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SC BOOKGAL & FRIENDS CHAT 3-11-25 · DA CREW Podcast

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  Speaker 1: Ladies and gentlemen, May I have your attention please? The
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  Speaker 2: Ye eight.
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  Speaker 2: Hey everyone? Is she girl sci book out a four
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  Speaker 2: three Patrice Grimble and we are hit on another beautiful
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  Speaker 2: Tuesday night. You guys. The weather down here in Charleston
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  Speaker 2: was beautiful today. Okay. I took me a walk around
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  Speaker 2: my building where I work. It was so pretty, not
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  Speaker 2: too hot, not too cool. We had to rain on Monday,
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  Speaker 2: so today was just wonderful. So remember at Sea Bookals
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  Speaker 2: and Friends is celebrating Women's History Month, and tonight we
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  Speaker 2: have a special friend. Now, this lady is very special
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  Speaker 2: to me. She was, well still is because my mom
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  Speaker 2: is still hearing my heart. My mom's best friend. She
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  Speaker 2: knew your girl when I was like maybe what ten eleven?
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  Speaker 2: Oh my god, I feel old. But she was a
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  Speaker 2: very close friend to my mom and now she is
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  Speaker 2: an author. Book actually helped me through one of the
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  Speaker 2: periods in life, and it let me see somebody for
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  Speaker 2: who there really was. And that book, along with friends
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  Speaker 2: and the crew, helped me to get through that dark time.
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  Speaker 2: But now she's looking out for the little people in
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  Speaker 2: our life. She has a new children's book out missus Gabrielle,
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  Speaker 2: the perfect little Dreamer. I know I'm saying it wrong,
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  Speaker 2: you guys, but I'm just so excited because I know
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  Speaker 2: my mom was sitting up here like yay. So welcome
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  Speaker 2: the sci bookyals and friends, Author Tracy Smalls. Come on up, girly,
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  Speaker 2: come on out.
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  Speaker 3: Hello, I miss Chasey. Everyone.
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  Speaker 4: Now you had it very close. It's Gabrielle, the biggest
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  Speaker 4: Little dream But you you were so close.
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  Speaker 2: I am. You know. The craziest thing is I am
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  Speaker 2: very bad at book titles. Okay, lets, it has one
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  Speaker 2: of them book titles that actually stand out. And this
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  Speaker 2: is the children's show, so I can't tell y'all the
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  Speaker 2: book that the lady actually looked for in the library. Yo.
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  Speaker 2: We'll say that for next week. But that title was
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  Speaker 2: something I will never forget. Matter of fact, I got
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  Speaker 2: it right now. So welcome again to Stain France.
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  Speaker 3: This is the same.
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  Speaker 2: It is truly an honor to have you because it's like,
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  Speaker 2: did you ever see this coming from me? And I
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  Speaker 2: would have never thought you would be an author.
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  Speaker 4: That's the amazing part of life, the amazing part the
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  Speaker 4: things that we think we are going to be doing
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  Speaker 4: may not necessarily be what we end up doing. Life
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  Speaker 4: has a way of taking her and says, no, I
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  Speaker 4: never thought i'd see Nita's little girl sitting up here
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  Speaker 4: doing her own podcast. And definitely I didn't see myself
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  Speaker 4: being an author a four time offer. Never saw it coming.
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  Speaker 4: But nevertheless I'm grateful.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, yes, yes, now I can't remember, y'all, this is
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  Speaker 2: a little secret from the family. It's not a secret.
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  Speaker 2: It was like the funniest thing you had the son Bob, right,
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  Speaker 2: or that Bob was scared of dolls?
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  Speaker 3: Correct, exactly, y'all. My mom have a great memory.
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  Speaker 2: My mom had all girls, and I remember Bob being
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  Speaker 2: at the house. I don't know whose doll or who
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  Speaker 2: was playing with it. I think it might have been Ashley.
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  Speaker 2: Bob saw that doll and ran out the door. I'll
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  Speaker 2: never forget my mother. Oh my god, y'all.
