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Rabbi Moshe Haber Perashat Hayei Sara- Contentment and Perspective 11.12.25 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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Sounds like it's by you Haya sada Maha Shana.
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We've heard this so many times, the life of Sarah, Sarah's
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person right now. And now we reflect on her life.
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It was 100 years, 20 years and seven years.
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These are the years of her life. So Rasheed famously tells us 100
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when she was 100 years old, she was like 20 and the aspect that
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she was same way 20 year old has no insight and says no sin.
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She too had no sins, even had 100 and then 100.
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She was like 7 of her beauty. And therefore this is the makeup
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of Sada. That's her life. 120 and seven
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schneck. Yes.
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And then right she says at the end this is the key Kulan, when
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you repeat the words her life was 100 and 7:20 and 7:00 and
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then you say the word schneck. Yes, these are the years of
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life. You say it twice.
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We were saying it says Rashi Kulan, Shavine de Tova, they're
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all equal in their goodness. That's why she says so.
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This is this is said specifically only about Sahi
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man. Here's the challenge, the
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obvious challenge. How'd she die?
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Well, Rashila tells us that she passed away because the Malah or
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Satan or someone came and told messenger came and told her and
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said it in the wrong order. Says, you know your son was born
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on the in the mountain on an altar to be slurred and he
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didn't finish her story. Before he finished the story,
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she passed to it. That's where she rings.
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That's how she passed away. Now we're told why does it tell
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us her years so explicitly in the fasu and tell us that
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although she passed away seemingly from an accident,
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reality is it was her time. Hashem has everyone's time.
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It might seem like it's accidental, but ultimately cool
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that these are her years. But this is the woman whom we
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say all her years were equally good.
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She passed away that way. Pile on to that.
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Her life was challenging a lot of ways.
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She spent a long time without children, even at the she had a
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son. She had a lot of issues with the
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influence of Ishmael. To use this woman as the
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example, as a prototype of Kulan Shavina Tova is very struggling,
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very difficult, All equally good.
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We have to figure that out. OK now I'm late although we're
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doing the parachat all equally good that's our first point and
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the bus to continue to say she passed away in a certain place
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he Hebron city of Hebron by Avoir Abraham Abraham in who
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came the sport listener to eulogize his wife.
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We live quota and to cry in her VF all right, so she classic.
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You know that the half is small. Why is the half small?
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Because he wants you to know that old dog around cried.
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He didn't overwhelm. He didn't cry in extreme amount
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because he didn't want it to seem as mentioned before, she
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passed away because of the bad Rouge.
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He didn't want it to seem like he regretted.
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I could die attack. If he would cry uncontrollably,
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it would be an indication he was upset of the circumstance and
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that would be an indication that he regrets I could attack.
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He didn't want to show that face.
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He didn't want it to seem that way and therefore the pasuk is a
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way to live caught out with us. More common tell us limited
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amount of crying and in fact it says eulogy before crying
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because first eulogizer and then he cried.
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He didn't have that unbelievable strong reaction because he
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controlled himself because of the circumstance.
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So you have them one right. We told her, we told you her
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entire life was equally good at going to the pasuk and we said
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that around Ibina came to eulogize it.
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But Sukhs Abraham came wasn't mean.
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He came, but white person wasn't mean.
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He came. Are she there on bond rights?
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Abraham? This is a little bit after
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Arkadayi's shot that's just been shot.
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And then after the al Qaeda, Araham Vinu travelled to a
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certain place, the place was bear chef, I believe, and
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Abraham stayed there for a little while and he stayed
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there. Then Aban says to thank Hashem.
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He was in that place for a little while to post like an
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attack, just as a reaction, just as an appreciation and thank you
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all Hashem for the whole outcome of his life so far.
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And how can I talk worked out and everything he's thinking
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Hashem. Then he finds out the news about
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his wife. He goes travels back to it to
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eulogize his wife. So it's a fun, interesting fact,
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which is he was in the process of appreciating and being
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thankful and then he gets his news.
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Just a sidebar, I need to figure out how that plays into it.
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This is the opening of Prasha now he cried for her.
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Why? And we said the small small half
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because when I say it wasn't overwhelming crime.
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So the question why is the letter half small?
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Why not the valve alarm live quota to cry for her?
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Why is letter half small? All right, so I want to play out
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a theme and said I am in his life.
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That's going to be a theme that you see in Abraham in your life.
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That will hopefully be a theme that you'll see in the new
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daughter in She's praying for her child.
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And then she had a day after 90 years.
