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Narcissists discard everyone that doesnt blindly support them · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful people?
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  Welcome to another episode of The Narcissist Code.
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  I'm your. Favorite self aware narcissist
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  Mr. Lee Hammock. Better known as mental illness
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  across all social media platforms, This is your first
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  time I see my. Face and hear my lovely voice.
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  I'm a clinically diagnosed narcissist and I use my platform
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  on social media to raise awareness for MPD, get more
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  people into therapy and also validate the victims, survivors
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  and thrivers. Of said disorders, said toxic
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  people said toxic traits. Today's episode is going to be
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  about how narcissists discard everyone that does not serve
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  them to. Remain in a narcissistic
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  person's life. You have there, you.
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  There has to be a purpose, and that purpose has.
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  To be to serve them that purpose.
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  Has to be in benefit of them narcissistic people.
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  Don't have. Like wasted slots in their life.
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  For people, you mean? So if you're not serving me.
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  You're not if you're not helping me.
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  You're hindering me if you're not there for me to help.
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  Me grow and help me get out there and it like to help me be
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  more of. Of what I need to be.
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  Then you're doing that, you see. What I'm saying if.
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  You're not helping, you're hindering.
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  That's the mindset. That's the dynamic.
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  That's how it. A lot of times in this, you
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  know, in these spaces, in these positions.
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  Right here. Narcissistic.
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  People, everybody, everybody gets discarded.
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  That is not trying to help. Them that is not of benefit.
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  To. Them and it like I say.
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  Your your role in that narcissist.
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  Or you know. Your connection to the
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  narcissist doesn't really matter.
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  You could be, it could be. A parent it could be.
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  A kid it could. Be a friend.
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  Work Co worker best friend. Girlfriend.
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  Boyfriend. Husband, wife, whatever it.
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  Is if you are not bringing. Power to this narcissistic
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  person if. You are not willing to put your
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  flying monkey wings on and be a blind.
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  Supporter of this. Person then, then yes.
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  This is what's going to happen. You know what I mean?
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  Then yes, this is what this. Is the dynamic that is going to
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  happen. They're going to discard you,
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  narcissist. Discard everybody.
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  That is not serving a a unique purpose in their life.
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  Like if you're not, like if you're not.
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  Here to be. If you're not here to help me
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  grow, then you're killing me. And I know, not only do
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  narcissists think like that. But intent.
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  Matters. Intent matters.
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  Typically relationships with narcissists.
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  Are not. Mutually beneficial.
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  It's not necessary. It's normally not a symbiotic
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  relationship. Typically you, whatever role you
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  play, are putting more into the relationship.
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  With the narcissist than the narcissistic person is putting
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  into. Themselves, you know.
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  That's how it goes a lot. Of times like you are putting
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  more into it than they are. You are trying harder than they
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  are. You are doing more than they
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  are. You are like yeah it it it works
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  out that. Way a lot of times.
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  It's just one of those things. It's just that's how it goes
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  and. Like I said.
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  If you've dealt with a narcissist or a toxic person.
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  Do you understand exactly what I'm saying do?
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  You know exactly. What I'm saying like you know,
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  you've been in this spot before where you absolutely know what
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  I'm talking about like. The second That narcissistic
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  person saw you as, not as. Non beneficial as not, like as
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  not. Needed in their life, they got
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  rid of you. They might have ghosted you.
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  They might have started talking to you less.
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  They might have started devalue you.
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  They might have started a smear. Campaign on you.
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  Whatever it is, they got rid of you.
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  Your relationship your relationship dynamic changed.
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  When you start. Setting boundaries on a
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  narcissist. You get discarded.
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  You know, again, y'all. It doesn't matter if you're
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  their boyfriend, girlfriend. Husband, Wife, Partner.
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  Spouse, whatever you are, whatever role you play, if you.
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  Start setting boundaries on a narcissist.
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  You'll probably see them less. You're probably engaged with
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  them less. You'll probably talk to them
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  less. You'll probably deal with them
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  less because. They don't want to deal.
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  With it, you see what I'm saying, You see?
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  You see the mindset behind it. Like.
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  If you're not serving me, you're hurting me.
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  You're not helping me, you're hindering me.
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  If not, like I said. You see, y'all see.
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  Y'all get it, You'll understand exactly what I'm saying.
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  Like you have to there is a. Reason behind a method behind
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  the madness, so to speak. So if you're dealing with a
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  narcissist or a toxic person. You know what I'm talking about.
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  It's a yeah. It really is a mindset type of
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  thing. When you're when you're uniquely
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  placing your like placing your trust in the.
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  Narcissist like the. Moment that you.
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  Stop serving a purpose. They look at you differently.
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  And yeah, it happens a lot of times in intimate relationships
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  because that's that's what you. Hear about a lot, but.
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  Even as a kid. Like.
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  So imagine being in a touch relationship with the
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  narcissist, right? You're trying to Co parent with
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  this person counter parent. You're trying to parent with
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  this person overall, right? And let's say that narcissistic
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  person. That narcissist.
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  Is using the kids as leverage right?
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  And it works every time they try to use.
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  The kids as leverage. It works.
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  It works. It works.
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  It works. So the kids are serving a
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  purpose, right? They.
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  Can use those kids as leverage against you, right?
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  So. Let's just say one, one or two
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  times they try. To use the.
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  Kids as leverage and it doesn't work.
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  Using the kids. As leverage no longer.
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  Works, so the kids no longer serve a purpose.
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  So sometimes they. Discard the kids.
