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How to Be Authentic: The Blessing of Being You | FT Erika P Kellom | EP69 · Jess Ask

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  Speaker 3: Listen, y'all might hear that? Boys, Oh y'all hold up,
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  Speaker 3: I'm nerve and listen. Listen y'all the young lady that
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  Speaker 3: we have here today. Listen.
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  Speaker 1: I am super excited about this young woman. She is
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  Speaker 1: the total package. Like ups ain't got on her. Okay
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  Speaker 1: X and the DHL whatever you try to do the package,
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  Speaker 1: they don't.
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  Speaker 3: They don't have it on her. Listen.
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  Speaker 1: She is an entrepreneur. She's a businesswoman. She is a coach.
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  Speaker 1: She is Listen, she is anointed Listen. She is an entertainer.
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  Speaker 1: I can't even just say she's a singer, actress, commit
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  Speaker 1: she is an entertainer.
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  Speaker 3: Come on.
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  Speaker 1: Some of y'all might know her as Auntie Pam or
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  Speaker 1: the founder of Listen.
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  Speaker 3: And the Hush Ministry.
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  Speaker 1: Some of y'all needed, Yes, all right, we have none
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  Speaker 1: other than the beautiful, detalented Ericad. I feel like a
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  Speaker 1: Baptist preachers.
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  Speaker 3: Something that introduce me, and I'm about.
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  Speaker 1: To give a word of something that was a great
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  Speaker 1: introduction though, Thank you so much.
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  Speaker 3: It's an honor to introduce you.
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  Speaker 1: Wow, it's an honor to be in your prisence like
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  Speaker 1: we have.
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  Speaker 3: We met this year. We met this year. I think
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  Speaker 3: it was January or February. It was January. It was
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  Speaker 3: my birthday.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, it was my birthday, and these girls then took
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  Speaker 1: me out and surprised me and you were the nightcap
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  Speaker 1: to my birthday.
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  Speaker 3: So I'm really I'm really excited. You guys.
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  Speaker 1: If you if you don't know what you're gonna know
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  Speaker 1: about the end of this this podcast. She is somebody
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  Speaker 1: to know, like she is the evidence of God's grace.
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  Speaker 1: Like literally, you are the evidence of God's grace. So
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  Speaker 1: I'm super excited about this conversation. But like she said,
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  Speaker 1: we met in January. We met in January, and she
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  Speaker 1: it wasn't the Aretha Aretha Franklin tribute.
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  Speaker 3: Tribute, and maybe she did that.
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  Speaker 1: She did that so fun fact, y'all, y'all know I
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  Speaker 1: always have fun facs about my gifts, right, fun fact
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  Speaker 1: with us That night she allowed three people to get
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  Speaker 1: on stage because of their birthday. They were celebrating birthday.
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  Speaker 1: I thought she was gonna allowed seeing us happy birthday.
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  Speaker 1: She got us to sing, and uh, y'all already know
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  Speaker 1: about the whole Tabitha Brown story. Now, at this point
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  Speaker 1: of my birthday, I had I knew about the opportunity,
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  Speaker 1: but it was.
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  Speaker 3: Not public right.
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  Speaker 1: And when she invited us on stage, she had us
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  Speaker 1: sing what was there?
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  Speaker 3: Giving him something he could feel? And then I had
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  Speaker 3: to do I was the first one. I looked at
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  Speaker 3: her like she came close to me, I thought I
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  Speaker 3: was just yo.
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  Speaker 1: You were.
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  Speaker 3: You was now? I said, okay, but I.
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  Speaker 1: Was enjoying myself because you were like you were just
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  Speaker 1: killing the show. I had never I hadn't experienced you.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't know who you were. I didn't know who
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  Speaker 1: wants Pam. Was My first introduction to you was your
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  Speaker 1: your voice, but Bebby, you entertained like you kept the
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  Speaker 1: room going. It's only certain people that I've experienced like
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  Speaker 1: that that can just hold a room like you did.
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  Speaker 1: And so I was so grateful. So she got us
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  Speaker 1: guide us on stage and we saying she had.
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  Speaker 3: Me do mine twice because you know why, let me
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  Speaker 3: tell you why.
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  Speaker 1: I always like try to do something in my show
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  Speaker 1: to bring the audience in because I don't want it
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  Speaker 1: to be like y'all paid to see me and y'all
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  Speaker 1: just sitting there watching.
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  Speaker 3: I want you to feel. The word of the day
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  Speaker 3: is experience.
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  Speaker 1: I want you to still when you get in the
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  Speaker 1: car at night, be talking about girl. We had a
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  Speaker 1: good time. So bringing somebody on stage, I don't know
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  Speaker 1: who it's gonna be. Didn't know it was gonna be you,
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  Speaker 1: which is now a full circle moment. You know, I
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  Speaker 1: don't think that anything just happens. But I could tell
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  Speaker 1: you were so nervous, and I was like, oh, we
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  Speaker 1: finna get rid of this. So I was like, say
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  Speaker 1: it again, and that second time you gave it okay.
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  Speaker 1: She did not know, she did not know. Afterwards, I
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  Speaker 1: went hugged. I went hugged you, remember, and I was like,
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  Speaker 1: I needed that, Like you said that. I said I
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  Speaker 1: needed this. You said that that night.
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  Speaker 3: Broke me from being afraid of the stage. Come on
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  Speaker 3: that night.
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  Speaker 1: I've been on stages, but normally it's like the church stage.
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  Speaker 3: But but he was preparing you for the stage.
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  Speaker 1: Because shortly after that and we don't know each other
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  Speaker 1: or did not talk.
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  Speaker 3: But after that, remember I messaged you and I was like.
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  Speaker 1: Something is telling me that you gonna be the one
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  Speaker 1: that's gonna be with tapped and you were like, I
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  Speaker 1: don't know.
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  Speaker 3: I can't say, but but I felt it.
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  Speaker 1: But I felt it and it was no because people
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  Speaker 1: were tagging me in the in the post, people were
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  Speaker 1: tagging you and other people from Birmingham. But even though
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  Speaker 1: I was being tagged, I knew it wasn't my.
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  Speaker 3: That was not for me. It was not for me.
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  Speaker 3: And so when I said, wait a minute, it's her.
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  Speaker 1: When you made the announcement, when I say, I was
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  Speaker 1: so happy, still am happy for you having that opportunity,
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  Speaker 1: but just to know that a month or so before
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  Speaker 1: that you were dealing with fear that nobody even knew about,
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  Speaker 1: and that that moment allowed you to see I can
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  Speaker 1: get on this stage. And it prepared the table. Listen, see,
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  Speaker 1: it prepared the table for you to go on and
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  Speaker 1: sit down. And you sat on the table with Tabitha Brown.
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  Speaker 1: And now you're sitting at another table. Come on here, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: this table keeps coming up you in a vain I
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  Speaker 1: don't know nothing about nothing.
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  Speaker 3: I just I know it's my ear list.
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  Speaker 1: So I got to love you to be up this early, okay,
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  Speaker 1: because baby my Auntie lay is down on Saturday. Speaking
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  Speaker 1: of speaking of Auntie, Auntie, Pam, listen, listen, I am
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  Speaker 1: I doing it right. Okay, let me try and let
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  Speaker 1: me try to prepare me. Listen, lease sit.
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  Speaker 3: Down in it.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah yeah you got yeah.
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  Speaker 3: You gotta almost snake to the friend list because man,
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  Speaker 3: you're finish. Sit down there.
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  Speaker 1: When you say them words, what comes after that about
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  Speaker 1: to be powerful?
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  Speaker 3: Not powerful? Powerful? Powerful? Oh my goodness, that's it you. Okay.
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  Speaker 1: First of all, let's start about saying, I have a
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  Speaker 1: I have an actual anti Pam.
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  Speaker 3: You do, I have an actual Auntie Pail.
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  Speaker 1: And how direct she is the Auntie Pam, your your
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  Speaker 1: character Aunti Pam. It reminds me so much of the directness,
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  Speaker 1: so to me, it's a full circle. Mom.
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  Speaker 3: Can we talk.
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  Speaker 1: About how huntye Pam was even created, where she come
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  Speaker 1: from a real auntie because she feel real on TikTok okay.
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  Speaker 1: So Pam is my mom's name. Her name is Pamela,
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  Speaker 1: so that's how I named her. But like just we
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  Speaker 1: don't have those auntie figures like we used to have
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  Speaker 1: back in the day, and so I created her really
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  Speaker 1: by mistake, just being myself. I was raised by my grandmother,
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  Speaker 1: wasn't able to really go outside because baby, when I
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  Speaker 1: say she was saved sanctified and fill with the precious
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  Speaker 1: gift of the Holy Ghost. I ain't well pants till
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  Speaker 1: I was in the fourth grade. Hear me on the
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  Speaker 1: point mallet trips. I had on the blue jean skirt
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  Speaker 1: with safety pins in the middle to go swimming with
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  Speaker 1: blue jean skirt. You know how heavy it was in
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  Speaker 1: that water deep and seeing him, so the whole. My grandmother,
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  Speaker 1: even though she will say safetify to feel with the hollyghost. Baby,
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  Speaker 1: My grandmama had a twenty foot chord on her telephone.
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  Speaker 1: She talked on the phone all day. Her phone went
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  Speaker 1: from the front door to the back. She would have
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  Speaker 1: that cord. I'm not anybody in my family know, so
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  Speaker 1: the whole, the whole talking on the phone.
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  Speaker 3: We don't do that. We text, yeah, we send emails.
