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The Moment You Realize You're Getting Old (And It's Not What You Think) · Stay Outta My Fridge

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Speaker 1: You ever notice how the thoughts that stick with you
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Speaker 1: the longest don't actually always come from the big moments.
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Speaker 1: They don't come from milestones, they don't come from speeches,
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Speaker 1: they don't always come from deep conversations that you planned.
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Speaker 1: They come from a random Tuesday. I'm driving the other day,
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Speaker 1: not going anywhere special, I'm just driving and the weather
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Speaker 1: is absolutely terrible, almost disrespectful. Snow, it's coming sideways, the wind,
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Speaker 1: it's howling, roads half plowed, half well, you know, just
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Speaker 1: that North Country highway where you.
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Speaker 2: Just stay where the tire tracks are. You get off
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Speaker 2: either way, it gets a little bit sketchy.
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Speaker 1: It's that kind of weather that you're just white knuckling
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Speaker 1: the steering wheel way way too tight and promising yourself
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Speaker 1: you'll complain about it later. Sometimes you forget to breathe
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Speaker 1: and you're just hoping that you get to your destination,
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Speaker 1: and then you're almost instantly regretting and just have that
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Speaker 1: feeling in your stomach knowing that you get to do
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Speaker 1: it all over again, but just the oppositive way, and
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Speaker 1: you're hoping that all of the hard work and down
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Speaker 1: people are able to get out, stay safe and get
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Speaker 1: those roads clear for not only you.
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Speaker 2: Know, selfishly yourself, but.
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Speaker 1: Everybody else that has to travel the roads. And then
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Speaker 1: you're like, should I take the back way? Nope, I'm
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Speaker 1: going to take the main way. And then through all
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Speaker 1: of this you're driving, and then there they are the Amish.
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Speaker 1: Why are they Well, they're out, they're traveling, and they're
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Speaker 1: moving with a purpose. They're not rushing, they're not panicking,
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Speaker 1: they're just going and listen. This This isn't judgment. This
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Speaker 1: is genuine curiosity mixed with a little fear, because it's always,
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Speaker 1: it seems like you see them in the worst weather,
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Speaker 1: rarely in a nice calm day, never just a little
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Speaker 1: gentle snowfall. It's always, hey, it'school, was closed, roads, questionable,
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Speaker 1: rethink your life choices, kind of conditions, and they're out
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Speaker 1: there with the umbrella, which raises questions mainly does the
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Speaker 1: umbrella actually help or is it more of a statement,
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Speaker 1: because if umbrellas work like that, I don't, well twelve
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Speaker 1: and I'd probably fear nothing. And that's when it hit me.
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Speaker 1: Some people they just go. The rest of us, we
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Speaker 1: you know, grab our phones, we check the weather app
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Speaker 1: once twice, twenty seven times, we text a couple of people,
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Speaker 1: we cancel plans that we didn't even want to go to.
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Speaker 1: And suddenly I realized, maybe maybe this isn't about the weather.
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Speaker 1: This is about how different life kind of feels now,
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Speaker 1: because it sure is different than it was many moons ago.
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Speaker 1: Welcome back, everybody to stay out of my fridge. It's
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Speaker 1: just me again. Life is busy, kids are busy, and honestly,
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Speaker 1: I'm starting to think that maybe it's just not cool anymore.
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Speaker 1: What started off as a father ad podcast, a lot
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Speaker 1: of fun, lot of clips, is slowly evolving into me
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Speaker 1: talking into a microphone to myself and hopefully it's not boring.
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Speaker 1: But I thought, you know what, this is the Stay
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Speaker 1: out of My Fridge podcast, wouldn't it be cool if
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Speaker 1: I brought some related to boldness set a word. I'm
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Speaker 1: gonna bring some moments, maybe even some guests on in
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Speaker 1: the near future that is relatable other dad's buddies, friends,
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Speaker 1: and you know, just kind of things that I see
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Speaker 1: throughout the week, And I was wondering, is this even
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Speaker 1: worth it? Like my let's be honest, my life isn't crazy.
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Speaker 1: My life isn't you know, you know, exciting by any means.
