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Success Tax: What You Lose When You Finally Set A Standard · Mindless Shenaniganz

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You think you're in a networking group? Just
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another part of the ecosystem. My ecosystem.
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Beginning, middle, end to end. Down here in the
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water, you're either a prey, a predator, or you're
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just getting hungry. Do you know your role? Most
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of y 'all can't even identify your role. Whether
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that be in the ecosystem, on the team, at the
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job. Some of the things are even worse. A parasite.
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A lot of y 'all come around as sucker fish. Latching
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on to the side of the sharks. People that save
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you. Not in plain sight. Never missing a meal.
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Because you get to feed off everything else.
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But you're always in the picture though. In the
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frame. So you're going to get seen. And then
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you also will get passed around because you got
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that free ride. This is just my honest and honest.
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Brown version. It's yours. Hit the link in the
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bio, DM, send an email, do what you got to do
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to get yours. Just make sure you see it. But
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back to business. Some people don't even see
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them. But somehow they're still getting the benefit
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of all the work that's being put in. You wonder
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why everything feels so heavy or why you feel
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like you're slowing down. Look at your luggage.
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Look what you're carrying in your bag. Do you
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need to pack it and take it with you on this
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trip? But you need to leave it at home. You need
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to buy a new pair and replace it. That's why
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you're tired. Feeling like you're stuck. That's
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because you got, well, underwater, you got sucker
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fish. Leeches are in the water too. Another term,
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we call them bums. Whatever you want to call
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it, just make sure you don't have any on your
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skin. Take your arm. Shake your legs. Take it
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behind the ears. Everywhere you clean that. Some
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of y 'all ain't checking in the right spots.
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Get rid of the scavengers. It's time to cut the
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weight. It's time to let it go. Time to shave
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it off. The sharks are here. It's time to go
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deep. I am Sir Don. This is Milo Shenanigans.
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We're going swimming in a tank. Welcome to Milo
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only. Not facts. Not legal advice. And definitely
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not safe for any sensitive ears. So buckle up
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and let the shenanigans begin. Know your role.
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Your role in the ecosystem takes everything around
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you. Your energy. Your attitude. Your attention.
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Your distractions. Your purpose. Every ocean
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has sharks. Just like every room. Just like every
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room, there has to be somebody. There's going
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to be somebody smarter than you. Wiser than you.
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In every room, there's people that feed. There's
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people that attach. There's going to be people
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in rooms that are going to bleed to dry. Just
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like any shark. Smell blood in the water. The
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question becomes, which one are you? Where are
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you at? How do you avoid dripping blood into
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the water? Ask yourself that. Any sign of weaknesses
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include snitching, talking too loud, bringing
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attention to yourself, leaking information, telling
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the playbook, the wrong kind of attention. We've
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seen plenty of times in history where When you
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get attention brought to yourself, all the wrong
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eyes get put on you. On a plain sight, there's
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a cold, dangerous mug. But seeking validation
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instead of commanding respect, demanding respect,
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and earning respect. Just like when you move
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to a new house or a new apartment neighborhood
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or you get a new job, right? You got to fill
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out the environment. What's what? Who's where?
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Right? Some people might call it nosy. Some people
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call it paying attention. Right? Who's maybe
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in and out at this time? Right? If you're not
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aware, how can you be safe? New room, new surroundings,
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new opportunities for new business partners.
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The first thing you do when you walk into a room,
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yes, you speak, introduce yourself, let everybody
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know you're supposed to do your manners, but
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you be quiet and take a seat. just like classes
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like school just like at the beginning of the
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meetings we start to work find out what's going
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on pay attention listen here when we talked about
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being loud versus getting your results and speaking
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yes into existence but we're lying and revealing
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the playbook some of y 'all need the spy game
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But the further you go, the deeper you dive,
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the bigger the reward is. You don't level up
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to get a smaller piece. You don't take bigger
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risks and gamble more to go less. There also
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means there's bigger players around. People who
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aren't willing to take the same risk, if not
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a bigger risk than you. Right? Yes. The only
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person that should be stopping you is yourself.
