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Escaping the Zoo of Employment for the Freedom of Self-Employment · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, demanded by
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  celebrities, CEOs and even royalty, Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Evans Clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here. And at this time of year, lots
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  of people reevaluate their careers.
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  Maybe you're in a job that you don't really like, maybe that
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  your boss isn't someone you get on well with.
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  And I think a lot of people after the festive break return
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  and really start questioning, is this really where I want to be?
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  And I was working with a client that really felt that way,
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  except that rather than wanting just a different job, they
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  wanted to move from being an employee to being self-employed.
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  They wanted to do their own thing.
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  Now, this client was quite young, so they felt that this
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  was quite a daunting thing to do, but they did have a safety
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  net. And that safety net is that if
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  it didn't work out by doing their own thing, they could
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  always do contract work while they're continuing to work on
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  their own business. That's helpful.
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  It's helpful to not be reckless when you're talking about things
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  like your livelihood, to have a way of just making sure that you
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  have a plan A, but if it doesn't quite go to plan, you're not
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  ruining and risking everything, if that makes sense.
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  Now, I don't think this particular client was going to
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  need that safety net, but I still include the safety net as
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  a metaphor within this to highlight that they can be more
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  bold, more audacious, more comfortable with risk, knowing
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  that they have that safety net than if they didn't.
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  But the main metaphor here is the metaphor of security and
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  freedom and that. Uses a zoo.
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  So right now I want you to think of your favorite zoo animal.
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  Maybe you know, I like lions and tigers and things like that, you
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  know, very impressive majestic creatures.
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  I also like rhinos and things like that.
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  So I want, I want you to think of your favorite zoo animal and
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  just imagine that if you were that animal and you had a choice
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  to make of the safety and security of the zoo.
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  You get your meals everyday, there's a vet on hand, it's
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  predictable. There's no poachers and
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  predators trying to kill you. But your life is mundane, it's
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  repetitive. It gives you limited options as
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  to what you can do if you're in that zoo.
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  That represents security and comfort, but almost boredom or
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  monotony less of autonomy. And then the other option is if
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  that was you and you were that zoo animal, and you could choose
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  between the zoo or freedom being out in the wild, what would you
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  choose? And this isn't one of those
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  trick questions where everyone chooses freedom.
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  That isn't the case. Some people have a hierarchy of
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  values and they would much prefer the security and
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  predictability of being in the zoo and to use the analogy here,
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  having a job. Then they would want the freedom
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  that is linked to entrepreneurship or
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  self-employment. And that's because of risk.
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  There is much more risk outside of the zoo than there is inside
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  of the zoo. But equally there is less
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  freedom. And think about this, if you're
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  an employee, if you want to take six months off, are you really
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  going to have a job to go back to when you do that?
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  Now, some employers might be quite flexible and offer a
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  sabbatical if you're lucky. But equally, if you just decide
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  that you want to do something different in your job, follow a
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  different strategy, follow different rules, you're probably
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  going to get disciplined in that environment.
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  So there is a trade off and I want you to think of what's more
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  important for you and if the idea of being free from the zoo
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  is more appealing. There's probably a little bit of
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  an entrepreneur within you that actually would value being
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  self-employed or being your own boss much more than being an
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  employee. So think about that because this
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  session is really about making the transition from being an
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  employee to being self-employed to being the master of your own
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  destiny. It carries risks, but I can
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  really relate to this particular client because I've only had two
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  jobs in my life and my last job I was 23 years old.
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  That's when I became self-employed and I would never
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  consider going back to employment because I have so
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  much more autonomy and I steer my life in the direction that I
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  want to do. But with that does come a huge
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  responsibility. You have no boss to report to.
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  You are your own boss. And therefore, if you're not
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  structured and disciplined and you know, you know what you're
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  doing, actually, it can be a dangerous place out there in the
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  wild. But for some people, that's
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  where they thrive best. So think about you and what you
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  want and use this either for inspiration, just as a thought
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  experiment to feel where your values are, or if you feel that
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  you could be ready to move into self-employment, maybe there's
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  something in this session that unlocks a resource to make that
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  happen. Now, it was created for an
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  individual. This individual had two weeks of
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  annual leave and they were going to use that time to prepare
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  everything for their new business and then hand in their
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  notice to resign from their business, from their from their
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  job. That is unlikely to be your
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  situation. So if you do like the idea of
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  something like this but completely tailored to you,
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  there will be a link in the description where you can book a
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  free consultation call to explore working with me.
