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Dear Banya: Can't Be Arsed · Scrubbing In with Becca Tilley & Tanya Rad

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  Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Beca Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio
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  Speaker 1: and two time People's Choice Award winning podcast. Hello everybody,
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  Speaker 1: we are scrubbing in.
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  Speaker 2: We have a Dear Bonnie episode today.
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  Speaker 3: Do you like when we played the guests who game?
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  Speaker 2: Like, are you having fun doing that?
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  Speaker 1: Okay? So I'm glad you brought that up. Yeah, because
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  Speaker 1: I was seeing some scuttle in the Facebook group that
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  Speaker 1: it's hard for the listeners to follow along like it
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  Speaker 1: was after the one when we had three of us
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  Speaker 1: going mm hm. So I don't think we should do
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  Speaker 1: it like that anymore, even when we pingpong. I think
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  Speaker 1: it's more for video, like it's funny you can watch
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  Speaker 1: on video and it's like easy to follow along. I
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  Speaker 1: think as listeners it's like hard, like it's hard for
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  Speaker 1: them to guess because they it's too hard. Oh do
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  Speaker 1: you get what I'm saying? So you're saying so like,
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  Speaker 1: I think you should go and just ask as many
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  Speaker 1: questions as you can and then you figure out your
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  Speaker 1: person and then we kind of go one by one
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  Speaker 1: instead of oh around like that.
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  Speaker 4: And then like you keep track of how how many
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  Speaker 4: questions get it?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah?
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  Speaker 3: Interesting? Yeah, So they like the game, just the way
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  Speaker 3: the format is.
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  Speaker 1: I think they want to play along. Oh they do
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  Speaker 1: want to want to play long, and it's hard for
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  Speaker 1: them to follow when it's like one question, one question,
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  Speaker 1: one question, one question.
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  Speaker 5: That's how some people complain that they had a hard
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  Speaker 5: time remembering what was what. Yeah, and my distrection is
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  Speaker 5: like take notes. That was taking notes, but just for me,
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  Speaker 5: and I wasn't thinking about all three of us.
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  Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. Yeah, well I should do it
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  Speaker 1: one by one and just see who can do it
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  Speaker 1: the fat who can get it that.
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  Speaker 4: Maybe we do.
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  Speaker 1: Time a timer or the fewest questions, Yeah, like we
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  Speaker 1: count all the questions.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, smart? And then also I was thinking maybe we
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  Speaker 3: do the like a recap midway through of like you
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  Speaker 3: always do this. So I'm an actor, I'm under thirty,
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  Speaker 3: like you, you're good about doing that.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you so much. I like to reset for the audience.
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  Speaker 3: You're not good at winning the game, but you're great
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  Speaker 3: at giving the listeners.
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  Speaker 1: Theodcast professional here, okay, decades of if you're nothing, if nothing,
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  Speaker 1: you are a broadcast professional. Thank you, Thank you so much.
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  Speaker 4: Hope you enjoy that production meeting of scrubing.
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  Speaker 3: In just a little bts. Okay, so we actually have
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  Speaker 3: a dear bonnya, but it's what's a.
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  Speaker 2: He's bringing it to the floor.
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  Speaker 5: Yes, I'm going ahead of the I'm cutting the line here.
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  Speaker 5: I did not write an email, I didn't leave a
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  Speaker 5: voice message. I'm gonna do this because I'm having a crisis.
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  Speaker 1: U baby. Yes, yeah, getting the ind on the on
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  Speaker 1: the dear bonya using.
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  Speaker 4: My opportunity, not giving to everybody else.
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  Speaker 5: So we have these neighbors that are nice, but we've
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  Speaker 5: noticed it's it's this young couple. They have two small kids,
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  Speaker 5: and then the wife's dad kind of I don't know
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  Speaker 5: if he lives with them or he's just there a lot,
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  Speaker 5: like working on the house.
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  Speaker 4: I have noticed, bless you.
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  Speaker 1: I'm sorry that one was ferocious.
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  Speaker 5: I've noticed because we have a camera in our alley
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  Speaker 5: where our garbage cans are, and I've noticed this guy.
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  Speaker 5: He'll go out with a leaf blower, can't blow the alley,
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  Speaker 5: very nice swim to do, and then he sweeps up
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  Speaker 5: a bunch of garbage and puts it in our garbage
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  Speaker 5: can and it normally I was like, yeah, it feels
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  Speaker 5: it feels weird. But also I've done that to people.
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  Speaker 5: Maybe this is just karma coming back. It's gone to
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  Speaker 5: the point now there's like a lot he's putting all
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  Speaker 5: of his like leaves and like just random debris in
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  Speaker 5: there and kind of filling it up.
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  Speaker 1: But isn't that shared property like in the alley, Like it's.
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  Speaker 4: The alley is shared property.
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  Speaker 5: But we have garbage cans and they have garbage cans, right,
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  Speaker 5: you know, so he's going to our garbage cans and
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  Speaker 5: then he like repositions our garbage cans, you know, not
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  Speaker 5: enough to where it blocks our garage, but like just
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  Speaker 5: it's just weird. And we're Alison and I are like
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  Speaker 5: obsessed over this now, We're like why is he doing this?
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  Speaker 5: So we were going to bring it up to his daughter,
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  Speaker 5: who is our neighbor, be like, hey, could your dad
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  Speaker 5: maybe not use our garbage cans. She started doing it too,
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  Speaker 5: We saw it yesterday. She was like cleaning out the
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  Speaker 5: garage and putting stuff in our garbage cans. So I
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  Speaker 5: don't want to be like a petty, weird neighbor, but also.
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  Speaker 1: Can't you put your garbage can somewhere else? Are they
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  Speaker 1: doing the same day every week?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, it's always on Sundays.
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  Speaker 1: So Sundays move your trash cans, like, and can you
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  Speaker 1: move them in your garage?
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  Speaker 4: That's what I suggest that to Alison.
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  Speaker 5: She said, maybe we get one of those locks, and
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  Speaker 5: I was like, that's equally that's equal effort, you know,
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  Speaker 5: like it feels weird to put a lock on our
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  Speaker 5: garbage can too.
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  Speaker 2: I think you just need to say, hey, say something.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah wait, I'm so confused. Why what are you going
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  Speaker 1: to say? Stop putting the leaves in our garage in
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  Speaker 1: our trash can.
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  Speaker 3: I'd say, hey, we just to make sure that we
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  Speaker 3: have enough space, Like would you mind asking if you
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  Speaker 3: need to put your leaves in here?
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  Speaker 1: Just because this is our property. I think it's it's
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  Speaker 1: just not their leaves. It'd be weird to me if
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  Speaker 1: they were throwing like the kitchen trash like out in
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  Speaker 1: your trash can.
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  Speaker 5: Yesterday it was a construction trash was going our trash can.
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  Speaker 5: That was the That was the thing that pushed me
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  Speaker 5: over the edge because leaves and stuff, I guess, you know, uh,
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  Speaker 5: they're also really weird about property lines and stuff like that.
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  Speaker 5: And he the dad comes up onto our porch every
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  Speaker 5: week and leaf blows our porch, which is nice, but
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  Speaker 5: also I'm like, if I do that to you, you'd
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  Speaker 5: be like, you'd have a gun in my face. Honestly,
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  Speaker 5: Like he's on your porch, on my porch, like leaf blowing,
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  Speaker 5: but like this is weird. It's weird, right, Okay, I
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  Speaker 5: feel like it's weird. But I also is like he's
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  Speaker 5: kind of doing something nice. But I also didn't ask
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  Speaker 5: him to do That's the thing.
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  Speaker 2: That's the thing.
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  Speaker 3: You didn't say, Hey, y'all, didn't have a conversation where
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  Speaker 3: he was like, hey, would you want me to leaf
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  Speaker 3: blow your porch while I'm doing this? And you said,
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  Speaker 3: oh my gosh, i'd be amazing. He's just doing on
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  Speaker 3: your property.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: So I would say, either have a conversation with them,
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  Speaker 3: and if you don't want to be confrontational, just move
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  Speaker 3: your cans into the garage.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, And I think.
