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Yoreh De’ah 217:48-218:6. Vows: Meaning of His Words Vs. Contextual Intent, Communication · SHULCHAN ARUCH YOMI: Own the Halacha in 25 minutes a day!

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Yukos adorum Simon ration yield Zion.
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We're finishing up the Simon today with sip mem cess.
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If they raise Simon ration Zion discusses the lochas of words,
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understanding the connotation, the meaning of different words
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and based on the different contexts that they are said in.
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Sip mem cess reads as follows. Misha nodar onishpa sholo
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yitzhouk shuntzhouk. A person makes a nether not to
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have a strike. This does not mean laughter, it
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means games. The guy makes a nether or takes
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a shua. I'm not going to play games.
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I tried that once, it didn't work.
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Usser Lahatil Garolos. He's not allowed to be Mato
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garolos, which presumably is a type of gambling.
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A type of exactly. I don't know the the the.
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I'm not familiar with all the insurance and outs of the games
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that they had in those days, but Lahatul Guerrilla, some type of
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gambling he's not allowed to do. But Lloyd Shrum, Adam be Sri
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Lloyd, the shochler adds in that not only is he not allowed to
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engage in playing these games by himself, he's not allowed to
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appoint a Shaliak to play a game for him.
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I don't know if you ever have that in your life where you you
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can't go play a game and you say, do you mind playing the
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game on my behalf? I don't I can't go today.
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You'll be I just thought that was a bit funny because usually
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these gamblings and all you have like the guys going to play
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poker. So there's there's some
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intelligence that goes into it, right?
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So now it depends. You know, some it's like it's
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like having a portfolio manager, right.
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So I'm not so good at investment.
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So I'll hire someone. So the same thing.
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I'm not so good at poker. Do you mind?
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I'll hire you to be my poker player on my behalf.
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In any event, the Shokner does say that not only are you not
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allowed to engage in playing, but you're not allowed to point
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a Shalia to play on your behalf. I'm Ross Imhaveero, Shikharan, a
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Pustar. Unfortunately, I don't actually
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know what that means, but I'm Ross Imhaveero.
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But also some type of some type of game.
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The Taza refers to that over here in Yiddish.
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She calls it a Bakhtin, the Russian astronauts Bakhtin.
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I don't know what that is either.
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But in any event, this is the loca about, about playing about
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playing the games. You know what that is betting A
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betting. Wow, vetting is betting.
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That is very funny. OK, so OK, so this is the about
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playing the games. There is a here about the
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anyway, so that's a lot about playing the games.
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It says there are more bike Siborche Gazru Espalil Dominion
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assume the crows petora de codava kedusha nikrat fila.
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There must says that a a a case about a seaboard.
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They make exerra daschlis Palo minion mushroom azadava.
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They're not even allowed to read the Tyra that's also considered
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fila. Again, this whole symbol is
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about languages understanding the connotation of words Mischa
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nodar shilo kabo picaden ALSR la havoise al mashkin lisrao.
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A person makes a Ned there that he will not receive a Picaden
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any type of deposit in his house.
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Also the Hablas amash going the Israel.
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He's not even allowed to lend money.
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I mean he's not even lend money that he can do, but then receive
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amash going on that. So the point here is that maybe
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when he said because then he just referred to just taking
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somebody's property and watching it for the week.
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But here he's taking on 4 alone that the Habamina was.
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Maybe that's not considerate because then in this context, it
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is Muniro the most important line nearing the Hulk and Akhar
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Kavanasi Ukadera. She's Bayer of a Simon ratio.
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The Rama points out that really, after all said and done, we have
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to understand what was the Kavanaugh of the person making
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the net there. And that's really what it's all
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going to boil down to what he what's he trying to do over
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here? So it's it's not about the
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physical word, what the word mean.
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It's really on what the guy was trying to do and that we'll see
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the entire topic of the next Simon about understanding the
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person Kavana Misha Northern Onishva Lisano is Satyama.
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He makes a nether that I'm going to fast for.
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I don't know, let's just say 10 days, 20 days, the era Tinus
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climb in the middle of his 2030 day day piece, he comes with
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Sarbatidis Nashua Gazette. Oh lamina young man that will
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count towards his days that he was taking the pass the Granisha
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nodro de la que desaqvaris A lamaco Vieira lo shaholafa de
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asacchon yose de nidro. Similarly, a guy takes a nether
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he's going to go to basic virus and then he ends up in the
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levaya that night and he's in a basic virus.
