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Why narcissists are some of the biggest hypocrites · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  The hypocrisy, hypocrisy of narcissists run so deep in the
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  world today, y'all. If you're new here, my name is
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  Lee Hammock. I'm a clinically diagnosed
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  narcissist and welcome to another episode of The
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  Narcissist Code. Bam.
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  Hypocrites. The hypocritical.
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  Oath. The not the Hippocratic Oath.
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  The hypocritical. Oath where narcissistic people
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  just played like, like don't. Follow their own.
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  Rule their own rules where they feel like they're above.
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  Even the rules. That they themselves set.
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  Even the standards. That they themselves set.
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  You get a lot of narcissistic people who absolutely feel like
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  that they're above their. Own rules.
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  Like the rules don't apply to me.
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  Hypocrite, like I said. It's also.
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  The easier phrase for hypocrisy is the double standards that run
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  rampant in toxic narcissistic relationships.
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  Right? Like.
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  I get to do what you don't. Get to do.
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  You don't get to choose. You don't get to decide.
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  You don't. There's like you don't get a say
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  so. And how we handle or how
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  situations are handled right. You don't like.
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  There's nothing that you can do. In these situations, they're
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  going to they're going to change that is going to change anything
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  like. I get to do what you don't get
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  to do, even if I say. It's bad I.
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  Hate cheaters. I hate when people cheat.
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  Cheating is the lowest. People that cheat are the lowest
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  form of human beings. But guess what?
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  I'm a cheater. I'm not saying.
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  I'm a cheater right now. Y'all know Lee?
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  Just. Confess the cheating.
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  Got him, got him y'all screen record that before he can delete
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  it got him. We got you Lee, you cheating
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  ass, we got you. No, this the mindset right
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  there. I hate cheaters although I am a
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  cheater. Hypocrites.
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  Hypocrites. I feel like.
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  If there's one synonym, not a synonym.
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  If there's one word. That you.
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  Can use to describe a narcissist and it can't be evil, it can't
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  be demonic, it can't be devilish, it can't be liar.
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  I think a lot of people would say hypocrites.
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  Because they don't follow their own rules.
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  They don't follow their own standards.
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  I hate cheaters. Cheaters are the lowest form of
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  human being on the earth. They themselves are cheating.
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  But you know what? When you catch a narcissist in
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  this situation where they're being a hypocrite, where they're
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  being a where they're in. Direct opposition to something
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  that they hate, they always have a damn excuse for.
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  It is absolutely. Mind boggling how all the time
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  they have a. Damn excuse for something evil
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  that they're doing that they themselves had said that they
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  hate. They've judged you for having a
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  promiscuous. Past.
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  Or, you know, being a cheater. In the past or a liar in the
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  past. But when they lie, there's
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  always an excuse or reason why it's OK that they do it.
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  But not OK that you do it. Well, I know I said I hate
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  cheaters, but I hate cheaters that mess up the family.
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  I hate cheaters that break their family up.
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  My family still together. Yeah, I cheated on you, but
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  we're still together. We're going to make this work if
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  we're going to make this work. I hate you.
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  Do they break the family up that they're not sorry for what they
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  did? I'm sorry for what I did.
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  I'm sorry for what I did. Is it working?
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  Are the tears working? Yes.
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  Do people? Fall for that yes absolutely.
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  A lot of people fall for that, but that's what happens.
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  Y'all, It's it's. It's different being.
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  In the moment, as opposed to just me making the video about
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  it, of course, but that's a lot of people do fall for it, A lot
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  of narcissists and people and they like being.
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  Realistic narcissists do. Laugh at you y'all when you
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  forgive them for something horrible.
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  Whenever they when they've been a hypocrite, they laugh.
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  They laugh at you behind. Your back.
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  Some of them. Some of them will laugh at you.
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  In your face, but a lot of them laugh at you behind your back.
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  They're just like damn, I can't believe and they.
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  This is not me saying this. This is the mind of a
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  narcissist. They think you're stupid.
