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Author Teriece Cherell "Being Thankful" · Kickin’ It With KeKe: Life, Love, & MINDSET

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  Speaker 2: Hello, Hello, Hello, and welcome back to another episode of
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  Speaker 2: I am your host, Kiki Chanel, Award winning author, lifestyle blogger,
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  Speaker 3: So, Hey girl, Hey, hey girl, Hey, how are you doing.
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  Speaker 4: Oh, thank you so much. Key, I'm doing good.
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  Speaker 4: It's been a while, so it was definitely time that
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  Speaker 3: Yes, So tell her people who you are and what
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  Speaker 4: I am author Terry Charrell. I'm an author, speaker, and
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  Speaker 4: certified life and relationship coach. I am the author of
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  Speaker 4: Live Learned Love with an Open Hearts, life lessons on
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  Speaker 4: cultivating healthy and meaningful relationships. I am also a mother,
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  Speaker 4: an educator, a youth pastor, and and ordained elder at
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  Speaker 4: the City of Love Church in the Ornans.
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  Speaker 3: I love it. I love it. I love the resume,
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  Speaker 3: and every time we meet it gets longer and longer.
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  Speaker 2: So I love it so today because we are in
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  Speaker 2: the month of November and it's all about the house
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  Speaker 2: days season, Thanksgiving is coming up and all the things.
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  Speaker 2: This is my favorite time of the year because it
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  Speaker 2: moves into my birthday, which is New Year's Day.
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  Speaker 3: From November to January, I am in awe. I am
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  Speaker 3: in the moment and living. I just come alive and
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  Speaker 3: very festive. So we're talking about being thankful today. That's
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  Speaker 3: our topic for discussion.
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  Speaker 2: So when you hear the term being thankful, what does
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  Speaker 2: that mean to you personally? And how has your understanding
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  Speaker 2: of gratitude evolved over time.
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  Speaker 4: When I hear the word being thankful, the first thing
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  Speaker 4: that comes to mind is Thanksgiving, of course, but I
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  Speaker 4: just think about life. Things are happening so quickly. You know,
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  Speaker 4: life is life, and you know with everything going on
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  Speaker 4: in the world. And it's funny you asked that question
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  Speaker 4: as I was driving and coming home and I pulled up.
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  Speaker 4: I'm a new homeowner. I purchased my first home in
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  Speaker 4: June of this year. So I'm going to add that
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  Speaker 4: thank you. I'm going to add that to my list
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  Speaker 4: of things that I'm thankful for and grateful for, just life,
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  Speaker 4: just having my five senses. It's been cold or cold
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  Speaker 4: a few days, you know. Just grateful for food, shelter, clothing,
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  Speaker 4: the basic necessities, and even beyond that, grateful for family
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  Speaker 4: and friends. Grateful for a job, right, a career. Grateful
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  Speaker 4: for pretty much everything, even the lessons and blessings of life,
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  Speaker 4: even the things that you know aren't really going so great.
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  Speaker 4: Just grateful that I'm here to experience them, to learn
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  Speaker 4: from them, to use those lessons to not only help
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  Speaker 4: myself get better, but to help others as well. I
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  Speaker 4: think my understanding and appreciation has changed more recently in
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  Speaker 4: light of me purchasing a home. And I'm saying that
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  Speaker 4: to say, how celebrated had my house warming, and when
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  Speaker 4: they came to celebrate me, how happy? But I was overwhelmed.
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  Speaker 4: But it was a good over like even people who
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  Speaker 4: couldn't make it, and Kiki, I'm talking about like weeks later,
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  Speaker 4: packages still being delivered the day of the party, the
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  Speaker 4: next week, just people really happy, wanted to celebrate and share.
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  Speaker 4: And it was a good overwhelmed, but it actually brought
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  Speaker 4: tears in my eyes, like you know, all right, I know,
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  Speaker 4: I'm love you know, they love your girl, Hollywood and
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  Speaker 4: all that good stuff, but really like wow, and it
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  Speaker 4: was just like, you have so much to be grateful for,
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  Speaker 4: even when you you know, you think you run out
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  Speaker 4: of things. This count of blessings named them one by one.
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  Speaker 4: There's always something to add to the list. Right when
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  Speaker 4: you think about, you know, what's going on in the world,
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  Speaker 4: right when you think about people, when you just think
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  Speaker 4: about how fast things change and life change, is just
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  Speaker 4: being grateful that I'm still here to even have this
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  Speaker 4: conversation with you. So I think that also comes with
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  Speaker 4: age as well. I think when you get to another
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  Speaker 4: you know, a new phase, a new chapter, maybe even
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  Speaker 4: another age in life, you start to see things differently,
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  Speaker 4: and you start to appreciate things and people more than
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  Speaker 4: you probably did before because you experience more, Right, You've
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  Speaker 4: learned more, you've lost more, you've gained more and things
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  Speaker 4: are different, and I think that gratitude changes. It kicks
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  Speaker 4: in a little deeper as well.
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  Speaker 2: Absolutely, And it's like you said, it's always something to
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  Speaker 2: be thankful for because not everybody the list that you name,
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  Speaker 2: not everybody has that because one minute is here, one
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  Speaker 2: minute it can be taken away, Like we know the
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  Speaker 2: climate of this country that we're living in, and it's
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  Speaker 2: just we have to stay prayed and prayed up and
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  Speaker 2: we have to have that attitude of gratitude and show
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  Speaker 2: our things for the things that God has blessed us
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  Speaker 2: with because not everybody has that at the moment. So
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  Speaker 2: my heart goes out to those people and it just
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  Speaker 2: makes me look at life with a different leans now.
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  Speaker 3: The things that I used to take for granted.
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  Speaker 2: I thank God all day, all throughout the day, because
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  Speaker 2: you know, it was a little nippi this morning, but
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  Speaker 2: I thank God that I ain't have to go outside.
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  Speaker 3: I'm off to day and then I get to work
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  Speaker 3: from home. So I'm grateful and thankful that I can
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  Speaker 3: walk from my bedroom to my office and go to
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  Speaker 3: work and not have to worry about burning up gas
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  Speaker 3: or putting on a jacket or whatever.
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  Speaker 2: So it's just a little things. But they seem so small,
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  Speaker 2: but they're really not that small.
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  Speaker 3: They're the big. They're big in my eyes.
