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EP119 - The Restrained Introvert: Why Slow Isn’t Stuck (and How to Make Steady Work for You) · The 3Bz Podcast - Building Better Business

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  Hi there business owner, and welcome to the Three BS Podcast,
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  the place where we go beyond the numbers and dive into the
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  strategies to help you build a Better Business one step at a
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  time. I'm your host, Stephanie, a
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  multi awarding entrepreneur with over a decade of experience in
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  the bookkeeping and currency world.
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  If you're a business owner looking to streamline, grow and
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  get back the time that you deserve, you're in the right
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  place tackling real world problems, answering tough
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  questions and digging deep into business building secrets in
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  just 15 minutes each week. So Are you ready to build a
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  Better Business with confidence and clarity?
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  Then let's go. Hello and welcome back to
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  another episode of the three Piece Podcast.
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  Your go to CPD certified 15 minutes of motivation, education
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  and inspiration each week. As always, I'm your host
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  Stephanie. If you're new here, hi, but
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  don't go any further. You need to go back to episode
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  115 to learn about the four different types of introvert in
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  order for this episode to make sense.
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  And if you haven't yet done the quiz and found out which of the
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  four types of introvert you are, go and do that too because that
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  will really help you take the strategies that are in these 4
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  episodes and implement them into your business your way.
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  Depending on the type of introvert that you are, the link
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  to the quiz will be in the show notes.
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  It will also be on social media. And if you came out as a social
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  introvert, you need to go back to episode 116.
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  If you were a thinking introvert, it's episode 117 and
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  if you go out as an anxious introvert, it's episode 118.
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  If you came out as a restrained introvert, you're in the right
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  place. Episode 119 is just for you to
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  help you build a Better Business.
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  This is the last one in our series.
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  It's the fun of the four types and my fiance is a huge
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  restrained introvert and I love being able to see the things in
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  him and make little suggestions of strategies to help him in his
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  business life and in his employed role, but working
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  towards his introverted strength.
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  So if you don't like being rushed into making decisions, if
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  you need time to warm up to new people or new ideas, prefer to
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  observe before jumping in, then you're most likely a restrained
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  introvert. I like to call it the not the
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  morning person introvert because it is people who just take a
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  little while to get going. Once they get going, they're
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  away, and I really feel like not being a morning person is a
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  really good example of that. Restrained introverts aren't
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  talked about as much, but they're the steady, thoughtful
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  long game players in business. And once they get moving, they
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  are absolutely unstoppable. And The thing is with restrained
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  introverts is they don't tend to show stereotypical social
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  introversion at all. Like they they're what you may
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  call an extrovert. They're not anxious about being
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  in a social situation. They don't actively avoid social
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  situations. Restrained introverts are
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  usually the life and soul at party, but they are calm,
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  measured and deliberate. Everything they do is not driven
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  by impulse. They take their time to think
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  things through and act with intention.
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  They are usually the type of person who won't speak in a
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  group straight away, but when they do, everyone's going to
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  listen. You're going to be the main
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  focus. You won't launch something
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  overnight, but when you do launch, it's solid, it's thought
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  out, and you do take the action. In business, that's incredibly
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  powerful. But being a restraint introvert
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  has its challenges, too, as with all of the four types of
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  introverts. And in a world that rewards
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  speed, noise, and this constant visibility, it can feel like
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  you're failing as a restraint introvert because you like to
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  pause. You don't stop.
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  You do still take action, but you like to pause.
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  And news flash, you're not. You're just playing a different
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  game and it works just as well. So let's go through some
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  strategies that can help restrained introverts move their
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  business forward and start ignoring the social media trends
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  and Tik Toks that everyone is telling you that you have to do
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  because they don't fit you. The first strategy for
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  restrained introverts is to own your pace before someone else
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  sets it for you. You are most productive when
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  you're not rushed. You're most productive or later
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  in the day. So instead of trying to keep up
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  with fast moving trends, the latest tick tock dance, set your
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  own timelines and protect them. Or you want to build in your
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  business, do it your way and don't be swayed by social media
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  gurus and other people telling you how to do things and that
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  things should be done quickly and you should follow the trends
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  and you should use the trend in audios and do the latest tick
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  tock dance. Try doing things like mapping
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  out your quarter before the world tells you what to do.