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But the people that's been in the game longer
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have a bigger influence. Right? Maybe had a better
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gift to get. Right? Been around. Have a bigger
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following. A bigger networking group. Because
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they've been here. They've been there. and where
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you're trying to go. So when you have the knowledge
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and you got access to the doors, try to obtain
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the keys. Keep them. The more you can obtain,
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the more you can learn from the people around
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you. From a bigger circle, the better you'll
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be off. Being right is one thing, but being around
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people who have the experience can take you another
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level. A lot of people don't want to go deep
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into the water. It's dark. It's cold. Sometimes
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it gets lonely. Not willing to take the risk.
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But that's what a growth is. Getting uncomfortable
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to get comfortable. And acknowledging what you
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need to do to survive. Not just scrape it by.
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How many of us are trying to do that day by day,
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hour by hour, week by week, month by month? We
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got to take risks. You got to be willing to take
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the risks. Six months from now. Look at somebody
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who you haven't seen, haven't heard from. No
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updates on social media. Nothing bad happened
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to them. You might have seen them in passing
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or you might have maybe heard about something.
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Do you think they're hiding or are they putting
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in work? What I want everybody to do and start
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building is to make sure you have a support system.
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You can't do it out here by yourself. Start within
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you. You have to be the one to do it. But you
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got to have a support system. You got to have
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a team. You got to have somebody who you can
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look up to and give you that game. You got to
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have a mentor. You got to. Yeah, you putting
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in the work and you carrying all the weight.
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But I'm telling you, you got to have one or two
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people who you can call and say, hey, what should
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I do? I'm in this situation. It's not all going
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to look the same. But the goal is what matters
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you think it matters out here if you making all
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these noise making splashes in the water and
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Telling all your businesses for either attention
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I Think that's gonna put a pan over People are
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willing to help people who willing to help themselves,
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but it start with you, too You're not willing
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to put it in you're gonna see what's gonna come
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out It's just a matter of time. The tank. Think
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about the show Shark Tank. People step in. You
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got a line of sharks, right? Known as a group
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of people who are heavy hitters, knowledgeable,
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and have resources. It can put you in a position
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right where you need to go. The person stepping
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into the tank, their job is just to talk fast.
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Their job is to listen to what the sharks are
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offering. Yes, they're pitching the idea because
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obviously they have to introduce to what the
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sharks need to know what they're coming into.
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But these people have more influences, more in
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reach, and can do things that you haven't done.
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You're not going to persuade a shark based on
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how slick you are. Are you actually listening
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to what's being offered? There are going to be
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some deals that are better than others for different
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reasons. Are you taking the deal for comfort
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or profit? What is your decision? Gain, wisdom,
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and familiarity are all a calculated choice.
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But the one who wins and the one that's direct,
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they know exactly what they want. Not guessing.
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If you're evaluating your company at $100 million,
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and you're asking for 10%, what does that look
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like for that shark? Make it make sense for them.
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And you only got $10 ,000 in sales in two years.
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Yeah. Okay. The best presentation doesn't always
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win, right? You can have all these theatrics,
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right? Have all these flying things, all these
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colors, right? Being loud doesn't make you right
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either. Something you are surely had to learn
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yourself. But understand also what's being offered
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and knowing exactly what you need to get to the
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move that needs to be made. Because if you don't
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know, the move that needs to be made you're never
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going to move you're never going to get the support
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that you need you're going to be stuck right
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where you're at so you better think quick plan
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and execute that's the move don't look at a shark
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always as that competitor the person that's going
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to help you and level up is going to be one too
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and what position is that going to put them in
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Drop in the comments if you know this. What's
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the real purpose of seeking the validation in
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the room full of sharks? The answer is nothing.
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You miss everything being offered in a moment
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that you can't be quiet and start reacting. If
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you take everything from a surface level, you'll
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never understand what needs to be planted for
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it to grow. Think about that. You seek validation
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if you ever went into a job interview. You seek
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validation if you ever went on a date and tried
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to court somebody. You seek validation if somebody
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else had to make a decision on the outcome that
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you wanted to reach. It's not easy to spot what's
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out of place on the surface. Right? That's why
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some of us prefer to move in the dark with the
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lights off. It's hard to miss a shadow during
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the day. That night, that's all you see. Who's
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hiding there? Who's the villain there? You were
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warned. Before you walk through that door, before
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you take a step on any beach, any open water,
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when you walk into buildings, what's in there?
