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Celebrating Mother's Day · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  We got a question for our American mama. Dear mama, is it still
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  okay to celebrate Mother's Day? Well, let's ask our American mama. Mama,
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  Mama, and joining us now our American mama Terry Netterville. H Look,
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  it's birthing person's day, isn't it. Isn't that what's coming up?
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  Don't even get on that bandwagon. That's insane and in an insult, an
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  insult. I love being called mama mom sometimes, bra I love being in
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  this role, in this role that I was meant to be in, and
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  the role that I only cared about. It so funny because when when people
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  talked about, you know, what they want to do when they grew up.
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  But even when I was younger, in my head, you know,
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  I would say teacher because I always thought I wanted to be with children.
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  But I always thought I just want to be a wife and a mom.
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  I just want to raise my children. And it is the most worthwhile,
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  most exhilarating, it's the greatest thing. Now I can't even went to be
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  a grandmama because I'm ready to do it all over again. But um,
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  but just recently, I guess in the last year or two. Especially this
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  year, they're discounting moms. They are they are taking away this day there.
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  Don't call me a breastfeeder, Do not call me a bleeder. Do
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  not call me. What was the other one that they said? It was
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  a chess feeder, chess feeder, bleeder, mister rating person, minstraating person
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  was another one, and a birthing person. That's the one I thought was
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  just insulting. Stop stop, you've just reduced people to lives. Yes,
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  so for one freaking day, can we have Happy Mother's Day for one day?
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  Because a lot of these companies that we talked about last week that are
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  saying, hey, if if if our ads about Mother's Day triggers you,
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  let us know. We won't send you that ad, we won't send you
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  emails pertaining to the Mother's Get over it. If you're offended, I mean,
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  what did your parents teach you growing up? If somebody offends you,
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  Okay, it's going to happen in your life. You get over it,
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  You move on from it, or you confront the person and say, hey,
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  that kind of offended me. And if they don't care, okay,
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  you're gonna actually offend people too. I don't understand why. Okay, you're
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  offended by Mother's Day, Get over it. Just keep going. Pass over
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  that email, pass over that Facebook post, whatever you gotta do. You
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  know, that was one actually we were talking about this in our house earlier
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  this week, where when you're offended or when you're angry at somebody, or
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  when you're you haven't forgiven somebody for something, and so you're like, oh,
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  well I'm gonna be offended at them. That doesn't affect them, No,
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  it just affects It just affects you. And so for even people that
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  did not have good mothers, and there were people who did not have good
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  mothers or people who had great mothers who have passed on, and so this
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  is a sad day, right, what are you going to do about that?
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  If you had a mother, Yeah, who wasn't a great mother?
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  Wasn't the mother you want it? Yeah, and you're gonna stay offended at
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  this person? Yeah, at your mother. You're gonna stay offended at your
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  mother today. Why that doesn't only destroys your heart and spirit, it does
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  more damage to you than it ever couse, you know what some people do
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  on Facebook, Some of our friends that that did not have a good mother
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  growing up. Right, What they do is they get on there and they
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  try to implore other people to chairs if you have a good one, right,
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  Like they'll say, I didn't have a great mother. This is a
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  hard time of year for me, but it did let me know what kind
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  of mother I wanted to be. So I became the mother I never had.
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  And they tell you sell her. If you had a good mother,
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  celebrate her because you had a gift from heaven. Right, I didn't have
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  that mother, was right, But you can be the best mother you can
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  be. Those are the most important, yeah, most pertinent, most gratifying
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  posts because they are using their pain turning it to a purpose, helping others.
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  See that, so there's a way, Like if you're triggered by that,
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  then figure out a way. Okay, I'm triggered. This bothers me,
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  So what can I do to help others who might be triggered that?
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  People don't look like, don't look at it that way anymore. Great point
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  there. Wendy's mother died when when she was thirty six, When Wendy was
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  thirty six, Wendy was seventeen at the time. But but Judy died when
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  when when Judy was thirty six years old. So as Wendy approached thirty six,
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  she really kind of started to struggle because she hadn't seen the example of
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  a mother who lived past thirty six, and she wasn't sure what she was
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  supposed to do, what would that look like. But she came to the
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  decision, I'm going to live past thirty six. That means I need to
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  do something. She went back and got her first master's degree. Well,
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  and then she went back several years later got her second master's degree. She
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  has exploded, right, she went, you know what, this is what
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  happened when I was younger. This is the example I had and I missed
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  my mom. But that's not going to be my story. I'm going to
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  do something different. I'm going to learn from this and I'm going to grow
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  as part of the post. And what an example she is to y'all's children,
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  right, they see somebody who took something that was tragic and then used
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  it to make themselves better in knowing that she was making her heavenly mother proud.
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  The other part of that is your mother stepped in yea and she was
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  the mother of the bride and mother of the groom for her that day,
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  that's true, and allowed her to live, you know, in their house.
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  So we honor both both. Absolutely. It's just an honor to be
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  that kind of mother, and it's an honor to recognize mothers who are like
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  that. That's exactly right. And if we can't do it on Mother's Day,
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  then when can we? When can we do it? Yeah? Happy
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  Mother's Day everybody. If you like to ask our American Mama a question,
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