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89. sisters spilling the tea... friendships in your 20s, girl trips, focusing on YOU this summer · Hot Girl Energy Podcast

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Hello you guys, Welcome back to another episode of the Hot Girl Energy Podcast.
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I'm your host, Kaylee, and this is your weekly reminder that it's
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a new day, a new week, a new mindset, and another day
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if you had become the Hawk Girl Energy you want to attract. Hello you
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guys, Happy Tuesday, Welcome back to another episode. I am very excited
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for today's episode because we have a guest. More so, I forced my
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sister the coup on this podcast episode today because I'm like, you know,
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I haven't done an episode with someone in a long time, and I just
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love like shooting the shit with someone sometimes and just having a conversation about random
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stuff. And I feel like we were due for an episode. My sister
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and I we did a few episodes. I think it was last summer,
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I you were on the podcast, and we talked a lot about like school,
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school, summer bucket list, all that, and we did a summer
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bucket list episode a few episodes back. So I was like, I don't
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really want to focus on that, but we really wanted to talk about just
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kind of random stuff like girl trips, stuff that we're doing to focus on
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ourself this summer, as well as just maintaining friendships and relationships. And I
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feel like we did a question box on our hawkerel Energy Instagram page a few
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weeks back, and a lot of you actually talked about how to maintain friendships
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or how to maintain just you know, friendships when you're in a relationship or
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anything like that. So we thought it'd be a good thing to talk about
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in today's episode. But yeah, just going to talk about random stuff because
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why not. But we have some girl trips that we've done and some girl
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trips that we have coming up. Obviously with the wedding being so soon,
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guys, we are seven weeks away from the wedding, which is insane,
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and we'll be doing a wedding update episode hopefully soon, just to give you
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guys an update on what's all happening within the next few weeks, which is
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very exciting but very stressful. Not gonna lie, but my sister is obviously
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my made of honor, and she has been planning the entire bacherette. Yeah,
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planning a bachelorette is a lot more difficult than I thought it would be,
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so much time, it's so much energy. Like planning a bacherette is
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literally like hosting an influencer event. Now, I feel like everybody has this
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standard now where it's like, oh my god, like we need to get
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gifts for the girls, We need to figure out outfits and things. So
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many things that you wouldn't even think about that you need to think about.
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Yeah, I feel like that's what's well, even the little things like the
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itinerary and the door takes, and obviously, like we are not trying to
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make this influencer trip at all. Like I think a lot of people go
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a little too hardcore and they spend so much money. Which, don't get
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me wrong. Obviously it's an important trip to have prior to your wedding,
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but it's also a trip that's not necessary to have before your wedding. You're
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already spending so much money on a wedding in general, and I don't know,
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So we decided to kind of keep it. I don't want to say
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budget friendly, because it's still not budget friendly, but we decided to do
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it in Italy just because we thought that would be the best case scenario.
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We're already there exactly, people have already paid their flights, so we're doing
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just a different part. But you know, Originally we did talk about doing
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it somewhere in Canada just to keep the costlow and all that, but the
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girls were like, you know what, I think it'd be more fun to
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do it in Italy, which, don't get me wrong, I agree,
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But I don't know. I just think, like as you said, like,
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I don't think people realize how much work actually has to go into it,
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Like you think it's just a trip. Yeah, I've been having so
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much fun with it. Yeah, me and Kayleie's other maide of Honor,
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Alyssa, we've been planning it so much and we're having a lot of fun
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doing it. It's just, like I said, all the little things that
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you wouldn't think about, like, yeah, it's just like a lot of
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work. But I think what's great is that we're doing things that everybody's on
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board with, like exactly. It's not like things where I don't want to
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I'm trying to like not give it away. There's certain things where all the
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girls were so happy about doing and it's an experience for everybody, right,
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So I think doing girl trips is fun when everybody can agree to doing those
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things. Like, I don't know, I think if we did my bacherette,
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like in Vegas or another spot. Like I feel like some people would
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be like, I've already done Vegas, Like, well, yeah, am
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I going? Like, Like, one thing that we are prioritizing for this
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bachelorette trip is, like you said, if we were to go to Vegas,
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I feel like it would be more just going out every night. And
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I think one thing we want to do is more stuff during the day.
