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For Good Health, Don't Ignore Relationships · Doctor Turned Health Coach

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  Welcome to the Doctor-Turned Health Coach Podcast. My name is Dr. Ashuri.
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  I'm a family medicine physician turned health coach.
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  And in today's episode, I want to focus on relationships, emotional well-being.
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  These first few episodes are meant to be evergreen content, content that I can
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  refer my own clients and patients back to.
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  But it's also it should serve as a way for you to
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  gauge how i think about all of these different health-related
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  topics and perhaps if i'm the right person for you to work with my information
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  is in the show description and you can book a session with me i would love to
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  help you on your health journey so my trend method t-r-e-n-d r stands for relationships and it's really.
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  About mental health and emotional well-being.
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  It's about the connection that we have with ourselves, with loved ones,
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  with the environment, everything around us.
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  The reason it's so important is because human beings are social creatures.
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  We tend to thrive when we're around others and we feel supported,
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  we feel loved, we feel accepted.
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  Not that there isn't growth from some negative feelings.
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  In fact, that is part of a relationship, is sometimes having a bad experience,
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  having to sit there, journal, think, reflect, and develop some growth because of that.
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  That itself can be incredibly effective, and I think we can take that for granted way too easily.
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  A few days of suffering from grief or any kind of loss can be a wonderful way
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  for us to become more resilient in life.
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  Relationships require us to
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  reflect a lot about how we react to
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  other people how what kind of dialogue we have inside our brain a lot of negative
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  dialogue can really really just deplete you from positive energy and you're
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  left with a lot of negativity that you have a hard time balancing.
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  Some of the toughest relationships we have is with our romantic partners,
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  with our parents, with our siblings, and those are good places to start.
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  Kind of healing them, a lot of forgiveness, a lot of acceptance,
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  not having to ever suffer because of somebody else.
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  You can always have a firm no and set healthy boundaries, but being able to
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  develop that balance with another human being is really beautiful.
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  And I've seen in my own practice, my patients go through amazing transformations
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  when they've forgiven, when they've accepted, when they've set those healthy
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  boundaries. So I always encourage that with my clients.
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  One of the most important aspects of this relationship is the relationship we have with ourselves.
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  For example, if somebody has a lot of negative commentary in their head,
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  they're constantly criticizing themselves or constantly saying negative things about themselves,
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  then over time they're not only going to do that to their loved ones,
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  to their kids, to other people, to employees, but they're also going to suffer
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  the consequences of these negative stories.
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  Turning that around and saying, hey, yeah, this kind of didn't go the way I
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  want it to. I probably would do it this way, that way.
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  It's a much more positive way of approaching it as opposed to,
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  you're an idiot. What were you thinking? You shouldn't have done that.
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  That's really negative. That's really caustic.
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  So relationships with ourselves, with our loved ones, with our environment.
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  However you view your environment. For me, looking at a beautiful bush,
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  a tree, some grass, some green, some earth, some rocks, some plants,
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  some birds, all of that is my environment, is everything around me.
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  But my environment is also sometimes chaotic with tons of cars,
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  tons of smog, tons of pollution.
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  I travel a lot. I'm a bit of a digital nomad because my medical practice is
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  online. So me and my wife tend to be all over the place in the world.
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  And of course, sometimes you don't get to control the environment.
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  It can be chaotic and crazy, but developing a beautiful relationship with that,
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  not having a negative commentary about it constantly.
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  Oh, it's so noisy. It's so loud. It's so chaotic.
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  And instead, maybe just coming into that meditative state of relaxation and
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  saying, yes, this is what's going on around me, but it is what it is.
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  I have no control over it.
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  Relinquishing that control, that's the relationship with our environment.
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  And it can be a source of growth. For a lot of my clients, it's been an incredible source of growth.
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  Some of us never get there until we experience a major setback in life,
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  sometimes career-wise, sometimes financial.
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  Then we learn that we have no choice but to give in, and then we learn to give
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  in, and that can be a source of growth.
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  Sometimes it's a major disease, and having to relinquish control over what we
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  can and can't do physically, mentally, emotionally.
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  And that can be a wonderful source of growth.
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  So relationships and emotional health are a big topic.
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  It's one of the, obviously, facets of the trend method that I discuss with my
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  clients. And it's one thing that we constantly come back to.
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  Constantly coming back to, how does your body feel? How are you feeling today when you wake up?
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  What's your emotional state like? who is causing some friction in your life
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  and why do you think that is? We discuss that. We go over that.
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  Because great data show that maybe 50% of people who go to a primary care doctor
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  for any kind of chronic disease have an underlying emotional or mental or psychiatric
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  medical condition that's preventing them from being able to properly manage that condition.
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  50%. That's huge. Thank you.
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  If we can address that and improve that, decrease that, that's one of the most
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  important things that we can do.
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  And as always with the trend method, there's first order, second order, third order actions.
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  First order action is going to get you there the majority of the way.
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  It's the most potent intervention you can do for yourself.
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  Second order is going to get you there a little bit more. Third order,
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  just a tiny bit of improvement.
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  That's for the perfectionists out there who really want to get the most out of their health.
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  And in my trend method i always ask what
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  is it that you can do for yourself that's the first question the second
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  question is what is it that i can do for you such as
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  hold you accountable help you with the next steps
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  help you troubleshoot help you analyze certain tests and results and symptoms
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  and the third question is what can western medical western medical system do
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  for you because let's not forget one of the most beautiful technologies we have
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  is western medicine that many medications, treatments,
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  protocols, surgeries, and sometimes those have to be utilized even in mental
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  well-being, emotional health, and in other psychiatric conditions.
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  So I hope this is of value to you. If you find such content valuable,
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  please share it with somebody else who you think might benefit.
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  I would love your support.
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  Subscribe to this podcast. Again, share it with somebody else.
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  And if you think you would benefit from individualized health coaching,
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  go to my website, DrAshori.com.
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  The information is in the description. You can find me on Instagram and YouTube
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  and other social media channels. It's always going to be DrAshoriMD.
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  That way it's consistent. Thanks for listening and I'll be with you again shortly.