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#HURDLEMOMENT: It's Time to Reevaluate Your Priorities · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: It's a beautiful day to be a hurdler, what's shake
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  Speaker 1: and rock Stars? Only a body here. You are listening
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  Speaker 1: to another hurdle moment from Hurdle, a podcast that talks
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  Speaker 1: to everyone from entrepreneurs to top CEOs and athletes about
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  Speaker 1: how they got through tough times hurdles of sorts by
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  Speaker 1: leaning into wellness. This week, I'm talking all about priorities.
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  Speaker 1: I think it really takes a strong person to understand
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  Speaker 1: that everyone's priorities are different. There are going to be
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  Speaker 1: times when you feel like something is more important than
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  Speaker 1: someone that's close to you, and sometimes that can be
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  Speaker 1: a little bit of a letdown. But today's episode is
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  Speaker 1: not to put down others for not sharing your view,
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  Speaker 1: but instead to help you figure out what it is
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  Speaker 1: that's truly important to you and how to make time
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  Speaker 1: for it. Plain and simple, action expresses priorities. Let me
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  Speaker 1: say that again, Action expresses priorities. Got it. It's easy
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  Speaker 1: to get into a new routine where we act on
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  Speaker 1: things in life that feel urgent, but we owe it
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  Speaker 1: to ourselves to spend more time on what's important. A
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  Speaker 1: quick example, I was talking to the guys behind Heyday
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  Speaker 1: last week in their episode of Hurdles coming soon, and
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  Speaker 1: Adam ross Or, one of the co founders, mentioned that
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  Speaker 1: he used to work in a job as an investment
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  Speaker 1: banker that paid him a ton of money pretty sweet rate.
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  Speaker 1: The thing is is that during that time, he had
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  Speaker 1: a hard conversation with a friend about how he wasn't
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  Speaker 1: really showing up anymore. It triggered him to evaluate his priorities,
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  Speaker 1: and by doing that, he realized that no amount of
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  Speaker 1: money was going to make him happy if he felt
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  Speaker 1: unfulfilled in his relationships, so he stopped investment banking and
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  Speaker 1: made a huge career pivot. I'm going to talk you
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  Speaker 1: through an exercise that helps you figure out not only
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  Speaker 1: what your priorities are, but how do you give them
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  Speaker 1: all quality time in your schedule. As always at Hurdle
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  Speaker 1: Podcast at Emily a Body, I want to be putting
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  Speaker 1: up a graphic on social media this morning where you
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  Speaker 1: can fill out your priorities and share them with me.
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  Speaker 1: Also going to be making a new highlight at the
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  Speaker 1: Hurdle Podcast Instagram that'll contain all these little notebook fill
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  Speaker 1: in the blank sort of things for safekeeping, So look
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  Speaker 1: out for that. Let me know what's important to you
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  Speaker 1: and then maybe let me know one thing you're changing
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  Speaker 1: to be better about your time, better about those priorities.
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  Speaker 1: Shoot me an email. It's Emily at hurdle dot us
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  Speaker 1: and do me one more favor this week. Head on
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  Speaker 1: in on your podcast app, rate and review Hurdle over there,
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  Speaker 1: and share the episode with a friend. You guys are
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  Speaker 1: the best. Let's get to this week's hurdle moment. Everyone
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  Speaker 1: has their own agenda. Generally speaking, that agenda is filled
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  Speaker 1: with a mix of different priorities. Whether that involves work,
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  Speaker 1: or friends or family. The list goes on as to
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  Speaker 1: what components make up the bulk of our time. I
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  Speaker 1: recently took the month of May to take a step
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  Speaker 1: back and analyze my priorities. From March and April, I'd
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  Speaker 1: been working what felt like constantly, putting in eight her
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  Speaker 1: days in the office, taking a quick break likely to
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  Speaker 1: maybe change my clothes and drink some wine, and then
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  Speaker 1: sit back down at my laptop for a few more
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  Speaker 1: hours before going to sleep. I'd get up at five am.
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  Speaker 1: I'd do it again. To be real, I was just
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  Speaker 1: so drained. I felt tired and cranky and unsure. And
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  Speaker 1: when I was doing the things that weren't work related.
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  Speaker 1: I felt as though I really couldn't fully concentrate because
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  Speaker 1: I had a to do list in the back of
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  Speaker 1: my head of a zillion things to get done. Now,
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  Speaker 1: don't get me wrong, hard work pays off. I know this.
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  Speaker 1: There was a reason that I needed to put my
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  Speaker 1: head down and grind and get things done for those
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  Speaker 1: two months. But when I came out of it, I
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  Speaker 1: understood that I needed to make a shift for the
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  Speaker 1: betterment of my mental health, and so I made a list,
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  Speaker 1: as one does when they're just trying to figure it
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  Speaker 1: all out, and one of the lists that I made
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  Speaker 1: was to address what my priorities are. I talked about
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  Speaker 1: this on the podcast before when I sat down with
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  Speaker 1: Diana Trout. She's the CEO and co founder of health
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  Speaker 1: Aid at Kombucha, and we talked about her bucket theory.
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  Speaker 1: This bucket theory is that we all have certain things
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  Speaker 1: in our life, certain priorities, and each of those priorities
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  Speaker 1: has their own bucket. Let's take a quick lesson to
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  Speaker 1: a clip from episode forty nine.
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  Speaker 2: Now, imagine you start. They're all full of water right now.
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  Speaker 2: You drill a hole into the bottom of each of them.