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  Speaker 4: Right, Or they can be like you said, they can
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  Speaker 4: be small to us, are small to the people that
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  Speaker 4: take it for granted. I don't think people really take
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  Speaker 4: things for granted intentionally purposely. I just think it's that
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  Speaker 4: they're used to, you know, having things excuse me, whether
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  Speaker 4: it's you know, out of entitlement, or they you know,
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  Speaker 4: just never had those days right where they didn't know
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  Speaker 4: what they were going to eat, right, what they were
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  Speaker 4: going to wear, if they had a jacket, you know,
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  Speaker 4: warm enough. So I think I don't think it's you know,
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  Speaker 4: they choose not to be But I think when you
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  Speaker 4: have those times in days when you can personally relate,
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  Speaker 4: you know, it makes you see things differently. Like you said,
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  Speaker 4: so having those moments, yeah, I look, I had to
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  Speaker 4: get up and go to work and being a cold,
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  Speaker 4: but I'm worried. If I had a job, right, I'm
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  Speaker 4: grief and I had a vehicle to get me to work,
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  Speaker 4: I didn't have to uber, I didn't have to catch
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  Speaker 4: the bus, right, So even though I may not have
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  Speaker 4: had that, like you said, it's kind of little things.
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  Speaker 4: I was worried for. I had a job to go to, right,
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  Speaker 4: I was grateful that, you know, I was able to
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  Speaker 4: get there in my own transportation, and I was able to,
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  Speaker 4: you know, to do my job and make it back
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  Speaker 4: home safe. And so I think people at times, we'll
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  Speaker 4: see it differently. But there is something about this season,
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  Speaker 4: know what you shared. I think people who may not
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  Speaker 4: be as thankful or grateful, I think they can't help
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  Speaker 4: but too, especially at this time and light of what's
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  Speaker 4: going on. You know, seasons do things to people, right,
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  Speaker 4: and when you see, you know, the fall fastivities, when
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  Speaker 4: you think about what we're in, when you think about
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  Speaker 4: the less fortunate, you know, when you just think about
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  Speaker 4: family and friends and all of those things. I think
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  Speaker 4: even if the people who weren't as grateful or didn't
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  Speaker 4: think they had as much to be grateful for, I
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  Speaker 4: think they'll they'll change and really begin to appreciate and
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  Speaker 4: show that gratitude.
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  Speaker 3: Absolutely. Absolutely.
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  Speaker 2: Can you share a personal experience that significantly impact that
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  Speaker 2: your perspective on gratitude are being thankful?
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  Speaker 4: Oh, it's so many What that's a good question. A
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  Speaker 4: personal experience? I would say, I guess I can kind
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  Speaker 4: of use similar to my I guess my house woman
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  Speaker 4: since that was recent. Like, I appreciate everything thing that
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  Speaker 4: people do because I realize and understand that no one
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  Speaker 4: owes me anything. People don't have to do things, so
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  Speaker 4: you right, they do it because they want to, because
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  Speaker 4: they're able to. So I think for me it's different
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  Speaker 4: because I realize that every time someone does something for me,
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  Speaker 4: no matter how big or small, I'm grateful And it
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  Speaker 4: kind of overwhelms me because I do realize and acknowledge
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  Speaker 4: that they didn't have to do that, and for whatever
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  Speaker 4: wanted to, decided to bless no matter you know what
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  Speaker 4: it is, how little it may seem to them, then
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  Speaker 4: I'm just grateful for it. It just feels my heart like, wow,
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  Speaker 4: you thought that much of me, you know, regardless of
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  Speaker 4: what you had going on, you thought enough for me
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  Speaker 4: to do that you know, particular thing to send that to.
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  Speaker 4: And it's not always it doesn't always have to be financial, right, No,
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  Speaker 4: it's not always about money. You know you thought about me,
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  Speaker 4: you prayed, right, I was on your mind, you picked
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  Speaker 4: up the telephone and you call when you text it,
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  Speaker 4: So it's not always about old. It was a financial
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  Speaker 4: thing that you have to bless somebody, because we know
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  Speaker 4: there's more, you know, many more ways to bless somebody
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  Speaker 4: to be a blessing, but just being able to do
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  Speaker 4: that something you know that blessed to be a blessing.
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  Speaker 4: You know, you read what you say, and I kind
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  Speaker 4: of learned that, especially in season it's I was, you know,
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  Speaker 4: experiencing gratitude and people were blessing me that it just
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  Speaker 4: felt so good, you know, it just felt so good
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  Speaker 4: even in my moments of upwhem and just appreciating people
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  Speaker 4: more get me.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, and it gives you a different perspective
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  Speaker 3: on life when you have those moments where people are
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  Speaker 3: porn into you and.
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  Speaker 2: You didn't ask for it, or you didn't have to
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  Speaker 2: ask for it. They're just doing it because they love
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  Speaker 2: you enough to consider you. Yeah, it's nothing like being
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  Speaker 2: considered by the people that say that they love you
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  Speaker 2: and care about you.
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  Speaker 3: That's like one of my love languages, being considered. But
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  Speaker 3: just just consider me.
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  Speaker 4: And look. But I think he the other part of
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  Speaker 4: that to me was all right, so we're gonna keep
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  Speaker 4: it really kicking it. Some people we kind of expect
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  Speaker 4: things from right although we say don't expect we're gonna
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  Speaker 4: keep it real. We do expect some things from certain people.
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  Speaker 4: But the thing that got me was some of these,
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  Speaker 4: some of these I didn't expect anything from right, I
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  Speaker 4: didn't expect So I guess that made me more grateful.
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  Speaker 4: Like even though they couldn't make the house party right,
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  Speaker 4: the housewoman excuse me because you know, they had another engagement.
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  Speaker 4: They may not have even been invited to the house warmer.
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  Speaker 4: You know, they heard about it. They couldn't make it.
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  Speaker 4: Look I couldn't invite everybody right yet. But you know,
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  Speaker 4: but even the ones who didn't weren't they heard about it.
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  Speaker 4: They were happy, they were excited. They wanted to say,
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  Speaker 4: celebrate me and with me, even if it was after
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  Speaker 4: the moment. So I think that was the part that
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  Speaker 4: really got me, you know, after the fact. And like
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  Speaker 4: I said, some people, yeah, I kind of expected, but
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  Speaker 4: these were like I wouldn't have thought they would have
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  Speaker 4: considered me right, and just made me the more grateful.
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  Speaker 4: You know, that just made me like, wow, you know,
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  Speaker 4: it just made me wild. I'm just I'm looking because
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  Speaker 4: I see the cards. I still have them up in
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  Speaker 4: my room. Just really overwhelmed and just grateful for this,
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  Speaker 4: for this opportunity. So I'm gonna give you a left background.
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  Speaker 4: So I celebrated my fortieth birthday this year in September.