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She was just the last 10 years. We Ishmael was a difficult
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influence on her son until 100 years old.
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She is in this state, right? 100 years old.
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The half is the point. The half, you break it apart.
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How do you spell the letter cuff?
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I say, how do you spell a little cuff?
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Now put a cuff, a letter with a PE.
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You spell it out. It's half and PE Hopper and Pear
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combined is 20 and 80 combination 100.
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Our Rahama Vino specifically didn't cry over the 100 years,
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the 100 years of her life, which seemed to have been somewhat
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challenging. Those are the years that we
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shrink the half the show, even though those were there in her
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sense, the difficult years. Still he didn't over cry about
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that. To show that too was good and
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we're trying to show you that the Nidavs that I am in was that
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she had a care of duty and the duty to say everything is good
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and that's why she's the woman whom we describe a lot about
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her. Kulan Shavin Latora.
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All her years were equally good. Were they?
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Absolutely not. There's a lot going on.
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She was abducted twice. She prayed for the children.
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She had the challenge, she had the all the issues.
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Her husband was taken away a few times.
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All the different things that was involved in, right.
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Her son had issues. Definitely not a good life, but
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we say equally good to bring out that she was a person whose
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approach her perspective on life was all equally good and we
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emphasize the half is small. In other words, that 100 years
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are small to tell us that although the 100 years most
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challenging of her life. That's the part that Muhammad
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show not to over cry to point out that it he didn't want to
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emphasize that it's challenging. Even the bad years were not bad.
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That's the point. That's how does meet up right
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now. This is a very significant thing
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as it continues by Akum Abraham. The pasuk says Abraham Vinu goes
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and I had to his wife passed away and after eulogy.
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Now he has to deal with getting a burial spot for Maratha Mahbad
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to purchase the property. And we know what the pasuk
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spells out in long detail the negotiations that he had the
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number one sketch of all time was the man he was dealing with.
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These are the words he tells first locals in the head.
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I'm a member of your your community gave it to a shop when
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I live here. Can I please buy a property to
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bury my I did and they say you're a very people say you're
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a very important person for us. Please take it right.
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You're not see you're a chosen person.
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Take the chosen one. Take the one that you want
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around Venus is great and he bows down and he's very
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appreciative good and then he says listen, if you really allow
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me to bury can I speak to can I meet everyone Bensoja and he'll
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give me the plot and I'll pay money for it Case of Malay I'll
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give a good amount of money around says I want to buy.
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Ephron at the time is a significant person.
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He was a powerful person. Now he just became powerful
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yesterday. In fact, she says that he became
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powerful only because of the sale and the potential sale.
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The fact that he was a man whom Abraham needed made him a
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significant man. Well, and Abraham goes to meet
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him where from? And what happens is Abraham asks
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him and the passoos is by the bill.
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The front of Abraham has the conversation with this man in
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front of everybody else. So everyone could hear clear as
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day goes. Now I'm audits L'amour.
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If you want to give me the property I found, I'll pay you
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full and I'll bury Everyone says I'm minister.
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What's 400? Zeus Ma bam or shake.
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A case of 400. Say a case of Benio Benhamai.
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400 of the finest coin, which is the kind of coin that works the
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whole world. Not any coin. 400 and the finest
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coin. What's that?
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It's nothing and you can get what you want.
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This is Abraham. This is their fault.
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Lines around that's as big a sketch as possible because he
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was asking for way more than it's worth and he's asking for a
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very specific currency and our and he had pretty much committed
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to Abraham to give it as a gift. This is a complete sketch.
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Now he ordered himself he had rights to have some reason yes
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yes Ishmael Abraham at the front and Abraham hears it doesn't say
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here's Efron doesn't say Ishmael Rahab Efron ET Efron El Efron a
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la from 2 or 4 means he could tell what this guy's up to.
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He doesn't just hear the words he hears a style and he gives
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them all the money he weighs the money for him in front of his
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face and he gives the money game over done says the clear car and
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I said this last year what who is this guy are from what's
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going on with this man have Raham wants to buy something.
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Why is it what I emphasizing so much the story?
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Why is every I'm dealing with this man.
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You know, this is considered one of the 10 tests.
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What's the test over here? What's the negotiation?
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What's happening now? What does this relate to you
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guess it this way. How does this relate to the
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whole Raham being a story that he had a hard time buying
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something You any one of us have a hard time buying a house now
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we may be you know, it's our test.
