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Ep 87 "Six Flags Over #WTB" · We Talk Back

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  Speaker 1: We're just too unapologetically black women with an opinion. He
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  Speaker 1: talks back back. Yeah, what's up y'all? Thank you for
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  Speaker 1: tuning in for a new episode that we Talk Back,
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  Speaker 1: a show dedicated to these niggas. And you host, you
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  Speaker 1: know what's your co host? A J what's up? Team?
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  Speaker 1: Hey y'all. Hey everybody, it's your girl, Tam Bam. I
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  Speaker 1: love y'all. Thank y'all once again for coming to see us.
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  Speaker 1: And we got a guest house today. Yeah. Hey, I'm sure,
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  Speaker 1: I'm and I'm just excited to be here because I
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  Speaker 1: love y'all. Show somebody to talk back and talk some ship. Hey, y'all.
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  Speaker 1: Shawnji is my my Instagram friend. I don't know when
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  Speaker 1: we started following each other, but she's a super dope
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  Speaker 1: artist Okay from Brooklyn. Yeah, tell our listeners a little
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  Speaker 1: bit about yourself, what you got going on. I paint
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  Speaker 1: like a lot of vaginas. I think other things too,
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  Speaker 1: but I mostly known from my vaginas. Take them to
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  Speaker 1: look like really pretty and just nice and ship like that.
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  Speaker 1: And I like to paint things that's like from like
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  Speaker 1: my life story. So that's basically where most of my
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  Speaker 1: art comes is probably why I like, I painted a
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  Speaker 1: lot of giants at the time when I was paying
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  Speaker 1: the collection, you know, so what you like pussy like that,
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  Speaker 1: that's the thing. Everybody asked me that, but I really don't,
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  Speaker 1: like I'm strictly dicky, but it's just like I think
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  Speaker 1: it's like the power in it, I'll say, and like
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  Speaker 1: the power that it possessed, and like from painting that
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  Speaker 1: I kind of realized, like even like posting on Instagram,
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  Speaker 1: like my dms were looking at so crazy, and it's
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  Speaker 1: like I barely post myself strictly from artwork. So I'm like, okay, yes,
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  Speaker 1: I went to your Instagram page and those pussies do
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  Speaker 1: look like flowers. Oh no, my look like it though
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  Speaker 1: look a little different than that. Everybody's gran look different,
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  Speaker 1: but I promise you was gonna looks like a beautiful
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  Speaker 1: flower to the right person. And it's crazy because when
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  Speaker 1: I started paying them, I didn't even look at mine,
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  Speaker 1: and then then I was painting with it. I was like, oh, ship,
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  Speaker 1: because this isn't such like an odd place like you
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  Speaker 1: asked people like, have you ever actually seen it? You
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  Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. That's like when people do like
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  Speaker 1: an no bleaching. I'm like, but have you even seen
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  Speaker 1: You're asking nobody to be bleached even know what it
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  Speaker 1: looks like. Yeah, so Sean Sean is gonna be co
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  Speaker 1: hosting with us today, so let's get into our weekends.
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  Speaker 1: What the hell y'all had going on? Again? I don't
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  Speaker 1: do much in nothing. I just hung out. I did
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  Speaker 1: go out to dinner. Um, I'm dating, that's what the
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  Speaker 1: funk I'd be doing, lying always like I ain't do nothing,
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  Speaker 1: and then she her weekend be fools. It's not foolish.
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  Speaker 1: It's just me doing regular things and sometimes I might
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  Speaker 1: do it with somebody else, but other than that, it's
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  Speaker 1: just what I'm saying. That's that's not true. But not
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  Speaker 1: this weekend, I had afro punk and like this was
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  Speaker 1: this was like the first time doing afro punk in Brooklyn.
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  Speaker 1: I think it maybe like two years, so it was
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  Speaker 1: like it come back afro punk and it was fun.
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  Speaker 1: Like we met a lot of dope people. And then I,
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  Speaker 1: like Loki Hokey, like ran into like Burning Boy's wife
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  Speaker 1: because like she came to her booth and when she
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  Speaker 1: was like talking us and ship and I was just
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  Speaker 1: like talking her up. So I was like oh um,
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  Speaker 1: you know, like because she was eating, so I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: oh what is I was like, She's like, no, I
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  Speaker 1: gotta the b I P. And I was like oh,
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  Speaker 1: like um, she was like yeah, but I hate festivals.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, why are you here? She was like
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  Speaker 1: fro my husband. I was like, oh, what's it your husband?
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  Speaker 1: She was like he's bird of boy and I said really.
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  Speaker 1: I was like, oh, I'm happy to know that he's
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  Speaker 1: actually gonna be here. Because I had went to gonna
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  Speaker 1: see him in Atlanta, he didn't show up. It was
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  Speaker 1: like I was like mad excited to see him, but
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  Speaker 1: it was like every time I went to gonna see
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  Speaker 1: him eating, this show up. So I didn't want to
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  Speaker 1: get excited for Africa. I was I'm not gonnacited. So
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  Speaker 1: I see him soon. So when I see her, I
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  Speaker 1: was like, oh, wow, this is your head and me
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  Speaker 1: He's like, he's really here, He's really gonna perform. So
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  Speaker 1: now he performed it it was like a dope b
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  Speaker 1: asst it was. I was happy he was there. I
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  Speaker 1: was happy to trying to get to see him. So
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  Speaker 1: wasn't he with uh Stefan Stefan DN? So he was
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  Speaker 1: married then or he's married after because I know just
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  Speaker 1: recently he was um some other Jamaican rapper or artists
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  Speaker 1: a woman UM took like little sneaky pictures of him
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  Speaker 1: in the bed with her. Yeah. Yeah, I was like
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  Speaker 1: you miss, I was saying, it's like, is that really him?
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  Speaker 1: Because I had googled it later. But then I was like,
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  Speaker 1: you know how sometime I can't have multiple ways because
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  Speaker 1: I repeated it to her and she didn't look crazy,
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  Speaker 1: So I was like, you know, like sometimes I was like,
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  Speaker 1: maybe it's like one of his wives, and she'd just
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  Speaker 1: be like incongnigo. She was like, yeah, I hate coming
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  Speaker 1: to festivals, its like, and she like really wasn't the
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  Speaker 1: because we were crossing from the v I P. And
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  Speaker 1: I was like maybe she was working with me. But
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  Speaker 1: he did perform what you had going on town, y'all.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't do ship this weekend. I didn't have uh
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  Speaker 1: nothing going. Oh I'm lying. My mama birthday, I went
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  Speaker 1: to Columbia. Damn, I sun that up. I'm sorry, Mama.
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  Speaker 1: Friday night I didn't go nowhere because I was trying
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  Speaker 1: to recoup my money from uh bawling out in Jamaica
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  Speaker 1: last week. So I had to chill this weekend. It
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  Speaker 1: was either chill I go on a date. And I
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  Speaker 1: ain't feel like being bothered with no dates, so I
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  Speaker 1: just chilled. And then Saturday, I went down to Columbia,
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  Speaker 1: South Carolina. It was my mom thirty seventh birthday and said,
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  Speaker 1: thirty seven. That's what she said. I had that. I
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  Speaker 1: was trying to do the kick in my head. I
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  Speaker 1: was like, thirty that's what we were celebrating, y'all. I
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  Speaker 1: don't know what to tell you. That's what she said.
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  Speaker 1: I respected so right, And you said that ship so
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  Speaker 1: casually like it was right right, it was correct. And
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  Speaker 1: we watched um, the new Top Gun movie or the
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  Speaker 1: newer Top Gun movie that came out. That ship was
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  Speaker 1: so good. I was on the edge of my seat. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: y'all gotta watch it. Actually really really good. Because I
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  Speaker 1: chose to go see um Doctor Strange over that that
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  Speaker 1: was probably good too, but not Top Gun is something else.
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  Speaker 1: I really enjoyed it. So we sat there and let
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  Speaker 1: me tell you what I did. I made a big deal.
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  Speaker 1: I was like, why don't have nets sweet for your birthday? Y'all?
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  Speaker 1: We need to get some dessert. I was like, take
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  Speaker 1: mama to go get her some doughnuts or cake or something.
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  Speaker 1: So my sister and my mom went to go get
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  Speaker 1: some dous so I could. I did that so I
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  Speaker 1: could smoke a joint outside. Why didn't gone like y'all
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  Speaker 1: need to get about it? It is we really, God
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  Speaker 1: is the same thing. When I go to visit my
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  Speaker 1: mom and at lasts and I know you know, I'll
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  Speaker 1: just smoke, I like open the window in my bedroom,
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  Speaker 1: and I know she know i'd be highest. I try
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  Speaker 1: to be respectful at least not smoking in front of
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  Speaker 1: her rights exactly. That's all. I'm in a hotel and
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  Speaker 1: like steam it out and ship. But I think they
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  Speaker 1: caught me on the ring camera anyway, So I ain't
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  Speaker 1: wan't fooling nobody, y'all. So let's let's get into stupid
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  Speaker 1: internet news, all right. So I wanted to start with
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  Speaker 1: the purge, the so called purge that's supposedly happening in Illinois.
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  Speaker 1: Had y'all seen that they're calling this something like a purge, right,
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  Speaker 1: but it's not really a purge. So apparently they're getting
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  Speaker 1: rid of their cash bonds system um in Illinois. So
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  Speaker 1: what that means is people can get out of jail
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  Speaker 1: until the right So I don't know why they're calling
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  Speaker 1: it a purge. I take offense to it personally because
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  Speaker 1: I feel like, y'all, y'all think about your nigga is
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  Speaker 1: about to get out the niggas that can'tform bond about
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  Speaker 1: to get out of jail. Yeah, that's exactly what it is,
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  Speaker 1: because there are no more criminals than the rich people
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  Speaker 1: are people who can't afford their bond who get out
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  Speaker 1: of jail and still be on the street to commit
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  Speaker 1: crime until they go to court. It's the same thing.
