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Judging Women · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: We got a question for our American mamas. Dear mamas,
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  Speaker 1: is it fair that women are judged more for how
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  Speaker 1: their home looks than men are?
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  Speaker 2: Well, let's ask our American mamas.
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  Speaker 3: Alma ma, she said, and.
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  Speaker 1: Joining us now our American mama's Terry Edeville and Kimberly Burlison,
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  Speaker 1: y'all aren't judged for the way your home looks?
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  Speaker 3: Are you?
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  Speaker 4: I have been told that I'm a very scary person
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  Speaker 4: when we're getting ready for company, Company's coming over. Everybody
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  Speaker 4: is scared of me, including my husband. But he's not stressed.
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  Speaker 4: He's not stressed at all because he's not doing anything.
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  Speaker 4: It's the dumbest thing ever.
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  Speaker 2: But he's scared of you.
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  Speaker 4: He's scared of me. But I just recently, yesterday, I
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  Speaker 4: saw that there was a study done. Good Housekeeping actually
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  Speaker 4: did a study okay, And they showed a panel a
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  Speaker 4: picture of a clean room in the same room dirty okay,
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  Speaker 4: And they asked the people who did that, Jane or John,
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  Speaker 4: which room belongs to them. Of course, you can assume
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  Speaker 4: people assume Jane did the clean room and John did
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  Speaker 4: the negative room. Then when they reversed it, people were
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  Speaker 4: judging Jane they couldn't believe the room was dirty, but
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  Speaker 4: John nobody cared that it was a dirty ring.
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  Speaker 1: So if John's room was dirty, nobody was there. But
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  Speaker 1: if Jane's room was dirty, everybody's like, oh.
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  Speaker 3: That that hard.
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  Speaker 4: So this study validated to me that my feeling of
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  Speaker 4: being judged founded.
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  Speaker 5: All right, yeah, well I judge myself. I hate when
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  Speaker 5: my house is dirt. Well, okay, here's the deal. I'll
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  Speaker 5: tell you this is the truth of it. Every room
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  Speaker 5: in my house except from my own you know, my
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  Speaker 5: own room, I just shut the door because I share
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  Speaker 5: that room with my husband, who is a hoarder.
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  Speaker 2: So his side of.
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  Speaker 5: The room has boxes and ammunition and sports things, and
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  Speaker 5: I just have to like just close my door.
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  Speaker 2: I can't, I can't. I cannot. So I'm not your sanctuary.
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  Speaker 5: No, it is definitely not my sanctuary. I think I've
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  Speaker 5: gotten him to get to the point where he's gonna
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  Speaker 5: buy I mean, we're gonna build a shop. Okay, so
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  Speaker 5: all this hunting stuff goes into the shop. Everything is anyway,
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  Speaker 5: So I can't really think clearly when my house is dirty.
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  Speaker 5: It drives me nuts. I'll have a dirty house it
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  Speaker 5: is if I know, no one's coming. I just want
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  Speaker 5: to get on the couch and watch TV. But I
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  Speaker 5: can't really. Like the most clear headed that I ever
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  Speaker 5: am is when my entire house is clean.
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  Speaker 4: Do you judge other people when you go into a
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  Speaker 4: dirty home? Do you think?
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  Speaker 2: No, I feel better about myself.
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  Speaker 5: That's actually what Lindsay said. Our sister was here last
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  Speaker 5: night and she said she came. I said, why did
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  Speaker 5: she come in a bathroom? Because she went through my
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  Speaker 5: room to come to my bathroom to ask me something.
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  Speaker 2: And I heard some er my daughter in the background.
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  Speaker 2: She was laughing.
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  Speaker 5: I was like, do not come in here? And she said,
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  Speaker 5: it makes me feel better about my own room.
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  Speaker 2: It's so bad. I hate it.
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  Speaker 5: But anyway, I think that there is something about the cleanliness.
