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Still Sad About The "Earnhardt" Documentary? My Thoughts On Dad's Born in The 1950's | Coffee With Kenny · Kenny Wallace Media

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  Happy Friday, everybody. Well, all right, today we are
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  going to talk about the dads. Your father that was born in the
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  1950s, that is close to 70 or over 70 years old right now.
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  So my daughter Brandy has been watching this Earnhardt
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  documentary, and I've been watching Brandy go through all
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  these emotions, and my middle daughter Brandy has lit my phone
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  up. She has been emotionally
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  scarred. I'm telling you, man, I'm
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  serious. I am not lying.
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  I mean, it's like, Dad, if I could give Dale, Junior and
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  Kelly a hug right now. Oh my God, I, I would they're
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  they've been so hurt and and dad, they're Oh my God, I feel
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  so bad. And did you Dad, this is Brandy
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  saying this to me. Dad, did you know that Dale
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  Junior ran 154 late model stock races and Dale Senior neighbor
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  never came to one of his races? Dad, I about cried when Kelly
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  came to take care of Dale Junior.
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  So today's Coffee with Kenny is about dads that were born in the
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  1950s. So I I like studying people.
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  I am into psychology. I always have been one of my
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  heroes. The great Dick Trickle was the
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  great philosopher. Trickle has taught me so many
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  sayings that that's basically what helped me get through life.
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  The great Dick Trickle, my brother Rusty Wallace, Kenny
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  Schrader, they taught me some good things too.
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  But I want to tell you what I've learned about the dads that were
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  born in the 50s. So this could be like like I was
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  born August 23rd, 1963, but I want to go by the signs first.
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  Like I'm a Virgo, but I'm barely a Virgo.
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  I'm August 23rd, August 22nd. Just one day before is I believe
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  a Leo, my brother. But I really think it has to do
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  with the year you were born. So let me start out by saying
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  this and you can respond right here.
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  OK? Your father is going to be a
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  chip off the old block. So let's take Brother Rusty,
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  let's take Dale Senior, let's take Kenny Schrader.
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  Those three, what do they have in common?
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  Well, their dads were racers and they were exposed to fathers
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  that their parents went through the depression.
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  So let's take let's just take my dad.
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  Let let me go like this. But I'm pretty sure my situation
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  is going to be like Dale senior situation.
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  I'm kind of right in the middle there.
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  I'm I'm lost in translation, translation.
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  There is this story one time that me and Bobby Labonte were
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  the forgotten NASCAR drivers. Of course nobody's going to
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  forget about Bobby Labonte because he's a champion.
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  He did a lot. But there was an article one
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  time out there about that 1963, the year Kennedy was killed.
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  But when I think of this Dale senior, this Earnhardt
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  documentary, I think, OK, why was he like that?
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  Why was Dale Senior hard? Why was he tough?
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  Why was he rough around the edges?
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  Rusty Wallace is pretty much identical.
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  Kenny Schrader pretty much identical.
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  So what do they have in common? Well, I witnessed the first hand
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  so I'm exactly right and I know what they have in common.
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  So my brother Rusty saw first hand that my dad Russ got up at
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  4:00 in the morning and delivered the post dispatch,
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  then went to work at King Dodge down on Kings Highway.
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  Then my dad had these payment books stacked in his office,
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  like 4 or five payment books. Hey, dad, what's all them
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  payment books? Herman, if you want anything
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  life, you're going to have to borrow money or else you're not
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  going to get anywhere. I love my father very much.
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  My dad, the great Russ Wallace, the boy boy, old boy.
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  Was he rough around the edges? I don't know if my dad ever told
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  me he loved me. I know that.
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  My brother Rusty, for Rusty Wallace to say he loves me,
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  that's like going to the dentist.
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  I don't think Rusty's ever told me he's loved me.
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  Now Mike has. I love Kenny Schrader to death,
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  but his dad, Bill, he was a bad ass.
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  But I'm going to talk about what I know for a fact.
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  Your father, even though he didn't go through the
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  Depression, his dad, he watched his dad.
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  So it's a line of progression. I'm around.
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  I'm around Kyle Petty all the time.
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  And Kyle and myself, we're tight and I tell Kyle Petty.
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  I say, Kyle, I'm afraid of the king.
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  I'm afraid of Richard Petty. Kyle looks at me in the face and
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  goes, me too, man. So the reason Dale Senior, most
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  likely the reason the way he was is because Ralph probably had
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  Dale Senior and said, OK boy, you're lucky I had you.
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  And that's where it ends with dads back in those days.
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  Now talk about 180° difference. Kenny here, little Kenny, born
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  in 1963. My Mama Judy, she raised me.
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  Now, she was rough around the edges too.