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It's OK, he said he is going to go to basic virus.
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He's going to a base Hackavaris. There's a there are muscles as
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follows Caso beso SE peschener beni ruchon in sift cotton lama
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test the icker covenoso haisa haisa bishvasa daily mana be
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called strike she maybe hepsid mamin mash mazed and Ishbastan
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should list like kind of binion Shakespeare hebsed moment about
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below hebsed motor lists like Mikonko nearly shot on akhar
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Kavonis and Ishbazer deemed ishfil hebsed mom and hailo
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Daiga or the taz explains that the guy making edit for games.
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So what was his point? He obviously it goes back to the
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same idea of Kavanaugh. He obviously had some issue he
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was trying to address. And usually when people are
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making these adorned, what they're trying to do is at least
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but for themselves is create a self-imposed rules on himself.
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And he's saying is I'm having a hard time, you know, I'm getting
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I'm becoming a gambling addict, whatever it is.
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So he says that's it. I'm making a Ned there, no
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games. So if the context of his
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frustration with himself is about the fact that he's wasting
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his money, so then we understand that he's making a Ned there on
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games that are going to waste him money.
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Now in today's days, they have all these wonderful gadgets on
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these phones and they have games and they also cost money.
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And he's so the same thing. If a guy is, you know, feel like
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he's wasting his money, then it would probably include games
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that are gambling, which are wasting money and possibly games
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that are going to cost the money to play.
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They, they, they try to get you, Hey, spend more money.
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You're going to get another token.
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And if you get another token, you'll get, you'll get, you'll
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pay more money. But if the guy is feeling that,
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hey, I'm just wasting my time, it's crazy amount of time.
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I'm sitting on my on my phone all day and playing, I don't
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know, whatever. But it's not costing him money.
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But he's frustrated with himself.
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So then obviously his issue is time.
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And if he's time, well, time is money also, but it's time.
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And if that's the case, then he's basically including really
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all types of games that are wasting his time.
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We can also argue, you know, I don't know, just throwing it out
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as a just to helpless cyber. So Ozen, if a guy is sitting,
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let's say on his phone all day and playing these these these
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games and wasting hours and hours and hours on end and
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playing the game and says that's it.
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No more games makes the nether, makes you know loud and clear,
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everybody in the house heard it. No more games comes Friday
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night, Sudha's finished and the kids say, yay, Kathy, we want to
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play at this. A little bit of cards with you.
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I can argue again, not saying convincingly, but I can argue
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that he didn't mean that because in his mind that's not called
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wasting time. That's called that.
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That's quality time. The Kumar Nidaram actually in
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Nidaram actually speaks it out about the Omar Nidaram, right?
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That on Shabbos he's not supposed to learn too much with
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the kids, the Ron, the Ron writes, because you should play
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games with the kids instead. So there's actually a mitzvahs
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of owning Shabbos to play with the kids.
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So I'm just pointing out that everything is based on the
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context. If we see the context of the
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person who's all about wasting time, I think listen, go back to
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everyone and ask their own, you know, advise in your life.
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But it's very possible that playing games with your kids on
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a Friday night would not be considered wasting time and
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certainly not wasting money. Boy, where was that Ron?
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It was an Ahmed Baze. Great.
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We'd have to look at every Ahmed Baze noon.
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OK, Simon ratioed Hess Kate said Holken Akhar Kavana said no
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idea. Now we're going to learn about
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the kavana. In fact, ratio Zion and ratio
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test really go together because a lot of ratio Zion about
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understanding the connotation of words is about as we just
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started to discover is about kavana.
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But the interplay between the two is about ratioed fest is
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more about the context of a nether and we're not looking at
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the word. We're just saying is in the
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context. We're trying to understand
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globally what the guy meant. We're not confused about the
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actual words. Here we go.
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Kola noder oh Nishva Rowan Devarian should be glow on
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Nishva oh nodar. When a guy makes a nether, we
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need to or or should go up in that matter.
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We need to look at the context and understand that what was the
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reason why the guy made the nether?
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Like we just started to speak about why was this guy making
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the nether sitting on his phone for 10 hours straight and saying
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I never gave anymore. Why did he make the nether?
