum. But I feel like now, to be honest with you, it is over saturated. But everybody can choose you can pick and get what you want. It's not like it was like damn. You know, I can't get this, I can't get that. You pretty much can get whatever you want out here and there. So everybody... Deion: So that's what I'm saying. So like, if I'm saying I'm dating, but I got like five skinnies, you know what saying? Like, am I picking through them to see like, if I can narrow them down to just one? jaquetta: But is what you're dating for though baby is an individual is an individual saying for you though. Like I was the date. Let me just say this. I'm dating right now. I'm dating just for the experience. Just for the plot. I'm dating just to have fun. I'm dating. I want to go out just have fun. Have a good time. You know, I don't have no. Jhalil: Is it a preference for how to Deion: You see how this made up an extra jawn like. So now ⁓ if I'm dating with intentions and you dating for fun, like how? jaquetta: that ice cube! Cause it's not, it don't have to be kept. This is what I'm saying to you. Dating don't have to be kept. Everybody, everything, can be with your intentions. Like my intentions to date, my intention to date is to have a good time and have fun. Your intention to date could be to see your potential wife. Yeah, I mean, he not dating, but you know what I mean? Like it's like, even in the marriage, even in the marriage, you still got to date. Deion: No, parents. This is meh. This is meh. Jhalil: So do you keep it real, like? Yeah, bro. Shit, we talked about that the last time, because it's like, kind of see like, right, so and like with your question, bro, and what you said is like, all right, so if you dating for fun, do you tell bro? Like, all right, listen, I'm just dating for fun right now. jaquetta: You wouldn't start off with that. All right. So for instance, all right, y'all here, y'all here. We want to date. Bang. Boom. Here I go. All right. So the guy right here, his name Maynard. I don't know why Maynard came to my camera. Deion: Thank Jhalil: He that's a corny ass name. Deion: You He said he told. Jhalil: ⁓ Dial, I wouldn't even say that. That's my name. Call me Money. Something like that. ⁓ jaquetta: ⁓ What, maynard? Deion: biggest star making up anything. jaquetta: So, all right, all right, all right, so boom. talk, talk to, you gotta talk, so we on a date, this me talking to you, you gotta respond to me, right? Right? All right. All right, so, hey man, all right, I'm happy we finally got to meet each other and- Deion: Right. Right. Jhalil: Thanks. My fault is the name bro. I'm off the brown. That's the funniest shit. jaquetta: Look! Alright, alright, alright. DM may know, ⁓ my god, we finally get to meet each other. Like, we finally get to vibe and chill. How you doing? Deion: You get no response with that, man. pretty decent, like, how are you? jaquetta: I'm good, I'm good. So real quick before we even get into anything, I just want to know, like, what shit, like, are you seeing anybody? Are you dating to date, like, to have fun? Or are you dating to get into a relationship, to be more serious? Because you're a respond, but I'm dating just to have fun. I'm doing a lot of you know, internal and, you know, awareness with myself. And I just like to, you know, have the masculine energy area now and then around that, you know, go to a movie, go to a park, go hiking or whatever the case may be. You know, that's what I'm dating for. What are you dating for? And that's that. You can lie, you can lie, you know what I'm Deion: Thank So right. So right. I don't, listen, this is what happens. Like if I don't want to lose you and I do dig you a little bit, I'ma go ahead with that, but it's not going to be real. It's not going to like have nothing, cause it don't align. So yeah, I'll play along with you and have fun with you, but in the back of my mind, I'm like, this is John, you know what saying? jaquetta: you may not use you use you special because why why even do all that what huh you see what I'm saying that's what that's hold up hold up but that's where that's where the internal shit come from no that's what I'm saying motherfuckers gotta work on themselves because if a person coming to you with intention good intention visibly let you know why run game or why do some weird shit in your mind Deion: I'm just telling you what happened. Jhalil: Once the shit don't link, I'm good. Deion: Right. All right, so do you just let me go? If I say that, all right, well, I'm dating with intentions. You wanna have fun, I don't think we should match. You just gonna let me go? jaquetta: I understand. understand. was a pleasure meeting you. You're a great job. ⁓ Deion: What the fuck you just call me? Jhalil: You made me. ⁓ jaquetta: Look, yeah, you're a good guy. Yeah, you're a nickname all that look cuz listen Deion: You fucking, you fucking me up with the babes, Terran! Jhalil: Yeah. See, and that's gonna make a nigga fuck with you more, cause he gonna be bad, like, you feel me? So it's like, that shit is a strange junk. Cause it's like, man, like, I don't know, bro. That's why, man, dating really is that confusing to men. Cause like. jaquetta: Blast! Listen, comes down with the person in hand, It really do. Because if you are a good person, if you're a cool person, I'm saying that you're not. But if you're a cool person and you understand what are you here for, if you got clarity with yourself, it clears the confusion. Like, I'm here today just to have fun. Two years ago, I was in a relationship. wasn't, know, things didn't really work out, but we were cool. We were good friends, you know? And I just want to, you know, just date, just to have some good time, just to be around some masculine energy and, you know, not worry about no bullshit, you know? If a man can't meet me on that, what's wrong with saying, damn shorty, look, I fuck with that, but I'm dating to find my wife. You know what mean? You a good vibe, you fool and all, but I'm dating to find my wife. Damn, all right. And it'll be an Erykah Badu moment. I guess I'll see you next lifetime. But don't sit up there and be like... Jhalil: Okay. Deion: No, no, like if you got a turkey and like, you know what I'm Like I'm looking at this shit. I'm like, oh, she just wanted to work. Right. jaquetta: Again, again that come from a selfish place, Bach. That