Latest / Hurdle with Emily Abbate / 161. Caleb Marshall, 'The Fitness Marshall'
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- 0:00Speaker 1: Whenever I saw a door close, I was just like, Okay,
- 0:02Speaker 1: where's the next door? Like, how can I open that?
- 0:04Speaker 1: And I think that as I've gone on in this career,
- 0:08Speaker 1: that's become even more evident, because I cannot tell you
- 0:11Speaker 1: the amount of doors that are continuing to be shut
- 0:13Speaker 1: in my face. But the minute that happens, I give
- 0:17Speaker 1: myself a day, I'm sad and I get up and
- 0:19Speaker 1: there's another door right there, And that's always going to
- 0:22Speaker 1: be true. But the minute you just let yourself sit
- 0:25Speaker 1: in the sadness of rejection, you're never going to find
- 0:28Speaker 1: that next door and it's not going to pop up
- 0:30Speaker 1: before you decide to stand up and look for it.
- 0:47Speaker 2: Hey everyone, Emily a body here. You are listening to
- 0:49Speaker 2: episode one sixty one of Hurdle a While, this focus
- 0:53Speaker 2: podcast where I sit down with inspiring individuals to talk
- 0:56Speaker 2: about big wins, tough moments, and everything in between. On
- 1:00Speaker 2: the show, you can expect vulnerability, motivation, and candid discussions
- 1:05Speaker 2: with everyone from top athletes and CEOs to aspiring entrepreneurs
- 1:09Speaker 2: on what it really takes to follow your passions. My
- 1:12Speaker 2: mission is simple to inspire you to be your best self,
- 1:17Speaker 2: move with intention and have some fun along the way.
- 1:21Speaker 3: Today I am chatting with Caleb.
- 1:24Speaker 2: Marshall, better known to his three point two two million
- 1:28Speaker 2: YouTube followers and many more as the Fitness Marshal. In
- 1:33Speaker 2: today's episode, we talk about his journey to becoming a
- 1:37Speaker 2: top YouTube creator, where he uses his platform to spread joy,
- 1:42Speaker 2: self love, and confidence to many people all around the globe,
- 1:47Speaker 2: using as one of a kind, as he likes to
- 1:49Speaker 2: call them, fit entertainment routines. Seriously, go check out his channel,
- 1:53Speaker 2: It's just the Fitness Marshal over on YouTube, and you
- 1:57Speaker 2: will not only have a blast, probably laugh a ton,
- 2:00Speaker 2: but also if you give it a whirl and go
- 2:03Speaker 2: out one of these routines, you are going to sweat
- 2:06Speaker 2: up a workout.
- 2:08Speaker 3: There are so many things I love about this episode.
- 2:10Speaker 2: We talk about everything from his upbringing and coming out
- 2:13Speaker 2: during his teenage years to going to college and coming
- 2:16Speaker 2: to terms with the fact that he needed to pursue
- 2:18Speaker 2: a career doing what he loved, and what he loved
- 2:22Speaker 2: was dancing. We also talk about what it was like
- 2:24Speaker 2: for him to build his YouTube channel, what goes into
- 2:27Speaker 2: creating all of these videos, which the production quality is
- 2:31Speaker 2: absolutely unreal, the battles and the hurdles that he has
- 2:34Speaker 2: conquered along the way. Caleb just gives off this beautiful
- 2:39Speaker 2: energy and the way that.
- 2:40Speaker 3: He speaks and the content that he produces.
- 2:42Speaker 2: He's really just putting into the world this beautiful vibe
- 2:45Speaker 2: that no matter your age, your size, your ability, your gender, expression,
- 2:50Speaker 2: your color, everyone has a place period and he didn't
- 2:54Speaker 2: always feel that way. So I just I can really
- 2:57Speaker 2: relate to his messaging. I'm really amped to have on
- 3:00Speaker 2: the show today and I love everything that we get into. Now,
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- 4:46Speaker 2: I am sitting down with Caleb Marshall Better knows is
- 4:49Speaker 2: three point twenty five million YouTube subscribers and growing and
- 4:54Speaker 2: many more as the Fitness Marshall. Hi, hello to us.
- 5:00Speaker 2: First and foremost, what is the fitness Marshal?
- 5:03Speaker 1: Oh gosh, what's the best way to explain it? The
- 5:06Speaker 1: Fitness Marshal, I like to say, is like Britney Spears
- 5:10Speaker 1: mixed with Richard Simmons and one giant celebratory musical fitness Baby.