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  Speaker 4: I've been trying to thank you. I've been trying to
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  Speaker 4: have this party for a few years, but you know,
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  Speaker 4: I mean hurricane season and there's always something going on
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  Speaker 4: around my money. So when I started my prior, I said, God,
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  Speaker 4: I'll be in my house and I'm going to have
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  Speaker 4: this party for my forty a birth thing. And he
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  Speaker 4: did it. He did it, So that's that's my you know,
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  Speaker 4: I could have said that and nothing happened. I did
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  Speaker 4: my work, he did his work, but I trusted him.
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  Speaker 4: I put it in an atmosphere. You know, he made
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  Speaker 4: it happen. I put some things in place. You know,
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  Speaker 4: faith with our works is dead and I have to
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  Speaker 4: do my part two right. And I think that's that's
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  Speaker 4: why it just made me so grateful. Like I said, that,
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  Speaker 4: he allowed it to happen. He made it possible, and
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  Speaker 4: this is this is just the fruit of my labor,
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  Speaker 4: so that it makes me all grateful more that.
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  Speaker 2: Just I mean, I love I love hearing you say that.
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  Speaker 2: So many people take the take that for granted, they
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  Speaker 2: think that they get it on their own. And you
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  Speaker 2: already know.
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  Speaker 3: I'm a woman of faith, and I talk about God throughout.
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  Speaker 2: This podcast and everywhere I go hearing you say He
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  Speaker 2: made it happen. But I had to do my part
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  Speaker 2: because people always want God. They want to help God out,
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  Speaker 2: and they want to do it in their time. They
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  Speaker 2: always want God to move right then and there. But
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  Speaker 2: and what are you doing?
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  Speaker 4: Right?
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  Speaker 3: He making five steps? But are you even taking two?
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  Speaker 4: Right?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah? Yeah? So with that being said, are there any
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  Speaker 3: specific things that you do on a daily basis for
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  Speaker 3: your personal and professional life that makes you.
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  Speaker 2: Adapt that attitude of gratitude even more in your life?
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  Speaker 4: So I do wake up different devotionals for different things.
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  Speaker 4: I do my prayerditation. Now I've been a little coll
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  Speaker 4: and chili, so I had gone out in my backyard.
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  Speaker 4: But I'm up. I'm using this devotional, you know, I'm praying.
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  Speaker 4: I'm just thanking God first of all of opening my
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  Speaker 4: eyes to see another day. All right, that's the big Right.
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  Speaker 4: Some people go to sleep, don't wake up, you know,
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  Speaker 4: go to sleep, wake up in a different, different mindset,
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  Speaker 4: in a different state. So the very first thing I
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  Speaker 4: do when I open my eyes is thank him for
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  Speaker 4: allowing me to open my eyes and see that day.
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  Speaker 4: And then I thank him for that day and the blessings.
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  Speaker 4: I don't know what's going to transpire and the day,
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  Speaker 4: but because he's given me optunity to see it, I
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  Speaker 4: give it back to him. Whatever's going to happen in
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  Speaker 4: his day, I'm giving it to you. I haven't, you know,
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  Speaker 4: gotten out the bed. I haven't gotten dressed and made
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  Speaker 4: it to work yet, so I don't know. Because he
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  Speaker 4: goes before us, right, although he's with us, he also
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  Speaker 4: goes before us. I don't know what's going to happen
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  Speaker 4: when I get or when I get in I called
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  Speaker 4: a drive, but he knows. I give the day back
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  Speaker 4: to him. And when I get to work. I also
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  Speaker 4: have some devotionals. I have my teacher word, you know,
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  Speaker 4: wisdom sometimes found the way of the teacher, different things.
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  Speaker 4: Because I'm an ed cater, so I need to stay
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  Speaker 4: preyed up, you know that key one, not just covering myself,
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  Speaker 4: but covering my students and their families as well. I
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  Speaker 4: don't know what they're coming to school with. I don't
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  Speaker 4: know what they're dealing with, right, But I want to
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  Speaker 4: make sure I'm in the right mindset and in alignment
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  Speaker 4: to be able to deal with what they're bringing to me. Right,
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  Speaker 4: you know, different different you know, personalities, different children. I
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  Speaker 4: just want to make sure I'm ready to receive that,
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  Speaker 4: which is why I give him the day in the morning.
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  Speaker 4: First of all, I do need to be more consistent.
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  Speaker 4: I used to do my motivational messages and moments live
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  Speaker 4: on Facebook and Instagram. I do need to be more
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  Speaker 4: consistent in that, either before I get to work or
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  Speaker 4: I used to do it when I was at work
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  Speaker 4: after my duty. But I definitely do want at least
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  Speaker 4: do it in the morning, finding a good time. I
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  Speaker 4: want to be consistent with it though right doing it
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  Speaker 4: is one thing, but being consistent because then I have
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  Speaker 4: people you know, that will jump on like, hey, I
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  Speaker 4: haven't seen you on Facebook in a while, I haven't
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  Speaker 4: seen you. And once you start building that, people look
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  Speaker 4: for you and you know that like I miss your
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  Speaker 4: message and I always this is another part of gratitude.
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  Speaker 4: I'm always so thankful and grateful because sometimes we do
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  Speaker 4: things and you can attest you're not a relationship, it's
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  Speaker 4: sticking if it's reaching, But there's always someone, whether it's
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  Speaker 4: just you and you're talking to nobody, they'll see it,
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  Speaker 4: whether they see it live in that moment or they
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  Speaker 4: see it later. And I've actually had people like I
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  Speaker 4: just happened to jump on or I came on and
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  Speaker 4: that's what I needed to hear today. You bless my day.
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  Speaker 4: And when I don't do that, I feel like I'm
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  Speaker 4: the reason or I'm part of the reason that people
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  Speaker 4: may not be getting what they need. And I'm like, well,
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  Speaker 4: while you know, whatever you're doing, and it is really
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  Speaker 4: feel convicted and convict myself when I think about our people,
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  Speaker 4: I'll try right, the people that we are, you know
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  Speaker 4: what I'm looking for you the people, our people, right,
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  Speaker 4: the people that we are supposed to you know, they're
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  Speaker 4: supposed to be on the right. So I'm like, while
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  Speaker 4: I'm over here doing this, this person that needs what
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  Speaker 4: I can give them, they can get it from you,
• 17:59
  Speaker 4: but maybe they it from me, right from me high
• 18:03
  Speaker 4: way in this way, but I'm not there to give
• 18:07
  Speaker 4: it something. And I'm like, I don't want to be
• 18:08
  Speaker 4: responsible for you know what, not that I will be,
• 18:12
  Speaker 4: but you I'm like that assignment. And because I'm feeling
• 18:16
  Speaker 4: in my completing assignment. Then there's people that are sciences
• 18:21
  Speaker 4: that aren't getting with their need in that moment. So
• 18:24
  Speaker 4: I think about all of that is the relate to gratitude,
• 18:26
  Speaker 4: even though I mean, I know these people that come on,
• 18:30
  Speaker 4: but I know that if there's a message that the
• 18:32
  Speaker 4: God has given me, whether it's through my devotional or
• 18:35
  Speaker 4: it's something that's on my home that day, to make
• 18:37
  Speaker 4: sure that they receive it.
