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5 Mindset Shifts That Could Change Everything · The Nadia Chapman Show

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  Well, hello, friends, and welcome back to a new episode of the Nadia Chapman
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  Show. I am so glad I'm here today.
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  I had a solid six hours of sleep. I don't need much, but I'm deep sleeping and I'm on fire today.
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  And I'm coming in hot with a very fun topic, five powerful mindset shifts that
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  can, if you truly let them, change everything in your life.
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  And I don't say this lightly, but this episode is for you if you've been feeling
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  like you're meant for more or you're craving a reset or you feel stuck into
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  a loop of just overthinking and feeling stuck or second guessing all the time.
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  Well, this is going to be a good one for you and some very tangible shifts to
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  apply in your life. So if you're ready to think differently and show up differently
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  and live differently, let's dive in together.
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  The first one, number one, is confidence isn't something you wait for.
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  It's something you build. Well, what does it mean, Nadia?
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  Let's knock this one out right away because this is the one thing I see most
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  in my coaching session, in my conversations with you, even in my own life.
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  We think that confidence is this little feeling inside of us.
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  Like one day you'll wake up and you'll feel like, oh my God,
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  I am so confident today. You feel bold. I feel ready.
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  I feel fearless. But confidence is not a mood.
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  It's not a mood that you just suddenly wake up in. It's not a personality trait either.
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  Confidence is a muscle. So it's something that you have to build by showing up
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  even when you don't feel ready. So think about that.
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  Confidence is built in little moments that you actually don't feel confident. Aha, that's the twist.
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  But you do it anyway. So I want you to let that sink in for a second.
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  You're building it when you feel nervous. You're building it when you take the microphone,
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  even though your voice is shaking, or if you're a figure skater,
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  a lot of you are figure skaters, or when you get on the ice and you don't feel
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  maybe ready or you feel you're afraid.
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  You're building confidence when you choose action over avoidance.
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  So you don't wake up and say, okay, I'm going to do, you know,
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  X, Y, Z when I feel more confident.
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  No, you do X, Y, Z and you will get confidence. It will come as you step into
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  action. But here's the kicker.
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  It's not even about nailing it. It's not about doing things perfectly.
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  You could stumble. you could mess it up and confidence still grows because what
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  your brain records is, oh, I did it and I survived.
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  So let's rewrite this idea that confident people are the one that are always
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  having everything perfectly and everything figured out because it's not the case.
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  They're the one who made a decision over and over again not to wait.
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  So the confident people you know, they choose courage.
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  They choose discomfort. They choose to believe in themselves even when no one is clapping.
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  And that's available to you right now if you think about that.
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  Okay, number two, you are not behind. You're right on time for your life.
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  Oh, I love that. So let's get real about something we all feel but rarely say out loud.
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  That little nagging voice inside of us that tells us all the time,
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  oh my gosh, you should be further by now.
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  I hear that one in my head a lot. Maybe you thought you would be having a different
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  job by now or if you're a figure skater, that you would land certain jumps by
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  now, or maybe you thought I would be married by now,
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  or more successful, or more confident, or just have my life together.
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  And you look around and it seems like everyone else is ahead of you,
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  especially with social media.
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  But that feeling, I'm going to tell you, it's a big fat trap.
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  You're not behind. You're not late. You're on your timeline.
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  Ha ha, not theirs. And that matters. And I'm going to tell you why.
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  What if this season you're in, so the one that feels maybe a little slower or
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  frustrating or uncertain, isn't a delay, but part of the story,
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  part of your development?
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  What if you're not stuck? What if you're training?
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  Because the truth is, some of the most powerful growth that we see in our life happens in the quiet.
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  In the chapters that don't look necessarily flashy on Instagram,
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  or in the moments that no one sees you but you.
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  This is where your strength is being built. And this is where your clarity is being born.
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  This is where you're becoming that version of yourself who's ready for what's next.
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  So when you start spiraling into comparison or self-judgment,
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  I want you to pause and remind yourself, I am not behind.
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  I'm building. I am preparing.
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  And I'm right on time for my life. Maybe that is the router downer, guys.
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  I'm not behind. I'm building. I'm preparing.
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  And I'm right on time for my life. Not everyone else's. So trust the timing.
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  Trust the training. And most of all, guys, trust you.
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  Let's dive in number three. Other people's opinions are not your GPS.
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  Oh, I love that. Let's be honest. How much of your life is being driven by what
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  other people are thinking?
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  How much time have you spent wondering, what will they say? What if I fell in front of them?
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  What if they think I'm full of myself? What if I shine too brightly for someone
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  else's comfort zone? Ooh, well, that's exhausting thinking about all of that, right?
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  We live in this invisible box sometimes where our own decisions,
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  let's be honest, our energy, our truth get filtered through other people's judgment.
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  And most of the time, people aren't even thinking about us.
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  They don't really care that much. They're just thinking about themselves,
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  their own insecurities and their own fears and their own mirrors.
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  So what would happen if you stopped letting other people's opinion steer the car?
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  Because they don't have your map. You know what I mean? They don't know your calling.
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  They haven't walked in your shoes. They don't get to hold the pen to your story.
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  So I'm gonna give you a little permission slip if I can say right now.
