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(#20) The Soft Power Revolution: How Feminine Energy Rewrites Reality · Alignment With Jenn

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Hello, and good morning, and welcome to this episode of
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Receive. I am your host, Jen Zazy, and I
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am a premier transformation coach for women where I support
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women in manifesting really the greatest lives that they
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possibly can. And this morning, I come to you
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from a beautiful fall day in San Diego, which means it's still
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really warm at 5:30 AM. And I've turned off all the
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lights in the downstairs of my house and I have just a candle
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going. And so it's really cozy and I'm
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loving it. And I'm loving getting to be
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here with you this morning. And what I want to share this
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morning is a concept that I've actually never shared publicly.
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And it's something I've been thinking about a lot over the
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past year. And it's this concept that I'm
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referring to as soft power and the soft power revolution.
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And I'll get more into that. But I want to share a little bit
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of context of how I came to this idea because I think it's really
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helpful to understand. And over the past couple of
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years that I've had this business that I've been working
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in this capacity, running manifestation programs, things
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like that. I have learned a tremendous
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amount from working with women, meaning I'm always taking the
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most recent courses. I'm learning from the best
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people in the space because I believe that that's my duty to
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serve at the highest level that I possibly can.
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I also love it. So that's, it's easy, right?
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When two things that you love go together.
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So what I have seen is that over the last year, I've really been
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getting very, very clear on this idea of soft power and the soft
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power revolution. And what it is, is really that
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over the past hundred, 200 years, we as a society have
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really focused on the masculine strategies for creation and
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manifestation. And that is you can think of
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like the industrial revolution. I feel like that kind of
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encapsulates it where it's like working long hours, it's
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forcing, it's hustling, it's proving.
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It is this energy of do more, do more, do more.
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And that is something that is a very, very masculine approach
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and it works. It completely works, but the
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flip side of it is that it often leaves people burned out.
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It leaves people searching for a deeper sense of fulfillment.
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It leaves people feeling never enough.
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It leaves people feeling like they have to sacrifice their
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mental and physical health in order to achieve the levels of
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success that they desire. And what I'm sharing with you,
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the soft power revolution and the soft power principle, is
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really the feminine way of manifesting and creating in your
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life. And I have so many chills.
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I'm sharing this right now because I think it's just so, so
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crucial that we reestablish this balance between the feminine and
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the masculine. I'm not saying throw out the
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ability to hustle and create in that way, but what I'm saying is
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there's another way and that this other way could actually
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get you significantly farther as a feminine energy being.
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So the feminine soft power principle is really about
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feminine influence. It's about feminine magnetism
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and it's about Co creating with unseen forces of the universe
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that are significantly more powerful and all knowing than
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the limited capacity of our logical mind.
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The masculine is very much about creating from that logical mind
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and that's amazing and that's beautiful and that has a
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rightful place in our society. I firmly believe that we need
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both, and I believe that understanding what your gifts
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are and what your essence is and the living in alignment with
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that is going to create a significantly, significantly
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more harmonious society than trying to fit yourself into a
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box that was never made for you. And personally as someone who
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considers myself to be a feminine being, also being a
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projector in human design with a really specific human design
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type and chart and things like that, this is how I live my
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life. And as a as I have lived more
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and more in alignment with this soft power revolution, the more
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I have found deeply fulfilling relationships, the more I have
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been guided to deep wisdom, fulfillment, purpose, wealth,
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abundance, connection, intimacy, friendships.
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My entire life has quantum leaped as I have lived in
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alignment with this. Because I truly believe we are
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here to live in alignment with the highest essence of who we
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came here to be. And we all came here with
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different makeups, energetic makeups, human design makeups,
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feminine and masculine balances. And the reason we came here with
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those different makeups is because we're all meant to
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express very unique gifts in the world.
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And I believe that a better understanding of this soft power
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will allow you to manifest things into your life
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significantly more joyfully, more easily, and more completely
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then if you are to go about it in a way that is not in
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alignment with your true essence and your true divinity.
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OK, so let's talk about this soft power.
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So soft power really is what I described as the feminine form
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of influence. It's influencing people,
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outcomes, experiences. It's influencing yourself.
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It's influencing your entire life in a way that is rooted in
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how the feminine operates. And it's rooted in love.