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  So before the trends have even become a thing, map out your
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  quarter and stick to it. Because that way you're less
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  likely to be distracted. You're less likely to be swayed
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  off course. Your quarter is planned out
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  before the quarter happens and you can then follow the plan
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  rather than being pulled in all different directions by the
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  latest trends of whoever shouting the loudest on social
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  media at the time. You can also try giving yourself
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  more time than you think you need because as a restrained
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  introvert you will often take longer to do things because you
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  think before you speak. Like a thinking introvert, you
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  tend to go slower but use that space that you give yourself to
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  do it well, to do a great job to to do everything at a high
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  standard. And also one of the biggest
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  things you can do to protect your own timeline is saying not
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  right now and don't feel guilty about it.
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  I think fast people think fast is better and fast isn't better.
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  Right is better. And you thrive when you're given
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  space to build properly. Restrain introverts.
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  If given the space to build, we'll create something really,
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  really clever. We'll create something
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  fantastic. And as a restrained introvert,
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  you'll do your best work when you're not pushed.
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  Unlike those that need the deadline, you need to give
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  yourself more space to make sure you're done well before the
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  deadline. Because when you start to rush
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  things, that sloppy and fast is not better in that case, and
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  right is better. One of my favorite sayings is
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  there's cheap, that's fast, and there's good, and you can pick
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  two out of three. If you're thinking introvert,
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  fast is not one of them. If you're one of the other types
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  of introvert, then you can pick the other two.
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  Strategy number 2 is to build quietly and then reveal
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  confidently. Now, restrained introverts often
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  hesitate to share things publicly, not because they're
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  not ready, but because they're still getting used to the idea
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  themselves. And also what often happens is
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  once you've shared something publicly, you've given yourself
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  that deadline, where actually if you give yourself a soft
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  deadline that you know you can extend by a few days or a few
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  weeks, you're going to not feel a stress and you're actually
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  going to build something with of greater quality because you're
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  giving yourself a time and space to do that.
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  So strategy number 2 is to create in private and then
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  launch in public. And by then you'll have the
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  confidence to do so. You don't have to share every
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  step of the process. You can build quietly, refine it
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  behind the scenes, tweak it, bait it, whatever you need to
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  do. And then once it's launched into
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  the public eye, you're ready, you're confident, it's time to
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  go. It's like this episode series.
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  It's like this quiz. I built it behind the scenes.
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  I was sitting on it for a little while, a couple of weeks or so.
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  And then once I knew it was ready or or 99% ready, I then
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  started teasing on social media. So sort of two days before I
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  knew the first of these five episodes were going out before
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  episode 115 explaining the four different types.
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  I knew it was 99% there. I'd built the four queers.
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  I'd built all the, the wrote all the emails, I'd scheduled all
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  all the sequences. I'd gone in and done all the
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  back end work. I'd made sure it was all right.
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  I'd got a friend to test it. I had sent it to a couple of
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  other business owners who are really wanting their opinion to
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  beta it to give me feedback on it.
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  And then by the time you see it, by the time I start teasing it,
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  it's coming. It's actually already there.
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  And for restrained introverts, that often helps as well.
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  I think of this when you think of the music industry.
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  So if you think of Louis Tomlinson, One Direction, Taylor
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  Swift, they would all do the same thing as they go, here's a
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  new album, here's a new song. You didn't know they were
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  working on it. You didn't know what was going
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  on behind the scenes. And they would just drop it or
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  they would start dropping their promo for it out of nowhere.
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  There was no big announcement, no building in public and and no
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  pressure to then do so. Just here it is, it's done and
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  it's incredible. And I think that's really
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  powerful in its own right. And you may not have a business
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  that's in the music industry. You may, you may have one, but
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  you may be in a business where you're a product based or
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  service based and you, you may not want to tell everyone you're
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  about you're about to release that thing until it's ready.