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They have signs, what they allow, what's permitted.
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What's not permitted, you take the risk. Every
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time you step in there, you're unprepared. You
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got to be ready for that. So with that being
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said, even with precautions, even with the right
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tools, you can still get got out of here. And
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what I mean by that, let's slow it down. Don't
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be the biggest, loudest target near the surface.
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Anybody that goes fishing, they got a nice piece
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of bait. They know that's how to get them. snatch
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them right up. So this is a note you need to
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take. Not everybody gets an invitation to get
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to the room, to the dinner, to the outing. So
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when you get there, take it all in. Not everyone
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gets to bring a plus one that first neither.
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So that's why having that support system is important.
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That's why being able to carry the weight and
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being able to recognize that you can do it by
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yourself is important. It's going to feel real
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heavy at first. The heaviest it's going to feel.
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But it gets lighter every time you go through
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it. Build your armor up. Take them lessons. Learn
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from them. Adapt. You're supposed to. You don't
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have a choice. You wouldn't have got here if
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you didn't work for it. So applaud yourself for
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that. The wisdom that you need to get is no different
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than going down to the barbershop. There are
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plenty of things being discussed. Right? Whether
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that be their relationships. Right? How to be
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a better man. Father, son, brother. Business
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owner. A friend. People who've been there and
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done that before you've done it. Whether they're
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close to your age or not. Whether you're an OG.
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Right? An up. Right? Or a big bruh. But the game
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and insight, 100 % real. Don't be in a room just
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to be there. Make it purposeful. Make it purposeful.
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Make it purposeful. Everybody don't get the same
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opportunity that you got. So make the most of
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it. Don't pass it up. And don't count out the
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people that you think aren't where they're supposed
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to be. Your uncle, your auntie, stranger on the
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street. Who might stop and say something. If
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somebody's speaking, it's because they care.
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When the room goes quiet, that's when you should
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worry. Stop the bleeding. Every word you release
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carelessly, it's like a drop of blood. You don't
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need anybody to steal your blueprint. You hand
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in the right tool. You're going to study your
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patterns. Watch the game. Watch your tape. Right?
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You're going to learn your triggers. Right? And
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your tails. Just like those who play poker. The
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Texas Hold 'em. You gave them a play. That's
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on you. Everybody's watching. Everybody's watching.
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The difference is how close they are to you.
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Better to break it down. Right? That's why you
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have to learn your own patterns. Call yourself
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out. We'll feed you. What motivates you? How
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do you feed your circle? How do you keep the
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people around you in the position that they're
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in because of the position you're in? Silence,
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specifically for a shark. Safety, a form of power,
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not a sign of weakness. Knowing when to speak
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and when to move is a skill you have to develop,
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but you also have to know what it looks like.
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Because if you've never been introduced to it,
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you will never see it. Every time you panic,
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every time something goes wrong, every time you
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let fear run out your mouth, you're building
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your own downfall. So consider yourself the architect
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of that. So watch your energy. Watch what you
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speak to existence. So instead, let's start doing
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this. Speak confidence. Speak purpose. Align
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your words with where you're going. Period. If
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it doesn't match it, you need to let it go. I'm
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not saying some things can't be called out or
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realized. Right? But we're going to always get
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through it. We always have. Remember, you can't
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do this by yourself. But you're going to take
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the weight of it too. The water is deep. There's
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so many people out here cut from different material,
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from a different cloth, as they like to say.
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Some of y 'all are made of cotton. Some of y
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'all are made of polyester, twill, silk. The
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ecosystem needs all of it, right? It's different
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reasons for these different materials, whether
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you perform or not. People are using them. Some
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people find them beneficial. I'm not saying that
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they're the best and they all should be used.
