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Let Yourself be a Paradox · Remember Why You Are Here

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The more we practice embracing paradox,
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the more we can expand the contours of our own
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consciousness to see reality, see our own nature,
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and discover our life. When I let go of what I am,
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I become what I might be.
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Hello and welcome back to Remember Why You Are Here,
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a podcast for seekers and sensitives where you can relax, receive,
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reconnect yourself and remember why you're here.
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I'm Asia Suler, author,
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earth intuitive teacher and paradoxical person,
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and this podcast episode today is all about allowing
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yourself to be the paradox that you are.
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This episode is here to give you permission to be
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complex, contradictory,
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to be a paradox. There's this level of reality in which we are
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meant to be all of the things that we are,
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that no part of us is out of place,
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that every part of us has a role to play.
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And I truly believe that part of our goal here on this planet,
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part of why we're here is to embrace the paradoxes that we are,
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to embrace our multitudinous nature,
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and that it's really through embracing our own diversity and complexity
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that we can bring the diversity and the deep nuance and complexity of
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our gifts to this world. Embracing your own paradoxical
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self is an act of service for this world.
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It brings healing to our planet, and of course within our own lives,
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it brings healing to ourselves. So in this episode,
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we're going to explore what a paradox is,
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why it's at the heart of basically every major mystical tradition on the
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planet.
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We're going to look at this idea of paradoxes as portals and really see the way
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in which we are all paradoxes. I'm going to tell a story from my life that I
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always harken back to illustrate this and really guide you to start
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seeing and embracing the paradox within yourself because the paradoxes that you
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carry have encoded within them the energy of the
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gifts and the healing you're meant to bring to this world.
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So let's get into it. So what is a paradox?
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A paradox is a contradiction that is nevertheless true.
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It is something where there's seemingly two opposingly opposite
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truths or ways of being that coexist at once and that
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they're both authentic, they're both true at the same time.
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A paradox is a way of being in which there are these two qualities or
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characteristics that seem as if they'd almost negate each other,
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or that they couldn't coexist at once,
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and yet it's actually through embracing that they're both real and that they're
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both true that we grasp and connect to ultimate
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reality. Paradoxes defy our logic,
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and yet we can grasp them through our wisdom.
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Wisdom tells us that paradox is at the heart of
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reality and that, actually,
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if we want to grasp the truth of existence,
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we do this through embracing paradox. Paradox is at the heart
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of reality here on our planet.
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It is at the bedrock of this experience of physical reality.
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It's everywhere you look. It's darkest before the dawn,
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that decay and death leads to new life.
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That earth as a mother gives and gives
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birth and nourishes us and also takes away-that initiates death,
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initiates transformation.
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All of these things are true at once here,
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and it's part of what makes this planet so interesting,
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such an interesting place for our souls to come,
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such a dynamic place to come learn,
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is that paradox is built into the fabric of our
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reality.
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And this is a big reason why the embracing of or the
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cording of paradox is at the heart of every major mystical
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tradition that we see on our planet. Paradox,
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it bridges us beyond
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our logical mind.
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It bridges us beyond the duality of thinking,
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this black and white view of reality,
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and helps us touch the numinous nature of reality.
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It brings us closer to the mystery.
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Mystery is the bedrock of our existence.
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Everything is made up of mystery.
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There's more that we don't know by leaps and
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bounds than we do know. It's like the bulk of a mountain,
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the bulk of an iceberg, is beneath the surface,
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and that's the nature of reality.
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That mystery makes up our
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existence. And so mystical traditions really valued and enshrine the
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paradox as a tool for helping us connect to the mystery,
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to connect to the deeper tides of existence,
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and to understand our existence here on this planet,
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the way that this planet operates and functions,
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the beautiful in some ways non-dual nature of
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this planet: that dichotomy exists,
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but within that dichotomy is always the paradox. Paradox will show
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you where the deep meaningful stuff exists. This is why,
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in our true nature,
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all of us are paradoxes because this is where the deep and meaningful
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stuff lives. It's only through paradox that we touch the nature
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of reality because reality is such a paradox.
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We are these eternal beings who
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come here to live and die,
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who come here to forget about our eternal nature and have these
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temporary experiences on this planet.
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Has there ever been a greater paradox, right,
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that we are both eternal and mortal? So
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there's this level in which paradox,
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it helps our brain to transcend the limits of our thinking.
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It helps our consciousness to expand.