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  Speaker 1: But here's the crazy part about it. All right, here's
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  Speaker 1: the list of offenses for which Illinois law enforcement cannot
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  Speaker 1: detain criminals. So you can commit aggravated battery, aggravated d UI,
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  Speaker 1: aggravated fleeing, arson, burger burglary, drug induced homicide, intimidation, kidnapping, robbery,
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  Speaker 1: second degree murder, and threatening a public official and then
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  Speaker 1: go home. What did drunk induce homicide? Though? Like, you
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  Speaker 1: get high and killed somebody and go right, O, man,
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  Speaker 1: you know you or you supplied them You supplied them
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  Speaker 1: with the drugs that caused him to die. Oh snap,
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  Speaker 1: I think you're right, because now I said you got
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  Speaker 1: high and they killed somebody. I think you're right. Now,
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  Speaker 1: that's what I found to I'm like, man, I like
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  Speaker 1: making motherfucker's crazy. No, so stupid. Yeah, so um. I
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  Speaker 1: think that the cash bond system should have been revamped
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  Speaker 1: a long time ago because you know, it kind of
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  Speaker 1: plagues the lower income communities, people who can't afford. Like
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna give you all a perfect example. Do y'all
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  Speaker 1: know who text tone is? And we actually he doesn't
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  Speaker 1: have a bond at all, so I can't really talk
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  Speaker 1: about him, but he has literally been in county jail
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  Speaker 1: for six years, waiting on court. So if they're they're
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  Speaker 1: gonna have a cashless uh, if they're gonna get rid
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  Speaker 1: of cash bonds, they need to really really do speedy trials.
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  Speaker 1: So if somebody belongs in prison, you'll need to hurry
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  Speaker 1: up and convict them. There's no reason why somebody should
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  Speaker 1: be sitting in county jail because they won either don't
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  Speaker 1: have a bond or can't afford the bond, and they're
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  Speaker 1: waiting on waiting for court. Because as far as I'm concern,
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  Speaker 1: if they sitting jail to three or four years, you've
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  Speaker 1: already convicted them time serves. No, it's true something like that.
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  Speaker 1: My home girl's sister, her name was Lane Lean, and
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  Speaker 1: she actually passed away at Rikers Island. But it was
• 9:35
  Speaker 1: basically like the same thing. Yeah, it was. It was
• 9:38
  Speaker 1: a big thing. Like they ended up suing the city.
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  Speaker 1: I think they finally got their settlements, so like I'm
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  Speaker 1: really happy for her, but like yeah, like, um, she
• 9:44
  Speaker 1: was in just she started having like a seizure or
• 9:46
  Speaker 1: something and the thing. But it was like it was
• 9:48
  Speaker 1: the same thing. It was like cash bond. I think
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  Speaker 1: it was like five dollars something like that, and it
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  Speaker 1: was like for something real stupid. But you know, like
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  Speaker 1: that's how the city be taking money from people. It's
• 9:54
  Speaker 1: really some bullshit. Like I'm really happy that they're finally
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  Speaker 1: closing on Rikers Island because there'd be people in there
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  Speaker 1: waiting for a court dating there for like months. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I feel like they're kidnapping people off the streets. It's
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  Speaker 1: lynn concern. Yeah, we're not your slavery because you really
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  Speaker 1: don't in county jail and stuff. You're not working. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: you get this lazy. It's like we're just it's just
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  Speaker 1: so Rikers Island was a county jail, it's not it's
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  Speaker 1: a jail because can your city is kind of different.
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  Speaker 1: So I don't want to I don't know if it's
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  Speaker 1: necessarily county, but I know it's like a holding place,
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  Speaker 1: like it's not a prison. So it's so I think
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  Speaker 1: like it would basically be considered in a sense like
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  Speaker 1: a county jail because it's not. It's not a president
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  Speaker 1: it's really just like a holding place until you're ready
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  Speaker 1: to go to court. Yeah. So yeah, So I mean
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  Speaker 1: by holding people family members in a county jail, right,
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  Speaker 1: you're forcing the family now to pay for phone calls,
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  Speaker 1: to play for canteen and all these things when they
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  Speaker 1: have an event actually been convicted of a crime yet.
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  Speaker 1: So it's like you're punishing, punishing the person in prison
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  Speaker 1: and the family and know all that ship too, but
• 11:00
  Speaker 1: everybody just it's just it's just sucked up. So the
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  Speaker 1: state is what is still making money, the county is
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  Speaker 1: still making money off that. So you agree with this
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  Speaker 1: new law as long as the trousers speedy, Yes, And
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  Speaker 1: you know it was brought forth by the Black Caucus,
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  Speaker 1: so it's a part of like prison reform supposedly, and
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  Speaker 1: you know, I just don't like how they're putting the
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  Speaker 1: titles out there like it's now going to be a
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  Speaker 1: purge like black people just because that's who it is.
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  Speaker 1: That's who ends up stuck in prison waiting for bond
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  Speaker 1: because white people commit the same crimes, but they're not
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  Speaker 1: sitting in prison, you know what I'm saying, because they
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  Speaker 1: can bond out majority of them or other people. I
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  Speaker 1: don't just want to say white people. But in America,
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  Speaker 1: so y'all know. Yeah, So I don't think it's just
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  Speaker 1: abouty a perth situation. I also but on the other side,
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  Speaker 1: I don't think that niggas should just be getting a
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  Speaker 1: ticket for Arson. Yeah, Arson, but niggas don't really do
• 11:51
  Speaker 1: niggas really coming with Arsenal? When I say niggas, I
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  Speaker 1: don't really just be talking about black people, I mean everybody. So, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I don't agree with that ship. I mean, excuse me.
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  Speaker 1: I agree with them kidnapping though, Like kidnapping, somebody doesn't
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  Speaker 1: snatch your ass up and then they find you and
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  Speaker 1: they take you home and then they have to let
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  Speaker 1: him go after he didn't kidnap you till he go
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  Speaker 1: to court. I feel like on the type of kidnapping though,
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  Speaker 1: because like you know, like if you do like a
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  Speaker 1: home invasion, they'll consider that kidnapping because like if you
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  Speaker 1: don't let someone leave the vicinity. So sometimes now you
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  Speaker 1: like you tie somebody up and through them in some ship,
• 12:28
  Speaker 1: it's like literally like they'll be like, oh, you didn't
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  Speaker 1: let me leave, So they'll just be adding they add
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  Speaker 1: more charges to you just to try to figure out
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  Speaker 1: what that he gets to stick. Yeah, but do they
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  Speaker 1: determine which one is worse? You know, I would hope, So, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I don't know. We'll see what else comes out of that,
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  Speaker 1: but for now, that's what's happening in Illinois. So I
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  Speaker 1: saw a video online. I think it might have been
• 12:52
  Speaker 1: on Jasmine Brand and I had to go pull it
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  Speaker 1: up to see exactly what it was. But it was
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  Speaker 1: Chelsey um Hillary Elsie and Hillary Clinton talking to um
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  Speaker 1: Meg the Stallion about essentially, when's the last time y'all
• 13:09
  Speaker 1: seeing Hillary Clinton? Because she had house in her bag
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  Speaker 1: on the breakfast club. She always trying to be down
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  Speaker 1: to somebody like she's go away, She's trying to work
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  Speaker 1: on the black vote. That's what it is, Tammy. It's
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  Speaker 1: always that's what they're trying to do and then they
• 13:27
  Speaker 1: get in the office and you don't do ship for
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  Speaker 1: us anyways, but it looks so fake though. Yeah, so
• 13:32
  Speaker 1: they were talking about right, so this was um. Evidently
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  Speaker 1: they have a show now her and her daughter Apple
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  Speaker 1: TV is a series called guts Um. They debuted on
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  Speaker 1: Friday with this Meg the Stallion episode and the idea
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  Speaker 1: of the of the two of them going across the
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  Speaker 1: country on a road trip to talk to different women
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  Speaker 1: who they think are like inspiring in some type of way. Right,
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  Speaker 1: So they started with Meg the Stallion. But I do
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  Speaker 1: think it's pandering to black people for that vote. We
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  Speaker 1: I believe she's about to try to run for president.
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  Speaker 1: Show is to make Hillary Hillary Clinton palatable for people
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  Speaker 1: because people like she don't have no personality that most
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  Speaker 1: of us like. She just doesn't seem like. I think
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  Speaker 1: that's what they're trying to do, and they're gonna use
• 14:18
  Speaker 1: go through every culture to try to get their vote.
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  Speaker 1: And they started with because like black women are like
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  Speaker 1: popping out or like everywhere, because even like it's crazy
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  Speaker 1: when I'll be going to the city and just looking
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  Speaker 1: at like the billboards and stuff like that, it's so
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  Speaker 1: many black women on billboards were like natural here, and
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  Speaker 1: it's like we're like we're popping right now. So I
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  Speaker 1: just feel like, like like you said, it's like pander into
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  Speaker 1: the vote, like you know what I'm saying, Like people
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  Speaker 1: are starting to realize that you need the black vote,
• 14:42
  Speaker 1: like you need black people. And it's so crazy for
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  Speaker 1: me because I started as a sneak artist and um
• 14:47
  Speaker 1: I had did some sneakers for it was an exclusive
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  Speaker 1: for urban outfitters. I would have to be like twenty
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  Speaker 1: two at the time, and the first thing I did
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  Speaker 1: was like a girl with the afrol and that lady.
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  Speaker 1: I'll never forgetting that white lady came to me and
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  Speaker 1: said I can't sell that because because black people weren't marketable.
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  Speaker 1: She's your dad as told me that, and I'm like
• 15:01
  Speaker 1: she's old, like she's so you're thinking like later, you
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  Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, But that's so not like to
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  Speaker 1: see it now. And that's why I like, even with
• 15:06
  Speaker 1: my brand, I only use black models because I will
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  Speaker 1: never forget on that lady said that's to me, like
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  Speaker 1: you're literally gonna tell me my skin isn't marketable, Like
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  Speaker 1: that's crazy. Yeah, that's wild. And when have black women
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  Speaker 1: not been Yeah I have not been popping, yes, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: but it's only cool when somebody else is doing it.
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  Speaker 1: So how do y'all feel about that? Though? How do
• 15:27
  Speaker 1: y'all feel about Because to me, oftentimes, when they want
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  Speaker 1: to speak to the black community and when they want
• 15:33
  Speaker 1: to speak to the black collective, they go to music artists,
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  Speaker 1: they go to entertainers. They don't go to black people
• 15:39
  Speaker 1: who are in politics oftentimes, like that's not who they
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  Speaker 1: put on the forefront. They go to people like CARDIV
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  Speaker 1: who knows nothing about politics. No, it's true. And even
• 15:49
  Speaker 1: like when um, what's his name? And he was like,
• 15:51
  Speaker 1: you're not black if you don't vote for me, Like
• 15:53
  Speaker 1: in that one little second, it shows you, like what
• 15:55
  Speaker 1: they really think about. It's like you y'all really think
• 15:57
  Speaker 1: we're mindless, Like yeah, you know what I'm saying, because,
• 15:58
  Speaker 1: like you said, why don't you guys going to the
• 16:00
  Speaker 1: black politics? You guys are coming to so like what
• 16:02
  Speaker 1: like pop culture? You know? Like like they think that
• 16:04
  Speaker 1: we don't pay attention to these other things when we do,
• 16:07
  Speaker 1: we do. But our pop culture does fuel our our
• 16:11
  Speaker 1: society in a way. Like people listen to artists and
• 16:14
  Speaker 1: rappers and musicians more than they're listening to the Stacy Abrams.