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  Speaker 1: So I wanted to just bring back that feel good,
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  Speaker 1: nostalgic feeling of what we experienced growing up, and just
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  Speaker 1: things about our culture that sometimes people may not understand.
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  Speaker 1: We know exactly what it means, but just to bring
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  Speaker 1: in awareness and just to make people smile and take
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  Speaker 1: a brief break from all the chaos and everything that's
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  Speaker 1: going on in the world, to just decompress.
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  Speaker 3: For a few minutes, laugh and literally just smile.
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  Speaker 1: So she was created just as an outlet for me
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  Speaker 1: as an actress and not being able to, you know,
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  Speaker 1: get on stay during COVID as we wanted to. And
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  Speaker 1: then I'm fifty two years old now, so me being
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  Speaker 1: a hold on, stop the prison. Wait a minute, No,
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  Speaker 1: not gonna go by. It gonna pass that you will
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  Speaker 1: how many old?
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  Speaker 3: Fifty? Too? Does she look like.
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  Speaker 1: I need to see your license and registration over there?
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  Speaker 3: I will show because my god, I am fifty two
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  Speaker 3: years old. You know it's true. Yeah, okay, I don't.
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  Speaker 1: I don't, and I will say, you know, growing up,
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  Speaker 1: not being able to go outside and all that. I
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  Speaker 1: didn't understand it then, but I understand it now because
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  Speaker 1: I have been preserved for such a.
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  Speaker 3: Time as this. I didn't live no hard life.
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  Speaker 1: A lot of things that people experience as young women,
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  Speaker 1: I ain't experienced that.
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  Speaker 3: So that's all I can tell you. I was preserved
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  Speaker 3: for now.
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  Speaker 1: I was put up for now, and in my mind,
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  Speaker 1: fifty two years old is too late, but God preserved me.
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  Speaker 3: So I don't look like I'm fifty two.
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  Speaker 1: So I can still do things that other people do
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  Speaker 1: because I've been preserved for now Jesus Erica, Erica, Jesus
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  Speaker 1: Ericas what a collection plate does auntip me?
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  Speaker 3: Does she have a collection plate? Giving information? Will be
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  Speaker 3: on the screen.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, you just you just said a mouthful and speak.
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  Speaker 1: Speaking of preservation, one of the things that I I
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  Speaker 1: believe is that not only do are we preserved physically,
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  Speaker 1: but we're preserved mentally. We're preserved with our hearing. And
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  Speaker 1: one of the things that I heard when you said
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  Speaker 1: listen again, like that whole statement is a command.
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  Speaker 3: It is.
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  Speaker 1: It's a command because that's an art. The art of
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  Speaker 1: listening is real. And so have you ever where did
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  Speaker 1: that whole liss and come into play? I have no idea.
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  Speaker 1: I really don't. People may not believe me. But when
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  Speaker 1: I do the skits, I do not write anything down.
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  Speaker 1: I just press go on my phone and whatever I say,
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  Speaker 1: I don't think about it. I post it and I
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  Speaker 1: leave it. I don't know what it's doing, how well
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  Speaker 1: it's doing, because that's not the motivation of me posting it.
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  Speaker 1: The motivation of me posting it is to release something
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  Speaker 1: for me, y'all just getting the rain drops from what
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  Speaker 1: I'm releasing. I am an artist I am a creative,
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  Speaker 1: and those of us who are creatives, I feel like
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  Speaker 1: God put a little extra chromosome in us, and we
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  Speaker 1: don't think like others, We don't quite function like others.
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  Speaker 1: So in order for a creative to be understood, most
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  Speaker 1: times it's by another creative.
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  Speaker 3: Like we don't really go to sleep.
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  Speaker 1: We lay down, but we don't really go to sleep
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  Speaker 1: because in our mind it's all kinds of things, what
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna do tomorrow?
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  Speaker 3: What can I do?
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  Speaker 1: It doesn't stop, And so my outlet from that, that
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  Speaker 1: rat race that goes on is to record make other
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  Speaker 1: It makes me feel good to read the comments of
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  Speaker 1: people saying I was having a bad day and this
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  Speaker 1: just like literally just wiped me out. And so no,
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  Speaker 1: when I do videos, if I and I don't let
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  Speaker 1: me let me clarify what Auntie Pam does not do.
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  Speaker 1: I don't talk about everything. So I do this call
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  Speaker 1: to Heaven, which was generated. The first one I did
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  Speaker 1: was in twenty sixteen when Prince died. I couldn't believe
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  Speaker 1: Prince was gone. Okay, I had to call heaven and
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  Speaker 1: find out, first of all, did he have his stuff?
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  Speaker 3: Who gonna do his hair? Do he got his boots.
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  Speaker 1: What's going on? Who is in charge of prince boots
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  Speaker 1: in heaven? And y'all that video went I ain't even
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  Speaker 1: know what viral was. People were sending saying, girl, I
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  Speaker 1: saw this, and I was like, okay, whatever. I went
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  Speaker 1: on about my life, never thought anything else. So then
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  Speaker 1: when Betty White passed, people started in boxing me. Can
• 16:00
  Speaker 1: you call heaven and see if Betty up there? And
• 16:02
  Speaker 1: from there with Queen Elizabeth? Hey call and see a
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  Speaker 1: Queen Elizabel. And when I call, like I do know
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  Speaker 1: some story about the person, But I don't call on everybody.
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  Speaker 1: And it's this is not to sound deep or spiritual,
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  Speaker 1: but if I'm if I don't feel inclined to call,
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  Speaker 1: I'm not calling. If I don't feel inclined to make
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  Speaker 1: an anti PAM video that day, I don't do it again.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not doing y'all are enjoying them, and I'm so thankful.
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  Speaker 1: But I do it to keep me sane, and as
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  Speaker 1: a result of me releasing what's inside of me, other
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  Speaker 1: people are blessed by it. What I what I heard
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  Speaker 1: while you were talking was my cup runth over. So
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  Speaker 1: as you think of being like a creative God has
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  Speaker 1: put these things inside of us. Yeah, And so as
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  Speaker 1: he's pouring in the creativity, the peace, the love, like
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  Speaker 1: we have to have a space for it to go.
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  Speaker 1: Especially it's gotta go. I's gotta go somewhere. So as
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  Speaker 1: you're pouring out, like you think, like I just got
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  Speaker 1: to release, right. But the beauty is we get to
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  Speaker 1: enjoy that. That's we're blessed to be a blessing. So
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  Speaker 1: you're He's blessing you with this creativity, with the peace,
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  Speaker 1: the joy, so that you can pour it out on
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  Speaker 1: the other people like you just like you said, they
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  Speaker 1: just I'm just doing it because this is what I need. You.
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  Speaker 3: But she's blessing so many people, man, And that's that's
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  Speaker 3: the part.
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  Speaker 1: Like sometimes we can selfishly look at look at ourselves
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  Speaker 1: and say, oh, well I just need this moment of sovereign. Bro,
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  Speaker 1: you could have grieved about Prince by yourself. I could
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  Speaker 1: have you literally could have grieved about Prince by yourself.
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  Speaker 1: But because you were open, yeah, and transparent. I think
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  Speaker 1: God blessed that because you were thank you O the spirit.
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  Speaker 1: God blessed it because you were open to it. And
• 17:40
  Speaker 1: so you going back, we talk about creatives because we
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  Speaker 1: all in the room are creatives, right, I think it
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  Speaker 1: gets I think the discouraging part for me, and I
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  Speaker 1: want you to speak to this. It's seeing lacks of
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  Speaker 1: baisical or lack of effort and the art of comedy, podcasting,
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  Speaker 1: people just throwing stuff together because they have the influence
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  Speaker 1: to do it, not the purpose to do it. How
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  Speaker 1: do you manage those emotions of seeing people? How have
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  Speaker 1: you managed it in the past, because you like it's
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  Speaker 1: like like you've been doing stuff, You've been preparing stuff,
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: and then boom, God just blew your mind. Like, so,
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: how has that journey been for you being able to
• 18:25
  Speaker 1: not whether you compare yourself or not or not, how
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: has that journey been Looking at other people excel in
• 18:34
  Speaker 1: different ways?
• 18:35
  Speaker 3: Is like why is this?
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: I think that it's important for us to just be
• 18:40
  Speaker 1: real and honest. Anybody who is doing anything, for the
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: most part, has looked at someone else and.
• 18:46
  Speaker 3: Said, like, dang, what am I doing wronger?
• 18:50
  Speaker 1: Why is it this and not that? And why is
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: it them and not me? And what keeps me grounded
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: is again not to because you know, some people can
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: get super deep and spiritual, but why do we read
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: things that we don't believe. Why would I get discouraged
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: by your journey when I know that the race is
• 19:11
  Speaker 1: not given to the swift, nor to the strong, but
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: to the one that endures to the end.
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  Speaker 3: So instead of looking at you.
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: My name was on the same line of names as
• 19:22
  Speaker 1: your name was to sit with Tabitha Brown. It can
• 19:26
  Speaker 1: be your time, but not your turn. It wasn't my turn.
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: It was your turn. It was time because the opportunity
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: was presented to all of us, but it wasn't my turn.
• 19:39
  Speaker 3: So go back to your message and read what I said.