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What's happening over here? Cleaner car says when our Raham
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was doing in this negotiation, he was identifying the style of
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the Kanani Efron. It's Kanani.
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He's a local. Kanan comes from Kanan from
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Khan. That's bad people.
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And Abraham was identifying the style of Kanaan, which Efron
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held the torch. What is the style?
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The style? You want to call him a sketch?
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You want to call him a guy trying to make money.
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We call it Sade Ayen. Sade ayen means it's ayen Sade
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ayen. That means someone who's not
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content to what he has, and he wants everything he's not.
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His life is not good in his mind.
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His life is not complete. He's never not content.
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He wants it all. He wants way more than he
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deserves, way more that's coming to him.
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He's going to steal, sketch, lie, cheat to bring in the
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money. That's a Kanani, all right.
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And Abraham in these negotiations.
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The point is he was identifying that trait he knew he was
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dealing with. That's why he asked to meet him.
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That's why he offered a big number.
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That's why I mean, he offered. I want to pay and I want to take
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as a gift. I know what I'm dealing with.
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I'm dealing with the person who will never be content and
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therefore that man has to get an insane number to be satisfied.
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And this is the Yadav Kanani. How does this play into the
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Avraham having a story and that is Abraham with the Yadav, Sadaf
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first and then his. Everything was good, I'm happy,
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I'm solid, my life is great. UPS, downs, right, left, things
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going well, he's not going well. Kulan, Shavin, Latova,
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everything is equally good. Even the first 100 years, the
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most challenging of Sarah's life.
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Not going to cry about it. Those are not the bad years.
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It's all the same. That's Sarah's message and
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Rahama's carrying that in. And he's burying this woman with
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his mites in the might. And he's recognizing that the
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people around him, the Kananian, have the opposite mindset.
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They are Sarayan. They're not content, they're not
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happy. They want more.
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In fact, you're saying this week and aim?
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If not, if you take out the valve, say last year, I'm sorry,
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he thanked the BA Ephron. The gematria is la ayan.
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He has a bad eye. He's never content.
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His eye sees more and eye wants more, is unhappy.
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That's really what the core of Ayanara is.
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Core of Ayanara is now looking at inside the knee and being
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good, is looking outside to others and therefore being
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upset. That's Ayanara.
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That's what it is. And that's what this man had and
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that's why he wanted so much way beyond what he deserved.
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Abraham is dealing with him, he knows what he's dealing with.
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OK so Part 1 of the part of Shaw said as passing for her life is
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received as good. Part 2, Abraham buying his
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grave, dealing with a person, this person sees his life as
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bad. This person never content
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opposite types how to play into the next part.
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Next part is like this after Sir Raspberry, next part Suk says
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Abraham Zakan Babai, I mean Abraham is an elder now.
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Vashem Barakat, Abraham Bakkal and God bless Abraham Bakkal,
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what does it mean? What in the world can you have
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to have everything? God bless him with everything.
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We just mentioned by the way, that his wife passed away.
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I don't think it's a time naturally to say he has
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everything but this one. The bastook says he has
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everything. What does that mean #1 His wife
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just passed away #2 some say by calling it.
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He had a daughter whose name was by call, my last name.
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He calls his daughter Everything beautiful, Sam, everybody.
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If we had a daughter, here's the issue.
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What happened to that daughter? According to this explanation,
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means you had a daughter. Somebody had a son.
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You talk, I'll say a daughter. Steve, you never already had a
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daughter. Yeah, that I heard, though.
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Yes. Do you know what happened to
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that daughter? According to this job, I don't
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know if it was born the same time or a different time, but
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they came out. I believe it's Shannadines.
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No. Nope.
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She passed away. This is a very a very
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unceremonious, very anti climactic and definitely doesn't
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fit into the basuk Vashem Beraka de Abraham Baku.
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God bless Abraham with all that means.
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According to the shop, he had a daughter who passed away.
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It's not the pursuit to say it right.
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It's very, very strange. And I noticed this is one of the
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actors that she passed away. She passed away.
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According to this before setup has to win.
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And in fact, one of the explanations I have to show you
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the source. I have the source one of the
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explanations in the words that he cried for her live quota.
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We said there's a little huff. One of the reasons a little huff
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is if we removed the huff, it says he cried eulogized the
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Saddam UL Libita and for Saddam's daughter he removed the
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huff. The word smells the daughter,
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it's his daughter too. But he felt the loss of Sarah
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and her daughter together when Sarah passed away coined his
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approach. So she passed away prior.