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  Speaker 4: As a big man now with four children, a cent
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  Speaker 4: of twins and an eight year old and a two
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  Speaker 4: year old. So he should no longer be afraid of
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  Speaker 4: dolls because he had little girls three.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my god, So now I see why you wrote
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  Speaker 2: this children's book.
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  Speaker 4: Yes, yes, leaving a legacy from my grand baby.
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  Speaker 2: Uh, sound like somebody else. Our producer always talks about
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  Speaker 2: leaving a legacy. All right, question, we're gonna We're gonna
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  Speaker 2: bring that back up. But other than everything I've told you,
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  Speaker 2: tell us a little bit about yourself.
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  Speaker 4: Well, as I mentioned, I'm a fourth time author, I'm
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  Speaker 4: a certified life coach, relationship life coach, and I've just
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  Speaker 4: added grief coach to the list of things that I
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  Speaker 4: am doing, which I am so grateful for. I'm a wife,
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  Speaker 4: a mother, a daughter. In all of the above, I
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  Speaker 4: carry many hats.
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  Speaker 3: I wear them all, but.
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  Speaker 4: To God be the glory. I give it all to Him,
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  Speaker 4: and I am so grateful that I am able to
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  Speaker 4: considering the life that I've had in the past to
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  Speaker 4: where I am today. It is an amazing blessing.
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  Speaker 2: Wow. So the biggest little dreamer, Gabrielle would yeah, brought
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  Speaker 2: the world of children's book to your front door. Why
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  Speaker 2: children's book?
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  Speaker 4: Well, never thought I would write a children's book. But
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  Speaker 4: when I begin to look at the kids and see
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  Speaker 4: a lot of things that's going on with the children,
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  Speaker 4: especially with crime, and a lot of kids is coming
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  Speaker 4: from broken homes, it was important for me to make
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  Speaker 4: sure that I wrote something to give them hope, because
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  Speaker 4: I too was that little girl who dreapped up several
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  Speaker 4: things that I wanted to become. But unfortunately, when you
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  Speaker 4: don't come from a family that is able to fund
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  Speaker 4: the things that we want to see coming too flich
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  Speaker 4: and as children, and it's like, wow, let me just
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  Speaker 4: write this book. Put it in the ears and the
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  Speaker 4: hearts of these children, so that they too can consider dreaming.
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  Speaker 4: Not dream as big as they want to, but don't
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  Speaker 4: dream too small. And there are things that I've dreat
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  Speaker 4: in the past of wanting to do, and at the
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  Speaker 4: age of fifty five almost I won't be revisiting some
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  Speaker 4: of those days.
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  Speaker 3: So it's never too late.
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  Speaker 4: As long as you have life in your body. So
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  Speaker 4: I wanted to give them something to cling on to.
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  Speaker 2: You know, it's crazy because a lot of kids don't
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  Speaker 2: have those dreams anymore. I remember growing up, you always
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  Speaker 2: used to were acts. What do you want to be
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  Speaker 2: when you grow up? I actually that a lot my
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  Speaker 2: ten year old and every week it means. First, she
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  Speaker 2: wanted because of my sister Ashley. She wanted to be
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  Speaker 2: a fashion designer, and she wanted to do a meet
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  Speaker 2: up person. Now she wants to be a teacher. So
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  Speaker 2: it's great that we bring that back up. Because of
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  Speaker 2: everything that's going on, we need to make sure that
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  Speaker 2: our kids still have these dreams.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, it's very important to expose them to a lot
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  Speaker 4: of things. And last you've just messing with your little girl.
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  Speaker 4: It's seeing your sister's doing different things. We don't realize it,
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  Speaker 4: but no one taught me how to cook. But you
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  Speaker 4: don't realize that when you're in that kitchen and you're
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  Speaker 4: watching your parents, you don't know what that child is
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  Speaker 4: picking up as they're just seeing you just doing every
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  Speaker 4: day or and everything. You're really not paying any attention
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  Speaker 4: to it. So now I'm able to get on to
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  Speaker 4: social media and cook live, but never was taught how
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  Speaker 4: to cook, just watch it. So exposure is important.
