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SMNTY Classics: SMNTY Takes a Vacation · Stuff Mom Never Told You

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  Speaker 1: Hey, this is Annie and Samantha. I'm welcome to Stefan
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  Speaker 1: Never told you Protection of iHeartRadio, and welcome to a
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  Speaker 1: classic about taking vacation, because we are trying to take
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  Speaker 1: some vacation, which we have talked about before several times.
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  Speaker 1: Is not always the easiest when you publish six episodes
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  Speaker 1: a week, but we're trying to do it. Are you excited?
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  Speaker 1: How are you feeling?
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  Speaker 2: I don't know.
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  Speaker 3: I'm trying to get through this week, I think, so
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  Speaker 3: I haven't even thought about it, and then the whole
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  Speaker 3: adventure of like packing and getting ready and then taking
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  Speaker 3: the dog. And then I'm excited because I do love
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  Speaker 3: spending time with my partner's family, but that's also hectic
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  Speaker 3: in itself. So I'm excited to get away, but I'm
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  Speaker 3: so caught up in everything else that I'm not excited,
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  Speaker 3: if that makes.
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  Speaker 1: Sense, right, right right? Maybe it'll hit later.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, So I think when I'm sitting in like a
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  Speaker 3: different place with a good view, I'll be like, oh,
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  Speaker 3: look that's nice.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, I'm excited. But as they talked about recently,
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  Speaker 1: I got all this family drama drama associated with my
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  Speaker 1: trip now, But then I was also thinking about because
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  Speaker 1: I am I'm sure to the surprise of no one
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  Speaker 1: when they announced not a sponsor, they're gonna have a
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  Speaker 1: Last of Us Haunted house at Universal. I'm in the
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  Speaker 1: midst of planning that because you have to you have
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  Speaker 1: to be ahead of the game. So but when I
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  Speaker 1: was thinking about that, because then Dragon Con, it's just
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  Speaker 1: like every month has a thing now that I wasn't anticipating,
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  Speaker 1: which is great, like, you know, I'm very happy for that,
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  Speaker 1: but I kind of it's like, oh no, we're going
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  Speaker 1: to have to figure all of this out. It'll work
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  Speaker 1: out and this so we're bringing back this happy hour.
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  Speaker 1: This happy hour is a little dated because it was
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  Speaker 1: during kind of early pandemic days. So we talked a
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  Speaker 1: lot about about that, which I still think because this
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  Speaker 1: if if we my friends and I go, we haven't
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  Speaker 1: gone to like a restaurant at that area at my
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  Speaker 1: grandparents beach house and since the pandemic. So I don't know,
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  Speaker 1: I don't know what we're gonna do this year. These
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  Speaker 1: are still questions that are happening for sure, But yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I wish us luks.
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  Speaker 3: Totally be careful because there's a malaria in Sarasota Florida,
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  Speaker 3: and I know you're not going into Florida, but you're
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  Speaker 3: definitely on that line.
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  Speaker 1: Another thing to worry about. Thank you, No, I appreciate
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  Speaker 1: it. It's good to know. But all right, please enjoy this
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  Speaker 1: classic episode. Hey, this is Annie and Samantha and welcome
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  Speaker 1: to Stef I've never told you production of iHeartRadio. It
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  Speaker 1: is time for another happy hour, So cheers everyone, kid,
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  Speaker 1: drink responsibly if you choose to do so. And today
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  Speaker 1: we're going to be talking about some friendship traditions and
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  Speaker 1: women and vacation because a peak behind the curtain, listeners,
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  Speaker 1: Samantha and I are trying to take one of these
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  Speaker 1: elusive vacations, which means that we are still drinking a
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  Speaker 1: drink that we had in a previous happy hour, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: the one we did on Antiel Tequila. So I am
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  Speaker 1: still drinking the tequila sour, which is lovely and a
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  Speaker 1: delight and very, like I said in that episode, makes
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  Speaker 1: me feel like I'm at the beach. So that's where
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  Speaker 1: I'm trying to go. I feel ready, You're ready, yes.
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  Speaker 3: And I am drinking my Paloma, which is almost like
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  Speaker 3: candy liquid candy, so it can be very dangerous.