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Speaker 1: My life is my life and I'm living it, so
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Speaker 1: maybe just maybe I don't find it that cool and
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Speaker 1: that interesting because I'm living it. But out there somewhere,
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Speaker 1: my life is much different than probably your life, and
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Speaker 1: maybe the situations and some things that I see learn
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Speaker 1: here and things that have happened are quite entertaining. And
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Speaker 1: it's my life and I'm living it, and I could
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Speaker 1: sit down here and just have a conversation. So I
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Speaker 1: figured why not, and why not break it up into
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Speaker 1: you know, fun little stay out of my fridge style segments, right,
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Speaker 1: you know, we'll start it off, you know, obviously with
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Speaker 1: the fridge door, you know what I mean, because to
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Speaker 1: get into the fridge, you have to get in through
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Speaker 1: the fridge door, all right, And we'll give you that,
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Speaker 1: you know, that fridge door moment. Then we'll get it
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Speaker 1: kind of the main shelf, all right, the really good shelf,
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Speaker 1: the stable shelf. Maybe you put your milk here, maybe
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Speaker 1: you put your beer here. You kind of tend to
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Speaker 1: put the main stuff. We all know that little bit
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Speaker 1: of you know what I mean, a spot in the fridge.
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Speaker 1: We all have that.
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Speaker 2: Then we'll, you.
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Speaker 1: Know, eventually, we'll go ahead and we'll get into the
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Speaker 1: crisper drawer. Maybe you still haven't grown up and you
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Speaker 1: don't like vegetables, so you still use the crisper drawers. Well,
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Speaker 1: another beer drawer, and.
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Speaker 2: Then we'll get into, you know, the freezer.
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Speaker 1: If you know, you have an old school fridge like me,
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Speaker 1: I still have the free the fridge on the bottom,
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Speaker 1: of the freezer on the top. A lot of the
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Speaker 1: cool kids have the split ones down the middle. And
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Speaker 1: maybe we'll do the fridge door here. Then we'll open
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Speaker 1: up the freezer door and then we'll get into it
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Speaker 1: and we'll just kind of have some fun and see
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Speaker 1: if it's relatable, see if it's entertaining, and you know,
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Speaker 1: hopefully the kids will come back and be some co
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Speaker 1: hosts and we'll have some fun with it. But either way,
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Speaker 1: like I said, you're here with me. Let's go ahead,
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Speaker 1: let's get into the main shelf. Right. Let's be honest.
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Speaker 1: When you're a father, when you are you know, living
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Speaker 1: in a house full of kids, you get messy houses,
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Speaker 1: you get messy kids rooms, and sometimes you just have
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Speaker 1: to surrender quietly. And let's be honest. I don't mind
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Speaker 1: a messy house. My grandparents they've always said that, you know,
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Speaker 1: MESSI house is a happy house in the regards that
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Speaker 1: if you're not overly obsessing with always having to clean
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Speaker 1: your house, then you're probably living a pretty good life.
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Speaker 1: You're you're probably happy if there's a lot of objects
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Speaker 1: and good stuff and good vibes, and you're living a
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Speaker 1: pretty happy life. And let's be honest, I don't really
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Speaker 1: mind a messy house. And do I have a whole
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Speaker 1: bunch of people that are always coming over that we
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Speaker 1: have to entertain, and then I gotta stress and keep
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Speaker 1: it clean all the time. No, that's fine. I mean
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Speaker 1: when you live in a house with you know, a wife,
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Speaker 1: three girls, four cats, two dogs, life is busy, especially
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Speaker 1: being a coach. Kids are athletes, We're on the road
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Speaker 1: a lot. So and I know that I'm saying I
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Speaker 1: don't mind a messy house. And I know that people
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Speaker 1: say they say that and they don't mean it. I
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Speaker 1: actually mean it. Like I said, life does happen. Kids
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Speaker 1: live here. People said, Oh, shoes come off wherever they
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Speaker 1: come off, Jackets end up there, the book bags end
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Speaker 1: up there. Sometimes the toy ends up there. Sometimes the
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Speaker 1: dog gets that toy and choose it, and kids get mad.
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Speaker 1: I honestly think it, you know, is a little bit
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Speaker 1: of some life lessons, you know, and as the kids
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Speaker 1: are getting older, we do really dry hard to give
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Speaker 1: them the core values. House. The common area to hang
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Speaker 1: out is the kitchen. We have a pretty clean kitchen,
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Speaker 1: you know what I mean, not only the cleanliness for
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Speaker 1: the cooking, but that's where we spend most of our time,
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Speaker 1: you know what I mean. So we do a pretty
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Speaker 1: good job of keeping that clean. But the part that
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Speaker 1: throws me a little bit is the and maybe messes
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Speaker 1: with my brain a little bit, is the kids room.