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Yeah, and things like and experiences and all that. I feel like you
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need to communicate that within your friend group because you want to make sure you
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guys are all on board by doing the same thing. So if you're planning
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a girls trip, like figure out where people want to go. You know,
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have you been to Nashville? No, That's where all my girlfriends want
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to go. Okay, maybe you guys should be planning a trip around Nashville.
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I think it's important to get everybody's opinion on what they want to do,
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and I think that's what we kind of did for the bacherette. Right.
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There is one thing that we're doing that I'm not going to give away,
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but that's something that like everybody wanted to do. Everybody wanted to do
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it, and that's exactly what I I want people to spend the money on
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stuff that they want to do, not just me, because at the end
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of the day, it's I want it to be an experience for everybody,
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and I want it to be a fun trip for everybody. I don't want
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people to spend all this money on just for me, like you know what
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I mean. I want it to be a fun experience. So I think
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that's a key thing when it comes to girl trips. Just also figuring out,
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like what is everybody comfortable with spending too? Right, that's a very
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uncomfortable topic to have to be fully transparent, Like Madison's been having to go
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through a lot of conversations with people to make sure that people are comfortable and
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spending xyz amount. But I think that also helped us plan it with the
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Airbnb and again the experiences and all that. So it's just a conversation you
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have to have. But in order to have these fun trips with your girls,
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you just kind of have to communicate exactly. Like I think it's important
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at the beginning before you're planning is to set a budget, asking everybody,
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Okay, how much are you comfortable? Yeng and That's exactly what I did
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prior to, you know, planning a bachelorette. I was like, okay,
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you know, planning activities and stuff like that. I asked everybody,
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Okay, what are you comfortable with paying? Yeah, and then it's like,
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when you're searching for things to do, you set that as a limit.
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Yeah. Websites you can set an amount for like the highest price you
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want to pay, and you set that that way, you're not even looking
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at the more expensive options and getting excited about those more expensive options. You
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just set a limit, Okay, this is how much we're willing to pay,
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and then you know, you send it over to people and then once
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everybody agrees, then I think you need to have realistic expectations when it comes
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to planning either a bacherette or a trip. Because I actually saw or listen
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sorry to Alex Cooper's podcast episode from Call Her Daddy. She talked about bacherette
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and bachelotte trips and how they've gotten so out of hand. Yeah, let's
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go to Greece for the week. Realisticly, a flight is like over a
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thousand bucks, which is a lot of money for a lot of people.
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Then you got to consider accommodations, food, all that. So again,
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I think brides and just people in general need to be cautious of that.
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And hey, you're telling someone to spend all this money just on a bachelorette
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trip like that is a lot of money. And because I'm already doing a
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destination wedding, like, I understand that people are spending a lot of money
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to come to my wedding, and I'm very grateful that they're coming. I
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don't even expect gifts or nothing, because for me, that's like I already
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feel like them coming to the wedding is enough and means a lot to me.
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So I'm trying to really be grateful for those little things. But I
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think, yeah, brides really need to just realize how much money it actually
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is to plan trips like this. And again, I think as long as
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there's communication involved and everyone's on board and you know, sharing what they're comfortable
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and spending, and you know, all agree to going to the same spot,
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it can make it easier to go on trips with your friends and all
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that, because obviously that's how the memories are made, that's where it's always
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the best time. My sister and I we did New York City back in
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November, and then we did a day trip in December. So we once
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went in November with our mom as well, which was so fun. Yeah,
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that was so fun. We did a day trip which was crazy.
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That was fun though, you know what, it was the most expensive day
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in my life because I've never paid for a flight for like going there in
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the morning and coming back at night. Yeah, and we woke up what
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time did we even wake up? A? Three am? Three am?
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That was Did do our jeans? Did our makeup? At the airport?
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Back through we had like our you know, casual outfits, sweatpants everything.
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We get to New York. We're in the bathroom doing our makeup. People
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are probably looking at us like what is going on? Yeah, what are
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these girls doing? I was not wearing jeans at three o'clock in the morning.