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  Speaker 1: That hands into the garage. I could not have that
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  Speaker 1: conversation with the neighbor personally, Yeah, because I throw my
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  Speaker 1: stuff in other people's trash cans. I don't like your
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  Speaker 1: dog poop if you're walking.
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  Speaker 3: I hate when Hayley does that, especially dog poop.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, poop, it's in a trash can. You wrap
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  Speaker 1: it up in a bag and you tie it. It's
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  Speaker 1: not like you're just like throwing the poop in there.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know. I'm really weird about this.
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  Speaker 3: I only throw the poop away, either in our trash
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  Speaker 3: can or in like if we because we walk by
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  Speaker 3: a park, I'll put it in like a pubby.
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  Speaker 1: What if you're in like a neighborhood, so I take someny.
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  Speaker 1: If I'm on my street and I'm just like walking
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  Speaker 1: her down, I'll hold the poop and I'll throw it
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  Speaker 1: in our trash can. But if I'm like down in
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  Speaker 1: a different part of town around home.
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  Speaker 3: I don't think I would imagine people don't care. I
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  Speaker 3: just care.
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  Speaker 2: So this would bug me.
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  Speaker 3: And even when we have like during Christmas and stuff,
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  Speaker 3: we'd have so many boxes and recyclable things. I would
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  Speaker 3: text my neighbor and say like, hey, if y'all have
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  Speaker 3: space in your because they would be out of town,
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  Speaker 3: I'd say, would you mind if we use your recycle
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  Speaker 3: bind to put some stuff like? I would always text them.
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  Speaker 3: I would never just assume.
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  Speaker 4: Right, that feels crazy to me.
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  Speaker 1: Well, no, I would never put my boxes in my
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  Speaker 1: neighbor's trash can that's crazy or.
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  Speaker 3: Trash, Like when if we had to excess amount of trash,
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  Speaker 3: I would text him and say, hey, if you have
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  Speaker 3: room in your trash, can can I put our trash
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  Speaker 3: in there?
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  Speaker 1: I think it's so weird that they're not asking it.
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  Speaker 2: It leaves.
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  Speaker 1: It's like community property. I get it, but then put
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  Speaker 1: it in putting it in their own Maybe it's a
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  Speaker 1: walk away, too far of a walk. Maybe they're ending
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  Speaker 1: on your side of the street. So it's just like.
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  Speaker 5: There theirs are behind of gate, but like I don't
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  Speaker 5: know a yard from ours, Like their trash cans are
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  Speaker 5: out there too, and I don't I feel super petty
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  Speaker 5: going out there and like.
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  Speaker 4: Look it in there, just be like, oh, you got
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  Speaker 4: some room in here? You know I didn't. I don't
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  Speaker 4: want to do that.
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  Speaker 5: But it also feels weird, like every time because again
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  Speaker 5: we have got we have a camera back there because
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  Speaker 5: I had some issues with some It's an alleyway, you know,
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  Speaker 5: people are doing stuff, so we have a camera back there,
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  Speaker 5: and then it goes off and I just see this
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  Speaker 5: guy just you know, dumping stuff in there.
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  Speaker 3: I guess my thing would be if you had a
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  Speaker 3: relationship with them and y'all talked a lot, and it
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  Speaker 3: was like that vibe. It would be like, oh, you know,
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  Speaker 3: because I do feel like there are neighbors sometimes where
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  Speaker 3: you have that relationship and rapport with them where it's
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  Speaker 3: like understood, like we're.
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  Speaker 2: Cleaning up the leaves, So do you mind we're.
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  Speaker 1: Throwing We're all in this.
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  Speaker 3: Wednesday, so you have a few days where you could
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  Speaker 3: be filling it up and there's space taken in there.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, we did it. We were we didn't have a
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  Speaker 5: lot going on yesterday. So we saw them put They
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  Speaker 5: put a big spool of like it was like you
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  Speaker 5: know that paper you put down when you're like painting
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  Speaker 5: your house, like the or like doing construction. They had
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  Speaker 5: a big role of that and they put it in
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  Speaker 5: our garbage can. So we waited for them to go
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  Speaker 5: back inside. I go out there. I just took it
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  Speaker 5: out and just put it next to the garbage can
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  Speaker 5: which is in front of their garage. And I'm like,
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  Speaker 5: if they put it back in, I'm gonna lose it.
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  Speaker 4: They did not. They just left it in front of
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  Speaker 4: the garage.
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  Speaker 3: So I think they'll get the hint if you just
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  Speaker 3: move the trash cans into the garage.
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  Speaker 1: It is aggressive. It is not neighborly. No, I would
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  Speaker 1: just put the trash cans in your garage, call it
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  Speaker 1: a day.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, that's probably when I have to do.
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  Speaker 3: And if he continues, If he continues, well yeah, it's
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  Speaker 3: annoying having a movement. But if he continues to just
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  Speaker 3: be on the porch and that becomes a problem, I
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  Speaker 3: think maybe you're going to have to have some confrontational conversation. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: because like I said, I think if you have that
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  Speaker 3: kind of agreement with your neighbor, it's one thing.
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  Speaker 1: But if he's just blowing off, so let me just
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  Speaker 1: tell you, there's nothing more frustrating than your trash bins
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  Speaker 1: being full when you're like a day or two away
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  Speaker 1: from trash day.
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  Speaker 3: So annoying, worse, it sucks.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like stepping in there. I'm like using my hands
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  Speaker 1: as smush, like, oh.
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  Speaker 2: You have to get crafty, you do really crafty.
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  Speaker 5: You know, it's crazy we we use as company athens.
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  Speaker 4: I don't know, I think there will across southern California.
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  Speaker 5: But we were filling up our garbage can and then
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  Speaker 5: our like Green Waiste was like mostly empty.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and so it's like leaves and stuff.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, So I called.
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  Speaker 5: I was like, can I get a bigger can or
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  Speaker 5: maybe a other one? Like I'll pay whatever, and then
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  Speaker 5: they ignored me. And then the garbage guy came by
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  Speaker 5: and I'm like, hey, I'm sorry, man, it's just full.
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  Speaker 4: I don't know what to do.
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  Speaker 5: And he's like, let me tell you something. All three
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  Speaker 5: of these they go in the same bin. Put whatever
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  Speaker 5: you want, and all three of them does not matter,
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  Speaker 5: like recycling too. He's like, yeah, all goes the same thing.
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  Speaker 5: You're lying And I'm like uh, and he's like, we
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  Speaker 5: soared it later and it was kind of like giving
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  Speaker 5: me a look, and I'm like, this sucks.
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  Speaker 2: I'm being a good amount of time.
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  Speaker 1: I spent googling which can go in the green? Like
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  Speaker 1: you can put a pizza box in the green? Did
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  Speaker 1: you know that?
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  Speaker 2: No?
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  Speaker 4: I did not. And now I'm like, so I can
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  Speaker 4: just put everything in.
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  Speaker 2: Then he's like, yeah, hey, is he putting the leaves
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  Speaker 2: into your green bin?
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  Speaker 4: Yes, he's not putting them in like the garbage can.
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  Speaker 2: Respectfully.
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  Speaker 4: So you say move the cans or just live with it.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I think that, but I would if they're moving them,
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  Speaker 3: I say, can you just not move them. I think
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  Speaker 3: that's a fair ask, Like, hey, I don't mind you
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  Speaker 3: putting this stuff in here because you're doing us a favor,
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  Speaker 3: but can you just not move them?
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  Speaker 4: Okay, that feels fair.
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  Speaker 1: And that bin is like always empty, yeah, well ours
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  Speaker 1: is never full.
