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Day 3 of the 30-Day Challenge to Maintaining Your Badassness · Maintaining Your Badassness!

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talked about we're going to give you some affirmations
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I'm going to give you more than two handfuls
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of affirmations they can be related to love money
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relationships family get your pen and paper or
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be prepared to rewind this to give these affirmations
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to say them as they pertain to your situation
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I was about to say daily situations. Some of
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us deal with that bullshit on a daily basis.
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So keep these handy and apply certain ones to
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the situations you are going through probably
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on a daily basis. Play from back stabbers. Be
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careful who you get your information from and
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that can apply professionally or personally.
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They once were thick as teeth with the people
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they decided to deceive at one point too they
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once were thick as thieves with the people they
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decided to deceive at one point too i'm going
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to give you a crystal to release blockages caused
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by past life trauma be ready to write this down
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because the spelling is a little tricky k -y
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-a -n -i -t -e that crystal Aids you into releasing
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blockages caused by life's traumas. Stay away
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from backstabbers. You all know who those people
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are if you've known them for more than three
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months. Don't pretend like you don't know. Don't
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pretend like you don't know they like that because
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they're fun to be around. They give you money.
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Whatever. Stay away from backstabbers. Be careful
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who you get your information from, personally
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and professionally. If you're trying to get a
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promotion, trying to get a job, trying to get
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a raise, if you go to one of your co -workers
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and they give you some information, fact check
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that information. 90 % of the time, co -workers
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don't want you to succeed, especially if they're
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beneath you or if they're on the same level as
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you. Sometimes, your bosses don't want you to
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succeed. Your bosses don't want you to get that
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special training because they think you might
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be coming for their job. Oh my goodness. They
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were once thick as thieves with the people they
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decided to deceive at one point too. Black Kynite
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is a crystal to release blockages caused by past
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life trauma. This is day three of Get Your Badassness.
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within 30 days. At the end of this session, I'm
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going to read the next three questions for this
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survey. If you're just joining us, we started
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a survey two days ago to evaluate if you got
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your badassness, how far away are you from getting
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your badasses, and ways to help you maintain
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your badassness. This is 88 questions at the
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end. of this session on October 29th to 30th,
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we're gonna tabulate all these questions and
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count them up. Then you would see what level
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you are on. And then I'm going to recap the homework
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I gave you on the first for this week. Days one
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through seven, I'm gonna recap that at the end.
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and I'm going to give you the next three questions
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on the survey and go back and start from question
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one if you're just now joining us. Okay, baby
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affirmations. I hope you got your pen and paper
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ready or you are able to rewind this and listen
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to it. I prioritize sleep because I know how
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it affects my health. If you're lacking sleep
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for any reason, if you can control it, Get at
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least seven hours of sleep every night especially
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on it on the days That you have to go to work
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the next day on the nights that you had to go
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to work the next day I am enough. That's it I
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am enough and that can apply to people who telling
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you you're not good enough People who telling
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you you won't get this far. You won't get in
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college. You won't you won't complete your degree
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I have that at work 20 years ago when I was going
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to school for my bachelor's more than 20 years
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ago people mainly black women mainly my co -workers
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mainly people that were smiling my face had a
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bet that I wouldn't finish college because at
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the time I had three kids single parent working
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for a time going to school for time you know
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that motivated me somebody told me this this
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This main gossiper told me that people bet I
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wouldn't finish college. They bet I was going
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to drop out after the first semester. Somebody
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tell me it was her who started that rumor, who
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started that bet because she was... You know,
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you see those memes on Facebook or TikTok. The
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messiest people have the messiest body and the
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messiest life. Her life was so freaking messy.
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She wore pop body glasses, bifocals, she was
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short, about 5 '2", weighed at least 300 pounds,
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smashed butt, big old chest, and she talked about
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everybody and anybody. And she had a disabled
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little girl, cute as pie. So messy in other people's
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business, where she could have been more focused.
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on her health, on her life, but she was miserable.
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That's why she had to ensure that other people
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were going to be miserable by talking about them,
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spreading lies. I love myself for being me, and
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that can relate to what I just talked about too.
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I'm a friend to myself first. Always put yourself
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first, no matter what. I know some of us don't,
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especially if we're parents. if we're yes people
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we can't say no because we want everybody to
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like us yeah always put yourself first especially
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if you're just starting a relationship you're
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not married to anybody a spouse put yourself
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first my boyfriend said this my boyfriend said
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I can't do oh my goodness that makes me want
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to throw up every time I hear that My boyfriend
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said he doesn't like for me to call it college.
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Put two and two together. My boyfriend said I
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can't go out and they're not even living together.
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Red flags. Red flags. Put yourself first. I strive
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to be healthier on a daily basis. I am ready
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to move on. This can apply in relationships,
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jobs, friendships, frenemieships. You know who
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your friend of me is, because they always had
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something slick to say. Unconditional love radiates
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through me. I am confident and comfy being in
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my alone space. Yep, that's me. How do you think,
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like, why would people go out to lunch by themselves?
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Why would they go to the movies? Why would they
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travel by themselves? Uh, when I was, like, in
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my thirties, I started doing that myself, like...
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Who says we need somebody to go to the lunch
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with? Who says we need somebody to travel with?