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: I said I'm happy for you because what that lets
• 19:44
  Speaker 1: me know is the line is moving. And literally, God
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: watches how we celebrate other people who are doing the
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: same thing, who may not be doing it as good
• 19:55
  Speaker 1: as we think they should be doing it. He watches
• 19:58
  Speaker 1: how we celebrate. So my advice to people who are
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: creative and who are struggling with celebrate other people because
• 20:06
  Speaker 1: God is watching. He's watching your sincerity. He's watching. Oh,
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: I see her little podcast. Ain't nothing little about nothing
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: that I'm doing. I don't have a small business, I
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: have a big b Oh I saw her doing her
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: little auntie. Ain't nothing little about nothing that I'm doing. Literally,
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: my body ain't little, my eyes ain't little. Ain't nothing
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: little or small about me, and so I don't allow
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: people to speak that on me. But it's all in
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: how you celebrate others and when you're genuine. God said, oh, okay.
• 20:35
  Speaker 3: I see that. She was really really happy for Jess.
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: I tried to get tickets and could not, So because
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: I couldn't, I made sure every day leading up to it,
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: even the day of Hey girl, you're gonna do amazing tonight.
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: God watches how we celebrate others in their victories. And
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: that's that's so important because hater competition, all those words.
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: Even though people say, oh yeah, everybody isn't a hater,
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: the haters do exist. They do, and so it is
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: normal for a human being to feel like they're not
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: where they think they should be. But learn to celebrate
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: others because in Amus it says that stuff will start happening,
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: so and that literally is what happened.
• 21:19
  Speaker 3: I still don't I be looking back Facebook, right, men
• 21:24
  Speaker 3: say you're real is doing really good?
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: And I look down at the numbers and it say
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: a million, and I'd be like, what, So to think
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: it's really overwhelming, because when you really look at the
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: numbers social media and a platform is given to you,
• 21:39
  Speaker 1: but a lot of people don't take it responsibly, and
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: I do. When you've been given a platform, you are
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: responsible for what comes out of your mouth. You are
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: responsible for what comes across your feed. So there are
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: certain things and we were talking about that right before
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: we started. It's certain people that should never sit in
• 22:01
  Speaker 1: this chair. I don't I'm not worthy. But you have
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: to protect your brand and the need for success should
• 22:10
  Speaker 1: not make you compromise your integrity. There are some stages
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: I will never go on. There are some places I
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: will never go because I'm not willing to compromise who
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: I know I'm called to be. That this is ministry,
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: really yes, and I think that's where especially and we
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: can go there here on this platform and we go
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: there all the time, whereas not on You talk about
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: the responsibility, but it's a responsibility, especially to those who
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: believe in the God that we believe in, because our
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: creativity is an extension of God's evidence that he is God. Like,
• 22:52
  Speaker 1: what do I look like going around just putting out
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: anything when it's a reflection on the person.
• 22:59
  Speaker 3: That I call off? Like I'm calling you, Daddy, and
• 23:02
  Speaker 3: I'm out here acting the food.
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: And that was a journey for me. So some people
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: know and some people know. I was licensed, I'm an
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: elder in God's Church and went through the whole counsel,
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: sat before the counsel. They had me in there four
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: hours answering questions. I've been there and I did that.
• 23:21
  Speaker 1: And although I did it, I did it as unto God.
• 23:24
  Speaker 1: But I knew when I did it, I was not
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: called to the pulpit. And I feel like the church
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: only gives us one place to go. All of us
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: have a call, but everyone is not called to the pulpit.
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: Even though I can, I knew in my gut this
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: is not where I'm supposed to be. And honestly, now
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: sitting here in twenty twenty four, this is what I
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: know that this is where what I'm supposed to do.
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: I know that my gifts may look different and a
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: lot of people may think this is not ministry. People
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: may say that there's she's just doing a podcast. That's
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: not ministry. But ministry does not look the same for everyone.
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: And I feel like the church has forced us. If
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: you say you got a call on your life, Okay,
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: the only place you can do do it is in
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: the pool pig. And that's why we have so many
• 24:15
  Speaker 1: people erroneously placed in that position and mishandling that position,
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: because we're forcing them to be in a box. And
• 24:23
  Speaker 1: God said, go So I go on TikTok, I go
• 24:28
  Speaker 1: on Facebook, I go in Walmart, I stop, and I
• 24:31
  Speaker 1: talk to people. That is ministry for me, and your
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: ministry may look different than mine, but we're all called
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: to something and to someone. And I'm finally okay with
• 24:44
  Speaker 1: where where I'm who I'm called to, and what I'm
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: called to do. And it may not look conventional, but
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: that's okay because Jesus wasn't conventional.
• 24:54
  Speaker 3: He was not He wasn't in a church building. What
• 24:57
  Speaker 3: church did he go to?
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: Not?
• 24:59
  Speaker 3: Now?
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: Not? Not? Now?
• 25:02
  Speaker 3: Can you pull his church attendance? Huh? Jesus whose Sunday
• 25:08
  Speaker 3: school class was?
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: He was in the streets.
• 25:10
  Speaker 3: That man was in them streets, the streets. Jesus was
• 25:13
  Speaker 3: for the streets. She said, who church did? Because I
• 25:19
  Speaker 3: want to know who church did? He go to? Betha Baptist. Jesus.
• 25:25
  Speaker 1: That man was in the center good, That man was
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: was at the at the at the pool.
• 25:31
  Speaker 3: Yeah, he was at folk houses rarely was he rarely?
• 25:39
  Speaker 3: We keep saying that that's our example. Oh oh.
• 25:45
  Speaker 1: You Okay, my brain is going wild right now because
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: this is so exciting. You mentioned brands when I say,
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: you have a whole brand.
• 26:00
  Speaker 3: E p K, epic, epic, get it right.
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: Okay, So you go from let's let's go back to
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: that place, because were you doing entertaining where you're entertained?
• 26:11
  Speaker 1: Consider yourself entertainer when you was a business woman, like
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: because in my mind it's like you're a coach, you're
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: a business woman. You you're fast, initia, you do it.
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: You're doing everything. So how did you know when to
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: step not even step away from that, but zoning your
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: focus on the entertainment part.
• 26:27
  Speaker 3: So I haven't.
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: That's that's the thing I've always people always have said,
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: ooh you so extra. You do everything what you can't do,
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: and I you, you gotta be careful what you allow
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: people to speak and when you receive it, you gotta
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: be careful how you receive it. So when people will
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: say stuff like that about me, like dang, your hell
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: gotta be done. Your watch gotta match your purse, gotta
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: match you. You so extra and that used to hurt
• 26:52
  Speaker 1: my feelings until I remember I sat with that thing.
• 26:55
  Speaker 1: It's nothing wrong with me. I'm extra and you're basic.
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: I do too much, you don't do enough. So instead,
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: and that's not being facetious. I'm saying, you really have
• 27:07
  Speaker 1: to stop allowing people to put things on you in
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: a negative way. And so who said that because I'm
• 27:15
  Speaker 1: doing anti paalem that I gotta stop being a business coach?
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: Who said that because I'm a business coach that I
• 27:22
  Speaker 1: can't be an entrepreneur.
• 27:23
  Speaker 3: Is it a balancing act?
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: Absolutely, but I can do exceedingly abundantly. Exceedingly and abundantly
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: does not mean one thing at a time, not for me.
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: So I started my boutique in twenty and sixteen. I
• 27:40
  Speaker 1: walked away from corporate America to pursue full time entrepreneurship
• 27:45
  Speaker 1: and I did my boutique. I started out selling eyeglasses
• 27:50
  Speaker 1: at my kitchen table for ten dollars on periscope. You
• 27:54
  Speaker 1: remember periscope, That's where I started, and from there it
• 27:58
  Speaker 1: has grown to a sea figure brand.
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  Speaker 3: Wow. We go live.
• 28:03
  Speaker 1: We do live sales, basically personal shopping. I cater to
• 28:06
  Speaker 1: the plus sized woman because I'm a plus sized woman,
• 28:08
  Speaker 1: and I got tired of going places and everybody had
• 28:11
  Speaker 1: on the same dress.
• 28:12
  Speaker 3: That's why I started.
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: Okay, y'all live, people can go find something and all
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: the big girls being there with the same lame Brian dress.
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: No ma'am, no ham, no turkey. So that is that's
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: why I started. And I always I love cute eyeglasses.
• 28:27
  Speaker 1: I think that was another connection for us. I love frames.
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: I think they are an accessory. People just think ear rings,
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: but no, baby, a frame is a good accessory. So
• 28:37
  Speaker 1: I started doing just the things that I loved and embraced.
• 28:40
  Speaker 1: So I still I went live three times last week
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: with my business.
• 28:46
  Speaker 3: I coached last week.
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: I did three mentorship sessions last week. I recorded two
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: anti PAM videos last week. So it's all about balancing.
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: And I'm a wife, I got a doing that's in college.
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: I got a sun like, I'm a lot of things.
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: But I'm just getting to the place where I know
• 29:06
  Speaker 1: and I used to not know how to balance.
• 29:08
  Speaker 3: I didn't like.
• 29:09
  Speaker 1: I would be downstairs working till two three o'clock in
• 29:13
  Speaker 1: the morning. My kids knew if I wasn't in the bed,
• 29:16
  Speaker 1: oh she downstairs working. But we have to balance, especially
• 29:19
  Speaker 1: when you do more than one thing. So I haven't
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: stopped doing anything. I've just learned how to balance.
• 29:25
  Speaker 3: So what's the secret? Excuse me? A good planner, a
• 29:30
  Speaker 3: good planning for yourself, or you have an assistant. No,
• 29:33
  Speaker 3: I'm I'm I'm Jesus is my manager at this moment. No, really,
• 29:42
  Speaker 3: this is the it's not a secret. On Sunday. I
• 29:46
  Speaker 3: use Sunday afternoon to plan my week.