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Speaker 1: All right, because kids rooms are not just messy, they're advanced, right,
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Speaker 1: They operate under laws of physics that I'm not sure
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Speaker 1: we've even discovered yet. Because you can clean one, like
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Speaker 1: really clean it right, like you're motivating, got all the momentum,
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Speaker 1: you're doing that thing where you think, all right, today,
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Speaker 1: we're turning things around. Right, you walk out, you feel accomplished,
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Speaker 1: and we've done it. We played room, not room or
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Speaker 1: let room. Man, I'm trying to think I'm drawna far
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Speaker 1: where we swapped a bunch of rooms around, all right.
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Speaker 1: We recently did a new master bedroom. Bow them there
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Speaker 1: went one. All the kids had a choice. The oldest
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Speaker 1: kept it.
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Speaker 2: The other two they got new rooms.
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Speaker 1: We moved it around. All the rooms were clean, they
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Speaker 1: were spotless, everything had a purpose, organized life. Life was good.
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Speaker 1: Everybody's happy. You walk into a clean room, especially your room,
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Speaker 1: your space when you're a kid, it's your own like
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Speaker 1: it's your area. You can put whatever posters on the wall.
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Speaker 1: You can, you know, put the bed where you want.
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Speaker 1: You can put your desk where you want, you can
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Speaker 1: put your you know, I never had this problem. But
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Speaker 1: you can put your vanity and do your makeup wherever
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Speaker 1: you want. You can put your stuff wherever. If you
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Speaker 1: choose to just come in and just disregard and put
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Speaker 1: it on there, well that's I guess I knew. You
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Speaker 1: try to get them to clean it sometimes even use
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Speaker 1: you know, you have to have a clean room as
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Speaker 1: a like a little bit of some black melow. We
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Speaker 1: were gonna go and do this, but you didn't clean
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Speaker 1: your room. Whoever's got the cleanest room gets to pick
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Speaker 1: dinner tonight. A couple of little parenting fun things, right,
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Speaker 1: and you go through it, You help them clean, you
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Speaker 1: help them clean out. I don't know how many times
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Speaker 1: you have to go through and help and now that
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Speaker 1: they're a little bit older, time to help is very
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Speaker 1: running low, very minimal. But you do that, you feel accomplished,
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Speaker 1: You help out, rooms clean. Then you come back later
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Speaker 1: and think, did somebody break in and actively undo everything
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Speaker 1: that we did because it's it's worse, not the same.
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Speaker 1: It's worse. That's not mess, it's innovation, that's chaos with intent.
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Speaker 1: At some point you stop asking questions, Hey, how did
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Speaker 1: this happen? Is something that you should ask, but you
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Speaker 1: just stop. And sometimes I'm just kind of like, all right,
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Speaker 1: what's the minimum acceptable condition for peace? And I honestly
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Speaker 1: think this is all parenting moments that nobody really he
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Speaker 1: truly warned you about. And I know we've had conversations,
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Speaker 1: especially as a coach, I overhear, yeah I couldn't do
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Speaker 1: this because I didn't clean my room, or oh I
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Speaker 1: didn't do this, And as the older they you know,
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Speaker 1: it turns into more cleaning and throwing things away rather
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Speaker 1: than hey, I'm going to organize, take all of the
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Speaker 1: stuff that I have and just put it in different spots,
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Speaker 1: which I don't know the true definition of cleaning, but
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Speaker 1: I have to imagine it's not just pick up the
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Speaker 1: stuff and move it all in different spots. Sometimes we
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Speaker 1: do got of part ways. And you know, the youngest
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Speaker 1: is kind of at that stage where a lot of
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Speaker 1: toys and a lot of stuff are still really holding
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Speaker 1: onto the adolescence where there's still the you know, the
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Speaker 1: ability to be that younger kid. But technology creeps in
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Speaker 1: and it just turns into that. And I know, again
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Speaker 1: we're not the only house that kids have messy rooms.
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Speaker 1: And growing up, I wasn't the cleanest, but I knew
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Speaker 1: that laundry went here, then out, then to the washer.
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Speaker 1: And I'm not sure that our girls have figured out
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Speaker 1: the whole process yet, but they are a work in
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Speaker 1: progress and they're they're gonna continually figure the things out.
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Speaker 1: And you know when the laundry comes back up clean
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Speaker 1: that it goes into certain spots. That is said dressers.
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Speaker 1: But again, you don't work in progress, and like I said,
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Speaker 1: it just turns into one of those moments where I
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Speaker 1: feel like as a parent, you do get very frustrated
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Speaker 1: it's coming in. You know, take as silly it is.