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  Or you might just want to drop it and go it's ready.
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  Here it is. And both things work really
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  well. And if you're a restraint
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  introvert, I think it's important for you to create that
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  in private and then launch in public confidently, because that
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  confident launch definitely sits well with your audience.
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  And finally, strategy 3. Focus on depth over frequency.
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  You don't need to post daily. You don't need to speak
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  constantly either. Restrained introverts do best
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  when they choose depth over volume.
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  So instead of 10 rushed reels, have one brilliant blog, 1 long
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  form piece of content. Have one thoughtful conversation
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  with a hot lead instead of chasing 10 media conversations
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  of warm leads. Sashi 3 is to create fewer,
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  better things. Restrained introverts don't need
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  to create more, they just need to create really in depth,
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  brilliant things. Less frequency, but by giving
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  much more depth and value. So it could be monthly deep dive
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  emails instead of those weekly newsletters.
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  It could be Evergreen offers with long term value so you're
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  not constantly having to go through that launch process time
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  and time again. A few solid client relationships
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  that grow overtime rather than lots and lots of clients.
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  And we run that way at ABCS UK. So we have no more than 25
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  clients at a time because that is the level we set where our
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  client relationships are paramount.
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  We still want to know the insurance and outs of every
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  single person that we work with. We still want to have those
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  quarterly meetings. We still want to have those
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  solid client relationships, that high touch points that we know
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  that business owner and that business inside and out, and
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  those client relationships grow over time rather than me having
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  100 and 5200 self assessments that come in and out the door
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  and we don't see them year to year.
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  It's important to remember that you don't need to keep up.
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  You just need to show up consistently in your way and in
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  a way that works for you. If you're a strange introvert,
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  your pace isn't a weakness and you need to remember that it's
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  one of the most powerful things about you.
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  You don't rush, you don't rush, you don't react and you build
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  with intention that proactiveness of instead of
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  reacting to trends of sort of setting your own if you like.
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  When you trust that pace, your business becomes sustainable,
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  calm, and genuinely aligned with you and what you are looking to
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  build and having something calm and sustainable rather than
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  super fast growth that's very unstable.
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  If you're looking to build a big, bigger and Better Business
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  long term, which I presume you are by watching or listening to
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  this podcast, that could be for you.
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  If you're a restrained introvert.
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  And as we get to the end of this miniseries about the four
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  different types of introverts, if you are yet to confirm your
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  introvert type or if you've got to the end of it and thought
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  actually maybe it's not what I thought, go back and do the quiz
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  again or go and do the quiz. It will give you your
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  personalized tips based on how you work best.
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  It will give you your results. And if you've listened to the
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  whole series, I'd love to know if you resonated with more than
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  one. If your answers to your quiz
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  changed over time, sometimes with multiple choice questions.
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  I think when there's four different answers, sometimes 2
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  fit and two down. So go back and have a look at
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  the questions again. It's only 7 questions.
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  It's not going to take you very long to complete the quiz again
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  if you have already done it, or to complete the quiz for the
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  first time if you haven't, and see what type comes out and see
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  if it resonates with you. Once you know what type you are,
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  you can go back and listen to these episodes.
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  If you've listened to the whole series, thank you for being here
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  for this four part journey. I've got a feeling that we'll be
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  coming back to this more and more, but for next week we'll go
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  for something totally different. If this has been a useful
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  series, do share with a fellow business owner either share
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  episode 115 that explains the four different types of
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  introverts. If you're listening to this
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  episode and thinking my partners are restrained introvert or my
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  bookkeepers are restrained introvert, or the person that
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  cleans my windows, I'm sure that they're a restrained introvert.
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  Send them the link, show them this episode, show them this
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  podcast so that we can all build Better Business.
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  I'd be so grateful if you could just share it with one person
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  this week. That would be really, really
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  helpful for me. I will see you next week for the
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  next episode. Thank you so much for being
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  here. I've been Stephanie, this has
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  been a three of these podcast and I'll see you next week.
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  Bye. And that brings us to the end of
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  another episode of The Three Bees podcast.
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  Bye.