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It's rooted in collaboration, receptivity in our architecture.
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You know, I think that as we talk about the rise of the
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feminine and the eyes of these feminine principles, we think
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that means a clash, right? But that's not how the feminine
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operates. The feminine is not competitive.
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The feminine is collaborative at her core, right?
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Think back to Hunter and gatherers, where the feminine
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all day was spending time together.
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They were caring for one another's children, they were
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sharing foods, things like that. We're highly collaborative at
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our nature. It is when we get out of
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alignment that we become competitive.
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When we feel like resources are scarce, whether those are men,
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whether those are finances, whether those are jobs, whether
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those are clients, that's when we become competitive.
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We go into our masculine when we want to protect ourselves.
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And the more that we can lean into the truths of the universe,
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the more that we can believe in a force beyond ourselves, the
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more that we can soften into our feminine and soften into the
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soft power. So it's receptive and it's all
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based on your inner architecture.
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It's based on your inner landscape and your inner world
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of your beliefs, your identity, your subconscious operating
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systems. It is based on what you're
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believing about yourself, what you're believing about the world
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at large and that inner architecture that you create,
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right? I'm seeing this like building of
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this beautiful castle within, right?
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Like a white radiant golden castle.
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Yours could be multi colored whenever you want within
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yourself and that creates the sanctuary within.
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And I consider that what I call that is the sanctuary life.
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It's living from a place of such deep alignment, harmony, heart,
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courage, resonance, and truth that your inner world becomes a
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sanctuary where you no longer need to go on your phone and
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scroll to escape the uncomfortable feelings that
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arise when someone doesn't text you back or you don't get a job
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opportunity. You have this inner sanctuary
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where you know that you can handle the tidal wave of all of
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your emotions, all of your feelings, and all of the
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external experiences that happen in your life, whether they be
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what you want or what you don't want.
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Because you have this inner strength that is this inner
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sanctuary. And that's really what soft
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power is based on, is building your inner architecture so
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strong and so powerful that you are able to soften into the
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edges and the rough spots of life.
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Yeah, I know, I know, I know, I know.
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It gives me such chills talking about this.
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I literally love it because the old pair, as we talked about, is
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this feeling of needing to hustle, of prove, of sacrificing
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your inner peace for success, wealth and survival when there
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is another way, we've just forgotten it.
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And this other way is this Co creation.
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It is building your inner sanctuary.
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So that way your outer reality reflects that in your life.
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Your outer reality reflects the harmony within like a calm pond.
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Something I found very interesting is that as I've
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coached many, many women, what I've seen is that a lot of women
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when I ask them, I'm like, what is the core thing that you
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really want? Like if you could have anything?
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And oftentimes they'll think for a second and they'll kind of
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give me this look like, and then they'll have this little aha
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moment. And what they say 9 times out of
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10 is truthfully, I just want peace.
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I want to feel peace inside of myself because I know that that
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will positively impact my world, my children, my career, my life,
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how I handle situations, how I handle fires that arise.
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Peace. And that's what soft power is.
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We know on an intuitive level that that is our core essence.
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Doctor David Hawkins, if you ever read the book Letting Go,
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you will love of it. It's so good.
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And it so aligns with this whole idea of soft power.
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He talks about how our true nature is peace.
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And So what these women in all these coaching sessions are
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really saying to me is I want to get back to my true essence.
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I want to get back to what it really means to be me and that
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is soft power. So soft power is how we create
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outcomes in a way that aligns with what we truly want.
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It's how we influence the world around us in a powerful yet soft
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way, in a way that magnetizes and attracts and inspires and
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moves and Co creates versus forces.
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Because soft power is love, it is rooted in love of self, it is
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rooted in love of the other. Because what it is, is this
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recognition, recognition that everything is a reflection of
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ourselves in our internal world. And so when we reject, when we
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judge the things outside of us, what we are really doing is we
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are rejecting and we are judging ourselves.
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And so soft power is really about, it's not being passive,
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it's not sitting back and waiting for life to happen to
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you. I do not believe in that at all.