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She passed away prior and coined to that approach so long as
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Sarah was alive, Abraham had somewhat the same restructure of
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the family had the woman in his life and said I passed away and
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then he felt both losses together.
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That's all fine. It's people have these in their
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lives, you know, in those times, but that's going to be the
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explanation about Shin Barakat Abraham Bako very strange.
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All right, so I believe the only way to explain this is the same
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approach I had. The approach of our ham and set
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up throughout their life was content, content, content.
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And even at a point when you're referencing the most or
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challenging moment in his life, you stick that into this Vasuka
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Bako to tell us that I'm sure he had ups and downs life.
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He had a million of them. He's trying to sneak into this
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Vasuk that with all that he perceives his life as everything
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with the ups and downs, with the loss of his wife, whatever he
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went through, ultimately he looked at his life and reflected
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and said, I was blessed with everything.
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It's a very high level of a raha vino, but it's an understanding
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of their approach. That's the deeper message.
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Obviously there's more there to his daughters and her parents or
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whatever, but this is a hint in the bazook of everything you
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mentioned a hint to the daughter because the idea is a Raham saw
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every element of his life as having all Steve make sense.
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It's hard fun. Anyway, this is let's go
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further. Let's continue as a team.
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Why do I need to know that he saw his life as everything next
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step after the pasuk says that he was blessed.
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He saw himself as blessed. He has to find his wife for duty
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for a son he's hawk. He sends Eliezer and Abraham is
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extremely particular and the wife whom he's choosing for
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himself right. He tells Eliezer, I want you to
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swear. Fiona.
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Abraham Al Abdul is a kind of Beto.
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How much? Shella?
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Behold, a Shello around, you know.
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Tell us his servant, the elder of his house, the one who was
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controlling everything, which means the one who was literally
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control of all Abraham's finances.
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He ran everything. Oh, he is it.
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Abraham tells him. I need you to swear.
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I need you to swear that you're going to get the right girl for
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my daughter. Don't take a Kanani girl for my
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son to me. Don't take a Kanani girl from
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this local land. You need to go back home, go
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back to her birthplace and take a wife from my Sonny.
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It's Hawk and then Ilyas it says, but maybe the girl will
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want to come. Abraham says I, Ilyas it says
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can I bring his hawk there? Maybe I was absolutely not.
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I don't want to start going there.
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I want either you get a girl from there or drop this mission.
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Why not? I mean better place.
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So now at side point. At side point, why did Abraham
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not want his son to go to the girls side?
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The reason, and I saw from a few services, everyone was concerned
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with influence. So he wanted it to be
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structured. He knew it was door.
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That door was not going to come from a good family.
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There are no good families. He wanted it to be structured in
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a way that is durable, moves away from our family.
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That means if he's going to get a girl from there, bring her
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here. If I didn't live here, maybe you
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could have got a girl from the locals.
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Maybe there's another problem, but maybe you could have got out
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from the locals. The problem is, is that we live
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here and if you get a girl from the locals, she's from Brooklyn
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and we live in Brooklyn and we stay in Brooklyn and she comes
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from a bad family. That's likely that I can't
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influence her and that's a challenge.
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So if a home wanted to make sure there's what I found that is
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Doran lives in a different place from her family and she could
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come into his family and go into the home way.
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That was one prayer quiz. And the other one was no local
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Kanani girl. What's so bad about Kanani girl?
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It's not like Lavon's daughters. You know Lavon's family's
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awesome family. I like Bitouel's family whose
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father was Kosegra was a great guy.
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So what's so bad about the Kanani locals?
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What's so bad that you should say that one was the reason
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Abraham was not willing to take a Kanani door online was because
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this Mida, the dominating Mida, the one that said I had she was
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Iintova. Everything was good her I only
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saw good fathers because she was content for herself.
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The one that he had even if we go maybe the the daughter idea
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is too extreme, but the overall theme that I have a harm
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reflected on his life and sword is all good.
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That's the perspective of two of them.
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That was the perspective of two of them.
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Now you contrast that way they're flowing that flowing as
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a Kanani guy Kani. They want everything for
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themselves. They're not happy whatever they
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have, they're never satisfied. They have ironed on other people
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that don't want my daughter-in-law to be that type.
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We only mesh with iron to them, that's never homestead us.
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And that's why no Konani girl, absolutely not for my son clears
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him. That's clear fine.
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So the as it goes and then he has a swears and he travels
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toward the spot and about the soup says he gets there and he
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says a prayer. He says Hashem, These are the
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words my Omar Hashem Elokai adani, Abraham, God, the God of
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my master Abraham, please do. He says, Abraham, if you know my
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master, I'm standing right here by the well.