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  They think you're dense because you're.
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  You're in love with somebody who does exactly what they say.
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  They wouldn't do. I hate when people lie.
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  They the. Linest bastards in the world
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  they look. I hate when people lie.
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  They are pathological. Liars.
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  The crazy thing about it is if you think you're dealing with
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  the narcissist right, you can find out a lot of the stuff that
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  they're doing, a lot of the stuff that they really do, by
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  asking them what they hate. Ask the narcissistic person in
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  your life what they hate, what type of person that they hate,
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  what type of actions they hate. You will find out you you and
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  you will find out the stuff that they they themselves are
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  actually doing right you'll. Find out like.
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  Damn, you said you hate this, right?
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  You said you don't like this, but you're actually.
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  Doing it. So yeah, that's that's an easy
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  way to tell what they're doing is by just asking them what they
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  hate you. Yeah, yeah, narcissists are.
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  Some of the most hypocritical people.
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  On the planet and that. And that's me being nice, you
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  know? Hypocritical hypocrite person
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  who indulges in hypocrisy. This is.
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  Like a come on now. That's the craziest thing right
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  there, you know? What's the what?
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  I typed a hypocrite into the dictionary.
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  It says person who engages in hypocrisy.
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  Like, come on now, come on now. Give give me the.
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  Definition of hypocrisy. The practice of claiming.
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  To have moral. Standards or belief?
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  To. The practice of claiming to be
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  to have moral standards or beliefs to which one's own
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  behavior does not. Conform.
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  Yes, their words and actions don't match up.
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  They will say one thing. And do another.
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  Yeah, yeah, I'm just telling you, narcissists are some of the
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  biggest hypocrites on the damn planet.
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  They are and like and this is me.
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  Being real y'all, and this is. Me being real that this is the
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  what what inspired this video. There was a woman in my comment
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  section on on TikTok. She was just saying that she's
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  like my my my narcissistic partner.
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  Current partner still still together.
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  He just keeps cheating on me, but he says he hates cheaters.
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  I talked to one person. We broke up for six months.
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  I went on one date because I was so, so much pain.
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  He considers me a cheater. It's he said he hates cheaters
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  so but he's cheating. He his cheating is the reason we
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  broke up initially, but now he's cheating on me consistently and
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  blames me for going on that one date while we were separated or
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  we were broken up. Y'all hypocrites.
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  They don't really hate cheaters. They hate what they hate what
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  other people do it. They have these crazy ass high
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  moral standards, but they hate when other people do it.
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  They love it when they do it. It's cool when I do it.
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  When other people do it. Bumble like y'all I'm just
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  telling you and because if you if you called him out.
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  On a hypocrisy right if you. Called them out.
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  If you just hold them, try to hold them accountable for the
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  their hypocrisy and you bring it up and you don't leave them,
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  they think it's OK. They think it's OK.
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  To be a hypocrite in your relationship.
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  Believe it's hard to leave because I have kids?
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  Y'all, I'm not telling you to leave.
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  Right now. I'm just providing you the
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  information, but they are going to be hypocrites.
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  Just be prepared for it be be. Prepared to be.
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  Judged for something that they are doing.
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  Be prepared for it. I'm not telling you to leave
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  you. I'm telling you I'm giving you
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  the information you have to make the choice of whether to leave
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  or or on your own. You have to make that decision
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  you have. To.
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  I can't wait. You need to leave right now.
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  Your friends can say you need to leave right now.
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  Everybody in the in the in the damn world can tell us.
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  You can say, hey, you need to leave right now.
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  But until you are ready to leave, you don't give a damn.
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  Why would you? You have to be the one that's
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  ready to leave. That girl that's cheating and
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  getting that's getting cheated on consistently.
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  He won't stop cheating. I told her I literally coming
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  back to her. Like why would he leave?
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  Why would he stop cheating if you're going to keep taking him
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  back? But Lee, I love that y'all
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  narcissists don't give a fuck about you loving them.