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  Speaker 2: And that's the thing I think as parents we are
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  Speaker 2: I don't I don't want to say we want to,
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  Speaker 2: but I think because of things that are going on,
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  Speaker 2: we're not always present. And that's one of the reasons
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  Speaker 2: why you guys, I went from Saturday night the Tuesday
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  Speaker 2: night to be more present for my daughter and all
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  Speaker 2: things she got me to.
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  Speaker 4: We're not present, someone else may be and it may
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  Speaker 4: not be the right people that you want to be
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  Speaker 4: influenced in that. So that is extremely important. And I've
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  Speaker 4: been stupping in the schools for about a year year.
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  Speaker 4: I don't do it anymore, but just seeing the kids
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  Speaker 4: coming from broken homes and seeing some of the things
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  Speaker 4: that they go through, it's like, what hope do they have?
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  Speaker 4: What hope do they actually have? Yes, yes, you're right,
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  Speaker 4: You're right.
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  Speaker 2: So we are celebrating Women's Sisty Month and it's an
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  Speaker 2: honor to have you because you are a second woman
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  Speaker 2: and our first children's author this month. So how does
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  Speaker 2: being a woman influence your storytelling? Or even let's bring
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  Speaker 2: it to missus, little Gabrielle, how is being a woman
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  Speaker 2: influenced that whole scenario?
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  Speaker 4: Just wanting to seek everyone sixteen, from the parents to
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  Speaker 4: the children, because believe it or not, there are some
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  Speaker 4: adults who have actually read this children's book and they've
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  Speaker 4: talked about how much it helped them. So if the
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  Speaker 4: parents are winning and they believe that they could do anything,
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  Speaker 4: and they would start and partning that into the lives.
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  Speaker 3: Of their children.
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  Speaker 4: So for me being a woman and just wanting to
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  Speaker 4: see everyone succeed because As I've mentioned, it's hurtful when
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  Speaker 4: you want to do something and your parents are telling you, well,
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  Speaker 4: I can't afford that right now. Well start small, start
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  Speaker 4: dropping that seed in them, letting them know that it
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  Speaker 4: is possible, work towards it. Put a few dollars here,
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  Speaker 4: put a few dollars there. So it was just important
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  Speaker 4: for me to I truly, I just want to see
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  Speaker 4: everyone with me.
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  Speaker 2: That is perfect, especially when it comes down to not
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  Speaker 2: being able to afford it, because that is the case
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  Speaker 2: of some parents, or not being able to be there,
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  Speaker 2: that is the case in parents. Here's an idea, look
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  Speaker 2: for that same desire that they have. If they can't,
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  Speaker 2: if you can't afford for them to be a part
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  Speaker 2: of it, then help them to participate in it. Because
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  Speaker 2: before you go on stage, you have to be a
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  Speaker 2: part of the audience. True, and a lot of us
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  Speaker 2: don't think of how important the audience is to those
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  Speaker 2: that are performing. So parents, speaking from a single parent,
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  Speaker 2: if you can't afford it, sometimes our kids understand, But
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  Speaker 2: then give them another option. Hey, I may not cannot
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  Speaker 2: afford for you to be in it and have this costume,
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  Speaker 2: but you know what, we can go support them and
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  Speaker 2: save up so when you can be out there.
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  Speaker 4: So yeah, I love Then there are a lot of
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  Speaker 4: resources out here also that is available if you would
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  Speaker 4: expult parents in particular with just network and stop being
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  Speaker 4: afraid to maybe talking to a sibling, walking to their
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  Speaker 4: parents who are now grandparents, maybe friends. If I believe
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  Speaker 4: that it takes a community to raise our children, so
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  Speaker 4: you'd be amazed of how many resources that are available
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  Speaker 4: out here. If you would just start talking and asking questions,
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  Speaker 4: you'd be a surprise.
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  Speaker 2: It's called the village, people. Now, let's get back to
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  Speaker 2: the village exactly. That's how my daughter started dancing in
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  Speaker 2: African dance with She started off praise dancing in church.
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  Speaker 2: Crazy thing is we are really not even members of
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  Speaker 2: the church, but they embrace us in so and from
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  Speaker 2: there she's gained too many friendships and she has a village.
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  Speaker 2: So have you ever taken your book to be read
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  Speaker 2: out of school or an event or anything along that line.