• 16:18
  Speaker 1: You know, they're not going to her, they're not on
• 16:20
  Speaker 1: her Instagram live waiting to see what Stacy Abrams gotta say.
• 16:24
  Speaker 1: But we also have some artists that a little bit more.
• 16:27
  Speaker 1: You know, they can go to a care, they can
• 16:30
  Speaker 1: go to they if they want to go that route.
• 16:32
  Speaker 1: There are still some men, and I would like for
• 16:34
  Speaker 1: it to be a black man. How about that that
• 16:37
  Speaker 1: they go to and and have a sit down conversation with.
• 16:41
  Speaker 1: They're trying to get that young vote, that young as twenty,
• 16:45
  Speaker 1: these young people, that young vote, that's who they're trying
• 16:48
  Speaker 1: to get with WOP. They're not trying to get tr fans.
• 16:52
  Speaker 1: They're already probably already secured their vote. But I think
• 16:56
  Speaker 1: that like even with them trying to get the younger
• 16:57
  Speaker 1: bo I feel like they're like not, I feel like
• 17:00
  Speaker 1: they're telling their short, their self short. Because even as
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: we're talking about it right now, even feel like the
• 17:04
  Speaker 1: younger kids, I feel like they see what they're doing,
• 17:06
  Speaker 1: like I see you, you know what I'm saying. Like
• 17:08
  Speaker 1: I feel like this younger generation is a lot smarter.
• 17:10
  Speaker 1: So even though like it's true, like like those are
• 17:12
  Speaker 1: the people that they listen to. I think you kind
• 17:13
  Speaker 1: of have to come harder than talking about who on
• 17:15
  Speaker 1: this show, like like, treat me like I'm intelligent, MEGANA
• 17:18
  Speaker 1: Stallion And I didn't see it, so I don't know
• 17:19
  Speaker 1: what she said to MEGANA Starian has a whole last degree,
• 17:21
  Speaker 1: Like teach to treat her like she's intelligent. Talk to
• 17:23
  Speaker 1: her about some real ship. You know what I'm saying,
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: Because you just want people to vot, because it could
• 17:26
  Speaker 1: you tell people making this DOLLI You're like, what are
• 17:28
  Speaker 1: your what's the word I'm looking for? Like when they
• 17:31
  Speaker 1: put an outline of all the stuff that's important to them,
• 17:33
  Speaker 1: like what are your like what are we your political agenda? Exactly? Agenda?
• 17:37
  Speaker 1: Like if you want to come sit down with Megan
• 17:39
  Speaker 1: the Stallion talk about that, then, like give these kids
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: more credit, right, But this motherfucking TikTok and ask motherfucker's
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: be stupid sometimes, like you know, like I mean one
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: of them is that's smart, but that's true. I don't know.
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: I just want them to put some respect on the
• 17:58
  Speaker 1: black community. Yeah, me, That's what I need them to
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: do today, not tomorrow, and not after. We don't vote.
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: I need them to put some respect on the black community.
• 18:08
  Speaker 1: But um, yeah, yes, ray J down went wild. Did
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: y'all check that out that I missed that I'm missing?
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: I was tuned in. Okay, screenshot and all types of ship.
• 18:23
  Speaker 1: I feel y'all in know what happened screen recording Like, sorry,
• 18:29
  Speaker 1: ray J, I needed to see them TEX messages up
• 18:31
  Speaker 1: close and personal. So ray J is pissed at Chris
• 18:35
  Speaker 1: J general at the whole conduct Kardashian family, Kim and
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: Chris um for the most part, because you know, they
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: did the sex tape. How many years ago now about
• 18:45
  Speaker 1: twenty years ago, they did a sex tape. And what
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: ray J is trying to do now is clear his
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: name because the Kardashians have been, you know, slandering him
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: on the backside as far as business goals, as far
• 18:57
  Speaker 1: as based on what he's saying. So he's trying to
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: clear his name because there it's out there as if
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: ray J put a flick out of them having sex
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: and that's not what happened. Ray J showed the contract
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: that they both signed for four hundred thousand dollars a piece,
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: the production contract. Yeah m hmm, with Kimmy's handwriting on it.
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: When I tell y'all, ray J had all this ship
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: up on the rector, He had the receiver dector screen
• 19:28
  Speaker 1: in a mansion and a Dominican of public going through
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: all this ship. Now how somebody put that on YouTube?
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: I have to smoke a joy and watch it. So
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: what was the initial narrative that came out with the
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: six tape? Does anybody know that? Because what was it?
• 19:44
  Speaker 1: What did they agree to? Because I know that it
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: didn't come out like Kim Kardashian does porn like will.
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: They made it seem like she was Yeah, they made
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: it seem like she was victim of elite intimate moment
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: with her boyfriend, that she was leaked right and say
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: that like, um, she sewed them or something like that.
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: Mm hmm. I can't remember that. It was so long ago.
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: I saw that on on TMZ. You never even got
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: to see it. I was too young to watch that
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: when it came out. No, not. That's why when y'all
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: said twenty years ago, I had to say back, like
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: damn that SHI made me feel old, But yeah, that
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: really was twenty years ago. I didn't maybe even though
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: I can't say because I was already watching nat Ship
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: at that age. Sorry guys, but I didn't watch that
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: one because so it wasn't like, because you know, this
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: is before you know what I'm like, and it's like,
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: oh oh J Trials and I was like, what five,
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: So it wasn't like, you know what I'm saying, It
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: didn't really need much to like, okay, right, So Chris
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: Strip so recently, Chris Jenner, she took a lie deteck
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: to test to prove that it wasn't a production. She
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: had some fake guy, some actor basically performed this lie
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: deteck to test. How don't we know he was an actor?
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: Ray J posted Demand's YouTube page like ray J posted
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: receipt ship. Yes this is a fake a fake person. Yeah,
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: ray J did that. Yeah, because you know Kim Kim Kardashians.
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: So what happened was this is how the ship all started.
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: So Kim was crying because the kid pulled up on
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: him with the Roadblocks ship right pulled up on her
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: with roadblocks, a roadblocks porn of her, right, which son
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: did sent it to the child because I think it
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: was like an ad or something on Roadblocks that he
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: was playing. Yes, so Roadblocks even said that that isn't possible.
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: So even that scene could have been created, even that
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: scene on Keeping Up with the Kardashians was probably fake, yes,
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: probably fabricating. So that's how the ship started. So ray
• 21:49
  Speaker 1: J is feeling like, you know this to all these years,
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: y'all have been putting his narrative out there as if
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: I'm the one or somebody associated with me was the
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: person who leaked the video. If it's me and you
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: with a video and our plan is to leak it,
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: then that's one thing. But they have been, you know,
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: making it edit as if ray J and whoever leaked
• 22:10
  Speaker 1: this porn of Kim K. So now ray J is
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: just basically trying to exonerate himself and let everybody know
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: it was a production. Her mama was on it, and
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: on it. Her mom actually watched one of the videos
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: and said, no, let's go with the other one because
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: it makes Kim look better. All these things. That's a
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: real weird I Spur Slim Mama pimp ship. But that
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: family not for nothing. That family always been kind of
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: iffy to me. I ain't even gonna lie like and
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: I just I feel like, honestly, because ray J's I
• 22:39
  Speaker 1: don't know if y'all seen that clip from the Winny
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: william Show, but ray J's mom told him not to
• 22:42
  Speaker 1: do that ship like you're a black man, Like you're
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: not gonna like you're a man and you're black, Like
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: you're not gonna do yourself. That's not gonna happen for you.
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: And that's exactly what happened. I mean, granted, he's still
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: a millionaire and I'm still here, but like I think
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: home Girls like a billionaire now mm hmm, yeah, yeah,
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: now you want to be mad, but it's kind of
• 23:02
  Speaker 1: like you should have been smarter, like and I get him,
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: and I like really versed out, like people were like,
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: I don't know, I think nobody's really gonna like I'm
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: just gonna change like the success of the Kardashians. I
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: hope it does. I hope that when we're here on
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: that I really hope it does, because then ain't gonna
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: do ship just about two weeks. They're gonna be onto
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: something else and people ain't gonna care about what because
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: then he posted the unfortunately he posted d ms that
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: he had. It came a couple of months ago, and
• 23:29
  Speaker 1: nobody cared about that ship. Yeah, nobody cared for real. Yeah,
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: I guess it's because we can't see any new fucking
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: like this old ship nobody, you know what I'm saying, Like,
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: do y'all think that maybe now maybe they'll be okay
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: because they don't need the black community anymore. Did y'all
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: see Kim Kai's most recent photo shoot, The American Dream?
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: She has these blonde eyebrows. Blonde, Yeah, Now they're transitioning
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: over Yeah. Yeah, So that's why I don't. I don't
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: think they really can't. I think like they like just
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: transition now. I don't don't, but I hope he gets
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: to clear his name and you know, like get his
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: deals right there, but like, get your money, black man,
• 24:15
  Speaker 1: get your money. I listen, all right, y'all, we're gonna
• 24:18
  Speaker 1: take a break and we're gonna get into uh today's topic.
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: We'll be right back, so listen. I put a post
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: online um on the podcast stage to try and get
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: women to engage a little bit. So I basically posed
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: a question to women, asking, you know, what are some
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: things about yourself that men may consider red flags? And
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: I intentionally did not ask men what some women's red
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: flags are because maybe I want to point out the
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: biggest one women may have, which be which would be accountability.
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: If we can't point out what's wrong with us and
• 25:01
  Speaker 1: what our own bullshit is, that's some accountability issue. So anyway,
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: I'll start, Okay, I'll start. We're gonna go into some
• 25:10
  Speaker 1: general ship that you know, people responding with, even some guys,
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: but I'll start with one of my can I just
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: can I just say this start shine you next, and
• 25:22
  Speaker 1: then we're gonna just move on with life because I
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: really don't be doing shop girl bite anyway. All right,
• 25:33
  Speaker 1: so lesten y'all. I'm gonna be honest with y'all. One
• 25:35
  Speaker 1: of my big red flags would be deflection. Okay, So
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: like in the midst of an argument, I may bring
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: up something you did in the past to justify my
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: current behavior, right, And I've recognized over time that's not okay,
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: especially if I supposedly got over that thing you did.