• 18:38
  Speaker 3: Absolutely, I love that. And so we're going to talk
• 18:41
  Speaker 3: about these books. We're going to talk about the books
• 18:42
  Speaker 3: before we get into more questions like tell the people
• 18:46
  Speaker 3: about the books, the titles, how they can get them.
• 18:49
  Speaker 4: This is my book, Live Learn Love with Open Heart,
• 18:52
  Speaker 4: Life less and on cultivating healthy and meaningful relation. You
• 18:55
  Speaker 4: can get an Amazon, Barnes and Nobles, Walmart dot Com,
• 18:59
  Speaker 4: other website just search Live Learn Love Within Open Hearts
• 19:03
  Speaker 4: author Terry Sharell. This is the first one. I'm currently
• 19:07
  Speaker 4: working on my devotional which will be coming out soon,
• 19:10
  Speaker 4: and I have a few other surprises. I'm working on
• 19:13
  Speaker 4: a few other projects, so definitely stay tuned. You can
• 19:16
  Speaker 4: follow me on social media. I am Terry Sharell. I
• 19:20
  Speaker 4: also have a Transforming Consciously with author Terry sharell YouTube
• 19:24
  Speaker 4: page that I'm currently working on Facebook is Terry Sharell.
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  Speaker 3: All right, thank you for plugging that. Y'all go get
• 19:32
  Speaker 3: the copy.
• 19:33
  Speaker 2: I would put all of her information in the description
• 19:36
  Speaker 2: so that you can follow, support, like share, and connect
• 19:41
  Speaker 2: because we all need to be.
• 19:44
  Speaker 3: In community with new people.
• 19:47
  Speaker 2: I just don't understand that no new friends' mentality like
• 19:50
  Speaker 2: you might miss out on opportunities by not being open
• 19:56
  Speaker 2: to letting somebody else into your space.
• 19:59
  Speaker 4: That's true.
• 20:00
  Speaker 3: Yeah, that is true. Y'all go connect with her. All
• 20:03
  Speaker 3: her information would be listed.
• 20:05
  Speaker 2: Thank you for telling us about the book, and we
• 20:08
  Speaker 2: wish you nothing but success for the new projects. We
• 20:11
  Speaker 2: cannot wait for them and you'll be back to tell
• 20:13
  Speaker 2: us about them. On takeing with Kiki, I hope. So
• 20:16
  Speaker 2: we're talking about thankfulness and we well, we've talked about
• 20:20
  Speaker 2: a lot in this short time that we've been with
• 20:22
  Speaker 2: each other, but let's talk about thankfulness and relationships and
• 20:26
  Speaker 2: what ways do you express gratitude in your relationships and
• 20:30
  Speaker 2: how has it affected those connections?
• 20:34
  Speaker 4: Oh wow, that is a great question, Key, and I
• 20:37
  Speaker 4: love it being that my book is about relationships. Right.
• 20:40
  Speaker 4: One way that I express the gratitude and is true
• 20:43
  Speaker 4: simply saying thank you. I mean, you will be surprised
• 20:47
  Speaker 4: how those words can really make a situation. It really
• 20:52
  Speaker 4: is the little things of simple things and saying thank you,
• 20:56
  Speaker 4: like I said, every time, just thank you, just acknowledge
• 21:00
  Speaker 4: that person thought about you enough to do whatever it
• 21:02
  Speaker 4: is that they did do, and just thanking them thank
• 21:07
  Speaker 4: you as you could never say thank you enough. Another
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  Speaker 4: way that I would say I express gratitude is behind
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  Speaker 4: knowing my partner's love language or just any relationship period.
• 21:16
  Speaker 4: Right of course, think about our partners, but that's knowing anybody,
• 21:22
  Speaker 4: any family member, friends love language and being able to
• 21:26
  Speaker 4: communicate with them in that language. Right, knowing it means
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  Speaker 4: that you know them, that you took the time learn
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  Speaker 4: something about them, to learn what it is that they need,
• 21:34
  Speaker 4: how they want to unreceive love right, whether it's time,
• 21:38
  Speaker 4: whether it's through gifts, whether it's through acts of service us.
• 21:44
  Speaker 4: Making sure that you take the time to learn that
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  Speaker 4: about whoever you're in a relationship with, family, friends, partners,
• 21:53
  Speaker 4: and showing them that you care and that you are
• 21:56
  Speaker 4: grateful by making sure that you utilize that love language.
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  Speaker 2: Absolutely, I agree, I totally agree. And it's like you said,
• 22:04
  Speaker 2: it's all across the board. It's just not like being
• 22:06
  Speaker 2: in a romantic relationship. That's any relationship that you deem
• 22:10
  Speaker 2: important to you. It's important to say thank you whenever
• 22:14
  Speaker 2: something is done, to just show your appreciation and your
• 22:17
  Speaker 2: your gratitude and your thankfulness.
• 22:19
  Speaker 3: Story time and putting you in a hot seat, Can
• 22:22
  Speaker 3: you share a story about the time when expressing gratitude
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  Speaker 3: transform the relationship or a situation you were in.
• 22:30
  Speaker 4: Oo expressing gratitude transformed.
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  Speaker 3: And I'll give you an example.
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  Speaker 2: You are an educator, so you deal with different personalities
• 22:42
  Speaker 2: and students and stuff all the time.
• 22:44
  Speaker 3: Say, for instance, you had a student.
• 22:46
  Speaker 2: That had a bad day and they were disruptive or
• 22:48
  Speaker 2: causing ruckus in your class. You knew that it was
• 22:52
  Speaker 2: not about you. It may have been something personal going on.
• 22:55
  Speaker 2: How would you or did you cultivate that situation so
• 23:00
  Speaker 2: that it can become a positive thing and not turn
• 23:03
  Speaker 2: into something negative.
• 23:06
  Speaker 4: Well, I can, I can talk about that all the time.
• 23:08
  Speaker 4: One of the first thing that I would do, like
• 23:10
  Speaker 4: you said, is not take it personal because I don't know,
• 23:13
  Speaker 4: you know, what they're dealing with at home. If we
• 23:15
  Speaker 4: haven't developed that relationship. I try to develop a relationship
• 23:19
  Speaker 4: with students, but you do have to be mindful of
• 23:23
  Speaker 4: making sure that line is still there, but making sure
• 23:27
  Speaker 4: you know, it's a healthy relationship because we are here.