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  And mom's watching this and Mama smile because, you know, I'm
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  right. We just had this talk.
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  My Mama grew up in the city of Baltimore and she was on defense
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  all the time. And still to this day, my mom
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  Judy is on defense. What that means is you're never
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  going to get her and she's always got her guard up and
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  she's coming after you whether you're like it or not.
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  And she's coming after you whether she thinks she's doing
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  it or not, but she's coming after you at all times.
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  So to understand your mom and dad, you got to know what they
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  went through. I know what my dad went through.
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  My dad was a bad ass, but boys, he rough around the edges.
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  I think all of us want our mom and dads to love us, right?
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  We just want unconditional love. Don't want none of that bull
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  where they're going to tell you what to do and what you did
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  wrong. You just want your mom and dad
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  to go look, I love you, you know, like me right now.
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  I'm a soft dad now. I had to.
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  I discipline my kids when they need a discipline.
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  I whipped Brooke's ass one night and I felt awful and I still
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  feel bad about it. If she's watching the shoot, she
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  remembers it. All my girls do.
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  They got an ass whipping when they deserved it.
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  But I didn't beat my kids. But one thing they got, they got
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  reassurance that I love them. Brooke, Brandy, Brittany, come
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  here. Look me in the face.
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  I love you. Dad loves you.
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  Now get the outside. You're driving me nuts.
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  That's the way. That's the way I do it.
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  So the earn our documentary. I'm sure Ralph raised Dale
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  Senior the way Ralph was raised, and then eventually it Peters
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  out. So don't you know that Dale
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  Junior and Amy are going to raise those two little girls
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  with kid gloves? Just gold.
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  I listen to Bless Your Heart. It's a wonderful show by Amy and
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  Dale Junior and they tell a story about those two girls and
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  it's it's a great show, but you can just tell how much they love
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  them. To my friend Dale Junior and
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  Amy, I'm not sure if you're going to watch this.
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  Dale Junior tells me this. Kenny Wallace, I don't miss
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  anything you put out. And I think that's why Dale
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  Junior called me. And I think that's why we're
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  partners in crime right now. Kenny Conversation lives over on
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  Dale Junior's Dirty MO Medium. Herman Schrader lives on Dale
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  Junior's Dirty MO Media. I text Dale Junior all the time.
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  I said, buddy, I love you. Thank you for that, Kenny.
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  I text Dale Junior, my daughter's really affected by
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  this. Keep it coming.
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  I want to know everything. So what I want everybody to know
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  out there is Dale Junior and Amy are going to raise those kids
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  the way their daddy did not raise them.
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  And the same with me. The same with me.
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  Now, my Mama loves me and she raised me and I love my dad, but
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  my dad was rough around the edges.
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  And I know he loved me, but he was rough around the edges,
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  Brother Rusty, he's rough around the edges.
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  Schrader. I would never tell anybody how
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  to raise their kids, but I can tell you when they're rough
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  around the edges and I can tell you when they're a lover.
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  So no matter what way you were raised, there's a reason.
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  And it wasn't right. It wasn't right, but you were
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  raised the way you were raised for a reason.
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  And I can tell you, my dad grew up in the city of Saint Louis,
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  and he watched his dad sell vacuum cleaners door to door.
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  Sometimes you get on the wrong side of the track.
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  My brother Rusty cannot tell me he loves me.
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  Why the is that? What is the deal there?
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  My daughter Brooke. I say I love you.
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  Brooke. She goes.
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  Me too. That's why I tease.
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  That's why I call my daughter Brooke the alpha female.
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  I say, Brooke, why don't you tell me you love me back?
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  Because you make too big of a deal out of it.
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  Dad. Brooke, do you tell?
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  Do you tell Charlotte and Mealy you love them?
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  It's so important to like look your kids right in the eyeballs
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  and say I love you. You're everything to me.
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  That's all it takes. And it just calms everything
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  down a little bit. So I'm sure that the reason Dale
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  Senior raised while he wasn't even around at times, right?
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  But it's a tough road and I can tell you this.
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  Do not let your childhood define the man you become.
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  I think the reason I'm awesome is because my Mama Judy saved
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  the day. My mom gave me so much love.
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  It was unreal. She was a bad ass.
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  I love my dad, but I was afraid of my dad.
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  I'm a child of the 60s. All it took was my Mama to say
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  wait till your father comes home.
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  I'm scared to death. Schrader, Rusty Dale senior born
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  in the 50s. Their dads remember their dads
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  because they were born and learned about the Depression.
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  They're on defense. Holy, I got kids.
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  How am I going to raise them? It ain't easy, everybody.
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  So when you see Dale Junior and you see Amy, tell him you love
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  him. Have a great day everybody.