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EP43 - Magnetism... Do you have it? · Oh And One More Thing

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Well, hello there everyone. It's Rob.
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Welcome to one one more thing the.
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Podcast. And I'm Brian, the man of the
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hour, the podcast King, your charismatic friend.
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Just kidding, we're just two guys talking about random topics
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that we find interesting, or at least I find interesting, and
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Rob just has to go. With it, that's pretty much my
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life. All right, So I know I talked
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about this last week. I'm going to talk about it
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again. Oh no, you repeat topic or.
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Tipping. Tipping again?
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So here's the deal. OK, wait, wait, we're not
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talking about cow tipping. No, no.
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Tipping, tipping, tipping, tipping money.
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So listen to a few previous podcast people if you want to
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know what I'm talking about. But tipping sometimes irritates
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me, and here was a prime example last night of what irritated me
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so. Are you?
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You get irritated. Frequently I do so, but we went
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to a new restaurant in town in Chaska.
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I'm not going to name the restaurant 'cause there's
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nothing wrong with the restaurant, OK?
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Food was. OK, you can tell me off there.
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I will. Food was OK, wasn't horrible,
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but it wasn't great, but it was it was good, it was decent, it
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was fine. Service was not great.
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I mean, no, I think our waitress, I think she may have
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been the only one on the floor and took a while to get to us
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and get back to us and empty drinks and and then she didn't
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really listen. Like somebody placed an order.
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OK, Is that all you want? Well, no, I'm going to order.
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OK. Is that all you want?
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And then she had to get out of there as fast as she could.
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The daughter is going to order. I mean, yeah, it was just weird.
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And then it was just weird. The whole thing was weird,
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Right? So anyway, she brings the bill,
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which is fine. Yeah.
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And you know my issue with the little computer and the little
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tablet, and it says here's your tipping.
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Well, this one was actually nice.
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This one was 1520 and 25. OK.
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So kind of what we grew to that, you know, the standard.
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Pleasantly surprised. So I was gonna give her 15
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because honestly, that the service was not great.
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Sure. So I was gonna give her right?
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Sure. It makes a difference.
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Hands me the tablet, literally stands over my shoulder and
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watches me. Well, you select 15I selected.
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20 because she's steer me down like a freaking hawk.
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Oh so you and I was got nervous and little anxiety shy right?
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Anxiety went up and yeah, and I was pissed.
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OK, first of all, don't do that people, right?
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But why didn't you just, you know, push 15?
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I give her the eye, look at her like.
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I hovered and I hit the 20 because when it comes to things
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like that in confrontation, I live in Minnesota and I'm a wuss
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so. Stand up for yourself, right I?
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Know so anyway. I know that I don't always do
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that either. I don't stand for stand up for
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myself. But you know, yeah, that's kind
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of why we're one in the same. I suppose, yeah, pretty close to
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yeah. You know, they do say that birds
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of a feather flock together, but did you know which birds really
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stick together? Know what?
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Velcros. There we go.
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There's too many buttons. You got it eventually.
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Though eventually that's funny. Hey, did you ever notice that
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some people seem to draw the other people in effortlessly?
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Conversations just seem to flow around them.
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Yeah. I wish I had that talent.
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Right. Yeah.
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Their presence feels energizing rather than draining.
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Right. Kind of like us draining.
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No, I think we're energizing. I do.
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Too. I do too.
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They aren't necessarily the loudest.
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Well, sometimes I'm loud and they're not always the most
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attractive. Hello.
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Yeah, we are. Or the most accomplished in the
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room, yet people remember them, trust them, and want to be near
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them, right? Who are these people, right?
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Are we one of them? Are you one of them?
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I say we find out. OK.
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Yeah. You know this quality is often
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described as magnetism. That's a great sound.
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That's our topic. For the day.
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Awesome. No, wait, wait.
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It's not animal magnetism, is it?
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RAR. Wow.
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No, wow. As I'll say, despite popular
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belief it is, it isn't something you're either born with or
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without a magnetic personality. You gotta do that every time.
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Yes, I am. It's built through habits,
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small, repeatable behaviors that shape how you show up in the
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world. OK, OK.