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There was no happening. But we went during December, so they had
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a bunch of Christmas stuff going on, so we did like the Christmas market,
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Like, we actually did so much that day and obviously I said yes
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to the dress. Yeah, we saw the what's the tree called? Oh
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the Rockefeller Tree tree. Yeah, Like that was actually such a fun day
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and those stuff like that stuff didn't really cost money, which was nice,
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so we weren't even gonna do it. I remember we were a little hesitant
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to do it because it was so far away from all like the dress shops
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that we were at. But then we had the extra time and we were
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like, you know what, when's the next time we're going to see the
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Rockefeller Tree. Just do it. And we also I think a big thing
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too, is that we were nervous it was going to be like really really
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busy. But it wasn't terrible. No, it really wasn't. No.
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I think well, certain areas were really busy and certain other areas weren't.
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It was a Saturday, I think, or was it a face market was
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really busy. Yeah, that was really busy on a Saturday. Wrench.
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Anyways, It's just like overall a really fun day, very last minutely planned
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and all that, but it was honestly just to say yes to the dress.
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But it was funny, got a lot done in one day, which
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yeah, yeah, but yeah, we're planning other trips this summer, maybe
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doing a cottage weekend with the whole fam all that, but obviously with the
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wedding, that's like the big priority for a trip, and that's obviously a
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trip in itself is you know the but I think girl trips are super important
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to make a priority with your friend group, whether it's just something local.
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But again, I think just the things like we talked about here, just
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communication, budget, all that. Make sure to highlight those things because it's
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not going to be fun for anybody. If they're feeling fun to do something,
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jet would be great, Oh of course, of course, Like,
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but let's let's talk about the reality here, and let's be realistic. That
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ain't happening. Okay, let's talk about maintaining friendships or just maintaining friendships in
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a relationship, anything like that. Madison and I actually had a FaceTime call
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this morning. Also, does anyone just FaceTime their sister? Like every single
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morning? Me and my sister, we face him every single every single one,
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every single night, like screenshare, what you name it. Things are
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literally call her and she'll be like, why are you calling me? I'm
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like I don't even know, Like, yes, it's a routine now,
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Like exactly sometime she facetimes me at like six am and I'm like, I'm
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still sleeping, why are you calling me? Exactly. She thinks her schedule
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is the same as my schedule, which is not. I'm like, bitch,
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i'd wake up till Anyways, Well, some days you wake up late.
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Sometimes I call you at eight am and you're like, oh my goodness,
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I'm still asleep. I'm like, bro, get up, it's eight
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am. Anyways, We're typically we're both morning people. Like, usually we're
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both up before seven or around seven. But we've been talking a lot about
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just how like I feel like you've been talking a lot about your deeper connections
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with your friends lately. I honestly feel the same. Specifically like with Alyssa,
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my maid of honor. Don't get me wrong, Like we've always been
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very, very close, but I feel like since she had Hayden, which
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is her baby, things have kind of been distant. Obviously because she's a
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new mom. You know, she's adapting to a new change in her life
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all that. So I kind of felt like I was purposely giving her that
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space to adapt to a new routine and all that. But then lately,
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like I want to say, these past two months, we've been going to
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spin coot together. We've been planning coffee dates, walk dates, all that.
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Like, I feel like our connection has gotten so much deeper. And
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yeah, obviously she's helping me plan the wedding and all that, but I
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don't know. And then same thing with like my group of friends, I
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feel like everyone's been trying to make it a priority to get all together and
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do you know, a fire together one night, or golfing or whatever,
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like doing hobbies together. Like it's been really nice to build that deeper connection
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with people, and I feel like it's really made a huge difference in my
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mental health. Yeah, and just getting out of the house and doing fun
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things with your friends and everyone being on board to doing those things. Everyone's
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enjoying their time there. All that well, I feel like for me,
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like a lot of my friends, my really close friends, are recently single
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and I'm single as well, so I feel like we've all been working on
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developing a deeper friendship because we don't have a significant other in our lives,
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and I feel like it's just made us all so much happier and where we're
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not only focusing on our friendships but also focusing on ourselves because we're doing a
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lot of stuff that you know, like you said, is good for our
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mental health. We're doing it with each other, and by doing that,
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we've all just developed such a deep relationship and deep connection. Like one of
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my best friends childhood best friends a few like you guys build a really close
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connection like within these past few what maybe a year and now, but it
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was never that close for a long time. So she actually just recently joined
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my soccer team that I've been playing on for a few years now, and
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I feel like since she joined my soccer team, we've just gotten so much
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closer. And I feel like everything we do are things that we can do
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on our own, but we do together. Like, for example, we'll
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go to workout classes together. For a few weeks ago, she came over
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at like seven am in the morning, we went on a run together.