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The more we practice embracing paradox,
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especially embracing paradox within ourselves,
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the more we can expand the contours of our own
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consciousness to see reality, see our own nature,
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and discover our life outside of the bonds or the confines of
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what we think is possible. I love this quote by Carl Jung and he
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says,
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"the paradox is one of our most valuable spiritual possessions.
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Only the paradox comes anywhere near to comprehending the
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fullness of life." Life is so powerfully
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full of all the feelings, all the experiences.
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And yet the human mind often tries to put things in
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certain boxes.
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And we live in a time right now where that categorization and that
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delineation, that and or thinking,
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versus the both and thinking, is kind of at the center of our culture.
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And so embracing the paradox that is us, within us,
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helps us also expand the potential of what we can
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create in this world because our consciousness expands as well.
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And this is really at the heart of why paradox is at the
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center of so many mystical traditions on our planet.
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For example,
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Jesus was considered to be both fully human and fully divine.
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That's a paradox. Or in Hindu mysticism,
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you are both the drop and the ocean. You are both at once.
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Or in Daoism,
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the Dao that can be spoken is not the eternal Dao.
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At the heart of so many of these traditions was this awareness that paradox is
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a portal.
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It's one of those inbred portals to existence where
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when we learn how to embrace it,
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it opens up another way of seeing and being on this planet.
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I think in a lot of ways we came to earth to experience the delight of
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paradox. As souls who are in the
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spiritual world and not embodied,
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there's no opportunity for there to be paradox in the same way because
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everything exists and is. There's no opposite.
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There's no contradictory forces, there's no dichotomy. There's no yin and yang.
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And so I think on a soul level,
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we're actually really delighted to come here to this planet and like,
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let's experience the juiciness of paradox.
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Let's experience the juiciness of being in a place on a
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planet at a time where it seems like there's opposites and
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polarities.
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And yet somehow this process of separating out into two parts
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actually brings us back together into more wholeness. And this is a big
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part of the origin story in Daoism,
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this idea that out of the void came something,
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the one thing, and this one thing, energy,
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decides to split itself,
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literally split itself into the yin and the yang,
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into these two opposing forces. Because it, the presence,
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the whatever you want to call it, wanted to learn about itself.
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And it knew that through separating these two pieces, could come back together.
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And when they came back together after this experience of polarity,
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when they came back together,
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they create more wholeness and more integration than existed before.
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And this is so much of what we're doing when we embrace the
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paradoxes that we are. We are moving towards greater
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integration and wholeness within us.
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And this is also why I really name this reality that
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we bring wholeness and healing to the world through embracing our own inner
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paradoxes,
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through recognizing that there's going to be parts of us that don't make sense,
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that seem to be completely opposing, that don't fit the script,
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that don't fit the paradigm of how we're expected to act or who we're expected
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to be or even who we expected ourselves to be or who we think we should
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be. That all of this is such rich, juicy,
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important terrain.
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That paradox is a portal and it's a portal within your own life as well for
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reaching new levels of integration and self-awareness and
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possibility. We are all paradoxes, every single one of us.
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It's really just a matter of how tuned in you are or not to the fact that you're
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a paradox. But know this, that our healing, our wellbeing,
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the expansion of our consciousness is dependent upon embracing this,
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that we are complete paradoxes.
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And within the realm of this
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earth and this reality, it's irreconcilable.
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And I'm putting that in air quotes because it's not meant to be reconciled,
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it's meant to be enjoyed as textures of two energies
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coming into play with each other. So I have to tell this story of...
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from my own life that really helped me see and embrace the paradox
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within me.
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I always get a kick out of the story and hopefully you will enjoy this too:
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So I was at a gathering, the primitive skills gathering,
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Earth skills gathering. And at this gathering,
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there's always a mead circle. So people come, they bring their meads,
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everyone tastes like a million different meads and everyone gets a little bit
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tipsy, as I'm sure you can imagine. Well, I came late to this mead circle,
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and so everyone was already deep,
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like several hours deep into tasting every different kind of mead you could
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imagine.
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And I roll up and there's two people there that I
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know and have known for a long time.
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At that point I've probably had known them for at least a decade.
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And I sit down and they're very jolly and they're very
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talkative and just open,
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and we're having this really heart-opening conversation.