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: And I know, you know, everybody comes out with planners,
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: and we got all these cute planners stacked up in
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: the corner and we don't use them. But literally, the
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: more that is on your plate, the easier it is
• 30:00
  Speaker 1: is to forget something on your plate. So I have
• 30:02
  Speaker 1: to plan. I have to use my Google calendar. I
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: have to you know, know what I'm gonna do that week.
• 30:08
  Speaker 1: So you can't call me Monday and ask me to
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: do something Wednesday because my week has already been planned.
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: So you have to use No, you have to know
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: is a complete sent My week is planned on Sunday.
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: So if you want to get in on August the
• 30:24
  Speaker 1: fifth through whatever, If.
• 30:26
  Speaker 3: I ain't got it by tomorrow, it ain't happening.
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: Capin And you gotta be okay with that, because if
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: you don't, you'll get overwhelmed. So I just I try
• 30:36
  Speaker 1: to plan some weeks, I nail it some weeks. I
• 30:39
  Speaker 1: don't be honest with yourself, give yourself grace. Some weeks
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: you're not gonna emotionally or mentally be able to complete
• 30:47
  Speaker 1: everything that's on your list.
• 30:49
  Speaker 3: You got next week.
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: This this is so good, like you're as a creative
• 30:55
  Speaker 1: and the influencer that you are. I think that it
• 31:00
  Speaker 1: could come across that Oh I just got it together.
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: Oh you look Oh no, no, you know what I'm saying,
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: Like it could look a certain way. And that's something
• 31:09
  Speaker 1: I've been guilty of, like looking at saying like I
• 31:12
  Speaker 1: can't do this because everybody got this blah blah blah.
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: But when you put yourself in the community or the
• 31:16
  Speaker 1: company of these people, you say, hey, I got these
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: struggles too.
• 31:20
  Speaker 3: But this is how I overcome this.
• 31:21
  Speaker 1: And I think the beauty in that is we were talking,
• 31:24
  Speaker 1: you were talking earlier, you touched on the listen. I
• 31:28
  Speaker 1: think one of the biggest problems that we as people
• 31:33
  Speaker 1: have is not understanding proper communication. I feel like our
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: overall communication skills suck. If we're hurt. Instead of us
• 31:43
  Speaker 1: saying that we're hurt, we'll just be hurt by ourself
• 31:47
  Speaker 1: and we'll project that in other ways instead of saying,
• 31:50
  Speaker 1: you know what, just when you said whatever, that kind
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: of hurt my feelings. Instead of doing that, I'll go
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: and start a whole smear campaign against your whole podcast.
• 31:59
  Speaker 3: And you're like, I don't even know what happened.
• 32:02
  Speaker 1: We've got to learn how to effectively communicate when you're tired,
• 32:07
  Speaker 1: when you don't have Yesterday, let's just be real. I
• 32:10
  Speaker 1: had a whole schedule of what I was supposed to
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: do yesterday. I went out back on my back porch
• 32:15
  Speaker 1: because that's my place. Like I like being on the
• 32:18
  Speaker 1: back porch because it's just you know, it's just good
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: for me. And I was supposed to be out there
• 32:23
  Speaker 1: looking for products for the fall, for my fall line,
• 32:27
  Speaker 1: and you know what I was doing, fell asleep. He
• 32:32
  Speaker 1: woke up, got me something to eat, went on TikTok
• 32:35
  Speaker 1: for a minute. I looked up. It was three o'clock.
• 32:38
  Speaker 1: At that moment, I felt the Holy Spirit say, now
• 32:41
  Speaker 1: you could play. You can go on and do what
• 32:44
  Speaker 1: you got to do. It Literally I was. I had
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: to repent because I was supposed to ben through at
• 32:50
  Speaker 1: three o'clock. Here, I am just starting at three o'clock,
• 32:53
  Speaker 1: which had me downstairs in my office working until eleven
• 32:56
  Speaker 1: o'clock last night, knowing that I had to get up
• 32:59
  Speaker 1: this morning and come here. So no, ma'am, just because
• 33:03
  Speaker 1: I know, we can know what to do and not
• 33:05
  Speaker 1: do it. I know what to do, but I don't
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: do it all the time. And that's the human part
• 33:11
  Speaker 1: of us. Just because you know, we know how to
• 33:14
  Speaker 1: dress things up. Of course, when I come on the podcast,
• 33:16
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna look a certain way. But again, you have
• 33:19
  Speaker 1: given me a platform. I can use this platform for
• 33:22
  Speaker 1: good or I can use it for bad. I can
• 33:24
  Speaker 1: sit here and act like baby, I got it all together. Yep.
• 33:28
  Speaker 1: My business makes six figures. And da da da da
• 33:30
  Speaker 1: da da da da da. Girl, When you make six figures,
• 33:34
  Speaker 1: your taxes is five.
• 33:35
  Speaker 3: Listen, so you're not making six. And then the work.
• 33:41
  Speaker 1: Associated with that again, we major and minor and minor
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: and major, And what is important is being true to
• 33:49
  Speaker 1: your authentic self. You can you can be successful, but
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: you also have to be honest. You don't get you
• 33:56
  Speaker 1: know how.
• 33:56
  Speaker 3: This song say. All day long, I've been with Jesus,
• 33:58
  Speaker 3: that's all you're lying.
• 33:59
  Speaker 1: You ain't been with him all day, because if you
• 34:01
  Speaker 1: was with him all day, you wouldn't act the way
• 34:03
  Speaker 1: you act. Sometimes, you wouldn't say some of the stuff
• 34:06
  Speaker 1: you say, you wouldn't think some of the So you
• 34:08
  Speaker 1: don't be with him all day. You might be with
• 34:10
  Speaker 1: him most of the day, but you don't be with
• 34:12
  Speaker 1: him all day. And that's the thing. What I've learned
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: is to be myself. And if you cannot accept me
• 34:19
  Speaker 1: flaws and all, I have been all twenty twenty four
• 34:23
  Speaker 1: in a season of goodbye? Now, how has that season been?
• 34:29
  Speaker 1: Because the goodbye is strong. People who I never would
• 34:34
  Speaker 1: have thought, people who I never would have imagined, have
• 34:41
  Speaker 1: fell off. And in my opinion, I'm still mean. I'm
• 34:46
  Speaker 1: still aracle, I'm still you know, I like to drop
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: fish on Fridays. On Sunday, I'm gonna be in the King.
• 34:52
  Speaker 1: I'm still mean. I don't have a driver. You asking
• 34:55
  Speaker 1: me about it. I don't have an assistant. Jesus is
• 34:58
  Speaker 1: my manager. When I say that I don't have a
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: team of people, I haven't arrived. But you gotta pay
• 35:05
  Speaker 1: attention to people who fall off before you fully arrive.
• 35:09
  Speaker 1: And you gotta be okay with saying I ain't mad,
• 35:13
  Speaker 1: we ain't fell out, but where I'm going, unfortunately, there's
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: no room in the car for you. You are touching
• 35:23
  Speaker 1: areas you are, and you gotta be okay with that.
• 35:27
  Speaker 3: And I am.
• 35:31
  Speaker 1: When I say you so annointed, like you just touched
• 35:34
  Speaker 1: the area. I literally post about this yesterday and God
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: had to show me. You know, when I'm growing up Erica.
• 35:42
  Speaker 1: I don't know if you experienced this, but to be
• 35:46
  Speaker 1: be real, to be down its to it's to be
• 35:51
  Speaker 1: like consistent with the community and consistent with who you
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: come came up with.
• 35:57
  Speaker 3: So it was just hard for me to break.
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: Away from old relationships, no matter whether it was romantic
• 36:06
  Speaker 1: or not. And I feel I felt like I left
• 36:12
  Speaker 1: I was denouncing my real card or the authentic card.
• 36:17
  Speaker 1: When I started seeing different relationships, like relationships just kind
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: of like take a turn or I'm like, I'm genuinely
• 36:25
  Speaker 1: confused because the honest to God truth is I'm not
• 36:29
  Speaker 1: the same person that I was even six months ago.
• 36:34
  Speaker 1: Like I'm continuously evolving. So my personal prayer has been God,
• 36:38
  Speaker 1: give me room in my heart to accept the new
• 36:43
  Speaker 1: people that will help me enhance your kingdom. You know
• 36:47
  Speaker 1: the song No New Friends that that was a trend,
• 36:51
  Speaker 1: you know, and you know it was a great beat,
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: but the message really you can miss out on a
• 37:00
  Speaker 1: golden opportunity by closing yourself off saying these are the
• 37:04
  Speaker 1: people that I'm gonna deal with. Nobody else can get
• 37:08
  Speaker 1: in this in my circle. So this is it, this
• 37:11
  Speaker 1: is all?
• 37:11
  Speaker 3: And what if?
• 37:12
  Speaker 1: What if your next breakthrough is outside of that circle?
• 37:17
  Speaker 1: Come on, and you have purposely told yourself that was
• 37:21
  Speaker 1: something that I've I'm not gonna say I struggle with,
• 37:25
  Speaker 1: but I go in. I don't care if I heard whatever,
• 37:29
  Speaker 1: because I've been you know people oh Shia Diva, Oh
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: she did, Oh she did, And.
• 37:33
  Speaker 3: They don't even know me. I ain't never had a
• 37:34
  Speaker 3: conversation with me.
• 37:36
  Speaker 1: People will tell you how somebody is, but they won't
• 37:39
  Speaker 1: tell you what they did to contribute to them.
• 37:42
  Speaker 3: Being that way.
