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What To Do When You Feel Stuck & On A Losing Streak. How I Crumbled & What It Taught Me · Beyond Limits With Olivia Marie

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  SPEAKER_00: Hello and welcome to the Live Well Podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm your host, Liv, a natural classic doctor, 70 energy healer, and car reader.
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  SPEAKER_00: I help women heal on a physical and emotional level so that they can feel delicious and magnetic.
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  SPEAKER_00: After all, isn't that the whole point?
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  SPEAKER_00: Look, you've done the basic bitch on this stuff, but you're still bloated, tired, and in pain.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's where I come in.
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  SPEAKER_00: In these episodes, we will have an honest conversation without all the fluffy bullshit.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're gonna walk away with insight, tools, and tips to finally kill your body, mind, and soul.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you are looking to live well, you are in the right place.
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  SPEAKER_00: For ways to work with me, visit keepupwithlive.com and follow me on Instagram at keep up with live for more.
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  SPEAKER_00: And with that, let's get into the show.
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  SPEAKER_00: Alrighty, welcome back to the podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am back with another fiery mini seat.
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  SPEAKER_00: I want to keep these short and quick to the point to give you guys the fire.
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  SPEAKER_00: You might have to listen to this twice because this is everything that I when I see people stuck, this is everything why I'm gonna share with you kind of the towering crumbling um synopsis of like January and February for me.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, and this was actually a request.
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  SPEAKER_00: I love when you guys put in requests on Instagram for what to do when you feel like you are stuck and you are on a losing streak.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I'm gonna talk about that.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna talk about how I crumbled and what it taught me.
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  SPEAKER_00: So what you resist persists.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let me say that again.
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  SPEAKER_00: What you resist persists.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you feel stuck, it is because you are in a state of resistance.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are not allowing, and you are holding on to something with a grip out of fear of losing it.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are not stuck.
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  SPEAKER_00: The only thing blocking you is you, and that is because deep down there is something that you feel afraid of.
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  SPEAKER_00: There is a fear deep down that if you actually were to let go, what would happen?
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  SPEAKER_00: And so the longer you resist, the bigger this stuck feeling becomes, and then you ask yourself, What are you doing?
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  SPEAKER_00: And you feel like you're on a losing streak.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are not on a losing streak, I promise.
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  SPEAKER_00: What's the issue is that you are not allowing yourself to go to that other level, you are not allowing yourself to crumble, to feel deeper, and you are not asking what is in resistance.
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  SPEAKER_00: Ask yourself, what are you resisting doing?
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  SPEAKER_00: The stuck feeling is caused by resistance.
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you resisting doing the emotional work?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you resisting actually doing an audit of your life of like, all right, think about where you're feeling stuck?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is it in your health?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is it in your business?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is it in your love life?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is it in your relationship?
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  SPEAKER_00: Whatever it is.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's because you're resisting something there.
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  SPEAKER_00: Get curious because there's something there that you're resisting, and it all starts with you.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, where are you feeling called to go?
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  SPEAKER_00: Or what are you feeling called to do that you know would be expansive, but your ego comes in and is scared, and it's like, nope, that's that's different.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you want to get unstuck, you actually have to do the work.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you feel stuck, it is because you are being called to greater levels of alignment.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you cannot have that greater level of alignment given what you are surrounding yourself with at the moment.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it feels like you're on a losing streak.
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  SPEAKER_00: However, this is the time to get curious and do an audit of your life and allow things to crumble.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna weave in kind of like a little bit of my story as we go through this.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I know because I've been there.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like I say, I like to lead the way.
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  SPEAKER_00: I go first and then I help y'all along the way.
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  SPEAKER_00: I felt stuck.
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  SPEAKER_00: December, also, Florida, astrocartography-wise, is not a great zone for me.
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  SPEAKER_00: Whatever.
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  SPEAKER_00: Wish I knew that before going, but now I have a map of the world and what's good for my soul.
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  SPEAKER_00: So highly recommend on a side note, astro cartography reading.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, I was holding on too much out of fear of losing the things I was holding on to.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's what kept me blocked, and that's what kept me stuck longer than it should have.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is only when I completely surrendered and allowed everything to crumble that I was able to get unstuck and start the momentum, momentum.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because the universe of the guys are like, all right, Liv, you can't take all this shit with you to your next level.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you can hold on to that and be stuck and feel like crap, or you can surrender, let go.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, that letting go, hard.
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  SPEAKER_00: I literally took an audit of my entire life and every facet.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the more you try to stop everything from crumbling, and I've also at the same time got so many messages from you guys that you guys are undergoing your own crumbling, everything's crumbling around you, it's because it's meant to be built something better.
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  SPEAKER_00: I know, having been on that side and this side now, I know it's easier said than done.
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  SPEAKER_00: You have to allow yourself to crumble.
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  SPEAKER_00: How deep can you allow everything around you to fall apart?
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  SPEAKER_00: Can you allow everything to fall apart and not grip on?
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  SPEAKER_00: So that's what I did.
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  SPEAKER_00: I did a complete audit of every facet of my life.
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  SPEAKER_00: Every single human being who I was interacting with, every, like every all the facets of my business, all the facets of myself.
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  SPEAKER_00: Every, yeah, I said relationships, I said business, where is living?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like when I tell you I was crumbling, I mean like no how no idea where to live.
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  SPEAKER_00: All the relationships in my life, I would feel like I was auditing and crumbling, completely out of my business, feeling like I don't know what the next evolution is.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like I feel it, but I didn't know what it was.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right?