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We all understand because he's wasting his time.
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That's the reason. So from there we're going to
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start to extrapolate what guy meant belonged in the hand.
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The Asian is coming. And from there we understand
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what did a guy mean? The Hulk and after inion below
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after Mashimos Hadibo, probably one of the most important, most
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important 5 or 6 words, we'll find an entire hill for the
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Darwin Hulk and after inion below after Mashimos Hadiboort.
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In fact, I run my whole life that way.
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You know, you could be reading, you can reading everything.
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You could be you could be reading a Rashi, right?
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And somebody says a Rashi and hummus or Gamara.
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I'm like, oh, look at the Rashi says over here, you say OK, man,
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but LO Hulk and Akhar had Indian Hulk and Akhar mashmosa dibor
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that understand what did the what did Rashi mean in that
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context that he says that if you read the whole thing, you'll
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understand what he meant and the same is true certainly by
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Nidorian der Schochner tells us a very important clout Hulkin
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Akhar Indian below Akhar mashmosa dibor Kate said let's
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let's understand some examples by the tone Maso Schultzemer
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opischen. The guy is carrying wool or flax
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Vizio and he begins to sweat via Rachel Kasha and the guy is
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smelly. This is getting interesting.
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The gym over here, the boys gym, the Nishba O nadar Shali O of
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Samer of Pishin. That's it.
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He's can't, I can't handle this wheat and flax.
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Sorry. The the, the, the, the wool and
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flax. I will never, ever carry wool
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and flax in my life ever again. So the next day you see the guy,
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guess what he's wearing, believe it or not, he's wearing his
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wonderful clothing, his beautiful suit made out of wool
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and his shirt is made out of pitched on.
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And you're like, man, you just said yesterday, you're never
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ever going to wear wool and flax for the rest of your life.
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And here you are. You're wearing the most
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beautiful suit made out of the most, you know, the most
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wonderful wool. What are you doing over here?
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So we all understand now, of course, it didn't mean that
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Harry Zimuth your little most big ditch Sam or a pitched on
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dilly with Casos the anal ulcer Ella Sheila, but he's referring
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to was carrying the wool and the flax around how your love was
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big. It's summer they need styer
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Billy Shalsei Vinish Bonados loyala love summer who motor
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lived on the love. Similarly, the guy is walking
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down the street wearing seems to be a very nice suit in my mind,
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but you know, it's not so comfortable because the wool is
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scratching against his neck and all that.
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And it's and it's, it's the summer time and it's I'm not big
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Shemesh boiling hot. And he's like, that's it.
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I will never wear wool. Well, is it the wear?
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It says I will never carry wool again.
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In that context we understand what he meant was wearing them
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and not carrying them, and therefore it's usser to wear it
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and mutter to carry it. Mutter lead castles begins at
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semmer. Similarly, it's mutter framed
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even to wear raw wool because he's referring to clothing he's
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carving the ella, the baguette semmer, the Hein coquiote de
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bezem easy Aloha, the remote as in behold the dafka benoder Beno
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Levine ansami abo benoder the javera culture Lushin ha no
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there Kolel Hulk and Akharov umda de mukhos a one of the most
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critical ramaz, most critical critical ramaz in the entire
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show. Hanarakan of Zindar as well.
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The Ramaz says that this whole business about understanding the
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guy's Kavana it it, it's always true, but things change when
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he's talking to someone. So if you're, if you're just
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talking to yourself, that's it. I'm never wearing the wall
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again. You guys can care less what I
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wear in my in my life. So you're basically removed from
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my Ned there. We have to understand the
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context of why I was doing it. That's it.
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But to make me a Ned there to you and I and there's something
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bothering you. I'm doing something and it's
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bothering you and I know it's bothering you and, and I feel
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like, and then I make a Ned there in order to say, no, don't
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worry, I'll never do that again. I'll never.
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So then we have to take into account how did you interpret my
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words? You can't just look at what did
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I mean on my own. You have to understand how did
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the other person interpret it. This Rama is not only important
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for Nidharim, it's actually important for literally every
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halakha that involves communication, whether it's lush
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and horror, whether it's Sheke, whether it's Rahila's.
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For example, if I, if somebody comes to the door and says is
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your father home and you say he's not in the house now,
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right, because he really was in the house.