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But it's a reason why it's all these different
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materials. And why some people perform over the
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other or have to use them over the other. You
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can break that down yourself. Now, I do want
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to. Be clear here. We're not talking about the
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unfortunate people who are literally what I'm
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saying to find us homeless. We're talking about
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the people who are your everyday people who are
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in society, who might have a job and different
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things who are feeding off people. They're in
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their proximity so they can better ahead themselves.
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That's what I'm referring to. We do need to clean
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up the homelessness around your city, locally,
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the country, right? The world. We have too many
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natural resources for people to be hungry. Y
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'all spending too much money on canceling moving
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these sites around for people to be homeless
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and hungry. The gas got raised too high for people
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to be hungry and homeless. There's too many malls
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for too many people to be hungry and homeless.
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We can go on forever about the shenanigans. You
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tell me which one you want me to address next
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to. But I'm going to go back. I'm going to address
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that too. But we're talking about the people
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that's intentionally feeding off a shark or somebody
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they can hide behind at the launch party. Because
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they know once you're gone, they can't keep up.
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You're talking about the people who don't give
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you any support or any investment. Just a free
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passage. The people that's always coming for
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you that you can't get the same thing in return.
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Whether that be financial or emotional support.
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or the uplifting you gotta watch the energy you
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keep the company you keep notice energy is first
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because what's around you can build you up and
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tear you down at the same time if you let it
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it's your job to manage that Your job to be aware
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of that. Are you doing this for the love of the
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game or the sake of the business? I'm not saying
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cut off your heart. I'm not saying not be generous.
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How can you take care of everybody else if you're
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not even taking care of you? This is my honest
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and endless. I'm just telling you the part that's
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mindless about the shenanigans and part that
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they fucking with you. You fall off, everybody
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going to fall off with you. All because you ain't
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maintaining yourself. So if you carrying all
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of this, you carrying all of that, and you falling,
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all that's going to fall too. So, be aware about
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the weight that you're taking on. Be aware about
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the energy that's around you that's being kept.
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Period. Point blank. Some people need to be a
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little bit more selfish. Not cold. Not mean.
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Just intentional. Running out of breath because
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you're carrying a weight that was never yours
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to carry. Know the difference. You cannot carry
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what is not aligned with your purpose and your
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goals. Period. You let people live off you and
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they will. And you know exactly who I'm talking
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about. How many people you know are writing your
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name based off the introductions that you gave?
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Taking the extra tickets and seats that you worked
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hard to earn. Spending all of your energy without
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adding to it. How are you going to drain me but
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not plug me in either? So at the same time, you're
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doing it for the table. They're doing it for
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themselves. That's why they tagged that line.
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It calls to be the boss. You're going to pay
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the price of admission. You're going to carry
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all the weight. You're going to be the one that's
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responsible for the people that act up around
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you too. Just like anything else, run an experiment.
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Cut off the perks. Meaning all the things that
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are granted that comes with being around. Right?
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All the accommodations. Right? See how fast they
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get gone. If everybody cut gets smaller because
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things slow down, let's see how they react. Not
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because you're short, no. If things wish to ever
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actually dry up and you needed to go into the
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reserve, how's everybody else going to respond?
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A parasite always finds a new host. The question
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is, are you going to be the next one? Are you
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finally done being the host? You need to get
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a detox. Sometimes you got to stop intaking what
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you are. Might be hazardous to your health, mentally
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and physically. I'm telling you, you got to be
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aware. Know that there's between a competitor,
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a mentor, and a parasite. A mentor is deep in
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the game, deep in the water. Right? They've already
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walked a similar path that you've already been
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walking. And obviously everybody got different
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shoe sizes and wearing different brands of shoes,
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but they've walked a similar path and been through
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what you've been through. Right? So they can
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walk you through that. They made it this long,
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but just because they closed, don't confuse them
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for a leech now. So get out your emotions. Watch.
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Watch what people do, not just what they say.
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Watch what people do, not just what they say.
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One is loyal to the grind. One is loyal to the
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meal. You know which is which. Don't be a fool.
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Don't be a fool. A competitor is another shark,
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but you can partner with sharks too. A lot of
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y 'all out here hating because of insecurities.