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Will girls come to draw water? Let the girl who comes and
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offers me water and gives water to me and to my camels.
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Let her be the one for chosen Fiat hawk.
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He's throwing a test out of the hat.
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It seems he's throwing a random test.
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OK, he wants Christen I got he wants Chris, man.
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He wants Chris. But how do you know she neither
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I want What about that is going to identify everything for you?
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What's his point of his test? What happens if I sue says the
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moment that he who Ted him kill all of the bed the moment he
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finished his prayer, the native car you it's it of car shows up.
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She's a girl. She's a young girl, she's a
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family member and she has a jug jug on her shoulder.
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Beautiful girl and she goes down to bring water.
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Eliezer sees the scene and runs over to the pursuit and he goes
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over there and says can I have some water?
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Listen to his language. Can I have not Miami card I was
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to feel out that God was the girl who gives me and my camels
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to drink. That'll be the one that'll be
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the one He asked her for a little water.
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Why didn't he ask her for for water for me and my cows.
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He asks her for a little what's you doing her?
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That's Oman and she responds no see the me die.
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He wants out of her. She says you drink, stay out
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don't need my mess. You can drink but in my hair.
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She gets the water off the jug off her shoulder.
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She fills with the water and then she gets water to him.
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Add to his camels as his divilao was it was fulfilled to the Max.
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She gave word to him and his camels.
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OK, that's the story. Why did he ask her only for a
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little and then she offered much more His his hope was so give
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him a lot of word. Why do you ask her for a little
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and she gave him more. The answer is because he was
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searching for the family trait and the family trait said I had
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it. I Rahama had it and now we're
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going to see she has it of guys. That is, it's called Ayantava.
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Let me explain how Ayantava works.
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Ayantava means I'm good, I'm content, I want you to have
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good. I'm so happy with my life.
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I'm therefore I want you to have a happy life.
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When someone says I'm blessed with everything, that person is
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able to see good in other people and good for other people.
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When someone is not happy with their own life, they can't see
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happiness in others. So is searching for a girl who
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carries Ayantova. How do I know if she wants to
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give good or she wants good? Ask her for a little and if she
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responds with a lot, what is that proof?
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She wants you to have good. She wants to give, she wants you
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to have and that's the core medab Abraham and said ah, and
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now the daughter-in-law. That's why he did the test this
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way because he was looking for this.
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Can you hear that point? He's looking for that.
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Me done. It's to me done.
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It's opposite Kanani. Now there's one other guy who
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wanted to give his daughter to hit Hawk.
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Well, no by now. Who wanted his daughter to go to
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hit Hawk? Who wanted his urban and
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liaison. Abraham wanted his daughter to
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marry. It's Hawk.
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Remember, Eliezer was Abraham's main guy for a long time and he
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is it was in control of Raham's whole house.
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He was very much knowledgeable in our harm's way of thinking.
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And he said to himself, I want this is my daughter to marry a
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truck. And it's hinted in the words
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when he said the word olai, maybe there won't be any girl
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who wants to come from his truck.
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He spelled the word Eli al Islamabad, which means to me, I
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want you talk to be mine. I want my daughter to marry a
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truck. What's Abrahamino's classic
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response? Mikhosh writes to that request.
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Italy is a Hinton. Abraham says these words, Very
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difficult words. You're a Kanani and the Kananis
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are cursed. We're not like you.
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We're blessed. Cursed and blessed don't
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combine. I'm sorry.
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Adora is not going to work for my son.
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I mean, it's very encouraging. It's a nice pal in the back and
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I thank you for all it is. It did, but Abraham turned him
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down. Abraham trusted his old.
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I guess it's safe with it. So he chose.
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Abraham cares more about his son than he doesn't have his money.
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That's a good point. You're right.
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That's right. But that statement is key.
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He didn't randomly say I don't want your daughter to marry my
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son. He said you're a Kanani.
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So what's so bad? As we explain, Kanani is sorry.
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Iyan Kanani is someone who is not really content in their own
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life and they therefore don't want happiness for others.
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That's the opposite of Rabra's family.
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So therefore your daughter might come from a great father.
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It's not going to work 'cause we can't yell.
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All right, good. Follow.
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Now Elia is it sees we've come and he goes over to her and he
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gets he talks to her. Who's your father?
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The whole business. And eventually Elia is head to
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servant of Rabra is brought to meet of Ka's father.