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  Speaker 3: I've done a few places.
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  Speaker 4: In fact, I'm waiting here back from a woman right
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  Speaker 4: now about potentially reading at I believe it's lacks an
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  Speaker 4: elementary school. So those are some of the things that
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  Speaker 4: I want to do. I do want to head out
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  Speaker 4: to some of the libraries and start reading, doing some
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  Speaker 4: story time with the kids in the libraries. So I've
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  Speaker 4: done a couple, well maybe a few, not as many
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  Speaker 4: as I would like to, but it's coming.
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  Speaker 2: So can you share with us a memorable reaction from
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  Speaker 2: a young reader that touched you.
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  Speaker 4: Yes, In fact, a little boy, his name is King,
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  Speaker 4: and he has read this book I would want to
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  Speaker 4: say at least three or four times. But what it
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  Speaker 4: did for him over the summer, he asks his grammy
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  Speaker 4: to buy him some freeze pops and he can start
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  Speaker 4: selling freeze pop because he wanted to be an entrepreneur.
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  Speaker 4: So the fact that reading that book instill that in
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  Speaker 4: his heart and he's like.
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  Speaker 3: I want to be an entrepreneur.
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  Speaker 4: So he was charging people, I believe a quarter or
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  Speaker 4: fifty cents, but that's where it stopped. That's where it starts.
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  Speaker 4: So that really touched my heart. You never despised from
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  Speaker 4: all beginnings. It goes for a person, another individual, They're like,
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  Speaker 4: I'll will sit down some please, But no, no, no, no,
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  Speaker 4: he has gotten the whole of the concept and he
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  Speaker 4: took off and ran with it.
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  Speaker 3: Ah, that is awesome. So now he said will you
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  Speaker 3: write a book for me too?
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  Speaker 4: So I'm like, okay, maybe I'll write a book with
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  Speaker 4: the word chain in it, your name, the ruloves, the
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  Speaker 4: moon door.
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  Speaker 3: Or something like that. Just silly mek up for him.
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  Speaker 4: He's always asking when am I going to write him
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  Speaker 4: a children's book?
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  Speaker 2: Oh?
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  Speaker 3: That is so cute, little That's what I'm talking about.
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  Speaker 2: Ya. Tell us a little bit about this little character.
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  Speaker 2: First of all the graphics, it is so cute. I
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  Speaker 2: am so My mom used to hear like that. Y'all,
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  Speaker 2: each one of us have some type of elementary school picture.
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  Speaker 2: I'm gonna post him because actually found me, her and
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  Speaker 2: Candice apt she sound all four of our pictures. So
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  Speaker 2: sometime this week and next week, y'all, I'm gonna post
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  Speaker 2: all our pictures up there.
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  Speaker 3: I'm getting trouble.
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  Speaker 2: But tell us a little bit about the personality of
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  Speaker 2: miss Gabrielle.
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  Speaker 4: She's just the bobbly little girl, bobby little girl who
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  Speaker 4: is so excited about making life happen for her. I
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  Speaker 4: like me as a little girl. I was not that
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  Speaker 4: bobbly little girl, that little girl who was very timid.
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  Speaker 4: I wasn't real sure of for myself. I had very
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  Speaker 4: low self esteem, so I wanted to create something bodily humorous,
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  Speaker 4: and I just went forward, had no idea what I
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  Speaker 4: was going to do. As I'm writing, I'm like, okay,
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  Speaker 4: I want her and this specific I want to see afropops.
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  Speaker 4: I just knew what I wanted as I was going along.
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  Speaker 4: I never planned when I'm writing a book. It just
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  Speaker 4: comes to me as I'm writing. It's almost like I'm
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  Speaker 4: free stylid.
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  Speaker 2: Ooh. I like that. I like that because you never
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  Speaker 2: know what you come up with.
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  Speaker 3: So exactly.
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  Speaker 2: How do you approach diversity in representation in this book?
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  Speaker 4: Well, with this book particularly particularly of course it's an
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  Speaker 4: African American little girl, but also the story can relate
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  Speaker 4: to any race, color, or creating. I didn't want it
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  Speaker 4: just specific to an African American little girl, but I
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  Speaker 4: wanted that face on the forefront to let our little
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  Speaker 4: girls know, especially my granddaughters who's two, especially therefore now
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  Speaker 4: they're twins, therefore my eight year old granddaughter.