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He was actually standing on the roof at the time when they gave
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him in, he was not in the home. Well, is that considered lying?
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Is it not considered lying? I'm not saying it's both or not.
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There might be other considerations.
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But if then he tells the truth, the answer is he didn't because
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it doesn't go based on the word that you say.
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It goes based on the communication.
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You're talking to somebody and in communication, it's not about
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the words, it's about how it's understood.
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So that's what the Ramah's saying here by Nadaram.
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And I believe it's true by basically all areas of
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communication because it's Ramah is only a footnote of the air.
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So we're not going to delve into the laws of Beno Le Ben Cavere.
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But remember this, that when we're dealing with Nadaram and
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as I mentioned also globally by communication, but certainly by
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Nadaram, we and you're, you're trying to communicate something
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through your Ned there. And certainly if it involves
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Maminus. So then we have to take into
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account how those words were interpreted by the other person.
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Now the shock writes over here that the from the brings up from
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the beat that this, the differentiation of their ma is
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only true by Dora de Mamona, things that involve money.
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The the shock says he's not convinced of that.
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So if I, if my Ned there is going to involve some kind of
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money. So then for sure we have to take
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into account how you interpret it.
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But the shock himself is not convinced.
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I think he says it depends on the Indian.
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If it's clear that I'm trying to communicate something cute
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through my Ned there. So then it wouldn't it Then we
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also need to take into account how you interpret it.
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Sif base Misha hella lulla vignesha makra yayin mishmailin
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also the macro, the alpha. So the macabre brings down that
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somebody who's had little of Nisha makra yayin ishmailin.
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So they start to, I don't know exactly what the story over here
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was, but they're, they're, they're saying things about him
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because he's selling wine. And he says that's it, I will
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never make wine again. I will.
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He says I will never make wine again.
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Now, guess what? In his house, he has barrels and
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barrels and barrels of wine. The question is, is he allowed
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to sell the barrels that are already in his house?
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He will never make wine again. I've never seen him make wine.
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He kept his nether. But the wine that's in his
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house, is he allowed to sell the macabre says no, because when he
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made the nether, I won't make wine again.
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In the context of the nether, it was obvious I'm not I won't be
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involved in selling the wine. He just sort of went to the next
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extreme by saying and I won't even make any more wine.
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But the the point was in context he was talking about selling.
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He used the words making. So therefore, even if he has
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ready made wine, he can't sell it and says there are mod alpha
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Pisha commercial Yassa as lean and Buster cabin.
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Also there are mod points that points it out that the idea here
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is even though he says I won't make his Cavanaugh was sell the
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whole she can't cow also Takana quota, but there she also them
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core a few of Masha Hailam Kodam.
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Again, these are interesting cases that I don't really can't
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really relate to some of the cases of the remote, but that
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the column made some kind of Takana about selling the wine
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and the news of the takana was stated as making and it was
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clear what they meant was selling even if he had ready
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made wine. I should just want to point out
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just in general, the amount of Chuvas that appear to be shown
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in the dorm is is so vast. It's amazing because in the past
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century, I don't think we've had that many Truvas.
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If you open up an Igus Maishi and you open up, you know, all
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the, all the, all the, you know, the modern day pie skim We
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don't. I mean, how many Nadaram shilers
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do you remember have in your life?
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But apparently for the Risheinian, there were massive,
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massive amount of Truvas. And for the Risheinian, this was
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a very important thing. Alaka Maisa me Haimafsirin Bo
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Lisa Bassa Heisog emerkinum. She nanas Lilo aylam Bechena
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Mcgarrish's Ishdog Emerkinum. She nanas Lilo Aylam Harry Elu
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Mutares, Leonardos Shalot and Escobian Edwards from Eshos.
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That somebody was pressuring a man to marry a certain lady.
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that Lady was his niece. And he says not.
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I says not only, not only won't I marry her, he says the
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language no, no, from her. He understood in context he
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meant marrying her. So therefore, if she comes along
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one day and gives him something, a present or who knows what,
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he's allowed to receive that that won't be us.
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Or similarly, a guy who divorces his wife and he says I won't get
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enough from her. What he meant was I'm not going
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to marry her ever again. And therefore, if and therefore
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he is allowed to receive other types of unknown for your maps
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here because they were circle Eslo.