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  You see what I'm saying? They were using the kids the.
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  Kids had a purpose. The kids served a purpose.
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  But now the kids no longer have a purpose.
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  The kids? No.
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  Longer serve a purpose so that the.
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  Narcissist doesn't need them anymore.
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  You see what I'm saying? So the narcissist.
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  Gets rid of the kids that no longer serve a purpose.
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  So it doesn't. In in in also.
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  Getting rid of the kids. They get rid of the other parent
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  as well. You see what I'm saying?
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  It's just not just always going to.
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  Be intimate relationships narcissists once.
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  The once the. Kids, stop serving them.
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  They get rid. Of them, you know what I mean,
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  They. Discard them.
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  Everybody gets emotionally discarded in a relationship with
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  the narcissist. They emotionally disconnect from
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  most. Damn near everybody in their
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  life. They might not physically get
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  rid of you if. You're in an intimate
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  relationship. Or you like your son, daughter,
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  husband, wife. Whatever, you know.
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  Brother, sister, whatever. They might not physically get
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  rid of you. But they get rid of you, you
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  know, and it happens quite a bit.
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  And that's what I tell people. Y'all if.
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  You're in a relationship with a narcissist, talks to person
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  whatever and you. Stop serving a purpose.
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  It's time to go. In their mind, they
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  automatically are seeking a replacement for you.
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  They are seeking. Seekling.
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  Seekling. Seekling.
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  They are. Seeking a new friend.
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  They are. Seeking a new.
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  Partner they are. Seeking a new job, it could.
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  Be a job as well. Y'all, it doesn't necessarily
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  have to. Be a person you know.
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  Everybody gets discarded. Narcissists discard.
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  Everyone. That does not serve a purpose.
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  If your BFF, your bestie is a narcissist, right?
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  And then you like are giving them money or whatever if you.
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  Once you. Stop giving them money.
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  Tell them to get a job. It's Bye Bye.
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  They disappear on you. They.
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  Think you're ungrateful? They don't you?
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  No longer serve a purpose. When you were, when you were
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  there, you were serving the purpose for this person, weren't
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  you? You see?
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  What I'm saying, that's how simple.
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  It could be a lot of times when they talk to.
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  Relation that's that's the simplicity of it.
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  Sometimes when you're dealing with a narcissistic person like.
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  They will literally can get rid of you on a dime for Stop giving
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  them money for stop once. Whatever like.
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  When you stop giving them. Supply whatever supply that that
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  narcissistic person is getting. From you.
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  If that supply? Runs low or gets.
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  Cut off, they discard the supply.
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  They discard the person that's provided that supply or
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  provided. That supply, they get rid of
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  you. You see what?
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  I'm saying they. Get rid of you.
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  My wife said to be selfish. Y'all that's wifey.
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  Send me. Send me selfies.
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  Yeah, I smile. I love yes.
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  Y'all I. Love my wife.
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  Yeah, it's my yeah, it's my wifey.
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  But yeah, so that's part of it, right?
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  There y'all. That is absolutely a part.
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  Of the dynamic a part of the. Space a part of the piece.
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  A lot of narcissistic people get into these spaces, get into
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  these relationship dynamics. And they you have to serve.
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  Them you have to serve a purpose.
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  Figure well, leave. How do I get them to leave me
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  alone? How do I get them?
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  How do I get them to? Discard me, figure out what
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  supply. That they are getting from you.
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  And cut it off. Figure out what purpose you
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  serve. In their life.
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  And then cut it off. Figure out what you are, what
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  what what they are. Doing for you and then cut it
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  off, Cut it off. Y'all, sometimes they will
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  discard you. When you cut.
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  Off whatever they're getting for you because they.
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  Discard everybody who's not serving them.
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  They discard everybody who's not supporting.
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  Them they discard everybody. Who's not there for them when
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  they need them? They discard everybody.
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  Who's not? Who's not just blindly lifting
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  them up? And supporting their.
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  Delusions of grandeur. They discard you.
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  So cut it off. Figure Figure out what this
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  person is getting. From you.
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  What do you ask? Like what am I providing this
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  person? You know what I mean.
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  What am I providing this narcissistic person?
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  What am I? Providing them, you know what I
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  mean. What am I providing them?
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  Figure. Out what you're providing them
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  or what figure out. What you're providing them or
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  whatever supply and. Then cut it off and sometimes
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  they'll discard you. Is this a foolproof?
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  Plan No. Sometimes you got to figure
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  sometimes they're getting multiple things from you.
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  Sometimes. It's just you.
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  Sometimes it's you. They think that.
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  You. They own you.
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  They think that you belong to them.
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  They think that. All this they.
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  They they think you belong to them.
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  So that's part of it right there too.
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  Y'all, that's a very unique. Space to be in, you know.
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  What I mean so if you're dealing with a narcissist, toxic person.
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  Or whoever just understand. That this is piece.
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  This is a piece of what you have to deal with.
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  This is a piece. Of how things are going to go.
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  Possibly this is a piece of it. Y'all, you know what I mean.
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  They discard. Everybody around them.
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  That does not serve them, they. Turn on you in a discard.
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  Like I said, they can. Turn on you.
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  They can start to attack you maliciously.
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  You see this in politics all the time.
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  Once they once you stop. Serving them they.
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  Attack you maliciously. You see what I'm saying?
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  You. See it happening in everyday
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  real life. This is not just a like I said,
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  it's not just an intimate relationship type of thing.
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  It's happening in everyday real life.
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  So figure. Out what they're getting from
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  you. Cut it off you mean?
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