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: But I feel like the reason why I do that
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: is because I like to think of myself as a
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: really forgiving person. Right, So then if I do some ship,
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: I don't want to feel like you're dragging me about it. Yeah,
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: Like I don't want to feel dragged about some ship. Right,
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: So now if I'm I feel like, damn we even now, right,
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: why are you dripping? Like get over it now? And
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: that's not fair. That's why we're moving forward. Yes, I
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: feel like we even, Like why can't I get the
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: same grace I gave you for the same thing. What's
• 26:26
  Speaker 1: the problem? Because you ain't them and they ain't you? Right,
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: I understand that, but I'm still a working progress. Got
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: ain't through with you yet. That's my John. What's one
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: of yours? Is like I like free food, and I like,
• 26:44
  Speaker 1: literally tell you that. So like if they're like he's like,
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: you know, trying to talk to me, like trying to
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: I'd like cool, Like I like free food. And then
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: I realized that they think I like them, but it's
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: like I don't like you, but you offered me free food,
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: so I'm gonna go out with you to have this meal.
• 26:55
  Speaker 1: So like your opportunity, that's it. I'm an opportunity. If
• 26:59
  Speaker 1: there's not food, be they're taking it. That's a food tunist.
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: I'm an opportunist. If there's no I'm definitely taking it.
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: So yeah, I was, and I have some pictuations with
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: niggas giving me free food because that's really what I
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: call it, Like it's free food. And like then they
• 27:12
  Speaker 1: started acting crazy after like this one do he um
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: he gave me free food because like I know he
• 27:16
  Speaker 1: gave me the frue food today that I met him,
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: Like he came and sat down while I was eating
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: and was like, oh, you're cute and like buying me
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: drinks and everything like that. And then I'm like, it's
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: free food and I'm going after that. This one who
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: was blown on my phone acting all types of crazy
• 27:29
  Speaker 1: and I guess because I didn't ask my phone he
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: was feeling the type of way. And then let's saying
• 27:32
  Speaker 1: I know he's texting me like oh it's over for you,
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: and was like that that's like threatening me and acting
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: crazy like I know you snitched on me, all types
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: of ship and then he's like yeah, he's like wrong number.
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: He was like wrong number, but um, I ain't heard
• 27:46
  Speaker 1: from you. What how you doing? And I'm like does
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: he think that she is cute? Like I think you're something, nigga.
• 27:49
  Speaker 1: You're working crazy and I would not be calling you
• 27:52
  Speaker 1: like I like that nigga on everything. He's still be
• 27:54
  Speaker 1: trying to trying to hit me up through other numbers
• 27:56
  Speaker 1: and like other Instagram pages, you're fucking crazy. So I
• 27:59
  Speaker 1: guess I was like by slapping the face back from
• 28:02
  Speaker 1: me being a person who likes free food. But that
• 28:03
  Speaker 1: definitely is my red flag. I like free food. It's
• 28:05
  Speaker 1: not about liking free food, though. Come on through a therapist, Tammy,
• 28:15
  Speaker 1: come on through a therapist. Please please break it down
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: to her what that is exactly? That to us, you
• 28:22
  Speaker 1: are using people for what you want, yes, free food.
• 28:26
  Speaker 1: So that would make you an opportunitist or a user
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: at times, and that's not uncommon. Women do that. Women
• 28:31
  Speaker 1: like free ship, and sometimes we will obtain it from
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: people who want more from us and knowing that we
• 28:37
  Speaker 1: don't want more from them, and that is definitely a
• 28:39
  Speaker 1: red flag. That's my good dinner whore. I should put
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: that on a T shirt dinner wore. Okay, So I
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: guess if we're gonna do this, I guess, then apports
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: and I just make up something so y'all don't feel
• 28:59
  Speaker 1: left out. Um, I'll say one of minds is overreacting.
• 29:08
  Speaker 1: Sometimes ship don't call for level twenty. It could just
• 29:15
  Speaker 1: be a ten level issue. And I'll go from zero
• 29:18
  Speaker 1: to one hundred in a matter of moments and it's like,
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: did you like, damn, can you be a niggas piece,
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: Like just calm down and listen and don't respond. So
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: when just quick to respond and just go off the
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: deep end. That's one of mine. I know I do
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: that ship and I like, damn, my shipping up broke
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: your window. Huh window that don't be be calling and
• 29:44
  Speaker 1: hanging up. You know, I love your mom, Andy. Look
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: that goes into one of my other red flags. I
• 29:59
  Speaker 1: don't like niggas with mamma's or sisters. Like that's a
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: red flag for me with men, and a red flag
• 30:08
  Speaker 1: for yourself your mama alive. I can't do this, you know, no,
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: you want to know what I guess I say, Like,
• 30:16
  Speaker 1: that's a red flag for me to like, I don't
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: like me nobody's mom. Like I'm not trying to meet
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: your mom like like you got kids, I do not
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: want to see your child Like I like, I'm not
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: gonna beet that mama. Don't care. Just but your seafood
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: dinner and your sausage dinner and go home. That's all
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: I need. Give me a good meal. We could you
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: up for about five minutes after and I'm bead. No,
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: I don't know. You want to come meet? No, like
• 30:36
  Speaker 1: your mom's gonna be home. No, Nick, I'm not coming over.
• 30:38
  Speaker 1: They're like, your my mom's nice. Yeah, your mom's like
• 30:40
  Speaker 1: said every girl you bring there, No, I'm coming. And
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: that's what your mama. I love mama's I'd be trying
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: to win mama's. I like to I like, by the
• 30:50
  Speaker 1: time I get done with your mama, she's gonna like
• 30:52
  Speaker 1: be more than you. That's how I'll be wanting to
• 30:55
  Speaker 1: do it. Did y'all see this meme online? What's not
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: a meme? Sorry it's I forgot what Paul cast it was.
• 31:00
  Speaker 1: But the guy, one of the guys on the podcast
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: pose a question like, so, who who sits in the
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: front seat, your your wife, your girl, or your mom?
• 31:11
  Speaker 1: And the guy here asked it was like, my girl,
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: Like if my girl, you know, arbitrarily volunteers, like give
• 31:17
  Speaker 1: up the front seat to my mom, that's her business.
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: But I would never put her in a position to
• 31:21
  Speaker 1: have to just get out the car get in the
• 31:23
  Speaker 1: back seat because my mama getting in the car. She
• 31:25
  Speaker 1: was like, it's nothing wrong with that back seat, Like
• 31:27
  Speaker 1: my mama can sit back there. But we know that
• 31:30
  Speaker 1: that might be a thing for some mama's, and I
• 31:32
  Speaker 1: think that's because mama's, especially black mamas in particular, maybe
• 31:37
  Speaker 1: having his son husbands, I would move from Mars's mom
• 31:41
  Speaker 1: to sit in the front. It would just it would
• 31:43
  Speaker 1: just be my personality to respect his mom to say,
• 31:47
  Speaker 1: same way, I put my own mama in the front.
• 31:49
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna put your mama there too. Now I can't front.
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: I don't think I will move. I'm not based in
• 31:55
  Speaker 1: the back. I'm not moving me because it's not like
• 31:59
  Speaker 1: if I if she was already in the front seat
• 32:01
  Speaker 1: and they're picking me up from somewhere, I wouldn't have
• 32:03
  Speaker 1: her move from me next to him. I would just
• 32:05
  Speaker 1: get in the back. So I would never expect for
• 32:08
  Speaker 1: her or my husband to then expect me to move
• 32:11
  Speaker 1: because his mom is getting in the car. You know,
• 32:13
  Speaker 1: once you get married, especially like that's your media family,
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: I'm sorry your wife, Like if she's not going good
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: between you and your wife, like the whole family ship
• 32:23
  Speaker 1: dynamic going to fall apart. So things have to always
• 32:26
  Speaker 1: be good between you and your wife. You're gonna let
• 32:27
  Speaker 1: your your mama come in between that. But showing his
• 32:32
  Speaker 1: mama respect and treating her the same, with the same
• 32:34
  Speaker 1: respect as you treat your own. I sat your dick.
• 32:38
  Speaker 1: Your mama can't do that. I need a little bit
• 32:40
  Speaker 1: more respect. I'm sorry your mama could do that. But oh,
• 32:46
  Speaker 1: you know where were living here? Like ship going on? Man? Yeah, man,
• 32:52
  Speaker 1: it's a weird ship going on outside seeing that. I've
• 32:55
  Speaker 1: seen a video where a girl says she did have
• 32:58
  Speaker 1: a threesome with a guy and his mom. What I
• 33:01
  Speaker 1: see that ship? No, No, that's disgusting. But that's that's
• 33:06
  Speaker 1: not insett. It's definitely inset. I guess it depends on
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: how you actually have the three something what I mean
• 33:14
  Speaker 1: likes the way to do it. The mom has sucked
• 33:17
  Speaker 1: her son's dick. That's the different positions in the three something. No, yeah,
• 33:24
  Speaker 1: there's they need therapy for real, Like right, yeah, that's
• 33:28
  Speaker 1: not okay. But no, even if I'm still like, if
• 33:31
  Speaker 1: I'm sucking your dick or whatever, that means, I like
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: you a lot. If I'm putting your dick in my mouth,
• 33:35
  Speaker 1: and if I love you and ship, then I'm gonna
• 33:37
  Speaker 1: love your mama too, like I'm gonna try to. I am.
• 33:39
  Speaker 1: I love you so much. I love your mama for
• 33:42
  Speaker 1: making you, So I'm gonna be I'm gonna be good
• 33:44
  Speaker 1: to her too. I don't be almost making you, but
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: I can still love about she in the back seat.
• 33:47
  Speaker 1: The car is clean. I'm not gonna get up, especially
• 33:49
  Speaker 1: my feet her. I'm not getting up. Get up for that, lady,
• 33:52
  Speaker 1: get your I think it's necessarily don It's like I
• 33:56
  Speaker 1: don't have that much ego in it. It's that's an
• 33:59
  Speaker 1: ego thing, y'all. That's not an evil thing. The fact
• 34:02
  Speaker 1: that like the car is playing, you could say in
• 34:04
  Speaker 1: the back I shouldn't have to get up and move
• 34:05
  Speaker 1: for you. What if she's like on a cane, And
• 34:12
  Speaker 1: but if she's in the can, she probably belongs in
• 34:13
  Speaker 1: the back. So you probably gotta get a sprint of man,
• 34:19
  Speaker 1: every reason, every reason to keep yours right, you bigger Carniggs.
• 34:27
  Speaker 1: Your mama needs space back there, all right? Listen for me.