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  Speaker 4: But also seems very beach like.
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  Speaker 3: So thank you to the Fergusons and Intil Tequila for
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  Speaker 3: sending us your coconut lime tequila because it is delicious.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, not a sponsor. We are currently not sponsored by anyone,
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  Speaker 1: and we talked about but they did send us product,
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  Speaker 1: so that is very lovely and it is it tastes
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  Speaker 1: very lovely. But yeah, we're trying to go on vacation,
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  Speaker 1: which I know. I try to get some numbers on
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  Speaker 1: this because I just feel like, especially in the United States,
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  Speaker 1: where work and productivity, as we've talked about before, is
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  Speaker 1: often tied to morality and your worth and workaholic is
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  Speaker 1: painted as a good thing, that it's taking a vacation
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  Speaker 1: becomes a point of stress and also is extremely difficult,
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  Speaker 1: and a lot of people don't do it here in
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  Speaker 1: the US, right And that's why even though we are
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  Speaker 1: taking this vacation and we have planned it in a
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  Speaker 1: way where we're not doing too much on top of
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  Speaker 1: like our regular duties, but it's still a thing where
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  Speaker 1: you have to like work to go on vacation. So
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  Speaker 1: I was trying to find some numbers about women and
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  Speaker 1: vacation and whether or not there's any kind of gender
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  Speaker 1: difference between men and women taking vacation, And I feel
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  Speaker 1: like I've heard those stories before where women are less
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  Speaker 1: likely to take vacation, more likely to take days where
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  Speaker 1: they take care of other folks. But I couldn't. I
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  Speaker 1: couldn't find any of this, So maybe I'll continue to
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  Speaker 1: look into it. But I do feel like women have
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  Speaker 1: this pressure to overperform, to not put anyone out, to
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  Speaker 1: make sure that no one is going to have to
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  Speaker 1: do more for them if they do go on vacation,
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  Speaker 1: and if you I have other responsibilities like kids on
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  Speaker 1: top of that, Like there's just all of this stuff
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  Speaker 1: that turns what should be like a time to relact
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  Speaker 1: into just this thing that becomes another stressor and job
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  Speaker 1: that you have to get to to work through.
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  Speaker 2: Right, I have a belief.
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  Speaker 3: So my family did not do vacations often. It used
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  Speaker 3: to be every four years. It would be my mom,
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  Speaker 3: my dad, my brother, and I and sometimes my older
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  Speaker 3: siblings when they were around. But they moved at the
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  Speaker 3: home pretty quickly when I was young, pretty early on.
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  Speaker 3: But we would go to Tennessee to Dollywood and that
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  Speaker 3: would be and we would only take like four days.
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  Speaker 4: It was not a week.
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  Speaker 3: That was not a thing, and I just remember, as
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  Speaker 3: fun as it was, it was mainly just us all
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  Speaker 3: arguing and my mom losing it and screaming at us
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  Speaker 3: and telling us.
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  Speaker 4: Not to talk anymore.
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  Speaker 3: Oh wow, and then my dad giving us that face
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  Speaker 3: that he's going to find a way to smack us,
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  Speaker 3: and I'm wanna say smack us. I'm like, you know,
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  Speaker 3: like the whole backseat swipe. I'm trying to get us
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  Speaker 3: to stop arguing.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, that's I think that's actually a great point, Samantha,
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  Speaker 1: because I when I was growing up, when I was
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  Speaker 1: like four or five, of course, had been exposed to
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  Speaker 1: the commercials for Disney World, and I like went and
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  Speaker 1: you know, went through with the commercial where the kid
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  Speaker 1: would go into the parents' bedroom at night and be like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: can we go to Disney World? And they would look
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  Speaker 1: at each other and then say yes. That was not
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  Speaker 1: my experience. My parents said never will we take you
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  Speaker 1: to Disney World. That's why I joined marching band, because
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  Speaker 1: it's my only way to get there. But I've thought
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  Speaker 1: about that a lot, especially in families where money is tight.