• 23:30
  Speaker 4: We do want them to feel sleeep, to feel value,
• 23:33
  Speaker 4: to feel seen, and feel hurt, and they do need
• 23:35
  Speaker 4: to have adult that they, you know, can connect with
• 23:37
  Speaker 4: and share. So I actually do have you know, some
• 23:39
  Speaker 4: students that you know, if I notice something, you know,
• 23:42
  Speaker 4: do you need a moment? The first thing I asked,
• 23:44
  Speaker 4: you know, how are you? Are you okay? Do you
• 23:46
  Speaker 4: need a moment? And then from there I can kind
• 23:49
  Speaker 4: of you know, they may need a moment, Go take
• 23:51
  Speaker 4: a walk to the bathroom, right step outside for a moment,
• 23:55
  Speaker 4: get you some water, and you know, when you come back,
• 23:57
  Speaker 4: you know, let's talk about it, or you know, write
• 24:01
  Speaker 4: it down for me, you know, at the moment. So
• 24:03
  Speaker 4: I can kind of know, but making sure that they
• 24:05
  Speaker 4: know that that's a safe space that they can, you know,
• 24:09
  Speaker 4: can get what it is that they need, and it's
• 24:11
  Speaker 4: something I may not be able to provide. I can
• 24:14
  Speaker 4: definitely point them in the right direction and share it
• 24:17
  Speaker 4: with them. I actually had a student recently, probably yesterday.
• 24:22
  Speaker 4: I'm sitting at my door at my threshold, always greeting
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  Speaker 4: them in the morning, good morning, grab your breakfast on
• 24:28
  Speaker 4: the way to advisory, encouraging the read because it's one
• 24:32
  Speaker 4: of our booths to reading and to have their book,
• 24:36
  Speaker 4: and just kind of you know, welcoming them as the
• 24:38
  Speaker 4: day begin, right, this is kind of withsouts when they
• 24:42
  Speaker 4: get off the buses through that process, then they hear
• 24:45
  Speaker 4: my voice as they coming down the hallway and kind
• 24:48
  Speaker 4: of you know, setting a tone and if they kind
• 24:50
  Speaker 4: of come to me, you can tell who's good morning
• 24:52
  Speaker 4: and come in and then who's kind of you know,
• 24:55
  Speaker 4: not really themselves usually and then if I encounter that,
• 24:58
  Speaker 4: I just kind of come to the sid you know, Okay,
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  Speaker 4: what's going on? Is it something you want to talk about?
• 25:04
  Speaker 4: Everybody may not want you know, about it in that homent,
• 25:07
  Speaker 4: but but just giving them that space, right, you want
• 25:11
  Speaker 4: to talk, I'm here, you don't want to talk, I'm here,
• 25:14
  Speaker 4: But just allowing them to have that space and on
• 25:17
  Speaker 4: that is safe for them to you know, to feel
• 25:20
  Speaker 4: how they need to feel in that moment, right to
• 25:22
  Speaker 4: process it. All right, We're gonna be okay, and then
• 25:26
  Speaker 4: you know, and then we'll move on. Because there's still
• 25:28
  Speaker 4: a job, you know that I need to do, and
• 25:29
  Speaker 4: there's still something that you need to get. But acknowledging
• 25:33
  Speaker 4: that we're all human, right, we all have needs, we
• 25:36
  Speaker 4: all have our days. And a student actually something happened
• 25:40
  Speaker 4: today and I clicked the wrong thing and he said,
• 25:44
  Speaker 4: but you're a teacher, I said, but I'm also a person.
• 25:46
  Speaker 4: I'm also human. I make mistakes as well. So let's
• 25:52
  Speaker 4: give each other little grace. You know, sometimes this God
• 25:56
  Speaker 4: gives us grace, let's extend it to others. Like you're right,
• 26:03
  Speaker 4: I'll get it and you will too. We'll have a moment,
• 26:07
  Speaker 4: you know, And that's you know, like I said, were
• 26:09
  Speaker 4: helmet and not that it's an excuse of course, you know,
• 26:13
  Speaker 4: well held to a different standard of course, as we should.
• 26:18
  Speaker 4: But we're people too, we have feelings as well. And
• 26:21
  Speaker 4: I've had a moment I had so you know, another teacher,
• 26:25
  Speaker 4: I just need to step out for a moment. So
• 26:27
  Speaker 4: just acknowledging that, I think it's the biggest thing, acknowledging
• 26:31
  Speaker 4: it right and knowing how to manage it where it
• 26:34
  Speaker 4: doesn't really affect others as the right I needed to
• 26:38
  Speaker 4: step out for a moment in our lot of students,
• 26:40
  Speaker 4: you know the same. You need a moment, like I said,
• 26:43
  Speaker 4: go to the restaurant, grab some water, step out for
• 26:46
  Speaker 4: a minute, breathe all right, come back, We ready, we
• 26:48
  Speaker 4: can deal with it.
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  Speaker 1: You good?
• 26:50
  Speaker 4: All right?
• 26:51
  Speaker 3: Yeah? I mean.
• 26:53
  Speaker 4: Being able to acknowledge it.
• 26:55
  Speaker 2: Ye, And that right, that would make that makes a
• 26:58
  Speaker 2: big difference as an educator because we don't You don't
• 27:00
  Speaker 2: know what those kids had to encounter at home, what
• 27:04
  Speaker 2: they had to encounter on their however they got to
• 27:07
  Speaker 2: school and then peer pressure, friends, everything just a lot
• 27:12
  Speaker 2: because we deal with it as adults. So just imagine
• 27:15
  Speaker 2: the kids dealing with it.
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  Speaker 3: So my heart goes out to the educators for real.
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  Speaker 3: My sister is an educator.
• 27:21
  Speaker 2: And who I commend you guys, Yes, y'all need raises
• 27:26
  Speaker 2: all across the board for real.
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  Speaker 3: Thank you? How did you?
• 27:29
  Speaker 2: How do you encourage those around you, such as family
• 27:33
  Speaker 2: and friends or family and colleagues to embrace and practice
• 27:37
  Speaker 2: at gratitude.
• 27:41
  Speaker 4: I encouraged them by just trying to be an example
• 27:45
  Speaker 4: model of just looking around, right, just just just look around.
• 27:50
  Speaker 4: It's simple that some people get what did I just say?
• 27:55
  Speaker 3: Keep? When?
• 27:56
  Speaker 4: Was my director?
• 27:57
  Speaker 3: So what look around?
