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9 Signs of Asperger’s in Adults You Shouldn’t Ignore · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  So Asperger's in adults. In this video, we're going to be
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  covering nine ways that you can spot Asperger's and somebody
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  quickly come in up. Hey, I'm Dan, I have Asperger
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  syndrome, ADHD, OCD and dyslexia.
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  In this video, I'll be covering some symptoms that have been
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  proven to help identify Asperger's in somebody.
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  Hey everyone, welcome back to the Asper world where we
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  understand autism from an autistic person's point of view.
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  And so before we get into the video, I just want to ask you
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  guys a quick question and I would love to know what your
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  background is. If you're a parent or partner or
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  loved one of somebody who's on the spectrum or you're a
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  healthcare professional or industry professional in the
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  field, let me know in the comments below, just because I'd
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  love to start that conversation with you.
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  OK, so let's get started. Number one, people with
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  Asperger's syndrome will find social situations very confusing
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  and they won't really understand a lot of the social cues where
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  typically people understand body language a lot more with social
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  cues like whose turn is to talk next, when to finish talking,
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  how long to talk for what, the boundaries and that conversation
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  and things like that. But people will Asperger's
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  syndrome. If you want to listen to this, a
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  me. Or you can just click the link
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  in the description down below to listen to this.
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  Podcast just sometimes don't have that ability and this is
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  one way to identify it. And it's super common within
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  people with Asperger syndrome. I myself suffer from this issue
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  as well. So social situations can be very
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  confusing and because of that, I kind of tend to ignore and
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  isolate myself from social situations.
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  I don't want to get involved and I avoid them like the plague.
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  This is all down to the fact that autism affects the
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  communication part of the brain and This is why it's a
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  neurological disorder. And this is how you can really
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  tell. It's like the first steps of
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  really telling if somebody has a neurological issue where there
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  may be something on the autism spectrum there.
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  So this is a really good one to look out for.
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  So number two, people with Asperger's syndrome will find it
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  quite difficult to make small talk.
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  Now, small talk is the conversation that people have in
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  social situations that just kind of comes naturally to them and
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  they have this natural ability to just talk to somebody who
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  they may have met in the bus stop or in a shopping centre or
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  whatever. But people lost burger syndrome
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  have a huge issue in engaging in this talk.
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  I mean, how do you start a conversation?
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  It's quite difficult. I find it quite difficult to
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  start a conversation with a stranger or somebody I don't
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  really know or somebody who I've just encountered for a few
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  seconds. I mean, I'm not sure why there
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  needs to be a conversation in the 1st place, but this is
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  something that I found that I do differently to a lot of other
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  people and that I've always kind of like noticed that this is a
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  trait. So when you're dealing with
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  somebody who you think maybe on the autumn spectrum, lookout for
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  this fact that they more often than not will have difficulties
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  with small talk. OK, so #3 the person with
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  Asperger's syndrome may find it difficult to have some
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  imagination and, or just imagine imaginative story writing or
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  when someone telling the story, they can't really imagine it.
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  I have this massive issue, right?
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  So this is an example from me. My girlfriend, she'll come in
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  and she'll say like, I did this and work today and this person's
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  over here and they stood there and they had this thing here and
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  there was this position there. And I'm just like, I have no
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  idea what, I can't imagine how the layout of her office looks
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  or whatever. I can't understand how you know
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  the layout of, of the, the, the school or whatever.
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  It's really difficult. I have to really see it with my
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  own eyes to understand it. And I find this really
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  difficult. And it actually kind of also
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  effects my directions as well. And I'm like, when we're driving
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  someone, we're trying to find someone, my directions are
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  really poor because I can't imagine what's next and stuff.
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  So this is something to look out for because it's a huge, huge
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  one that's, you know, definitely effects people on the autumn
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  spectrum with Asperger's syndrome #4 people with Asperger
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  syndrome are normally pretty good with picking up details and
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  facts about something that they may be really into.
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  So it's fine. Details are quite often common.
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  So for instance, when I, when I first met a guy who I'm not
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  friends with called Tom, he, I noticed that he changed his
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  trousers during the day. And we were in, we were in a
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  college course together and halfway through the day he
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  changed his, his trousers or his hoodie.
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  And I'd always noticed that he changed his clothes.
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  And I'd always say to him like, hey, you know, you're changing
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  your clothes. Or like when somebody does
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  something quite minor, like they maybe change their hair halfway
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  through the day, I'll notice that the changes there.
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  And so those small, small details are, are really
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  interesting because a lot of people just ignore them and they
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  don't really realize them. But people with asparagus
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  syndrome really find those fine details.
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  And I'm good with facts. Like I love learning about facts
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  and I always retain information about facts.
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  I don't know why, but I find this fascinating.
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  But people on the autism spectrum definitely retain these
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  facts, especially with asparagus syndrome.
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  It's a crucial 1 to look out for.
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  Amazed now #5 is social imagination or trying to
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  understand what the other person is thinking.
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  So people with Asperger's syndrome have an issue with
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  figuring out how the other person feels or how another
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  person, you know, what they may be thinking.
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  So for instance, I was talking to somebody about a topic and
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  that topic upset them. I wouldn't really notice I'd
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  upset them. I'd have to wait for them to
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  tell me. Damn, this has upset me.