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  Speaker 1: Disney World's expensive, and it's a lot of pressure to
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  Speaker 1: make this thing a fun thing, and that in turn
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  Speaker 1: makes it again a stressful thing. And I think especially
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  Speaker 1: for in a lot of cases women, where we have
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  Speaker 1: been socialized to put that pressure on us of making
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  Speaker 1: everyone else happy, right, But it's just so much.
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  Speaker 4: Pressure, right.
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  Speaker 3: And I think there's this whole argument, and it was
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  Speaker 3: like a few years ago where with viral the argument
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  Speaker 3: of whether or not to allow adults to come without children,
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  Speaker 3: if you remember that whole debacle, Yeah, And the argument
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  Speaker 3: was made that it's so miserable, especially with really young
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  Speaker 3: kids when they don't even understand what's going on, who
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  Speaker 3: get tired within an hour, especially in Florida heat, so
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  Speaker 3: if you're going to Florida Disney World, and that it
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  Speaker 3: was such a different experience for them to come as
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  Speaker 3: an adult, to do exactly what they want without worrying
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  Speaker 3: about what their kids are doing or how to make
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  Speaker 3: sure they're okay.
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  Speaker 4: And honestly, for.
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  Speaker 3: Me as a social worker, when I would go as
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  Speaker 3: a nanny, I was on the lookout for any pedophiles
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  Speaker 3: trying to kidnap the kids like that was another part
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  Speaker 3: of all of that, which is very ridiculous. I'm a
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  Speaker 3: little paranoid, but the differences that happened, and especially for
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  Speaker 3: moms who are the ones that are packing for the
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  Speaker 3: day trip, who are trying to figure out where to
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  Speaker 3: eat dinner, when to eat dinner, what's next those kids' knees,
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  Speaker 3: how much they can afford to pay, because dude, we
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  Speaker 3: were all about the sandwich bags because we could not
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  Speaker 3: afford going to the restaurant within a theme park because
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  Speaker 3: it was so expensive. About I remember thinking all the
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  Speaker 3: kids who were going to Disney World, they were super rich,
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  Speaker 3: and I didn't understand it, as well as the fact if.
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  Speaker 4: You came back with souvenirs.
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  Speaker 3: What.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, And I am the dreaded adults that has gone
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  Speaker 1: to Disney World without children, and I have made a
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  Speaker 1: kind of mean spirited tally. Or I'll count how many
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  Speaker 1: arguments over here at Disney World, Magic Kingdom's the worst,
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  Speaker 1: the worst?
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  Speaker 4: How many kids will have a breakdown?
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  Speaker 3: Yes, And to the parents who are dealing with this,
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  Speaker 3: you are superheroes, just so you know this is.
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  Speaker 4: Not mocking you in any way. Oh wow, Wow.
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  Speaker 3: That is a full time like ontaking of things that
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  Speaker 3: I could not imagine.
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  Speaker 1: Right, And that's again, that's like as you were saying, Samantha,
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  Speaker 1: the planning of the meals and what is this child
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  Speaker 1: gonna need? And you're putting all this pressure for them
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  Speaker 1: to have this magical experience. We're not really coming out
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  Speaker 1: against Disney. It's just a really easy target in this
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  Speaker 1: instance of like you'd feel because you see it commercials,
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  Speaker 1: the child's gonna go and it's gonna be perfect, and
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  Speaker 1: you want to make it perfect. But yes, they're children
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  Speaker 1: and it's hot, and it's a long day and it's tiring,
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  Speaker 1: and I just think, yeah, that is is another thing
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  Speaker 1: where we're women are trying to plan because there's so much.
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  Speaker 1: Samantha's heard me like, there's so much to plan when
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  Speaker 1: you go to Disney, and you have to do it
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  Speaker 1: in advance if you really want it to go smoothly.
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  Speaker 1: And I think some people you know, are much better
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  Speaker 1: at being spontaneous than I am, but I'm like, one
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  Speaker 1: hundred and eighty days before, here's what we gotta.
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  Speaker 4: Do to be fair.
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  Speaker 3: I enjoyed that I didn't have to plan a damn thing,
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  Speaker 3: and you had everything lined up, and I told you
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  Speaker 3: exactly what I wouldn't do and what I would do.