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Speaker 1: You just walk in and you're just like, what the heck,
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Speaker 1: this is a disaster. This is like Texas City in
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Speaker 1: the when the USS grand camp exploded with the fertilizer
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Speaker 1: and took out an entire city. It's almost like that,
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Speaker 1: you know, flosion of things came up here and it's
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Speaker 1: just in kid form like a tsunami, when like a hurricane.
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Speaker 1: It's just brutal. And sometimes you know, when you try
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Speaker 1: to play in the nice parent card, like come out,
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Speaker 1: pick it up, just tidy it up a little bit,
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Speaker 1: all right, go do ten minute tidy time, Go do that,
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Speaker 1: and then you come in here and somehow it's worse.
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Speaker 1: I mean, we've all been there, right, And some times
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Speaker 1: I feel like I just need to quietly lower my
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Speaker 1: clean room standards. And not because I don't care, not
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Speaker 1: because I gave up, but sometimes because peace is expensive.
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Speaker 1: A clean room used to mean something. Now it just
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Speaker 1: kind of means like the door closes most of the time.
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Speaker 1: It doesn't open all the way. You don't see it.
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Speaker 1: And you know what, at the end of the day,
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Speaker 1: if nobody's crying, that's probably a win, right. That's some
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Speaker 1: adulthood stuff. It's like, how do we go a day
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Speaker 1: without the tears, without the upset, Like if the kids
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Speaker 1: can you know, go through the day, hit the pillow
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Speaker 1: with a smile, and happy heart well fed. I mean
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Speaker 1: that's a win, right, regardless of the messy room. We
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Speaker 1: can step over the clothes, we can walk around that
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Speaker 1: kind of stuff, and we can manage it right. And
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Speaker 1: let's be honest, I feel like if we manage it
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Speaker 1: well enough, then you can sit down and maybe don't talk.
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Speaker 1: And that's where I personally am going to try to
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Speaker 1: get a little bit better with the kids and hope
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Speaker 1: that kill them with kindness in the room cleaning department
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Speaker 1: is uh, it's going to pay dividends. We'll report back
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Speaker 1: in a future episode or maybe bring the kids on
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Speaker 1: and see if that has gotten any better.
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Speaker 2: Right, So let me ask you this before we jump into.
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Speaker 1: The crisper drawer. I want to ask, is any of
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Speaker 1: the houses out there listening to any of you guys
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Speaker 1: still have your Christmas tree up? How long is it
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Speaker 1: acceptable to keep the Christmas tree up after said Christmas?
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Speaker 1: I know some people that would kind of roll the
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Speaker 1: Christmas tree to a Valentine's Day tree, to a Saint
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Speaker 1: Patrick's tree, to an Easter tree and just kind of
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Speaker 1: really embrace it. I'm just curious where that is. I
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Speaker 1: love the holidays, I love the happiness and brings, and
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Speaker 1: if people could walk by our Christmas tree and still
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Speaker 1: be super happy, then that's a win in there. But
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Speaker 1: I'm just curious how long it's too long to keep
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Speaker 1: the Christmas tree up in the house. Genuinely curious how
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Speaker 1: many people. Because my family a little bit different, they're
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Speaker 1: built different. It's almost like they have a contest to
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Speaker 1: see who is the first one to get the tree
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Speaker 1: out on Christmas Day. Open a presence, bang ornaments, everything's
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Speaker 1: off ding d d bing bang, trees out. If it's
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Speaker 1: a real tree on the curb, ready for a pickup,
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Speaker 1: ready for a burning pile, ready to be done. If
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Speaker 1: it's a fake tree, it's boxed, stored, see you later,
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Speaker 1: ready for next year. I'm just curious on that, So
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Speaker 1: let me know in the comments, or should we be
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Speaker 1: a message on Instagram. I just want to know how
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Speaker 1: long it's too long for the Christmas tree. All right,
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Speaker 1: let's open that fridge door, let's grab that crisper drawer,
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Speaker 1: and let's talk about some things. Recently, I felt old,
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Speaker 1: like real old circular leading around the internet was sign
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Speaker 1: ups for alumni basketball at my old high school. And
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Speaker 1: you know, for a second, I think I smiled because
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Speaker 1: there's kind of that part of your brain that still
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Speaker 1: thinks that maybe you're the same person you are back then.
