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Autism In Women 1 Trait YOU NEED To Know! · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  You have arrived. Welcome to the Aspy world.
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  Here's where we talk about anything and everything ASD in
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  an upbeat and informative way. And now here's your man on the
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  spectrum, your autism ambassador, Daniel Morgan Jones.
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  OK, so autism in women, this is the most interesting single
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  trade you need to know about autistic women.
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  And we're going to talk about it right now.
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  We're going to talk about the why.
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  OK guys, what is going on? Welcome back to my channel.
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  If you're new around here, my name is Dan and I have autism
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  and ADHD. And you know what's really
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  interesting is I did a couple of videos talking about how
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  autistic women would have similar traits.
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  They'd have similar interests like, you know, they because
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  autistic people do have similar kind of brains and how the
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  chemistry of the brain works. And they'd also have similar
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  interests or they'd have similar things that they were interested
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  in. Now, the most interesting thing
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  about this was that I came across something so fascinating
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  that autistic women and you have to give this video a thumbs up
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  if you are one of these people really interested in true crime
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  and murdered people, like people who are murderers, people who
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  are committed true crimes, all that kind of stuff.
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  And I was like, this is really bizarre.
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  Like why are so many autistic women?
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  And if you're one of these, give this video a thumbs up.
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  You have to let me know if you're one of these.
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  Please share this video if you think it's helpful for somebody
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  and also tag your friends in the comments to see if they would be
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  interested in this video. Now.
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  It was wrecking my brain. I was like, why are these, why
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  are these connected? Like how, how is murderers and
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  true crime connected to women on the autism spectrum?
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  And I was thinking about this for a while now.
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  This is really interesting as well because I remember when I
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  was having my autism assessment, my second updated autism
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  assessment. So from Asperger's syndrome to
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  ASD level 2, I remember the assessor asked me, you know,
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  does my mum sleep well at night? I'm like, no.
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  Then he's like, OK, does she have any rational fears?
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  I was like, yeah, she's scared of vampires, right?
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  If anybody else is scared of vampires, let me know in the
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  comments down below because like, this is not the first time
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  I've heard of an adult, especially boomer generation
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  adults scared of vampires, something that's completely
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  fictional, but it's actually a thing.
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  So. And then they were like, you
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  know, what does she like to do? So she's obsessed with like true
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  crime and murderers and stuff. And they were like, interesting.
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  I was like, I felt lifting of it.
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  And then I did this video talking about, you know, how
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  many of the women on the autonomous spectrum that I know
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  that I've met are really interested in true crime?
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  And then all of my audience, like you guys were like, darned,
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  you're absolutely right. I, I, I'm really interested in
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  true crime and, and I'm on the autonomous spectrum and I'm a
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  female. This is really weird.
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  I feel called out and I'm like, well, this is crazy.
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  Like, why? Why is this?
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  So I did some digging, guys, I did some digging and I found
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  answers for you and it turns out it's actually quite fascinating.
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  So if we rewind a little bit, autism is kind of like we're
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  always problem solving, right? So autistic individuals are
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  looking to solve problems, and by solving problems, we're
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  trying to confront something to make a difference in that thing.
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  So for instance, we love Lego, right?
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  Why don't people like Lego? Because Lego allows you to
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  construct things that may not have existed.
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  So you're problem solving, you're clicking things together
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  and creating a succession. Or let's think about it in a
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  way. We're into reading books, right?
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  And you're into reading books because the book is going to
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  give you information that you wouldn't have had otherwise.
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  And if you get that information and you're able to get to a
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  succession, right? So we're all about problem
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  solving. Like my girlfriend loves solving
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  Rubik's cubes, right? So she's autistic as well, and
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  she loves solving Rubik's cubes. And I think this is really
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  interesting because again, it's problem solving, right?
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  You're looking at something, it has a problem, you want to solve
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  it. So how does this relate to
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  murder mysteries now? On the contrary, it's not
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  because these women want to become Sherlock Holmes.
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  Just a heads up, if you're interested in one-on-one
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  coaching with me, I have a three month coaching program which is
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  available to everybody now. If you want in on this,
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  definitely click the link down below right now to book a 15
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  minute consultation with me and then we can proceed to book the
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  three months coaching with me because a lot of people get a
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  lot out of the coaching because I'm helping them express
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  themselves in their own way to help them with their potential.