• 28:01
  Speaker 4: We couldn't look around if we didn't have boyd as, right,
• 28:05
  Speaker 4: So the fact that you can look around, that's something
• 28:09
  Speaker 4: to be grateful for. Some people can't.
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  Speaker 3: Right.
• 28:12
  Speaker 4: So in that moment, like you said, it doesn't have
• 28:16
  Speaker 4: to be these big things were grateful for. And I
• 28:20
  Speaker 4: was telling, it's so funny that it's so relative and relevant. Sunday,
• 28:26
  Speaker 4: I'm the U pass, I'm over the eye lucky at
• 28:29
  Speaker 4: church and it was my Sunday in the back with
• 28:31
  Speaker 4: the kids, and we're talking about thankfulness of course in
• 28:33
  Speaker 4: this season. And as I was sharing with you know,
• 28:36
  Speaker 4: with my kids, I was like, we were writing the
• 28:40
  Speaker 4: things to be thankful for at church on Sunday, right,
• 28:44
  Speaker 4: excuse me. When I was getting the kids, so you know,
• 28:46
  Speaker 4: sheriff on the list and I had another lengthy list, right,
• 28:51
  Speaker 4: and I said five senses. And what I really wanted
• 28:55
  Speaker 4: them to understand is I can see, I can taste,
• 28:59
  Speaker 4: I can touch, I can hear, I can smell. That's
• 29:03
  Speaker 4: a lie. Everybody can't do those things, right. I can walk,
• 29:08
  Speaker 4: I can talk. So things that we take for granted,
• 29:12
  Speaker 4: like we said, and just encouraging people look around, stop, pass,
• 29:16
  Speaker 4: have a moment, breathe. Some people can't do that. So
• 29:20
  Speaker 4: just in that moment, if you don't think about, oh,
• 29:24
  Speaker 4: you're not having a bestiday. Right, your car broke, right,
• 29:28
  Speaker 4: you had a flat tire, something happened at the house
• 29:31
  Speaker 4: that broke you gotta get fixed, all right, You don't
• 29:34
  Speaker 4: your money not stretching to the end of the month.
• 29:37
  Speaker 4: All those things that we think about that happen. But
• 29:41
  Speaker 4: all it takes for me is to stop in that
• 29:44
  Speaker 4: moment and realize the things that I do have, right,
• 29:49
  Speaker 4: the things that I can't control because some things outside
• 29:51
  Speaker 4: of my control, right, but the things that I can't control,
• 29:55
  Speaker 4: the things that are tangible to me in this moment,
• 29:58
  Speaker 4: I can get up and walk, some people can't, and
• 30:03
  Speaker 4: just thinking, you know, for me it really is that simple. Right,
• 30:07
  Speaker 4: I have my hands, I can pick up something, right,
• 30:10
  Speaker 4: I can taste, I can smell. And when I think
• 30:15
  Speaker 4: about things like that and encouraging others, like they say,
• 30:18
  Speaker 4: countra blessings, just think one thing. There's always something. If
• 30:23
  Speaker 4: you just find one thing, that one thing, I guarantee
• 30:27
  Speaker 4: you is going to have you adding more and more
• 30:31
  Speaker 4: and more and find them more because once you find
• 30:33
  Speaker 4: that one, it's just gonna make you think of things
• 30:35
  Speaker 4: you didn't even think about before, and your list is
• 30:37
  Speaker 4: gonna grow, right if.
• 30:40
  Speaker 3: You just made me think about something, you just made
• 30:42
  Speaker 3: me really think about something, because you're talking about the
• 30:44
  Speaker 3: smell and the taste like this.
• 30:47
  Speaker 2: Allergies has been kicking my butt lately. And the other
• 30:51
  Speaker 2: day it was funny, but it wasn't. I can I
• 30:54
  Speaker 2: can breathe out of one side of my nose and
• 30:56
  Speaker 2: the other side was stopped up.
• 30:57
  Speaker 3: One side was running, the other side was stopped up.
• 31:00
  Speaker 2: That drove me crazy for a while. But just imagine
• 31:03
  Speaker 2: if I couldn't smell it all. So that right there,
• 31:08
  Speaker 2: it's like, you know, you have some people that you
• 31:10
  Speaker 2: know had COVID or have other type of diseases or
• 31:13
  Speaker 2: illnesses that takes certain certain senses from them. Like my
• 31:17
  Speaker 2: dad had a stroke a couple of years ago, and
• 31:19
  Speaker 2: he is paralyzed on his right side.
• 31:20
  Speaker 3: So to see this big strong man go from now
• 31:25
  Speaker 3: he hasn't rely on a wheelchair to get around. I
• 31:28
  Speaker 3: am more thankful because he's still here with us, and
• 31:33
  Speaker 3: it could have turned out a totally different way. But
• 31:36
  Speaker 3: I know that he is not.
• 31:38
  Speaker 2: Feeling the way he once felt as a man that
• 31:41
  Speaker 2: can move around and do things for himself.
• 31:43
  Speaker 3: Now he has to rely on my mom or.
• 31:45
  Speaker 2: My sister or his sister or you know, a nurse
• 31:49
  Speaker 2: come in or whatever and do certain things. So you
• 31:51
  Speaker 2: saying that, it just it just it makes me look
• 31:54
  Speaker 2: at that situation totally different.
• 31:58
  Speaker 4: Yeah, we're gonna do That's what I'm saying. Look, just
• 32:03
  Speaker 4: that one thing. Look, and you thought about something, of course,
• 32:06
  Speaker 4: you know, you know he's had it. But like you said,
• 32:08
  Speaker 4: and grateful and thankful, Daddy is still here, right, maybe
• 32:12
  Speaker 4: not how he was before, but he is still here. Yep,
• 32:16
  Speaker 4: he can still do something. And even like, it just
• 32:19
  Speaker 4: made you see that situation differently, and some people aren't
• 32:24
  Speaker 4: here to.
• 32:24
  Speaker 3: See right or do anything. He's still in his right mind.
• 32:30
  Speaker 3: He can still talk still, you know, he's here and
• 32:34
  Speaker 3: some people just not.
• 32:35
  Speaker 2: It just took me because I've seen that happen. So yeah,
• 32:38
  Speaker 2: it's just it just makes me more thankful to have
• 32:40
  Speaker 2: my daddy still with me, you know.
• 32:42
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 32:43
  Speaker 2: Yeah, all right, So we're gonna talk about the impact
• 32:46
  Speaker 2: of this this this country and society for a minute
• 32:49
  Speaker 2: and thankfulness.
• 32:51
  Speaker 3: And we know that you are a coach.
