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Excuse My Solo: Spring Flings and NYC Summer · Excuse My Grandma

• 0:00
  Speaker 1: Some of these actually, both of these, I don't think I ever told my grandma. So buckle up. Welcome back to Excuse My Grandma. This week, it's just me, Grandma's not here. So we're gonna get into the things I probably wouldn't wanna bring up if she were sitting here next to me.
• 0:36
  So this week, I'm gonna talk about getting back into city life, the birthdays and my family coming up and what we have planned and what I'm planning on getting them. Spring Flings of the past versus having my boyfriend now. Building a roster and all my tips, and what it's like just having a boyfriend heading into this summer when work is crazy busy. So let's get into all of it. So I'm officially back from Palm Beach for the season.
• 1:05
  Won't go back again until November. So I'm easing my way back into New York City life again, and soon the Hamptons. So most days I've been uptown because I wanna get stuff done with my grandma. And it's also just a easy middle ground between being in Palm Beach and in Downtown New York City and seeing my friends to kinda have that, like, a few days on the Upper East Side. It eases you back in from super old school of Florida to New York life again, and it's it's going pretty well, I think.
• 1:37
  I've been really happy to be back. Zach, my boyfriend, has been here too, which has changed my social rhythm a bit. He's visiting, from LA, and we've been making lots of plans, because he doesn't always you know, I I want him to meet all of my friends who he really hasn't, and he doesn't get to, like, experience my life here in the way that I do. So I always get excited. I want him to you know, I I make double dates with everybody, and I make group plans.
• 2:08
  So we really have, like, every night busy. I also I'm gonna take him uptown to see where I grew up at some point because it's so nostalgic for me to go to all those childhood spots, which always makes me feel so connected to the city again. And I usually split my days between being uptown where my grandma is, and I kind of get that creative side of my job because I'm filming with my grandma so much and getting that content done. And then downtown at my apartment is, you know, where I get to do the behind the scenes producer writer type work and do calls with my team and calls with brands, and really the business side of things. So I kind of feel like work from home is at my apartment and then like going into the office is going to see Grandma Gail.
• 2:56
  So that's really how my days look. And the whole spring, like, the weather in the city has been amazing. It's all anyone can talk about. Like, it's all giving reset energy with wardrobe. Like, we're, you know, putting the coats away and we're wearing our new outfits.
• 3:16
  We our routines look different. And I feel like even with relationships and dating, you kind of naturally every spring and summer start a new roster of new people. And like you're adding I feel like you're going out more just like happy hours and everyone's in a good mood. So you're going out on the weekends and the weather's nice, and maybe you're going somewhere away for the weekend. So you're always meeting new people.
• 3:46
  And I, in the past, feel like it was always the busiest time for dating. So even I mean, I know this sounds I'm so old school, and I'm such a romantic, so this sounds like the opposite. But I would literally, like, have a note in my phone of guys I was going out with, guys that were after that, like, few guys in the roster if they didn't work out. The ones that I'm planning on adding in, like, either I just got their numbers or I wanna ask a friend to set me up with them or whatever it is, and even new interests. So they were all in the phone, and it just, like, to be fair, I was treating dating a little bit like a job because, obviously, on Excuse My Grandma, we talk about dating and relationships, and it felt a little bit like research.
• 4:30
  And now that I'm in a relationship, like, just whatever those topics are, I'm just thinking of my boyfriend in my head and, like, my current relationships. But before when I was going on lots of different first dates, there was a lot to work with. So I'm just filling my nights in different ways. Like, before it was first dates, now it's date nights with my boyfriend or nights with my friends or a lot of time work events because brands will do, like, activations and things, especially in the city, like, pre or post dinner, and I guess meet some people, which is always great. And then fashion wise, I'm definitely deep into Grandma core.
• 5:12
  Like, it's all I can think about, whether it's home aesthetics, which is like cottage, vintage pieces, antique, and then clothing too, like also vintage, but cardigans, cozy, like cool stuff, but it has not been my aesthetic. It's really been my grandma Gail's, and I really wanna lean in. And I'm getting obsessed with, like, sourcing and finding these vintage pieces that feel really personal, and also remind me of my grandma. So if you guys know any, like, spots to find these kind of things, either home, clothing, whatever it is, like, please let me know because I'm making it a personal project for the summer, and that's really fun and exciting to me. Also, this week, we have my grandma's birthday, my mom's birthday, and then my grandpa's birthday three days in a row.
• 6:02
  And by the time this episode comes out, it'll already have been my mom and grandma's birthday, so I can share a little bit about what I'm getting them and stuff. I am a birthday person. My grandma Gail, not so much. I will make the whole month of February about my birthday. She knows what she wants.