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  Speaker 5: Although your question is valid, I don't if I go
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  Speaker 5: into someone someone else's house and they go, oh my gosh,
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  Speaker 5: like Tristan my daughter, Oh my gosh, go go just.
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  Speaker 2: Just excuse me. I'm like Tristan, I don't care. Okay,
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  Speaker 2: but she has a baby. If you have a baby, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: that's yeah. Ex When anybody says that, when anybody.
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  Speaker 4: Says that, okay, I have to come clean because I
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  Speaker 4: have been in someone's house and they're my age and
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  Speaker 4: their kids are grown, and their house was disgusting. It
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  Speaker 4: was disgusting in my.
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  Speaker 1: Bad right now, I've never been happier, you've never been
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  Speaker 1: at my house because I know you're not talking.
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  Speaker 4: About no, no, no, so, but I my first thought
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  Speaker 4: was why didn't she clean the house? Why didn't she
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  Speaker 4: clean the I didn't even think about her husband. I
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  Speaker 4: immediately thought about her and thought, why why didn't you
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  Speaker 4: at least clean the bathroom? I don't understand that. So
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  Speaker 4: I was I was judgmental, and you were judging a woman.
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  Speaker 5: Like if you got you know, somebody that hoards things
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  Speaker 5: and it's dirty and there's you know, food like dry
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  Speaker 5: on the plates. That's different. If you walk in it's
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  Speaker 5: like messy, like a lived in messy or like whatever.
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  Speaker 5: But it has to be really dirty to judge.
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  Speaker 2: Don't you think? Like it has to be like you
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  Speaker 2: you know who I'm talking about.
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  Speaker 5: No I don't, Yeah you do.
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  Speaker 4: So we were like, so you were judging too. She
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  Speaker 4: was judging to everybody.
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  Speaker 2: Wait no, no, no, the mics will pick it up.
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  Speaker 2: The mics will pick it up.
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  Speaker 1: We'll talk about it, we'll talk about it.
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  Speaker 5: I see I clearly have forgotten. That's another thing with
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  Speaker 5: walked if it smells. I remember Kimberly and I we
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  Speaker 5: took piano lessons at Miss Kelly's house when we were little,
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  Speaker 5: and poor Kimberly was allergic to cats.
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  Speaker 2: She's allergic to everything.
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  Speaker 5: So she'd go in looking like a you know, normal
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  Speaker 5: person and walk out with red.
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  Speaker 2: But we still.
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  Speaker 5: Her house was dirty and there were cats everywhere. And
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  Speaker 5: I remember, even as a little girl, like, oh, it
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  Speaker 5: was dark, like she had the lamp so it was
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  Speaker 5: like dark. But that's what I remember about her.
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  Speaker 4: If you are a cat family, like my son and
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  Speaker 4: daughter in law, there cat people. Yes, you have to
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  Speaker 4: be very careful with cat. You have to keep it
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  Speaker 4: clean because it's.
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  Speaker 2: The top of the counter.
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  Speaker 4: It's real easy to pick up on the smells and
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  Speaker 4: that kind of thing to other people. And so they are.
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  Speaker 4: They are diligent in keeping things clean, but this particular.
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  Speaker 4: And I love cats. I love cats. I love them
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  Speaker 4: to nuzzle them. I hate that I'm allergic to them
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  Speaker 4: because I love that.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, because nuzzling is a great way to love them.
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  Speaker 5: Show I know I love them so much, y'all would
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  Speaker 5: be surprised. I'm a dog person, but we've adopted this
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  Speaker 5: cat that just started coming over. I have a little palate.
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  Speaker 5: She won't come inside.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know. It starts, yeah, well for the last tear.
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  Speaker 1: You adopt dogs, cats adopt you.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, that's exactly right. And she'll come in when it's
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  Speaker 5: just me in the house and help you clean.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, if you like to ask her, America mom was
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  Speaker 2: Terry Nunifle, Kimber Brothers and thank you so much.
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  Speaker 3: Thanks