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  Speaker 4: And you did your thing. And if I didn't want
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  Speaker 4: to do it.
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  Speaker 3: I would just said, Hey, I love that, Yes too, Tired,
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  Speaker 3: I'm like, I'm going back to the hotel.
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  Speaker 4: You all have fun.
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  Speaker 1: Well that is funny you say that, though, because I'm
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  Speaker 1: really good at planning things, and especially like as I've
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  Speaker 1: talked about recently in our Boyfriend's pass epipsode, I can
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  Speaker 1: be quite selfish. So I like know the things I
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  Speaker 1: want to do, and I know I will go out
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  Speaker 1: of my way to plan them, and I kind of
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  Speaker 1: get a feel for what other people want. But it
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  Speaker 1: is funny to me how many people, especially during the pandemic,
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  Speaker 1: were like, can you plan this for me? And then
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  Speaker 1: I kind of ended up feeling like how I imagine a
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  Speaker 1: mom feels, where it's just expected that you are going
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  Speaker 1: to plan the whole thing.
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  Speaker 4: Now true, and that.
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  Speaker 1: Could lead to some issues. Let me say yes. But
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  Speaker 1: so the trip I'm going on is not a Disney World.
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  Speaker 1: It is a trip I take with my friends to
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  Speaker 1: the beach every year. And they're friends I've had since
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  Speaker 1: in some cases elementary school but in all cases middle school,
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  Speaker 1: and we've managed to stay really close through all of this.
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  Speaker 1: We always do themes every year, and we take what
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  Speaker 1: we call a family photo, which is really cool to
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  Speaker 1: see kind of the progression and it's it's lovely. It's
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  Speaker 1: one of those friendships where even if we haven't seen
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  Speaker 1: each other for a year, it's easy to just catch
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  Speaker 1: up and talk with each other and we kind of
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  Speaker 1: know each other's like I can tell you like who
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  Speaker 1: won't eat this and who won't eat this, and the
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  Speaker 1: planning of that. And it is such a rejuvenating experience
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  Speaker 1: to have these friends that I just know, like I
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  Speaker 1: can count on every year we're going to do this
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  Speaker 1: and it's going to be a recharging and rejuvenating experience
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  Speaker 1: for me. That said, I do find I have a
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  Speaker 1: lot of trouble unplugging from work. It takes me a
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  Speaker 1: couple days often and even then I never completely am
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  Speaker 1: able to do it. I don't know what your experience
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  Speaker 1: has been with this, John Samantha.
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  Speaker 4: No, well not even with this job, so I don't know.
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  Speaker 3: I think when I was with DJJ, the Department Juvenile Justice,
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  Speaker 3: I was a residential placement specialist in which I try
• 13:32
  Speaker 3: to get treatment for kids instead of locking them up.
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  Speaker 3: So that was my goal because I had no one
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  Speaker 3: to really cover me and to answer my emails because
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  Speaker 3: they don't have enough positions.
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  Speaker 4: I rarely took a full week off. I would specifically
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  Speaker 4: take Thursday.
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  Speaker 3: Friday, Monday, and I would never actually turn off my email,
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  Speaker 3: and to the point that I would still have my
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  Speaker 3: out of office email, but I would check it and
• 13:59
  Speaker 3: it will that wasn't responded to, like the person who
• 14:01
  Speaker 3: supposed to cover me, which I had a partner, y'all
• 14:04
  Speaker 3: have if you have listened, have heard Courtney on the show,
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  Speaker 3: and she's been my rock in that position, one of
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  Speaker 3: my closest friends, like I love her to death. She
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  Speaker 3: would take it on, but knowing that she also had
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  Speaker 3: literally forty something counties on her books while I had
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  Speaker 3: the metro areas that had the dense populations, and so
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  Speaker 3: if she didn't respond within a certain time, especially if
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  Speaker 3: it was emergencies, I would respond to it.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, So I never really took a vacation with that.
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  Speaker 3: In this job, I still don't quite grasp what we're doing.