• 32:53
  Speaker 2: So this question, hey, y'all want you all to pay
• 32:57
  Speaker 2: attention to the coach, because she is about to speak
• 32:59
  Speaker 2: the words of wizard them. Okay, all right, how do
• 33:03
  Speaker 2: you think a collective practice of gratitude could impact society
• 33:09
  Speaker 2: as a whole?
• 33:12
  Speaker 4: I think during times like these, especially, a collective practice
• 33:20
  Speaker 4: would really show the country and the nation and what
• 33:27
  Speaker 4: type of people we are. And I says like if
• 33:31
  Speaker 4: we have or when they've had disasters, they've had, you know,
• 33:34
  Speaker 4: different calls. But I think just now in light of
• 33:39
  Speaker 4: what's going on with the government shut down, right, with
• 33:43
  Speaker 4: everything else, even in the city, and I see them
• 33:46
  Speaker 4: New Orleans we have you know, new officials that were elected, right,
• 33:50
  Speaker 4: we'll have a new mayor, and we have a new sheriff,
• 33:54
  Speaker 4: going to have a possibly new clerk of course soon.
• 33:57
  Speaker 4: Just thinking about all of those things and how important
• 34:03
  Speaker 4: gratitude is, right and thankfulness is, whether you've voted for
• 34:06
  Speaker 4: the person or not. Right, you have that opportunity, you
• 34:11
  Speaker 4: had that right, you had that chance, and now just
• 34:15
  Speaker 4: coming to allow things to be what it will be,
• 34:20
  Speaker 4: but still thinking God that you're here to see it,
• 34:22
  Speaker 4: to be a part of it, and that there is
• 34:25
  Speaker 4: still a role or part that you can play. Collectively.
• 34:28
  Speaker 4: I think they're strength in numbers, right, There's no greater
• 34:32
  Speaker 4: thing that I can think of, if people actually coming
• 34:34
  Speaker 4: together on one accord, especially during a time like this.
• 34:39
  Speaker 4: Just being grateful even in a miss Just being grateful
• 34:44
  Speaker 4: even in a miss because there are things you know
• 34:46
  Speaker 4: that are happening, some things we know, some things behind
• 34:49
  Speaker 4: the scenes that we do not know. But what we
• 34:53
  Speaker 4: do know, God is there. He's going to work it
• 34:58
  Speaker 4: out just the way it's meant to be forever one
• 35:02
  Speaker 4: of us, and it's going to work out in our favor.
• 35:05
  Speaker 4: We just have to hold on. We just have to
• 35:08
  Speaker 4: hang on. We just have to press on and prey
• 35:12
  Speaker 4: on and know that this too shall pass. This is
• 35:15
  Speaker 4: just a time, This is just the season. This is
• 35:18
  Speaker 4: just something that you know, we're experiencing and going through
• 35:21
  Speaker 4: at this time. Even for those of us who may
• 35:24
  Speaker 4: not be affected directly, we're affected indirectly, and I think
• 35:32
  Speaker 4: being able that's what that gratitude kicks in. I've had
• 35:35
  Speaker 4: students talk about their parents not knowing if they were
• 35:39
  Speaker 4: gonna have some NEI a student today, now, I'm gonna
• 35:41
  Speaker 4: be honest. I don't know if he was playing or serious,
• 35:43
  Speaker 4: but he was like, I don't know if we have
• 35:45
  Speaker 4: a Thanksgiving I said bybe you're gonna have a thanks given,
• 35:49
  Speaker 4: You're gonna have a thanksgiving. But you know, like because
• 35:53
  Speaker 4: so many people you know, depend on those things, right
• 35:57
  Speaker 4: And and I don't want to say taken for granted, but
• 36:01
  Speaker 4: like you said, here one day going the next, right,
• 36:04
  Speaker 4: because it's just there, but not really, I'm not gonna
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  Speaker 4: not appreciating it, be seeing how it is it's not there.
• 36:14
  Speaker 4: And we do that in our family with our relationships,
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  Speaker 4: not intentionally, as I say it, take people for granted, right,
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  Speaker 4: but when they're not there anymore, when we don't have
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  Speaker 4: that access, we feel it. We feel a difference. And
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  Speaker 4: for me, that goes to being grateful and thankful just
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  Speaker 4: for everybody for everything, no matter how big or small
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  Speaker 4: it may seem to you to others saying that thank you,
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  Speaker 4: thanking God in the morning, thanking others for doing things,
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  Speaker 4: setting boundaries, that's gratitude. To me, that's thankfulness for yourself,
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  Speaker 4: having health relationships on occasion. All of that to me
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  Speaker 4: go gratitude because it shows that you appreciate others itself
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  Speaker 4: as well.
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  Speaker 2: Right, Yeah, I think that we should stop playing the
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  Speaker 2: blame game and look inwardly first and see why do
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  Speaker 2: I continue to blame people if I'm not willing to
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  Speaker 2: step up to make a difference. And then I also
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  Speaker 2: think that we should always try to have something for
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  Speaker 2: a rainy day.
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  Speaker 3: I know that's hard.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe if you can only put five dollars.
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  Speaker 3: Back here and there or whatever.
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  Speaker 2: That way, when situations like this arrive, you still have
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  Speaker 2: something to get something at least something can be gotten, right,
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  Speaker 2: you know, and uh, you know, don't.
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  Speaker 3: Come for me. That's just my personal opinion. I just
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  Speaker 3: really think that we should not put all our eggs
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  Speaker 3: in one basket.
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  Speaker 4: I agree, that's true.
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  Speaker 3: I agree, yeah, yes, since.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, it could be a learning experience as well, too. Key,
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  Speaker 4: Like you said, we know these things have occurred in
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  Speaker 4: the past. Yeah, we know any given time that can
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  Speaker 4: happen again. So making sure to the extent that we
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  Speaker 4: can try to put ourselves in a different position, right, Yeah,
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  Speaker 4: so that if and when the time comes again, like
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  Speaker 4: I said, we may not be as affected, right, it
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  Speaker 4: may have, but we're gonna.
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  Speaker 3: Be on right, Yeah, exactly, And that's all we're saying. Yeah, okay,
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  Speaker 3: So last question, last question, what advice would you give
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  Speaker 3: someone who struggles to find things to be thankful for
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  Speaker 3: in their life. I think you have said it already.
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  Speaker 4: I can say that, look around right, take a walk
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  Speaker 4: in hell, excel, turn on some music. I'm saying all
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  Speaker 4: these things, but it's like we do it. They don't
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  Speaker 4: think anything about it. You know why you can turn
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  Speaker 4: on the music. One you have hands to turn them on.
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  Speaker 4: Two you can hear it. If I couldn't hear the music,
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  Speaker 4: or I turn it on. No, So it really is
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  Speaker 4: that simple. And I will tell them can you see me?