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I believe we are here to engage with life in the fullest
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capacity. It's about being actively
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receptive. So I think about this journey
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I've been on over the last year where I've really wanted to do a
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rebrand in my business. The messaging that I have, the
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earlier pieces of marketing material and things like that
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that I created in my business, they don't feel in alignment
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anymore. And I've really been, I would
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say it's been about a year where I've really been mulling over
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this and thinking about it, right?
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And what I realized is I didn't need to think about it.
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I just have to allow the ideas, I have to put myself in places
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with people who inspire me where I can createspace in my
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meditations to receive the ideas of what I'm meant to create in
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this world. So that's the difference.
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The masculine is more of pushing forward.
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Masculine power is pushing and going regardless of what the
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Interstate is. It's like the warrior.
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The warrior is not like, Oh my God, how do I feel on the
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inside? No, that would not work, right?
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So the masculine has developed very different characters and
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attributes. The feminine, though, is more
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about receiving that insight and intuition.
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And the oracles, like the Oracle of Delphi, who she used to sit
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in this cave and she would basically sit there and people
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would come to her and they would talk to her and they would ask
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her for insights and intuition and things like that.
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And she's sitting there and just receiving this divine guidance
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that she's able to share with people, right?
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And then those people can go and act on it.
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And that's the same thing for ourselves.
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The more that we allow ourselves to be a channel for intuition,
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for guidance, because as feminine beings, we are
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naturally more connected to our intuition, to the unseen forces
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of the world, to the unseen forces of the universe, to that
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guidance. We are that receptive force.
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Then we are able to go out and act upon those things versus
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just acting and spinning our wheels without that divine
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guidance and that insight. 1st, and I really want to clarify
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something here because I think a lot of people get confused with
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this. I had a client yesterday say how
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she's, she's starting a health coaching business and she's
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like, you know, but I haven't really done anything because I'm
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just not clear on the path. And I think we oftentimes think
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I need clarity before I can act, when in reality, what we need to
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do is we need to act on the minimal amount of clarity that
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we have in that moment. Because truthfully, you're never
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going to have full clarity on a large vision until you start
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executing on it, right? You're never going to have
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clarity on the type of man you want to be with until you date
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some men, until you meet some people, until you have some
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experiences and see some relationships.
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The same is true for a business, right?
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I just shared. I've spent the last year
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shifting and changing what it is that I want my business to be
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because I've gained new insights and ideas.
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Does it mean that I stopped doing anything?
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Obviously not. You don't sit back and wait.
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You act with the knowledge and the wisdom that you have.
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And the more that you do that, the more rapidly and quickly
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that you will begin to receive insights and inspiration.
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So what is soft power based on? So soft power really is the
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principles and the tools through which you create your life.
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And I know this can feel kind of like a a large concept as we
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start to dive into it, and I'd like to keep digging into it
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more and more over the weeks that come.
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But really it's about first working on your inner
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architecture, right? That's your subconscious mind,
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that's your nervous system, that's your identity.
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It's what you believe about the world, it's what you believe
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about yourself. It's what you believe about your
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partner, your children, about money.
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Your inner architecture is what is reflected out.
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I always say this, but your reality is a hall of mirrors.
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You're literally walking around seeing a mirrored reflection of
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yourself, of your beliefs imprinted on your reality.
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And it's honestly so wild to me how rapidly things change as you
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begin to shift your inner architecture.
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So I want to give an example to illustrate how powerful our
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inner architecture is. So I have this wonderful,
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amazing client. At the end, she was asking me
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for advice on this pattern that she keeps experiencing.
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It's basically a pattern of she'll make money and then
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she'll feel like she has bills that come up and she'll have to
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spend that money. And I told her I was like, you
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know, I am only able to receive insight and guidance to you of
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the level that you're able to receive it.
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So I can never give you guidance.
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And this is true for any teacher or mentor or psychic that you
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may go to. I'm not psychic, I'm just giving
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that as an example. But it's true of any of them
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that what they are able to give you is limited by your own
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ability and your own consciousness of receiving in
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that moment in time. So no one can ever give you more
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than you are able to actually receive.
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So if you feel like you're not getting any good advice, it's
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because you got to look within. So anyway, I, what I said to her
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basically was I was like, you know, the, the message that I
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keep getting every time that we've talked about this is that
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you have to take your focus off of that pattern.
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You're recreating this pattern over and over and over again by
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reiterating it and reliving it into your reality.