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  If you can't find it there, check out my website,
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  adamcox.co.uk and you'll be able to book a free consultation
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  call. We'll have a chat on Zoom and we
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  might end up working together. For now, though, find a quiet,
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  comfortable place, the kind of place where you won't be
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  distracted or disturbed. Relax and enjoy the session.
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  Take a deep breath in and as you're breathing in, breathe in
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  that wonderful feeling of calm and relaxation.
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  And as you exhale, feel a wonderful feeling of release, as
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  if any doubts, hesitations, any worries are slowly leaving your
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  body in your outward breath. Eyelids feeling heavier, jaw
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  feeling loose and neck and shoulders starting to relax even
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  more. That's it.
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  Position your body in a way where it's conducive to getting
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  to that place of enhanced neural plasticity, where thoughts
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  become ideas, ideas become actions, actions become seeds
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  that grow into wonderful results.
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  That's it. And as you breathe in, breathe
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  in a colour that represents self belief.
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  Your intuition. Will let you know what that
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  colour is, maybe bright, vibrant and just imagine breathing in
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  that concentrated feeling of self belief.
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  That's it. And as you exhale any of those
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  insecurities and doubts, any second guessing starts to leave
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  your body as almost grey shadows, breathing in that self
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  belief and exhaling the doubts. Almost like each breath gives
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  you a feeling of even more belief than the previous breath.
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  And every exhale releases more of those doubts, uncertainties.
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  That's it. And sometimes people think of
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  the trade off between false security and freedom is like a
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  zoo animal. The zoo animal gets the regular
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  meals, the vet on hand if they get sick.
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  But they're trapped in the zoo, a cage, looked at, monitored,
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  prodded. And then there is life outside
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  the zoo, the real world. And there is no regular meals
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  outside the zoo. There is no certainty.
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  And I want you to think of your favorite animal and imagine the
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  choice between remaining in the zoo with certainty or having the
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  freedom to explore what is truly possible for you.
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  No guarantee of your next meal, but infinite possibilities
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  rather than seeing the same cage again and again and again.
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  And I want you to imagine you've been in that cage, in that zoo
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  maybe for a year or two or more, and you see an opportunity.
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  Maybe it's a door that was not locked properly, or maybe you're
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  being transported from one zoo to another and there is an
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  opportunity to be free. And in that moment a decision
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  gets made. Do you remain in the certainty,
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  in the scrutiny, in the false comfort, or do you seize the
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  moment to do what you're destined to do?
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  And I want you to imagine your workplace as being the zoo and
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  self-employment, life beyond the zoo.
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  And I want you to think of a period of annual leave.
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  This is how you prepare to escape.
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  I want you to imagine that two weeks is more than enough to see
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  if you're ready. Because life outside the zoo
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  won't have the manager and the zookeeper.
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  There's no accountability. You are accountable only to
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  yourself and your clients. So consider this two week period
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  as a wonderful opportunity to test if you're already ready.
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  Because if in that two weeks you're able to structure your
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  day, plan your outcomes, work on doing things that makes a
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  difference to accomplish more in those few days that many people
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  would take in several weeks, then at the end of that two
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  weeks, you would know that you're ready.
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  And if in that period of two weeks there's too much
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  hesitation, procrastination, it tells you one of two things.
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  Either you're not yet ready to leave the zoo, or this idea is
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  not the way of escaping the zoo. And a great question to ask is
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  if not this, then what? And if no good alternative comes
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  to mind, then this probably is the thing.
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  And if not now, then when? And if it doesn't feel like
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  there'd be a better time, then now is the right time.
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  I want you to feel a sense of decisiveness, that you're
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  mentally ready. In ancient Rome they would say
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  carpe diem, seize the day, don't wait for it to happen, make it
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  happen. And if your unconscious feels,
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  then this period of preparation is the ideal time to escape from
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  the zoo. Let me know by nodding your
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  head. Forewarned is forearmed.
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  They could be things that are obstacles.
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  Maybe these are distractions. You'll know the things that
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  distract you. Getting lost in social media,
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  doom scrolling, thinking too much on low priority things,
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  doing things that don't need to be done at the expense of those
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  things that do. I want you to think of those
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  things in the past that did get in the way and then think for
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  this two week period, how do you enable and harness the past as
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  reconnaissance to avoid the pit halls?