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  You shouldn't really talk about this topic.
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  And this happens all the time, especially with their feelings
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  as well. I don't understand other
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  people's feelings. I don't know if they're happy or
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  sad. They have to really kind of tell
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  me. I mean, at very extreme levels,
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  I know someone's happy or sad, but generally it's difficult to
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  judge that or gauge that. So this is only to lookout for
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  when you're trying to spot if Asperger's is the condition that
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  a certain person has. If you guys are interested, I
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  did a video on unusual Asperger's symptoms, which are
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  more unusual types, and I'll leave that in a card above here.
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  So you can check that out after this video if you're interested
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  in seeing some unusual traits of Asperger's syndrome.
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  OK, so number six, people with Asperger's syndrome can usually
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  focus on certain things for long periods of times.
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  Now a lot of people call this zoning out, but I like to call
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  it zoning in. So a lot of people say, oh, the
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  zoning out of kind of reality, but it's more like zoning in and
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  it's kind of like what? Like, for instance, sometimes
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  I'll be somewhere I'll see something on the floor, maybe
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  it'll be a bit of electronic equipment.
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  And then I'll just look at it and, and I just zone it right
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  into it. And I'll start thinking about
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  the complexities of it, how it got there, what it's made of,
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  what its purpose was, what I could really use it for, how it
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  could take it apart, use it for something else, what it looks
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  like, what it kind of resembles, and all this kind of stuff.
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  You know, it may take moments and moments out of the day for
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  me in my mind, but it'll be like minutes and minutes for
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  everybody else. So this is something to
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  remember. If you see somebody zoning into
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  something and zoning out of what you'd call a typical
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  environment, then this could be another causing factor of the
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  Asperger syndrome. So #7 is being rude
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  unintentionally. Now, I have this a lot, a lot of
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  people find me arrogant or rude, but it's not like my intentions.
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  I've never intended to do that. So people with asparagus
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  syndrome never intend to be rude or arrogant.
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  It just may come across like that because again, it's all
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  down to that social communication and the social
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  imagination and understanding what is going on in that
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  conversation and where your boundaries are.
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  So I may say something, which is an obvious fact, but something
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  to be aware of is being tactful in your approach to
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  conversations. So one thing I'm not is I'm not
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  very tactful in conversations and may say the wrong thing at
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  the wrong time. And it's really difficult to
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  gauge that. So somebody with Asperger's
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  syndrome will definitely have those issues.
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  Trying to really pinpoint the the right things to say at the
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  right times. OK #8 is strong narrow interests
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  now. People with Asperger's syndrome,
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  everybody I know on the spectrum and I know loads of loads of
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  people now thanks to YouTube. We all have the narrow specific
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  interest like my specific. Interest is like.
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  UFO conspiracy theories and I know like as much as I can get
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  my hands on, I buy books on it and then I just like overindulge
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  in it and I just I just love learning about it and it's like
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  I just love focusing on it. It's almost like my relaxation
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  in a way. But people with Asperger
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  syndrome may have a specific topic that they're really,
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  really into and it could be anything.
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  It could just be, you know, it could be a movie star, it could
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  be learning about movies. It could be anime, it could be
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  Pokémon, it could be absolutely anything.
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  But if you notice that they have an obsessive, unusual or typical
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  but obsessive focus on an interest and know a lot about it
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  like a hyper hyper focus, then this could be a causing factory
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  again due to Asperger's syndrome #9 is routine.
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  So people with Asperger's syndrome like to do things in a
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  certain way that inflexible and very repetitive.
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  So like, I like to get up the same way every single day.
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  I like to do the same thing. I like to wear the same clothes.
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  I like to have my morning routine exactly the same.
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  I like to have my day routine the same.
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  Or when we go anyway, I like to plan out what we're doing and
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  have that routine in place because those things make me
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  feel calm and make me feel more secure and safe.
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  And without them, it would cause a meltdown or an outburst or,
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  and it would just seriously upset me.
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  And so people on the autism spectrum, especially Asperger's
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  syndrome, love routine and certain rigid and flexible
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  patterns. It's just comfortable to live
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  your life like that. I find it chaos outside of these
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  patterns. My brain can't cope with it and
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  my mind can't cope with it. It's, it's difficult to explain,
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  but it's something that is there and it's a, it's a huge, huge
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  factor in Asperger's syndrome. OK, so I know I said I was only
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  going to give you 9, but I'm just going to give you an extra
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  bonus one. This is number 10 now #10 I hear
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  there's a lot from people who. I know people with Asperger's
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  syndrome may find it really difficult to make new friends or
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  just make friends in general. I remember in primary school,
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  this was really difficult for me to make friends.
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  I didn't really have many friends in primary school and
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  then a secondary school it was even more difficult to make
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  friends. But I found that by playing
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  music, because I'm a multi musician as well, and I taught
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  myself to play instruments by playing music, I found other
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  people who played music and I then made friends with those
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  people and they've been my friends.
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  They're my only friends really that I've had my entire life.
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  So it's difficult to make friends because you have to find
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  some way of relating to them. And often the world can be very
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  isolating. So if you see somebody who's got
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  a huge difficulty in making friends, this could be down to
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  the fact that they have Asperger syndrome.
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