• 6:21
  She's like, I don't need a gift. Actually, let's not even go to dinner like I'm over you. Like, no, I'm kidding. But because we're going to dinner the next two nights for my mom and grandpa's birthday, she's like, we don't need to go to dinner with the same group of people three nights in a row. Like, we'll have lunch.
• 6:36
  So that's our plan so far. I'm gonna go to lunch with her and my mom at the new private club that I joined, San Vicente, which is in the Old Jane Hotel in the West Village, she hasn't seen it yet. And she like loves that kind of stuff, so I think that'll be fun. And then I got her a gift from Christian Dior, one of her favorite designers, and she totally deserves it with all the work that she puts in with Excuse My Grandma. But it's hard to get this lady a gift.
• 7:02
  I'm telling you, like, I I think she has high standards also wouldn't use a lot of things unless, like, she really liked it. So I know she likes Dior, and I couldn't really afford a sweater or, a bag from there. But there's a beautiful, like, glass bowl that I got her. It's like an ice bucket, and I think she'll really use it a lot in East Hampton, and it gives that, like, you know, vintage vibe. So I think she'll really like it.
• 7:33
  Very classy. And yeah, then for my mom, I got her a pair of sunglasses. She's been eyeing and I still need to get something for Poppy. By the way, what do we think of the Poppy reveal? I feel like it was so exciting to finally show him.
• 7:48
  And it totally snuck up on me when we reached 500,000 followers that I was like, my god. I just have to post him now. Like, I didn't even get to tease it out as much as I would have wanted, but I know we only got to see him for a second. I'm hoping we get a podcast with him or something that we could really get to know his personal or I know his personality that you guys can really get to know his personality. And, you know, maybe when we hit a million because that feels like a big deal.
• 8:12
  But we're gonna hit 500,000 on TikTok pretty soon. So let us know what you wanna see for that. Like, maybe I know we haven't seen my mom yet, so maybe that. So, anyway, if you guys are listening and don't follow us on TikTok already, go press follow. Tell your friends.
• 8:26
  Tell your daughter. Tell your mom. Whatever. And, yeah, I feel like we're growing so much. It's really, really exciting.
• 8:34
  It's so fun to see, and there's so much more in store to show all of you, including an event that we're doing May 7 at Blushington that we're actually gonna meet all of our community in person. Like, you can buy a ticket that's going to Bottomless Closet, which is an amazing charity, and come and hang out with us, and we'll take pics, and we'll chat. Again, it's at Blushington. You can get a little mini glam moment. You can have champagne, light bites.
• 9:05
  We're gonna walk, away with an amazing gift bag with, like, a lot of our favorite items. So hopefully, we see you on May 7. The link is on our Instagram if you just check there. We have the link in our bio, and we'll be posting about it up until the event. Okay.
• 9:21
  Let's get into past spring fillings, little situation shifts that I've had. Some of these actually, both of these, I don't think I ever told my grandma. So le up. The first one, okay. Unfortunately, I have a thing for guys who have motorcycles.
• 9:39
  I'm sorry. Like I think I've outgrown it to be fair because like I have a bad back and I would never do it again. But I did have a thing. We're not gonna talk about the main situationship whose bike I was on a good amount. We're gonna talk about this guy who we're gonna talk about what am I saying?
• 9:55
  We're going to talk about this guy who I went on two dates with. He was a great guy. Ended up not being my type, but really nice. And I knew I was in the Hampton staying with my parents because it was summer. And I made this date from a dating app on the weekend.
• 10:13
  And I told my parents, I would never date a guy with motorcycle again. But of course, he I didn't know he had a bike, but he texted me. He's like, I'll pick you up. I have this nineteen seventies Vespa. That's all you have to say to me to like melt.
• 10:27
  I'm like, oh my gosh. Like, I love old vehicles. I love nostalgia. I wanna be on the back of the bike. I want my Roman holiday moment.
• 10:36
  I'm Audrey Hepburn. I'm envisioning it. But if my parents saw this bike come up to the apartment, I would not be allowed to go. So I literally told him to meet me down the road because, you know, safety, independence, all that. I still wanted to go, but if yeah.
• 10:57
  I couldn't have my parents see or hear that happening. So I'm like, okay. Bye, mom and dad. I called an Uber, and it didn't come to the front of the house. And I, like, walked down.
• 11:05
  This is three or four years ago at this point, FYI. But, yeah, I walked down the street, and the guy was like, why didn't you want me to pick you up in front of your house? And, you know, it was easier just not to. I was like, don't worry about it. And we actually had a nice date, but, you know, just didn't align.
• 11:25
  Speaking of not my type, though, there was another date I wanted to tell from Summer, and I love creative date ideas. This was a beach picnic date that date that I went on. But this is just to show you how codependent me and my family are. Or actually, I should just say how my parents really have no boundaries when it comes to me and my love life. So this guy who I think was also from a dating app, might have been a setup.