• 37:44
  Speaker 1: So get to you have to get to know people
• 37:46
  Speaker 1: for yourself. I don't do secondhand information. You get to
• 37:51
  Speaker 1: know people for yourself, and what you will find is
• 37:54
  Speaker 1: that sometimes you have closed yourself off to somebody who
• 37:58
  Speaker 1: may be the very blessing that you've been and the
• 38:01
  Speaker 1: people that you are holding onto, are taking up space,
• 38:05
  Speaker 1: being unproductive, being unsupportive. When people say stuff like I
• 38:11
  Speaker 1: saw your little podcast X, it's certain little qualifications and
• 38:15
  Speaker 1: certain things you could say that will get you booted
• 38:17
  Speaker 1: out of my life real fast. So you're it's almost
• 38:21
  Speaker 1: like the keen in your ear or having your ear
• 38:24
  Speaker 1: to you got your hands in your ear, because it's
• 38:27
  Speaker 1: like if they're dropping those seas, what are they saying
• 38:29
  Speaker 1: behind my back?
• 38:29
  Speaker 3: And so? And I don't want to have to think
• 38:31
  Speaker 3: about it.
• 38:32
  Speaker 1: I don't want to have to wonder, you know, if
• 38:35
  Speaker 1: I if we're out there eating, I go to the bathroom,
• 38:38
  Speaker 1: am I the time?
• 38:38
  Speaker 3: I don't want to have to wonder about that?
• 38:40
  Speaker 1: Why was that description so funny?
• 38:44
  Speaker 3: I don't want to worry. I don't want to have
• 38:46
  Speaker 3: to worry about that when I'm in the bathroom reapply
• 38:48
  Speaker 3: my lipstick. I don't want to be like about see
• 38:52
  Speaker 3: I go back.
• 38:53
  Speaker 1: In there and turn the whole table. I can't deal
• 38:55
  Speaker 1: with folks like that. So that is why I have
• 38:58
  Speaker 1: been in a season of goodbye. If you cannot effectively
• 39:05
  Speaker 1: communicate with me and tell me what's going on where
• 39:08
  Speaker 1: I'm going right now? As of right now, I ain't
• 39:11
  Speaker 1: got time to trying to figure it out, not right now,
• 39:15
  Speaker 1: because you know how much energy that takes. When you
• 39:17
  Speaker 1: could just say you hurt my feelings. You didn't show
• 39:21
  Speaker 1: up for me like I like I thought you should have.
• 39:24
  Speaker 1: We could be done and over with that and girl,
• 39:26
  Speaker 1: go get us a two piece from churches and be
• 39:28
  Speaker 1: be through. But the gag is that's not the problem.
• 39:30
  Speaker 1: The problem is I don't know where I fit in
• 39:32
  Speaker 1: your life. Now you just can't say that though, Yeah,
• 39:36
  Speaker 1: like I don't. I don't know where I fit and
• 39:39
  Speaker 1: look God to be.
• 39:40
  Speaker 3: Now you know what, hold on, hold on, hold don't.
• 39:44
  Speaker 3: Oh you just sent a whole chill up unt. So
• 39:47
  Speaker 3: the problem they don't know where they fit.
• 39:49
  Speaker 1: In my life. I never told you you didn't fit
• 39:52
  Speaker 1: in my life. But people be looking assuming. Okay, she
• 39:56
  Speaker 1: got this, she got that. She probably ain't got time
• 39:59
  Speaker 1: for when I ever said that. I never said that.
• 40:03
  Speaker 1: So you have just helped me because that that resonated
• 40:07
  Speaker 1: down in my lower stomach. Oh, because you just told
• 40:11
  Speaker 1: you just told us that you big, ain't nothing small
• 40:13
  Speaker 1: about you, that you you're you're Auntie Piem and all
• 40:19
  Speaker 1: of y'all, y'all who you are a big deal. Wow,
• 40:24
  Speaker 1: Like for you to even be here for me, it's
• 40:29
  Speaker 1: such a like the honor, like the sea. You're planning
• 40:34
  Speaker 1: seeds right now that you don't even know, like the
• 40:37
  Speaker 1: people we talk. Let's talk about your community, because these
• 40:39
  Speaker 1: folks ride for you for real. Go and speak to
• 40:42
  Speaker 1: your community bad. When I leave here, I'm gonna go
• 40:49
  Speaker 1: down to Pennis. I need to go get me some
• 40:51
  Speaker 1: some stockings for church tomorrow because mispriced them having a program.
• 40:56
  Speaker 1: They having Friends and Family Day tomorrow at church. So
• 40:58
  Speaker 1: I got to go get me some stocks because I
• 41:00
  Speaker 1: don't go to church without no stocking.
• 41:02
  Speaker 3: Because that's that of the devil.
• 41:05
  Speaker 1: I ain't gonna see, y'all. I ain't that kind of Christian.
• 41:08
  Speaker 1: It just don't. It ain't good for me because see,
• 41:10
  Speaker 1: my thighs and stuff be rubbed together, so that stocking
• 41:13
  Speaker 1: provides a layer of protection. Yes, it's a be a
• 41:19
  Speaker 1: fence all around my thigh.
• 41:21
  Speaker 3: You see what I'm saying.
• 41:22
  Speaker 1: Yes, either I'm gonna put a stock in or a
• 41:25
  Speaker 1: gird along. I don't know why y'all don't want to
• 41:27
  Speaker 1: wear no girdle these days. And y'all just be flipping
• 41:30
  Speaker 1: and flopping all down and then the folks who don't
• 41:32
  Speaker 1: wear girdle look like they be the ones that want
• 41:35
  Speaker 1: to shout every singing.
• 41:38
  Speaker 3: Everything, everything be going, let everything that have breath. Yeah, no,
• 41:48
  Speaker 3: I'm sorry, I should I shouldn't have asked. You know you.
• 41:54
  Speaker 1: I ain't either listen, But that is when it's in you.
• 41:58
  Speaker 1: It's in you. And like this why I feel like
• 42:02
  Speaker 1: your community. I'm saying your community like I'm not a
• 42:05
  Speaker 1: part of it. When I see her own live and
• 42:07
  Speaker 1: I'm on Tia, I bet actullent, she see my name, like,
• 42:15
  Speaker 1: but this is my community, though it is so wide.
• 42:19
  Speaker 1: Like literally, when I look at my analytics or I
• 42:23
  Speaker 1: look at the people, I have older people, I have
• 42:27
  Speaker 1: younger people. I had to do a auntie Pam had
• 42:30
  Speaker 1: to go to Bethel Baptist Church and this lady was like,
• 42:33
  Speaker 1: my kids told me about you. And the kids was
• 42:36
  Speaker 1: there and they were like eighteen nineteen. They were like,
• 42:39
  Speaker 1: you are so funny. And so I think that I
• 42:43
  Speaker 1: have black people, white people, old people, young people, mama's aunties.
• 42:48
  Speaker 1: Like one lady said that her ninety year old mama
• 42:53
  Speaker 1: she had to go down. I said, now you know
• 42:55
  Speaker 1: that Obama phone ain't gonna hold TikTok. You got mama
• 42:58
  Speaker 1: over there on their slow p You know Auntie. You know,
• 43:02
  Speaker 1: Mama can't watch Aunty on that little phone. I said,
• 43:05
  Speaker 1: get her iPhone so she can see Auntie Pam now
• 43:09
  Speaker 1: she But seriously though listening reading you know, comments from
• 43:14
  Speaker 1: people of all ages saying, you remind me of my grandmama,
• 43:19
  Speaker 1: or you remind.
• 43:19
  Speaker 3: Me I got an aunty girl. It's just like you.
• 43:22
  Speaker 1: When Auntie Pam is planning all the family events and
• 43:25
  Speaker 1: all of that, that's somebody in everybody's family that you
• 43:30
  Speaker 1: can resonate. And so I feel like that is one
• 43:33
  Speaker 1: good thing is that my community it can be a
• 43:37
  Speaker 1: melting pot because there's something that you can relate to.
• 43:40
  Speaker 1: Like the video that I did talking about Auntie Pam
• 43:45
  Speaker 1: was talking to the young mothers about all the stuff
• 43:48
  Speaker 1: that you heard growing up, you know, about the baby,
• 43:50
  Speaker 1: not the doctors now tell you don't.
• 43:52
  Speaker 3: Get a baby, nothing but milk.
• 43:54
  Speaker 1: That was hilarious and y'all I didn't realize I'm thinking, Okay,
• 43:58
  Speaker 1: let me just do this.
• 43:59
  Speaker 3: I didn't think it. I don't never know. I never
• 44:02
  Speaker 3: know what video is gonna do.
• 44:04
  Speaker 1: What. Yeah, and that video people were sending to their younger,
• 44:08
  Speaker 1: you know, and so I just be like, okay, God,
• 44:11
  Speaker 1: just whatever you want me to say or.
• 44:13
  Speaker 3: Do, because it's relatable. Like you talk.
• 44:16
  Speaker 1: You don't talk about being in the air and doing,
• 44:19
  Speaker 1: you know, being the airplane. You talk about human things.
• 44:23
  Speaker 1: And I think that's the beauty of comedy. Like I'm
• 44:25
  Speaker 1: not a comic at all. I love to laugh now,
• 44:26
  Speaker 1: I'm funny to me. It might not be fun to y'all,
• 44:29
  Speaker 1: but I laugh in my set.
• 44:30
  Speaker 3: That's all that, mad. Okay, that's all that mad.