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  Speaker 3: I wanted them to see.
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  Speaker 4: That you could be on the cover of anything, you
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  Speaker 4: could do, that you.
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  Speaker 3: Can absolutely do this.
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  Speaker 4: But then again, I wanted the storyline to be able
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  Speaker 4: to be suitable for every color.
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  Speaker 2: I like that. I like the fact that you you
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  Speaker 2: it's not that you really wanted the character to be
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  Speaker 2: the way that she's African American little girl. You want
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  Speaker 2: them to look past the character, but you but you
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  Speaker 2: want them to look past it. I love that especially
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  Speaker 2: it's a little An American girl. And I'm excited because
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  Speaker 2: this right here is giving me confirmation. You guys. This Saturday,
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  Speaker 2: I am taking my daughter to the Dream Girls conference
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  Speaker 2: and it's a little comes down here to Cholston and
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  Speaker 2: she's finally able to understand what they talk about. I
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  Speaker 2: think I am more excited than she is. But it's
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  Speaker 2: an opportunity because we have boys, she's the only little girl. Wow,
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  Speaker 2: it's a whole different ball game.
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  Speaker 3: So I love that.
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  Speaker 4: I'm to represent who I am. Also, I'm an African
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  Speaker 4: American woman, so it also had to represent who I am.
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  Speaker 3: That's just the bottom line, you know.
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  Speaker 4: But I wanted, you know, everyone to be able to
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  Speaker 4: have something that they could take away from it, just
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  Speaker 4: like any has a book. There are a lot of
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  Speaker 4: books with about African American children on it, but it's
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  Speaker 4: suitable for our children as well all children. I don't
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  Speaker 4: like to separate the difference in suitable for everyone, but
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  Speaker 4: you got to pick one, you know. I actually originally
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  Speaker 4: started to have a collage of different.
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  Speaker 3: Futures and then I went back to this.
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  Speaker 4: But that's what I initially wanted to do. I was
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  Speaker 4: gonna have Asian, Caucasian, African American. I was just gonna
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  Speaker 4: have a collage of different races. But I went back
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  Speaker 4: to this. This is where my heart was.
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  Speaker 2: So do we hear a part two with Gabriellen some friends?
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  Speaker 4: Is that it's a possibility. It is a possibility.
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  Speaker 2: In the game. That's what I'm talking about.
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  Speaker 3: And she's crying high right, So whoo, I got this.
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  Speaker 2: We know that you want that King took away entrepreneurship,
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  Speaker 2: and we know that you wanted the kids to know
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  Speaker 2: that they can do anything. Is there any other messages
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  Speaker 2: or themes that you want them to take away from
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  Speaker 2: your book?
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  Speaker 4: I think mainly just being confident and knowing who they are.
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  Speaker 4: The very part of the book says who am I
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  Speaker 4: right at the very front. And I did that because
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  Speaker 4: oftentimes when people are asked who I am, who are they?
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  Speaker 4: I should say the first thing. They equate it to
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  Speaker 4: their career what they do. But I wanted children to
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  Speaker 4: really just think about that question who am I and
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  Speaker 4: start figuring out why am I here?
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  Speaker 3: Because clearly you're here for a purpose and.
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  Speaker 4: A reason, and it's not just to go and sit
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  Speaker 4: on someone else's job and make their dreams come true?
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  Speaker 3: Become true? But what about yours?
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  Speaker 4: Like, for example, I worked to make our a shift
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  Speaker 4: today and I fell to headache. But why should I
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  Speaker 4: give more to someone else than I give to myself?
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  Speaker 4: So I wanted to make sure that they know that
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  Speaker 4: whatever it is that they want to do is obtainable.
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  Speaker 4: There's no way I can sit on another man's job
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  Speaker 4: for eight hours and know that this is a part
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  Speaker 4: of my business and neglect it because I'm tired. That's
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  Speaker 4: not balanced enough for me.
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  Speaker 2: You sound like I produce it, show up for yourself.