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And it was a man and a woman. And as we're talking, the woman says to me,
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Asia, when I first met you,
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I thought you were completely different than you actually are. And I was like,
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that's interesting. And then the guy says the same thing. He's like, oh my God,
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I can't believe you just said that, because that was exactly my experience too,
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that when I first met Asia,
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I thought she was completely different than how she actually is. And I'm like,
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okay, tell me more. What do you mean?
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How did you experience me then versus how you experience me now? And so the
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woman who was my friend was like, oh, when I first met you,
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I thought you were this vivacious, sexual,
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sensual, party girl,
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just like this person who threw this lavish parties and was embedded in this
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sort of erotic atmosphere. And she said, but then I got to know you,
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and I'm like, oh,
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Asia is actually so deep and spiritual
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and holds this wisdom and is really this channel
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for this sort of grounded, peaceful, spiritual information.
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And is like this teacher. And I never saw that.
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And in her mind these were two contradictory things. And
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then the guy was like...
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I could just see his eyes skim back and forth in his jaw open. And he was like,
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it was the exact opposite for me. He's like, when I first met Asia,
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I thought she was this ethereal,
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kind of angelic, cottage core,
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innocent, Anne of green gables. Like,
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come with me to the meadow and I will show you, help you speak to the flowers.
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And he was like,
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it wasn't until I got to know you that I realize that you have this
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really vivacious side to you,
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that you have a raunchy sense of humor,
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that you know you're sarcastic,
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that you have this sensuality to you.
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And it was just this moment where I saw them look at each other and realize,
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oh my God, we had these completely opposite experiences of this person.
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And I'm just here kind of laughing, also in awe,
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also thinking about how funny it is to have people who know you from the time
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that you're 23 to your mid thirties.
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But it stuck out to me,
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and it was one of the first times that I remember being like, ah,
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I am both. In whatever ways you think those two sides are
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paradoxes: the part of me that
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was for years like a pole dancer, as my hobby I loved pole dancing,
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and I competed in the Atlanta Pole competition and won second place in my
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category. That that was happening at the same time that I launched
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my big program, Intuitive Plant Medicine,
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which was really that more
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spiritual, in the garden, the flowy dresses,
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and the big hats, and the quiet listening and all these things that people,
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I think, think of as paradoxes, but coexist within me,
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have always been with me: that I've always been both of those things,
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that I am both introverted and I love being at the
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center of a party. I don't know, it doesn't make sense
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that I'm an introvert and I'm in some ways shy and private.
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And yet part of my whole life thing is to put myself out there in
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the world and to perform and to express myself.
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And I share this, not to go on and on about myself,
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but to illustrate for you that you contain these
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paradoxes too. And that,
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while you might not have had two people who maybe had a lot of mead
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openly admit this to you,
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you have probably had this experience happen to you in your life where people
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meet you, they see one version of you,
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they see you inhabiting a certain side of yourself,
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and they sort of assume that you are a certain way.
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And yet you contain these incredible multitudes.
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I also think that we get stuck in these traps too.
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I can't tell you how many times in my life I felt like, oh,
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I need to be a certain way. I need to be this,
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whatever it is, straight A, kind of studious person,
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and that that's at odds with this person who wants to throw it all away and just
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be a poet and not go to school that day or whatever it is.
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That we're constantly at odds with the paradoxes within us.
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But the whole point is to embrace that they're all meant to be
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there.
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That these paradoxes are meant to exist within us because it's like the flake,
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it's the seed of the divine within us,
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to have these multiple facets of our being that coexist at once.
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And when you stop resisting the diversity within you,
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even when it seems like they're in conflict - the part of you that wants
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something and the part of you that doesn't want something -when we stop
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resisting that and we're just with it, we open up so much energy,
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we open up this potential for all the energy that exists within us.
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If we stop resisting,
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maybe the part of us that wants to stay home and cozy up and be in our
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blankets and read our fantasy book,
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and also the part of us that wants to go out dancing and wants to be
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seen and wants to kiss someone cute. This is just one example,
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but it's like when we stop resisting that we actually open up this big energy
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potential of who we really are,
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which is this beautiful complex mix of all these facets of
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our being, of a spirit, a soul,
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that is beyond this human form that comes in with all the
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depths, all the complexities,
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and that comes in wanting to play. And we really see this at play in what's
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called parts work or the Internal Family Systems Therapeutic Model,
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where the whole idea here is it's viewing the
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mind not as a single entity, but as a series of parts,
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a system of parts,
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and each have their own personality and desires and roles and
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viewpoints and emotions. And sometimes it feels like these parts of us are in
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conflict,
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that they're causing conflict for one another and because they want different
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things and they're trying to do different things. But in this model of thinking,
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this therapeutic model of thinking,
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healing happens when we realize that all the parts are welcome.