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  Stop making yourself small to make others comfortable.
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  Stop editing yourself to avoid judgment and judgment that might not even be real.
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  Stop shrinking in rooms that you, yes, you were meant to lead in.
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  How powerful is that? So you don't owe the world and the people around you a
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  version of you they can easily digest and process. It doesn't work like that.
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  You owe yourself the full expression of who you are. And I think number three is my favorite.
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  I should do a whole podcast just about that.
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  Number four, success without peace is just a performance.
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  Success without peace is just a performance.
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  What in the world do I mean by that?
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  This one's tough because we live in a world that is obsessed with performance,
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  achievements, hustle, crushing it.
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  But I've worked with people and I know people who had all of the markers of
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  success, if I can say, and they are unhappy.
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  They are burnt out.
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  They are disconnected, anxious, and some of them quite miserable.
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  So see, success is not the goal.
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  Alignment is and let me
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  say that again because it's so important success that
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  will cost you your peace and your joy and your
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  soul isn't success so here's my coaching moment for you listeners right now
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  what are you chasing and is it yours is what you're chasing yours or just what
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  the world told you you want,
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  or just what people around you told you you want.
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  Because if you're building a life that looks really, really freaking good, but feels hollow.
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  You're just performing. You're not truly living. And you deserve more than that.
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  So I've got three coaching questions right now to ask yourself.
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  The first one, does this light me up or drain me, what you're doing right now in your life?
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  Number two, am I saying yes to things that align with my values or not?
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  And lastly, who am I trying to impress?
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  And why? Who am I trying to impress? I love that one.
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  And the truth is, the most impressive people that you're going to meet,
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  the most awesome people you're going to meet in your life are not the ones with
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  the biggest followers of the biggest bank account.
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  They're the one who lit up from the inside, the grounded people,
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  the present people, the peaceful people, whole people.
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  And that kind of success in your life, when you reach that, it hits different.
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  So if you're constantly anxious, overwhelmed, burnt out, resentful,
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  that's not success. That's performance.
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  That's self-abandonment. With a bow on it.
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  And I say this with love, that you were not put on this planet to check boxes
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  and smile through misery.
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  You were meant to feel lit up by your life and not drained and not trapped.
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  So here's your mindset shift for you.
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  Start defining success on your terms, okay?
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  Capital your terms, not what your family wants, not what your past self expected
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  or your past self wanted, not what social media shows you.
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  What do you want your life to feel like? Ask yourself that.
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  If it doesn't bring you peace, if it costs you your energy, your joy,
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  and your mental health, If it's too expensive, no matter how impressive it looks.
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  You deserve to build a life that feels like you.
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  Number five, your thoughts are the blueprint of your life. So choose them like they matter.
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  This is life coaching and mindset coaching 101.
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  Your thoughts create your beliefs and your beliefs drive your action.
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  Your actions shape your outcomes and your outcomes create your life.
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  Holy moly, I think I have to say that again.
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  You guys have a pen and a paper? your thoughts create your
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  beliefs your beliefs drive your actions your
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  actions shape your outcomes and your
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  outcomes create your life your brain
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  is constantly recording and if you keep feeding it like oh i'm never going to
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  get it right i suck at this everyone's ahead of me i don't have what it takes
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  then guess what your brain is going to believe that exactly that but the moment
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  that you become very intentional with your thoughts,
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  the moment that you start catching those loops,
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  these old patterns and saying, you know what, wait, wait, wait,
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  wait, wait, wait, wait, that's not true anymore. That's not me.
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  You start the reprogramming. You start reprogramming everything.
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  So instead, challenge of the day, try this.
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  Next time that you catch a thought that makes it feel like, oh,
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  like yucky inside, like, oh, it twists your stomach because it's not a nice thought.
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  It's a punch in the gut. I want you to pause and ask, would I say this.
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  To my best friend. Because chances, you will never talk to your friend the way you talk to yourself.
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  Speak a better truth. You're not lying to yourself. This is not being in denial.
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  It's leading yourself. Because your thoughts, what's going on in your head,
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  they are the soil from which your entire life grows.
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  So start planting healthy, positive, empowering seeds for something better to come out of.
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  See it as every thought you have is a brick and you're building something with
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  every single one and you need to make it strong.
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  You need to make it true and make it a place where you want to live in.
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  How beautiful is that? Nice one, Nadia.
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  Look, I know how tempting it is to listen to podcasts like this one and just
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  nod your head and feel good for a few minutes and then get right back into your old pattern.
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  But I don't want you to do that today.
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  Let this be the sign that you're waiting for. Let this one land.
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  Let this one be the line in the sand moment for you to decide to do things differently.
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  That's it for today, guys. If this episode stirs something within you,
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  please share it, send it to someone who might need it, or share on social media
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  and tag me at Nadia Chapman Coaching.
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  And if you want to go deeper and come hang out with me, you can visit the Mental Edge Academy.
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  I've got workbooks, coaching options, and tools to help you train your mind
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  to match the life that you're building.
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  So remember, guys, you're not stuck. You're just one mindset shift away.
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  And I'm so proud of you for being here.
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  Thanks for listening. I'll chat with you next time.