come from a selfish place. That you don't have no good inten- That's not a good intention. You're doing something to benefit you. Deion: Well, what the fuck is I'm dating for fun? Where? Listen to me. But listen, where do dating for fun and entertainment, what is that? That's your preference. Jhalil: Yeah, but wait, before you time, let me time in. I believe that like a date should be just for fun. Like I'm never going, like if I was single, I'm not dating a fine my person. Cause just like we talked about it, bro, just when you ready for shit, that don't mean it's going to come. It happened when it's supposed to happen. So if it's like, yo, I'm dating for fun too. Shorty dating for fun. If she thorough, I'm thorough. This shit pop and cool. It's just going to automatically or gradually go up. jaquetta: No, that's- It's going in. Jhalil: But if I throw all that, ⁓ well, yeah, I'm looking for my future wife. The same thing how niggas do to get the turkey. Like, she might be like, ⁓ well, listen, let me get, like, you feel me? And leave anything open. jaquetta: Yeah, yeah, yeah. Deion: Listen, listen, listen, what I'm telling y'all is like, even though I know I'm going snitch, I'm still gonna go with my bed. You get what I'm saying? That's what we dealing with, y'all. ⁓ jaquetta: So, all right, so let me me ask you this book. Let me ask you this. What is what you don't know the definite you're trying to understand the definition of dating. Have you ever dated? What is dating to you? What was also let me what would be an ideal date for you? Jhalil: Yeah, I'm about to look up the actual definition, too, of a date. Deion: ⁓ no. That's what I'm saying. Like I understand dating as you said quality time getting to know someone you know, I mean and like You know, so that could consist of At the first in the beginning. I'm like a meetup is required You get what I'm saying? Like a meetup is required to see if the phone shit or when y'all first met Y'all still compatible and got a vibe jaquetta: Right. Jhalil: you you jaquetta: Okay. Deion: We got a vibe after the coffee or the ice cream whatever the small shit The part or whatever like you know me and then we can go into it going skating or whatever the fuck we want to do like you get what I'm saying, but I'd be but the reason why I'm asking and all of that is because Just like with the streets it didn't align with the way that I carried my shit Like I was ready to really jaquetta: Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, like you girl I feel like Deion: do the street shit and follow the rules. Everybody else wasn't. You get what I'm saying? So that line up made it confusing for me. And the same thing with dating. It's like if I'm the vulnerable guy, the nice guy, Right? The nice guy. And I'm ready to put in all the things for the rules and regulations. You get me? And I get with a check sheet. jaquetta: Mmm. Deion: She manipulate me, use me, do all of these different things. You get what I'm saying? So with all of that stuff, it just creates this confusion and everybody got their own personal definition of what they believe something is. So I'm dating with this and you dating for whatever your dating purposes is. And this could consist of like, you got five, six niggas you talking to at one time. If this date don't go right, you gonna go on another date. So I don't be knowing what date it means. jaquetta: But that's none of your business. That's nothing you should even be worrying about like that all of that is on the opposite side of Something that you shouldn't care about Honestly, it really like when I date let me just be honest with you and I think I know These guys are single and they probably dating other women I don't give a fuck but I know when they would pancake they having the time of their fucking life to where though when they go on those other dates and like this bitch born I wonder what Deion: Hello? Jhalil: Yeah. jaquetta: It's like you just gotta be you, bro, in every situation. Like, that's what's wrong. I feel like people stray away from their authentic self. They attract a lot of fucking confusion. When you be you and who you are and stand in who you are, like you say, be sturdy in who you are, don't change your religion. Motherfuckers gonna find you for you and whoever, wherever the case may be, that shit just gonna flow. Like, that shit just gonna flow. I believe in divinity. I really do. I believe in divine timing. I do. Jhalil: That's all I believe and I ain't gonna lie like, cause I'm stuck. jaquetta: I don't Jhalil: I wasn't looking for no wife. I wasn't looking to get married or none of that shit. But when it happened, it happened. I was like, damn, I got a feeling I never had. You feel me? And that's how I knew. jaquetta: It's heavy! Deion: So then that's what I'm saying. They can become like just like the rest of this manipulative systematic stuff. You know what mean? It's like it's been created for people that have to spend their money. This a capitalist world. You get what I'm saying? jaquetta: No, that's what I'm saying! Don't, but see, again, like you said earlier, but dating is everybody got, everybody got their own definition on it, definition on it, right? I don't, you don't, not necessar, you don't have to spend money for a date. Deion: Yeah, and when you take away... Listen, when you take away the original of it and then you put in your own shit to benefit you, you take it away. I don't even wanna play the game no more. You get what I'm saying? Like everybody playing a game. I don't want to play the game no more. You get what I'm saying? It's like... jaquetta: get it. of all people, I didn't. Deion: But that's what I'm saying to you. Listen to what I'm saying though. If we saying that the way that the universe or God created this love, we're gonna find you, your partner gonna find you. What the fuck is you doing dating? to waste time, or buy past time, like what are you doing? jaquetta: Because that's not all. To see you to experience life. Like what are you not supposed to do? If your love won't find you in order for your love to find you, anybody to find you, you gotta go through life. And when you go through life, that's where motherfuckers find you. It doesn't matter. Motherfuckers find their love in the supermarket. Motherfuckers find their love in a car accident. It doesn't matter. Jhalil: Hahaha That's