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Yea, and yeah, So I feel like it's really good to kind of
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do those things that normally you would do on your own, you can do
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with your friends, and I feel like that kind of helps build that deeper
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connection hundred percent. Like I was actually going to bring that up about me
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and Alyssa, Like we have been doing spin coo together like two to three
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times a week, and we try and plan around our schedules so we can
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try and do it together. So we'll text each other and be like,
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Okay, I can do these days this week, she could do you know
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these days, and then we try and compromise and do the workouts together because
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you know, usually after the fact we'll chat, go get a coffee or
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something, and I don't know, I just feel like you're able to prioritize
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working on yourself by getting a workout in, but then you're also able to
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enjoy that time with your friend, connect with them all that. So you
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know the fact that you and Kean are going on runs together all that,
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and then something that I feel like we've both went on walks, yes,
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yeah, well even you and I, like we've been trying to go on
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a hawk girl walks together. And now that you know your work is very
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flexible, we're able to, like you know, set time aside and go
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for longer walks together, catch up all that. But anyways, I think
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just in general, making your friends a priority is super super key, especially
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like when you're in a relationship with your partners. So for me, obviously
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you guys know that I am in like the love in your relationship with that,
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I think it's important to have that conversation with your partner that your friendships
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are just as important as your relationship with your partner. I feel like that's
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definitely something you need to communicate with them about because sometimes I feel like guys
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don't really get it. Some guys, you know, have big groups of
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guy friends and they you know, go golfing together and all that, and
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they make it a priority. But they also need to understand that it's the
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same with the girls, Like the girls want to have girl time for me,
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Like, I'm obviously single, but I know from what I've heard from
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my friends who are in long term relationships or I've been in long term relationships,
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is they always say that it's so important, you know, to have
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your own things that you can do with yeh friends versus always constantly just being
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with your partner. Yeah. So, for example, one of my really
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good friends, she her and her boyfriend have been together for a while now,
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and one thing that she's been really liking is doing stuff that she can
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do both with her boyfriend and with her friends. She's hanging out with her
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friends, but she also gets to hang out with her boyfriend. And one
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thing we've been doing is going on golf dates together, which I think has
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been super fun, and that's so great in a partner as well, Like
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having that quality where he's able to do things with her friends and care to
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do that with her. That's a huge green flag in a relationship. And
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if your boyfriend is like also friends and able to be friends with your friends,
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that is such a green thing. Yeah, one hundred percent. I
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feel like Zach is very much like that, even like with you and I,
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Like he wants to come golfing with you and I whenever we go,
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or you know, when I'm with all my friends and it's just the girls
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and him, like he doesn't really care if he comes to join, or
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if I have the girls over at my house, He'll just stay. He
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doesn't have to leave, Like he'll just come chat with the girls and have
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some wine. Like, yeah, that is something that you like that is
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so important a relationship that they're able to enjoy being with your friends as well,
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and you know not have to always like leave the house and go do
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his own thing or whatever. Like that's a huge green flag in a relationship.
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So making sure you have that communication with your partner about that girl time
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is important. Your friendships are important, but also that they care to be
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involved in with your friends and all that, like maybe not too much,
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like obviously, like you should have your girl time without your partner, but
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the fact that you could have, you know, the best of both worlds
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by having that option is super key. So I love that. I think
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another thing that's super important, and this could also be when it comes to
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like long distance friendships, is just try to maintain regular communication with each other.
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Like me and my sister we FaceTime a lot. But when I think
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about long distance besties like Trend and Land, like they obviously live in Vancouver
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and Toronto, and so obviously sometimes it's hard to keep that connection with them.