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That it's not like just some parts or the good parts and other parts are the bad
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parts. All parts are welcome. And our goal is not to fix them,
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but to befriend them.
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That they're all here in part to work with one
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another. That we are complex, we are multitudinous,
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and it's part of the delight of getting to be here in this
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existence. Embracing this is not only just healing for us,
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it's also healing for the cultures in which we move, right?
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There's this myth of consistency, especially in western culture,
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this myth of consistency,
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that somehow you need to be consistent.
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Your routines needed to be consistent, your life needs to be consistent,
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the messaging you put out there in the world needs to be consistent,
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the way you present yourself. Well,
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the reality is nothing in life is consistent.
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Everything's changing all the time. There's this beautiful quote
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from the poet,
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Adrian Rich that I love that goes like this: "The moment of change
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is the only poem." And it touches the heart of reality
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that everything's in motion, everything is always changing.
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Nothing is consistent, and anything that is consistent,
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that's static, that's death in a certain way.
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We want the Qi the life force
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of life to keep flowing, to keep changing. That movement is life itself.
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And so when we allow ourselves to be contradictory,
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to be complex,
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to be a paradox that frankly can't be figured out,
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then we are actually rewriting the cultural paradigm of
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what it means to be alive, what's valuable about what we bring,
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what we're here to experience,
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what is really at the heart of
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life. You know, what is a good life?
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A good life is embracing the paradox of it all,
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embracing that there's within grief, there's love,
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and within love there's grief.
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And within death is always life,
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and life is a process of accepting and dancing with death.
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All of this is at the heart of our existence. So
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there's this invitation here to when we can embrace paradox,
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we open our gaze to nuance and complexity.
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We bridge beyond the black and white thinking that is just really
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so embedded in our cultural narrative right now.
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And it's really unhelpful.
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It's very deeply unhelpful to be thinking in black and white terms in a
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world that is so complex and so numinous, and so
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full of potential. We need more both and
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thinking.
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We need people who are willing to embrace their own paradoxes and
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complexities so that as a world we can step back
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into really being in touch with the nature of reality of this...
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that both and, that they can coexist.
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That there is not one right way and one wrong way,
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that there is not an us versus them,
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but that it's all of us as a part of this greater source coming
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in to have these individual experiences and learn about our wholeness and our
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oneness through this experience. So yes,
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I think embracing the paradox of yourself is this important,
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is this vital, is this rich. It's such rich terrain.
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And so I really encourage you to ask yourself,
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what are the sides of you that you deem unwelcome,
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the parts of you that feel unacceptable?
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And this might change given the situation that you're in, right?
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When I was in my pole dancing class,
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it's perfectly acceptable to be vivacious and sensual.
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But when I'm sitting down and teaching about a flower essence,
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there was definitely a time in my life where I felt like that wasn't welcome.
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That wouldn't have been okay. And so I ask you in your life,
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what are the parts of yourself that feel unacceptable,
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that feel unwelcome,
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that you feel as if there's no way that they could be embraced
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in whatever space that you're moving through? And just notice what arises.
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Notice what comes up.
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It's often the parts of ourselves that we're resisting the most,
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that we don't want to embody the most,
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or that we feel like is the most taboo in a situation,
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that's actually here to liberate us in the biggest way possible.
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And I really invite you to play with how can you delight in that
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energy instead?
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And I'm not necessarily asking you to wear your pole dance shoes to
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church on Sunday. You can if you want to. But what I am asking you to do is,
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in what ways can you personally, in your own life, in your own existence,
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in your own existence of your reality,
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delight in these parts of yourself that you think for some reason are just
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not welcome in certain situations? Can you create arenas,
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safe spaces, places in your life, where you can enjoy those parts,
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where they can be let out,
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where they can be celebrated? To relish the fact that
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you are like an unsolvable mystery,
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that you don't know why you like those two things at once.
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You don't know why you are these two things at once. It's not to be figured out,
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it's to be experienced.
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So in what way can you not only embrace that you are a
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paradox, and that it doesn't make you lesser than,
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it doesn't make you inconsistent. It doesn't make you confused,
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it doesn't make you confusing. It makes you human.