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You're re imprinting it. And she told me the story of how
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she's like, Oh my gosh, she's like, I have chills right now
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because she's like, the other day I went into my house and one
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of my friends was there and her friend had been helping her with
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some stuff. And she walked into the house
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and she didn't even notice that this friend was there.
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She didn't even see the friend in her house.
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And she just walks past and she goes into her room And the next
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day she comes out and she sees that her house has been cleaned
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and that it's been super cleaned because her friend had come
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over. And as a favor for her because
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she had done some things for the friend.
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She had cleaned her baseboard, she had cleaned her kitchen.
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She had done all this stuff to clean her house for her.
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So sweet. And she completely filtered it
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out of her reality. And I know that that seems like,
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wow, that's crazy that you could filter out an entire person,
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right? But we all do that every single
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day, Every single day. I guarantee you are doing dozens
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of things just like that. You're filtering things out and
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you're filtering things in based on your inner architecture.
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And so that's why if we want to create a new reality, we need to
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be able to see the world differently.
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If we want to manifest a new kind of job, a new kind of
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business, a new level of wealth, a new kind of partnership,
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whether with our current partner, a new partner, we need
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to update our internal architecture because it is being
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reflected back to us over and over and over again until we
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learn those lessons. If you feel like God, I always
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attract narcissistic partners or emotionally unavailable
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partners, that's because there's something within you that is
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printing that into your reality. And it's not a judgement.
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It's not a God, I suck. Like I need to stop doing that
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kind of thing. No, that does not help us,
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right? We have to raise our standards
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for how we speak to ourselves and how we treat ourselves
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internally. That's part of our inner
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architecture too. I have a whole, this is what I
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dedicate my work to is really shifting and changing this inner
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architecture. So the second part of creating
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this soft power is raising your standards to create a reality
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distortion field. So what's a reality distortion
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field? So there's stories of Steve Jobs
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and when he was at Apple, how he would go into a room and people
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were like, it was literally like reality became distorted when he
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entered the room because he would share ideas and they would
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be so preposterous to people at the time.
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They'd be so out there, yet somehow he would convince them
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that they were possible. And he did it through, I mean,
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and the man was brilliant, right?
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But he did it through his sense of belief, his deep sense of
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certainty. He did it through his soft
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power, his influence, his how he showed up, how he embodied,
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right. We are all unconsciously
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communicating things to people based off of the standards that
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we hold for ourselves. I saw, I think it was Cody
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Sanchez post something that she said, you know, I've never seen
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someone who was very physically fit who wasn't also very
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disciplined in other areas of their life because it takes a
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lot of discipline to be really physically fit, You know, and
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that same is true is that when we have high standards for
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ourselves, they will be reflected.
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And it doesn't have to be physical fitness.
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You know, that's not a goal for everybody.
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But our the standards that we hold for ourselves will be
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reflected over and over and over again in our reality.
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And they will create this reality distortion field.
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Steve Jobs walked into the room, knowing that he could influence
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people, knowing that he could get them to see things his way
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because he held the vision. He was the visionary.
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He could see beyond what existed in reality currently and he
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could create something that had never been created before,
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right? All of Apple, Apple being the
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most successful company I think in history even today.
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I could be a little wrong, but I mean, that's pretty accurate.
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It's close enough was because of his ability to hold so strongly
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into what he believed that the fabric of reality literally bent
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and conformed to support what he believed.
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That's how powerful you are. My client who didn't see her
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friend in her house, that's how powerful she is.
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And that's what I said to her afterward.
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I was like, you know, what's so cool about this story is I was
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like, you just illustrated your power.
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You illustrated how powerful you are at creating realities for
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yourself. And if you flip that and you
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turn that into your ability to only see the things that you
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want and create the reality that you want, you're going to be
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unstoppable. And that's the truth.
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That's the truth. It also unlocks the soft power,
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unlocks magnetic influence, right?
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That's what Steve Jobs, he was influential in such a powerful
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way. He drew opportunities, people,
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wealth, experiences, resources to him because of his belief,
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because of his inner architecture.