it. Deion: Yeah, but that's why I like that's why I like that's why they end right now look like that little machine at the game store with the claw and you keep fucking missing a fucking time like you spent six thousand and sixty two dollars to it can't catch shit bro like you feel what I'm saying jaquetta: Yo, no bullshit. ⁓ Jhalil: Mmmmm jaquetta: Yeah. Yo, I'm tired. ⁓ Deion: So that's what I mean, like if love is just gonna come find us, then shouldn't you be spending that time getting yourself ready, aligning with everything you've heard me. jaquetta: I know I agree with it. I agree with that. I agree with that. But in a minute in the same time, that's all we're homosapiens. We're humans. We're to interact with other people and have fun with other people and communicate with other people. That's just going to happen. That's ⁓ social activity. We're supposed to do that. Jhalil: That's where it was at. Thanks. Deion: But look out at, look look out at Lime. You can't even be a friend with the different genders. jaquetta: Yes you can! Deion: Weird. ⁓ jaquetta: Yes you can! is- well me personally, I- I've been friends with multiple guys that haven't touched a dip they fucking spoon in my cake batter. Deion: And you not attracted to him? jaquetta: No, not at all. the ones that I... The ones... The ones... The ones... Hold up. Hold up, The ones that I was attracted to because I was so close to them, the attraction faded. If that makes sense. Deion: Like, well, point taken, like. You thought about the meaningfulness of the relationship. jaquetta: Yeah. Deion: Cause if it go either way, if it go good and the dick good, you going this way. If the charm bad, it ruins. So both ways are ruining your ship. So you thinking about that more than... jaquetta: No, I'm thinking I'm thinking about more as the person as an asset to my mental because there's a lot of guys that really helped me out here navigate this life like real shit that never helped me navigate through life because men can use their manipulation tactics and skills like they always pretty much majority of them do even though we're the lead manipulators y'all at the same time Deion: Yes. Jhalil: Okay. Deion: Is that a compliment and a shot? jaquetta: So it's like, it's more so like, damn, it was the point I was getting to, but it was, it's, ugh. Jhalil: Really? Deion: No, I got it. I get it. You heard me. jaquetta: Yeah. Jhalil: Yeah, he be throwing curve balls and shit, jaquetta: No, but seriously, can honestly say, I can honestly say real shit. I can honestly say I got male friends that are attractive that I don't have sex with or don't never even looked at in a sexual way. And the ones that I did that probably was earlier on. And then once we got the bond and the friendship, like, and, know, they probably, you know, shit didn't we probably had a mark and we missed it. And he wound up getting a girlfriend. So now it's like, man, that's bro. Feel what I'm saying? Like, it's like, if the opportunity was there and I missed it, all right, cool. I'm not trying to spin back on that. And I feel like that's what's wrong with some people. Some people just want to use that the excuse of women and men can't be friends or like, no, we can. It's just that, willpower. Motherfuckers know what they doing. Motherfuckers know what they doing and what they want to do. You got some motherfuckers just good at doing what the fuck they want. Deion: I mean, when you introduce sex and slavery as a man just having to like breed like a hundred motherfucking times a day, you get what I'm saying? like when you exploit like sexuality and all of that type of stuff, you can't get the natural stuff. Jhalil: Yay. jaquetta: Go! Deion: That's all I'm saying. I'm agreement with a lot of stuff. I just know that in this society, because of all of that stink, we can't have regular shit. You know I mean? jaquetta: Thanks. Jhalil: It is a little harder, bro, because it's like a couple females and shit that I went to school with and shit like I'm cool with, but from a distance and all that. I don't just got all these female friends or I don't just hang around females all the time, you feel me? It's just not ideal for a man, bro. jaquetta: We were. Right. Right. Deion: And then look at the other thing I've been doing. jaquetta: And it's respect thing because you'll start causing issues that ain't even near. Deion: Right. So that's what I'm saying. Like if you're in a relationship and you got a female, I mean the other gender as your friend, most times whatever the friendship start to like, you know what I'm saying? Cause now you gotta pay more attention to your girl and all of that or your dude, right? So all of the stuff you could have did when you ain't have a man with your friend. jaquetta: That ain't even near. Jhalil: Mm-hmm. Deion: is probably going to be looked upon as something or whatever. You get what I'm saying? And that's what I'm saying. Jhalil: Thank you. jaquetta: That depends on the people though boo. I don't think that's what, I just think that that depends on the individuals. I don't think that's a mass production type thing. I feel like that depends on the people. Cause I actually was, like I actually just witnessed a couple, like a female, male, married, whatever. Guy got a female friend came over, you know, like cordial, the wife went upstairs, they downstairs talking or whatever. When she let, ⁓ When somebody left something left, they was like, all right, leave out when you leave out clothes and lock the door and shit like that. And then I also been in situations where I had her husband went to go drop me off and she woke her kids up to put them in the car with me to drop me off. And it was like, I don't know if she don't trust me. It ain't she ain't trust me. She don't trust this nigga. It ain't me. Deion: . Or it was a good jester, I don't know. You feel me? But we just know because of all of that. We just know because... jaquetta: No, no, no, it turned out no, it turned out it turned out my husband is a fucking creep. My husband is a creep. Her husband definitely. He definitely, but I'm just saying it was just like damn, this type of marriage. This is the type of this. If you have to do like this is the this is the shit I'm saying like. Jhalil: You wake the kids up? Anyway. Deion: But that's what I'm saying because of all of this stuff that's out there. jaquetta: If you