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So that's a good topic. Right, I think so.
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So what should I do to become more magnetic, Rob?
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Well, we found out that there are basically 7 habits that you
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intentionally practice to make your personality more magnetic,
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authentic and impactful. OK, good.
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So I'm going to listen to this intently.
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Only 7. Really, it's got to be easy
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then, right? Exactly.
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So a magnetic personality comes from being genuinely interested
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in others, showing authentic enthusiasm?
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Practicing empathy? What's that?
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Listening actively and excluding positive energy through
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confidence, humor and passion? OK Making people feel seen,
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valued and uplifted by your presence.
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And focus on them, not just yourself.
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OK, wow, that sounds like a lot to do.
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Right. Exactly.
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But here's what makes it work. Magnetic people make others feel
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good about themselves by making them the focus, showing their
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heard and valued, and creating positive experiences through
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shared laughter and genuine connection.
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OK, OK. So you're saying there are 7
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habits I can practice to become more magnetic?
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That's. That's what I hear.
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Wait, you mean my personality is more magnetic, right?
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I'm not electrified. No, you're not.
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Your personality is OK. Perfect all.
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Right, so let's start with #1 be fully present with people.
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OK, fully present. Yeah.
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And tell me how to do. That Yeah.
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So I'm totally honest here. This is one I struggle a little
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with because I I, my mind tends to wander a little bit.
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OK, so a few things are more attractive than feeling truly
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seen and heard, and I would absolutely agree with that.
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In a world full of distractions, presence has become rare and
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therefore powerful. OK, so be fully present.
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So what does that mean? So it means giving someone your
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full attention when they speak. It means putting your phone
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away. That's a big one, not scanning
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the room for someone more important and resisting the urge
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to mentally rehearse what you'll say next.
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Instead, you listen with curiosity and respond
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thoughtfully. OK.
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So I think that's hard for some people and be included.
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Oh, me, me too. Absolutely.
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And I. I can remember back, you know,
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you're talking to somebody and you're looking around the room
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and I'm like, how rude. Yeah, Oh my gosh.
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And I think it's even harder now just with the fascination
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everybody has with their phones. I mean you have a little
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conversation and I'm not going to call anybody out in
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particular, but like somebody's watch will go off and they
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literally stop mid sentence, look at their watch or grab your
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phone and see whatever message they're getting because that's
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more important then the conversation you and I are
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having right now. That's what phones have done for
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us, you know, It's immediate. Right, right.
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And and you notice that too when you're texting, you know, and a
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text is, hey, great, I saw it. I'll get back to you.
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But the person's waiting for a response at the other.
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End right. It's the damn bubbles.
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Yeah, it's all you iPhone people and your bubbles.
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Come on now. You know what's that?
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We have those on Android. I'll do those.
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Yeah, you Android. I know we joined the game.
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All right, magnetic people make others feel like they matter in
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the moment. That doesn't require charisma or
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wit, only intention. When you practice presence,
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people associate you with feeling valued, respected, and
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understood. Yeah, that's that's cool.
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That's a very powerful. Statement that is powerful.
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I like. That I like that too.
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So how to practice it? OK, maintain comfortable eye
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contact. OK, so this is difficult.
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Yeah, it takes practice to actually to maintain eye
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contact. Yeah.
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And that's awkward at first, I think, to really get into that.
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And I know I'm, I'm looking at my script here that we're
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talking about and I'm trying to look at you at the same time,
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right? I don't want to be charismatic
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with you. That's.
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Also probably why we're following through our words a
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little bit, because we're trying to look at each other and read
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at the same time because. We want to make this real
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anyway. Next is listen to understand,
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not reply. Yeah, that's, again that's
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difficult. I have a hard time with that.
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I'm always trying to think one step ahead.
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Because you want this next. The next one is ask follow up
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questions to show you're genuinely interested.
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Well, if I'm not thinking of the follow up question then there's
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a pause. But anyway, they say over time,
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this habit alone can dramatically change how people
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experience you. Yeah, I can get that.
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I get that. So since writing this content
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and researching, I've been trying to practice that and I've
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been more diligent in trying to look at people when I'm talking
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to or they're talking to me and give them my full attention.