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Speaker 1: But then I paused because my next thought wasn't shit
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Speaker 1: that sounds fun? It was I probably would already need
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Speaker 1: I sit. Unfortunately, there was somebody that got pretty hurt
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Speaker 1: in the Alumni game last year, and I feel like
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Speaker 1: that's gonna really make some old people like me realize
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Speaker 1: like is it worth it? And there's all sorts of
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Speaker 1: little things that just make me soort of not to
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Speaker 1: sound old, but it was a thing that your parents
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Speaker 1: always told you. And some days I forget that I'm
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Speaker 1: in my forties. I'm like older than my parents were
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Speaker 1: when they were warning me about how being a parent
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Speaker 1: and grew getting older really does suck.
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Speaker 2: So that's fun.
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Speaker 1: And then you start to see the memes where like
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Speaker 1: the characters on Cheers, I'm older than all of them
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Speaker 1: when they were filming Cheers, and I'm just like, oh
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Speaker 1: my god. And I start to think back of like
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Speaker 1: how much fun sports really was back then, and how
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Speaker 1: almost I wish I could stay in that kind of shape.
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Speaker 1: Do I do a little bit of cardio? Do you have?
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Speaker 1: Is there any chance I could go play a full
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Speaker 1: basketball game with a whole bunch of people younger than me.
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Speaker 1: Probably not. Probably not, because I'd like to think of
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Speaker 1: my brain like I'm not old, i am historically relevant,
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Speaker 1: that I'm not washed up. I'm archived, right because there's
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Speaker 1: a version of me that exists out there in memories,
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Speaker 1: trophy cases. I'd like to say highlight reels, but all
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Speaker 1: of our games were recorded with a VHS recorder by
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Speaker 1: my old man. Those are still technically out there somewhere.
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Speaker 1: But it also turns out that I don't have a
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Speaker 1: VHS player. If anybody out there has one, or wants
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Speaker 1: to part with one, or just let me use it
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Speaker 1: for a little bit, I wouldn't mind reliving some glory
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Speaker 1: days twenty three years ago. But it also made me
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Speaker 1: think of the little things, like the guy that could,
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Speaker 1: you know, just get out there and play, didn't need
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Speaker 1: to stretch, didn't need to warm out, was just a
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Speaker 1: natural athlete. Brought me back to all the days, like
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Speaker 1: the big rival games. I don't remember the specifics oft
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Speaker 1: the games, but I just remember some of the people
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Speaker 1: that I played against.
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Speaker 2: Some schools that you.
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Speaker 1: Know are near, that are far and I sometimes want
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Speaker 1: are like a man, I wonder what those guys are
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Speaker 1: up to. Like, we had some battles, we talked some
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Speaker 1: crap allegedly back and forth to each other. But it's
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Speaker 1: it would be cool to almost have like a Section
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Speaker 1: alumni event, you know what I mean, instead of having
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Speaker 1: like another game where all the alumni get together play basketball,
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Speaker 1: Like yeah, that's cool and everything like that. It's a
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Speaker 1: moment for all these people that actually stayed in shape,
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Speaker 1: or the younger bucks to say, hey, I still got it,
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Speaker 1: old man, Like that's cool. Now, that's that's for a
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Speaker 1: certain place. But how cool would it be to get
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Speaker 1: all like where we are, there's Class ABC D schools
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Speaker 1: in the state of New York. How cool would it
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Speaker 1: be just be like, all right, let's get all the
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Speaker 1: Section ten class I was a Class D athletes from
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Speaker 1: these eras, like the ones that you'd play against.
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Speaker 2: Let's all get them together at an event.
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Speaker 1: Talk glorygate days, show up like some photos and some
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Speaker 1: highlight reels, you know, the champs, and just have a
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Speaker 1: minute for everybody to kind of brow out, catch up,
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Speaker 1: have some drinks or if they don't have some or
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Speaker 1: nerves can't spell it, but I can say it because
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Speaker 1: it's fun and just kind of get together and just
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Speaker 1: kind of relive some glory days once a year. I
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Speaker 1: mean that would be cool. I think bring in some coaches,
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Speaker 1: bring in some reps, just bring in some people, bring
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Speaker 1: in some events. So if anybody's listening with some money
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Speaker 1: or ideas on how to have this whole thing happen,
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Speaker 1: you heard it here first. I would absolutely love to
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Speaker 1: be involved in that. And yeah, I guess some days
18:54
Speaker 1: I miss being young, but others I don't know that
18:57
Speaker 1: I overly miss being young. It was a lot of work.