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  Speaker 5: We we have a lot of leaves in the back here,
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  Speaker 5: you know, our guy comes and fills it up.
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  Speaker 3: I think if the green bin is like not an
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  Speaker 3: issue for you, I think you more so just have
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  Speaker 3: a conversation about not moving things around.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah all right, well thank you.
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  Speaker 3: I'm very I really respect the property lines too, so
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  Speaker 3: I feel your frustration and concerns.
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  Speaker 5: We we wanted to put a fence in, and we
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  Speaker 5: asked them about doing that and they're like, oh, yeah,
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  Speaker 5: we'll get back to you. And then the next day
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  Speaker 5: they had someone come out and do the survey and
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  Speaker 5: like put the markers in for y'all. Yeah, like like
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  Speaker 5: for our property lines. Like it was just we just
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  Speaker 5: kind of like had an idea and we're like, hey,
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  Speaker 5: we won't put a fence in, you know, is that
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  Speaker 5: like yeah, yeah, we'll ge back to you. And then
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  Speaker 5: the next day some guys out there like the whole
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  Speaker 5: thing and putting the spike in the ground, and I
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  Speaker 5: was like, oh God, just could turn into the half
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  Speaker 5: fields of McCoy's.
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  Speaker 3: You should them some other things you want you take
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  Speaker 3: are on it. Actually, let's let's take advantage of the pool.
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  Speaker 5: In Hey, thanks for the advice you guys. That's the
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  Speaker 5: kind of quality advice you get here.
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  Speaker 1: Now I could use my own.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, well, let's take it break, let's do this.
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  Speaker 1: We're back. Dear Bonya. I walk my dog to poop
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  Speaker 1: every day and it's five houses down from our house.
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  Speaker 1: They have a sign in their yard that says, please
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  Speaker 1: don't have your dog pee on my lawn. Like it's
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  Speaker 1: you know, like it's one of those like oh yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it has like a dog like peeing and it says
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  Speaker 1: like a dog pee kills grass or something. But they
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  Speaker 1: have turf, which is I don't understand. But the couple
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  Speaker 1: that lives in this house, and we've met them several
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  Speaker 1: times there are cute at can be older, older couple
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  Speaker 1: with a little dog of their own. And so I'm
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  Speaker 1: like really thrown by the sign in their front yard
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  Speaker 1: because I'm just like, it just doesn't feel like them.
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  Speaker 1: But anyway, Sunny loves pooping. That's like her poop place.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, she wants what she can't have exactly.
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  Speaker 1: But Robbie and I, obviously we don't like we always
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  Speaker 1: pick up our poop. We always pick it up, we
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  Speaker 1: take it home whatever, We'll throw it in their trash,
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  Speaker 1: can we take it to our house. But the other
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  Speaker 1: day I was taking some to poop and there's a
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  Speaker 1: huge poop on their lawn. It wasn't from Sunny. Obviously
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  Speaker 1: she didn't end up pooping there that day, And I
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  Speaker 1: was like, should I pick up the poop even though
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  Speaker 1: it's not my dog's, just because I'm always pooping on
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  Speaker 1: this lawn, I don't want them to think it's me.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't. I couldn't muster up the I couldn't. I know.
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  Speaker 1: I should have picked it up though, and thrown it away,
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  Speaker 1: because like, I don't want them thinking it was Sunny.
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  Speaker 1: It's much larger than Sonny's. But they don't know that.
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  Speaker 1: They don't know how Petita. They probably camera how would
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  Speaker 1: I know?
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  Speaker 2: They're probably watching you. They probably watch you examine should
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  Speaker 2: I pick it up or not?
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  Speaker 1: Shake your head, probably like walks all over it, because
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  Speaker 1: like Sunny will like walk around and they're little, because
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  Speaker 1: it's hard to explain, but they have like this grassy
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  Speaker 1: patch they live on like a it's like a curve,
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  Speaker 1: like it's the street just curves, and so it's kind
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  Speaker 1: of dangerous with like the traffic as people are just
• 14:37
  Speaker 1: going fast around there. So anytime we've seen them, they're like, oh,
• 14:39
  Speaker 1: like walk through our driveway. It's safer for the dogs.
• 14:43
  Speaker 1: And Robbie just like walks all over the grass, like
• 14:45
  Speaker 1: I at least try and stand on like the curb
• 14:47
  Speaker 1: or like the driveway, so I'm not like on the grass. Yeah,
• 14:52
  Speaker 1: but it's her place of poop, like that's where she's chosen. Yeah,
• 14:55
  Speaker 1: I should have picked it up, right, I don't know.
• 14:59
  Speaker 1: I don't know.
• 15:00
  Speaker 4: I don't think I would have.
• 15:01
  Speaker 1: Really. As I was like walking away, I was like,
• 15:03
  Speaker 1: I should have.
• 15:04
  Speaker 3: It would have been a really nice gesture. Why would
• 15:07
  Speaker 3: I do your gesture? I don't think you're a bad
• 15:11
  Speaker 3: person for not doing it.
• 15:12
  Speaker 1: But why didn't I choose the nice neighborly thing to do.
• 15:15
  Speaker 3: It's poop and another dog. It's not your own blood DNA.
• 15:21
  Speaker 1: I know, like Sonny's poop is like petite and cute.
• 15:24
  Speaker 3: And one little thing, and yeah, and then someone will
• 15:29
  Speaker 3: leave like a whole big thing in the middle of
• 15:31
  Speaker 3: the sidewalk, And I'm like, this is so inconsidered because
• 15:34
  Speaker 3: even if I run out of bags, I will get
• 15:36
  Speaker 3: a leaf and like try to just like yeah.
• 15:38
  Speaker 1: I've gone bare hands before. Whoa you guys to be
• 15:47
  Speaker 1: like yeah, me too. No, no, but I definitely use
• 15:50
  Speaker 1: a leaf same yeah, ye been there too.
• 15:56
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 15:56
  Speaker 3: So I don't think she thinks it's sunny, And I
• 16:01
  Speaker 3: don't think you're a bad person for not picking it up.
• 16:03
  Speaker 2: You know what, thank you for writing it.
• 16:06
  Speaker 1: Maybe I'm gonna be the nice person from now on.
• 16:10
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna choose the nice path. Wow.
• 16:12
  Speaker 3: I don't think it's nice versus not nice. I think
• 16:16
  Speaker 3: it's just a very thoughtful gesture that you didn't have
• 16:21
  Speaker 3: to do.
• 16:21
  Speaker 1: But why not be the thoughtful neighbor?
• 16:25
  Speaker 5: You know, we're faced with these choices in life of
• 16:29
  Speaker 5: like doing things that you'll never be like thanked for
• 16:33
  Speaker 5: or acknowledged for, like putting the grocery cart back. Is
• 16:36
  Speaker 5: a is a big one where it's like you don't
• 16:38
  Speaker 5: get punished if you don't do it, and then you
• 16:40
  Speaker 5: you don't get thanked if you do. It's just a
• 16:41
  Speaker 5: nice thing to do.
• 16:42
  Speaker 1: But that's a that's a test of morality and character.
• 16:45
  Speaker 4: Yeah, And the.
• 16:46
  Speaker 3: Only excuse you have is if you're a mom with
• 16:49
  Speaker 3: kids trying to get them in the car and you've
• 16:51
  Speaker 3: you're parked far away from where the return is and
• 16:53
  Speaker 3: I have I have grace for those people and only
• 16:56
  Speaker 3: them or or you, like.
• 16:58
  Speaker 1: I have to go to the bathroom really no, no, okay, yeah,
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: any time.
• 17:03
  Speaker 5: Yeah, But cleaning up another dog's poof, that's the same.
• 17:08
  Speaker 5: It's it's like you're tipping the scales in the right
• 17:10
  Speaker 5: way by doing it, Like.
• 17:12
  Speaker 1: Yeah, obviously's still sitting with me.