• 23:40
  Speaker 2: And if you don't show up for yourself, for sure.
• 23:43
  Speaker 2: So let's talk about the illustrations real quick, because we
• 23:49
  Speaker 2: have about five to ten more minutes. Can you tell
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  Speaker 2: us a little bit about your illustrations.
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  Speaker 4: Well, I went through this company called some would say fever,
• 23:59
  Speaker 4: I call it five.
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  Speaker 3: Oh yeah.
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  Speaker 4: So I went through that company and I basically just
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  Speaker 4: told him what I wanted. I wanted to be soft,
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  Speaker 4: very colorful. I just wanted something really nice that the
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  Speaker 4: kids could relate to sitting down at the dinner table.
• 24:22
  Speaker 4: I just wanted it to be relateable to everyone. And
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  Speaker 4: when I saw that in my mind, I'm like, you
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  Speaker 4: know what, what about a jet and she's flying and
• 24:32
  Speaker 4: she's sore, And I think that's gonna be great because
• 24:35
  Speaker 4: that's another thing. Oh can I potentially fly a jet
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  Speaker 4: on day? Can I fly an airplane one day? So
• 24:43
  Speaker 4: my thought process was just making it become alive in
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  Speaker 4: the spirit of anyone who reads it, even.
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  Speaker 3: In a doubt.
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  Speaker 4: Sometimes if I feel like I need to go back
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  Speaker 4: and read it, I'll reread it. In fact, I just
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  Speaker 4: did a read aloud on my page my YouTube channel.
• 24:58
  Speaker 4: I went and did read aloud on fact and it
• 25:02
  Speaker 4: wasn't so much of the sales. I wanted people to
• 25:05
  Speaker 4: get the message because some may say, why did you
• 25:08
  Speaker 4: read your book before people purchased it. It's more about
• 25:12
  Speaker 4: the message right now right in.
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  Speaker 2: I understand what they talk about the sales and doing
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  Speaker 2: it before, but that will drive people to get it
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  Speaker 2: even more exactly because they don't know, but they're going
• 25:31
  Speaker 2: to find out right now that you have some of
• 25:34
  Speaker 2: the books. So tell us about about the books.
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  Speaker 4: Well, the very first book I wrote was back in
• 25:40
  Speaker 4: twenty thirteen, Overcoming Destructive Relationships. It's about my life's my
• 25:46
  Speaker 4: journey from a child. As I've mentioned earlier, I wasn't
• 25:49
  Speaker 4: always confident in myself. I had very low self esteem.
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  Speaker 4: I was a fatherless daughter. My dad died before I
• 25:58
  Speaker 4: was even born. That first book really talks a lot
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  Speaker 4: about who I am at that point as a child.
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  Speaker 4: The very first chapter is actually parents. Let's face it,
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  Speaker 4: children have problems too, because a lot of time we
• 26:13
  Speaker 4: just think.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, we can give them a tablet.
• 26:15
  Speaker 4: Or we could have them watch cartoon, but we have
• 26:18
  Speaker 4: no clue of what that child is going through internally.
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  Speaker 4: So that was the first book. Then the second book
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  Speaker 4: was Breaking the Chains of a Narcissist being in a
• 26:29
  Speaker 4: narcissistic relationship, and then finally Freedom from Narcissistic Abuse was
• 26:35
  Speaker 4: just to follow up from Breaking the Chains of a Narcissist.
• 26:38
  Speaker 3: I want to just say.
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  Speaker 4: Quick quick book where you know people could go and
• 26:43
  Speaker 4: look like, Okay, what does that mean? What does that
• 26:45
  Speaker 4: flighting mean? What does lovebombing mean? What should I look
• 26:48
  Speaker 4: for in a narcissist. So that's the type of book
• 26:50
  Speaker 4: that that third one is.
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  Speaker 2: Yes's had that book? That book got.
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  Speaker 3: Helped a lot of people.
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  Speaker 4: Breaking the chains up in narcissists have truly helped a
• 27:06
  Speaker 4: lot of people.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, y'all that that book helped me. Okay, I was reading.
