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The Hypnotic Hanlon's Razor - Hypnosis to Manage Anger · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing genuine
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  issues. Brought to you by the
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  hypnotherapist, demanded by celebrities, CEOs and even
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  royalty. Adam Cox.
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  world famous Harley Street. This podcast features powerful
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  hypnosis, so do not listen while driving or operating machinery.
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  severe mental health issues, so get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here, and you're about to listen to a hypnosis
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  session based on the idea of Hanlon's razor.
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  And Hanlon's razor is an idea. Of.
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  Basically thinking about people in such a way where you.
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  Assume that rather. Than there being some kind of
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  malicious or sinister motive that actually you perceive that
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  people generally have kind or at least mutual motives and are
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  just caught up in their own world.
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  And it's based on this idea that people don't really think about
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  you that much. They're not worrying about you,
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  they're not out to get you, they're not trying to make you
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  feel bad. They're just living their life.
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  And if you can attribute either just.
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  A lack of. Thinking and consideration
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  rather than malice, then that is a good place to start.
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  And I was working with this client who was triggered often
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  into states of anger, sometimes rage, feeling provoked.
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  And it entirely made sense because working with a client, I
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  knew the kind of childhood they had, and they grew up in an
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  environment where they were treated very unfairly and there
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  were malicious motives. And what can happen is the human
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  mind is very, very good at trying to survive and protect
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  from bad experiences. So because those experiences
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  were absolutely valid and real in their childhood, it created
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  an overreaction where they would seek to defend themselves and
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  seek to perfect to protect themselves even if it wasn't
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  necessary or even true. There was this hyper vigilance.
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  So what you're going to be hearing in this hypnosis session
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  is a way of thinking about people's motives to be harmless
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  or at least neutral, to give them a way of thinking about
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  things differently. And also that if they do get
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  triggered, they're able to think back to the thing that triggered
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  them with a new meaning, a new perspective where they get to
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  see that actually they could have been this completely
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  different intention behind what had happened.
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  And this client knew that to be true.
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  There was a couple of recent examples where they were
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  absolutely triggered, but then once they found out afterwards,
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  there wasn't any intention to upset them or disrespect them.
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  They just perceived it that way in the moment.
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  So this is a hypnosis session about Hanlon's Razor and it is
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  designed to give you the ability to neutralize some of those
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  situations or people or things that might be triggering you
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  particularly into anger or frustration.
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  This was created for a very specific individual with
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  specific childhood background and experiences.
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  Some of the suggestions may have been perfect for them and not
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  quite right for you, so if you do like the idea of working with
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  me directly, check out the description and there'll be a
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  link there to book a free consultation.
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  Call and we'll have a chat about what it would look like to work
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  together. For now though, find a quiet,
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  comfortable place where you won't be disturbed.
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  Relax and enjoy the session. Take a deep breath in, and as
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  you breathe in, breathe in that slow, calm, relaxing breath.
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  And as you exhale, just allow your eyelids to close and with
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  your eyes closed, notice that you can slightly adjust your
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  body to position your body in a way where relaxation is not just
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  possible, but inevitable, to allow your breathing to slow to
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  scan your body for any clues of tension, stress or worries.
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  Breathing in that relaxation and exhaling that tension and just
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  feel that with every outward breath you're becoming more and
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  more relaxed. I want you to imagine a beach.
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  A beach with waves that seem to be angry, Maybe the aftermath of
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  a storm. Choppy waters I want.
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  You to get a sands then. Sometimes your emotions can feel
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  this way, unsettled, volatile. But imagine staring at the
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  waves, seeing a kayak on the shore.
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  And as you breathe in that relaxation and exhale that
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  tension, imagine seeing the waters start to calm.
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  The waves get smaller, feels like it's heading in a direction
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  of more and more calm waters. As you breathe in that
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  relaxation, scan your body for those clues of tension and just
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  allow it to be released in your outward breath.
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  And for some people, it's tightness in the jaw, perhaps
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  the neck or the shoulders, perhaps around the forehead.
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  And as you see those choppy waves getting calmer and calmer,
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  feel that happening inside your body too.