• 17:15
  Speaker 3: Well, I got home last night and there was a
• 17:17
  Speaker 3: dead mouse in our front yard and I had to
• 17:20
  Speaker 3: figure out how to pick up because Haley was freaking out,
• 17:23
  Speaker 3: and I was like, because I'm gonna be the the moon.
• 17:27
  Speaker 1: So I triple bag Phoebees poop bags.
• 17:32
  Speaker 2: Those were so thin.
• 17:34
  Speaker 3: I tripled and I picked it up and it was
• 17:37
  Speaker 3: so sad, and I said, I'm so sorry whatever happened
• 17:39
  Speaker 3: to you, and I hope it was peaceful.
• 17:42
  Speaker 2: And then I would you do put him in the bag? Yeah,
• 17:45
  Speaker 2: put him in the bag and throw in your trash can.
• 17:48
  Speaker 4: I had to pick up a dead chipmunk overke.
• 17:50
  Speaker 3: End that would break her chipmunks are so.
• 17:55
  Speaker 1: They're like big got.
• 17:58
  Speaker 5: We have a place in uh I don't want then
• 18:00
  Speaker 5: the mountains, and we were gonna go up there for
• 18:02
  Speaker 5: the weekend.
• 18:02
  Speaker 4: We walk in Plata. Yeah, we have a.
• 18:08
  Speaker 5: We have a failed airbnb situation. So we're going there
• 18:12
  Speaker 5: just to have a nice weekend. And we walk in
• 18:13
  Speaker 5: and it smells like something dead and we're like, oh man,
• 18:17
  Speaker 5: because we had we had a rat problem. And anyway,
• 18:20
  Speaker 5: I go downstairs. I just see this dead, freshly dead
• 18:22
  Speaker 5: chipmunk and I don't know what happened, but inside inside
• 18:27
  Speaker 5: on the on the rug underneath our bed, and uh,
• 18:31
  Speaker 5: it was it's it's like it sucks because it's sad
• 18:34
  Speaker 5: and gross.
• 18:35
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, disturbing.
• 18:38
  Speaker 5: And just and yeah, just upsetting and like you could
• 18:40
  Speaker 5: see like evidence of it all over the place. I
• 18:42
  Speaker 5: was like, God, it probably got like I think it
• 18:44
  Speaker 5: ran in when like we had a cleaner or something
• 18:46
  Speaker 5: and then it got just got stuck in there and
• 18:48
  Speaker 5: didn't know how.
• 18:48
  Speaker 4: To get out.
• 18:49
  Speaker 5: It was broke my heart. And then yeah, I think
• 18:53
  Speaker 5: it or dehydration or something. Just this is so dark,
• 18:58
  Speaker 5: but but you know, I put gloves on and then
• 19:01
  Speaker 5: like a garbage bag and like kind of scooped it up.
• 19:04
  Speaker 4: I can feel its body, and it was like this
• 19:06
  Speaker 4: is so it was weird.
• 19:08
  Speaker 5: Simultaneously I was feeling so sad and like I was
• 19:11
  Speaker 5: like like I.
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: Was like, you should have taken one of these gloves
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: you got me for my birthday.
• 19:17
  Speaker 2: I have to keep those fresh for you.
• 19:22
  Speaker 4: Sorry, Tom, I how to use one of them.
• 19:25
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it was really upsetting. I'm very sensitive to small animals,
• 19:30
  Speaker 3: even when they're considered like pest or what. Yeah, I
• 19:36
  Speaker 3: feel that I won't even kill if there's a fly,
• 19:38
  Speaker 3: I'll try to swat it down without killing it and
• 19:41
  Speaker 3: then release it outside.
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: It's trying to get them out of the yeah, like
• 19:44
  Speaker 1: out the door.
• 19:45
  Speaker 3: It.
• 19:45
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 19:46
  Speaker 3: So anyways, next time, you know, if you want to
• 19:51
  Speaker 3: pick up the pooper not you're not a bad person. Yeah,
• 19:54
  Speaker 3: you just let her know, be like I really hope
• 19:57
  Speaker 3: that you didn't think that large.
• 19:58
  Speaker 2: Pile of poop.
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: I'm off, you know, It's not like I'm like chatting
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: with them daily.
• 20:03
  Speaker 3: Okay, Yeah, well then I actually had let to roll
• 20:06
  Speaker 3: off the shoulders. All right, should we get into mother
• 20:09
  Speaker 3: in law upset or social posts?
• 20:11
  Speaker 4: Let's do this. This is from Lindsey.
• 20:13
  Speaker 5: My eight year old daughter made it to Nationals with
• 20:15
  Speaker 5: her dance team, and we spent an amazing week celebrating
• 20:18
  Speaker 5: her and the team. My husband's family came to watch,
• 20:21
  Speaker 5: but my parents couldn't make it, which was totally fine.
• 20:24
  Speaker 5: When we got home, I posted photos highlighting my daughter's
• 20:26
  Speaker 5: big week and how proud it was of her. A
• 20:28
  Speaker 5: few hours later, my mother in law texted me saying,
• 20:31
  Speaker 5: you know we were there too. If your family had
• 20:33
  Speaker 5: been there, he would have thanked them. We don't feel appreciated.
• 20:36
  Speaker 5: I was honestly shocked because the post was about my
• 20:38
  Speaker 5: daughter's accomplishment, not who attended. I already thanked everyone throughout
• 20:42
  Speaker 5: the week in person, so I didn't think a social
• 20:43
  Speaker 5: media shoutout was necessary. I apologized and even offer to
• 20:46
  Speaker 5: add photos of them to the post, but she said
• 20:48
  Speaker 5: no and she just wanted to get it off her chest.
• 20:50
  Speaker 5: It's been a few days, but I'm still really bothered
• 20:52
  Speaker 5: by it. Am I crazy for making the post the
• 20:55
  Speaker 5: way I did? Should I have thanked them publicly? Or
• 20:58
  Speaker 5: is it weird that this became about them instead of
• 20:59
  Speaker 5: My thoughts?
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: Is giving?
• 21:02
  Speaker 2: Social media makes people so weird?
• 21:05
  Speaker 3: People's brains, people's brains in the worst way.
• 21:11
  Speaker 1: I'm confused, though, Did I miss something?
• 21:14
  Speaker 2: What were you confused?
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: Did the girl who Lindsay, who wrote in in the caption,
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: did she say something and like thank people for coming,
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: but didn't thank her in laws?
• 21:24
  Speaker 3: No, she just said she was highlighting the big week
• 21:27
  Speaker 3: and that she was proud of her.
• 21:29
  Speaker 2: But she didn't I guess include that like.
• 21:31
  Speaker 4: Who was there, like oh and her.
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: People, and not include them that I could see maybe
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: them being her like if they said like thank you
• 21:39
  Speaker 1: to her aunt Sally and her uncle Ben and her
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: and then uncle Ben and her godmother Susie and her
• 21:49
  Speaker 1: Yeah wow wow, very American, I think, And they left
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: out the in laws, then I could see them being
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: upset and I would change the caption and put them
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: in it. But this is so insane.
• 22:03
  Speaker 5: She's saying like, if your parents had come, you would
• 22:06
  Speaker 5: have Yeah.
• 22:06
  Speaker 3: She was basically saying, you would have thanked your parents
• 22:09
  Speaker 3: in the post, but you didn't think us for being there,
• 22:11
  Speaker 3: and we don't feel appreciated for our efforts. This sounds
• 22:17
  Speaker 3: really challenging because she sounds challenging.
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: Yeah, this so and I.
• 22:23
  Speaker 3: Think if you can't stop I don't think you need
• 22:25
  Speaker 3: to say anything like you didn't do anything wrong, and
• 22:28
  Speaker 3: I don't think you need to feel bad about it.