married an insecure woman or you married an insecure man, you already preset your shit. You already knew it was going come with a whole bunch of shit. You know this person has insecurities already. There's a difference from a person being insecure and then having some insecurities. If you just dealing with an insecure motherfucker, then nothing's never going to go right. Leave that baby on the side of your fucking woman. Everything. Jhalil: you Yeah, everything gonna be a problem, jaquetta: Like, like, you know, in the beginning, and that's what I feel like that comes with maturity. Like how you say a buck in the last, in earlier on in the conversation when you were younger, I made you feel like your ego, whatever case may be when you look salty with somebody or whatever the case may be with the situation with the female. But it's like, again, ego, like that plays a major part when it comes to the guys. And now I feel like women in 12, then they fucking. masculine energy too much. Like, there's a lot of women out here with egos and pride. This shit is crazy. But, yeah. Jhalil: It's. Deion: Yeah. But I mean, I think like naturally like, you know, like I said, without all of the training and programming, like all of these regular things could exist. You know what saying? jaquetta: Right? Jhalil: you jaquetta: Fuck me. Deion: the gender relationships, the long lasting relationships. But then, you know, in the vein of things, got the thing of like ownership. You know what saying? Like people not looking at how strong words are, right? But I look at all of the actions and everything that come along with it. You feel what I'm saying? Like when a motherfucker say, when a motherfucker say, you my girl. jaquetta: and All right. Deion: Like you, my girl, that is so strong that when anything threatens that, they gonna berserk. You know what mean? Like they losing everything behind it. You get what I'm saying? Like, and that's the power of words. That's why I remember going through the ship and I'm like, damn, we gonna be together forever. I ain't know no such thing as forever. jaquetta: Yup, cuz you MOT. Jhalil: Thank you. Deion: What the fuck was I doing saying that at 17, 18? You get what I'm saying? But, but, but when it came to it, but when it came to it, if I'm the one that opted out the relationship and ended it, and ended it earlier, you feel me? Like, she still stuck on the forever part. And that's why I I'll be real careful about my words. You get what I'm saying? Cause like, Jhalil: It's where you know, like. jaquetta: will feel good because when you're done, you feel like you got something. What are you doing? Deion: The motherfuckin' really buy into that shit. And nigga, that's thin line between love and hate, right? Like, you feel me? Like, y'all seen the movie, right? jaquetta: One of the things that we do have to realize is people, right? Nothing is ever ours. I mean, it is, no, I mean, when you look at your, when you change your perception, like you said earlier, you change your perception so it can alter your mood or alter your feelings. At the end of the day, when you change, you realize nothing is forever and no one is yours, absolutely all the way yours and truly yours. Life comes a lot easier. It becomes a lot easier and it becomes a lot less stressful because Deion: You can't tell people that. Jhalil: All and jaquetta: Nothing is never ours. We shouldn't even look at people as property We should and I feel like not claiming all these niggas not claiming a nigga It helps me out a lot because it's like why I claim these niggas I don't want to claim no fuck about it. It's like Deion: I feel so good when I'm single and I can just be myself with like women. feel me? And I'll be like, damn, like knowing that, knowing that soon as we put this title on it, it's going to change everything. Bro, you talking about like, before I wasn't even worried about who you talking to, now we got this title and I'm like. jaquetta: Yup. Yup. And nobody can get mad. Deion: Who the fuck you was on the phone with? Like, you get what I'm saying? It's like, I don't want that shit. jaquetta: But why, why, why you, why, why get like that though? Why get like that? I don't get them. Deion: It just, automatically, it's automatically. You know it. Don't fucking act like you don't know it. Like, you get what I'm saying? jaquetta: Mmm. but I don't give a f- again, I don't give a fuck about it. Deion: So how hard do you gotta work yourself to not push that? You get what I'm saying? Like, cause you... jaquetta: Not hard, because like you said, I changed my perception. Deion: All right, and then you got somebody that's not in that same room as you. So now you got to super keep telling them like, no, like, it ain't that. Like, let's stick to this. You get what I'm saying? Like, you got to keep putting it out there, like, because they going to keep pushing it. jaquetta: WHA- And you got to continue to be assertive and let them know this ain't that, that ain't this. Or you could just go ahead about your business. Cause at the end of the day, I'm going to continue to be me. I'm going continue to stick to what I need to stick to. That's discipline. That's a form of discipline. And I'm telling you, this is what I want. This is what I want. This is what I want. If you can't, I mean, then okay. Then it's not, mean, we're not aligned. Deion: Yeah. Yeah. jaquetta: And I feel like when people let motherfuckers know what they want, it gives the other person the option to deal with that shit or not. Like damn, I want a man that's free. I want a man that, you know, that can bounce around with, you know, enjoy different women and come back to me and be cool. I'm cool with that. Or I want a man that, you know, that just want to be monogamous and just want to be all loved up on me. I'm cool with that. Either way, I'm cool with what the fuck I get, because why? Deion: and test. jaquetta: I'm in control of what the fuck I receive. That's it. Right now, dating, me quote unquote dating, ⁓ is fun because again, like you said, I ain't gotta worry about a nigga feeling no type of way. I'm not around a man long enough for him to know who's calling me or who's not, or if I pick up my phone, he looking to see who. Same, I'm dealing with a guy, I know he's dating somebody else. Deion: So, so, STDs. What do you do? jaquetta: Okay, so I'm dating, I'm not