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Season 3 - Episode 340 -The challenge when dealing with ourselves · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning from the Chicken Coop podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop, along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So today we are talking about the challenge with self help.
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  Now you might be thinking to yourself, why is someone who's
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  involved in self help talking about a challenge with self
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  help? Because I think it's really
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  necessary to be honest with people about things.
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  And there is a huge challenge in the self help industry where
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  people put it upon you that once you know something, you should
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  just be able to, you know, crack it out and do it immediately.
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  And that is definitely not the case.
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  I can't stress that enough. Just because you know something
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  doesn't mean you'll do it, doesn't mean you'll understand
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  it, doesn't mean you'll be able to execute on it, and certainly
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  doesn't mean you'll be able to stick with it.
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  It's hard helping yourself necessary, but it's hard work
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  and it takes consistent effort on our part.
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  And where we typically get hung up is that we are not very good
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  at being consistent. We'll say we're going to be
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  consistent, but we all know we rarely just stick with that
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  feeling of saying yes, yes, I'm doing it every day and I mean it
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  and I'm going to go with it and make execute on it.
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  So it's, it can be very frustrating, especially when
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  you're dealing with yourself to have to argue with yourself.
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  That's why we have these conversations, sensations, and
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  we'll say, oh, I'm beside myself, I don't know why I do
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  those things. And it's like we're talking
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  about another person, except it's us.
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  And that's the essential idea about the problem with self
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  help. It's also on a deeper level.
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  A lot of the people that are teaching self help right now are
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  not honest about the situation with themselves.
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  So they come across like they have perfect worlds and perfect
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  lives and everything is going tremendous for them.
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  And the reality is it's not their life is not good behind
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  the scenes. They've got all kinds of
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  problems and essentially they're calling everybody else out for
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  where they are when behind the scenes they're just as messed
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  up. And you know, that's why I try
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  to be as honest as I can on here with all of you about what goes
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  on in my life because I think it's important to know we suffer
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  the trials and tribulations just like the rest of people do.
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  I have moments where I don't want to do the things I'm
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  supposed to be doing. I have moments where, you know
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  what? I don't feel like going grocery
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  shopping. I don't feel like cleaning.
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  I don't feel like writing or doing things.
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  I feel like sitting and doing nothing.
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  And is that part of the plan? No.
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  But guess what? That's how humans show up
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  sometimes. And when you start to recognize
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  that we don't always all get along, you know, there are days
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  when I just want to wring my family's neck.
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  There are days when I just am like, OK, I'm over it all.
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  It's human, it's OK. And accepting that as part of
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  the condition that we live in helps us navigate it.
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  Honestly, if you if you really get into the fact that you are
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  accepting yourself where you are, it's a lot easier to help
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  yourself from that point. It's much easier to help
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  yourself when you just recognize where you truly are instead of,
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  you know, belittling yourself for where you are.
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  So often we just destroy ourselves for the fact that we
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  think we have to be somewhere we're not and essentially beat
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  ourselves up the entire time. And boy, what a mistake that is.
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  Because you've heard me say it before, but you know when you
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  subscribe to, the beatings will continue until morale improves.
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  It rarely is a good thing for anyone involved, and it usually
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  works out for the greater good of the person who's delivering
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  the beatings, but it doesn't when it's in your head and you
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  are doing the beatings, you're constantly taking yourself out.
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  So the challenge I'm going to put to you guys today is to face
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  the fact that you are in this position where you have to help
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  yourself, but you're in the position where you have to love
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  yourself enough to be kind to yourself at the same time.
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  And you have to be gracious with yourself and about where you
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  are. And you have to recognize that
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  even though you need help and you are reaching out and you're
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  trying to do everything for yourself, there's still a part
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  of you that is essentially resistant to it because it's
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  hard and it's OK. It's OK to be resistant to it.
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  It's OK to feel like you have things that are off.
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  It's OK to feel like you want to make things different.
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  What we have to look at is to say, OK, this is where I am,
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  this is my plan. I forgive myself for where I
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  fell off and I'm going to do better.
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  I'm going to shift myself and I'm going to change.
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  And when you start thinking things that way, it always gets
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  better because you give yourself grace.
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  You give yourself the opportunity to essentially have
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  that sense of love for yourself. You treat yourself as kind as
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  you would someone else. And that's what's so important.
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  So I hope you guys have a very blessed day.
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  Be kind to yourself and remember self development isn't just
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  about always being on track. It's about all kinds of other
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  things too. So remember, be kind.
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  All right, my friends, I hope you have a blessed day and I'll
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  see you tomorrow. Bye.