• 22:30
  Speaker 3: But I think if if she's this type of personality
• 22:33
  Speaker 3: and you're feeling like it's sticking with you, maybe you
• 22:37
  Speaker 3: just say, hey, I was thinking about you know, when
• 22:39
  Speaker 3: you reached out to me and about the post, and
• 22:41
  Speaker 3: I just want to say we were so appreciative that
• 22:43
  Speaker 3: you came, and that doesn't go unnoticed. The post was
• 22:46
  Speaker 3: specifically about my daughter and be proud of her, and
• 22:50
  Speaker 3: I wanted that to be the focus, and I wanted
• 22:52
  Speaker 3: to reiterate that we are so grateful that you came
• 22:55
  Speaker 3: and we're a part of it, and then you can
• 22:56
  Speaker 3: move on. Make her feel kind of silly. Yeah, that's
• 23:01
  Speaker 3: what I would do. I'd be like, yo, this is
• 23:04
  Speaker 3: about my eight year old daughter's dance.
• 23:06
  Speaker 5: Colp literally my dad in twenty eleven, he came to
• 23:11
  Speaker 5: me and sat me down. He's like, I was on
• 23:13
  Speaker 5: your Facebook page and there's like not a lot of
• 23:14
  Speaker 5: photos of me on there. And I was like, are
• 23:16
  Speaker 5: you serious And he's like yeah, like do you not
• 23:18
  Speaker 5: care about me? And I was like, watch this, this
• 23:21
  Speaker 5: is how little I care about Facebook. I deleted a
• 23:22
  Speaker 5: Facebook in front of him to show like, I'm like,
• 23:24
  Speaker 5: you're making a huge deal about this and it's not
• 23:25
  Speaker 5: the big of a deal. I deleted Facebook until like,
• 23:28
  Speaker 5: I don't know, that's why I reactivated it, and it
• 23:33
  Speaker 5: was like a whole thing. So and I was like,
• 23:35
  Speaker 5: why does it I don't have there's photos of you
• 23:37
  Speaker 5: on there, Like, what do you want? What are you
• 23:39
  Speaker 5: looking for?
• 23:40
  Speaker 2: It's crazy, whoa, that's so intense, so.
• 23:42
  Speaker 4: Intense, and it's just social media. It's not that big
• 23:46
  Speaker 4: of a big of a deal.
• 23:47
  Speaker 2: I know. Well, I don't think you need to feel bad.
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: I just think I feel bad for you because I
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: would literally like poot my pants. I would not like that.
• 23:57
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but I do.
• 23:58
  Speaker 3: I think it's worth like just letting her know it
• 24:01
  Speaker 3: wasn't even about who was there, it was about your daughter,
• 24:04
  Speaker 3: and you are appreciative of them making the effort to come.
• 24:06
  Speaker 3: I think she it seems like what she's really needing
• 24:09
  Speaker 3: is wanting to feel valued and appreciated. So I think
• 24:13
  Speaker 3: if you even sent her a text saying thank you,
• 24:16
  Speaker 3: it will maybe make her feel kind of like, oh
• 24:19
  Speaker 3: maybe I shouldn't.
• 24:20
  Speaker 2: Have heard about that.
• 24:23
  Speaker 1: I'm sorry that sucked, or.
• 24:24
  Speaker 2: Have your husband say something like mom, Jill.
• 24:27
  Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's it should be talking about this.
• 24:31
  Speaker 5: Here's an anonymous one. I need to take on a
• 24:34
  Speaker 5: situation where a friend, my ex and I both share.
• 24:37
  Speaker 5: Let's call her Emily. My ex broke up with me
• 24:39
  Speaker 5: almost three years ago, and I've since moved on and
• 24:41
  Speaker 5: I'm dating an amazing girl. Earlier this year, I brought
• 24:44
  Speaker 5: my girlfriend to Emily's engagement party. My ex was there
• 24:46
  Speaker 5: too with her new boyfriend, but she still got really
• 24:49
  Speaker 5: emotional seeing me with my girlfriend and ended up crying
• 24:52
  Speaker 5: by the end of the night. A few days ago,
• 24:54
  Speaker 5: Emily told me she wasn't inviting me to her bachelorette
• 24:57
  Speaker 5: because she didn't want my ex to have another breakdown.
• 24:59
  Speaker 5: She said she wanted a drama free day and chose
• 25:01
  Speaker 5: to invite my ex instead. At the time, I tried
• 25:04
  Speaker 5: to be the bigger person. I even offered a plan
• 25:06
  Speaker 5: a second bachelor for the people who weren't invited. But
• 25:08
  Speaker 5: now some time has passed and realizing how hurt I
• 25:10
  Speaker 5: actually am. Emily lived with me after her own breakup,
• 25:13
  Speaker 5: and I was there during one of the hardest times
• 25:15
  Speaker 5: in her life. It feels like she didn't value our
• 25:17
  Speaker 5: friendship enough to even have a conversation with me before
• 25:20
  Speaker 5: making that decision. Now I don't even want to plan
• 25:22
  Speaker 5: the second bachelorette anymore. Am I wrong for letting it
• 25:25
  Speaker 5: go and quietly stepping back from the friendship or should
• 25:27
  Speaker 5: I tell her how I really feel.
• 25:29
  Speaker 3: I don't think you're wrong for stepping back from the friendship.
• 25:32
  Speaker 2: It seems like she.
• 25:35
  Speaker 3: Felt like she had to make a choice, and she
• 25:37
  Speaker 3: chose somebody else, and I think that it sucks, and
• 25:40
  Speaker 3: that's like, I think one of the most hurtful things
• 25:43
  Speaker 3: you can go through is a friend breakup like that.
• 25:46
  Speaker 3: And I also think that it seems like you're a
• 25:49
  Speaker 3: better friend to her than she is to you. Yeah,
• 25:53
  Speaker 3: I think you could have a conversation and just let
• 25:55
  Speaker 3: her know, like, Hey, I I when you first told me,
• 25:58
  Speaker 3: I wanted to just be a good friend to you.
• 26:00
  Speaker 3: But as I've been thinking about it, I realize how
• 26:03
  Speaker 3: hurt I was by that decision that you made without
• 26:05
  Speaker 3: even having a conversation with me first. And I feel
• 26:08
  Speaker 3: like I've been a really good friend to you, and
• 26:11
  Speaker 3: I think I just need to maybe step back from
• 26:13
  Speaker 3: this friendship because it feels like there's a there's a
• 26:16
  Speaker 3: difference in how we approach the friendship.
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: I almost feel like it's not even worth your energy
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: to have a conversation. To be honest, she made a decision.
• 26:24
  Speaker 2: It sounds like she's probably gonna be invited to the wedding.
• 26:26
  Speaker 2: So she made a decision.
• 26:27
  Speaker 1: It's her decision to make. It's not your decision to make.
• 26:30
  Speaker 1: So I say you take that, you clock it, and
• 26:32
  Speaker 1: you move accordingly, moving forward. I think you know, I'm
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: the ripe age of thirty nine now, so I feel
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: wiser and it's just smarter. And it's just like, I
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: can't be ourst. I can't ours. I think it's asked,
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: can't be asked. It's something to say in Love Island, Ukay,
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: I can't be ourst.
• 26:52
  Speaker 4: Sounds a good Scottish accent, but you can't be asked.
• 26:58
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like I can't be bothered. Oh type of sentiment
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: is what I think.
• 27:01
  Speaker 4: I mean that is that is a thing in the
• 27:03
  Speaker 4: UK can't be arsed.
• 27:05
  Speaker 2: And that means I can't be bothered.
• 27:07
  Speaker 5: Uh, it means nobody got time for that.
• 27:12
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I gotta be ursed. You just clock it and
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: move on with your life. If you are obviously a
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: good friend. Then somebody is going to be appreciative of that.
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: And you make your decisions when it comes time for
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: your wedding of who you want to be at your bachelorette.
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: I just say, clock it, move.
• 27:32
  Speaker 3: Forward, Maybe maybe match her energy. Maybe that's the advice.
