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What's wrong? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So today I want to talk to you about the phrase, what's wrong?
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  And this is something that we as human beings tend to use an
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  awful lot. I know, I was raised in a
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  household where my mother would walk in a room and I would be
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  sitting there I look up at her and she'd say what's wrong.
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  And she always had this sense of impending doom and it seems very
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  dramatic to say it that way, but it is very very True.
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  Her sense of impending doom was huge and she had just a an air
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  about her where she constantly looked for what's wrong.
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  And I really I can't stress enough.
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  How that affected me growing up because my father was the exact
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  opposite, my father would walk in and always be Smiles.
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  Hey, what's shakin, what's going on?
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  What are you doing? He always had great things to
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  say and always had a huge smile on his face.
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  And I grew up in this absolute opposite environment.
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  And I've talked about it before about how fortunate I was to
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  have the absolute opposites to cultivate me, but this question
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  of what's wrong keeps coming up and coming up and coming up in
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  our lives. The other day, I happened to be
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  in a store and I was watching family and the mother kept
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  saying to the child, what's wrong, what's wrong?
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  And you You know, obviously. It's a it's a push to get you to
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  tell you that you had a person to tell you something but what
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  if there's really nothing wrong, what if you're just sitting
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  there and you're not even thinking about anything, what if
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  you're just being the kid in that moment or the person in
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  that moment and there really is nothing wrong.
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  There's just a, you know, I'm not thinking about anything
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  moment, what does that do to you?
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  What does that do to your hardwiring?
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  How does that make your brain shift into looking for something
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  that's wrong all the time? Well, Huge and human beings are
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  automatically, hardwired to seek and see what's wrong for safety
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  purposes. It's just part of our dynamic in
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  survival, basic survival, things are to see what's wrong, so you
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  can fix them and you can then continue on.
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  But when you push it that way, it means, everything comes into
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  Focus under that umbrella. So if we go back to, who's
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  driving your bus as a metaphor again and we Issei.
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  What emotion is driving at that? Well, it comes from the fear
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  side of things. It could be fear.
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  It could be anxiety, it could be, you know, just having this
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  sense of Ali's all the time. It could be that you're on edge,
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  whatever the emotion is, however, it shows up, it it's
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  all predicated, from that sense of fear, deep down inside about
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  something must be wrong. How many of you have had a
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  situation in your life where things are going?
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  So well, Everything is going so well, so well, so well.
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  And then all of a sudden, you say to yourself.
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  Well, this has been going too good for too long.
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  Something must be going to go wrong and boom.
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  All of a sudden, something goes wrong.
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  Well, that's not an accident that, that those things start to
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  show up because your focus shifts and then you start to
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  look for what's wrong. And then you make it show up by
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  focusing on what's wrong? We get in these energies and
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  these emotions and you can't help, but have those things
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  show, Oh up when you're focused on him all the time.
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  So it is a critical piece of your well-being to recognize how
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  much you look for what's wrong versus what's great?
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  You know, how many times have you sat down in the last month?
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  Let's say, and that's not even go that far a week.
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  Maybe even a day when you said, hey, what's great about today?
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  I mean, when I ask that question of clients, the answer I get is
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  I haven't done it enough or I haven't done it or it seems to
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  slip my memory or I don't really think about it that much of
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  course you don't because when you get into your doer mode and
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  you're just there and you're grinding.
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  Oh every single day you just cranking and grinding clanking
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  and grinding doing the work. You're not paying attention to
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  that piece and it's detrimental to your well-being because
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  you're skipping the parts that create the energy.
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  Because remember emotion creates energy and vice versa and having
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  that energy is what attracts things to you remember, like
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  attracts. Like so if you're looking for
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  the Doom and Gloom, if you're looking for what's wrong, you
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  will always find it. My mother always found a healthy
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  source of what was wrong. Her friends would call and tell
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  her who died. She'd have all these things.
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  She'd find it work to complain about she'd come home and she'd
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  have the saddest face. She'd walk.
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  Walk in the door and I'd say, how was your day?
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  And she's like, just like yesterday.
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  I'd be like okay, why do I even want to have a conversation with
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  her about it all weekend? Friday, she'd be happy because
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  she was done and at the end when she came home from work and by
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  Saturday morning she'd say only one more day and then back to
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  the grind and then some you know Sunday night, she'd be in that
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  whole mode of just getting ready for the next day, not excited
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  about it. Just focusing on being back to
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  the grind and then she'd come home from work.
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  On Monday, and she would always say how was your day, but those
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  terrible, this happened, this happened, this happened.
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  Not only when she complain about stuff for herself, she complain
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  about stuff for other people, and she talked about it all the
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  time, and she had a very good friend who happens.
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  I happen to consider an adopted Aunt who I still have the gift
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  of having on this planet with me and she was the happiest person.
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  And she would always say to me, I don't know why she's like
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  that. I don't know why she's like
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  that. That and she is the exact
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  opposite of it. But somehow they were friends, I
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  think just for years. Maybe they were friends when
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  they were kids to, but I just did there and I say to myself
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  holy cow, how could it have gotten to that point?
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  Because I know it's some point. She had to have been a happy
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  person, she had to have not always been like that at least I
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  hope that was the case and I I look back and I say gosh that
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  one phrase now that I know what I know could have just been
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  eliminated. I bet a lot of her work.
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  One of changed. So I'm going to challenge you to
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  go out today and find how many times you're using what's wrong,
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  and what you're looking at, and how we can change that because
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  that will have a distinct distinct winning shift in your
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  life if you can do it. So I hope you guys have a great
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  day and go find, what's great? Instead of what's wrong?
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  Take care. Bye.