• 11:51
  I don't remember. But he picked me up in a car and we went to the beach and did like a beach picnic. And you kind of lose track of time on those kind of dates because there's no waiter coming over and it was a nice date. And so I think three hours went by. My parents thought I was murdered.
• 12:11
  They were texting and calling, which I didn't see because I wasn't rude. I wasn't looking at my phone. And they decided to get in a car with my brother too and drive to the beach because there's they knew which they knew where I was. They could see on five of my friends where I was because they have me on there since they're nuts. Love you guys, but like you're nuts.
• 12:29
  And they thought I must have just like drowned in the ocean since it had been three hours. So they decided to drive to the beach, pretty quickly see where I'm sitting on the beach, but that's not enough. They wanna like, you know, stake out and watch the date go down like it was a live episode of The Bachelor. And they stayed for a while, but then they eventually left. And then the guy took me home and, like, walked me to the door, and my dad opened the door.
• 12:56
  Was like, hi. I was like, why do we have to meet on the first date? You don't even know if I like this guy. The whole thing, it's a little hard to date from home, I will say. But you need your parents to like the guy.
• 13:09
  Right? So, you know, at the end of it, I I could easily say not my type for either, but it was fun and creative date ideas. I do like the outdoor dates. I used to do a lot of walking dates, and my grandma was always like, why are you walking? What are you Forrest Gump?
• 13:25
  And I was like, you know what? Fair. I think the the days of the walking date might have to be over. Like, we should probably sit at a bar or a restaurant like normal people. I am excited for the Hamptons this summer.
• 13:37
  Usually, social scene there was like trying to get into these trendy bars like Surf Lodge and Talk House because that's where everyone would go out. But I get tired pretty early now. I mean, I always had this inside me, but it's really, like, stressful to get into those places. Like, it's never really been my vibe. And I always gravitated toward parent parties.
• 14:01
  Like, it's so much nicer. If you if your friend's parents are having parties or your parents are having parties, just bring a few friends to that. Like, it's free food. It's like way chiller of an atmosphere. They probably have like music and a pretty setup.
• 14:16
  It's not like you're not drinking out of solo cups. Like, I love that stuff. I can think of, like, over the last year or so, like, I went to a Shabbat that was really nice at one of my friends' houses. One of my friends, her parents had a party and invited us and or dinner party, you know, and they, like, they had great food, and they had a karaoke machine that Zach and I, like, hogged the whole night, which was so much fun. I've always been an old soul, so maybe this isn't appealing to people.
• 14:44
  But I'm finally leaning into that instead of pretending that, like, oh my god. I love the bar scene and, I'm not gonna be there till I'm 40. Like once in a while, a 100%. But I want to definitely spend more time, like at the adults table, you know? This summer is definitely gonna be a little bit different since, Zach hopefully will be in the Hamptons with me sometimes.
• 15:07
  And it's really I mean, we were dating last summer, but it was the very beginning. And we're staying at my parents' house when we're in the Hamptons. And we're even in separate rooms actually because my parents it was it kind of began as a rule when I was younger. And then it became my rule because I was like, we'll sleep in the same room, but like I love having my closet in a separate room, getting ready in a separate room, doing my hair and makeup. And then, like, I'll go over and visit his room a little bit during the day.
• 15:37
  And then we can have a sleepover, and we'll hang out and whatever. But, like, it's nice to have the separate spaces. And I'm trying to think if he stayed with us for an extended amount of time. I think it was just in Palm Beach. He was with my grandparents for, like, ten days straight.
• 15:56
  And, yeah, that was the longest amount of time. But that's honestly, like, when you know that after ten days, everything went well. Like, it shows you how much you, like, really vibe with someone. And I always think I feel like a question my friends ask me and like that I would always stress about is like, I just started seeing someone new. But like, should we do the weekend trip together?
• 16:19
  Is it too early? Like, should they meet my parents? And I honestly think if you want to, you should do it. Like, obviously, don't do it after two dates. But after 10 dates and you're like, is it still too early to, have him stay with my family for the weekend?
• 16:33
  Like, I did that with Zach before we were even boyfriend and girlfriend because it's kind of a nice way to not test it out. But like, you see how they interact with your family. Like you see, were you sick of them by the end of the weekend? And if it if you're pleasantly surprised, like I think that's a really good seat like sign to try it with someone. So this summer, I definitely want to enter with intention, both professionally and socially, like literally from my parents supervising my dates to now hopefully planning some adult dinner parties with people I actually want in my life.
• 17:08
  It's a really full circle moment. So I really think this summer is going to be about blending the social and the personal staying grounded, keeping work creative, and being intentional about who and what I spend my energy on. So I'm really happy we could talk this week, you guys let us know if there's anything you want to hear from me and grandma in our next episode together. Anything else you wanna hear me talk about on my own? What kind of guests you want us to have on?
• 17:42
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• 18:08
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