• 34:31
  Speaker 1: I do have a couple of a couple more of
• 34:35
  Speaker 1: my own red flags, and we can get it to
• 34:37
  Speaker 1: some of the red flags that, um, you know, some
• 34:40
  Speaker 1: women responded with some other ones I came up with,
• 34:43
  Speaker 1: but these are mine, right, Um, I probably offered too
• 34:47
  Speaker 1: much information about myself too soon because I'm an open
• 34:50
  Speaker 1: book and I don't really care who I talked to
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: about my life for real. That's why we have a podcast.
• 34:54
  Speaker 1: Like I'm gonna say whatever it is. So if you
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: can't handle that, then you probably not the person for
• 34:59
  Speaker 1: me anyway. I do want to be in a relationship
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: with somebody that I could be myself all the time,
• 35:04
  Speaker 1: Like that's really really important to me. So if I
• 35:06
  Speaker 1: find myself having to omit things high things about myself,
• 35:11
  Speaker 1: you probably ain't for me anyway. So whatever, but that
• 35:13
  Speaker 1: could be a red flag for some men like you
• 35:15
  Speaker 1: oversharing um. Also, in the past, I have had a
• 35:21
  Speaker 1: tendency to share relationship trauma like should I might have
• 35:26
  Speaker 1: went through in another relationship with somebody I'm currently talking to,
• 35:29
  Speaker 1: because things just be relative, Like you're having a conversation,
• 35:31
  Speaker 1: you'd be like, oh man, yeah, my ex such is
• 35:33
  Speaker 1: said is such. But men, I have had somebody point
• 35:37
  Speaker 1: that out to me that I do that, right, But
• 35:39
  Speaker 1: then I then started, you know, making sure I'm listening
• 35:43
  Speaker 1: to when they're talking and they do the same thing.
• 35:45
  Speaker 1: It's just different. They can just see what You can
• 35:47
  Speaker 1: always see what somebody else doing, but not what you're doing. Yeah,
• 35:50
  Speaker 1: because the same way I think, like that's probably like
• 35:52
  Speaker 1: one of my my red flag too, is like I
• 35:54
  Speaker 1: overshare and the oversharing I give a lot of times
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: it's like crazy stories. So I think, like, so I
• 35:58
  Speaker 1: try to like stop doing something like I used it.
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: I feel like it's be like yo, this bitch is crazy,
• 36:02
  Speaker 1: and they just be ready to write to write me off,
• 36:04
  Speaker 1: because like my one, it does get kind of crazy,
• 36:06
  Speaker 1: like I got like stories for days, like I've been
• 36:08
  Speaker 1: telling about times when I like dow tables on people
• 36:10
  Speaker 1: and like may season. I mean, I don't alway start
• 36:13
  Speaker 1: trying not to do that no more. You know, I'm
• 36:14
  Speaker 1: trying to be a changed person. But like there, but
• 36:17
  Speaker 1: I had to realize that I need to stop telling
• 36:18
  Speaker 1: nigg is that because they're gonna be like, yo, what
• 36:20
  Speaker 1: the fund is wrong? But and like keep it pushing.
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: As long as you don't act crazy, you won't get
• 36:23
  Speaker 1: that type of reaction from me. Like I just be
• 36:25
  Speaker 1: matching energy. But it's like my thing is always like
• 36:27
  Speaker 1: if we have we have, If we're here, we're here.
• 36:29
  Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, Like it's like go hard
• 36:30
  Speaker 1: to go home. So we get to that point I'm
• 36:32
  Speaker 1: gonna go to go hard to go home, and I'm
• 36:33
  Speaker 1: not gonna go home, so I'm gonna go hard. So
• 36:36
  Speaker 1: you're one upper flag, so you can't bow out gracefully.
• 36:42
  Speaker 1: Now I don't bow out gracefully. We see, I see
• 36:44
  Speaker 1: the collection I'm out to drop like in the summer
• 36:46
  Speaker 1: about this one nigga. Oh girl, I met the whole
• 36:50
  Speaker 1: coloring book about that dirty dig nigger, A whole color.
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: I'm make sure to saying, y'all, Si, yeah, send me word.
• 36:59
  Speaker 1: I see y'all. Because they just need to learn shiveries.
• 37:01
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna get some in a nice coloring book. They
• 37:03
  Speaker 1: want to be a little fun niggers, but a nice
• 37:05
  Speaker 1: color you could color that bit you and learn sugary
• 37:09
  Speaker 1: like I'll need something this all the time. Like my
• 37:11
  Speaker 1: pettiness knows no bounce. I don't even trying to go
• 37:14
  Speaker 1: there with people because another flag. Yeah yeah, this conversation
• 37:22
  Speaker 1: is riddled and sucking red flags. Who I ain't gotta
• 37:31
  Speaker 1: say ship right, all right, all right, No, I got
• 37:35
  Speaker 1: all right. So here's one of mine that sometimes I'm
• 37:39
  Speaker 1: sure men can can be off putting by me doing this.
• 37:43
  Speaker 1: Sometimes I will let my personal insecurities get the best
• 37:47
  Speaker 1: of me and require constant validation from my partner at times,
• 37:55
  Speaker 1: like just needing too much of them to lift me
• 38:00
  Speaker 1: that I'm not lifting myself and I'm just requiring that
• 38:02
  Speaker 1: too much of them, And I know that can be
• 38:04
  Speaker 1: a red flag. I'd be like I look fat in
• 38:07
  Speaker 1: this like this and just like all this, and nigga like, girl,
• 38:11
  Speaker 1: I eat you right now in front of all these people, relaxed,
• 38:14
  Speaker 1: Like why you don't see yourself like I see you? Right?
• 38:17
  Speaker 1: You know that's a problem, you know sometimes that's something
• 38:20
  Speaker 1: that I have to work on, you know not let
• 38:21
  Speaker 1: I mean, we all have our insecurities, but you just
• 38:24
  Speaker 1: can't allow them to get the best of you and
• 38:27
  Speaker 1: use your mate as the source of your validation, you know, right.
• 38:30
  Speaker 1: And I think that everybody wants a confident made right,
• 38:34
  Speaker 1: So if you're always just like pointing out your insecurities,
• 38:37
  Speaker 1: that's not really confident. So men like confident women too,
• 38:40
  Speaker 1: So baby like, yeah, you want to lose some weight,
• 38:41
  Speaker 1: then go do it and stop talking about it. So
• 38:44
  Speaker 1: I have had But if a nigga say that to me,
• 38:48
  Speaker 1: that's a problem, Like, don't address me that way. Well,
• 38:50
  Speaker 1: they may not say it in that way maybe he's
• 38:52
  Speaker 1: a little bit nicer. I'm just saying that sometimes. Yeah,
• 38:57
  Speaker 1: like I work out with you and you want to
• 38:58
  Speaker 1: go out at you, I'll be good. Yes, I want
• 39:01
  Speaker 1: Sheriff Troy from uh with your Scott you know, you
• 39:05
  Speaker 1: know be that way with me, Troy. You got all
• 39:09
  Speaker 1: the movie references. Yeah, because I had a guy told
• 39:14
  Speaker 1: tell me one time, like, that's one of the things
• 39:16
  Speaker 1: even like about women is that, you know, getting naked
• 39:18
  Speaker 1: and then you start talking about the things about your
• 39:20
  Speaker 1: body you don't like you want to know. It's crazy
• 39:23
  Speaker 1: when I got clothes on, But when I'm naked, I'm
• 39:25
  Speaker 1: feeling my element. I'd be like, that's the only time.
• 39:30
  Speaker 1: What's I'm naked? It's all the way on. Baby, it
• 39:33
  Speaker 1: looks like you want to be stuffing. I'm about to
• 39:36
  Speaker 1: give it to you. Yeah, that's where a god I'd
• 39:39
  Speaker 1: be feeling powerful is fuck naked. I bet your strippers
• 39:43
  Speaker 1: feel like that too, probably, yep, ye got to like
• 39:46
  Speaker 1: it's with clothes on it I'll be feeling like, is
• 39:49
  Speaker 1: this cute? I look right but naked, I'm good. I'm
• 39:53
  Speaker 1: goot your baby, teach your face right here, put your
• 39:59
  Speaker 1: head it right here. So Sean you got one more
• 40:02
  Speaker 1: before we get into this list. Are you good? I
• 40:05
  Speaker 1: think I'm good, but I might come up with something. Yeah,
• 40:07
  Speaker 1: I gave us like five good don't scare. Don't scare
• 40:13
  Speaker 1: the niggas all the way off Sean, don't stop talking
• 40:16
  Speaker 1: to much about myself crazy. Okay, So look, I do
• 40:21
  Speaker 1: have one more exes having access, so I do not
• 40:27
  Speaker 1: really exces, but people I've dealt with in the past,
• 40:29
  Speaker 1: Like say, for instance, you're talking to somebody and you
• 40:31
  Speaker 1: realize y'all realize it's mutual, right, y'all realize y'all are
• 40:34
  Speaker 1: better office friends. I have to discard these friends because
• 40:37
  Speaker 1: I get into a serious relationship with a man. Yes,
• 40:41
  Speaker 1: I don't think you should have to do that, because
• 40:42
  Speaker 1: I don't require that for my mate. I don't require
• 40:45
  Speaker 1: you to cut off good people. Do you see what
• 40:47
  Speaker 1: I'm saying? If it's somebody who was like sucking your
• 40:49
  Speaker 1: life up and who's gonna be a liability when we
• 40:51
  Speaker 1: really when we really get ship popping, like no no
• 40:55
  Speaker 1: liabilities now. But I know a lot of assets, and
• 40:58
  Speaker 1: I don't just want to cut people off just because
• 41:01
  Speaker 1: you have an insecurity. Yeah, I don't want you to
• 41:03
  Speaker 1: be communicating with no woman that you used to fuck
• 41:07
  Speaker 1: like and y'all just be talking on the phone and
• 41:09
  Speaker 1: when you mad at me, let me tell you what
• 41:10
  Speaker 1: Timmy did. No, don't be telling nobody who had yo
• 41:13
  Speaker 1: dick in day mouth what I did. But what if
• 41:15
  Speaker 1: it's like it's like they just like friendly, like, oh,
• 41:18
  Speaker 1: I'm just checking in, see how you're doing. Like, oh,
• 41:20
  Speaker 1: happy birthday man and Christmas like that, bitches, birthday already
• 41:25
  Speaker 1: happy because I'm here now. I don't like outside the
• 41:30
  Speaker 1: one day who I'm doing the artwork about my track
• 41:33
  Speaker 1: record for like the last four or five years has
• 41:34
  Speaker 1: been really good. Like every nigga that I've been with,
• 41:36
  Speaker 1: like we're like still cool, like we're friends, and like
• 41:38
  Speaker 1: even if they have a girlfriend, we're still like friendly.