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And then you have and if I shall, you'll notice it pages
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after pages where he repeats the whole story.
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My master has a son. I was sent to get a a girl from
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my master's son. He says the whole story that he
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just did in this performed and I prayed and she came and did it.
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The whole request, the whole story.
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He repeats the whole story. We know it already.
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He's written it out and he says it again same.
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Isn't that strange? Lion to lion to lion, repeating
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the story they already know. Why are we doing this?
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Isn't it this well known Gemara? Gemara says Hashem loves the
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language, the conversations of a servant of the Alvaro.
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It says the Gemara Yafair. It's more impressive and more
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beautiful. The language of a servant of
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Araha Vino, more than some of the biggest halahot in the
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Torah. Certain major halahot have
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developed over one line, one word in Torah, and this
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conversation is sold over pages which tells us Lily collabs.
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It tells us. It's more impressive, more
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significant, more important, the conversation and the way Eliasin
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Evra Abraham talks than it is to learn a very powerful halaha
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from the Torah. This is more important.
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I don't understand that. Why is it so significant to hear
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all he has this conversation? Why is it so impressive to hear
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the way he talks? Why does it make a difference?
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He has the conversation. We all have conversations.
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He's saying over the story, you're ready to know what's the
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big deal? What you think, Dave?
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What's so impressive all he has this conversation?
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OK, I'm missing you on this by question.
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What's I'll figure about some of it.
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It's right home. I wouldn't either if I need to
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prepare it. So here's the thought.
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We said earlier from the beginning asked Ibrahim.
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I want my daughter for your son. So going in, he was given a task
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to go find his hack, a wife, and he wanted him to him to his own
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daughter. So imagine someone who gives you
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a job and says, listen, I want you to go, right?
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Exactly. I want you to go.
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I want you to go do something major, but I want you to do it
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for me and not for yourself, right?
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I don't know where it is. I want you to go suddenly go
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purchase something. You have the money and the
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capability, but do it for me. Don't do it for yourself.
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And the answer had asked specifically, he had asked for
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his daughter to marry a truck and now he has to be the one
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himself. Not only does he lose out on the
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deal, he has to be the guy himself to go find a different
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wife for his hawk. And what does he do?
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He doesn't slack off on a deal, do a week job.
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He travels, he stands there and freeze comes up with a nick
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idea. He's given a very difficult job.
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He's 1000 excuses. Exactly, exactly right he's
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given. He asked.
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Rahm gave him a job. A very difficult task.
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Only the best people can have this task, right?
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I'm the one. Aliazid wants this boy for his
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own daughter. Another task is even more
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painful. By the way, you can go search
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out for a girl the whole world, Magna, someone tells you, go
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find the one good girl, the only good girl in the entire world.
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I know it ended up being family, but still, there's a big search.
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She has to be a lot of requirements and find it.
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Aliazid on his own doesn't slack off, doesn't go lazy, doesn't go
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slow. He actually gets there very
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miraculously fast. That's him so, and he says the
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whole creative prayer. He does the opposite of the
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natural mindset. But if that's the case, his
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daughter should have been good enough, 01 second, very good.
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So he does all this and now let's play this out.
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The reason maybe that the Gemara is saying that we, the Tada,
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wants to spell pages and spell a lot of ink on his conversation,
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his words to show you what a person can be.
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Look how wonderful a person can be so willing and wishing and
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hoping for good on somebody else even as they themselves cannot
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have a partner. It's unbelievably impressive
31:50
what it really is. It did.
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He wanted this boy for his own daughter and instead he did all
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this effort to get this boy over to another girl.
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It's unbelievable. And that's why it's what Ackman
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is. It is.
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It's so impressive and gives it so much airtime because of its
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lesson. Ayantova.
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Stephen's asking Ayantova. He just uncannonied himself.
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He's not a Tony. Now his daughter should be able
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to marry his Hawk. You're right.
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In fact, later on the parasha, the pasuk says Eliezer was
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referred to as Baruch, says Azar.
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Baruch. I thought he's a Kanani.
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Azar writes through this process and through his deeds and
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through adopting his master's way of thinking and being
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Ayantova, he now became Baruch. He now became blessed because
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he's acting like Abraham, he's acting like Sarai, he's acting
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like a family, and he's getting a girl of the same mold and he's
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hoping for good for other people.
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While he himself was losing out. Ayantova, he is Baruch now.
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If you would give his heart to his daughter now and like they
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might undo the whole thing and might make the whole thing a
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sketch. It has to remain.
