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Why Feminine Energy Women Attract Emotionally Available Men · Mindful Success Path

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  You don't attract emotionally available men by chasing them, fixing them, or proving your worth.
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  You attract them by being fully in your feminine energy, by being anchored, by being open, by being radiant, and by being real.
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  Hi, my name is Amanda.
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  Welcome to this channel where we talk about how to manifest what you want in life without all the extra stress, chaos, and drama that most people are accustomed to.
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  Lately we've been talking a lot about relationships.
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  What's feminine energy?
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  What's masculine energy?
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  I interviewed a lot of men on this channel recently so that the women would hear it from the men.
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  And then as always, if I have extra trainings that go deeper into the content of this video, uh, you can find everything in the description.
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  I will have a QR code around here somewhere, and I will make mention of them throughout the video.
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  So.
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  Here's the thing, a lot of women complain that they attract emotionally unavailable men.
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  And the first thing that I want to clear up is that a lot of women think that all men are emotionally unavailable or non-committal or just wanna sleep with anything that moves, uh, unhealthy, immature men.
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  Sure, but healthy men are actually emotionally available.
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  And what a woman might be experiencing is that she might see herself attracting the emotionally unavailable ones, but repelling the ones that are emotionally available.
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  Or the other thing that happens is that she is attracted to the emotionally unavailable men.
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  Um, and then when a stable man comes, and we've had men talk about this in the chat on the live streams, they're like, I'm good.
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  I'm willing to provide.
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  Stable.
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  They think I'm boring, right?
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  So that's another way, um, in which that shows up, in which case, as I've mentioned many, many times on this channel, a lot of that has to do with healing your internal, uh, stories about men, about dating, about relationships.
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  Sometimes we gotta go back to childhood to see where a lot of these stories originated because a lot of women and men, um, had experiences growing up as children and then as adults, those stories were actually running the show because most of your.
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  Life.
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  And the results that you're seeing in life and most of the decisions that you make aren't actually conscious decisions.
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  Most of them are unconscious decisions.
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  So when I work with women one-on-one, or they go into my training programs, we have to talk a lot about this.
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  We have to talk a lot about like, okay, well what's actually running the show here?
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  Let's go into the mistakes that most women make.
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  A lot of women, when they're trying to attract emotionally available men, other than pushing them away because they think they're boring, but that's not what we're talking about right now.
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  We're talking about the woman who's like, I am ready for an emotionally available man.
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  Um, the mistakes that she makes are as follows.
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  Oftentimes, this woman thinks that being low maintenance.
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  The cool girl, as I say, or hyper independent, meaning I don't need anybody.
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  I can take care of myself, makes them more desirable.
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  They also hide their feelings to seem chill and cool.
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  Um, and, and what happens is that men are not attracted to this because they cannot.
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  Feel you.
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  They cannot feel you.
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  They don't know how to make you happy.
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  A lot of times is what happens and they cannot give to you.
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  And the way that men fall in love is that they give to you.
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  They invest in you in all the ways in which they do that, which I've done lots of videos on this channel and what provision looks like and what it actually looks like when a man invests, because it is not what most of social media tells you.
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  It is actually a lot deeper than just money.
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  Money's a part of it.
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  There's a lot more to it than just money.
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  So go check out the other trainings I've done on provision.
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  And when a woman is coming from an energy of low maintenance or hyper independence, she will tend to attract men who want access.
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  Uh, maybe a status, right?
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  So for example, we'll see this a lot when, uh, women get with men.
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  This is not always the case, right?
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  But you'll see it a lot with celebrities, right?
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  That the woman usually makes a lot more money.
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  She gets with a guy, he ends up being a loser.
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  Um, and or he just wanted status.
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  That's what a lot of women, uh, will experience when they are hyper independent or low maintenance or chill, or they will experience men who don't take them seriously.
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  Emotionally available.
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  Men, they're not looking for perfection, uh, but they are looking for your feminine presence.
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  What men crave more than anything is your feminine presence.
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  What is feminine presence?
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  Well, it's a woman who knows how to be in tune with her body, with her feelings, with her intuition.
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  A woman who knows how to live from a place of feminine energy, men crave that.
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  And when they find a woman who has that, they will swoop her.
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  Up quick.
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  The problem is most women these days don't understand any of these things, so here's what feminine women do differently.
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  Speaking of feminine energy.
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  They're emotionally expressed.
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  They know how to express their feelings in a way that is respectful, in a way that is not chaotic in a way where their emotions don't take over their whole lives.
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  They know how to express it in a way where the emotions are clear and felt.