fucking. I know that comes, that kinda coincide, but that's also a choice too. When I date, I'm dating. Now, if I got somebody, I'm dating, I already got somebody that's already my D. Deion: So. jaquetta: And that's just for my safety. You feel what I'm saying? Deion: but that's what I'm saying, like he's in agreement with you. jaquetta: What dating? what what what you mean? Deion: Yeah, he just fucking you. jaquetta: Is he just, so we're in agreement that we wear condoms. That's what we're in agreement of. We're being, we're protect, no, no, no, no. We wear condoms all the way around the board. We wear condoms, first of all, that motherfucker ain't trying to have no more children. So I know for a fact he sure. I can't control it. I have no control over that. The only thing I can do is make sure I always got a condom when he come to me. Deion: Y'all wear condoms, but when he doing them, he don't got wear condoms. so you can control it or that's just, that's just. Okay. jaquetta: That's the only thing I can do. Yeah. So if I know I... Deion: or if it didn't align and he crossed that, do you cancel the contract? Like, I'll do that. jaquetta: No, I mean, if this if we got to understand and again, we're not in the we're we're we're exclusive with each other sexually. So we're transparent as well. So damn, slipped up and I am. OK, cool. We're going to you go ahead and get me get your mind charged together. Let's clear out for a second. And then we can spend a lot. We already got a bond. I'm not going to break that up because you did what you did. I mean, that's. That's nature. I understand it. We're not ⁓ like we're not an item. We have an understanding. And that's what people Deion: And that all got nothing to do with like whether the dick good or not. jaquetta: I I don't see the good dick, bad dick is not that deep to me. I'm more so up here. Like I've been fucked crazy, but not with crazy over getting fucked crazy. If that makes sense. Nobody had me standing outside a house five, six o'clock in the morning, busting out windows, putting sugar in tanks. never had that DD. I never had dangerous dick. I never came across it. I came across the motherfucker that I was attached to because of how they talk. how they think, how they made me feel, not because of the dick. Deion: You mean... jaquetta: Yeah. Deion: The end. jaquetta: Why are you smiling like that? Deion: What you see now is all that. Jhalil: I don't know man, this young real insightful. Everybody got their own perception of this dating shit and like ownership and like whether you single, marry, attach, whatever. It's different strokes for different folks, bro. Real shit. You Deion: This is one of those to get to a space where we own it because we own it, not because the world. jaquetta: What society say? I'm big on that. I'm a rebel. I go against all the fucking rules. That's why I like what I'm talking about. The natural order of her. Deion: It's self-evident. That's self-advanced. jaquetta: I go against the rules for dating too, because I do what the fuck I want. I date for fun. I'm doing what I date for. I'm dating for what I want. I date with intention. Just know, whatever I do, I do it with intention. Jhalil: Yeah Deion: Thank Jhalil: She said jaquetta: I realized too, when you don't chase shit, it comes to you. And I have the power of manifesting whatever I want and getting whatever I want. I do. I do. So I have to be careful. I have to be careful with my power. What's been said? Deion: ⁓ no. And that fucked up, like, I was about to say, go ahead, you need it. I said, yeah, go ahead, keep going. jaquetta: No, what you say, Dr. Buck? Deion: No, because I was going to that, but you was about to get into it, so go ahead. jaquetta: ⁓ Yeah, no, definitely, I definitely manifest what I want and who I want to a T. So yeah, I'm just being mindful of what I want. And I'm doing, I'm moving with good intentions. Everything I start, as soon as I wake up in the morning, good intentions, good things, all good things. I tell people all the time, I lead with love. Anything after that is on you, right? Deion: Well, why do you think it's in your brain to like... Jhalil: Hold up, y'all. I'll be right back. jaquetta: Okay. Deion: Why you think it's in your brain to like have a person? jaquetta: because that's what society tells us from the the rich. Deion: EW jaquetta: from the rip when we come out. Just think about it, right? I would just, had to think. Deion: Whoa, whoa, you're dead. jaquetta: Yeah, I had this conversation. I had this conversation with my passenger. Nothing is natural order. We are born into order. are born into whatever system is in front of us. Soon as we are little girls, we're given baby dogs from the rip. Y'all automatically training us to be a mom, but what if I grow up not to like inspire not to be a mom or can't have children, but you automatically Deion: Right. Mm-hmm. jaquetta: pushing me, pushing motherhood on me. So it's like, it's already a system in place. So I get what you're saying when you talk about the systems and going against the, you know, the world order and not the natural order. ⁓ Yeah, I'm against all of it. I don't like that shit. I don't want to do shit the way they tell us we gotta do it. Let's do it our own way. Let's make up our own shit. Deion: Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. jaquetta: Like, let's make up our own category of our relationship. Like, why our relationship gotta be textbook? Why can't it Buck and Pail Cakes relationship? Deion: Yeah. Right. jaquetta: Who gives a fuck about if it's weird to the outside world? What if it aren't? What if it aren't world? What if it aren't relationship? Me and you, we just wear the color mint. We just wear mint. Motherfuckers like, yo, why this couple always wearing mint? Like, this our shit. This our shit. Deion: That's when I was writing it, like, yeah. I know a couple, they wear the same clothes every day. Happy as shit, that's them though. jaquetta: Happy is a motherfucker. They like that corny shit. But this is what I'm saying. It all goes back to finding your tribe, finding your people. I know for a fact there's a motherfucker out there that's kind of similar to me. Or not similar to me, but that will align with me and how I think. They are sapiosexual like me. They like to explore, they like to have fun. They like to be wild, they like to be