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  Speaker 3: I think I said this already a couple of times,
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  Speaker 3: to the point that I feel like when we're watching
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  Speaker 3: a movie, when we're going away, I'm always still working
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  Speaker 3: being aware of, Oh this is something we need to
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  Speaker 3: talk about, Oh this is something we need to cover
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  Speaker 3: as in fact, yes we're going on vacation, but my
• 14:52
  Speaker 3: intent is to take my laptop to do some research
• 14:55
  Speaker 3: for future episodes because, as we said earlier, you know this,
• 14:58
  Speaker 3: we're recording this a little earth, so we're doing back
• 15:01
  Speaker 3: to back. As much as we're going to try to
• 15:03
  Speaker 3: cram in publishing five and a half episodes, I count
• 15:06
  Speaker 3: the classics as episodes a week. It's stressful and so
• 15:13
  Speaker 3: it never really stops. And even though we are cramming in,
• 15:16
  Speaker 3: we're probably doing what we've done what twenty episodes and
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  Speaker 3: is going to be in a two week stretch, twenty
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  Speaker 3: to twenty five episodes in a two week stretch. When
• 15:25
  Speaker 3: we come back, we don't have to come right back
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  Speaker 3: on it, and whatever we're kind of stored up is gone.
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  Speaker 3: So to me, it doesn't stop, right.
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  Speaker 1: And that's that stressed too, is you know what's waiting
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  Speaker 1: for you. And I think I think two that when
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  Speaker 1: you have a job that you care about, or you're
• 15:46
  Speaker 1: a generally empathetic person, that it is hard too. You
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  Speaker 1: can't just turn that off right, So, and it frustrates
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  Speaker 1: me because the cap system that we operate in.
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  Speaker 3: Right, we don't be rewarded for being right extra sensitive
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  Speaker 3: to other people, but other people get punished exactly we
• 16:09
  Speaker 3: don't do it right.
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  Speaker 1: And also they're like, I care about this job and
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  Speaker 1: I want to do it well, and that is a
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  Speaker 1: good thing. I'm happy about it, but it is it
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  Speaker 1: can't be exploited, and it has been exploited because.
• 16:32
  Speaker 3: It has been Yeah, right, the expectations that's onto us.
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  Speaker 3: We don't have substitute hosts right right.
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  Speaker 1: And I don't want this to sound like to any
• 16:41
  Speaker 1: listeners like we're some kind of intervention or something, because
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  Speaker 1: I do think this is something a lot of women experience,
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  Speaker 1: Like I don't think this is unique to us, And
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  Speaker 1: I just wanted to talk about that for a second,
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  Speaker 1: because I do think vacation is incredibly important, but for
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  Speaker 1: a lot of us it's difficult to achieve for one
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  Speaker 1: reason or the other.
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  Speaker 3: Well, the fact that the US is also a very
• 17:05
  Speaker 3: performance based but when we say performance based, they're not
• 17:09
  Speaker 3: grading on whether or not you're doing well. They're grading
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  Speaker 3: whether or not you're doing not well. So they're always
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  Speaker 3: looking to find a way to punish you within the system,
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  Speaker 3: but not to reward you. So overworking is not something
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  Speaker 3: that people take technically taking notice of outside of yourself
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  Speaker 3: and your family, who you're having to sacrifice time with.
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  Speaker 3: And I think that's a whole other conversation as well
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  Speaker 3: as the fact when we have hourly wages, which you
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  Speaker 3: know not all of us do they goodness, But when
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  Speaker 3: that comes to light or commission based, there is this
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  Speaker 3: again penalty for not going over and beyond, and this
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  Speaker 3: whole mentality that to be accomplished you have to be
• 17:51
  Speaker 3: an overachiever willing to sacrifice. Everything is so toxic in itself,
• 17:57
  Speaker 3: but we still can't let go of it.
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  Speaker 4: I can't let go.
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  Speaker 3: But again, mine had everything to do with no literally,
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  Speaker 3: people will die. I can't do this of heart right,
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  Speaker 3: this job not so much, but in my head I
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  Speaker 3: can't let goveb. Mentality has been I've been working since
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  Speaker 3: I was thirteen.