- 5:16Speaker 1: So we are here having a good time, celebrating dance,
- 5:19Speaker 1: moving our bodies and just really making fitness fun and exciting,
- 5:23Speaker 1: which I think was sorely missing kind of before my era.
- 5:28Speaker 1: And so it's just been really exciting to get to
- 5:31Speaker 1: celebrate people's bodies and dance and music without all of
- 5:34Speaker 1: the barriers to entry and the intimidation that comes with
- 5:38Speaker 1: just having fun and pretending to be a pop star.
- 5:42Speaker 2: I love that kind of concept, like being a fitness
- 5:45Speaker 2: pop star. When that terminology like came around for the
- 5:48Speaker 2: first time, you were like, that's it, That's exactly what
- 5:51Speaker 2: I'm doing here.
- 5:52Speaker 1: Well, I kind of I mean not to toot my
- 5:55Speaker 1: own horn, but I kind of coined that myself because
- 5:58Speaker 1: I was super insecure with my body. You know, when
- 6:01Speaker 1: I was younger, and I remember I love to perform,
- 6:04Speaker 1: and that was kind of my escape where I felt
- 6:06Speaker 1: the most confident in the most secure in myself. And
- 6:10Speaker 1: so once I got to college, I was even more like,
- 6:13Speaker 1: oh my gosh, like I'm getting older, I don't know
- 6:15Speaker 1: how to get into fitness, and I really also have
- 6:19Speaker 1: all of these negative associations with my body. And I
- 6:23Speaker 1: realized that the thing that helped me so much when
- 6:25Speaker 1: I was younger was just the stage and the escape
- 6:28Speaker 1: was the same thing that I could use to help
- 6:30Speaker 1: me get into fitness and make it something that I
- 6:33Speaker 1: enjoyed and that was fun and exciting. And so I
- 6:35Speaker 1: really just married those two things, and I realized that
- 6:40Speaker 1: almost everything in life can be solved by pretending to
- 6:42Speaker 1: be a pop star.
- 6:44Speaker 2: Now you're moving with millions of people. But was movement
- 6:47Speaker 2: always like something that you were really into? Were you
- 6:50Speaker 2: active growing up?
- 6:51Speaker 1: Like what's the oh, I guess you know. I don't
- 6:53Speaker 1: think that you could have found one person in my
- 6:56Speaker 1: life that would have said, you know, Cale's Kale's going
- 6:58Speaker 1: to be a fitness pop start. No, I was not
- 7:01Speaker 1: into fitness. I loathed it. I thought it was boring.
- 7:04Speaker 1: I thought it was hard. I did not. I thought
- 7:07Speaker 1: you had to be a certain type of person to
- 7:09Speaker 1: do fitness, so unless you had a six pack or
- 7:12Speaker 1: you looked like the people on the fitness DVDs, like
- 7:15Speaker 1: that's who fitness was for. And so it was something
- 7:19Speaker 1: that I had really just counted out from the beginning
- 7:21Speaker 1: because of all of the barriers to entry. And so I,
- 7:25Speaker 1: you know, I played sports. My parents said that until
- 7:29Speaker 1: I turned ten, I had to play basketball and baseball
- 7:32Speaker 1: and soccer, and so I got to, you know, kind
- 7:35Speaker 1: of test the waters and experience those things. But I
- 7:38Speaker 1: also was really into dance and performing, so at the
- 7:41Speaker 1: same time, I got into tap dance and hip hop
- 7:44Speaker 1: and jazz, and I got to do other things that
- 7:47Speaker 1: weren't me moving my body. But I don't think it
- 7:49Speaker 1: registered to me that, oh, that can be fitness too.
- 7:52Speaker 1: In my mind, it was like, no sports is fitness.
- 7:55Speaker 1: Lifting weights' fitness. Crying in the mirror and pinching yourself
- 7:59Speaker 1: while doing jumping jacks's fitness. I never thought that something
- 8:04Speaker 1: that could be so fun could be a way to
- 8:07Speaker 1: actually keep yourself healthy and work out. And so it's
- 8:12Speaker 1: weird because I guess in my mind, I say no
- 8:14Speaker 1: but I guess the answer is yes, I was moving
- 8:16Speaker 1: my body.
- 8:17Speaker 2: And I mean you said until ten, your parents were
- 8:19Speaker 2: really enthusiastic about you playing all of these sports.