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So we try and text each other as often as we can, saying,
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hey, how are you, Let's schedule a FaceTime date FaceTime, Yes,
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exactly. Love snap Chat sometimes great because then you can see each other's
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faces. You can snapchat each other. Like, just trying to maintain a
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connection with them by communicating with them, I think is something that you should
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also make a priority, because yeah, friendships are super key. Let's talk
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about focusing on ourself this summer. One thing for me that I've actually been
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loving is I've been really trying to be in my hobby girl era, like
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trying something new, trying something different. And I've been playing pickleball a lot
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lately, which is something that I tried last year that was new, but
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then this year I've been golfing a lot more. I actually went golfing with
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my girlfriends this weekend and it was so freaking fun. And golf is very
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hard to learn. Not gonna lie, I am honestly not doing too bad,
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which I'm happy about because I'm a very competitive person. But I've been
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going to the driving range and like you've been into golfing, I yeah,
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I've been into golfing a lot with my friends and we've we're all like not
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the best, but we've actually been talking about I don't think I mentioned this
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to you, but we've been talking about taking lessons. I want to take
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lessons so badly because it's so hard, Like yeah, definitely, like there's
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times where I'm hitting good, but then there's times where like it's there,
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and then you get so frustrated, Like I feel like if I was better
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at it. Not saying I don't have fun. I have so much fun.
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Yeah, I just mean like I feel like if I was better at
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it, it would be more fun, like, oh my god, I
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just got par in one of these holes. Yeah, exactly. So picking
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up something new, a new hobby, I think that's such a key thing
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to focusing on yourself because you're learning something new, it's something different. It
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kind of just gets you out of your comfort level. I don't know.
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Yeah, No. One thing for me that I've been doing lately to focus
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on myself is pushing myself to do things that I've never done before, but
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I've always wanted to do one hundred percent. So for example, and Kaylee
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knows this, I used to never be able to go to a workout class
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by myself. I don't know why, but I just felt like so intimidated
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yeah, to like go by myself. I'd always like text Kaye be like
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do you want to go to spinco together? And she'd be busy, and
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I'm like, Okay, well I guess I'm not going. Yeah, but
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that doesn't just because you can't go, y, you know, I don't,
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I can't go. So I a few weeks ago, I officially stepped
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out of my comfort zone and I went to my first spin class by myself.
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And now I do it all the time by myself. Yeah, Like
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it's just like that first time, it's a little scary, push yourself to
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do it. I also think being in like a team environment when it comes
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to spin classes or just group workout classes in general, it makes you feel
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like you're part of something right, Like it feels like you don't have to
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be intimidated by people. Like everyone's there for the same reason. We're all
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there to focus on ourselves. We're all there to get a good workout in,
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and if anything, it loves you to like create new friendships maybe with
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new people who are also, you know, in the similar mindset where they,
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you know, enjoy working out, they enjoy spin Coat all that,
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so you could totally meet new friends. I see so many people around my
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age where I'm like, I could totally be friends with these hundred percent.
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I've actually met a lot of people through spin coat as well, whether they
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follow me or they don't follow me, Like, just creating deeper connections with
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people through the spin co community has been so great. So I actually used
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to be like that. Right after COVID, I felt like it was super
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hard for me to get to a workout class after being locked in a home
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for two years by yourself and doing at home workouts for so long. I
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was very comfortable just doing at home workouts and that's it. But it got
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to a point where I was kind of getting sick of the at home workouts
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and I was like, I need to change it up. Like I feel
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like there's something so amazing about I don't know what it is, but something
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about working out outside of your house, Like, yes, I don't know
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what it is. We're motivating, I don't know. I feel like getting
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out of the house getting a workout like I and also booking that class,
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like you are committed to working out, like you have no choice exactly,
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Like you have no choice but to go unless you want to pay the cancelation
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fee. So it's a good motivator to work out and get there. If
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I didn't book a six thirty am workout class, I probably would not be
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working out at home, not at all. No, But because I have
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that six thirty eight and for some class, working at short, well,
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some people for working out at home is not possible because they're distracted easily,
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or they just don't feel like they get a good work and at home all
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that. Like I still balance my at home workouts and you know, going
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to workout class. But if I had to pick in terms of what workout
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I prefer, I prefer actually leaving the house and doing a workout. I
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think it's just pushing yourself to do that one class. It will make you
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realize like, oh, I could come back and do this again. Like
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for an example, I just joined Soma Pilates what maybe three months ago because
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they opened up in February, and I did one class as soon as they
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opened, and then I never really went back because it was something new.