18:58
Speaker 1: I almost miss the easy recovery, you know, the easy
19:02
Speaker 1: stretch and the easy hydration, which I do hydrate pretty
19:05
Speaker 1: well with my friends over at squatch Juice, go to
19:08
Speaker 1: squatch juice dot com slash beard laws. But I also
19:12
Speaker 1: miss kind of waking up and not having to inventory
19:15
Speaker 1: my body, like all right, what's negotiating today? Aging. It
19:20
Speaker 1: doesn't always show up loudly, It doesn't kick the door
19:23
Speaker 1: in kind of hands you a sign up sheet and says, hey,
19:27
Speaker 1: remember this, and most of the time you do, but
19:30
Speaker 1: you also remember why you might want to go ahead
19:34
Speaker 1: and shit this one out. And so for me, I
19:37
Speaker 1: think I'm gonna go ahead and sit this one. I'm not.
19:40
Speaker 1: I would love to be a part of the event.
19:42
Speaker 1: So if anybody listening from the alumni does want me
19:46
Speaker 1: to potentially run a table do some announcing, I'd even
19:50
Speaker 1: ref But getting out there being you know, having that
19:53
Speaker 1: need to compete, It's just not there for me, you know,
19:56
Speaker 1: getting hurt and everything that I have going on in
19:59
Speaker 1: life would be much bigger of a bummer to be,
20:04
Speaker 1: you know, in a boot on some crutches, super sore,
20:07
Speaker 1: then being well my normal sword just from sleeping wrong,
20:12
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Anyways, let's jump into something else.
20:14
Speaker 1: There was there was a little bit of an issue
20:17
Speaker 1: around our area with the big Verizon outage, and I
20:21
Speaker 1: kind of saw it as almost like a gift of silence,
20:24
Speaker 1: because then the phones go down and you had the outage.
20:28
Speaker 1: I didn't overly notice it because I'm not on my
20:31
Speaker 1: phone a ton while I'm at work, you know what
20:33
Speaker 1: I mean. So like I don't get a ton of calls.
20:36
Speaker 1: Sometimes I get some text messages. But there was Wi Fi,
20:38
Speaker 1: so you know, I could talk to my coworkers. I
20:41
Speaker 1: could still instead the phone at work wasn't that big
20:43
Speaker 1: of a deal. But as the wife messaged me. I
20:46
Speaker 1: was like, hey, not sure if you're seeing this, like
20:48
Speaker 1: I don't have cell service, and I'm like, all right,
20:50
Speaker 1: Well then I went to down detector and saw that
20:53
Speaker 1: there was a lot of people out of out Verizon.
20:55
Speaker 2: I kind of looked at mine.
20:56
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, go don there's no cell service. And
20:59
Speaker 1: I started to expect chaos, right, people panicking, you know
21:03
Speaker 1: that old school planes falling from the sky, society starting
21:07
Speaker 1: to unravel. But instead it was calm. It's kind of nice.
21:12
Speaker 1: There was no notifications, no buzzing, no explaining why you
21:15
Speaker 1: didn't rispond immediately, and kind of brought me back like
21:19
Speaker 1: pre internet life wasn't better because it was simpler. It
21:23
Speaker 1: was better because nothing expected you to be reachable at
21:28
Speaker 1: all times. It's almost as if, like now everything feels
21:32
Speaker 1: urgent and somehow, I mean almost none of it actually is. Right.
21:39
Speaker 2: I mean, thank you Verizon.
21:41
Speaker 1: You sent over twenty bucks for an inconvenience and you
21:45
Speaker 1: know whatever else from it, but you didn't actually ruin
21:49
Speaker 1: my day. You kind of made me realize something. Sit
21:52
Speaker 1: back and remember the days where it was just like
21:56
Speaker 1: you told my hey, going out for a few hours
21:59
Speaker 1: be nine nine thirty and you negotiated a little bit right,
22:04
Speaker 1: and you knew damn well, you didn't show up late.
