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Breakfast Bonus: Reignite the spark · Toni, Jase & Sam - Breakfast Catchup

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  Speaker 1: The Coast Breakfast Bonus Podcast with Tony Jason, Sam.
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  Speaker 2: Thanks for having to listen to a Breakfast Bonus podcast.
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  Speaker 2: We're talking today about you may have seen this in
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  Speaker 2: the news as well. Couples in their fifties are using
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  Speaker 2: ecstasy or MDMA so that they're saying it's saving their marriages.
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  Speaker 2: So they're putting the bark back in the marriage by
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  Speaker 2: taking ecstasy together, which is shocking. I thought, what, but
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  Speaker 2: it's front page news and it's everywhere, and apparently the
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  Speaker 2: most common people who are doing this are people in
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  Speaker 2: their fifties.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't really get it.
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  Speaker 4: I don't get it because I feel like if we
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  Speaker 4: had to do that because our marriage was in such
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  Speaker 4: a bad place, that's that's how I take that, all right,
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  Speaker 4: Why would we need to do that kind of to
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  Speaker 4: be different people?
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  Speaker 3: You know what I mean?
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  Speaker 5: It takes you to different people. I think it just
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  Speaker 5: adds as a little I mean, I don't know adding
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  Speaker 5: you know, apparently it's the love drug and apparently opens
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  Speaker 5: up the channels of communication.
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  Speaker 4: So I just start to think, I just don't think
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  Speaker 4: my marriage needs a love drug.
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  Speaker 5: No, it's not about not needing it.
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  Speaker 6: It's about enhancing it.
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  Speaker 2: This is the kind of geek that I am. I
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  Speaker 2: look at this and go, well, you've got to break
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  Speaker 2: the law. You're to do something illegal to save your marriage.
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  Speaker 3: And then how I kind of feel too, like where
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  Speaker 3: are you at where you have to do that?
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  Speaker 6: But it's just like it's just like you're to word
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  Speaker 6: a Corolla. It's going to be better with a turbo charge.
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  Speaker 3: You're on it, no, because the turbo charge is not illegal.
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  Speaker 2: Well, and they also say this is no.
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  Speaker 6: But you know, sometimes sometimes the rules are aren't great
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  Speaker 6: jurisdictions of reality. Like I know for a fact that
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  Speaker 6: this particular drug is used, it was historically used in
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  Speaker 6: counseling with you know, is.
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  Speaker 2: That right in the day it's still Sarah Hell Drug
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  Speaker 2: Drug Foundation executive director says, it's a false assumption that
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  Speaker 2: older people don't try drugs, and this is what people
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  Speaker 2: in their fifties are trying it and they're saying it
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  Speaker 2: is so good. Normally we seed all the date night.
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  Speaker 2: We've got at least once a month. We look forward
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  Speaker 2: to it and never disappoint. So there's one couple who
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  Speaker 2: are not being named, obviously they're saying, yep, we do
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  Speaker 2: this once a mole.
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  Speaker 5: Do you know there's a drug classification thing where it
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  Speaker 5: looks at the harms potential harms of different drugs, and
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  Speaker 5: you know what's top of that list?
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  Speaker 4: Alcohol, you know, And you're not going to you're not
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  Speaker 4: going to convince me to take an illegal drug.
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  Speaker 6: In terms of in terms of where it sits on
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  Speaker 6: the harm to humans.
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  Speaker 5: So like it's it's right at the bottom of the
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  Speaker 5: list and it's right next to elisd as well.
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  Speaker 2: Is that right?
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  Speaker 3: That's not a drug taker, Like I don't think of
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  Speaker 3: as a.
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  Speaker 6: Drug then, so that's how they've classified it. Think of
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  Speaker 6: it as a facilitating.
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  Speaker 2: New Zealand's most popular illicit substance after cannabis.
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  Speaker 4: You just have to you have to remember too, And
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  Speaker 4: I know obviously people take drugs, but the reality is
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  Speaker 4: you don't know where that's coming. That's from, that's coming
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  Speaker 4: from some potentially a really dubid blade.
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  Speaker 5: But if the benefits were amazing and it made you
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  Speaker 5: feel amazing and facilitated your the love and your relations,
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  Speaker 5: why would you not take a chance. Or something's being
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  Speaker 5: cooked up in a garage somewhere with some dodgy chemicals.
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  Speaker 4: The last time I tried a prescription drug gave me
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  Speaker 4: a liver.
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  Speaker 3: And dream, so I'm like, should I roll the dice
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  Speaker 3: with this one?
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  Speaker 5: So honestly, sometimes maybe when it comes to antibiotics versus
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  Speaker 5: something that's been cooked up by the mugrab maybe it's better.