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No. And people thought I was weird. Why don't
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you go to the movies by yourself? Why not? Why
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not? I don't have to have somebody with me at
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certain places I choose to go. And I see people
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are doing this more and more. I am enough. and
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complete my own happiness. You don't need anybody
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to make you happy. Excuse me. When I was growing
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up, I used to hear all the time from women, like
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family members, she ain't got no man. Now why
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is she mad? And those people who relied on the
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man don't have nothing going for themselves.
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Yeah. I can do all things that I put my mind
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to. Worry drains my energy. I choose to let it
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go. I was a worrier. Whoo! I could not be happy
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because I worried so much. I'm not talking about
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in my grown -up years. I'm talking about as a
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teenager. Like worrying about what people are
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going to think. Worrying about, ooh, I shouldn't
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have said that to her. I should have said I'm
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sorry. I should have... Like, what is worrying
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going to help? Nothing. Because worrying cannot
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change your situation. So let it go. I continue
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to make decisions that reward my peace of mind.
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Yep. Make good decisions. Period. I don't need
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to explain that. Make good decisions. Practicing
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self -love acts daily enhances my soul. Yep.
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Love on yourself every day. Whether it's treating
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yourself after lunch, buying that bag you wanted.
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getting some ice cream and pizza and watching
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reruns or series in your bed alone or skipping
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a gym day. I only spend time with people who
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add to my life. There's no explanation needed
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for that one. I am becoming a better version
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of myself one day at a time. I deserve to have
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a clean space for myself. I feel the love from
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those around me. I am building myself up for
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a better life. I have come very far and am very
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proud of myself. I said Barry. I have come very
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far and am very proud of myself. I greet each
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day with courage and strength to get me through
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the next day. You should greet each day with
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courage and strength to get you through that
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day. I wrote these, uh, for others last year.
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Some of them don't make sense to me, but I will
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edit them as I read them. My needs matter, and
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I am valued. I feel empowered when I plan time
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for myself. I am a valuable person who deserves
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love. The last one is I am enough today and every
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day. Enough. today and every day okay survey
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questions for got badassness I got to get badassness
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within 30 days okay I'm gonna start with seven
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eight nine then I go back and recap one through
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nine okay do you crave the attention of a lover
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always do you crave the attention of a lover
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always How long have you gone without dating?
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Since you started dating, since you started being
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interested in people, how long has it been that
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you've dated somebody? How long have you ever
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gone without dating? And the last one, number
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nine, how long have you gone without talking
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to a love interest by text, telephone, social
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media, etc.? Think about that. I know this last
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question can vary. Situations vary. So I'm going
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to say, love interest. I'm going to say, a fresh
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relationship, do you feel that you have to call
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them or text them every day? So how long have
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you gone without talking to a love interest?
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Okay, recap question one. One through three.
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I read October 1st. Question 1. Do you find yourself
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trying to please everyone around you? Question
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2. How many times did you say no to people in
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the past year? Question 3. How many best friends
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do you have? And the key word is best friends.
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Number 4. I read yesterday. How many close friends
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do you have? Number 5. Do you go out of your
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way trying to please people? Hmm and number six.
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Do you find yourself jumping from one relationship
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to another? I'm going to continue with number
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seven through nine if you just join me. Do you
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crave the attention of a lover always? Like all
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the time. How long have you gone without dating?
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How long have you gone without talking to a love
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interest by text, telephone, social media, etc
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Yeah Like I said is 88 questions to the survey
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and at the end We will tabulate the points to
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see how far you are from badassness. Okay now
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for the Homework for this week the homework started
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on the first the same day For day one on the
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first if you relate to this you can go back and
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do this You need to focus on your mindset. Write
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down five wins, compliments, or finish work.
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Get your receipts. Five wins, I mean it was three
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wins. Three wins, three compliments, or finish
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work. Write them down, record them to remind
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you you can do what you set your mind to. Soundaries.
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This goes back to my question. How many times
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did you say no? to people. A clean no. Say one
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clean no with no apology. Oh, can't you take
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me to the store? No. That's it. We don't have
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to explain to nobody why we can't do nothing.
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This is our time. Unless, you know, they really
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mean something to you. Your mom, your kids, or
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whatever. But a friend of me, or a coworker,
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or anybody random? No. That's it. Day 3. Mindset.
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Mute, unfollow, or block three people that make
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you feel smaller. Mute, unfollow, or block three
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people that make you feel smaller. Day 4. Mindset
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again. Read one article that challenges your
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view. That's curiosity rep. Write down three
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takeaway items that you got. from reading that
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article. Day 5. Boundaries. Time budget. Block
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time on the fifth day. Don't hold a spot open
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for nobody unless it's your kids, you know, you
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know, nobody random. Time block for yourself.
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Time block. You do nothing for nobody unless,
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you know, there are some exceptions. Day 6. Mindset.
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Voice check. Catch three self -critic lines and
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rewrite them like you're talking to somebody
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else. Like, you wouldn't talk to nobody else
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that way. Why talk to yourself that way? Why
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put yourself down? Will you write down like you're
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going to talk to somebody else that way? That
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way, you can realize, hey, I don't need to talk
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to myself this way. In day seven, rest and reflect.
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Take out 10 minutes to write what made you feel
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most like yourself this week. 10 minutes. You
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can find the time. to reflect in your journal
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on a sticky note in a piece of paper on the back
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of your study book what made you feel most like
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yourself this week okay until tomorrow take care
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of yourself remember stay away from the haters