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  SPEAKER_00: You need to allow the crumble.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now that I'm on the other side, I'm telling you, you are not stuck, you are not on a losing streak.
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  SPEAKER_00: You will stay stuck if you do not allow the crumble.
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  SPEAKER_00: What are you afraid of if you allow the crumble?
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  SPEAKER_00: What are you afraid of if you loosen your grip?
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  SPEAKER_00: That is the only thing blocking you.
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  SPEAKER_00: So what I literally did, and I when I say I was towering crumbling, I mean like it was it was a couple months of like deep, my whole body was crumbling, my whole ego, everything was like a deep surrender.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I had to get rid of a lot of stuff in my way.
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  SPEAKER_00: I had to make have very difficult conversations with people and let go a lot of different kinds of relationships to make room for more.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's because you cannot bring it to that next level.
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  SPEAKER_00: I cannot expand to my next level by bringing along people who do not support me, who are not happy with me.
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  SPEAKER_00: Get curious about what is not in alignment, career, relationships.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is both friendship and romantic.
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  SPEAKER_00: And now that I did, let me tell you the amazing friendships, the amazing relationship that I have in my life.
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  SPEAKER_00: But it was only because I allowed every single facet of my life to crumble.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is why you're stuck.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is why you feel like you are on a losing streak.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because I know I was there.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was like, why this, why like I don't know where to live, I don't know this, like, and it's because I wasn't allowing the crumble and I wasn't being the embodiment.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I put my socks up, I completely surrendered.
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  SPEAKER_00: It took time.
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  SPEAKER_00: It took a month.
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, once I fully surrendered.
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  SPEAKER_00: Once I fully surrendered, I maybe say three weeks once I fully surrendered.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was resisting for a long time because it is scary.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm here to tell you that it is scary.
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  SPEAKER_00: But you have to let go.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you allow yourself to crumble, that is only when you are going to feel unstuck.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, definitely go back and listen to um, I think it's a few podcast episodes ago, about how to bring yourself more into alignment and what you need to do when you're feeling low vibe.
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  SPEAKER_00: Do not get me wrong.
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  SPEAKER_00: There are things like, yes, you can sage, meditate, take cleansing showers.
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  SPEAKER_00: Do all those things too.
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  SPEAKER_00: But all of those things will, what you'll find is that you'll feel good and then you'll get brought back down.
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  SPEAKER_00: You'll feel good and then you get brought back down, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because at the end of the day, there isn't enough Palo Santo in the world to cleanse you if you're having shitty people in your life that you know you need to get rid of.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you know they're not expansive, if you know you maybe you need to do the emotional work, if maybe you know you oh, oven's ready for lunch.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you know that you need to do deeper work on yourself, if you know you need to step out of this like a relationship, if you know it's no longer serving you, but you're maybe scared you're not gonna find another one, or you're scared you're not gonna find better friends, or you're scared, you know, about letting go of this business to do a different one, or to switch gears in your business to something different.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your ego will try to keep you safe.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your ego is why you feel stuck, and that's why you feel like you're on a losing streak.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're not.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this is not an opportunity to like this is an opportunity to get curious, not to shame, like, huh.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm in a losing streak.
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  SPEAKER_00: I feel stuck.
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  SPEAKER_00: Why?
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  SPEAKER_00: What is not in alignment?
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  SPEAKER_00: Where am I resisting?
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  SPEAKER_00: They seem like basic questions, but this is so so powerful.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I always say, like, self-love is the hardest thing you can do.
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  SPEAKER_00: Stuff for yourself is the hardest thing you can do.
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  SPEAKER_00: But if you want that growth, if you want to expand, this is your sign that you gotta do that deeper stuff.
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  unknown: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you feel like you are stuck and on a losing streak and you want my help, feel free to send me uh a DM and kind of give me the Cole's notes on where you're feeling stuck, and I will tell you which of my containers can help you, whether that's you know, one-on-one, whether we should do an energy healing, Akashic reading, whatever it is, because I know I didn't do it alone.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like it's really hard to do it alone.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm I'm not gonna lie.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you feel like you don't have the support that you need, I am here to support you.
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  SPEAKER_00: I have you.
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  SPEAKER_00: We can do this together and we can make it so that it doesn't have to be so long.
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  SPEAKER_00: Once I once I actually decided that I wasn't going to resist the crumbling anymore, it was very quick.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was, yeah, like I said, a couple weeks, which doesn't sound like that long, but like considering how much I was towering, that was a lot.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's preparing you for the next level.
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  SPEAKER_00: I promise.
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  SPEAKER_00: I've been on that side, I've been on this one.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you have any questions about this, let me know.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I feel like this was a short to the point answer.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you're feeling second on a losing streak, you need to stop resisting, you need to allow yourself to crumble, the more you'll resist, the more you try to fight it and bypass it instead of actually dealing with the root issue, whether that is depending on where you're feeling stuck.
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  SPEAKER_00: And know that where you're feeling stuck can also have influences from other parts of your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like me keeping shitty people in my life who were not supporting me and not happy for my growth and my business was affecting my business, was affecting my energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: So everything plays up to everyone.
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  SPEAKER_00: So even if you feel stuck in like one area, that's affecting your other areas too.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because you're an energetic being.
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  SPEAKER_00: How could it not, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So it's spring.
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  SPEAKER_00: Good opportunity to do an audit.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I want everyone listening to do an audit of your life, where you feel stuck, where you feel like you're in a losing streak.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then let me know, and I'll tell you how I can help.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: Alright, guys, if you have any more requests for little podcast episodes, I love it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I feel like this was like a a great little mini soda to do.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I will see you guys in the next episode.