• 44:33
  Speaker 1: If you funny to you, you funny to you. Okay,
• 44:37
  Speaker 1: you don't need nobody to proof. I probably woudn't put
• 44:39
  Speaker 1: it put it out like that. However, I think that's
• 44:43
  Speaker 1: the beauty of you connect like you connect to something.
• 44:47
  Speaker 1: And one of the things I love about you, Erica,
• 44:49
  Speaker 1: and I don't you I have not told you this. It's
• 44:53
  Speaker 1: how you are relatable, Like you'll do the AMPTI pay thing,
• 44:57
  Speaker 1: but you don't live there.
• 44:59
  Speaker 3: You don't live there.
• 45:00
  Speaker 1: And what I mean by that is when you go live,
• 45:03
  Speaker 1: I know I'm expecting a word from you, and I'm
• 45:06
  Speaker 1: expecting you went You went live two times where I
• 45:10
  Speaker 1: it was just a pinnacle point for me. The first
• 45:12
  Speaker 1: time was when you allowed me all your live and
• 45:16
  Speaker 1: we were we end up talking. You were lining different
• 45:19
  Speaker 1: people out of the community on the live, and we
• 45:20
  Speaker 1: were talking about covering each other, how women go big
• 45:23
  Speaker 1: back and forth and just being jealous and all this
• 45:26
  Speaker 1: stuff like that. Man, we talked about that, and it
• 45:29
  Speaker 1: just I was like, Man, this lady real like that.
• 45:32
  Speaker 1: That's when I was like, I gotta follow her for real.
• 45:34
  Speaker 1: The second one was when you were I don't know
• 45:38
  Speaker 1: if you remember this, you were you were discussing that.
• 45:42
  Speaker 1: You was like, I've been covering people for a long time,
• 45:45
  Speaker 1: I'm about to tell my story, and you start telling
• 45:47
  Speaker 1: your story. And one of the ways the things I
• 45:50
  Speaker 1: connected with is not being ashamed of any abuse that
• 45:54
  Speaker 1: I've I've experienced, and so in that place, what broke
• 45:59
  Speaker 1: the fear or frustration for you to start speaking out love.
• 46:04
  Speaker 1: I definitely feel like a lot of people would would
• 46:09
  Speaker 1: feel a lot better if they would use their voice.
• 46:12
  Speaker 1: We always say, you know, use your voice, tell your story.
• 46:15
  Speaker 1: But on the flip side of that, we have to
• 46:18
  Speaker 1: provide an environment that is conducive and safe for people
• 46:22
  Speaker 1: to tell their story because a lot of times you
• 46:25
  Speaker 1: don't want to tell your story for fear of judgment.
• 46:27
  Speaker 3: You don't want to, you know, for fear of all, right,
• 46:31
  Speaker 3: did you know that such and such and such a
• 46:32
  Speaker 3: such a happening?
• 46:33
  Speaker 1: But when you mentally, you have to graduate from worrying
• 46:38
  Speaker 1: about what people will think and focus more on the
• 46:41
  Speaker 1: freedom that you're about to walk in. Because can't nobody
• 46:45
  Speaker 1: tell on me better than I could tell on me?
• 46:48
  Speaker 1: Can't nobody tell my story better than you can? Try
• 46:51
  Speaker 1: to draw context clues from what you see, but nobody
• 46:56
  Speaker 1: really knows or can articulate your story better than you.
• 47:01
  Speaker 1: And for years, like I said on that Live like
• 47:04
  Speaker 1: because you know, when you present yourself and people think,
• 47:07
  Speaker 1: you know, oh she girl, she yeah, that's itir, but
• 47:10
  Speaker 1: they have no idea of the internal struggle.
• 47:13
  Speaker 3: So I think it's important for people.
• 47:16
  Speaker 1: Maybe if people understood, like I used to be a
• 47:19
  Speaker 1: mean girl, like what oh yeah I did. But if
• 47:23
  Speaker 1: not making an excuse, but if people knew that me
• 47:27
  Speaker 1: being a mean girl parallel me getting my head knocked
• 47:31
  Speaker 1: into the wall when I got home, then maybe they
• 47:33
  Speaker 1: would have a little more empathy. Or maybe it's not
• 47:37
  Speaker 1: that I walk into a room and I'm a B word,
• 47:39
  Speaker 1: but I have a guard up for a reason because
• 47:42
  Speaker 1: I been I don't been crossed so many times when
• 47:46
  Speaker 1: I did trust people, when I did give my whole
• 47:49
  Speaker 1: self to people. So now this is what you get.
• 47:52
  Speaker 1: You're gonna get this exterior. But we don't sit.
• 47:55
  Speaker 3: Down and really genuinely want just tell me your story
• 48:00
  Speaker 3: because we don't want to really know. We don't really
• 48:02
  Speaker 3: want to hear.
• 48:04
  Speaker 1: We don't really want to take the time to internalize
• 48:06
  Speaker 1: and hear your journey. We just want to We want
• 48:10
  Speaker 1: to abbreviate, We want the cliff notes. And sometimes I
• 48:13
  Speaker 1: think the cliff notes are fine. But sometime your your
• 48:18
  Speaker 1: telling your story is not really to free you. It's
• 48:22
  Speaker 1: it's really to free someone else. And I don't know what.
• 48:25
  Speaker 1: Like I said, when I go on Live, some days
• 48:27
  Speaker 1: I may be AUNTI Pam some days. I went on
• 48:30
  Speaker 1: TikTok the other night and I was laying in bed,
• 48:33
  Speaker 1: just chilling, waiting on Jamaica to get to to Vegas,
• 48:37
  Speaker 1: and I turned into a whole business coach.
• 48:40
  Speaker 3: We were talking about business, like you never know.
• 48:43
  Speaker 1: Where where I'm gonna where I'm gonna come at because
• 48:46
  Speaker 1: I don't I don't pre plan it. You know, a
• 48:48
  Speaker 1: lot of my social media folks say, well, you need
• 48:50
  Speaker 1: to plan your content, and that's hard for me because
• 48:54
  Speaker 1: I wanted to be genuine.
• 48:55
  Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying. I can kind of do it,
• 48:58
  Speaker 3: but not how most people do.
• 49:00
  Speaker 1: OK.
• 49:00
  Speaker 3: Today, you got Erica coming next week. I can't do that.
• 49:05
  Speaker 1: But the beauty about that is like, that's the evidence
• 49:07
  Speaker 1: that you go with God, Erica, like, ain't no way
• 49:10
  Speaker 1: you are this successful where you are. And this is
• 49:15
  Speaker 1: the mind blowing part, Erica, that there is still more.
• 49:19
  Speaker 1: And I just when I say that, the very thought
• 49:22
  Speaker 1: of that back in twoenty and sixteen. And I don't
• 49:26
  Speaker 1: know if any of the people from periscope that have
• 49:29
  Speaker 1: been following me for a long time maybe on here,
• 49:32
  Speaker 1: but this is something that I said way back then.
• 49:35
  Speaker 1: I said, God, as you take me high, keep me low.
• 49:40
  Speaker 1: And that was before Michelle Obama cy this, get that clear.
• 49:47
  Speaker 1: I literally said that. And I think I can go
• 49:51
  Speaker 1: back and pull the proof because you know, we need
• 49:53
  Speaker 1: receipts nowadays. But when I tell you every day that
• 49:57
  Speaker 1: is my daily prayer. I don't want to get to
• 50:00
  Speaker 1: the level of success to where people can't touch me.
• 50:03
  Speaker 1: I don't want to get to the level of success
• 50:05
  Speaker 1: where I'm nasty the folks, and but I don't want
• 50:08
  Speaker 1: I don't want that. That's not what I want. I
• 50:11
  Speaker 1: want people to be able to relate. Relatable. You've used
• 50:15
  Speaker 1: that word so many times. I was just on the
• 50:17
  Speaker 1: phone with one of my mentors and what he told me.
• 50:21
  Speaker 1: He is a comedy guru. He told me that, e,
• 50:26
  Speaker 1: the reason why you are meeting success is because you
• 50:30
  Speaker 1: are relatable. Don't ever lose that. And so that's really
• 50:35
  Speaker 1: important to me for me to stay grounded, for me
• 50:37
  Speaker 1: to stay consistent.
• 50:39
  Speaker 3: Now it's work.
• 50:40
  Speaker 1: Please don't think that doing all of this podcasts that
• 50:45
  Speaker 1: you just arrived here and the mic drops down and Hi.
• 50:49
  Speaker 1: It's so much work that goes behind the scene. And
• 50:52
  Speaker 1: what we have to do is educate people. Because people
• 50:56
  Speaker 1: lead with lifestyle marketing. They go down to the Lexus
• 51:00
  Speaker 1: dealership and the Mercedes and stand in front of a car.
• 51:03
  Speaker 1: They go over the Graystone and stand in front of
• 51:05
  Speaker 1: the house, and y'all on social media, y'all think that's
• 51:08
  Speaker 1: they house or that's their car. So it's lifestyle marketing.
• 51:13
  Speaker 1: And so those of us who want to use social
• 51:16
  Speaker 1: media and our influence responsibly, we need to have vulnerable
• 51:20
  Speaker 1: moments we need to let people know that we are human.
• 51:23
  Speaker 3: We need to let people know. You know what, I
• 51:25
  Speaker 3: remember you went live one.
• 51:27
  Speaker 1: Day on your on your own TikTok and you was like, today,
• 51:31
  Speaker 1: just ain't it like I'm having a day? And people
• 51:34
  Speaker 1: started encouraging, people started sewing again. If we would just
• 51:40
  Speaker 1: allow ourselves to be human. You don't know what's on
• 51:44
  Speaker 1: the other side of that. You was on their crime
• 51:48
  Speaker 1: because you really was like, y'all, I don't even know
• 51:51
  Speaker 1: why I'm doing this, but today has been a day.