22:07
Speaker 1: If anything, you showed up a little bit earlier. You
22:09
Speaker 1: go out with the boys, You go out with your friends,
22:11
Speaker 1: You go sit by a fire, end up in the
22:14
Speaker 1: random middle of a field into the woods, and you
22:18
Speaker 1: just no phones, no cameras, no pictures to you your people,
22:25
Speaker 1: probably some Jenny lights and maybe some swish or sweets,
22:29
Speaker 1: maybe some other stuff. But we just were kids. We
22:32
Speaker 1: were in the moment, we were living life, and you're like, man,
22:36
Speaker 1: this was at like the cusp of technology and kind
22:39
Speaker 1: of that world. And that's like, man, even the generations
22:42
Speaker 1: before you still had that little bit of a connection
22:44
Speaker 1: late ability, you know. And then twenty five thirty years later,
22:47
Speaker 1: it's a much different game. And it started to make
22:50
Speaker 1: me wonder, like, is that what you know, parents in
22:53
Speaker 1: the sixties, seventies, eighties started to feel like or were
22:58
Speaker 1: they more into the thirties forties, it's it's a weird
23:02
Speaker 1: game to play when your brain goes down that chain
23:05
Speaker 1: and you know it's but with the outage, it almost
23:09
Speaker 1: it almost exposed how fake busy we've become a right
23:14
Speaker 1: like feel like I'm fairly busy, right, but there's people
23:17
Speaker 1: out in this world that are way busier. And then
23:20
Speaker 1: you talk to some people who are the busiest people
23:22
Speaker 1: in the world but don't really do a lot, you
23:26
Speaker 1: know what I mean. Like they'll work and then they'll
23:30
Speaker 1: watch TV, they'll watch their movies, they'll play video games.
23:35
Speaker 1: To them, that's really busy. And this isn't me being
23:38
Speaker 1: judgmental and trying to have a contest or one up anybody.
23:41
Speaker 1: If you're busy, you're busy. But it's just crazy how
23:44
Speaker 1: busy is different to people Like I accomplish a lot
23:47
Speaker 1: of things. I'm like, yeah, I got a lot going
23:48
Speaker 1: on whatever, but I don't find it out really busy.
23:51
Speaker 1: Then I have conversation with people like, yeah, I've been
23:53
Speaker 1: pretty busy. Listen, now what have you been up to?
23:55
Speaker 1: And then just have a conversation I've been doing this, this, this, this, this,
23:59
Speaker 1: And they're like, I don't know how you do it.
24:01
Speaker 1: Then I start to question why do I do it?
24:04
Speaker 1: How do I do it?
24:05
Speaker 2: They're like, when you sleep, I don't.
24:08
Speaker 1: But sometimes we kind of confuse access as far as
24:14
Speaker 1: like internet and being everywhere but nowhere with importance just
24:18
Speaker 1: because somebody can reach you doesn't always mean that they should, right,
24:23
Speaker 1: And let's be honest, for a few hours, nobody could
24:25
Speaker 1: and honestly just kind of like b CA says, you
24:30
Speaker 1: didn't rule, but it ruled, right.
24:34
Speaker 2: I don't know.
24:35
Speaker 1: Let's move on to a chillier topic. We're shutting the
24:37
Speaker 1: fridge door. I'm reaching up, I'm grabbing the freezer right
24:42
Speaker 1: with the kind of throwbacks of going back to the
24:45
Speaker 1: bonfires and all the friends, like I struggle some days,
24:48
Speaker 1: and I don't know if anybody else out there does.
24:50
Speaker 1: With how we just talk more than ever, right, And
24:55
Speaker 1: I feel like that's kind of the strange part. We
24:57
Speaker 1: message constantly, we reac act instantly, and we reply to
25:02
Speaker 1: things that we don't even care about, right, I mean,
25:05
Speaker 1: this is all things. I guarantee you scrolled on a
25:07
Speaker 1: social media you didn't care, but you threw out a
25:10
Speaker 1: like button, you double tapped a screen, or you left
25:13
Speaker 1: the comment, or you posted something that just doesn't mean
25:16
Speaker 1: anything to anybody else but you, and for me, I'm like,
25:19
Speaker 1: what the hell would you post that? But somehow we
25:22
Speaker 1: all that being said, we I personally think that we
25:25
Speaker 1: say less than we used to. Like nobody accidentally learns
25:29
Speaker 1: anything anymore. There's there's no tone, there's no pauses, there's
25:34
Speaker 1: no reading the room right. Most of the time when
25:38
Speaker 1: people enter a room their heads down, they're looking at
25:42
Speaker 1: a phone, and you're wondering how they're not running into things.