free. They don't like to be tamed. Deion: Right. jaquetta: And I feel like when you come across those people and you have a clarity and understanding, I feel like shit be good. Because I feel like smooth, like Lil and his wife, work how they work because that's their marriage. They don't have ⁓ everybody else marriage. They marriage work for them because it's their system. It's not nobody else's system. Deion: Hmm. jaquetta: I feel like we gotta focus on what work the fuck for us. If it work for us, why are we letting outside people fuck with it? Deion: Because we put value on people's opinions. jaquetta: I'm I'm real. I'm an entertainer. can't buy you drink. Deion: The moment you do, right? You stand down, Gordon. You got it. jaquetta: Yo, you see what the fuck happened to Lizzo? She buy you everybody fucking opinions. Lost weight and they still talking shit about sis. And she look good either way. Deion: Yeah. jaquetta: He just set up there and got small and they still talking shit. So it's like, fuck people opinion and what they think. Thank you, sir. Deion: But that should be so rude. Like, I was looking at Lil' Kemp pictures. I'm like, damn, she was all right. Like, you know? jaquetta: Look at this. Look at this. Like for real. Like. That shit sad bro. It's sad. Deion: Hehehehehe Jhalil: you jaquetta: That shit piss me off. Y'all spending all of this money and putting fucking vending machines to spend more money and take more people money. Jhalil: Yeah, that's crazy. I walk past that shit all the time. I that shit no mind, bro. All right. What? That is fucking gambling like that. jaquetta: Like what? But wait, but wait, remember they didn't even want niggas loitering in here. So now y'all got machines in here so people can sit in here. I'm gonna try this cherry cola. I keep skipping over it, but I'm gonna try it. Deion: I'll do it better. jaquetta: It's basically probiotic soda juice water. It's soda, juice water. It's like a fake soda. Jhalil: Yeah, that's the strongest shit. ⁓ Deion: It's like a fake soda. That's how fucked up you are. She going to call it a fake soda. jaquetta: But no, but look, look, look! It is, because look, it's carbonated water, but listen what's in it. I can read what the fuck is in it. They got ⁓ Acai fiber, ⁓ cassava root, carbonated water, natural flavor, lime juice, stativa leaf, Himalayan pink salt, green tea, caffeine. ⁓ shit, this shit gonna hit me up. Baby, I might need to put this one back, because what the fuck? Jhalil: Yeah, that's a lot of ingredients, like, you're sick. Deion: You don't even need to die. jaquetta: No, this is not. It's not bad, It got it got zero grams. It got to. Deion: It was, it was alright until you said natural flavor, then it just killed me. just killed me. Jhalil: Yeah, that'd the spin move right there. jaquetta: ⁓ this one though got natural flavors, so I'm gonna get that one. This one. That's the one with the caffeine in it. Jhalil: It Deion: That's the next job, bro. We got to get into food, cause this is a bitch, bro. jaquetta: No, for real, y'all got to. Deion: So ready? Jhalil: Yeah, you can't get into it. That's the shit. I be on heavy. Like, I be knowin' about all that shit. jaquetta: Well, I wonder. Deion: But yeah, like in the vein of this drawing and capping it off, like where we think like the accountability and like where it should go from here, like. Or do people think it's all right? Like do people, you know what I'm saying? It's like when you learn the games, I mean, if you know, like when you play Spades, right, you learn how to play Spades, And like, because Renegade is in the game, it's like, and you learn how to do it, right? And it's septive, you know what I'm saying? Like, so it's like. jaquetta: Uh-uh. Deion: Do you think people are like, receptive to the shit and just adapt to it? Because, you know what mean? Because it's bad, they still get good at it. You see what I'm saying? Like, motherfuckers get court-cheating or whatever like that or do the cheating and shit like that. They make it a game. It's like... jaquetta: Woo. Deion: You understand what I'm saying? jaquetta: I get what you're I just don't know how to respond to it, cause it's like... ⁓ Jhalil: I don't know, like, I just be looking at it like, I try to simplify this shit, like, how can we do this shit and then like, it's more understanding, you feel me? So then it ain't no like, we going on dates and I'm looking for one thing. and she going on the date, she looking for another thing. How can we just, you know, put that shit together and still, you know, still have a good time at that time? Like shit like that. jaquetta: Right. Just have fun. Like just let it be what it is. Don't have no expectations. Like people play so much expectations on shit. Just live in the moment. Live in the fucking moment. Jhalil: Mm-hmm. Yeah. Day. That's real shit. I hope y'all out here listening, cause like you see how we done went back around in circles and all that, but like, you know, we all stand on what we stand on, but we hope that y'all get some understanding. And all of real shit, me too. Cause like, ⁓ my thing is I see both sides at all times. I can't just see my shit. You feel me? Like I'm a boneless bull. I'm like, I'm a fair dude. So like. jaquetta: Well, it's always gonna be all over with me because I'm an all over mother fucker. Thank you. Jhalil: Even if I'm on some bullshit, I know when I'm on some bullshit, and I'ma keep it real, yeah, I was on some bullshit. The accountability always there, but I feel you, dawg. All that expectation shit, when I ain't had no expectations, that's what I found, what I needed. You feel me? When I had the expectations, man, I had myself fucked up. jaquetta: Hey! Deion: Yeah. jaquetta: I'm coming. ⁓ Jhalil: You know, niggas was running wild, bro. Real shit. I was running wild, dog. I really stopped looking, I stopped all that shit. I'm like, man, man, fuck all that. And then that's when that shit just found me, bro. Deion: But that's what you get in life, right? Like, in life, most of the stuff I have a plane. But the stuff that was meant for me to do and happened and all of that was like, that was the universe, you know what I'm saying? I ain't expect to do a lot of stuff that I did, but you know. jaquetta: I'm sorry. Jhalil: Mm-hmm. Yeah, you start playing and all this shit. That's when everything go wrong. That's when