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  Those pitfalls that you fell in before, how do you avoid them
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  now? For some people, they have their
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  phone in a different room and when they're working, they're
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  working. For some people, they schedule
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  and structure, they prioritise, they zone out.
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  Anything else but the thing that needs to be done.
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  And I want you to think of a time in your past when you did
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  something not because someone else was asking you.
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  You did something on your terms in the way that aligns with you,
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  and did it to a high standard, not because you had to, but
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  because you wanted to. And when you can recall that
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  memory, observe yourself back then.
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  And maybe you had a uncluttered environment, maybe you had a
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  certain facial expression of posture, maybe you were in a
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  particular place and just mimic how you were back then when you
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  were in that state of doing what needed to be done on your terms.
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  And then step into that version of you and feel what it would
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  feel like to be focused, motivated, productive, to do
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  what needs to be done. And when that's activated, let
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  me know by nodding your head. And then imagine observing you
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  in the future, using that two week period to prepare your
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  escape. Notice what time you wake up.
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  Notice how you avoid interruptions or distractions.
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  Notice how you structure or schedule your day.
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  Notice what you do so that you see an enthusiastic, empowered,
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  productive version of you. Seal yourself with all of the
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  qualities that you want to embody, not just in your escape,
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  but when you are your own boss, answerable only to yourself, and
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  if you can see that future version of you in that state,
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  accomplishing. Significant things.
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  Then imagine at the end of that period you have unlocked another
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  level within, call it evolution, maturity or progression.
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  And I want you to imagine seeing that version of you on the very
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  next day, perhaps emailing or standing a resignation letter,
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  making it clear you are no longer an employee and you don't
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  stop being an employee at the point where you finish working.
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  You stop being an employee at the moment you make a decision
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  and back it up with action. Your employment ends the moment
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  they accept that resignation. Everything else is just a lag
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  time. You are already self-employed
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  the very moment they receive that resignation letter.
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  Self-employment starts in that second.
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  And then imagine seeing that similar energy to that two week
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  preparation during the notice period.
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  See yourself continuing to prepare, create content, reach
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  out to certain people, prepare materials, network, progress
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  your own business. And if you could imagine, then
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  this, this two weeks is how you escape.
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  But once you've escaped the notice period is the runway to
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  launch, to be free, to be wherever you desire to be.
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  And I want you to see moments of success, a video gaining
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  traction, a website finished, a first client acquired that first
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  successful campaign with that client.
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  Now your imagination to reveal to you those milestones of early
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  successes. Each time you see one, let me
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  know by nodding your head. This is life beyond the zoo.
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  Daunting, difficult, but you have an edge.
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  I want you to see yourself with a safety net you won't need, but
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  is there just in case. I don't want you to think of
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  circus acts on the trapeze. By them knowing that there is a
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  safety net. They are more audacious, more
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  committed, they take bigger risks.
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  That is the point of a safety net, not to think you're ever
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  going to need it, but to feel free to fully lean into this new
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  identity. That you.
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  Are self-employed. You are the founder, you are the
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  entrepreneur, you are the owner, and the safety net just empowers
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  you to be even more of all those things.
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  Allow your unconscious to try to think of reasons why this may
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  fail. But for every problem, allow
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  your unconscious to provide you with two or three or more
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  solutions. Because that's what it's like.
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  You don't have to know all the answers and pre empt every
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  problem, just have a deep belief that when problems happen you
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  can solve them, and when mistakes happen you can learn
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  from them and you don't need to know it all right now.
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  When your unconscious mind feels psychologically prepared for
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  this transition, let me know by nodding your head.
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  That's it. Now it's time to return to the
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  present, taking all of this certainty, preparation, self
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  belief and enthusiasm with you. Now it's just a matter of time
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  to take a thought into an idea, an idea into action, and action
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  into reality. So take a deep breath in through
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  your nose and out through your nose.
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  Just wiggle your fingers, wiggle your toes, connect and calibrate
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  into the here and the now as I now count from 1:00 to 10:00 to
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  awaken you. Starting to count 123 waking up
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  456 more alert 7-8. Open your eyes.
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  Open your eyes, 910. Wide awake, wide awake, wide
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  awake. Thank you so much for joining me
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