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Aspergers Communication - 3 Ways YOU Can Make Friends (TOP WAYS) · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  That's all spurges and communication.
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  Here are three ways that you can make friends awesome.
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  Hey guys, what's going on? Welcome back to the aspy world.
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  My name is Dan, I have Asperger's syndrome, ADHDOCD,
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  and dyslexia, and I make weekly videos on this type of content.
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  this video. Guys, what's going on?
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  Different thinkers and I hope each and everyone of you having
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  All right, guys, I wanted to do this video because I get so many
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  questions. So many people ask me to say,
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  Dan, how do I make friends? How do I make friends?
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  How do I make friendship relationships last?
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  How do I do all these things? You know, what is it?
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  What is the key to making friends?
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  Well, look, there's no special sauce.
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  Making friends is difficult because anything that's worth
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  having should be a bit of hard work, right?
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  And that's kind of like a more oil of my life by.
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  So it's not going to be easy to make friends, but it's
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  definitely going to be doable. So everything is doable.
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  So I've listed down three of the main components that I really
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  think help, maintain, make and create friendships for long
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  lasting awesomeness. Okay.
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  So here we go. The first one here is like
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  minded interest. Now this is the first thing you
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  need to do. You need to try and find people
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  who have the same interest as you.
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  This could be going to events or meetups or even going online and
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  trying to find Facebook groups of people in your same genre of
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  interest. Like, I'm really into iPads, so
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  I go to iPad forums on Facebook, I find iPad groups on Facebook
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  and I made some friends on there.
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  I skateboard with the Boosted Board when the weather doesn't
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  suck, and I go on to electronic skateboard groups on Facebook
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  and I talk to people. And I met a guy in there who's
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  really cool and he came down and we skated together and then he
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  went to London and got me a Boosted Board T-shirt.
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  That was cool. And this is how you make
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  friends. It's a tried and tested method,
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  be involved in the groups of the subjects.
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  And the interest matters that you are into because then you're
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  going to find like minded people who are going to be already on
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  the same wavelength for you. They're going to be thinking the
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  same stuff as you. They want to hang out.
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  It's the best way to make friendships and it's the
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  quickest way to make friendships.
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  So honestly, don't skimp on this.
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  So #2, It is super important when making friends to be to do
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  everything you can to be completely honest, transparent
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  and nice. You want to be with people.
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  You want people to think that you're horrible in any way.
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  So be nice with people. Be honest.
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  If they ask you questions, be honest, Give honesty.
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  Because honesty is the best policy and the only thing you
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  cannot improve upon is the truth, which is what my father
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  says. So if you want to maintain
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  friendships and have friends, be nice and kind with them and
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  always be honest with them, because they'll respect you for
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  being honest. And if there's anything that
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  autistic people do best, and that's being honest and kind and
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  nice. OK, so #3 in my little toolbox
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  here of things to make friends, help maintain, and create
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  friendships is listen. So #3 is listen.
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  Aspergers can present some issues in knowing when to talk.
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  When it's your turn to talk, you know how long you talk for, When
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  do you stop talking? You know and and loads of stuff,
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  right. And this can make it look like
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  it seems like you're not listening to the other person's
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  conversation, right? Because whenever he tells you
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  anything, then they they it comes from a place of importance
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  from them. It's important for them to tell
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  you and it's important for you to receive that information if
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  you're going to be friends with these people and pivot on that
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  and go, OK, I get it, you know it's important for you and I get
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  it. So by doing that you are
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  actually you're by listening, you're actually maintaining and
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  strengthening your relationship with a friend.
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  So what you want to do is do your best to listen to them.
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  It's important that your friends respond to the conversations
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  that you've asked. And also when they're talking,
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  you respond to their conversation, always listen.
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  It's super important and they'll respect you for it and they will
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  do the same to you. They listen to you, you listen
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  to them. You have a conversation.
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  This is how it works and this is how you maintain long lasting
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  friendships, which is super dope.
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  And guys, on that note, if you think this video can help
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  somebody get a friend or make friends, please share it on
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  Facebook, Twitter and Instagram. Tag them in it, share this video
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  with them, send them a DM, whatever.
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  As long as they get this content and it helps them, that's what
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  that's what matters. If you think this video is good,
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  please give it a thumbs up and I'll see you next time guys.