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It makes you a spirit, a soul inside of a human body,
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having this incredible human experience. It makes you real.
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It makes connected to the heart of reality.
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When we feel tension around a certain part of ourselves,
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and especially a part of ourselves that's unexpressed, or repressed,
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or somehow we feel like we need to put it in a certain place,
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that tension is actually energy.
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It's an indicator of the energy that's here to be used, enjoyed, played with.
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And that's why when we embrace these parts of ourselves,
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when we allow them space to delight in life and do their
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thing, that we free up so much energy.
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We use an incredible amount of energy anytime we're resisting or repressing
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something inside of ourselves. And bless our hearts, we're human.
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It's like part of the deal. And we can do this conscious work.
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We can do this work of really embracing the
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paradoxes within us and actually kind of delighting in it. And
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haven't you found this to be true?
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That the people who you find most interesting in this world are kind of
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openly paradoxical? That like you love it, right,
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if you hear the story about this very spiritual monk who just
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on their off days, of their days when they're like, go to town,
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their guilty delight, hey might go get fast food.
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Isn't that delightful? I made this up. I'm sure that exists somewhere,
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but there's something about that that's so delightful,
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right? We love paradox actually,
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if we sort of drain some of the fear out around paradox of
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will I be accepted. Will I be embraced?
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Is it okay if reality is not so predictable if we let that go?
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Paradox is so fun and delightful.
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Isn't it more fun to have both and in existence?
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Isn't it more fun to have two seemingly contradictory things exist at once?
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It's like the definition of delight.
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And so you in yourself are like the definition of delightful.
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When you simply embrace that you have all these layers,
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you have all these textures,
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you have all these colors. You're not a riddle to be solved.
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You are a monument of existence that's here to be honored.
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You're a work of art, a creation in existence that's here to be honored.
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You are, in this way,
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you are like a zen koan.
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Zen koan don't have answers. That's not the point of a zen koan.
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A zen koan is asked because, through asking,
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it breaks down the barriers inside your mind.
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It opens your mind up to new possibilities of seeing new levels of
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self-awareness, new perceptions of reality.
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That's who you are.
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And when you are willing to embrace the paradox within yourself,
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you become like a zen koan in this world,
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something that people might encounter and go,
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this does not make sense to me,
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but honestly it's freeing me in ways
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I can't even express. And I think this is why we love hearing about or being
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around people who really embody their own paradoxes because it frees us too.
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It frees our mind, it frees our perspective,
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and it frees our consciousness back into the wider contours that are possible.
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So I encourage you to make a list of your own paradoxes. Write them down,
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make a category, have two different sides. I'm this and this.
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I'm this and this.
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I'm introverted and I'm gregarious.
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I am thoughtful and I'm spontaneous.
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I'm spiritual and I'm irreverent.
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Write these things down and maybe even write down with these,
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when you feel these different sides of yourself come up. You know,
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when do they have time to play?
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And make more space for both of those places,
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especially in the places and the parts of you that don't get enough playtime,
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that don't get enough time out in the world. And there's this reality where if
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we can find the paradox in any situation,
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we find peace.
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Because so much of what causes us internal strife is trying to
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make something be a certain way,
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trying to figure out is this good or is this bad?
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Is this right or is this wrong? And if we just allow it to be a paradox,
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to be complex, to have layers, to be like, it's both.
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This is good for me and this is kind of hard for me.
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This is something that's bringing a lot of joy to my
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life,
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and it's something that's bringing up these layers of grief or loss
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or worry or whatever it is. That's okay.
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It's allowed to be a paradox.
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You're allowed to have both exist at once inside of something,
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just like you're allowed to have both exist at once inside of yourself. So if we
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just embrace that the biggest richest things in life will naturally
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be a paradox, they just will.
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It's what adds to their beauty. It's what adds to their death.
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When we can embrace that, we find freedom.
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We open up energetic layers of our own self,
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and we can really embrace our own selves in a way that we have access
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to all of the energy that we're meant to use here on this
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planet, to be a part of the dreaming of our planet,
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to bring ourselves closer into the heart of reality and deliver into the heart
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of reality the gifts that we're here to offer. If paradox contains this
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much energy, then you, living out your paradox, letting it be,
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is you allowing life force to exist on this planet.
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It's allowing yourself to be in alignment with the life force of this planet and
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letting that energy move through you.