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He really was identified. He really gave him a sob.
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He really wanted good for somebody else while he himself
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didn't get it. That's an identifier.
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Now he's by the And he became a person.
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That's the idea. This.
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I don't know. I don't know.
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We have to find out. We have one girl who passed away
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going to the parish. Yeah, we have to find it.
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I don't know. I think so.
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So this is the process. Akarani becomes Akarani now,
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right? Exactly.
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This is a story and there's a Mishnam that says that there's a
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difference between the Tommy Dean of Abraham Vino in
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comparison to Tommy Dean and Billam Focus on Abraham.
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The students of Abraham Vino have ayinto valid, Mishnam says
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a good aye. They're humble and they don't
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want a lot. Ruach Nabala and Ruach Nimuhah
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and Nibir Shifrilla, they don't want a lot.
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They're humble and they're the good eye.
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That's the student of Abraham Alvio, the student of Balaam,
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the opposite. So I saw this question.
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Why don't you talk about Abraham himself?
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Say Abraham Alvina was a person who had a good eye.
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Why are you telling me students of Abraham Alvio?
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Cut to the chase. Talk about the person himself.
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This is obviously his trait. We're talking about the students
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having their Rabbi street. So go straight to the point.
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If someone has a good, I'm sorry of having had a good eye, say
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that because he passes it all ideas back to Noah.
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Sam, if you go back to Noah, we didn't pass it alone too.
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All right, Exactly. Very good.
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The ideas like this. The medal of a good eye is not a
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medal. If you're really a person with a
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good eye, which means you want others to succeed.
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You content in your own life. You don't see every time
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something goes well for somebody else as if it's being taken away
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from you. You don't see every time
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someone's building a house, as if someone's supposed to be in
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my house. And all these things that people
35:07
think, right? That's how the competitive world
35:09
thinks. You don't think that way.
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If it's strong, it's going to be noticeable in your students.
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It's going to be noticeable. And the people who come from
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you, who know you, who are around you, they're going to
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adopt your way. The strength of this meet up is
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that it goes over to the next generation.
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That's our song. It's not just a regular nice
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guy. I identify something that molds
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the whole world picture. That's what it is.
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And your chosen follow your students follow the people who
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are close to you follow. That's what I intervise has
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said. It's has said some people like
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to give some people knowledge, generous but thinking and
35:45
shaping the world in this way. If you're a person that's
35:48
content and you're a person, therefore, who is accepting of
35:52
others, having success, which is a difficult thing to do, it goes
35:55
over. You see it, and the people who
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come from you, your students, children and all those who know
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you, that's how it works. Because I can tell that good
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Eliezen is the servant of Rahabeen.
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He's not Rahabeen himself. The reason the TADA gave you
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pages or columns about Eliezer's approach, because the TADA, I
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want to tell you, don't look at Abraham.
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We don't ever have an I interval.
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You all know, however, hams I ain't Eva was so good.
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Look at his servant. Look at his student that he has
36:29
that we define as his greatest student.
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You can see from the student whatever Ham was 'cause this is
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diving me down. That's relevant.
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If they reflected in the children in the students and
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those who come from him. That's how you can see it.
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So you mentioned specifically the student.
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We mentioned the story. We give more airtime tail he is
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as I ain't Eva, then we do to our Homs because it's more
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noticeable. The strength of Ilyas Iintiva
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through around Ilyas. That's why we give it so much
36:59
time. That's why we give it so much
37:00
emphasis. And that is a message about
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Pyarsha. So All in all, the Pyarsha we go
37:04
start to finish. It starts with Sarah's life
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being all equally good, even though he wasn't.
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No, it wasn't because she was content.
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That's idea number one. That was her way and she had
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therefore content in my life. I ain't about told others then
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he goes Abraham purchasing the property for a man who wanted
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way more than he deserved. He's a cranny everyone he's said
37:28
I'm he's the opposite of content Contras and you go back Bahshin
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Abraham God bless Abraham with everything I told you that
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follow up shot that it was a door who passed away whether you
37:40
go with it or not regardless, Hashem blessed Abraham with
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everything is Esteeman saying can I can I say I have
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everything Can you say you have everything.
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Those words are not words. Who has everything Can you have
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everything I don't hear everything, everything I need
37:55
there you go but bacall means Bacall means the reflection.
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It's a perspective saying I feel that my life is 1000% whole.