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  Breathing deeper, feeling more relaxed, quietening the mind.
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  And then start to imagine calm waters on the waves, gently
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  bobbing up and down. But it's the calm waters.
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  Now imagine getting into that kayak and going out into the
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  ocean. Notice how safe you feel on the
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  calm waters, no winds, perhaps just a very light breeze.
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  And as you go out, I want you to imagine seeing the fin of a
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  dolphin. And as you Clark out further and
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  further from shore, imagine seeing more of those dolphin.
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  And I want you to notice the temperament of a dolphin.
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  They are intelligent, but more often than not, they use that
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  intelligence to be collaborative, playful.
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  And the more you look at those dolphin, the more it activates
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  those qualities within you as you feel an increasing sensation
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  of relaxation on the water and just feel that being there,
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  surrounded by this natural beauty and playful energy that
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  your mind is taking you to a place, place where things don't
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  don't need to change, but simply evolve.
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  I want. You to get a sense then.
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  Most beliefs are simply echoes of the past when those beliefs
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  were useful. But just because something was
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  useful when you were young doesn't mean they're useful
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  right now. I want you to imagine carrying
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  something on that kayak that is weighing you down, impeding your
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  ability to enjoy. And you can choose to keep
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  carrying that heavyweight or cumbersome item, or you can let
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  that thing go. And as you let that thing go,
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  see it sink down all the way down to the bottom of the sea,
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  and notice how much lighter you feel, freer, that it's easier to
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  kayak in the way that you want. Once you've let that thing go,
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  that's it. Breathing in and breathing out.
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  Notice even more the rhythm of your breathing, the gentle rise
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  and fall a little slower, a little deeper, with each easy
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  breath, and with each exhale your muscles can relax just a
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  little bit more. You might even imagine a soft
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  wave of calm starting at the top of your head, flowing down
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  slowly over your forehead, your eyes, relaxing the tiny muscles
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  around your mouth and jaw. And as the wave moves down your
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  neck and shoulders, you might notice a sense of letting go, as
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  though every muscle knows how to soften, how to loosen, how to
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  simply relax. And then out on the calm sea,
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  consider this a calm space, and allow a new understanding to
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  take root, powerful, freeing realisation.
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  But most people are caught up in their own worlds, thinking their
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  own thoughts, carrying their own burdens.
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  And more and more you will notice that these people are
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  simply lost in their own world, rarely thinking about you at
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  all. And that's perfectly OK.
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  And every time someone behaves in a way that once felt
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  personal, rude or disrespectful, you can now wonder, what else
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  could this mean? Opening up a space for patience
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  and for peace. And the more you relax into this
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  knowing, the more you realize that most actions around you are
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  not attacks or provocation or disrespect.
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  They are echoes of other people's struggles and not
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  reflections of your worth. And you can become curious about
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  what unseen burdens others might be carrying rather than assuming
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  they are focused on you and those times that you've
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  triggered other people. You weren't trying to do that.
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  They were echoes of your burdens and your past.
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  And what's good for the goose is good for the gander.
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  As you start to feel then, in all those times you've
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  accidentally triggered other people, what if other people are
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  accidentally triggering you? What once triggered anger could
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  now trigger compassion as you recognize confusion, clumsiness,
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  or fear instead of malice. Each breath helps you loosen the
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  old idea that people are either against you or simply don't want
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  you. Allow that belief to float away
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  and instead strengthen the deeper.
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  Truth. That most people are simply busy
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  surviving their own story. There was a time when you were
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  vulnerable, but you are safe enough now to notice that much
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  of what one seemed like rejection was really
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  distraction, misunderstanding, or personal chaos or clumsiness
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  in other people. And even when someone's words
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  are sharp or rude, you can now wonder what's going on in their
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  world. How much pain must they be in to
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  act that way? What if it's a reflection of
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  them, not a reflection of you? What if instead of feeling
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  attacked, you feel they are just giving you a glimpse into their
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  inner world? They're paying their struggles
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  more and more. You enjoy the freedom of not
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  taking the bait, walking into battles that were never yours to
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  begin with. These old patterns of defence or
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  escape can be replaced with a shield of calm curiosity about
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  what else could be happening. It becomes easier to remember
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  most people are thinking about themselves, not plotting
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  anything about you. You can accept that imperfection
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  in others does not need to threaten or in fact disrupt your
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  peace. You need to imagine kayaking
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  near to a rocky Cove. You're in the calm waters.