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  Speaker 4: I can't let that go in my head.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and I think that's an unfortunate consequence of I mean,
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  Speaker 1: there are many unfortunate consequences of this, but of women
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  Speaker 1: and marginal lines, people feeling we had to prove ourselves
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  Speaker 1: above and beyond, and so our standard feels much higher.
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: So we're holding ourselves to this overachiever status, like you say, Samantha,
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: which shouldn't be the norm, Like we've pushed it up
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: and now we can't go back to like a basic
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: baseline that some people get to experience, but a lot
• 18:50
  Speaker 1: of us don't. And I remember telling my mom that
• 18:53
  Speaker 1: in college. She said, every time you come home, it
• 18:56
  Speaker 1: feels like you are so stressed, and I said, I
• 18:59
  Speaker 1: just like, there's always always something to do. There's never
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: there's never a time where I can just relax. And
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: here we are trying to go vac So, Samantha, what
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: are you what are you looking forward to? We've painted
• 19:16
  Speaker 1: a lot of negatives here, but there's some positives.
• 19:19
  Speaker 3: So my vacation is more of a getaway to my
• 19:23
  Speaker 3: partner's family's home, who has set himself up really nicely
• 19:27
  Speaker 3: in his retirement. He lives on the beach in Florida
• 19:30
  Speaker 3: and has an amazing pool. But what I'm really excited
• 19:33
  Speaker 3: about is taking my dog, who loves to swim and
• 19:37
  Speaker 3: loves that pool so much that she goes ham when
• 19:41
  Speaker 3: she gets all up in that pool. So I'm really
• 19:42
  Speaker 3: excited to take all the videos of her swimming around
• 19:46
  Speaker 3: because it's quite delightful.
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: What about you, perfect, perfect and all?
• 19:50
  Speaker 4: Yeah, people, whatever. People.
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: Samantha, and I recently decided that I am much more
• 19:58
  Speaker 1: like Peaches than previously Realiz.
• 20:00
  Speaker 3: Yeah, maybe the competition, Like you are the same person,
• 20:05
  Speaker 3: and there's a level of competition between the two of you.
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: Beaches.
• 20:10
  Speaker 3: Oh no, my affections just for who you are.
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: Also, Oh no, Yeah, I'm really like, of course to
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: seeing my friends, and I feel like because we are.
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: I mean, the US is really fortunate a lot of ways,
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: unfortune a lot of ways. When it comes to the vaccine,
• 20:32
  Speaker 1: I'm still really hesitant. So I think we're going to
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: stay in most of the whole time, whereas we used
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: to go out much more when we would do this trip.
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: But I'm kind of looking forward to that. I'm kind
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: of looking forward to days where we just hang around
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: and play games and talk and eat and drink and
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: just hopefully relaxed days which I don't normally afford myself
• 20:55
  Speaker 1: too much or you know, pre pandemic. Pandemic has changed.
• 20:59
  Speaker 3: But you also an overtiever that gets things done within
• 21:02
  Speaker 3: like the first two hours of an assignment, so therefore
• 21:04
  Speaker 3: you have a little more discipline in this.
• 21:08
  Speaker 4: But yeah, I really hope you do get to do
• 21:10
  Speaker 4: that now.
• 21:10
  Speaker 3: I have a feeling your friends are gonna gonna put
• 21:13
  Speaker 3: you on track.
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: They're very they're very supportive of they there. I feel
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: bad that they have to do this, but they're really
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: good about like it's time for you to go to
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: sleep because I'm terrible at sleeping, or it's time for
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: you to eat because I'm terrible at eating. They're really good.
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: What do you want to do? You want to watch
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: Star Wars again? Let's put it in.
• 21:34
  Speaker 4: So many Star Wars.
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, I am. I am on a current
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: path of educating another friend in Star Wars and it's
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: been very rewarding and she's been very receptive to my ideas.
• 21:45
  Speaker 2: I love it.
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: Yes, I do too. Well. Cheers, Cheers, y'all, cheers. We
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: hope that you listeners get to go on a vacation
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: or get to relax somehow and you could tell us
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: all about your trips to your adventures. We would love
• 22:05
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• 22:07
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• 22:10
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• 22:12
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• 22:15
  Speaker 4: On vacation Christina Guess and.
• 22:18
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