- 8:22Speaker 3: Was there like some sort of like prior it's.
- 8:25Speaker 1: So weird, like the age of the numbers, Like I
- 8:27Speaker 1: remember when I was younger, I couldn't watch cartoons that
- 8:31Speaker 1: were TV Y seven until I was seven. I couldn't
- 8:35Speaker 1: watch PG thirteen movies until I was thirteen. Like it
- 8:38Speaker 1: was very like God has said Spider Man is for
- 8:42Speaker 1: thirteen year old and older. Like it was so weird
- 8:45Speaker 1: how numbers work. So I think they were just like,
- 8:47Speaker 1: until you turn ten, you have to play sports, and
- 8:50Speaker 1: then we will give up and let you do whatever
- 8:52Speaker 1: you want.
- 8:53Speaker 3: Geez okay.
- 8:55Speaker 2: So when you say you could do whatever you want,
- 8:58Speaker 2: was there like a conversation that dance was the move?
- 9:01Speaker 3: Literally?
- 9:02Speaker 1: You know what? I think that it was just I
- 9:07Speaker 1: was already in it, and so I was already doing
- 9:09Speaker 1: dance and acting, and so it was more like, hey,
- 9:12Speaker 1: now you have more time to take even more dance
- 9:14Speaker 1: classes and more acting classes, and I really just got
- 9:17Speaker 1: to dive in to what I loved and kind of
- 9:20Speaker 1: let go of the things that really didn't make me
- 9:22Speaker 1: so happy, which is really cool that my parents did
- 9:24Speaker 1: that because I didn't feel the pressure to please them
- 9:29Speaker 1: or really be something else for them. I really got
- 9:31Speaker 1: to be celebrated and the things that I loved doing,
- 9:34Speaker 1: and so that was really exciting just to have that
- 9:36Speaker 1: space to do that, especially not feeling confident as a kid,
- 9:39Speaker 1: like I wasn't the popular one. I didn't like the
- 9:41Speaker 1: way my body looked, I didn't really feel like I
- 9:43Speaker 1: fit in. But when I was on stage, that was
- 9:46Speaker 1: my escape, and that's where I felt like I could.
- 9:49Speaker 1: I could be myself and be super confident and have
- 9:52Speaker 1: the time of my life. And so it was really
- 9:54Speaker 1: exciting just to get to explore that and have that
- 9:56Speaker 1: escape as a kid, especially because I don't know what
- 9:59Speaker 1: I would have don not having that, like going to
- 10:02Speaker 1: school and having a bad time and then coming home
- 10:05Speaker 1: and having nothing to like make me like full or
- 10:10Speaker 1: feel fulfilled. So I think it would have been really
- 10:12Speaker 1: scary had I not had. You know, the performing arts.
- 10:16Speaker 2: So when you start to get into the performing arts,
- 10:20Speaker 2: where do you see this going at the time. Did
- 10:23Speaker 2: you have like an aspiration to be an actor, did
- 10:25Speaker 2: you like want to move to New York and be
- 10:27Speaker 2: on Broadway, Like what did you want to do?
- 10:28Speaker 1: I wanted to be a Disney Channel star. I thought
- 10:32Speaker 1: that by the time I was fourteen, I was going
- 10:36Speaker 1: to be Caleb Colorado. Hannah Montana would be canceled, I
- 10:40Speaker 1: would be the next superstar. And I really thought that
- 10:44Speaker 1: I that was just my trajectory. I mean, I don't
- 10:47Speaker 1: think that I had a full plan in my mind,
- 10:50Speaker 1: especially not for fitness. But I knew that in some way,
- 10:53Speaker 1: like I had to perform because I knew that I
- 10:55Speaker 1: wasn't met for doing anything else that I couldn't really
- 10:58Speaker 1: put all of my passion to. And so I thought
- 11:01Speaker 1: that I was going to go to LA get picked
- 11:05Speaker 1: up by a casting agent. And I remember going like
- 11:08Speaker 1: when I got to high school, I got to start
- 11:10Speaker 1: going out to LA once a year for auditions, and
- 11:12Speaker 1: I got told no, no, no, no, no, we don't
- 11:17Speaker 1: need you. You're not And it wasn't all bad, but
- 11:19Speaker 1: it was never I never got picked. I was never
- 11:22Speaker 1: the one that got signed for anything. I never got
- 11:25Speaker 1: past the first round of the audition. And so it
- 11:28Speaker 1: was really soul crushing for me to realize that the
- 11:31Speaker 1: thing that I thought that I was really good at
- 11:33Speaker 1: and met four in this world, no one else felt
- 11:36Speaker 1: the same way, and so it took me kind of
- 11:40Speaker 1: just accepting that that wasn't my path and kind of
- 11:43Speaker 1: moving on from that. And I like, when I got
- 11:45Speaker 1: to college, I had thought that door closed. I was like,
- 11:47Speaker 1: I turned eighteen, I've got the crease is setting in
- 11:51Speaker 1: my I got some smile lines coming. I'm not going
- 11:54Speaker 1: to be a child actor anymore. And I really thought
- 11:56Speaker 1: that it was all over because I had listened to
- 11:59Speaker 1: all of these people who had told me what I
- 12:01Speaker 1: was supposed to do with my life, and I kept
- 12:03Speaker 1: trying to put myself in a box for this person
- 12:05Speaker 1: and this person instead of just creating my own and
- 12:08Speaker 1: I think getting all of that rejection, I had two choices.