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  Just imagine seeing a large rock dislodge from the Cliff and
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  enter the calm waters. Should the calm waters make that
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  rock personal to them, just allow the rock to be the rock.
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  The waters may just for a few moments feel with a few waves
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  and a few movements, but very quickly the water goes back to
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  being calm again. Now I want you to imagine this
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  now becomes your default approach.
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  Consider yourself calm waters and other people may temporarily
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  affect your waters, but not for long.
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  They are them, and you are you, and you can be curious.
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  Why the rock fell into the water without making it all about you.
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  I want you to get a sense then. The new default position will be
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  either people have positive or neutral intentions but not
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  malicious intentions, and you will separate intentions from
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  execution. You will subscribe to the belief
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  that people can have positive intentions, but execute those
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  positive intentions in a clumsy, unthoughtful way.
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  But you will lean towards the intention, not the execution.
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  Every day your mind becomes quicker at finding positive or
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  neutral or even compassionate explanations for things that you
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  once took personally. And your past taught you to
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  expect malice, cruelty, but your wisdom now teaches you to expect
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  misunderstanding or distraction instead.
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  A small smile may even come to your lips as you realise this is
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  not about me. And that feels lighter every
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  time. But uncertainty arises.
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  Your unconscious mind can automatically remind you
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  confusion, not cruelty, and you are free to interpret people's
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  actions in ways that protect your peace rather than ignite
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  old fires. What if your first instinct now
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  becomes patience? And with patience you see things
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  much more clearly. You no longer inherit other
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  people's emotional storms. You can notice them like clouds
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  in the sky above the ocean. They can be there, they can
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  float by, and you can stay rooted in your calm centre.
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  And just as clouds pass, so too do careless words, distracted
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  glances, or forgotten gestures, none of which define you.
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  Because you are free now. You get to choose your own
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  meanings, you get to speculate on the real intentions, and
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  you're free to live without those old burdens because that
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  freedom belongs to you. I want you to get a sense then.
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  That you can never jump to the conclusion that it is about you.
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  And now going forward, it doesn't make sense to attribute
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  to malice that which is adequately explained by
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  stupidity or ignorance. Your unconscious will assume
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  that people doing things that in the past provoked you are not
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  mean and not rude, but perhaps caught up in their own worlds,
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  are at worst ignorant or stupid, but not mean and not cruel as
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  you allow these ideas to take root.
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  Imagine kayaking back to the shore, seeing those playful
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  dolphins. And how is it that those
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  dolphins get to be so playful? With all of that intelligence,
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  maybe they figured out that it's simply a more enjoyable life
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  through calibration and playfulness rather than conflict
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  and chaos. As you kayak back to the shore,
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  imagine saying goodbye to those dolphins, but realising the
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  version of you that returns to the shore is a different version
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  of you that left out into the sea.
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  And I want you to imagine someone there on the shore doing
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  something that in the past would have absolutely provoked you.
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  Maybe it's a look or a phrase. Maybe they're saying something
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  or doing something, and notice how much easier it is now to
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  find an explanation that makes it not about you.
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  And if it feels, then something has shifted, something has
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  changed. That you're able to attribute
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  things in a new way that is opening up a doorway to a future
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  of less conflict and less anger and more collaboration, a more
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  understanding. Let me know by nodding your
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  head. It's time to return to the
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  present. You take these changes with you.
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  So take a deep breath in through your nose and out through your
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  nose. Just wiggle your fingers and
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  wiggle your toes. Start to connect and calibrate
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  into the here and the now as I now count from 1:00 to 10:00 to
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  awaken you. Starting to count 123 waking up
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  456 more alert 7-8. Open your eyes.
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  Open your eyes 910 Wide awake, Wide awake.
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  Wide awake. Thank you for listening to The
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