• 41:41
  Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. Yeah, And I'm not talking
• 41:43
  Speaker 1: about like somebody you're a constant contact with, just like occasionally,
• 41:47
  Speaker 1: like I gotta change my phone number because I got
• 41:49
  Speaker 1: in a relationship with you. That's a problem for me.
• 41:52
  Speaker 1: But some men may do that as a red flag
• 41:54
  Speaker 1: that I have that that people I've been with um
• 41:59
  Speaker 1: are still still have my number, I still have access
• 42:01
  Speaker 1: to me. Even with social media. You could be with
• 42:04
  Speaker 1: somebody who has a problem with men liking stuff and
• 42:07
  Speaker 1: sending U d M messages like that? How do you
• 42:09
  Speaker 1: do nothing about that? We can't live in a world
• 42:11
  Speaker 1: like that, So how can you live in a relationship
• 42:13
  Speaker 1: like that? No, it's true, and I and also tell me,
• 42:17
  Speaker 1: I see what you're saying. But I think it's different
• 42:19
  Speaker 1: with women because women have a little bit more integrity
• 42:23
  Speaker 1: than men, and then we also know other women. Right,
• 42:26
  Speaker 1: So I don't think a man can have female friends,
• 42:31
  Speaker 1: but I think women can have male friends. Well, how
• 42:33
  Speaker 1: that's gonna What I'm saying is is that a woman
• 42:37
  Speaker 1: can maintain male friendships and not want to have sex
• 42:40
  Speaker 1: with those guys. Right, But those same guys if she
• 42:43
  Speaker 1: called him and be like, hey, you want to get
• 42:45
  Speaker 1: this pussy, even if you ain't never fun with him
• 42:47
  Speaker 1: in twenty years, he's probably gonna say yes. And that's
• 42:50
  Speaker 1: why we can't do this. That's why you can't all together. Right,
• 42:54
  Speaker 1: I hate to kill everybody, to shoot everybody. I'm gonna
• 42:57
  Speaker 1: take you all right on down to Illinois. Come, I
• 43:00
  Speaker 1: take a trip to guy out every my friend, your friend.
• 43:07
  Speaker 1: That's all go. But like, but you think it goes
• 43:12
  Speaker 1: both ways with like man, because I have guys that
• 43:14
  Speaker 1: like I'm friends, Man, I would never have sex with them,
• 43:16
  Speaker 1: and I feel like they would never have sex with me.
• 43:18
  Speaker 1: Like I feel like it really is like a brother
• 43:20
  Speaker 1: sister type of thing. I think if I was like
• 43:21
  Speaker 1: to be like, yo, what the funk? I think it
• 43:23
  Speaker 1: were like like like a curveball for them, Like what
• 43:26
  Speaker 1: the fund is happening? Like what? Like you know what
• 43:28
  Speaker 1: I'm saying because we've been so friendly, right, so those
• 43:31
  Speaker 1: are actual friends people you've not been intimate with. Yeah, yeah,
• 43:34
  Speaker 1: so that red flag that I said is what it
• 43:37
  Speaker 1: was excess still having access? Well no, I know for
• 43:40
  Speaker 1: like the red flag, but as far as like men
• 43:41
  Speaker 1: and women being friends, right, yeah, absolutely should be able
• 43:45
  Speaker 1: to have friends of the opposite sex, but but not excess.
• 43:50
  Speaker 1: Well it's not like an exit just somebody that you
• 43:52
  Speaker 1: have sex with. No, no, sean no. So it's like
• 43:56
  Speaker 1: I was just gonna make it in any great shape
• 43:57
  Speaker 1: or form. I It's like just no, no, no, is
• 44:01
  Speaker 1: that realistic? It's not just gotta keep it to yourself.
• 44:05
  Speaker 1: That's what I feel like, Yeah, you're gonna have too,
• 44:10
  Speaker 1: because I'm not gonna be okay with it. What are
• 44:11
  Speaker 1: you What are y'all talking about? Why are y'all still talking?
• 44:15
  Speaker 1: Like what y'all got to talk about? Still? I don't
• 44:18
  Speaker 1: know to carry your asks, you need to go on somewhere.
• 44:21
  Speaker 1: I guess I'm not that possessive and I like and
• 44:24
  Speaker 1: we talk about open relationships all the time. I'm not
• 44:27
  Speaker 1: saying like that's what I would that's the type of
• 44:29
  Speaker 1: situation I want, But I want my man to be
• 44:32
  Speaker 1: able to tell me whatever the funk it is, whatever
• 44:34
  Speaker 1: they got going on. No, I'm not okay with you
• 44:38
  Speaker 1: talking to a bit who probably still wants you about me.
• 44:41
  Speaker 1: I have a problem with that. Yeah, yeah, And I
• 44:44
  Speaker 1: feel like you have to be friendly and not talking
• 44:46
  Speaker 1: about our relationship, Like y'all can talk about other guys,
• 44:49
  Speaker 1: current events, policy time, aside from taking your ass to Chicago.
• 44:55
  Speaker 1: If y'all play with and something like like they would
• 45:00
  Speaker 1: know like no, like his girl, don't play that like
• 45:02
  Speaker 1: she's sucking crazy, you know what I'm saying, Like I
• 45:04
  Speaker 1: feel like, yo, like, don't play for his girl like that,
• 45:06
  Speaker 1: like we're just friends because I feel like we just
• 45:08
  Speaker 1: don't care about that. I feel like like you like
• 45:11
  Speaker 1: you just like you like you be having friends like yeah,
• 45:14
  Speaker 1: that she used to like with like with there a
• 45:16
  Speaker 1: good connection and they always look out for you. Still, right,
• 45:20
  Speaker 1: this just be like girl, Johnny got a new girlfriend,
• 45:22
  Speaker 1: but I talked to that Nick all the time. I
• 45:24
  Speaker 1: could take him right now if I wanted. That's because
• 45:26
  Speaker 1: that's probably how you be saying, bitch, no, no, I
• 45:31
  Speaker 1: don't want these houmes. Man, I did not want these homes. Man.
• 45:35
  Speaker 1: Look as I'm looking at this list, I'm like picking
• 45:38
  Speaker 1: up on my other my other red flags. Okay, so
• 45:41
  Speaker 1: look after X is still having access to you here,
• 45:44
  Speaker 1: I have noted. Okay, and this could I could, it
• 45:47
  Speaker 1: could beat me healthy conflict resolution. I'd be ready to go,
• 45:52
  Speaker 1: That's what I noted. And I do be ready to go.
• 45:55
  Speaker 1: So what you mean, like and like when you get
• 45:57
  Speaker 1: into an argument that's just so deep, I'd be ready
• 46:00
  Speaker 1: to just dip out, like I wanna, I want to
• 46:03
  Speaker 1: leave the relationship. So you don't want to be too
• 46:05
  Speaker 1: you want to leave the relationship, I'd be ready to
• 46:07
  Speaker 1: leave the relationship. I'd be ready the conversation is too vulnerable,
• 46:12
  Speaker 1: not the conversation, but if we're we're in the midst
• 46:15
  Speaker 1: of like an argument that I just feel like it's
• 46:17
  Speaker 1: just like you know how I guess the comprehension thing, right,
• 46:22
  Speaker 1: I'm not comprehending you. You're not comprehending me. So that's
• 46:24
  Speaker 1: why there's a disagreement. We're going back and forth about
• 46:27
  Speaker 1: the same thing. I'd be ready to end the relationship
• 46:30
  Speaker 1: because of that, because we don't under yes, when it
• 46:36
  Speaker 1: is that's always made for me, I do be running.
• 46:39
  Speaker 1: I'd be ready to get the funk about it there,
• 46:40
  Speaker 1: because if we're not understanding each other, how can we
• 46:43
  Speaker 1: have a relationship. That's what the work that's putting you
• 46:48
  Speaker 1: gotta do the work. And maybe that's why I don't
• 46:50
  Speaker 1: have a man now because I'll be putting in work.
• 46:52
  Speaker 1: I just I don't like like you know what I'm saying,
• 46:54
  Speaker 1: Like yeah, because we come up from an instant gratification society,
• 46:59
  Speaker 1: and like if things ain't good, we're ready to move
• 47:02
  Speaker 1: on to the next thing or just be by myself.
• 47:05
  Speaker 1: I don't even be ready to move on. I just
• 47:07
  Speaker 1: be ready to just have a little peace because I
• 47:10
  Speaker 1: just be thinking about like, um, are you even mad?
• 47:12
  Speaker 1: Black woman? And idea I could do bad by myself
• 47:15
  Speaker 1: like that, you know what I'm saying, Like if I'm
• 47:16
  Speaker 1: like constantly like, are you gonna find with somebody? I
• 47:18
  Speaker 1: like? Like Like you said, I could just be by myself.
• 47:20
  Speaker 1: It's like, listen, I can had a tent in some
• 47:21
  Speaker 1: batteries for all this, Like it's not that deep. It's
• 47:23
  Speaker 1: not worth the stress, right, ain't nothing like no real
• 47:28
  Speaker 1: dick and somebody holding you at nice It's nothing like it.
• 47:30
  Speaker 1: But like not if you're stressing me, like I wanna
• 47:33
  Speaker 1: be stressed out over there, at least you can follow
• 47:35
  Speaker 1: up with some You just gotta find out what you like.
• 47:38
  Speaker 1: I just feel like you have to decide what stress
• 47:41
  Speaker 1: you're willing to put up with when it comes to
• 47:43
  Speaker 1: these men, Like you're not just gonna find no fucking
• 47:46
  Speaker 1: perfect as nigga who's just gonna come perfectly healed and
• 47:49
  Speaker 1: just perfect for you, and he ain't gonna never stress you,
• 47:53
  Speaker 1: and she ain't never gonna get hard, and like that's
• 47:55
  Speaker 1: gonna happen in any relationship. And why are we going
• 47:59
  Speaker 1: back to men? Y'all? See what happened? Do you see
• 48:03
  Speaker 1: what happened? Why are we talking about minute? All? Right? Now?