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  Speaker 4: So it was real life story. It wasn't something that
• 27:23
  Speaker 4: I conjured and I researched. It was something that I
• 27:28
  Speaker 4: literally went through and then as I began writing, Okay,
• 27:33
  Speaker 4: now it's time for me to do some research and
• 27:36
  Speaker 4: start asking questions. My sister has her PhD in psychology,
• 27:40
  Speaker 4: so of course he was able to shed some light
• 27:43
  Speaker 4: on everything that I was experiencing. I'm like, okay, lord,
• 27:46
  Speaker 4: I'm on the right track with this one.
• 27:49
  Speaker 2: MM. So we closed out tonight. What would you like
• 27:56
  Speaker 2: to say to your old readers, you knew readers, and
• 28:01
  Speaker 2: the future readers. What would you like to say to.
• 28:03
  Speaker 4: Everyone my old readers, continue going with the book tells
• 28:10
  Speaker 4: you to do, so that you can continue to keep
• 28:15
  Speaker 4: that mind at peace. I believe in healthy mind, joyful life.
• 28:20
  Speaker 4: My peace means everything to me. So if you read
• 28:23
  Speaker 4: those books, just like the Bible, sometimes you got to
• 28:26
  Speaker 4: go back through those pages and read, flip through the
• 28:29
  Speaker 4: pages and go right back and read what you read before.
• 28:32
  Speaker 4: So that's for the old and for the news. I
• 28:35
  Speaker 4: would just tell people be open, be open to change.
• 28:39
  Speaker 4: It takes time, it's a process. It didn't happen for
• 28:43
  Speaker 4: me overnight, breaking the chains of a narcissist. I still
• 28:47
  Speaker 4: get certain traitors, and that is something that I have
• 28:50
  Speaker 4: to make sure that I maintain on a daily basis
• 28:53
  Speaker 4: so that I would never go back to where I was.
• 28:56
  Speaker 4: And you asked me something else, Now, what was the
• 28:58
  Speaker 4: third one? That's a menopausal moment. Now, to your future readers,
• 29:05
  Speaker 4: I think that was the future. I think I guess
• 29:08
  Speaker 4: that's the future. So for my present, they read it.
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  Speaker 2: Mm hmm.
• 29:14
  Speaker 3: Just continue to love on me. Share the word, Just
• 29:17
  Speaker 3: share the word.
• 29:18
  Speaker 4: Share what I'm saying as I help you through the books,
• 29:22
  Speaker 4: pass it along to someone else, because there's always someone
• 29:25
  Speaker 4: in your family, rather it's the family, friend.
• 29:28
  Speaker 3: Coworker, at that matter, who it is.
• 29:31
  Speaker 4: Someone is always going through something and once you read it,
• 29:35
  Speaker 4: you can help them with it.
• 29:38
  Speaker 2: There you go. So before we leave tonight, you have
• 29:42
  Speaker 2: to give us the rundown on how we can follow
• 29:45
  Speaker 2: you on social media and how we can just keep
• 29:49
  Speaker 2: in touch and see what you have going on.
• 29:52
  Speaker 4: So I am on Facebook Facebook just Tracy Small and
• 29:57
  Speaker 4: follow me on Facebook. I am also on YouTube. I
• 30:00
  Speaker 4: have a YouTube channel as Tracy Lee Talked and as
• 30:05
  Speaker 4: t r A c y l e E.
• 30:08
  Speaker 3: One Word Talks.
• 30:10
  Speaker 4: And then I'm on Instagram also under Tracy Smalls TikTok
• 30:15
  Speaker 4: Tracy Smalls. I'm very simple. I'm old school, nothing extravagant.
• 30:22
  Speaker 2: So you guys, y'alla, She says, she has YouTube, Instagram, TikTok,
• 30:28
  Speaker 2: and Facebook, So how about you guys go and subscribe
• 30:30
  Speaker 2: to her because she does go live at the drop
• 30:33
  Speaker 2: of a dime.
• 30:37
  Speaker 4: Now, there are some a lot of old videos on
• 30:42
  Speaker 4: YouTube regarding narcissistic abuse that I've done in the very beginning.