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  Now, if you want access to this again, the link is in the
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  description down below for one to one coaching with Dan me or
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  you can go to the aspyworld.com/one 21.
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  So the number one, number two, number one, all right, guys on
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  the video and the women on the spectrum think that their
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  detectives person can solve these crimes.
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  No, no, no, it's bigger than that.
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  It's basically when you think of what, what is your worst fear?
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  Like my mum, right? My mum is cat of vampires,
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  right? And how did she overcome this
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  irrational fear of vampires? Well, she had to slowly
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  virtually expose herself to vampire stuff, right?
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  So basically I remember once I was watching The Lost Boys
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  downstairs when I lived at home and my mum came downstairs and
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  she just stood in the kitchen because she didn't want to come
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  into the living room and finish watching the Lost Boys with me
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  and then she couldn't sleep all night.
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  However, when she told herself, hey look, vampires aren't real,
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  there's no need, I'm going to go to bed, I'm going to chill.
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  Appears it's not real. She was exploring herself bit by
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  for people with ADHD. OK, let's double with the video.
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  OK, back to the video. So my mum confronting her fear
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  really got me thinking. Well, autistic individuals, what
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  is especially females, right? When you think about women in
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  general, women are kind of the most vulnerable out of the two
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  sectors. OK, so you've got males and
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  females and females are the most vulnerable.
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  Now, what is kind of one of the most, what's the biggest fear is
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  being like, you know, abused or, or, or murdered, right.
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  And if that happens, you know, that's, that's an irrational,
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  it's not an irrational fear. It's, it's a fear that kind of
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  like you have to kind of think about and you think, well, what
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  we're going to do in that situation.
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  So artistic women watch murder documentaries and, and, and true
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  crime stuff to understand, to confront what those situations
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  are. Because if you can learn more
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  about it, you can avoid those situations.
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  Like a woman was, you know, abducted and, and, and, and
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  murdered, you know, in Ohio or something.
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  Well, let's figure out how. Why was she walking alone?
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  Did you have the right equipment with her?
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  Did she tell people where she was going to be?
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  You know, all those things you can problem solve and apply
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  those things to your life so those things don't happen to
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  you. It's kind of like knowledge
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  based. It's like you're researching
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  things. It's not because you're morbid
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  or you're into kind of like weird stuff.
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  It's because your brain is saying to you, hey, you need to
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  learn these things to expand your knowledge base to get out
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  of situations that you may be in.
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  Because autistic individuals love learning.
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  Like at me for instance, when I'm working out, I have to
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  listen to audio books and podcast because I have to learn
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  because I always need to learn. When I stop learning, when I
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  don't have something that I'm learning or continuously reading
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  or understanding, I hit a dopamine low, which then goes
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  into a low motivation depression, which is absolutely
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  abysmal. But the interesting thing about
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  that is all, all I have to do is learn something just I always,
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  so every couple of months I'll apply for different courses and
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  I learn things about my business and write YouTube and all this
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  kind of stuff. And that keeps me happy.
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  Now autistic women are doing the same thing, but in the way where
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  they're saying, hey, I want to learn how to survive best
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  because I'm in a vulnerable category of the two sexes.
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  This is how I learn those things.
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  So I think this is absolutely fascinating.
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  If you are a person who is obsessed with true crime, I want
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  to know. I want to know what your
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  experience is. Did this make sense to you?
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  Pop in a comment down below. Because if we're urging
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  ourselves towards survival and autistic people, especially
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  assisted women are learning things for survival, I think
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  that autistic women have way much more potential than they
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  even realised. Because they're literally
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  figuring out how to survive in situations where a lot of women
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  fall foul to that victim category.
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  And they don't they don't even know how how that happened or
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  they don't know how to get out of those situations.
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  So I think it's very interesting.
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  I think that like we as autistic people are helping shape the
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  future and the safety of people. And I think there's so much area
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  there for growth and autistic women individually could could
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  really, you know, create, I don't know, programs, courses,
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  work with the police, work with, you know, women groups to kind
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  of help safety implementations and looking at like the pitfalls
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  of how these atrocious crimes ever happened.
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  And yes, big up. I'm an ally, you know, bigger
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  for women's rights and equality for women.
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  I think that's really, really important.
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  So guys, if you enjoyed this video, please subscribe and I'll
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  see you in the next one. Peace.
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  confidence is one of the main issues that hold autistic
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  individuals back from their full potential.
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  and you want access to this program, you can check it out.
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  one. Peace.