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I wasn't good at it. I have no idea how to work that machine.
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The reformer is honestly a lot of work to learn. But I started
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to go back again because I'm like, you know what, I want to
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go back by myself. I really want to learn how to do, you
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know plates I really want to do it on a weekly basis. It was
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just something that I really wanted to do. But as you keep going,
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obviously you get better and you learn and you start to break the shell out
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of your comfort zone and just you know, actually enjoy being there. So
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I don't know, I think it's just like it also pushing yourself a bit.
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Yeah, I feel like one pushing yourself and two, you know,
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getting out out of the house. I feel like after that workout, you
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just feel so good. Yeah, I don't know what it is about it,
23:07
but like I know, for me, every time I've booked that six
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thirty am spin class or not even always feel you could always feel good,
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not even at six thirty. But just like anytime I've booked a workout class
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during the day, I come home and I just have the best day effort.
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I'm like in the best mood. I go get my Starbucks. Like
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I tell literally the podcast that all the time, just because it's the little
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things like that that truly makes a huge difference in your day when you put
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time aside to focus on yourself by getting a workout in or going to get
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a coffee or going on a walk anything like that. Like just yeah,
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taking that hour of your time or your day to do that is honestly so
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crucial to having a good day. Like when I have a day where I
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don't work out or I don't do anything for myself, I notice that I'm
23:48
like, Okay, why am I off today? Or it's because I didn't
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set time to myself, to journal, or to go outside or to you
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know, to work out off topic, but like on the same topic of
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like focusing on yourself and like things that make your day. I know,
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for me, it's like pampering myself, like going to get my nails done.
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Yeah, and I know you probably talked about this a lot on the
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podcasts, but like those are like little things like I have a nail appointment,
24:11
I need to book, and I'm like so excited and it's gonna make
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my days, going to make I just feel like it's gonna make your week
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more put together too, Yes, doing little things like that, like even
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like putting the smallest amount of makeup on every single day I work from home,
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obviously, Like I don't have to put makeup on, but I usually
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choose to because I feel more put together. I feel more motivated when I
24:30
have a putting outfit cute outfit confidence, Like I wear workout sets every single
24:34
day because I feel the most confident in that whatever. I'm not wearing a
24:38
workout set anymore, I'm like, oh God, I hate this outfit.
24:41
Like I don't know, there's like I don't know, I just feel like
24:44
wearing cute sets honestly makes a huge difference. Another thing is enjoying the outdoors.
24:51
One thing that my mom I feel like always well our mom taught us
24:53
is that being outdoors is honestly so healing, like hearing the nature, being
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in the trail and anything like that. Like I personally feel like going on
25:03
an hour walk with you know, a podcast on, or listening to music
25:06
or just honestly like with no headphones on at all, and just like listening
25:08
to the birds stirping. Now that, like, I truly feel like nature
25:12
is healing. I've been very like one with nature. Yes, Like I
25:18
feel like since I've tooken on this challenge, I've been doing my ten k
25:22
steps a day, walking for like an hour outside with Freddy. I feel
25:25
like I never really appreciated nature until I started to walk in the trails and
25:29
like, actually hear, look at the pretty trees exactly. Like even yesterday
25:33
I was filming flowers just because I thought they were stunning, And I'm like,
25:37
is that weird? I don't know, but I'm like, I just
25:41
love nature so much lately, and I feel like has just been so therapeutic
25:45
and very healing, very healing, and just like I always talk about going
25:48
on walks a lot in the podcast, so people know how much it means
25:51
to me. But I don't know, I just feel like it's very therapeutic.