• 48:07
  Speaker 1: That's exactly and that's why I wanted to have this
• 48:11
  Speaker 1: conversation because it's y'all fault. Goddamn it. I don't care
• 48:15
  Speaker 1: I said it because it almost seems like we can pinpoint,
• 48:20
  Speaker 1: you know, every single issue about men, but when it's
• 48:23
  Speaker 1: time to look at our own ships, we just it's
• 48:27
  Speaker 1: almost like I'm like this because of that. I'm like
• 48:30
  Speaker 1: this because this person did that. Your energy, right, I
• 48:34
  Speaker 1: want to stay I want to stay clear that this
• 48:37
  Speaker 1: next one might be number one on the list for
• 48:40
  Speaker 1: a lot of women. Uh, it's fallen in love too fast.
• 48:44
  Speaker 1: We all think about that. M hmm. I think it's true.
• 48:49
  Speaker 1: I'm trying not to think about it because you know,
• 48:53
  Speaker 1: I in love like in my head, but I try
• 48:55
  Speaker 1: not to say anything because because I know it's like
• 48:56
  Speaker 1: a thing. I like remind myself that, like you know,
• 48:59
  Speaker 1: you're just romantic in this person, you really don't know
• 49:01
  Speaker 1: him like that. So I'll do like all the ship.
• 49:03
  Speaker 1: But like as fact as I could quote for fall
• 49:04
  Speaker 1: in love, it is, I can fall out of love
• 49:05
  Speaker 1: because they in my head already know that, like it's
• 49:07
  Speaker 1: just me not me. I like to keep myself in check.
• 49:12
  Speaker 1: I'm a cancer. So as soon as I fall in love,
• 49:14
  Speaker 1: I turned in the fucking Marry Poppins snow white in
• 49:17
  Speaker 1: the seven doors, and the birds be chirping in the
• 49:20
  Speaker 1: the be singing in my ear and ship and then
• 49:22
  Speaker 1: the nigga hurt my feelings. Then I'll be mad at myself.
• 49:26
  Speaker 1: You did it again? To me, you did it again?
• 49:29
  Speaker 1: You know, fail for this ship? Right, I've been there
• 49:34
  Speaker 1: so many times. That's why now I'd be like sean thro,
• 49:36
  Speaker 1: tell yourself a dreams, like don't say God talk to you,
• 49:40
  Speaker 1: but you might be manifesting it not to work when
• 49:42
  Speaker 1: you do that. And sometimes I think that too, Like
• 49:45
  Speaker 1: sometimes I think maybe I'm being too pessimistic. So it's
• 49:48
  Speaker 1: like weird, because nobody wants to be played, you know
• 49:50
  Speaker 1: what I'm saying, Like, nobody wants to feel played. Because
• 49:52
  Speaker 1: it's even like you know, like when you crost me
• 49:53
  Speaker 1: here answer and it's like what do I call him? Again?
• 49:55
  Speaker 1: Like I know he's seen a miscall, you know what
• 49:57
  Speaker 1: I'm saying, Like those type of stories in your head.
• 50:00
  Speaker 1: That's not my man. I don't either, but I feel
• 50:01
  Speaker 1: like maybe that's the problem. Well, okay, so here's the thing.
• 50:07
  Speaker 1: Maybe in my twenties I probably would have looked at
• 50:09
  Speaker 1: this a little bit different, but nowadays I really don't
• 50:11
  Speaker 1: got time to play with you. I'm gonna say exactly
• 50:13
  Speaker 1: what I want, exactly how I'm feeling, exactly how I
• 50:15
  Speaker 1: feel about you, and then you can go on if
• 50:19
  Speaker 1: that's not if you're not winning none of that ship. Right,
• 50:22
  Speaker 1: So I might even tell you because late you know what,
• 50:25
  Speaker 1: I love you. If you ain't with that, you probably
• 50:30
  Speaker 1: should leave me to fu alone, right, say this pussy
• 50:34
  Speaker 1: or not not even just the pussy. It is everything
• 50:38
  Speaker 1: that come with exactly. So um yeah, So it's it's
• 50:42
  Speaker 1: possible that women we do have those attachment issues we've
• 50:45
  Speaker 1: talked about in the past, falling in love too quick
• 50:49
  Speaker 1: and expecting the person to be at the same space
• 50:53
  Speaker 1: in the relationship that you are at the same time.
• 50:55
  Speaker 1: It's almost inevitable because a lot of times two people
• 50:58
  Speaker 1: are not in love at the same time. It's just
• 51:01
  Speaker 1: for whatever reason, it's that way. And I guess when
• 51:03
  Speaker 1: you do find somebody that you're in love with at
• 51:05
  Speaker 1: the same time, and I'll get married and I'll do
• 51:06
  Speaker 1: all the little things. I don't know. Do you think's
• 51:09
  Speaker 1: like my grandmother. She's always telling me, like, never love
• 51:11
  Speaker 1: someone more than they love you, and if you do,
• 51:13
  Speaker 1: don't show it, like she always. Yeah, So that's what
• 51:16
  Speaker 1: women are told because we think that's that's how relationships work.
• 51:19
  Speaker 1: But then that's also how you create stalkers. Okay, when
• 51:22
  Speaker 1: this man is so in love at you, he loves
• 51:24
  Speaker 1: you more than he loves itself at this damn point,
• 51:27
  Speaker 1: you love so now you that that comes out that
• 51:31
  Speaker 1: I would think that if I love somebody more than
• 51:33
  Speaker 1: they love me, it's gonna kinda uh I mean, excuse me.
• 51:37
  Speaker 1: If this man loves me then more than I love him,
• 51:40
  Speaker 1: it's gonna kind of show in the relationship and the
• 51:43
  Speaker 1: things that we do to each other, you know what
• 51:46
  Speaker 1: I'm saying. So somebody's gonna be lacking. It's gonna be
• 51:49
  Speaker 1: a lack somewhere. But right, But do you think most
• 51:55
  Speaker 1: relationships are like that where it's like one person loves
• 51:57
  Speaker 1: someone more than the other, even if it's like uh
• 52:00
  Speaker 1: fifty three right. Yeah. I don't think so either. I
• 52:05
  Speaker 1: don't think it's ever I think like like they're showing
• 52:07
  Speaker 1: in different ways like in a yan yang, and I
• 52:09
  Speaker 1: feel like that's when it's like that's probably like your person.
• 52:11
  Speaker 1: But I don't think it's ever like equal. There's always
• 52:14
  Speaker 1: one person chasing another and y'all flip flop sometime. Yeah,
• 52:18
  Speaker 1: that's how I feel too. I feel like it might
• 52:19
  Speaker 1: be like different moments where like yeah, but it's never
• 52:23
  Speaker 1: like a smooth just like you know, fifty situations. Attitude
• 52:29
  Speaker 1: attitude problems ladies who got an attitude? Black women, that's
• 52:34
  Speaker 1: across the board for us, we're just born with one.
• 52:36
  Speaker 1: We're born with our middle finger up like what, yeah,
• 52:41
  Speaker 1: I'll be feeling like it's even had a whole situation
• 52:42
  Speaker 1: at Afro Functions now was one of the guys like
• 52:44
  Speaker 1: I simply had because I had to move my stuff,
• 52:45
  Speaker 1: you know, always telling you I was like moving my stuff.
• 52:47
  Speaker 1: So I had asked to some of the people have
• 52:49
  Speaker 1: like cars and you know, like you can't drive your
• 52:50
  Speaker 1: car on the thing. So I just like, I'm high,
• 52:53
  Speaker 1: it's impossible that someone can help me, Um, you know,
• 52:55
  Speaker 1: move my stuff. This man's gonna say, not me. You
• 52:58
  Speaker 1: could go over there, And I said, okay, like what
• 53:00
  Speaker 1: you said it like that because I'm like, like the
• 53:02
  Speaker 1: attitude doesn't even called for. So then I went and
• 53:04
  Speaker 1: I asked when else this same motherfucker's gonna pull up
• 53:07
  Speaker 1: and be like, oh he gotta do. So I thought,
• 53:09
  Speaker 1: like I was trying to keep myself calm because I
• 53:11
  Speaker 1: was like, now I feel like you're catching the attitude
• 53:13
  Speaker 1: with me for no reason. I'm like, I literally just
• 53:14
  Speaker 1: asked the question. It said yes and no question. He's like, oh, well,
• 53:17
  Speaker 1: we gotta do ours that I said. I see. Now
• 53:19
  Speaker 1: we're still talking just so catch your fucking attitude me.
• 53:21
  Speaker 1: I don't know, you like, just say no. I just
• 53:23
  Speaker 1: asked to kid, someone help me. That's it. But it's
• 53:24
  Speaker 1: but I feel like it's like they're waiting for us
• 53:26
  Speaker 1: to have an attitude for no reason. Like I just
• 53:28
  Speaker 1: asked the question. I see what you're saying. So basically
• 53:31
  Speaker 1: it's almost like black women are expected to have this attitude,
• 53:33
  Speaker 1: so we're always um. People always come to us, you
• 53:38
  Speaker 1: know with the it's like yeah, like they feel like
• 53:44
  Speaker 1: they have to have their guards up from like Jump
• 53:46
  Speaker 1: Street and it's like, bro, like I live and I
• 53:48
  Speaker 1: was mad nice. I was like, excuse me. I didn't
• 53:50
  Speaker 1: even ask him if you could do I was like,
• 53:51
  Speaker 1: it's it possible I could get somebody to help me.
• 53:53
  Speaker 1: I didn't even so when he was like not me,
• 53:54
  Speaker 1: but you who goes, I was like, I'm not even
• 53:56
  Speaker 1: arguing with you because the attitude wasn't even called for us.
• 53:58
  Speaker 1: I was like okay, and I just moved to the
• 53:59
  Speaker 1: other feel now I'm on the other field, and you
• 54:01
  Speaker 1: still find and then you're sitting there looking at me
• 54:03
  Speaker 1: like you want to start saying like what the fund
• 54:04
  Speaker 1: is your problem? You're waiting for a problem, like that's
• 54:07
  Speaker 1: what is you want a confrontation. If the answer is no,
• 54:09
  Speaker 1: then't cool. I'm just gonna go ask somebody else, you
• 54:11
  Speaker 1: know what. UM Like you know another uh time where
• 54:15
  Speaker 1: I feel like black women are treated like we're going
• 54:18
  Speaker 1: to have an attitude, so I'm gonna give you poor service.
• 54:21
  Speaker 1: Sometimes when people are of other races are serving black
• 54:24
  Speaker 1: women at the table, we don't get the best service
• 54:27
  Speaker 1: because they'll be like they're gonna have an attitude and
• 54:28
  Speaker 1: they're not gonna too Yeah yeah, yeah, all right, y'all. So,
• 54:33
  Speaker 1: like we already talked about accountability or the inability like
• 54:36
  Speaker 1: thereof accountability, um to see our own bullshit, you know,
• 54:42
  Speaker 1: UM assisting that men excuse me while insisting that men
• 54:47
  Speaker 1: take accountability for the ship. So those are red that's
• 54:51
  Speaker 1: a red flag. UM shutting down, ignoring, or lack of
• 54:57
  Speaker 1: conflict resolution. I think we talked about that. M hm.