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  Speaker 4: Can you hear me? Okay, let's take a walk all right? Now,
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  Speaker 4: what you're thankful for? You have legs. Some people don't,
• 39:29
  Speaker 4: or they have legs, but they can't walk on them right,
• 39:31
  Speaker 4: but they can't stand up right. So it really is
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  Speaker 4: for me that simple. And I just think about people
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  Speaker 4: like you say that we're able to do those things
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  Speaker 4: like your dad today and then tomorrow could not in
• 39:46
  Speaker 4: the same capacity. And I think I'm not gonna say
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  Speaker 4: that's one that's a fear of mind. But I think
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  Speaker 4: about people who can see right, and then I think,
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  Speaker 4: sometimes you know, people bomb blind right, and sometimes people
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  Speaker 4: go U blind right. Things happen they have something like
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  Speaker 4: Ray Charles right, So I just I mean maybe not
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  Speaker 4: so that extreme, but I'm just saying, like it can be.
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  Speaker 4: I can see today and tomorrow I can't right un tomorrow,
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  Speaker 4: I can't talk a walker here, So like things really
• 40:20
  Speaker 4: happen that quickly right into northward of my own that's
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  Speaker 4: something that we can't control. But when I think about
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  Speaker 4: the things that I can do today and yesterday, I'm
• 40:31
  Speaker 4: grateful that I can still do it right now. Right,
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  Speaker 4: So I would say, just just really stop and think
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  Speaker 4: and consider everything that you can do. I will take
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  Speaker 4: them from five senses, right. I would take them through
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  Speaker 4: what I just say, let's take a walk, stand up.
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  Speaker 4: I will really take them through that. And I think
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  Speaker 4: that just having that simple conversation, as simple encounter exchange,
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  Speaker 4: they'll appreciate more and be and be have the attitude
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  Speaker 4: of gratitude that we talked about, because that thing is serious. Yeah,
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  Speaker 4: it really is.
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  Speaker 3: It is. I love it. I love it. Listen. That
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  Speaker 3: was the last question of the evening.
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  Speaker 2: But is there any other things that you would like
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  Speaker 2: to pour into the listeners for today before we get
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  Speaker 2: off again. Thank you for coming to kick with me.
• 41:21
  Speaker 2: It is so good to see you. I love that smile.
• 41:24
  Speaker 2: You already know that because we didn't talked about it before,
• 41:27
  Speaker 2: but it's just it's just breathtaking to have somebody that
• 41:32
  Speaker 2: just makes you feel nice like you smiling over there,
• 41:37
  Speaker 2: smile all over here.
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  Speaker 4: Thank you, key, I love it. I just want to
• 41:42
  Speaker 4: thank you. I'm grateful to you, sister, for allowing me
• 41:45
  Speaker 4: to come back on It has been a while. I said,
• 41:48
  Speaker 4: I got to reach out to my girl. Let's you know,
• 41:50
  Speaker 4: let's talk books, let's do our thing whatever. I just
• 41:53
  Speaker 4: wanted to really catch up with you. I see you
• 41:56
  Speaker 4: been doing your thing. I'm so proud of you and
• 41:59
  Speaker 4: grateful for you doing what it is that you do
• 42:01
  Speaker 4: for us, for the culture, for the magazine, for the
• 42:04
  Speaker 4: podcast and everything, and just grateful to be a part
• 42:08
  Speaker 4: of this you know of it, and just just be grateful,
• 42:14
  Speaker 4: you know, to share some parts of my journey as
• 42:17
  Speaker 4: it relates to relationships and healthy relationships and being an author,
• 42:21
  Speaker 4: and so grateful and thankful to add it Homeowner to
• 42:25
  Speaker 4: my list of titles and things that I am, and
• 42:28
  Speaker 4: just really especially in this season. I know that's something
• 42:31
  Speaker 4: we said about this season. Don't wait for things to
• 42:34
  Speaker 4: be thankful, Oh, don't wait for seasons, Christmas, holidays, birthdays
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  Speaker 4: to be thankful and grateful every day that God allows
• 42:44
  Speaker 4: you to open your eyes. Yeah, day of thanks And
• 42:50
  Speaker 4: as I say, that's always something to be grateful for.
• 42:54
  Speaker 4: And in the same thing. And if you think of
• 42:56
  Speaker 4: that one thing, trust me, that one thing can triggers
• 42:58
  Speaker 4: so much more when you think about yourself, when you
• 43:02
  Speaker 4: when you think about others. Right, But don't just owe thanksgiving.
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  Speaker 4: I'm so thankful. Be thankful every day. Be thankful every
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  Speaker 4: day and every and share that gratitude with others. Gratitude
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  Speaker 4: it's something for I believe it's for others. Right, You're
• 43:19
  Speaker 4: grateful for something, to something right, thankful for something or
• 43:25
  Speaker 4: for someone. And I just think that those words thank
• 43:30
  Speaker 4: you goes along. We don't don't forget no matter if
• 43:34
  Speaker 4: you you know, whatever it is. They didn't have to
• 43:36
  Speaker 4: do that. They and stop telling people what they don't
• 43:38
  Speaker 4: have to do. They did know they don't have to
• 43:41
  Speaker 4: do it. They did it. They wanted to, right, they
• 43:44
  Speaker 4: were able to. They considered you it's my girl, Keiky said,
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  Speaker 4: So don't take that blessing away. They thought they did it,
• 43:53
  Speaker 4: wanted to, they couldn't. They will be grateful, thank you.
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  Speaker 4: Just want to say thank you. Yes, all you have
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  Speaker 4: to do. God is gonna pull you out a blessing
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  Speaker 4: you will not have rooming up to receive. Still living
• 44:05
  Speaker 4: in the overflow in a new month, still a coworker.
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  Speaker 4: I didn't make your house warming. I see you send
• 44:12
  Speaker 4: me a cash out. My housewner was last month. Baby.
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  Speaker 4: She didn't care. I didn't make it. I wanted to,
• 44:18
  Speaker 4: She considered me. I was on her mind and appreciate
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  Speaker 4: no matter how big or small it is. I appreciate
• 44:26
  Speaker 4: anything and everything someone does for you, even if it's
• 44:29
  Speaker 4: not what you wanted or thought you wanted. Not just
• 44:32
  Speaker 4: have Thanksgiving, but every day in every way, be grateful.
• 44:36
  Speaker 3: Absolutely.
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  Speaker 2: With that being said, you guys have been listening to
• 44:39
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• 44:42
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• 44:55
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  Speaker 3: Papa huh, see you later. She handed with Kenny Keith