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And you probably even notice now as you're listening, this sense,
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this feeling, of more energy arising within you. There's a relief,
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right? There's a relief in just being the paradox that you are.
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And I promise that the more
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you allow yourself to be this paradox,
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the more you will call into your life the people in situations that really love
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and honor you as the paradox that you are,
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that don't want you to be just one thing. That's boring.
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They don't want that. The people and the places and the situations that are
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meant for you will delight in the paradox that you are,
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will find it to be one of the most invigorating and freeing things,
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will want to be in your presence because you are so willing to embody the
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paradox.
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And this is really a force of becoming an evolution for our planet. So as
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Laozi says in the Tao Te Ching, "when I let go of what I am,
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I become what I might be." And that's what we're doing.
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We're letting go of what we think we are,
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what we've been trained to do in all the ways in which we've been
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programmed to view, how we view ourselves, what a good person looks like,
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what an acceptable person looks like. And when we do that,
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we're becoming who we might be. And so there's this energy, there's this force,
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of when we do this for ourselves,
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what we're bringing to the planet is this energy of letting go of what
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was to embrace what might be.
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There are so many potentials and possibilities for what might be on this planet.
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So many. And I think so often we get stuck in the
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doomsday loop of the news and the news cycle that the
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things we're being bombarded with every day,
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that we don't recognize just how much potential and possibility is still before
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us. How much can shift and change,
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the ways in which when we let go of what was,
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we embrace what might still be,
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we step towards new realities, new possibilities on this planet.
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And I deeply believe,
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and have heard over and over again from this earth,
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that it truly begins with us accepting the earth of our own
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selves, coming into alignment with the earth of our own beings,
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with embracing the way reality manifests itself through us,
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which in this way of thinking is embracing the paradox of who we
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are, the beautiful, conflicting,
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confusing, complex,
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utterly delightful paradoxes that each and every one of us
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are. The paradox that you are, that you came to embody here on this planet,
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this is part of your gift, part of why you're here.
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And I want you to know that this earth is just absolutely
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delighting in all it is that you carry,
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in all it is that you are in the complex,
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nuanced landscape of who you are in your
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being. And that you simply coming home to that, and resting there,
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is creating these greater ecological systems of transformation
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and care on this planet. So if you feel moved to share,
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I'd love to hear about what paradoxes came up for you.
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And if you'd like to share, leave me a voice message:
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head on over to AsiaSuler.com/remember, and you can leave me a voice note there.
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And I would love to hear your voice and celebrate you in the paradox
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that you are. And if you're listening to this when this first came out,
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it is officially a few days before my birthday,
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which always feels like such a fun time to embrace paradox on one's birthday.
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What do I want to do for this day?
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Maybe I want to do all the things that the different parts of me like to do.
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But if you are listening in this timeframe,
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if this podcast is bringing something to your life,
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if you're enjoying listening,
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if it's helping you in any way see yourself,
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embrace yourself,
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or if you're just finding moments of delight inside this podcast,
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I would love it if you left me a review, a thumbs up, stars. It means so much.
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It actually really helps in a very logistical way to get this podcast out
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there in the world and it just makes my heart sing. So let me actually,
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lemme do that whole thing again.
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And if you would like to give me another birthday present,
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or if you just want to do a good deed, an act of service today,
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something like leaving flowers on someone's doorstep or a little
36:45
offering out in the world,
36:46
then I would love it if you left a rating review or stars or
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thumbs up for this podcast.
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It really logistically very much helps this podcast to get out there into the
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world. And each and every one just means so much to me.
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I will be reading them on my birthday this year.
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So if you feel moved to do that,
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if this podcast has been meaningful to you or helpful for you in any way,
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that would just be such a wonderful birthday gift for me this week. So thank
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you. Thank you so much for being here.
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Thank you for being the paradoxes that you are.
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I love that we get to hang out as paradoxical people and just
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enjoy and embrace the levity of it,
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and delight really in this existence of being able to be who we are:
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these beautifully complex, paradoxical beings, on this beautifully complex,
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paradoxical planet. It's a joy.
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And may your explorations of your own inner paradoxes
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only bring you closer to this most important thing of all
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remembering why you're here.
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Let me do that again.
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And may your explorations of the podcast And may
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your embracing of the paradox that you are,
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this exploration of this beautiful paradox that you contain and that is at the
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center of your being,
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may it only bring you closer to this most
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important thing of all: remembering why you're here.