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  Let's just be be real with it. They don't care about you loving
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  them. They don't care about you loving
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  them. They care about what you what
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  you can provide for them in this moment or you going to forgive
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  me for this horrible stuff that I'm doing to you or you going to
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  keep putting up with it. They don't care.
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  That's the that's the dynamic that so many people have to deal
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  with right here. And I know that people hate to
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  hear. That and.
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  There's like, well lady, that sucks and then I understand
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  that. Right there y'all.
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  I understand that, but these are the, these are tough decisions.
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  If it was easy, everybody would make the decision easy.
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  I'm gone. This is some of you have to
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  think about because if you're dealing with somebody who, who
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  has, who claims to have high moral standards but violates
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  those moral standards every damn day, what are you doing?
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  You see what I'm saying? They're not going to change.
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  You have to accept the fact that they are not going to change
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  their behaviors. Believe they keep promising to
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  change they are not going to change their behavior.
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  They Who cares if they promise to change when they have they
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  have sent the same promise 85 times out when When does a
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  promise? Lose its value.
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  When does a promise to lose its value?
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  When it's repeated over and over again?
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  When it promise hasn't came to fruition?
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  When that promise hasn't came true, that's when it loses its
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  value. So when does that promise not
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  mean? Anything anymore?
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  What is the promise? No longer mean anything anymore.
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  That's something you have to work on right there.
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  When does the promise no? Longer have value.
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  When does the promise no longer? Have meaning?
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  Guess what happens? If you, if you, I promise like.
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  I promise to take you back if you do one month of therapy.
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  They will. They do once a month.
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  They do one month of therapy and then they quit.
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  They come back. And they start their behaviors
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  all over. They start their behaviors all
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  over again. And then guess what?
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  You you decide to leave. And then guess what happens?
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  They call. You a hypocrite.
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  Wow, you really going to leave me?
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  I thought. You said, I thought you said if
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  I go to therapy for one month. You wouldn't leave.
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  Wow, you're a hypocrite. They call you a hypocrite.
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  Even though they forced your hand, you are now the.
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  Hypocrite in their in their eyes, they forced your hand.
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  But now you are the hypocrite. They force your hand.
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  Now you're the liar. You're the manipulator.
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  You're the cheater. That's going to be a consistent
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  thing that. Happens in these toxic
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  relationships y'all? They're going to consistently
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  call. You a narcissist, They're going
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  to call you. A cheater?
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  They're going to call you. They're going to go.
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  Above and beyond to make it. Seem like you.
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  Are the horrible person in these situations right here?
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  This is what they're. Going to do absolutely.
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  So I'm just trying to raise awareness out that narcissists
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  are the biggest hypocrites on the planet.
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  Narcissists are the biggest hypocrites on the planet.
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  Even some of the self award ones.
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  Even some of the self award ones and this is me just be spending
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  spending truth to y'all bringing truth into your life bringing
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  bringing the. Sermon into.
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  Your life. I want y'all.
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  I want y'all to understand that the person you're the person
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  you're dealing with, the person you're going.
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  To sleep beside and. Waking up to.
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  It's going to be hypo if they go to sleep by hypocrite they're.
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  Going to wake up tomorrow, hypocrite.
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  A good night's sleep don't change, no?
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  Doesn't change toxicity, y'all. I'm telling you, I'm just
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  keeping the hot y'all. Y'all know y'all come here.
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  I keep it hot and ready like a Little Caesars pizza.
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  I just do y'all that's. That's that's my, that's what
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  I'll be doing. I keep it hot and ready like a
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  Little Caesar's pizza. You know.
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  A Little Caesar's, they make good pizzas, y'all.
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  It's hot and ready. But if you.
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  Let it get cold. That thing ain't going to be
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  horrible, you know? They make good pizzas, but if
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  you let it get cold, that thing ain't.
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  Going to be horrible. Y'all know what I got?
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  A road. A road?
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