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  If you know how to do that with a man, you will get him more in touch with his emotions and he's gonna wanna give you the world because that is how men get in touch.
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  Men do not get in touch.
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  Don't listen to this bullshit online about men suppressing their feelings and they aren't in touch with their emotions.
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  They can't access that with without a feminine woman.
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  That's one of the reasons in which why they fall in love with feminine women is because.
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  Feminine, that that's how they access it.
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  They access it through her, not themselves.
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  When they try and do it themselves, they become feminized men, the feminine women set boundaries, but they do it with grace.
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  They're not making demands.
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  They don't beg, they don't chase, they don't overgive, they don't perform.
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  Men, healthy men don't like that stuff, uh, because they're like, oh, this chick's insecure.
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  It's almost like a red flag to a, to a healthy man.
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  Now, unhealthy men.
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  Men who want to manipulate you, and sometimes the men who are manipulating or well-meaning, um, because they got too deep into red appeal stuff or pickup stuff or whatever.
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  But most healthy men, and men and most men, period, are good.
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  Um, you know, they don't like insecure women and begging, chasing over giving screams, insecure women.
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  The feminine woman is also grounded in her worth.
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  Whether he stays or not, that's the thing, right?
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  Now the kief, and again, that's just saying like, I value myself.
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  That's it.
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  Healthy people value themselves and healthy people tend to date other healthy people.
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  I think it was Adam Lane Smith who said this, he said There's like a relationship apartheid happening right now in the Western world where it's like.
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  It's almost like two different dating pools where you have like a ton of unhealthy people like dating down here, and then the healthy people are up here.
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  It's almost like, uh, two completely different dating, um, scenarios because healthy people are going to be attracted to other healthy people, and ultimately both men and women need to learn how to become.
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  Healthy people.
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  But what a lot of men have been told about what makes them healthy is getting in touch with their feminine and it's actually screwed both men and women over What a lot of women have been told is go act like a man and go be hyper independent and do it all yourself and you're healthy, and that's also screwed.
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  Men and women over.
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  So here are some key feminine traits that attract emotionally available men.
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  Number one, softness without self abandonment.
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  So she still knows how to take care of herself, like she's not depleting herself or abandoning herself all the time because that's not healthy for anybody to do receptivity without fear.
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  Major, major, major, a feminine woman knows how to receive and she knows how to do it without guilt.
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  I'm gonna say it again.
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  A feminine woman knows how to receive and she knows how to do it without guilt.
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  I interviewed my husband on this channel recently and he had not made this connection before.
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  He said, he said it while we were on the interview.
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  He goes, you know what made me fall in love with you?
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  Like I was already attracted to you the day that I met you, but you know what made me fall in love with you?
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  The fact that you would receive so graciously because he was solving a lot of business problems for me at the time.
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  Um.
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  You know, I've said the story before.
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  I said it on a live stream.
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  Like he saw I was very stressed out about something and then he like bought me a massage for that very afternoon and basically said, here's the address, here's the time I got you a massage, and I would receive it so gracefully.
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  And he goes, that's part of what made me fall in love.
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  Now, what happens with most women is that they will be like, Nope, nope, nope, nope, nope.
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  I feel guilty.
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  Can't do it.
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  I feel uncomfortable.
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  Comfortable.
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  No one should be giving to me like this.
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  I need to give something back.
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  If someone's giving me something, it makes me weak.
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  How much do I owe you?
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  Um, a lot of women go into that, right?
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  So receptivity.
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  Without fear and vulnerability, without shame, which is again, knowing what your emotions are and your fears and all that stuff.
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  Nobody out here is perfect.
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  No healthy man is expecting a woman to be perfect by any stretch of the imagination, but she does need to be self-aware and she does need to be vulnerable.
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  I recently did a, a.
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  An opinion piece or something, I guess that's what you call'em, a reaction video to an article that was going around a medium about the rise of emotionally unavailable women and at the ver, and there were some things where I was like, eh, the author might need to find a different way of saying this, this.
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  But I get what he's coming from and I mostly agreed with him.
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  And at the end of it, um, he said something along the lines of like, he wants, you know, men want women who still feel things, right?
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  And he mentioned how a lot of the women out there these days are terrified of vulnerability, and that's why they're hyper independent.
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  And that's why they sleep with a bunch of men.
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  And that's why they act entitled, and that's why they're controlling is because being vulnerable is scary.
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  So one of the things you need to learn how to do is be vulnerable without shame.
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  That being said, and I cover this in high Value Woman transformation and also the Magnetic Commitment program, both of which you can find below, uh, or I'll put a QR code around here somewhere.