everything switch. Everything change. jaquetta: Right. That's why I believe in divine timing. Fuck that. don't like, people always ask me, like, you will never really play in nothing. I'm like, no, not really. Cause I, I be getting disappointed when I'm playing shit. Jhalil: It's always gonna be something there to test it like ⁓ you you think you know Universe always there. So you you thought you was cool with Like how the fuck you know, ain't I got this for you though. You'd be like damn I've been playing in this for five months I've been doing this was such as like bro. It ain't up to us, bro jaquetta: You have no idea! Yeah! Deion: But when you're drawn to line with the divine or the universe, that's the good draw too. You feel what I'm saying? Like, cause you do got those moments, you know what saying? Because you gotta think about it, the divine is in you. jaquetta: Thanks. Jhalil: ⁓ That's the perfect job bro, like real shit. Deion: So if you align with everything, the ideas that everything that's gonna come out of you is gonna be from that anyway. You see what I'm saying? It's just a problem that when you pollute it, when you pollute it and it's gotten off your journey, then you try and make decisions and stuff like that off of what you see. You get what I'm saying? jaquetta: Yep. Jhalil: Mm-hmm. Alright, what is this Hollywood? That shit don't work. That's just some Tooby shit. jaquetta: for bro. Deion: Yeah. But that's what I'm saying. Like, your beginning, your idea of woman probably was basic as shit. But because they put superstars and supermodels and these titles in front of us, now your shit is a, you know what mean? Like now you want to stram again, woman, and all of this. That bitch dumb as a brick. Jhalil: NNNN jaquetta: I seen something where I posted in my story where they had a woman with an Afro, she was speaking on how they put skinny mannequins in the windows to basically push body dysmorphia. Jhalil: And I can definitely see that shit. They do a lot of shit to fuck with our psychology and our, do all that like. Deion: I was just thinking about it, I said, damn. jaquetta: The Tyrone experiment. I'm telling you, we all in the motherfucking... This is a social experiment. The social media, social experiment. All of this shit is a social experiment. They're profiling us. I forget what they call it, bio marketing. Where they basically studying us. They study what we look at, what we download, what we like. The motherfucking all them people that's up above, CIA, all them motherfuckers. Jhalil: Yeah, bro, sit. Hmm. jaquetta: They got little profile, individual profiles on us. Deion: Go to hell. Jhalil: Yeah, I can definitely see that shit. Because it's like no matter what, it's always some type of influence from the outside, from some shit that's not from you. Like, you feel me? And then there's like algorithms and all that shit. can be, you know, it'll be shit you just talking about. Like now once we get off and get on the drone, it's gonna be all this relationship shit, all this da da da. jaquetta: No, I'm not doing it. I'm sorry. Bro, for real. Deion: Okay. Let's go. jaquetta: Yup. Yup. Jhalil: But if it's some get money shit, we talking about millions, that shit ain't gonna pop up. It's gonna be fights. It's gonna be beefing. It's gonna be, I'm like, bro, get the fuck outta here. Like, come on, bro. That's how you know this shit is a setup. jaquetta: Ain't gonna pop up, bro. Yeah? Yo, I'm gonna say it's rigged. I be fucking up my algorithm so bad. I be tricking the shit out of that shit. It don't know what I... Bro, I been fucking my algorithm up. Them motherfuckers be all over the place. I type in USC, then I turn around and type in yoga, then I turn around and type in motherfucking Kid Bop. All that shit. My algorithm be all over the place. Yeah, fuck outta here. Jhalil: Yeah Deion: Yeah, but then closing right like, Jhalil: Mm-hmm. It's where they knew, like, just chill, like, bro. jaquetta: For real. ⁓ For real. Deion: What you got for us, look. jaquetta: What to leave off with? the main, I know we bounced around a lot, but I do want to say this, if you dating. date with at least good intentions and be transparent, be honest, outside even just be outside of dating. Just try to be honest and transparent person. It's okay to be open. I know a lot of people may make y'all feel like, you know, you shouldn't be, you shouldn't tell, you shouldn't talk. Fuck that. Open up, let people know what's up. Let people know what you like, what you don't like. And that way you can That way you know if a motherfucker go against what you didn't like they not fool you because they disrespecting you You already made it clear what you like and what you don't like and if they go against it anyway, that's not your person That's not for you. That's that's the easiest way to weed motherfuckers out That's why I like saying what the fuck I like and what I don't like because if I tell you what I don't like and you continue to do it That's a form of disrespect. You don't respect me So date with good intentions date with clarity be open Jhalil: Mmm, mmm. jaquetta: Tell motherfuckers what you here for. I'm here to have fun. I'm here for the plot. I'm here to learn. If I get big out of it, that's cool. But I'm just saying, I'm here to at least have a good fucking time. So make sure you all date with good intentions. Jhalil: you Oh, that's a **** this. I hope y'all listening up cuz like that's that's real shit. Like, know when the comedian when they get serious, it's some real shit going on. So Deion: you Thank you. jaquetta: No, because I'm telling you, we'll be, women will be out here heartbroken. And you don't need to be heartbroken. And I'm on the phone with my family. You don't want to be heartbroken. So it's this, you got to. Jhalil: Man, you see boy walking away and shit. He in the screen and all that, But yeah. Deion: You jaquetta: It's Yeah, you got to, you got to, you got to be honest with people, man. And if you, you just got to, it's easier that way for me, honestly. Jhalil: That shit feel better too. You ain't gotta carry all this fake weed and all this, like all these expectations and what people think you supposed to think and all that. That's the shit that fuck everything up, bro. Deion: Yeah. Jhalil: Keep it real when you dating. If you dating for fun, yeah, I'm just dating for fun. You know, me