25:55
Like I like, I feel like I don't need therapy because like go
25:56
on walks and like I don't even know what that makes sense, but like
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it truly feels so good. A few weeks ago, I went to go
26:04
get ice cream with my friends and we were kind of just walking around,
26:07
you know, like the cart fair ground. Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah,
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And we were just walking around and I was just like, oh my
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god. Yeah, justn't have to be a walk, like just being outside
26:15
ye yeah, or biking or like this does not have anything to do with
26:19
health, but like going to a winery, like just like being in the
26:23
outdoor space, like yeah, I don't know. Me and Kayley have been
26:27
very much trying to live our Miley Stewart summer. Yes, we want to
26:33
go horseback they know, no, it's literally our goal. We are going
26:37
horseback riding. We're determined, We're we actually are trying to book something hopefully
26:41
next week or the week after. There's like a trail that you could do
26:45
and it's basically horse back riding lessons and we're gonna do it. Gonna were
26:48
so determined. Yeah, they were like okay, so kindergarten grade one and
26:53
two, we're like, uh over twenty, Like I don't know what we're
26:59
gonna be. And I was looking honestly up farms and not as it was
27:02
like, Okay, no, I don't think we have to go to a
27:04
farm just to look at freaking animals and take cute pics. But I'm like,
27:08
honestly, it'd be the aesthetic we're looking for. I don't know,
27:11
we've been I've been super into country music right now lately, like oh my
27:15
gosh, Kaylee knows this, but I used to be obsessed with horses,
27:19
like lately she wanted to buy off or Hannah Montana was my favorite show.
27:26
Yeah, yeah, and we all know Miley Stewart like with her horse.
27:32
I wanted to be Miley Stewart. I remember crying to my parents that I
27:37
wanted them to build we live in the city, Yeah, we didn't even
27:40
live property. I wanted them to build, like I don't even know,
27:44
like a barn in our backyard. Yea, Like are you crazy? No?
27:47
Like she was dead set on getting like turn the whole backyard. Yeah,
27:52
to like barns. Oh my gosh. No, it was just it
27:55
was not happening. But I could see why she wanted a pet horse.
27:59
But anyway, that never happened. No, it never happened. Honestly,
28:03
I think courses are extremely expensive as well, but there's there was no way
28:07
we were getting oars. But anyways, we have been in our country girl
28:11
era. I've been obsessed with listening to country music lately, Like that has
28:15
been my favorite thing, to blame the music in the car when I'm driving,
28:18
sunroofed down. Like. I also feel like country music is very summer
28:22
but yeah, like I feel I will listen to country music in the winter
28:26
just to think about summer. Yeah, and make me happy about you.
28:29
Yeah. And I remember I used to I never hated country. Well,
28:33
like I say, I feel like it wasn't really popular until like the last
28:36
few years. I remember when you started dating Zach, he was obsessed with
28:40
country music, obsessed, and I just thought it was so weird. I
28:42
don't know, I just like was like, but I wasn't really into it
28:45
either, and I was I would kind of just go to country concerts with
28:48
Zach thinking like okay, Like I think support my partner is what got me
28:53
to start listening. Really, it's because he would always be playing it,
28:56
and yeah, I kind of was like, oh, like the song,
29:00
it's actually kind of good. And then I just yeah, I don't remember
29:03
like when it was. I think it was a bit of Zach and a
29:04
bit of like my friend group, they listen to a lot of countries,
29:07
so I feel like lately I've just been really enjoying listening to it, and
29:11
yeah, I don't know, I just feel like also where we live is
29:15
pretty farmy, like yeah, in Ottawa, like there's a lot of farmland
29:18
and all that. So I don't know, I feel like it very fits
29:22
our vibe. Yeah we live, but I don't know. I feel like
29:25
a lot of people have been in their country girl era and I'm not complaining
29:27
about it. Like just even cowboy boots, like people's like, I know,
29:33
I'm like red, black, you name it. That's all I want
29:34
to wear lately. Cowboy. Yeah, Like I would have loved to do
29:38
like a Western theme for my botchorette in Italy, but I do not think
29:41
that fits that vibe, so we're gonna not do that. I honestly considered
29:45
my Autawa wedding being in a field and doing a whole Western theme. I
29:49
even wanted Zach to wear a cowboy at he was on the phone, Thatch
29:53
was like, I am not wearing a cowboy at to our wedding in Ottawa.
29:57
I'm like, okay, fine, but it would have been. So
30:00
I've seen a lot of people do Western theme weddings and I'm obsessed with it.
30:03
So if you have farmland and you are planning a wedding, I highly
30:07
recommend doing it. But Zach said he would wear his cowboy boots. But
30:10
he just said that the cowboy's not your vibe. It's not our vibe.