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I did it the other day with my wife, and she was telling me
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about her job. And so I pretty much stopped
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what I was doing and just focused on her.
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Yeah. And it was so nice, actually
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that I wasn't, you know, trying to do something else at the same
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time. It just gave her my full
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attention. It was.
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It was very nice. That's cool.
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Yeah, I, I tend to wander like in my eyes.
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Like I'll wander because I, I'm the kind of person that would
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have to think my eyes go up to the top of my head as I'm
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looking around in my brain. Yeah, you're.
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Kind of thinking of the next thing.
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Right. And it's just, it's just
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natural. I think I'm not doing it on
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purpose, Just I have to think hard about something or what I
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want to say. My eyes roll up and it's for me,
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I think that's going to be the most difficult thing is to
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maintain that eye contact and not seem like a creep, right?
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But but focus on what I want to say.
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But. Rob, you're creeping me out.
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Right, that's just that is natural for.
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So the second point is to cultivate emotional
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self-awareness. OK, so magnetic individuals
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understand their own emotions. What?
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They don't suppress them, nor do they let them spill
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uncontrollably onto others. This emotional awareness creates
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steadiness, which people naturally gravitate towards.
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OK, so when you recognize what you're feeling, whether it's
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frustration, excitement, insecurity, or joy, you gain the
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ability to choose how you respond instead of reacting
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impulsively. This makes your presence feel
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safe and grounded. OK, that's probably quite
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difficult to do. Yeah, I think so.
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But people are drawn to those that can handle their emotions
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with maturity because it signals reliability and strength.
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OK, so how to practice that? OK, pause and name your feelings
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throughout the day. I I work alone all day long in
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my home and so I'm naming my feelings what usually
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frustration and I'm screaming about.
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Right. The next is to notice emotional
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patterns and triggers. That that I think is easier than
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the first one probably. Right.
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And the last is take responsibility for the emotional
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state. Yep, I.
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Agree with that. Yep, Yep.
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See, emotional awareness isn't about perfection, it's about
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honesty and growth. You.
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Got to be got to be honest with yourself first.
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That's where it starts. I like that.
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All right, the number three speak with warmth and intent.
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Your words matter, and how you say them matters just as much.
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Magnetic People Magnetic people communicate with warmth,
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clarity, and intention. They don't dominate
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conversations, belittle others, or speak just to be heard.
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Instead, they choose words that invite connection.
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They know when to be thoughtful, when to be playful, and when
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silence is more powerful than speech.
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Yeah, and we all know those people who just love them to
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death, but they just can't seem to shut up you.
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Know what I mean? I don't know that I know how to
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do this. Yeah, right.
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It's hard to, you know, carefully speak on things and.
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And hold things back. And sometimes if you really are
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passionate right, you want to say it, but it may not be the
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right time. Well, especially for a couple of
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guys that wear their motions on their sleeve.
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Are you talking about me? No, both of us.
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I'm. Saying I mean like.
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People know if we're upset. People know, right?
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We can't hide it at all. So.
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So this habit creates atmosphere where others feel comfortable
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expressing themselves without fear or judgement.
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So how to practice it? Slow down your speech slightly.
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OK, that's a struggle. Oh God, here's another one.
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I oh avoid sarcasm at others expense.
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Oh God, that's another tough SO. OK, can you be a sarcastic
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person and then not be a sarcastic person?
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I don't know how to do that. I don't.
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Know how to do that stuff. And thirdly, match your tone to
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the emotional moment. OK, that one I get.
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Do you? I'm not 100% sure on that one.
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Match your tone to the emotional moment.
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OK. So if I'm excited, my tone can
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go higher and I'd be excited if the room is kind of down, keep
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my tone down. Yeah, it makes sense.
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That's what you're saying. Yeah.
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OK. Yeah.
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So when your words consistently uplift or clarify, people
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associate your voice with comfort and confidence.
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Oh, I like that. So kind of like how we're
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talking on this podcast because we're confident in what we're
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doing. Well, we, we assume people
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assume we're confident, you know, when we try.
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But yeah, totally behind the scenes, right?
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Not kind of. Exactly.