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  Speaker 2: But finally, is that parents, whether people can become parents
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  Speaker 2: at school age children, people generally try to avoid this
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  Speaker 2: sort of stuff, right, But as they get a little
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  Speaker 2: bit older, the kids getting older, the spark's gone in
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  Speaker 2: the marriage. I listen to this from Catherine Brain's all
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  Speaker 2: not her real name, not her real name. I remember
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  Speaker 2: leaning up against the wall of a party thinking, actually,
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  Speaker 2: I'm quite the goddess, and I really truly believed it
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  Speaker 2: for the first time in ages and self esteem, and
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  Speaker 2: her husband found it really attractive.
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  Speaker 4: But I guess that's the point I'm trying to make here,
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  Speaker 4: is how is this person's self esteem so low that
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  Speaker 4: she needs a drug to make herself feel like she's
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  Speaker 4: a good person.
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  Speaker 5: Don't think that's the case.
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  Speaker 3: She just quoted that and said, for the first time
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  Speaker 3: in ages, I felt like I got it, felt like, yeah, okay,
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  Speaker 3: so why is your husband not making you feel like
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  Speaker 3: that without the drug? That's what I'm.
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  Speaker 2: Asking owning the herself. You know, you go and do
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  Speaker 2: something that makes you feel like a goddess. Yeah, reality that.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't know.
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  Speaker 7: I just I think we are so close minded, Like
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  Speaker 7: you only have to look at some of the greatest
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  Speaker 7: leaders of our generation in terms of the you know,
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  Speaker 7: a great example of Steve Jobs, and Steve Jobs created
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  Speaker 7: some of the most amazing products and he credits a
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  Speaker 7: lot of that to what he experienced.
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  Speaker 6: Well on alist, did.
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  Speaker 4: He realize I'm going to burst your bubble there and
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  Speaker 4: go I look at Steve Jobs, and I look at
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  Speaker 4: him and I think he had a sad existence. And
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  Speaker 4: when he died he said, I put all my energy
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  Speaker 4: into all the wrong things, and if I'd lived again,
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  Speaker 4: I would have done it completely different.
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  Speaker 5: Maybe he should have should have gone NDMA and.
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  Speaker 4: He wife, he fell out with all his children, and
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  Speaker 4: he died a very unhappy man.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, it was the wrong drug for him.
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  Speaker 3: If not, should have gone for the bottom.
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  Speaker 2: If you're not like people in their fifties who obviously
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  Speaker 2: doing this right across it's right across New Zealand.
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  Speaker 5: I had no idea is having a spliff now and again.
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  Speaker 2: Hodown years ago and we did a boys trip of
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  Speaker 2: the UK and took a trip over to Amsterdam where
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  Speaker 2: it's legal, so we didn't break the law.
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  Speaker 5: So NDA is not legal.
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  Speaker 2: No, I didn't do so we went to a couple
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  Speaker 2: of cafes there which see, you know, marijuana and things,
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  Speaker 2: and I don't smoke at all. I couldn't do that
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  Speaker 2: to himself. So I had the muffins used to bake
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  Speaker 2: it into muffins.
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  Speaker 3: So I had the muff chase, went for the highlight.
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  Speaker 2: Chocolate milk, and all it did for me I actually
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  Speaker 2: felt quite nauseous. Didn't do anything for me. So that oh,
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  Speaker 2: but then I had.
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  Speaker 3: To take it.
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  Speaker 2: Really missed me up. I don't want to try that stuff.
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  Speaker 2: So if not, if not breaking the law like people
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  Speaker 2: in the fifty seem to be doing, what do you
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  Speaker 2: do to splice up your marriage?
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  Speaker 1: Then?
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  Speaker 2: I mean, because every marriage doesn't matter how good your
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  Speaker 2: marriage is. Every marriage needs the flame stoke now and again.
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  Speaker 4: Do you know what I reckon? The biggest thing? I think,
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  Speaker 4: how many years might be married to?
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  Speaker 2: Thirteen?
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  Speaker 3: Fourteen fifteen? I think, do I get married two thousand
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  Speaker 3: and nine? Do the math?
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  Speaker 2: Fifteen fifteen?
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  Speaker 3: This year fifteen years?
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  Speaker 4: I feel like actually being part of each other's lives
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  Speaker 4: and spending time together is a big deal because a
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  Speaker 4: lot of people are ships in the night and just
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  Speaker 4: don't don't do anything together, literally don't see each other.
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  Speaker 2: Still going to be friends at the end of this.
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  Speaker 2: So you guys, your matees actually hang out with each other.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, well, we we're kind of we are.
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  Speaker 4: I think this is the way our jobs work because
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  Speaker 4: I finish early and he largely works from home, and
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  Speaker 4: then we coach sport together, so we spend a lot
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  Speaker 4: of time to It's a miracle I'm not saying of
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  Speaker 4: him because we're together all the.
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