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You mean Bomer cutting on the basically saying Nicholas, but
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keep a sign in Shini Taian. So I'm pressuring somebody says
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come to my house today for a Shabbos meal.
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Come to my house for a Shabbos meal today.
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I have the most delicious cholent that everything my wife
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cooked up a storm. I've got 50 seats in my house.
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Please come to my house now. Please, you better come to my
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house. Come, come, come, come.
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I'm not annoying. You're like crazy.
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Leave me alone. I don't want to come to your
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house. I've got my own suitor today.
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That's it. So you make a Ned there.
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I am not even walking into your house.
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That's the language that you say.
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So what does that mean? Guess what, you're allowed to
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come to my house. It was understood in context.
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What you were doing was you're making a Ned there, not to eat
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by me, but in economic to come to my house.
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It's meech, another todalka oshar neder mahmesquila umes
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ayen la Kamondurama points out. A person makes a neder fordalka
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and because clearly he's doing it because he's sick and he ends
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up dying. That we'll have to learn later
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on. Omar Lekhadeyo hishulani paroska
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omrelei any penuya. So I think the same thing the
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the Mohabbar, right? Pursue the zoo.
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They seriously discussed that they got language from the
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Rambam, the suit, the zoo, but the in economy, other people
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don't have that Lawson. But in the Mohabbar, that's how
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it came out. Omar Lekhadeyo hishulani paroska
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amarlei any penuya enopenuya. Please lend me your cow.
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Please lend me your cow. I'm sorry.
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He's not available today. So you're so so I'm the guy I'm
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asking for your can I have your para?
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He's not available today. I know you meant by that.
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So I'm really upset. You know what?
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I don't want your anymore. I am never going to plow with
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your para ever in my life. That's my response to you.
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So lacrosse today by asthma who also lacrosse by Sapporo about
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him. We term lacrosse low, but the
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inane Direko lacrosse, the asthma E la recent Hirschen
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Lloyd Hooverhol, Adam Asurin. So the like this that I said to
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you, I won't plow with your para again.
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Now, let's just say that I was the type of guy that always had
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a recent in myself. I actually never plowed with a
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para, but I use the lotion. I will never plow with a para
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because in context I never plow with paras, but it was always my
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reason. So when I said that Lushan to
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you, I will never use your para again for plowing, I meant for
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my reason. But actually I didn't eat for
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myself because it's not normal for me to ever use it.
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And vice versa, if I was always the one who plowed with my
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field, I never hired other people.
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And I said this language to you, I won't use your para.
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It's understood in context. What I meant was I personally
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won't use it, but other people could sip Vog haskama Siva
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labato asar mik salsa Ayn Oskamov, a tailor of Nate
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Sivuyev. This was from the Rivash.
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I wasn't sure what this case meant so let's just skip over
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it. If somebody does know, I would
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be grateful if you told me and the Rama says Kyle Shahrimu al
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echoed very good Oskamos receiva Lovato hazar me sauce and has
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come with tailor of Nate Sivuyev.
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I got it. OK, fine.
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Meaning they they made A1 zera and included many things and the
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sire was Movato, one of the 10 things.
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So we don't say the whole thing falls away.
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I don't know why this Mahabir is here because it's not about
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we're going to learn about. Yeah, but this is in the context
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of Nader Shabbatomiksasa, you know, and that's a suji on its
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own. I don't know why it's over here.
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OK The Ramos says Khalsa female ethics leader in mahem.
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They made a harem united Libertas the heart of Roy's
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relationship. Shambo Hanout.
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They want to come. He says, OK, I'm not going to
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live here. But now he wants to establish
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his Mccullet in this in the city.
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Then Dunham Kavya Indian Shino drew a lobby in Loco dearest
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Keva Emishto Bondo Khanushari in Lava Cole also there Amma says
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that we have to go into the cabana.
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If the cabana was we don't want you living here.
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There's something about the guys.
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I don't know what it is what they have about this guy, but
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it's something about him living there.
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So then, yeah. So then he's allowed to have a
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store. But if it's understood that the
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guy is like a big Russian rusha and he's and he has all kinds of
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tar boot rather he's bringing with him and that's the issues.
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And then presumably they don't want him even having a store.
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Thank you very much. Wonderful day.
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Yeah.