• 51:54
  Speaker 1: The encouragement that people gave you, and you knew it
• 51:57
  Speaker 1: had to be genuine because it putt on your heart,
• 52:00
  Speaker 1: aren't streams? I feel like we owe ourselves a responsibility
• 52:04
  Speaker 1: to be honest. Yeah, and just show people reality. This
• 52:08
  Speaker 1: is reality. Some days, yes, I'm on top of the world,
• 52:11
  Speaker 1: but some days I'll be scruggling, like with a c
• 52:15
  Speaker 1: with a case, squaggling, squaggling. It's so interesting what you're saying.
• 52:22
  Speaker 1: It's interesting that I'm about to lead it to My auntie.
• 52:24
  Speaker 1: Pam actually had this conversation with desert Ree and I
• 52:28
  Speaker 1: and she mentioned that because I was I'm doing this
• 52:34
  Speaker 1: new blog thing, I was got encouraged to blog.
• 52:37
  Speaker 3: Oh wow, yeah, blogging. We've blogging today.
• 52:39
  Speaker 1: Okay, but I got encouraged to blog, and I was like, well,
• 52:45
  Speaker 1: I don't know if I want to do that. But
• 52:46
  Speaker 1: then sometimes you just listen to people because people need
• 52:48
  Speaker 1: to know the process. Not only do they need to know,
• 52:50
  Speaker 1: but people are interested in the process for that very reason.
• 52:53
  Speaker 1: These cameras don't come up by themselves. The life right,
• 52:56
  Speaker 1: don't come on. The scheduling on YouTube don't just happen
• 52:59
  Speaker 1: by itself. The editing, it don't happen by itself. The promoting,
• 53:02
  Speaker 1: the marketing, it does not happen happen by itself. And
• 53:05
  Speaker 1: so she was like, I was just popping up the
• 53:08
  Speaker 1: camera like anytime I thought about it, and she said,
• 53:12
  Speaker 1: you gotta give me a warning. He was like, I
• 53:15
  Speaker 1: said what. She was like, I want to make sure everything.
• 53:18
  Speaker 1: I was like, no, that's the whole that's the whole point.
• 53:20
  Speaker 1: And she was like, it's interesting how different the generations
• 53:24
  Speaker 1: are because in my generation you had you, you weren't
• 53:26
  Speaker 1: going outside with no bunny. I'm not going but we
• 53:29
  Speaker 1: still ain't going outside. I'm still not going outside.
• 53:30
  Speaker 3: With no bunny.
• 53:31
  Speaker 1: But people are flexible with themselves enough to say that's okay.
• 53:35
  Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying.
• 53:36
  Speaker 1: I said, that's so educatedly they flexible with that flexible
• 53:43
  Speaker 1: because you don't want to offend people and my decisions
• 53:45
  Speaker 1: about how they carry themselves. So we want to say that.
• 53:50
  Speaker 1: It just circles back to being real. Every time I
• 53:53
  Speaker 1: go live, I'm not gonna have these lashes on now
• 53:56
  Speaker 1: nine to nine percent of the time I am, because
• 53:58
  Speaker 1: I don't like all headed.
• 54:01
  Speaker 3: However, I'll go on there with no makeup. I'll go
• 54:05
  Speaker 3: on there.
• 54:05
  Speaker 1: I'll do my makeup in the morning because again, I
• 54:08
  Speaker 1: don't want to get you know, one of the things
• 54:10
  Speaker 1: that I always say on my TikTok, y'all don't run me.
• 54:13
  Speaker 1: I go live when I want to, I'm gonna send
• 54:16
  Speaker 1: a video. I'm gonna make a video when y'all don't
• 54:18
  Speaker 1: run me. Because when when we get into that, that's
• 54:22
  Speaker 1: a lot of pressure. Like the way some of these
• 54:24
  Speaker 1: people be on social media. Baby, I don't even see
• 54:27
  Speaker 1: how they're taking a bath, because how you on here
• 54:30
  Speaker 1: four day in the morning and at dog thirty at night?
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  Speaker 1: When is you them bathed? When is you to fix
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  Speaker 1: food for your family? When did the children get picked
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  Speaker 1: up from the camp. You've been before the people all
• 54:44
  Speaker 1: day on TikTok. I can't do that, So I'm not
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  Speaker 1: gonna go if I want to go live and I got.
• 54:53
  Speaker 1: I went loud the other night with my gown on,
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  Speaker 1: and we we had a whole. It turned maybe it
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  Speaker 1: was a gownge o w n baby, one of them
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  Speaker 1: gowns you get from down there on nineteenth Street at Cottons.
• 55:04
  Speaker 1: You remember Cotton's department store in Ensley. Yeah, I had
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  Speaker 1: on a gown. It was a little sleeveless gown with
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  Speaker 1: the little boat right there. They had a little chined
• 55:13
  Speaker 1: boat right there. They had little pitches on it. Listen,
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  Speaker 1: I had on a gown. And so one of the
• 55:20
  Speaker 1: ladies she said, oh my gosh, your gown is so cute.
• 55:23
  Speaker 1: I turned that into a hole again when you when
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  Speaker 1: you are your authentic self.
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  Speaker 3: That lady was waiting on somebody else. She said, oh my,
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  Speaker 3: I thought I was the only one that still wore gowns.
• 55:33
  Speaker 1: And I said, see, a gown can be a signal
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  Speaker 1: to your mate as to what is to come.
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  Speaker 3: See when they see that gown, they already know it.
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  Speaker 3: When they see that momoves and when they see that.
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  Speaker 1: Nighty yay, it's a lesson in the gown.
• 55:52
  Speaker 3: Come on, but I had on my gown, I was
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  Speaker 3: on tip top and everybody started.
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  Speaker 1: I said, what color your gown? And y'all they were
• 56:00
  Speaker 1: because it was something that they could relate to. Now,
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  Speaker 1: what if I had, I ain't gonna. Ain't gonna go
• 56:05
  Speaker 1: lie because I mean, girl, you have to be authentic.
• 56:09
  Speaker 1: The reality is you're not gonna be all made up,
• 56:13
  Speaker 1: all done up twenty four to seven. So I think
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  Speaker 1: that that's why people will gravitate towards your platform because
• 56:20
  Speaker 1: it's relatable. It's somebody that they can relate to. Oh yeah,
• 56:24
  Speaker 1: she doing this, but she had good days, she had
• 56:26
  Speaker 1: bad days. She have days where she dressed up, she
• 56:28
  Speaker 1: has days with you know, and.
• 56:30
  Speaker 3: That's just me. I can't keep up with doing all
• 56:32
  Speaker 3: that every day.
• 56:33
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a lot. It requires a lot of energy.
• 56:36
  Speaker 1: Even people think that it's just overcord.
• 56:39
  Speaker 3: No my mind.
• 56:40
  Speaker 1: Let me let me get an aunty because Untie Pam
• 56:42
  Speaker 1: ain't showing up. Said first of all, Auntie Pam ain't
• 56:45
  Speaker 1: showing up every day. Let's let's start there. People like, wait,
• 56:50
  Speaker 1: you ain't make but one video last week. That's all
• 56:53
  Speaker 1: I had capacity. Come on, that's all I had, and
• 56:57
  Speaker 1: you worried about you laughing and I'm badly getting up
• 57:01
  Speaker 1: out the bed.
• 57:01
  Speaker 3: Come on, So I can't give you what I don't have.
• 57:05
  Speaker 1: And so I think that's another reason why a lot
• 57:08
  Speaker 1: of people get burned out, because you're trying to give
• 57:10
  Speaker 1: from a place that's empty.
• 57:14
  Speaker 3: You're pulling from an empty well. Ain't nothing in there.
• 57:17
  Speaker 1: Your hand all the way down to you know how,
• 57:19
  Speaker 1: when you get down to the bottom and you got
• 57:21
  Speaker 1: to tip off, ain't nothing.
• 57:23
  Speaker 3: Else in their baby. So I can't give. And that's
• 57:28
  Speaker 3: another thing.
• 57:29
  Speaker 1: People who are content creators are in this whole social
• 57:33
  Speaker 1: media thing you have to train your audience to. I'm
• 57:39
  Speaker 1: not gonna call a name, but there are some social
• 57:42
  Speaker 1: media I think they started out really well and then
• 57:46
  Speaker 1: they allowed the audience to dictate. So now they way
• 57:51
  Speaker 1: over and left field, so far away from the original
• 57:54
  Speaker 1: intent of what they were doing because they allowed them.
• 57:57
  Speaker 1: You gotta be strong in if you don't feel like it, Hey,
• 58:01
  Speaker 1: you know what, next week, we're gonna have no podcast
• 58:04
  Speaker 1: because I can't. And there will be times like that,
• 58:06
  Speaker 1: and people gotta understand that that some days we don't
• 58:09
  Speaker 1: have it to give. Yeah, come on, and if I
• 58:12
  Speaker 1: don't have it to give, I ain't finna, I ain't
• 58:13
  Speaker 1: fin to find it.
• 58:15
  Speaker 3: You just gonna have to wait until I got something
• 58:17
  Speaker 3: to give.
• 58:18
  Speaker 1: Man, you you out here freeing, and forget the people being.
• 58:23
  Speaker 3: There's a rage, there will there be one. Are we coming?
• 58:28
  Speaker 3: Are we coming to the if you don't have it? Oh,
• 58:32
  Speaker 3: come on, you got a little too long.