25:45
Speaker 1: I mean, it's almost the depiction of the zombie apocalypse
25:48
Speaker 1: that we've seen slow lethargic looking people walking around slowly
25:52
Speaker 1: with their head down, getting in everywhere but nowhere. And
25:54
Speaker 1: the hardest thing, too, is sometimes you can't tell if
25:58
Speaker 1: somebody's joking through a sk right, like you could take
26:01
Speaker 1: anything out of context. And with that being said, you
26:05
Speaker 1: can't tell if somebody on the other side of the
26:07
Speaker 1: screen is tired, if the person on the side of
26:09
Speaker 1: the screen is stressed, if somebody on the other side
26:12
Speaker 1: of the screen is just having a rough day. Those
26:14
Speaker 1: face to face conversations used to fill in those gaps.
26:18
Speaker 1: I mean, I truly miss Maybe I should have done
26:21
Speaker 1: a little less, admittedly, but I truly miss those days
26:25
Speaker 1: going to happy hours, chatting with the regulars, chatting with
26:30
Speaker 1: the people that are there more than being there for
26:33
Speaker 1: their family. That's the that's their choice. But I miss
26:37
Speaker 1: those conversations. I miss those jokes. I miss those stories.
26:41
Speaker 1: And I've gone to a couple happy hours here or there,
26:45
Speaker 1: and it's just not the same. You don't have those
26:48
Speaker 1: funny old regulars. They don't make guys like that anymore,
26:51
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. You don't hear those stories.
26:53
Speaker 1: You know, what happens at the bar doesn't stay at
26:55
Speaker 1: the bar. It's like if somebody gets ramped up about something,
26:58
Speaker 1: somebody's probably pulling out their phone recording it and being like, oh,
27:01
Speaker 1: there's drunk asshole right right. I mean, I truly do
27:08
Speaker 1: miss those.
27:09
Speaker 2: But either way, I.
27:09
Speaker 1: Mean what's crazy too, is I mean, you could obviously
27:13
Speaker 1: see when someone needed their space. If they're at the bar,
27:16
Speaker 1: somebody's having a bad day, you try to do that.
27:18
Speaker 1: They just need to finish their beers, they need to
27:20
Speaker 1: figure things out on their own. But you also could
27:23
Speaker 1: tell when somebody needed help. You could tell when someone
27:27
Speaker 1: you know, when you needed just someone to sit there
27:29
Speaker 1: and not say anything. We've all had those moments, or
27:32
Speaker 1: you know, everything now is just kind of flatt everything's text.
27:37
Speaker 1: Everything's interpretated through timing, mood and assumptions. We didn't lose conversation.
27:41
Speaker 1: We almost outsourced it, right and now we wonder why
27:45
Speaker 1: everything feels slightly disconnected. Some things were never meant to
27:48
Speaker 1: be typed. Some things need a look, some things need
27:53
Speaker 1: to pause, some things need a breath, some things need
27:57
Speaker 1: a half smile when those disappear. I truly believe that
28:03
Speaker 1: we lose more than we realize, right, And that's kind
28:07
Speaker 1: of what ties all of this together. You know, the
28:10
Speaker 1: amish and bad weather, the messy rooms, the alumni sign ups,
28:14
Speaker 1: the phone outages through Verizon, and the silence. Everything changed quietly,
28:20
Speaker 1: no announcement, there was no meeting. One day, you just
28:24
Speaker 1: realize you're living in a different world than the one
28:27
Speaker 1: that you learned how to navigate. You're not mad about it,
28:31
Speaker 1: You're just you're just aware. And I don't think that
28:36
Speaker 1: we're broken. I think that we're all just adjusting to
28:39
Speaker 1: a world that changed faster than we were warned. Right.
28:44
Speaker 1: Some people keep moving no matter the weather. The rest
28:48
Speaker 1: of us we pause, We notice, and we wonder when
28:53
Speaker 1: things shifted either way. This is mine, I guess you know.
28:58
Speaker 1: If you get it, get it, and if you don't, well,
29:03
Speaker 1: stay out of my fridge.
29:05
Speaker 2: That's all we got. Hopefully you enjoyed it.
29:07
Speaker 1: I'm gonna try this probably again next week unless one
29:09
Speaker 1: of the kids can freel up their schedule. They're so busy.
29:13
Speaker 2: But this was fun.
29:14
Speaker 1: Hopefully enjoyed it. We'll be back. Well, I'll be back
29:18
Speaker 1: either way next week. Hopefully you will too. Take care
29:21
Speaker 1: of everybody knocking. Who's there?
29:23
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29:24
Speaker 1: Who a dooys?
29:26
Speaker 2: Stay out of my fresh.
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Speaker 1: We ready to explore. Gotta tail the tale gonna make
29:30
Speaker 1: you laugh and make you smile. So up tie it's
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