38:04
I feel that I'm fully blessed. That perspective is the family
38:09
perspective it's I in Toava. That's the idea content and
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therefore looking because I'm content here, I'm looking for
38:15
good in others. The only reason why people have
38:16
a hard time with others succeeding is because they're
38:20
jealous. And why are they jealous?
38:21
Because there's a hole inside. When there's a hole inside, they
38:24
don't feel they don't feel proper over here.
38:26
They don't feel complete over here.
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They have a hard thing about this success content here.
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I want others to do well. And that's actually the core
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core of our Mahoms. Listen, it wasn't just listen.
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It was this fine. It's got the back and forth Sada
38:40
and flown Abraham and nearly he is that we say wants his
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daughter to get his cock and he's turned down because he's
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Kanani. He's one of the locals around.
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Totally is it You have to swear one thing.
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Do not take a girl from Kanan, from my son.
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Nothing doing. Why?
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Because the Kanani have this mida and that does not work.
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We can influence, we can develop, we can become great.
39:04
We can serve our chef, but if you have this mida, it's a non
39:06
starter. That's what he's telling you he
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isn't and that's his swear till he isn't and that's also his
39:12
turn. Got it.
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He has his daughter now Lizza goes to all the effort and we
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spend so much time on it, all his language and he looks for
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Sarah, as we said to make sure I Rivka.
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He asks her for a little and she gives a lot.
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I want to see that just I and Tova.
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I want to see if she's someone who wants others to have
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consider our family perfect. She's the girl.
39:32
And then at the same time, Lizza goes through this very long
39:36
process and detailed and effort and convincing and everything
39:40
working to get Rivka back to it's hot to show.
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I am a student of Rahavino and I adopted his way and therefore I
39:48
become Baruch. And this reflects of Raham's own
39:52
unbelievable me thought. Because if you have a interval,
39:55
all those who know you and all those who learn from you will
39:58
follow you away. That's really the entire, I
39:59
think that's to punish on a bow. That's the idea.
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And for us, we're taking the lesson out of this.
40:06
The lesson is key is that in life, the best thing to have is
40:11
to be content. No one has life that's perfect.
40:15
Nobody has a day that's even complete, right?
40:18
When do you have a day that works at 100%?
40:21
We all have ups and downs, things going on and we also all
40:23
have this constant feeling like next thing's coming and next
40:27
thing's coming. But content is a feeling that
40:30
even as everything's going on and things go good and weak and
40:33
differently all back and forth, I'm solid.
40:36
If I'm solid, I can look like a whole different way and said I
40:40
am in a passed away in tragedy. But still we reflect on her life
40:44
of all lives. Kulan Shagunasava.
40:47
That is the mindset for some stories like these.
40:49
It's challenging, some of them are extreme, but for every one
40:53
of us, it's doable. And the number one we die.
40:56
You want to have underlying everything else.
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Is this because if you're content, every day is awesome.
41:04
If you're not content, every day is a challenge that's much
41:06
harder to live. And the truth is we all have a
41:08
good reason not to be content. Everyone does, but at the same
41:11
time, we all have a very solid reason to be happy.
41:15
It's no coincidence, I think, that Abraham Avina was in the
41:17
process of thanking Hashem post Akadayat Khak when the nuns
41:23
about Sarah and he still kept that made-up.
41:27
He still didn't over cry and didn't over get oversight 'cause
41:31
he wants to keep up that style of saying I know I'm going
41:35
through something, I know things up and down, but overall I'm
41:38
good and overall I'm blessed. And every one of us can say both
41:41
those lines. I know I'm going to do something
41:43
Provo all blessed. And that is the mida that a
41:46
person has to have. And it turns out this is the
41:49
foundation of what makes life awesome.
41:53
Otherwise, life's got a lot of reasons to be difficult with
41:56
this. It can be awesome.
41:57
This is the idea. All right, This is a branch on
42:00
what time is it? Who did Ali Ezra's daughter end
42:02
up marry? I know that's the big question.
42:04
I got to figure out what Ali Ezra's daughter end up marry.
42:07
Was there a bet? Was there any kind of backup
42:09
plan in case he wasn't able to be successful in this mission?
42:11
According to Rashid, there was a backup plan which was take from
42:16
other family, still not Kanani, but a sacred mother family.
42:20
But Eliazar was nowhere in in the planes anywhere.
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Eliazar was never in the planes. Nope.
42:26
She did become Baduk. Like I said, I don't know who
42:28
she married. That would be cool to find that
42:30
out. All right, I might have to AI
42:32
that one. We'll start with this.
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What was that thing? It was.