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  Um, there are ways in which to express the vulnerability in a safe way.
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  This does not mean that you tell a guy all your trauma on your first date.
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  That's not what that means.
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  There are ways in which to share this, um, at a healthy and safe pace with a man, and there are ways to share it from a place of feminine energy.
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  So I want to be very clear about that.
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  'cause I know on the internet these days, people will be like vulnerable share and then they'll post like way too much of their life drama publicly on the internet.
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  And I was like, oh God, please don't do that.
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  Don't do that.
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  Uh, but so I, I wanted to be clear about that'cause I know there's confusion about that.
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  Okay.
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  Now the next thing is why this works, right?
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  Why does it work when a woman is more from her feminine energy and has these traits?
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  Because emotionally available men want connection.
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  They get it from you.
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  They get it from a feminine woman.
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  They don't want control.
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  The hyper independent women are controlling the feminine women, uh, create connection.
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  Uh, they're not threatened by your emotions.
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  Healthy men can handle your emotions.
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  Ladies, healthy men are the container.
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  They, they, they provide the containment so you can be in your emotions.
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  They're drawn to your truth and they're drawn to your authenticity.
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  Your openness also gives men permission to rise into their healthy.
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  Masculine, your desires are his direction.
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  I've said it multiple times and many of the men in the chat have agreed, but most women just need to know how to express those desires.
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  And then also you become the mirror that reflects their capacity to show up and not hide.
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  Now, how do you embody this energy?
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  Well, number one, you have to heal your heart.
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  I, I remember telling a lot of women, uh, a lot of my private coaching clients, I'll put them like on a forgiveness protocol and I'm like, you gotta go for.
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  Forgive everybody.
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  Go forgive your dad.
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  Go forgive your mom.
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  Go forgive the teachers.
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  Go forgive the boys who teased you.
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  Forgive the girls who were mean to you in school.
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  Forgive, you know, this traumatic event, or that just go forgive everybody and everything because we have to heal the heart.
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  And forgiveness is that of the heart, and the reality is that you cannot fake being soft and open.
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  You can't fake it.
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  You can't perform it.
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  You actually have to be soft and open, and you actually have to have to feel safe, and that is going to come through a forgiveness practice.
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  The other thing you wanna learn how to do is slow down, uh, because feminine energy is felt, not forced.
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  Slow down how fast you talk.
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  Some of y'all talk too damn much and too fast because you have a lot of anxious energy up here that needs to be dealt with.
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  Um.
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  Start learning how to enjoy the process instead of being so focused on trying to get a result that you slow down and enjoy the process and find a lot of joy in it.
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  So I say this all the time, instead of going on a date with a man and being like, is he my future husband?
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  Right.
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  Just be like, I'm enjoying the date.
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  I'm enjoying being taken out.
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  I'm enjoying this wine.
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  I'm enjoying this food, and just slowing down and enjoying the process.
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  The other thing you wanna learn how to do is express your needs and feelings without apology.
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  I go through this in high value woman transformation specifically, and I believe.
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  I may also do it in the Magnetic Commitment Program, but I definitely do it in high value woman transformation, and I go into the psychology of all of this stuff in the Feminine Magnetism Mastery Program.
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  And then finally, you have to allow yourself to be chosen, but also be willing to walk away if your standards are not met.
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  This is for those of you who are.
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  Dating.
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  So here's a quick recap.
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  When you root into your feminine energy and you feel safe in it and you're embodying it, you will stop attracting emotionally unavailable men.
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  They're not even gonna see you because they're too busy chasing after the insecure women.
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  That's what they're doing.
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  And basically what happens is the mirror principle, right?
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  You now have become emotionally available.
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  So now all these men that are emotionally available are going to come to you.
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  That's it.
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  Now, if you are ready to embody more of your feminine energy and call in secure love, there's a few ways in which you can do this.
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  So number one, you can apply for one-on-one coaching with me.
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  We are also preparing our Manifest Your Provider Man program, whether there's a wait list for that already, which you can sign up for that below.
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  And there's also a ton of courses and programs that are in the description.
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  There's a section that is.
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  Specific to relationships and polarity, that's probably gonna be the best place for most of you to start.
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  Thank you so much for giving me your time today.
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  It is an honor to be your teacher.
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  I, I love it when I get comments from both men and women who are like.
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  Thank you for helping me make sense of all of this stuff.
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  Um, and it really motivates me to keep going and doing more of this stuff'cause I know that it's doing good in the world and I do not believe that men and women have to be enemies.
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  We just have to learn to live by our design and we have to learn to understand each other and we have to heal our hearts.
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  So thank you again and I will catch you on the next one.