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Collaboration is the power. Use it when it's
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right. the parasite only is loyal as long as
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you provide the cover and access like a sucker
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fish on the shark on your rib cage hiding underneath
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getting passed by because guess what if it wasn't
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on that i'm attached to there to get ate up right
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out the way but ain't nobody gonna with you because
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of who you're attached with you provide the cover
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and the access In the moment you try to go deep,
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deep, deep into the grind, everything comes to
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a pause. Everything comes to a stop. Sometimes
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it looks like they're moving with a purpose.
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Sometimes it's like they are moving mindlessly.
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That's because you haven't figured out their
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intentions yet. And if you don't know the people's
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intentions, the intentions, if you don't know
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the intentions of the people that surround you,
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you're going to end up drowning. You're going
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to end up stuck. Wondering why and how this and
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that happened. You better get ready to breathe.
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Apex. The moment you stop progressing, you start
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bleeding. The moment you seek validation about
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your struggles, for sympathy, or likes, you're
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basically pouring gallons of blood into the water
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in front of the sharks. And the piranhas too.
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People forget about that. They small, they dangerous.
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One of them, right? We know what a piranha is,
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but a whole bunch of them too. Now just think
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about this right here. Just think about this.
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For every splash, right? Or every emotional reaction,
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every display of weakness, you're drawing attention
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to yourself in the worst way. You won't be able
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to handle the weight that comes with it. Eventually.
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You're going to have to swallow whatever happened
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and get through it. I told you, plan, execute.
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Keep it inside. Get uncomfortable. There's going
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to be moments, it's going to feel like nothing
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is left. That's the exact moment you rise. That's
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the exact moment you don't quit. But it's not
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the moment to go loud. Using silence to avoid
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confrontation isn't strength either. Know the
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difference between what you fear and what you
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respect. A lot of y 'all confusing the two. For
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those who fear me. Well ask yourself why that
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is why that is for those who respect me Thank
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you, I earned that If you want me to be the villain
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I will Can be There's a lot of y 'all out here
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that's lazy. They want to claim you're doing
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too much. Working too hard. Because they can't
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put on the weight. That's why some of y 'all
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still clinging on. Like leeches. Like sucker
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fish. Crabs. Catfish. Or easy prey. Targeted
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and picked out daily. Sifu boils off the roof
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You were picked up as a crab or catfish shrimp
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Because you wonder you are going to see Somebody
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else appetite at your own expense real talk Some
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people think they already made it. And that's
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the problem. The ones who think they made it,
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get washed back up on the shore. Wasn't ready
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to swim out there. Pass right by, you stop learning,
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stop adapting, and stop holding themselves accountable.
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Age like wine, not milk. Every day I need to
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get better. Trying to get better. Trying to reach
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the apex. I mean, I got to self -audit myself.
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Making sure yesterday was better than the day
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before and last week. Today is better than yesterday.
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And plan for tomorrow where I missed that today.
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Otherwise, I'd be an ineffective out. And I'm
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trying to stay compliant. Checking my skills.
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I got to get better from last week, last month,
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last year. I always go back and forth about where
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I missed a step that. How did this? This would
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have happened. How did that? That's not regret.
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Just learning. Everything is a calculated risk.
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How many of you are even doing that? Right. You
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got to get better every day. And boy, I tell
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you, when I reach my apex, what are you doing
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to understand your position in the water? What
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is your position now? What is your role? How
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deep can you go? Are you the life jacket floating
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on the surface that's keeping somebody else above
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water? Or are you the submarines built for the
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pressure, operating where others can't go, others
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can't breathe? Are you prey? A scavenger? Or
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a shark. But one last thing. One last thing.
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Your last three business meetings. Or we'll call
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them productive gatherings. Everybody might not
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have what's considered a business meeting, but
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a productive gathering where you might be brainstorming
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and different things like that. right so we're
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not gonna call it a productive guy did you provide
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more information than you took in or were you
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just there do you need the room to respect you
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to like you if only one of those gets results
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hold your breath i am sir don This is Mindless
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next time. That's a wrap on this episode of Mindless
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