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Season 5 - Episode 30 - Question of the day... · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey everybody, welcome to the good morning from the Chicken
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  Coop podcast. My name is Kim Johnson and I am
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  a mastermindset coach, creative strategist, and also happened to
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  be a farmer. This is my chicken coop and I
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  come out here every day to record a podcast to teach
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  distinctions, possibilities, new ways of thinking, and just bring
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  some joy into the world. So welcome to the coop and let's
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  start your day off in a fantastic way.
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  Hey everybody, good morning. Question of the day.
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  What emotions do you primarily reside in now?
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  Now, many of you are long time listeners and you have read my
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  book Who's Driving Your bus? Some of you are new and you
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  haven't read that book. But you know, in that book, I
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  identify the fact that we reside in primary emotions and they
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  drive us and they they take our entire world over and most of us
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  have three to five primary drivers that are, are drivers
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  that that they just stick with us.
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  So one of my main drivers is certainty.
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  And for me, that is one that is very sticky.
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  It's very hard to get rid of. And with all the weather that's
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  going on and all the storms that are coming down South, I keep
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  thinking and looping about the water freezing, being able to
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  take care of the chickens. It's going to be colder than
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  it's ever been. Wind chills down, like, Oh my
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  gosh, what do I do? Do I keep them in?
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  Do I put them out? And this is all based on the
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  fact that my certainty girl has been presented with a problem
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  that she can't readily solve. And then and so of course, she
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  keeps showing up because she's trying to solve that problem.
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  And no matter what I do, no matter how I do it, no matter
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  what I look at, she's going to keep haunting me because that's
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  a question that needs to be answered.
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  And we forget how quickly those emotions keep coming back and
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  back and back. And even after all these years
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  of doing this, I still have to manage her.
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  I still have to find a way to work with her and manage her.
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  And it's not a question of getting rid of her.
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  It's a question of working with her, knowing she has my best
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  interest at heart, thinking about, OK, well, should I keep
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  them inside? Should I let them out?
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  Do they know best? Like just all kinds of of
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  questions going on and, you know, now snow is coming, that
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  complicates it even further. What to do?
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  Will they go out? Will they stay in?
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  How about we give them the choice?
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  You know, my creativity is showing up, trying to help solve
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  the problem and arguing with my certainty.
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  And the reason we're having this conversation is everybody goes
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  through this. Everybody goes through this in
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  multiple situations where their primary emotions will show up
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  and drive them. And, and you get to decide if
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  they drive you insane or they drive you to peace or they drive
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  you to being neutral, you solve it or you drive them and say,
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  oh, you know what? This is not the best driver at
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  this point in time. It's a constant and never ending
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  reminder to me that we have to be aware and we have to be
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  flexible and we have to be understanding that it's our job
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  to manage our emotions. When we say that, it's not just
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  to mean shut them up. I, I can't stress that enough
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  because I had a client just yesterday say to me, hey, when I
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  was talking about managing emotions, he said I can't shut
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  them up. I said, wait a minute, do you
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  believe that managing emotions is shutting them up?
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  And he goes, yeah, isn't that what you mean?
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  I said, no, that is not at all what I mean.
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  When you manage your emotions, you work with them, you
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  understand them, you listen to them, and then you use the full,
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  full gamut of drivers that we have, not just the three to five
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  that like to show up because they're your favorites over the
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  years. So it's all a work in progress,
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  my friends. Every part of this is a work in
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  progress and I can't stress it enough that you have to pay
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  attention to it over and over, over and over, over and over.
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  So this morning is a reminder to you to check in and it's the end
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  of the month. We're right at the end of
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  January. So some people are going to feel
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  completely pissed off, overwhelmed, all those things
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  that they did not get what they wanted to out of, of whatever it
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  was that was going on. They didn't get it, they didn't
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  get it, they didn't get it. And there and those emotions are
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  going to be looping, looping, looping, looping, looping,
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  looping, looping. So it's really, really, really
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  important to understand that those emotions are here to help
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  you, not hurt you. And if you can get that in your
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  head, if you can really get that in your head, then you've got an
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  opportunity to manage them, utilize them, listen to them,
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  work with them. Otherwise they'll take over and
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  they'll destroy your day and destroy whatever else you have
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  going on because they're going to keep talking to you and
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  they're going to annoy the hell out of you.
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  So remember, check in and choose.
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  Remember the little phrase in the book.
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  If you haven't read it, I recommend getting the book.
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  It's stop, reflect, choose redirect.
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  Very simple. Stop when you feel those the the
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  overwhelm and really listen to what it's trying to tell you.
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  Remember stop, reflect, choose redirect.
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  OK my friends, I hope you have a blessed day and I will see you
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  all tomorrow. Bye.