and new people, I'm building my network up. Boom, it's nothing wrong with that. If you dating for attention, you looking for a partner, like a real life partner to get some shit done with, that's cool. If you dating, bro, or sis, and you wanna just fuck, keep it apparent. You feel me? Don't, like, you don't gotta spend. There's no spend move included. There's none of that. Deion: you jaquetta: That's it! And that's and that's where I feel like all of us I know we supposed to be keeping it all but I feel like that's where all of us is going wrong Everybody thinking somebody's out to get somebody or somebody you got some people out here does like that But everybody's not like that you got really you really got some good dudes out here man Some good women out here and I feel like most of the niggas that got you know, anyway was by the holes Deion: . . Jhalil: Okay. Okay. jaquetta: And they ain't get a good girl's a chance. They try, they went for the hoe and you got what the fuck you gots. Anywho. Deion: Yeah, my biggest draw on is like, I want people to really worry about themselves and not even worry about dating and getting with other people. like, the more you do that, the more you like get away from yourself. You get what I'm saying? And then you start adding like more stuff onto yourself that's not yourself. So by the time you do find somebody, you probably gonna push them away or you gonna ruin it. jaquetta: and Deion: So the best option is to like really focus on yourself. Like get your morals up, get your values up, get your principles up, you know what saying? And don't break a bend on those. You get what I'm saying? Like, and when you do that, that is going to be all dramatically. You feel what I'm saying? Like you're not a woman that cheats just cause that's your principles. Jhalil: Mm-hmm. Deion: I'm not a man that cheats because that's my principles. I just don't do that. You get what I'm saying? Like I'm not getting into a ship. You know, the concept of like being an adult and I got a lot oxymoronish, you know what I'm saying? It's like, I can't really deal with that. So I rather just be honest with my true self and be like, I don't even, you know what mean? And that's automatically with kids and everything. You get what I'm saying? A lot of guys might, you know, stand down on a lot of stuff because they like, got kids or whatever, but it's like, nah, bro, if you're a freak ass nigga, you can still be a parent. You know what mean? But don't cheat everybody by not living your real shit because then all the other stuff gonna come with it. You get what I'm saying? But if you be honest about your shit, you know what I'm saying? jaquetta: No. Jhalil: day. Deion: You know, my fucking feelings might be hurt or whatever like that. jaquetta: Yeah, but I mean at least you had an option to get the fuck over it Deion: Yeah. But then I apologize for coming in so long. Because maybe sometimes people feel like they can go without a certain thing. Like, all right, you ain't as freaky, but I like you a lot. You feel me? Like, I can turn my freak down a little bit. But then you realize, like, I need my freak. You get me in the middle of it. jaquetta: That's what kind of... Deion: And that's just unfortunate. You get what I'm saying? You ain't planning to do that, but... jaquetta: That's not hurt. That's unfortunate. Yeah, it's unfortunate, but that's also you kind of settling too. Cause I've settled. I've settled. I've been in relationships that I had to turn my freak down because motherfuckers just couldn't comprehend the level of how I like to do whatever I like to do. And it was just like, I dealt with it because I liked that person, but I wasn't getting fulfilled. Deion: Right. Yay. jaquetta: in a year. Deion: That's what I was saying. That's why it's all inclusive to be honest, transparent and all of those things. But number one to all of them is being true to yourself. You know what mean? Like, yeah. But hopefully, man, we just shift the volume. You know what I'm saying? I know these conversations get generated. jaquetta: Thanks. Jhalil: Yeah, the most important right there. jaquetta: ⁓ no, he got up! It's some good shit up in here. You gonna chop this joint up and we gonna get some good shit out of this joint. We gonna have some good shit out of this. Cause the one that I really wanted to go to talk about was the grief, the relationship, the grieving at the end of a relationship. I think that was the one I like, I said something about, but. ⁓ Jhalil: Okay. Deion: in the room. When I be, I'm gonna, we gonna end this joint and then we gonna continue and shit. We can give a bonus to that. But if I keep it too long, then chop it up, it's going like. jaquetta: Okay. Yeah, I know we've been on an hour and 40 minutes. Deion: Yeah, so I don't wanna go no longer than that on one clip. I mean, on one with Joe. So I could cut this one and then if you wanna speak about that, you could go under that. I call it a bonus clip. jaquetta: Thank Yo, for real now, I ain't in that fucking, I'm still stuck on dating because I'm thinking about some shit. Jhalil: Yeah. Deion: Because I really wanted you to, ⁓ I really wanted to ask like what made you want to do a part two and shit but I didn't even get to ask. jaquetta: ⁓ with a part two on this or the... Deion: Well, cause you, you, like you said, you, you commented under the jaw. jaquetta: It was a good topic, you know? And I'm currently going through a lot of stuff right now. So it was like, fell in line with what, like, that's around me, the energy that's around me, that's all. Deion: Thank you. Bye. Jhalil: And we can always too go live with this shit too. You feel me? I always go live with this shit, because then the child man's gonna come, well I feel like... jaquetta: Say that! We gotta go la- ⁓ huh. Deion: But you gotta go live, because our channel not up there yet to go live. Jhalil: Yeah, we got hot boy. You're live or something. Just have us as guests on your job. jaquetta: That's fine, that's fine. And I'll put that up there. I'll put that up there. The volume shift in pound cake or something, whatever. The volume shift with pound cake. Deion: Well go ahead and set it, we gonna jump off of here. jaquetta: Alright, man. Deion: Your volume has been shifted into the next time you hear me. jaquetta: Yeah! All black gang gang! ⁓ Jhalil: This is the volume shift.