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Lead With Love, Not Fear · Mosaic Sparks with Lesley George

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SPEAKER_00: What if everything you were taught about what a powerful leader looks like was actually keeping you from becoming the leader you were born to be.
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SPEAKER_00: Today we're dismantling one of the biggest lies.
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SPEAKER_00: Women in leadership have been sold.
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SPEAKER_00: And replacing it with something far more powerful, far more sustainable, and more authentically you.
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SPEAKER_00: So welcome back, sparklers.
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SPEAKER_00: Welcome to Mosaic Sparks with me, Leslie George.
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SPEAKER_00: Right here at Mosaic Sparks is where we do not do surface level and we do not do it small.
0:48
SPEAKER_00: So we're in episode three of Leading on a Pot of Gel unapologetically.
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SPEAKER_00: And if you've been with us since episode one, I see you, I love you, and this one is gonna go even deeper.
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SPEAKER_00: So we're talking about the kind of leadership the world desperately needs and has historically respected the lease.
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SPEAKER_00: We're talking about leading from the heart.
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SPEAKER_00: So today's woman is Nakia Wakandian war dog, operative and mission-driven humanitarian.
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SPEAKER_00: But before any title she holds, Nakia is a woman who has seen the suffering of people beyond Wakanda's borders and simply can't rest while she has the breath and the power to do something about it.
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SPEAKER_00: Nakia is not the loudest woman in the room.
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SPEAKER_00: She's not leading for applause or positioning.
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SPEAKER_00: She leaves because she genuinely, deeply and a great personal cost cares.
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SPEAKER_00: And that love radically, inconveniently, costly love is precisely what makes her one of the most powerful figures in this entire story.
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SPEAKER_00: The world has a very specific image of what a powerful leader looks like.
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SPEAKER_00: Commanding, decisive, emotionally detached, strategic to the point of coldness, and of generations of women have been told that to be taken seriously as leaders, you need to adapt that image.
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SPEAKER_00: Be less emotional, be tougher, do not let anyone see you care too much because Kieran makes you a target.
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SPEAKER_00: Kieran makes you weak.
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SPEAKER_00: And Kieran makes you easy to manipulate.
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SPEAKER_00: Sparklers, I'm here today to call that exactly what it is.
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SPEAKER_00: A big fat lie.
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SPEAKER_00: Makia challenged a king she loved.
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SPEAKER_00: She pushed back on the systems of a nation she was proud to serve.
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SPEAKER_00: She disrupted comfort decisions and asked deeply uncomfortable questions.
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SPEAKER_00: And she did all of it not from ambition or ego, and not for hunger for power, but because she cared too much to stay silent.
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SPEAKER_00: That is love-led leadership.
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SPEAKER_00: And it is the most disruptive, most transformative force that can exist in any room.
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SPEAKER_00: Fair-based leadership controls people.
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SPEAKER_00: It uses pressure, hierarchy, and the quiet threat of consequences to produce results.
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SPEAKER_00: Now I know that you may have worked somewhere, you may have gone to a church that is like that.
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SPEAKER_00: It may be someone you were married to, someone in your family that leads that way.
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SPEAKER_00: And yes, it may work in short term, but it creates environments where people comply without even truly committing.
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SPEAKER_00: Where they show up in body but never in spirit.
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SPEAKER_00: You know, after COVID, there was this phrase called quiet quitting.
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SPEAKER_00: And that's exactly what that is.
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SPEAKER_00: Where people show up, you see me physically, but I'm not really here.
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SPEAKER_00: Where they perform the minimum required and nothing more.
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SPEAKER_00: Fear gets people moving, love gets people invested, and there's a world of difference between the two.
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SPEAKER_00: So I want you to think right now about the leaders who have mostly profoundly changed your life.
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SPEAKER_00: Not the most impressive ones or the most decorated ones, the ones who actually shifted something deep inside you.
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SPEAKER_00: And I'm willing to bet that every single one of them made you feel seen.
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SPEAKER_00: Made you feel like your contribution genuinely mattered.
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SPEAKER_00: Made you feel like they were rooted for you.
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SPEAKER_00: Not just the mission or the organizational goals or the whatever the values were, not the numbers, not the outcome, but you as a human being.
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SPEAKER_00: This is love and leadership.
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SPEAKER_00: It is one of the hardest, most disciplined, most intentional form of leadership there is.
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SPEAKER_00: Now, let me make this personal.
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SPEAKER_00: How are you leading right now?
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SPEAKER_00: In your business, your home, your relationships, your community?
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SPEAKER_00: Are you leading from love or from fear?
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SPEAKER_00: And I'm gonna even ask, do you even know the difference?
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SPEAKER_00: And I need you to be honest with yourself because this question is one of the most this question is one most of us avoid because the answer is honestly uncomfortable.
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SPEAKER_00: Fear-based leadership looks like micromanaging because you do not fully trust the process or the people.
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SPEAKER_00: It looks like withholding praise are compliments because you're afraid someone will get too comfortable and stop pushing.
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SPEAKER_00: It looks like making decisions from scarcity, hoarding your ideas, your connections, your resources because they might not be enough to go around.
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SPEAKER_00: And it looks like chronic people pleasing, doing things not because you genuinely believe in them, but because you are terrified of what may happen if you disappoint someone.
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SPEAKER_00: Love-based leadership looks like trusting the people you've chosen to stand with.
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SPEAKER_00: It looks like giving credit genuinously and honest feedback without any type of cruelty.
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SPEAKER_00: It looks like leading from abundance, opening your table wider because you know there's always room.
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SPEAKER_00: It looks like being willing to say the hard things because you care about the more about the person's actual growth than their monetary comfort.
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SPEAKER_00: Nakia chose love every single time, even when it cost her, even when love was the harder choice, and it made her the kind of leader that people will follow anywhere.
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SPEAKER_00: Not because they had to, but because they genuinely wanted to, and that is a leader that you are becoming, sparklers.
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SPEAKER_00: So, you know, we're gonna have some quick wins for you to do.
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SPEAKER_00: So I want you to identify one decision that you're currently making from fear, fear of judgments, fear failure, fear of losing control.
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SPEAKER_00: And ask yourself this if I truly love myself and the people that I am responsible for, what would I decide?
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SPEAKER_00: Lead from that answer this week.
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SPEAKER_00: Just this one decision.
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SPEAKER_00: Notice how it feels and notice what it produces.
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SPEAKER_00: And also, I'm gonna leave you with a brag formation.
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SPEAKER_00: I lead with love for myself, for my people, for my purpose.
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SPEAKER_00: My compassion is not my weakness, it is my greatest weapon and my most powerful gift.
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SPEAKER_00: So, today, as we get ready to close out, as we are doing this six-part mini-series, and this is episode three.
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SPEAKER_00: I hope you enjoyed episode one and two, and hope you will stick around for the next episode, episode four.
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SPEAKER_00: So, once again, don't you dare leave this episode the same woman who pressed play.
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SPEAKER_00: You're worth more than you've been selling for, and now you know it.
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SPEAKER_00: Go act like it.
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SPEAKER_00: And I am Leslie George with Mosaic Sparks, and I look forward to seeing you on episode four.