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I I'm just one day at a time, buddy.
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One day at it. All right #4 show genuine
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appreciation, OK? One of the fastest ways to
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become magnetic. Love it.
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Thank you for that. Is to make appreciation a daily
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habit, not flattery, authentic recognition.
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OK, magnetic people, you're a little slow on that trigger.
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A little slow on that one, sorry.
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Magnetic people notice effort. They acknowledge kindness.
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They express gratitude openly and specifically.
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This habit builds goodwill and emotional residence almost
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instantly. When appreciation is genuine, it
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doesn't feel transactional. It feels generous.
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And generosity of spirit is deeply attractive.
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It is, you say. That's what I hear.
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Right, So how to practice it? Compliment character, not just
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appearance. How do you do?
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That well, especially if you're on like Love is Blind on
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Netflix, you. Can't see them dull people.
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That's the worst, right? Yeah.
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No, that's not happening on there.
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But that's what they do. They do, they do build and they
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do build. They build relationships and
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complement each other based on their character, not on their
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appearance really. So I think that.
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Is that's what's happening on that show?
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Is the one thing I have taken away from that show is like you
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really truly get to know a person inside before you get to
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see them. Oh, wait, wait, wait.
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I'm thinking of Love Island. Love is blind, not Love Island,
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Right? Right.
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That's all about the pretty people.
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Right love is blind is they they have to get to know each about
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seeing them. Yeah, and nine times out of 10
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they're pretty anyway, just 'cause they're on TV, but not
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the point, right? Right.
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But oh, I so now I get it. I get that makes sense.
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OK, OK. Thank people promptly and
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sincerely. So right away.
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Right away, yeah. And recognize contributions
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publicly when appropriate. OK.
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So overtime, people will associate you with positivity
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and encouragement. I want to be this person.
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I want to be this person and. And it's hard, I mean, to
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practice all of these things, right?
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Yeah, that's going to be a. Lot of work.
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I think in theory it sounds great, but I think you're right.
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I think it it takes actual practice to make it happen.
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Yeah, I'm going to report back next week how I did.
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Love it. OK, all right #5 be comfortable
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with who you are. That's probably a hard one.
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That's tough, yeah. Nothing repels connection faster
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than trying too hard to impress right magnetic people.
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See, you got it that time. People are comfortable in their
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own skin. They don't need to prove
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themselves, exaggerate their stories, or seek constant
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validation. Yeah, I mean, I, I get that if
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somebody is doing that, it's kind of a turn off.
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Oh. Absolutely it is.
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And this doesn't mean that they're arrogant or complacent.
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It means they accept themselves while continuing to grow.
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OK, That quiet self assurance puts others at ease because
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there's no hidden agenda, OK? Authentically, it creates trust,
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and trust is magnetic. You got it.
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So how do we practice that? We speak honestly about what you
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know and what you don't know. That's.
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The key, that's the key, and that's tough for some people.
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Yeah, yeah, 'cause. You don't want to admit you
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don't know something, right? Right.
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Yeah. Allow your personality to be
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imperfect. Right.
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No. I got that one down perfectly.
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I do that every. Day, every day.
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I'm imperfect, right? And the last one is stop
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comparing your journey to others.
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Right. I think that's tough for a lot
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of people. It's really hard.
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Especially in this social media environment that we currently
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live in. Yeah, all about what's on TikTok
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and on Reels and. Constant.
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Yeah, it's a constant. Comparison.
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Constant comparison, yeah. So when you stop performing,
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people feel free to do the same around you.
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Oh, that's cool. I like it.
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That's really cool. Like it #6 bring positive energy
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without forcing it. OK, so magnetic people.
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There's that sound again. Magnetic people aren't
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relentlessly cheerful. What?
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How's that? Yeah, right.
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But they are emotionally constructive.
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OK. OK I need to know what this.
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Means explain that. They don't complain excessively,
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dwell on negativity, oh, that's my problem.
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Or drain the room with cynicism. That's both our.
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What? Right.
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So I have been known to drain the room, but here we're doing
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this sort of thing between you and I and the world, and it's
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making me a better person. Rob.
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It is. And, you know, I think we just
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had this conversation right before we started recording
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today about it's tough to do this every week, right?