• 27:36
  Speaker 3: It's not like you can step away as much as
• 27:39
  Speaker 3: you want. You can have a conversation with you have that.
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: Conversation so awkward because then like what then she's just
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: gonna guiltily invite you. Like, no, you don't want that either. Yeah, no,
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: you do not want that. You cannot be ours for that.
• 27:53
  Speaker 3: Maybe you move accordingly and you put in the energy
• 27:57
  Speaker 3: that she's putting into the friendship and just kind of
• 27:59
  Speaker 3: it's probably going to eventually just fizzle out. Yeah, Or
• 28:04
  Speaker 3: she might come to you and say, I'm really sorry
• 28:05
  Speaker 3: for the way I handled things, and I wish I
• 28:07
  Speaker 3: could do that differently, and y'all can rebuild, but right
• 28:09
  Speaker 3: now you deserve better as a friend. In my opinion,
• 28:13
  Speaker 3: I agree. I like this husband has a female best friend.
• 28:16
  Speaker 4: Oh yes, this is from Sarah.
• 28:19
  Speaker 5: I need a reality check because my husband and I
• 28:21
  Speaker 5: cannot agree on this. We recently got married and he
• 28:23
  Speaker 5: has a female best friend he's known since they were kids. No,
• 28:28
  Speaker 5: they've always been really close, and I've always had this
• 28:30
  Speaker 5: gut feeling that she has feelings for him. He's told
• 28:33
  Speaker 5: me over and over that she's just a friend and
• 28:34
  Speaker 5: that I'm reading too much into it. The problem is
• 28:36
  Speaker 5: they still spend a lot of time together one on one.
• 28:39
  Speaker 5: They'll grab dinner, get drinks, or hang out just the
• 28:42
  Speaker 5: two of them. Oh And while I completely respect that
• 28:44
  Speaker 5: they've been friends forever, now that we're married, it just
• 28:47
  Speaker 5: feels different to me. I've never asked him to end
• 28:49
  Speaker 5: the friendship, because I would never want to be that wife,
• 28:51
  Speaker 5: but I have told him about the amount of one
• 28:53
  Speaker 5: on one time they's been together. It makes me uncomfortable.
• 28:56
  Speaker 5: He says nothing has changed because we got just because
• 28:58
  Speaker 5: we got married, and that he shouldn't have to give
• 29:00
  Speaker 5: up a lifelong friendship. I understand his perspective, but I
• 29:03
  Speaker 5: also feel like marriage naturally changes certain boundaries. I'm not
• 29:06
  Speaker 5: asking him to choose between us. I just don't know
• 29:08
  Speaker 5: if it's unreasonable to expect things look different now. Am
• 29:12
  Speaker 5: I being unreasonable or am I just being insecure?
• 29:15
  Speaker 1: This is insane to me.
• 29:16
  Speaker 2: Should we take a break before we answer, what it ease,
• 29:37
  Speaker 2: We're back. Okay.
• 29:41
  Speaker 3: So we have a woman whose husband has a best
• 29:44
  Speaker 3: friend since childhood. They still spend a ton of one
• 29:47
  Speaker 3: on one time.
• 29:47
  Speaker 1: Together dinner, drink, dinner vibes.
• 29:51
  Speaker 3: And she's brought it up that it makes her uncomfortable,
• 29:54
  Speaker 3: and the husband thinks she's crazy for feeling this way.
• 29:58
  Speaker 2: What do you think?
• 29:59
  Speaker 1: Don tell you something, Sarah, Okay, this is absolutely a
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: boundary that he shouldn't be crossing. I think it is
• 30:08
  Speaker 1: so lovely that your husband has friends from childhood. I
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: love that for him. My husband has friends from childhood too.
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: Robbie was mister social in high school. He still talks
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: to like all of his girlfriends from high school. I've
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: met some of his girlfriends from high school, but he
• 30:23
  Speaker 1: would never like maybe if he still like text them
• 30:28
  Speaker 1: every once in a while. They don't get dinner together
• 30:30
  Speaker 1: one on one. They don't get drinks together one on one,
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: like even when we There is a dynamic change when
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: you get married, Like if I'm texting one of Robbie's
• 30:40
  Speaker 1: guy friends, I'm always looping us in a group text
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: with him, his wife, me and my husband, Like we're
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: all four on a chain together, like that's how you move.
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: In my opinion, when you're married, you don't even if
• 30:53
  Speaker 1: they're like a sister to you. To me, it's weird
• 30:55
  Speaker 1: you all three go, or if this person is with someone,
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: all four of you go, like it just feels very
• 31:02
  Speaker 1: I would be not cool with it.
• 31:04
  Speaker 2: I think I agree.
• 31:05
  Speaker 3: I think it's a just there is a shift when
• 31:08
  Speaker 3: you choose your partner and.
• 31:12
  Speaker 2: Get married.
• 31:12
  Speaker 3: And I think the problem here is that she's communicating
• 31:17
  Speaker 3: that she's uncomfortable with it, and he's like care does
• 31:20
  Speaker 3: not care about that, and is calling her crazy for
• 31:22
  Speaker 3: even feeling that way.
• 31:23
  Speaker 2: I think that's kind.
• 31:24
  Speaker 3: Of the bigger issue because I think if he was like,
• 31:27
  Speaker 3: oh my gosh, you know, I didn't even think of
• 31:28
  Speaker 3: it like that from your perspective, But that makes so
• 31:30
  Speaker 3: much sense because if you had a best guy friend
• 31:33
  Speaker 3: from childhood that you were hanging out with all the time,
• 31:36
  Speaker 3: that would maybe make me a little bit uncomfortable. And
• 31:39
  Speaker 3: I think maybe there's a way of saying, I don't
• 31:41
  Speaker 3: want y'all to not be friends, but maybe you're not
• 31:44
  Speaker 3: having one on one dinners and maybe she comes over
• 31:47
  Speaker 3: and we have dinner together. Because I understand she's important
• 31:49
  Speaker 3: to you.
• 31:50
  Speaker 1: The only guys I text one on one with are
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: co workers, Like, literally, what are your thoughts? Easton?
• 31:58
  Speaker 4: I mean that's just wild. I'm sorry.
• 32:00
  Speaker 5: Like again, I'm in such a secure relationship. But like,
• 32:04
  Speaker 5: and I have friends that are women from like high
• 32:07
  Speaker 5: school and stuff. I would never that that Allison knows
• 32:10
  Speaker 5: and has known for decades now. I would never go
• 32:13
  Speaker 5: get dinner with them one on one. That just feels
• 32:15
  Speaker 5: like drinks drinks. That feels wild. Susie, I don't understand day,
• 32:22
  Speaker 5: Like what, why do you need to do that?
• 32:25
  Speaker 4: Like why? I just don't know. I'm sorry.
• 32:26
  Speaker 1: I don't like, do you need like a best friend
• 32:28
  Speaker 1: to talk things through with? Because that's what your wife
• 32:30
  Speaker 1: should be respectfully, Yeah, I think it's off your chest
• 32:38
  Speaker 1: that should be.
• 32:38
  Speaker 3: Your wife, Like he is all I have dinner with Susie,
• 32:42
  Speaker 3: She's like what times should we be ready?
• 32:45
  Speaker 1: Or like I'm gonna change the locks so when you
• 32:46
  Speaker 1: get back, you better get sorry.
• 32:50
  Speaker 3: No, I don't think you're being unreasonable.
• 32:52
  Speaker 2: I don't think you're being insecure.
• 32:54
  Speaker 3: I do think men and women can be friends, but
• 32:56
  Speaker 3: I think there there is a boundary that you have
• 32:59
  Speaker 3: to set when you are married.
• 33:00
  Speaker 2: And that things change.
• 33:02
  Speaker 1: You know what's so funny. Nobody's gonna relate to this.