• 30:46
  Speaker 4: But what I'm getting ready to start doing now is monthly,
• 30:50
  Speaker 4: I'll have one topic of conversation that I would talk
• 30:54
  Speaker 4: about for a full month, and then the next month
• 30:56
  Speaker 4: I move on to something else.
• 30:57
  Speaker 3: Because a lot of people are asking why did you stop?
• 31:00
  Speaker 4: Because I wanted people to know Tracy as Tracy, not
• 31:04
  Speaker 4: the woman who survived narcissistic abuse, because there's so many
• 31:07
  Speaker 4: other aspects to my life. Also, I'm a certified life coach,
• 31:11
  Speaker 4: brief coach, relationship coach, so I try to get myself
• 31:16
  Speaker 4: involved as in as many things as I possibly can
• 31:20
  Speaker 4: to be a help and service fither.
• 31:23
  Speaker 2: Well, we thank you for joining us here, yelling friends,
• 31:29
  Speaker 2: y'all told y'all this this is like home. This is
• 31:32
  Speaker 2: not the same, my auntie, because my grandma, my mom
• 31:35
  Speaker 2: collected everybody. Once you eat at the teaople you were family.
• 31:40
  Speaker 2: So I will have to show up to mark Well tonight.
• 31:45
  Speaker 2: You can find it on YouTube. So in case you
• 31:47
  Speaker 2: miss anything, are you coming in at the last moment
• 31:50
  Speaker 2: or you had to leave early, head on over to
• 31:53
  Speaker 2: YouTube to the Crew podcast. You can see the repeat tomorrow.
• 32:00
  Speaker 2: I have it on my social media page and we
• 32:03
  Speaker 2: will have the link on sc book yoasandfriends dot com website.
• 32:11
  Speaker 2: And yeah, so y'all can go get you a copy
• 32:14
  Speaker 2: of each one of her books or one of her books.
• 32:17
  Speaker 2: Remember Easter is coming up. That'd be a nice little
• 32:20
  Speaker 2: cute addition to put inside the easy bastard with the candy.
• 32:25
  Speaker 2: Get the chocolate candy and leave me the twizzlers because
• 32:28
  Speaker 2: I like the twistles.
• 32:30
  Speaker 4: Also, all books are available on Amazon. Almost forgot all
• 32:34
  Speaker 4: books are available on Amazon, and folks could reach out to.
• 32:37
  Speaker 3: Me directly through any social.
• 32:39
  Speaker 4: Media platform and I can get both to them as well.
• 32:43
  Speaker 2: Okay, so let me let me break it down, y'all.
• 32:46
  Speaker 2: This week, y'all go to her because y'all know, we
• 32:49
  Speaker 2: boycotting Amazon this week. That's why I haven't put up
• 32:53
  Speaker 2: any free books. You got so, y'all, Facebook, Instagram, Teck
• 33:00
  Speaker 2: talk you too, y'all go buy the talk Tracy, he talks.
• 33:09
  Speaker 2: So this week, y'all go to her and buy the book.
• 33:13
  Speaker 2: Introduce yourself, say hello, we're not doing Amazon this week. Okay,
• 33:18
  Speaker 2: it's like Target feeling their pain this week? Is Amazon pain?
• 33:22
  Speaker 2: Oh no, there's an exception to the Amazon as long
• 33:27
  Speaker 2: as you buying black, so you can't go over there.
• 33:30
  Speaker 2: But if you can't, go ahead and give her the
• 33:32
  Speaker 2: money directly, stop giving Amazon something, go directly support. Okay, So,
• 33:39
  Speaker 2: Miss Tracy, thank you for being with us tonight, you guys,
• 33:43
  Speaker 2: is another Tuesday Night. Thank you for joining me. Next week,
• 33:47
  Speaker 2: I'm gonna have Miss Robertson. She has a new book
• 33:50
  Speaker 2: coming out. Y'all who love them urban books like me?
• 33:55
  Speaker 2: You don't want to miss next week? Okay, same time,
• 33:58
  Speaker 2: same place. Thank you, missus Tracy, thank you, good bye,
• 34:04
  Speaker 2: have a good night.
• 34:05
  Speaker 3: You know I say bye bye, no
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  Speaker 2: H.