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It is. Tough.
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It is tough, but by the time we're done, we're always in a
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better mood, we're always happy. I know I I come in here like a
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lump on a log and you are like, let's do this.
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And I'm like, I don't wanna. And here we are happy go lucky.
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And we're having fun and we have a great time.
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By the time we're done, we're smiling and laughing and having
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a great time. Right, everybody should do this.
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Right, No, they shouldn't, only only we should do it.
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And you should tell all your friends and your enemies about
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this podcast 'cause it's that good.
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So you, you picked up what I was putting down.
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OK, let's get back to the topic here.
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So instead positive energy, they bring perspective, optimism, and
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emotional balance. They acknowledge challenges
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without being consumed by them. OK, that's hard.
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This makes others feel lighter and more capable in their
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presence. Positive energy isn't about
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pretending everything is fine, it's about choosing responses
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that move situations forward rather than pulling them down
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right. And, and again, we all know
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those people that the. First one of those.
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People you're not, but I know in your mind you think you are.
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Well, I'm working on it. Yeah, I know, and you absolutely
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are not. But I know people that I talk to
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on a regular basis that the first thing out of their mouth
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is always something negative and it just drives me nuts.
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Yeah. And if you're paying attention
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to yourself, you recognize that that drives you nuts and those
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people who bring it down. So you you try to go a little
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bit more to the positive. Yeah, but it's just like a dark
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tunnel you can't get out of if you're always looking at the
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negative. You just can't see the light.
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And and that's that's, that's hard.
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Well, that has a lot to do with mental awareness and, you know,
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depression and those things that really carry you down.
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Absolutely. So how to practice it?
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OK, tell me how. Limit habitual complaining.
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OK, OK, it's what? Thomas like I set that off How?
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Did you do that? Right.
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Yeah, it's tough. You can't.
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You can't complain about everything you've got you've.
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Not, or at least if you have a complaint, find the positive
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lining to it, right? Exactly.
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And and you're still sort of complaining because you need to
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get it off your chest. It makes you feel better, but
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you got to have a positive swing.
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It's OK to vent, just don't dwell and live with it, right?
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Yeah. Reframe setbacks as learning
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moments. There's always a learning
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experience from everything. Yeah.
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Yeah. Everything negative.
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Everything negative has you. You're going to learn something
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from it and be better because of it, right?
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It may suck at the time, it may be miserable, but you will get
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through it. You will be better for it.
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Thanks, Rob. Yep.
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And be my mindful of the emotional tone you bring into
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rooms. Yeah, that's hard.
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Don't always. I'm not always mindful of what
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I'm carrying in, you know, and I might just, like, spew it out
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and that's wrong. Yeah.
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So people naturally seek out environments to make them feel
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better, not worse. And we want people.
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Yes, we do. So #7 make others feel
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empowered. Perhaps the most magnetic there
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it is habit of all is helping others feel stronger, more
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confident and more capable after interacting with you.
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O magnetic people. What was that?
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So I changed it up a little bit so.
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A little. OK, that was different a little.
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Cooler mood a little. More Spacey, so magnetic people
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don't compete for attention or diminish others to elevate
20:32
themselves. They listen, encourage, and
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offer support in ways that empower rather than control.
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I like. That I like that, yeah.
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I. Hope I can put all this into
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practice. When people leave a conversation
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with you feeling inspired or capable, they'll want to return.
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Absolutely. Those are the kind of people you
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want to engage with, right? Yeah.
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Friends. Exactly.
20:52
So how do you practice it? So encourage others ideas and
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ambitions. Okay, so be encouraging
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basically. Absolutely, Brian, I think
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you're a fantastic artist and you should promote your stuff
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more. Thanks, Rob.
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Briandoingcreative.com By the way, share credit generously.
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Rob, you do a great job on this podcast and you.
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Know Brian, I love how you edit and you do such a good job and
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take out all the crap we screw up with.
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Yeah, there's a lot of screw up and there's a lot of UMS and
21:22
there's a lot of, you know, your mouth makes a noise.
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Yeah, all that's taken out people.