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And that's what living into this soft power, living into how the
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feminine is designed to work into raising your standards,
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into raising what you believe about yourself and updating your
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inner architecture, you become. Become influential in ways that
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are very unconscious. So there's a man that I've been
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dating and he said to me, he's like, you know, when I first met
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you, he's like, I could tell that you were a woman that I had
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to really respect. And I was like, really, what do
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you mean by that? And he's like, well, you know,
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he's like, I'll meet some women and he's like, I just don't have
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the same level of respect for them as I do for you.
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And I was like, really, why is that?
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And he said, he's like, you know, it's because of the way
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that you carry yourself. It's the way you conduct
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yourself. He's like, it's the way that you
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walk into a room and he's like, because you, you expect people
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to respect you. And I never honestly, I never
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even really knew that about myself, but it's true.
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I really do. I expect people to respect me.
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And as a result, I never, ever get treated poorly.
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Like, I can't think of the last time that I've really been
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treated poorly. I can't think of the last time
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that I met someone and they did it.
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They weren't very respectful to me, you know, and I had this
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teacher in college, she was, she was a freaking icon.
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And she was an O chem professor. And chemistry is typically like
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a very male dominant field. And she would open the doors to
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this 800 person lecture hall and she would walk in and she always
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wore these beautiful scarves. She always dressed so well.
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She would walk in the room and she wouldn't even say anything.
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And people would become quiet. 800 people would quiet down.
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That was her reality distortion field.
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She believed so strongly that she commanded respect that she
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didn't need to say anything. 817 eighteen 19 year olds quieted
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down for her and she'd walk up to the front of the classroom.
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She still wouldn't say anything. She'd write some random equation
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on the board and people would start raising their hands before
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she had even said anything. She commanded so much respect
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because of her internal beliefs. That's influence.
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That is soft power. Man, I wonder what she's doing
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now. She was, she really was somebody
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who imprinted on me how I wanted to show up in the world because
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she commanded so much respect. And she was beautiful and she
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was elegant and she was feminine and she commanded all of this
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respect. You know, it's not even respect
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that we always have to command. Maybe it's that we want to have
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people listen to US. One of my coaches said she's
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like, you know, the reason people listen to me is because I
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expect people to listen to me. She's like, I know I'm the real
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deal. So obviously they listen to me.
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Our beliefs create everything. It's our internal architecture
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that creates this reality distortion field.
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Soft power also amplifies your creativity and your flow.
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Soft power is like this fertile bed of soil that allows you to
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tap into limitless creativity, pleasure, joy, and receptivity.
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Because you're connected to all that is.
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You're connected to the quantum field, the infinite.
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So how could you ever run out of ideas?
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Maybe you don't need more rest. Maybe what you need is to
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reconnect to your creativity. I woke up this morning at 4:00
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AM so excited get out of bed because I was so connected to my
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creativity when I woke up and I really just had all of these
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ideas and I sat in bed for about 10 minutes and I just wrote down
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everything. I want to share all this
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podcast. Crazy, right?
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I know. And so much of what I'm saying,
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I'm like, this is some good stuff.
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Like I should write this down. It's really good because we all
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have access to this. Every single one of us has
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access to infinite ideas, experiences, creativity,
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limitlessness when we tap into it.
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And part of the way we tap into is living in alignment with who
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we truly are. So, you know, I think that might
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be where I leave it at today. And I know this concept still
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might feel a little bit nebulous.
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And I want you to just kind of let it sit there and feel a
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little bit nebulous. Things don't have to always feel
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super concrete. They don't always have to feel.
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Sometimes it's an energetic transmission, and that's what it
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is. And you start to feel this soft
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power. You start to walk into a room
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and expect people to open the door for you.
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You start to recognize that you're never, we're going to go
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on a date again where a man expects you to pay 5050 because
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your presence is worth 1000 times the cost of that date.
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So I hope you have loved this. I really love sharing this with
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you and I feel so inspired and I would love to hear your
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feedback. Anything that struck you on
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Spotify, you can comment directly on the episode.
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On Apple, you can leave a review.
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I know if you're listening on my podcast page, there's nowhere to
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leave any comments or anything like that, so you can message me
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and I'd love to hear how this struck you.
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You can always e-mail me back as well.
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So I hope you've loved this. I really love being here with
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you. Have a fabulous, soft, powerful
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day. OK, bye, bye.