• 55:01
  Speaker 1: Actually we didn't talk about shutting down. So, you know,
• 55:04
  Speaker 1: not being able to communicate with a woman. So you're
• 55:07
  Speaker 1: a grown man, you have communication skills, but you're with
• 55:11
  Speaker 1: a woman who lacks communication and comprehension skills. You know,
• 55:16
  Speaker 1: what do you do? That's just not something that's solely
• 55:18
  Speaker 1: um male trade. We know men don't like you can talk,
• 55:21
  Speaker 1: but there are some men who are who do well,
• 55:23
  Speaker 1: I mean communicate, but then you end up with somebody
• 55:25
  Speaker 1: who can't communicate. Right. Another one somebody wrote down was um,
• 55:31
  Speaker 1: just say another personal just put that down one or
• 55:35
  Speaker 1: nine I personalized ship that don't have anything to do
• 55:40
  Speaker 1: with me. A lot of women do that. We'll take
• 55:42
  Speaker 1: some ship that is his ship and make it our
• 55:45
  Speaker 1: ship and make it about us with the I I
• 55:48
  Speaker 1: I I I I M. I'm going through this and
• 55:53
  Speaker 1: you're making it about you right now, right, I can
• 55:57
  Speaker 1: give you all of it. Well, I won't do that.
• 55:59
  Speaker 1: Let me just go to the next one. I was
• 56:00
  Speaker 1: ready a second with got a perfect example of that,
• 56:03
  Speaker 1: but I won't. Um. I saw a comment from someone
• 56:07
  Speaker 1: that said they ignore people, so I comment back to
• 56:10
  Speaker 1: her and I asked her, what does she mean by that,
• 56:12
  Speaker 1: And I said, like ignoring in a relationship. She said yes,
• 56:15
  Speaker 1: So I may be guilty of that too, Like we're
• 56:18
  Speaker 1: getting into it. I may not answer my phone for
• 56:19
  Speaker 1: your ask for the rest of the day, you know,
• 56:22
  Speaker 1: because I don't feel like you're calling me to um,
• 56:26
  Speaker 1: let's move on. Maybe if you're calling me to continue
• 56:30
  Speaker 1: on with the ship bullshit from earlier, I don't want
• 56:32
  Speaker 1: to talk to you. So I know that I've ignored
• 56:35
  Speaker 1: somebody for a while two weeks. I ain't know people too,
• 56:39
  Speaker 1: because I feel like I don't want to say anything
• 56:40
  Speaker 1: I can't take back. So that's like the best way
• 56:42
  Speaker 1: for me to handle it. And I know that's probably
• 56:43
  Speaker 1: not like the best thing, but at the toss up
• 56:45
  Speaker 1: of the two, it's like I'd rather just do ignoring
• 56:48
  Speaker 1: than like saying some ship we're like, you know what
• 56:49
  Speaker 1: I'm saying, and I can't take that ship back. But
• 56:51
  Speaker 1: I shouldn't be more mature than that, Like that is
• 56:53
  Speaker 1: something I need to work on, because it's not like
• 56:55
  Speaker 1: the best way of communication. See, if someone does that
• 56:57
  Speaker 1: to me, it will triggered my abandiment issues and then
• 57:00
  Speaker 1: I overreact. Then you ignore me, and now you win.
• 57:03
  Speaker 1: Shill missing you know, you ignore me. Now you'll got
• 57:10
  Speaker 1: no wish you consequences. Consequences. Procrastination was another. Oh, that's
• 57:20
  Speaker 1: that's one of mine. I feel like that's just humans. Yeah,
• 57:25
  Speaker 1: Like a red flag of my everyday life is procrastination. Yes,
• 57:28
  Speaker 1: and it's like I can't even do the things I
• 57:30
  Speaker 1: want to do? What the fund is my problem? Right? Um? Okay,
• 57:35
  Speaker 1: So apparently men consider a single woman with their ship
• 57:38
  Speaker 1: together red flag because something has to be wrong with you. Yeah.
• 57:43
  Speaker 1: One of my girl friends said that one of my
• 57:45
  Speaker 1: red flags was that I ain't got nobody yet, Like,
• 57:50
  Speaker 1: how you ain't got nobody? You see me to have
• 57:52
  Speaker 1: your ship together? You're attractive, you funny, Like, why are
• 57:56
  Speaker 1: you single? Something's wrong with you? That's eating meaning money
• 57:59
  Speaker 1: more I began, But then it's like, but then, why
• 58:02
  Speaker 1: are you single? Because we're both sitting here. Okay, that's
• 58:06
  Speaker 1: a whole another episode. Uh, Because I think that, you know,
• 58:10
  Speaker 1: for the most part, I believe that women want love.
• 58:13
  Speaker 1: Women want to be loved. We don't want to be single.
• 58:17
  Speaker 1: I believe that men thrive when they're single. They may
• 58:20
  Speaker 1: not realize, well they may not. Actually, I feel like
• 58:23
  Speaker 1: married men thrive a little bit more than single men.
• 58:25
  Speaker 1: You know, some people can do it being single, but
• 58:28
  Speaker 1: most married, most successful men are married. Right. But we're
• 58:33
  Speaker 1: living in it. I think we're living in a time where,
• 58:35
  Speaker 1: you know, if we're in the black community, we want
• 58:37
  Speaker 1: to talk about the black community. A lot of people
• 58:39
  Speaker 1: don't put a lot of black men don't see the
• 58:41
  Speaker 1: importance of marriage or relationships. I think men like they
• 58:47
  Speaker 1: want to be loved too, but they try to front
• 58:49
  Speaker 1: like they like they don't like they don't want to
• 58:50
  Speaker 1: be like it's whatever, you know what I'm saying. And
• 58:52
  Speaker 1: sometimes I think because I think like in the media,
• 58:54
  Speaker 1: that's like how they I mean, they change it now,
• 58:56
  Speaker 1: but I feel like in the media that's a lot
• 58:57
  Speaker 1: of times how they put trade black men, and then
• 58:59
  Speaker 1: because that's what they see you on television, they try
• 59:01
  Speaker 1: to like, you know, like marry that because they feel
• 59:03
  Speaker 1: like that's what it is to be a black man.
• 59:04
  Speaker 1: Like even like in the music and ship like that.
• 59:06
  Speaker 1: I feel like it's a lot of marrying and not
• 59:07
  Speaker 1: them like really like being who they are. Because I
• 59:09
  Speaker 1: feel like to be loved, it's like a normal human
• 59:10
  Speaker 1: trait I think everyone wants because it's a good feeling.
• 59:13
  Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. So even like we're like,
• 59:16
  Speaker 1: how like black man cheating and ship like that, I
• 59:18
  Speaker 1: feel like a lot of it, even though like I
• 59:19
  Speaker 1: feel like something just can't keep the di they dig together.
• 59:21
  Speaker 1: But like sometimes I think, like, no, I think you're
• 59:23
  Speaker 1: just cheating because you feel like you're supposed to when
• 59:25
  Speaker 1: you think it's okay, Like it's not even necessarily because
• 59:27
  Speaker 1: you really you know what I'm saying. It's just like
• 59:29
  Speaker 1: because like you just feel like, oh, I'm a man
• 59:30
  Speaker 1: and this is what men men do, so you just
• 59:33
  Speaker 1: go out and do whatever. Right, so biblically, because biblically,
• 59:36
  Speaker 1: you know, people like to go back to the Bible
• 59:38
  Speaker 1: and talk about women and blah blah blah. But the
• 59:40
  Speaker 1: Bible doesn't mention anything about if you want to do that,
• 59:43
  Speaker 1: because that's a lot of reference. God's people use the
• 59:45
  Speaker 1: Bible as right, especially when trying to dictate what women
• 59:49
  Speaker 1: need to be doing. The Bible says the man can't
• 59:53
  Speaker 1: be alone. They didn't say anything about women not being
• 59:55
  Speaker 1: able to be alone. And the Bible also says man
• 59:58
  Speaker 1: should love women as Christ love the Church and don't
• 1:00:00
  Speaker 1: say shit about women loving men. But y'all, we need love.
• 1:00:06
  Speaker 1: Women need stand out numbers. I mean we out number men. Yeah,
• 1:00:11
  Speaker 1: for another reason too, m hmm. I feel like somebody
• 1:00:16
  Speaker 1: meant to be alone. Yeah. I feel like even that
• 1:00:18
  Speaker 1: statistics is fake because I mean, we got to calculate
• 1:00:20
  Speaker 1: on how many men are incocerateds. So we're talking about
• 1:00:22
  Speaker 1: available men on the streets. Some things we just can't control,
• 1:00:26
  Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. They could very well be
• 1:00:29
  Speaker 1: damn in the same amount of women as there are men.
• 1:00:32
  Speaker 1: We would never know. And as long as men think
• 1:00:36
  Speaker 1: that it's less of them and more of us, and
• 1:00:39
  Speaker 1: that means that's why they should have five or six
• 1:00:41
  Speaker 1: different women, they'll continue to do that ship. But we
• 1:00:45
  Speaker 1: have to put our fun down to be like n nigger,
• 1:00:47
  Speaker 1: it's equal playing grounds, equal playing field. Stop playing. Picked
• 1:00:52
  Speaker 1: a woman and get married. I want one, like I
• 1:00:55
  Speaker 1: want to be in a relationship with like women and
• 1:00:57
  Speaker 1: just me, but maybe beyond fifteen years down on line,
• 1:01:00
  Speaker 1: let's add somebody so I can they can share the load.
• 1:01:05
  Speaker 1: Let's add somebody because that's still and that's what women
• 1:01:12
  Speaker 1: don't think take into consideration. That's a big job being married.
• 1:01:16
  Speaker 1: Like you know, I realized being single down that you know,
• 1:01:20
  Speaker 1: some days I don't eat. I just go to sleep.
• 1:01:22
  Speaker 1: But when you got a family, you're responsible for their nourishments.
• 1:01:25
  Speaker 1: And now I gotta make sure you and your kids,
• 1:01:28
  Speaker 1: or if we got kids again, I gotta make sure
• 1:01:29
  Speaker 1: everybody eat every single day. Like that is stressful. Trying
• 1:01:32
  Speaker 1: to figure out just yes, that is very stressful when
• 1:01:37
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• 1:01:42
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