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And this, what is it? We're at a, we're about half
21:31
hour podcast today. It's about an hour and a half
21:33
recording time. Yeah, for being honest and offer
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help without expecting anything in return.
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I can do that. Yeah, yeah, so true magnetism.
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There's the sound of like. Isn't about about attracting
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people to you, it's about lifting them up.
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Oh, that's nice. Yeah.
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OK, so I got to remember that more.
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It's like less about me, more about you, right?
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And you're going to say less about me?
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More about you. Yeah, why?
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I was also going to say you don't need to be like a a
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positive Poly where everything that's coming out of your mouth,
22:08
the rainbows and unicorns, but. No, there's seven steps here.
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There's a lot of things to do, right?
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If I can only accomplish 50% of these, I'll be halfway to being
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magnetically. And honestly, for me, it's just
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doing a better job of cutting out the negativity.
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Okay, right. Things like, you know, I hate
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people. Come on now, you.
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Know what I don't hate people when I'm driving on the highway.
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So, OK, so that's a little bit different, right?
22:30
It's called road rage. Yeah, so someone with a magnetic
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personality seems to pull others in effortlessly.
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Their confidence, warmth and energy create an invisible force
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that draws people closer. We often describe such
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individuals as attractive not because of appearance alone, but
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because of an intangible presence that feels almost
22:52
physical. Interestingly, this metaphor
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echoes a real phenomenon in the natural the whole world of
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animal magnetism. OK, so what's the difference?
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OK, well, charisma operates in the realm of human emotion and
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perception. Animal magnetism refers to the
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mysterious force once believed to flow between living beings,
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blurring the lines between science and mysticism.
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Mysticism. Mysticism.
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Mysticism. Mysticism.
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How many times can I say that? Mysticism.
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OK. In both cases, magnetism
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symbolizes an unseen power of attraction, inviting us to
23:29
consider how invisible forces, whether psychological or
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physical, shape connection and influence.
23:36
OK, OK, so let's maybe give a little background on animal
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magnetism. Sure, that's not the same.
23:41
You can't use the animal mechanism with that.
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All right, sorry, what else do I have in here?
23:45
All I got. All right, so an 18th century
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theory proposed by German physician Franz Anton Mesmer
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suggested an invisible natural fluid exists in all living
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things that can be manipulated to cure illnesses.
23:58
What? It was believed at the time to
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be a magnetic force channeled by a practitioner to restore
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health. The later investigations by
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scientists like Benjamin Franklin debunked the theory,
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attributing its apparent effects to suggestions and hypnosis.
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OK, sure. The modern non scientific usage
24:16
of animal magnetism is often used to describe a powerful raw
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or primal personal charm and sexual attractiveness.
24:23
Brown chicken, Brown cat. So definitely different than a
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magnetic personality. Right.
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No, I don't think we want animal magnetism.
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We want magnetic personalities, so.
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Don't. Don't confuse those.
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Don't you want that one? Not that one.
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That's right, there's 2 completely different things
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happening here. OK, so let's recap these for
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everybody. Because that was a lot.
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It was a lot. So number one was be fully
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present with people. OK, we can do that.
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Number 2, Cultivate emotional self-awareness.
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All right #3 was speak with warmth and intent and. #4 Show
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genuine appreciation. OK, good #5 be comfortable with
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who you are. That's hard.
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That's hard. And number six, bring positive
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energy without forcing it that we can do that.
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That's a good one and #7 make others feel empowered.
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And I think that one's the biggest.
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Yeah, these are going to be hard to work on, but it's going to be
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What is it, Rob? And Magnetic personality isn't
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built overnight, and it isn't built through tricks or
25:47
manipulation, and it isn't animal magnetism.
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No, it's not, Darn it. It's the natural result of
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consistent habits rooted in presence, self-awareness,
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warmth, and authenticity. The more you practice these
25:58
habits, the more your interactions will feel
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meaningful rather than transactional.
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And overtime, people won't just notice you that remember how you
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made them feel. Oh, that's nice.
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And that, my friend, is the essence of true magnetism.
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Bam, there it is. Bam.
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OK, so that's it. Bye everyone, bye.
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So basically no shortcuts on being a decent human.