• 33:04
  Speaker 1: I'm just gonna be talking to myself because it happens
• 33:06
  Speaker 1: on Love and it happened on Love Island, UK. But
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: there's this friendship that blossomed on the island between Lorenzo
• 33:12
  Speaker 1: and Ellie.
• 33:13
  Speaker 2: Spoiler alert if you're watching, they're not together.
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: They're not together, and they like love each other. Ellie
• 33:17
  Speaker 1: decided to leave the villa because her like connection got
• 33:21
  Speaker 1: vhoted off. So she's like, I'm leaving with him, and
• 33:23
  Speaker 1: like she's saying goodbye Lorenzo and they're like hugging and
• 33:26
  Speaker 1: she's crying and they're having this emotional thing and she's like,
• 33:28
  Speaker 1: I never thought that I could like find a friend
• 33:31
  Speaker 1: that's just like strictly platonic. And I was like, they're
• 33:34
  Speaker 1: gonna date at some point? WHOA, yeah, hot take the
• 33:39
  Speaker 1: next year and a half. There, I think Ellie and
• 33:42
  Speaker 1: Lorenzo will date each other.
• 33:43
  Speaker 3: Well, it reminds me of that movie People We Meet
• 33:45
  Speaker 3: on Vacation because.
• 33:51
  Speaker 2: Vegas hater of that movie. But basically they me and
• 33:54
  Speaker 2: then they're best friends.
• 33:55
  Speaker 3: They go onto vacation every year and then they both
• 33:57
  Speaker 3: are in relationships, still doing their yearly in case, I'm like,
• 34:01
  Speaker 3: I loved the movie, but I'm also like that would
• 34:03
  Speaker 3: never fly and really ever fly? And then the girl
• 34:08
  Speaker 3: he was dating, who was she was worried about their
• 34:11
  Speaker 3: connection had every right to be worried.
• 34:14
  Speaker 1: Yeah, sleep with one eye open, Sarah.
• 34:18
  Speaker 3: I would just say, hey, I want you to be
• 34:22
  Speaker 3: able to.
• 34:22
  Speaker 1: Like is she's communicating and she's but.
• 34:24
  Speaker 3: I care to say like, I think the bigger issue
• 34:27
  Speaker 3: is that I'm coming to you saying that this bothers
• 34:29
  Speaker 3: me and you're you don't care, can't.
• 34:31
  Speaker 1: Be ours for that?
• 34:34
  Speaker 3: Just say that yes, this is like not use him,
• 34:39
  Speaker 3: just keep saying he's.
• 34:40
  Speaker 1: Not paying attention. Then let's get petty and make a
• 34:43
  Speaker 1: good guy friend and be like, I'm gonna go have
• 34:45
  Speaker 1: dinner with easthan tonight see a babing. Wow.
• 34:49
  Speaker 3: Revenge never works well because you don't want to send
• 34:54
  Speaker 3: him off like.
• 34:56
  Speaker 1: He's not listening to her. What else is she supposed
• 34:58
  Speaker 1: to do?
• 35:00
  Speaker 5: I wonder if Sarah, because she said I don't want
• 35:03
  Speaker 5: to ask him to end the friendship, but I wonder
• 35:05
  Speaker 5: if she'd be okay with the friendship continuing. If they
• 35:07
  Speaker 5: all just spend time together.
• 35:09
  Speaker 1: I'm sure she would. I'm sure she would.
• 35:12
  Speaker 3: What if the best friend of this man is listening
• 35:15
  Speaker 3: to Taylor Swift's ruin the friendship? You never know what
• 35:20
  Speaker 3: someone's plotting against you.
• 35:24
  Speaker 1: My guys is always ruined, you.
• 35:27
  Speaker 3: Know, Like, what if the other girl thinks that there's
• 35:30
  Speaker 3: gonna be something there if she just goes.
• 35:35
  Speaker 4: If she's listening to Better Than Revenge.
• 35:39
  Speaker 3: Sarah, You're not crazy this. He should be able to
• 35:42
  Speaker 3: have friends, but there should be hard lines and boundaries
• 35:45
  Speaker 3: to be respectful to you. And that's that's.
• 35:48
  Speaker 1: Should care how you're feeling. You should care.
• 35:49
  Speaker 3: About how you feel. That can be ursed for that. Okay,
• 35:57
  Speaker 3: So the question is do we play a game guess
• 36:00
  Speaker 3: who the New Way?
• 36:02
  Speaker 2: Or do we do another Dear Bonya, what's your vote?
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: I just suck at the game.
• 36:08
  Speaker 2: I know it's hard, but maybe today's your day.
• 36:11
  Speaker 3: Maybe you're thirty nine now, yeah, okay, okay, we're going
• 36:15
  Speaker 3: to try it this New way and we discussed that
• 36:18
  Speaker 3: you heard discussed at the beginning of the podcast.
• 36:21
  Speaker 2: We're always here for the interesting stuff.
• 36:23
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and you know what, we are students of the
• 36:25
  Speaker 1: craft and we also listen to our scrubbers so if
• 36:28
  Speaker 1: you have some issues with how we do things, please
• 36:30
  Speaker 1: let us know, because we will.
• 36:32
  Speaker 5: Of course correct should here I'll play the role of
• 36:37
  Speaker 5: Mark the game master.
• 36:38
  Speaker 1: Let me get ok and can you get your names
• 36:40
  Speaker 1: from Sam? So she makes them both equally.
• 36:44
  Speaker 4: And I have been communicating this she has names ready
• 36:47
  Speaker 4: to go. Okay, let me get my post it note?
• 36:50
  Speaker 2: Rock paper scissors?
• 36:51
  Speaker 1: Yeah, let's so it's rock paper scissors. Shoot? Yeah, okay,
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: rock paper scissor? Shoot? Oh she did rock?
• 36:58
  Speaker 3: Ey?
• 36:58
  Speaker 2: Did scissors go first or second?
• 37:02
  Speaker 1: Oh?
• 37:03
  Speaker 3: Oh?
• 37:03
  Speaker 2: I guess I get to choose.
• 37:04
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I want to go second, So you're first. So
• 37:07
  Speaker 3: the rule is we're just going to count. We're going
• 37:10
  Speaker 3: to see who can do Guess there's in the least
• 37:12
  Speaker 3: amount of questions.
• 37:13
  Speaker 1: Yeah. So because we listened and we heard that, it
• 37:16
  Speaker 1: was hard for you all to follow along and play along.
• 37:18
  Speaker 1: So you have no idea. Who's on my head? This
• 37:20
  Speaker 1: is Tanya. Let's go. Am I a man? Yes, I'm
• 37:24
  Speaker 1: a man? Okay? Am I an actor?
• 37:29
  Speaker 2: No?
• 37:30
  Speaker 1: Am I a singer? No am I an influencer?
• 37:35
  Speaker 2: No?
• 37:36
  Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, no question marked influencer. So I'm not
• 37:41
  Speaker 1: an actor, I'm not a singer. I'm not an influencer.
• 37:45
  Speaker 1: Am I an athlete?
• 37:47
  Speaker 2: No?
• 37:48
  Speaker 1: Okay, I'm not an athlete, so how does peep? Am
• 37:52
  Speaker 1: I NEPO baby?
• 37:53
  Speaker 2: No actor?
• 37:55
  Speaker 1: Singer? Am I an artist?
• 37:57
  Speaker 2: No?
• 37:58
  Speaker 1: Not an artist? Wow? This is am I missing something
• 38:02
  Speaker 1: big here? No movie star? My movie star? Do I
• 38:09
  Speaker 1: know the person on my head?
• 38:11
  Speaker 2: Yes?
• 38:13
  Speaker 1: I know his name? I know me? How do I
• 38:24
  Speaker 1: know me?
• 38:26
  Speaker 2: That's not a guess or no question?
• 38:28
  Speaker 1: Am I a reality star?
• 38:30
  Speaker 3: Mm hmmm?
• 38:31
  Speaker 4: I mean no, I don't think so.