• 58:34
  Speaker 1: Come on, no more change listen than listen.
• 58:39
  Speaker 3: My soul is Lord, Yeah, our Lord. Now we gotta stop.
• 58:46
  Speaker 3: We're up. I feel I feel, I feel a turn.
• 58:49
  Speaker 3: Don't do this.
• 58:50
  Speaker 1: Listen, but I'm so for real, Like just listening to
• 58:53
  Speaker 1: you really just just kind of solidified help me solidify me, right,
• 58:59
  Speaker 1: So even like, yes, today I was having a conversation
• 59:01
  Speaker 1: with my best friend, one of my best friends. She called.
• 59:03
  Speaker 1: She's like, hey, what you got going on today? And
• 59:04
  Speaker 1: I said, oh, I did, I'm doing this, I did this,
• 59:07
  Speaker 1: did this. I still got this to do and this
• 59:09
  Speaker 1: to do. She's like, oh, that's a lot, and I
• 59:12
  Speaker 1: was like, I mean to me, that's normal. That's my
• 59:16
  Speaker 1: that's my normal day. And I've become okay with that
• 59:20
  Speaker 1: because the reality is.
• 59:23
  Speaker 3: If you if he's given it to you.
• 59:25
  Speaker 1: He's giving you the capacity to manage it, and it's
• 59:28
  Speaker 1: our job to learn how to manage it well. Right,
• 59:32
  Speaker 1: So multiple lanes, that's cool. I think I've I'm learning
• 59:36
  Speaker 1: how to I like to use the word to have harmony.
• 59:39
  Speaker 1: I love it to have harmony versus balance, because I
• 59:42
  Speaker 1: don't really think something is always going to be pulling.
• 59:44
  Speaker 1: So to me, when I think of a balance, I
• 59:46
  Speaker 1: think of a scale like it's even, and I don't
• 59:49
  Speaker 1: think that just life. I don't think there's really a
• 59:52
  Speaker 1: time where anything is really even. But I think what
• 59:55
  Speaker 1: we learn is how to have things flow and have
• 59:58
  Speaker 1: harmony together. So like if you I love that, if
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 1: you're in this lane, that's cool. I know I'm flowing here,
• 1:00:03
  Speaker 1: but this thing is here, but I know I can
• 1:00:05
  Speaker 1: always go back to it. You know what I'm saying,
• 1:00:07
  Speaker 1: learning how to make the things have harmony. And I
• 1:00:10
  Speaker 1: think that's where I am and being okay with that,
• 1:00:12
  Speaker 1: Like I do a lot of it. I do a lot,
• 1:00:15
  Speaker 1: but you know what, that's what I was touching on earlier.
• 1:00:17
  Speaker 1: People who don't function the way that we function, it
• 1:00:22
  Speaker 1: is a lot to them. They will say stuff like
• 1:00:24
  Speaker 1: you know your friends said man that's a lot, or
• 1:00:26
  Speaker 1: you always doing something where you at.
• 1:00:28
  Speaker 3: Oh, I'm so and so you always but to us,
• 1:00:32
  Speaker 3: this is who.
• 1:00:33
  Speaker 1: We are, and you gotta at some point you have
• 1:00:36
  Speaker 1: got to be okay with embracing this is my normal,
• 1:00:41
  Speaker 1: and my normal may be abnormal to other people, but
• 1:00:44
  Speaker 1: this is my normal and you gotta own that thing
• 1:00:48
  Speaker 1: and you gotta stand in it, you know, Okay, I
• 1:00:50
  Speaker 1: understand that this may not be what you do.
• 1:00:52
  Speaker 3: But this is what I do.
• 1:00:54
  Speaker 1: And it's okay for us to walk in harmony with
• 1:00:58
  Speaker 1: you doing your thing and me doing my many things.
• 1:01:02
  Speaker 1: If you say we're gonna have girls Day Friday, we
• 1:01:04
  Speaker 1: could come together with my many things and your structured
• 1:01:07
  Speaker 1: things and we could go have us something to eat,
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 1: have us a good time, and then.
• 1:01:12
  Speaker 3: Go back out to our thing, go back to our things. Yeah,
• 1:01:16
  Speaker 3: that's so good. I love it. You just helped me
• 1:01:20
  Speaker 3: each other. Beauty. That's the beautiful part.
• 1:01:23
  Speaker 1: And I thank God for this opportunity to like for
• 1:01:26
  Speaker 1: just ask whatever, because that's the heartbeat, like to bring
• 1:01:28
  Speaker 1: us together, to not only expose or in just enhanced,
• 1:01:34
  Speaker 1: but together because our community is so important, not just
• 1:01:38
  Speaker 1: the community that we build with the community that we
• 1:01:41
  Speaker 1: are a part of because we need each other.
• 1:01:44
  Speaker 3: You've been You've been such a blessing. I can't let
• 1:01:46
  Speaker 3: this be the last time.
• 1:01:47
  Speaker 1: Absolutely that this can't be the last time I had
• 1:01:51
  Speaker 1: a ball because this was so good. I think we
• 1:01:53
  Speaker 1: learned you was literally depending on business coach, friend girl,
• 1:02:00
  Speaker 1: friend girl. You would all things to us in this space,
• 1:02:03
  Speaker 1: in this small time. But one of the things that
• 1:02:06
  Speaker 1: we like to do here it just as is to
• 1:02:09
  Speaker 1: allow you the opportunity for a last word. If the
• 1:02:14
  Speaker 1: listeners did not hear anything that you said, what would
• 1:02:18
  Speaker 1: be your final statement? What would you like to leave
• 1:02:21
  Speaker 1: as your final statement? Be your authentic self, regardless of
• 1:02:28
  Speaker 1: what other people may have purpose for you. You know,
• 1:02:33
  Speaker 1: sometimes we allow other people to tell us your daddy
• 1:02:38
  Speaker 1: was a preacher, you gonna be a preacher, and we
• 1:02:40
  Speaker 1: fall into be your authentic self and be okay with
• 1:02:44
  Speaker 1: your authentic self ruffling some feathers because sometimes people won't
• 1:02:50
  Speaker 1: understand who you are. They won't understand decisions that you make.
• 1:02:54
  Speaker 1: But as I sit here today, I can one hundred
• 1:02:58
  Speaker 1: percent say that being me, whatever that is, has helped
• 1:03:04
  Speaker 1: me to become me. It has helped me to be
• 1:03:10
  Speaker 1: I don't have to follow a script. I don't have
• 1:03:13
  Speaker 1: to fit into a certain template because I finally am
• 1:03:17
  Speaker 1: embracing the fact that I am fearfully and wonderfully made.
• 1:03:22
  Speaker 1: So my final word to everybody is and it's simple.
• 1:03:26
  Speaker 1: It sounds simple, but really being yourself is not as
• 1:03:29
  Speaker 1: easy because being yourself may offend others. Being yourself may
• 1:03:35
  Speaker 1: make people misunderstand you. Being yourself may cause you to
• 1:03:40
  Speaker 1: lose friends, may cause you to lose family members. But
• 1:03:43
  Speaker 1: the freedom that you experience from being you, unmatched, unmatched man,
• 1:03:54
  Speaker 1: the blessings of being you, that is the blessing.
• 1:04:01
  Speaker 3: Let me put that in the blessing of being you.
• 1:04:07
  Speaker 1: The Man took the time to create you before you
• 1:04:12
  Speaker 1: knew you, before your mama and daddy knew each other,
• 1:04:15
  Speaker 1: He knew you.
• 1:04:18
  Speaker 3: How dare you not be be who he created you
• 1:04:21
  Speaker 3: to be? How dare you not reach the zenith that
• 1:04:25
  Speaker 3: he has for you? How dare you? And he took
• 1:04:28
  Speaker 3: the time before before to create you. I owe it
• 1:04:33
  Speaker 3: to him to be me.
• 1:04:37
  Speaker 1: I feel like another shift just came, Like my my
• 1:04:41
  Speaker 1: thighs are tingling, Like I'm like, hey, watch yourself, watch yourself, y'all,
• 1:04:51
  Speaker 1: we're gonna cut this out. But we probably gonna go
• 1:04:54
  Speaker 1: a little bit. We better have a conversation, you know,
• 1:04:57
  Speaker 1: after record. But this has been so so amazing, Erica,
• 1:05:03
  Speaker 1: when I say, I can't thank you enough for just
• 1:05:05
  Speaker 1: you already have. This has been amazing. Thank you for
• 1:05:07
  Speaker 1: that your friend for now. But y'all shout out to
• 1:05:16
  Speaker 1: you guys. Make sure you like coming and subscribe. We
• 1:05:18
  Speaker 1: thank you, we love you, and until next week, remember
• 1:05:22
  Speaker 1: life could be much more simple if you just asked.
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  Speaker 2: Smith. I know I won't see you back until next week,
• 1:05:45
  Speaker 2: but until then, remember to love always yourself and always
• 1:05:51
  Speaker 2: say thank God.
• 1:05:52
  Speaker 3: For one day.
• 1:05:55
  Speaker 4: Hey, I know we could be another way. Hey, pray
• 1:06:02
  Speaker 4: thank God for another day. Hey, Hey, I'm just thankfu
• 1:06:08
  Speaker 4: for another day. Hey Hey another day? Oh, another day wise,
• 1:06:16
  Speaker 4: another day to get it right, another day to rise up,
• 1:06:18
  Speaker 4: another day living, another day we loved ones. I always
• 1:06:21
  Speaker 4: remember hold it down for a ball one yeh