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  Speaker 2: So now they're it's dear Liza, there's a hole in
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  Speaker 2: your bucket. So basically, my theory is, if you let
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  Speaker 2: one of these things go and you don't refill it
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  Speaker 2: with water, it will eventually empty out, and if it's
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  Speaker 2: empty for long enough, it will go away. And so
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  Speaker 2: if you only feed one bucket, it's the only one
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  Speaker 2: that will feel full, and the others will not, and
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  Speaker 2: you will feel lacking. Even the people that give to
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  Speaker 2: themselves perfectly on our super self care people, they even
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  Speaker 2: come to you and say they're unfulfilled sometimes, and the
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  Speaker 2: reason is they're not thinking about the other things important
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  Speaker 2: in their lives and giving to it enough.
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  Speaker 1: She's got a point right. When the month of May started,
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  Speaker 1: I was working deliberately to do some self reflection and
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  Speaker 1: also just working less and giving myself time to do
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  Speaker 1: the work. I began to think about what my buckets
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  Speaker 1: consist of for me, and I have a lot of
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  Speaker 1: things that are important in my life, but not all
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  Speaker 1: those things can be a priority. So I wrote down
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  Speaker 1: my buckets. They are being a good friend, being a
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  Speaker 1: good daughter or family member, being a good partner, being
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  Speaker 1: good to myself, and being good in business. Now, in
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  Speaker 1: order to feel fulfilled, you have to make time for
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  Speaker 1: all of your buckets. So to do this, I do
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  Speaker 1: the same fifteen minute exercise every single Sunday morning, whether
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  Speaker 1: I'm in New York or on the road or wherever
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  Speaker 1: I might be. It just helps me get out of
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  Speaker 1: my own way, get unstuck and commit. It's pretty simple too.
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  Speaker 1: Step one, I open my Google calendar. Step two I
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  Speaker 1: transfer my appointments into a planner or just another piece
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  Speaker 1: of paper. Now I use a planner that I bought
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  Speaker 1: really inexpensive at Anthropology from Rifle of Paper Company, but hey,
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  Speaker 1: literally anything could work for this. By writing these things
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  Speaker 1: down and transferring my appointments and my dates and my
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  Speaker 1: to dos, I a cement my schedule into my head
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  Speaker 1: and then b am able to digest what's really on
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  Speaker 1: deck for the week. Once I do this, I then
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  Speaker 1: commit to adding in at least two things each week
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  Speaker 1: that pour water, so to speak, into the buckets. So
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  Speaker 1: what does this look like in practice? Well, the one
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  Speaker 1: bucket I feel like I never need to work to
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  Speaker 1: fill is business. That's because I guess on most days,
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  Speaker 1: I'm usually in an office by around ten am and
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  Speaker 1: I'm out by four pm. That's a lot of time
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  Speaker 1: working on me, on my business, on my work. Then
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  Speaker 1: I look to see what plans are on deck for
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  Speaker 1: after work and before work, and this is where I
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  Speaker 1: have the opportunity to be a good friend, a good daughter,
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  Speaker 1: a good partner, and good to myself. For you, this
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  Speaker 1: could look as simple as scheduling a midday lunch with
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  Speaker 1: a friend who works near you, or penciling in a
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  Speaker 1: call mom on Tuesday when you're making your to do list.
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  Speaker 1: There are also ways to easily integrate this without a
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  Speaker 1: huge time commitment. Something I started doing at the beginning
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  Speaker 1: of this year was sending handwritten notes to two different
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  Speaker 1: people each month. This practice probably takes about ten to
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  Speaker 1: fifteen minutes total time between buying and writing the cards,
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  Speaker 1: and in that small amount of time, I feel happy
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  Speaker 1: that I've let someone special to me know that I
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  Speaker 1: care about them. I will say this, Arguably, getting good
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  Speaker 1: at this much planning takes time, and for some people
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  Speaker 1: it can be a struggle. Sometimes it's hard to make
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  Speaker 1: time for all of your priorities when you're not used
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  Speaker 1: to it. So I want you to do this for
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  Speaker 1: me right now. Write down your buckets. I'd say cap
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  Speaker 1: it at six total. Then below those buckets, write down
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  Speaker 1: one thing you've been meaning to do lately, but have it.
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  Speaker 1: I know you have something there. I know there's that
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  Speaker 1: one thing. It's the monster. It's the thing that we
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  Speaker 1: put off over and over and over again. For me,
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  Speaker 1: this sounds so simple. I have a gift card to
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  Speaker 1: go get stretched at an assisted stretching facility down the
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  Speaker 1: street from my office, and I, for some reason, just
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  Speaker 1: can't take the twenty five minutes to get there. I've
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  Speaker 1: been putting it off. I'm going to do it. I
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  Speaker 1: promise I'll come back to you about it this week anyway.
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  Speaker 1: One last note, having priorities also means having some boundaries.
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  Speaker 1: So if you want to make time for a partner,
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  Speaker 1: sometimes you need to say no to the third work
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  Speaker 1: drinks event of the week. Or maybe you need to
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  Speaker 1: make sure you're in bed by ten pm so that
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  Speaker 1: getting up at six point thirty to work out doesn't
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  Speaker 1: make you feel like a total zombie. It's a give
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  Speaker 1: and take. What you'll realize is that once you make
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  Speaker 1: time in your life for the things that you care about,
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  Speaker 1: life is better. You are better, and hopefully you won't
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  Speaker 1: feel so stressed. Trust me, you guys have got this
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  Speaker 1: one in the bag again. Anything new can always feel
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  Speaker 1: a bit overwhelming, but the first step is a step
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  Speaker 1: in the right direction, getting comfortable with the uncomfortable and
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  Speaker 1: understanding that you have the power to do anything that
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  Speaker 1: you set your mind to. That's it for this week
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  Speaker 1: at em Laybody at Hurdle podcast, Another hurdle conquered. Catch
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  Speaker 1: you guys next time.