• 38:33
  Speaker 1: No, this is crazy.
• 38:37
  Speaker 3: I'm just looking a look aa she just looked at
• 38:40
  Speaker 3: the rectok at you can't look at low.
• 38:44
  Speaker 1: I'm sorry. I swear I didn't I swear okay, because
• 38:48
  Speaker 1: I'm lost as hell. I'm not an actor. I'm not
• 38:52
  Speaker 1: a singer. I'm not an influencer. I'm not an athlete.
• 38:54
  Speaker 1: I'm not an EPO baby. I'm not an artist. I'm
• 38:56
  Speaker 1: not a pop star. And I'm not a reality star.
• 39:00
  Speaker 1: Am I a broadcaster? Yes?
• 39:03
  Speaker 3: Yeah? Oh?
• 39:05
  Speaker 1: News? Am I news broadcaster?
• 39:07
  Speaker 4: No? I mean sometimes yeah.
• 39:11
  Speaker 1: I want to say no, but I wouldn't give my
• 39:14
  Speaker 1: entertainment broadcaster.
• 39:15
  Speaker 2: Yeah?
• 39:18
  Speaker 1: And I'm a man, that's right? Am I married?
• 39:22
  Speaker 2: No?
• 39:23
  Speaker 1: No, I'm not. Am I over thirty.
• 39:26
  Speaker 2: Yes?
• 39:27
  Speaker 1: Am I over forty?
• 39:28
  Speaker 4: Yes?
• 39:28
  Speaker 5: Yes?
• 39:29
  Speaker 1: Am I over fifty?
• 39:31
  Speaker 4: Yes?
• 39:32
  Speaker 1: Am I over sixty?
• 39:33
  Speaker 4: No?
• 39:34
  Speaker 1: I'm in between fifty and sixty. Yes, according to your calculator.
• 39:41
  Speaker 1: Am I currently dating somebody?
• 39:45
  Speaker 3: Not?
• 39:47
  Speaker 1: No? Is this person a friend of mine?
• 39:52
  Speaker 3: Yeah?
• 39:54
  Speaker 4: Yeah?
• 39:55
  Speaker 1: This person officiate my wedding? Yeah? Am I Ryan Seacrest?
• 39:59
  Speaker 4: Yeah?
• 40:01
  Speaker 2: Okay?
• 40:02
  Speaker 1: First of all, he is reality story. I went back.
• 40:08
  Speaker 4: I didn't think reality. Sorry, I thought rally host.
• 40:11
  Speaker 1: Oh it's hard.
• 40:14
  Speaker 2: I mean, like someone said.
• 40:15
  Speaker 1: I just really I didn't give. I didn't. I wasn't
• 40:17
  Speaker 1: given acturrate information.
• 40:18
  Speaker 4: You wouldn't reality.
• 40:20
  Speaker 3: And I also don't know that you would have gotten
• 40:23
  Speaker 3: faster with that.
• 40:24
  Speaker 1: I think I will.
• 40:24
  Speaker 4: I think it would thrown you off more.
• 40:26
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's why I think.
• 40:27
  Speaker 3: I think you would have been going down like Love
• 40:28
  Speaker 3: Island and stuff. So I actually think it saved you
• 40:31
  Speaker 3: some questions. I got twenty three.
• 40:36
  Speaker 4: I got twenty two? Did I miss one?
• 40:38
  Speaker 3: I was marking every time she asked, well with the
• 40:41
  Speaker 3: last yes, no you did.
• 40:44
  Speaker 2: You're not right. We'll give her a helmet. What was it?
• 40:47
  Speaker 2: You got? How many?
• 40:48
  Speaker 4: Twenty two?
• 40:49
  Speaker 2: Okay, let's do twenty two.
• 40:50
  Speaker 4: Wow?
• 40:51
  Speaker 3: Good job, Tanya, great job, Tanya.
• 40:54
  Speaker 1: All right, it's so cooy. Is he a friend of mine?
• 41:00
  Speaker 1: I know?
• 41:00
  Speaker 2: Well, I can't just be like yeah, I have to
• 41:04
  Speaker 2: make it fun.
• 41:06
  Speaker 1: Okay, all right, that could turn away and I didn't
• 41:08
  Speaker 1: even mark it down to she's gonna get like two
• 41:10
  Speaker 1: watch I think she'll get under ten.
• 41:12
  Speaker 2: Am I a woman? Yes? Am I an actress?
• 41:15
  Speaker 1: No?
• 41:16
  Speaker 2: Am I a host?
• 41:17
  Speaker 1: No?
• 41:18
  Speaker 2: Am I a singer?
• 41:20
  Speaker 1: Nope?
• 41:21
  Speaker 2: Am I a reality star?
• 41:22
  Speaker 1: Yes?
• 41:23
  Speaker 2: Am I on the Housewives?
• 41:27
  Speaker 1: Nope?
• 41:29
  Speaker 2: Am I on a current reality show?
• 41:31
  Speaker 1: Oh, I'm gonna say yes. I think that's accurate information.
• 41:40
  Speaker 1: What do you say current in the last couple of months?
• 41:43
  Speaker 2: Yeah, like I have been on a reality show recently?
• 41:45
  Speaker 4: Yeah, yes, I don't think so in the last few months.
• 41:50
  Speaker 1: Yeah, Am I alive?
• 41:53
  Speaker 3: Yes, I'm getting confirmation on the reality show. I'm getting
• 41:56
  Speaker 3: two different answers.
• 42:01
  Speaker 4: Sam clarified that there was a It was a no.
• 42:04
  Speaker 1: I know, but you can't it's gonna give too much away.
• 42:08
  Speaker 1: But it's currently airing now. Yeah, Sam says, right, right,
• 42:14
  Speaker 1: am I under forty? I'm gonna say no.
• 42:18
  Speaker 4: During the birthday game right on forty?
• 42:20
  Speaker 3: Oh?
• 42:21
  Speaker 1: Wow?
• 42:23
  Speaker 2: Was I on the Hills?
• 42:28
  Speaker 1: Yes?
• 42:28
  Speaker 2: Am I a podcast host?
• 42:30
  Speaker 1: No? Oh? It's annoying.
• 42:34
  Speaker 2: Was I on Laguna Beach?
• 42:35
  Speaker 3: Yes? Do I have initials? Elsie and my Lord Conrad?
• 42:42
  Speaker 1: I have fourteen?
• 42:43
  Speaker 4: Wow?
• 42:45
  Speaker 1: I said under fifteen, didn't say under fifteen?
• 42:49
  Speaker 3: Wow?
• 42:50
  Speaker 1: Congratulations hard Yeah, I thought so too. Yeah, how did
• 42:56
  Speaker 1: you go from reality start to the hills?
• 42:59
  Speaker 3: Because I was thinking of shows that you would You
• 43:03
  Speaker 3: were instantly like, I'm a reality star, but I was thinking,
• 43:06
  Speaker 3: what if it's y'all went back and forth on the
• 43:09
  Speaker 3: current thing, and so I was like, you said it's
• 43:11
  Speaker 3: airing right now, which I think was the reunion.
• 43:13
  Speaker 2: I'm assuming the reboot. Yeah, the reboot.
• 43:16
  Speaker 1: Damn.
• 43:17
  Speaker 2: I thought it was Kristen Cavalari.
• 43:19
  Speaker 1: Yeah. I figured that when you said to a house
• 43:21
  Speaker 1: a podcast, Wow, well Becca one, what else is new?
• 43:30
  Speaker 3: Well, let us know if you liked that format, let's
• 43:33
  Speaker 3: not feel like that or he wants to go back
• 43:34
  Speaker 3: to the O G way. Yeah, yeah, yeah, thank you all.
• 43:37
  Speaker 2: That's the end of this episode. That is right.
• 43:40
  Speaker 1: We love you. We'll see you next week.
• 43:41
  Speaker 2: We'll see you next week.