30:12
It really isn't. It doesn't give our vibe. But also, anyways,
30:15
but the vision I saw, the vision, one can dream. But if
30:19
you have that vision for yourself, please do it for me, because I
30:22
freaking love Western right now. I think it's so cute. But yeah,
30:27
and then yeah, I don't know. I don't think there's anything else we
30:30
really want to talk about. We talked about maintaining friendships and just like,
30:33
if you're in a relationship, how to communicate that with your partner, and
30:37
yeah, just keeping that connection with your friends. All that we talked about
30:42
our girls trips and just our advice and our hot take when it comes to
30:47
planning a girl's trip and just the reality as well as just focusing on yourself
30:51
this summer. Just some tips that we've been doing, trying new things,
30:53
you know, being outside, more walking, all that. I think it's
30:56
really important to also journal. I talk about that a lot, but I
31:00
feel like journaling. You journal a lot too. Yeah, so I've been
31:03
journaling a lot, but I feel like also too, going back to like
31:06
building deeper connections with your friends. Like I know, for me, like
31:10
I always want my friends to come to me when they're going through something,
31:14
and like I know that I can go to my friends when I'm going through
31:15
something and I feel like just talking it out loud one hundred percent else And
31:21
even if they're not giving you advice, but just listening, letting you vent,
31:25
I feel like it's also very therapeutic. And see, I feel like
31:29
I do better with when I have something to talk about. I feel like
31:32
I do better when I'm talking to you in person or via spacetime or a
31:34
phone call versus journaling. Yeah, I don't really journal out my emotions.
31:38
I like to speak my emotions and tell everyone how I feel, Whereas journaling,
31:42
for me, it's more of like a daily thing to do in the
31:45
morning, where it's like just being really grateful and just you know, doing
31:48
the little things that I get to do every single day, like just makes
31:51
me realize how grateful I am to be able to do those things. So
31:55
I feel like just doing that gratitude is extremely important. But I think like
32:00
when you're in these type of situations where you need to talk to someone,
32:02
talking it out loud is so crucial. I think you journal though sometimes with
32:07
your emotions too, right, like in terms of like how you feel about
32:09
a situation, you'll write it out in your journal. That's like I wish
32:13
I could do that. I can't do that, but I think it's good
32:15
that you're Yeah, well, I think I definitely prefer like talking it out
32:19
loud, but like if you know, there's if you don't have someone to
32:22
talk to or whatever. I just wanted to always try. I've never tried
32:25
this, but like just like filming, like recording recordings on your phone,
32:30
like we have that app, like the voice Memo app on your phone,
32:32
and just like film it. You could like make the title just like the
32:37
day or something and just like talk to yourself or I've seen this on TikTok.
32:40
I don't know if you've seen it people, you know, like on
32:43
a math book, there's like the photo booth and you can film people like
32:47
actually show like a therapy session on TikTok where they're like they actually just film
32:52
videos of themselves talking and I'm like, wait, I really do that.
32:57
I've seen a lot of tiktoks about it, and they show clips like all
33:00
these different videos that they've filmed on this photo booth on their computer. Becau
33:04
it's just them talking. Well, it could be information that you've been holding
33:07
back and you don't know how to You don't want to tell something you're not
33:09
ready to tell someone maybe, but you want to let it out. Then
33:12
that's like the exact puny to do. So yeah, just talk to yourself.
33:15
Yeah, I feel like that's another good thing to talk about when you're
33:19
focusing on yourself, is just yeah, talking it out to yourself or especially
33:22
if you're not like I know for me, sometimes when I journal, like
33:25
there's so much I want to write down and then my hands starts hurting.
33:29
Yeah, I get the voice memory like, yeah, the voice memo,
33:32
or like I said, the photo booth like on your computer. I know
33:36
a few few people that have done that, and like I said, I've
33:38
seen it on TikTok, I'm like, wait, yeah, that would be
33:42
so therapeutic. Yeah. No, that's a really good point. But yeah,
33:45
that's another thing to highlight when you're focusing on yourself. But thanks Madison
33:50
for coming on the podcast. I always love having you here. But if
33:52
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34:02
Thank you guys for listening to today's episode, and I will see you guys
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in next week's episode.