- 12:12Speaker 1: One I could listen to it and be sad and
- 12:15Speaker 1: defeated the rest of my life and say, oh, this
- 12:18Speaker 1: world sucks and it wasn't meant for me. Or I
- 12:20Speaker 1: could make my own path and be like, you know what, No,
- 12:23Speaker 1: I'm going to double down on the things that I
- 12:25Speaker 1: love doing the most and create something out of that
- 12:28Speaker 1: instead of trying to just create something that's already out
- 12:31Speaker 1: there for somebody else where.
- 12:34Speaker 2: Do you think that level of determination came from in you,
- 12:39Speaker 2: because I think a lot of people would have maybe
- 12:43Speaker 2: not by choice, but just because of circumstance, gone with
- 12:47Speaker 2: that option one.
- 12:49Speaker 1: You know what, I think it's really the way just
- 12:52Speaker 1: my I'm wired. I when I get it might be
- 12:56Speaker 1: the add it. I just when I have something that
- 13:00Speaker 1: I want, I go for it. And I really didn't
- 13:02Speaker 1: have another option because I'm not good at a lot
- 13:06Speaker 1: of other things that would require me to do a
- 13:08Speaker 1: traditional job. I have a really hard time with the
- 13:11Speaker 1: planning and the organizing and the putting energy and effort
- 13:15Speaker 1: into things that don't spark my passion. Like I can't
- 13:18Speaker 1: emphasize enough that I have to do what I love,
- 13:21Speaker 1: and so I just never even gave myself a plan
- 13:24Speaker 1: B for that. It was it when I guess whenever
- 13:29Speaker 1: I saw a door close, I was just like, Okay,
- 13:30Speaker 1: where's the next door? Like how can I open that?
- 13:33Speaker 1: And I think that as I've gone on in this career,
- 13:36Speaker 1: that's become even more evident because I cannot tell you
- 13:39Speaker 1: the amount of doors that are continuing to be shut
- 13:42Speaker 1: in my face. But the minute that happens, I give
- 13:45Speaker 1: myself a day, I'm sad and I get up and
- 13:47Speaker 1: there's another door right there, and that's always going to
- 13:50Speaker 1: be true. But the minute you just let yourself sit
- 13:53Speaker 1: in the sadness of rejection, you're never going to find
- 13:56Speaker 1: that next door, and it's not going to pop up
- 13:58Speaker 1: before you decide to stand up.
- 14:00Speaker 2: Look for it.
- 14:00Speaker 3: Love that piece of advice.
- 14:02Speaker 2: So you mentioned getting to college feeling a little unsure.
- 14:06Speaker 3: What are you majoring in At the time.
- 14:08Speaker 1: I majored in video production. So I decided when I
- 14:11Speaker 1: went to college that I was not meant to be
- 14:14Speaker 1: in front of the camera. I was like, Nope, that's
- 14:16Speaker 1: not for you. You are going to be behind And
- 14:18Speaker 1: I genuinely do love being behind the camera. I love
- 14:20Speaker 1: the production aspect of it. I still edit and shoot
- 14:23Speaker 1: all my own videos. But I went to school thinking
- 14:27Speaker 1: that that's all I was going to do, and so
- 14:30Speaker 1: I kind of spent that whole time taking all of
- 14:33Speaker 1: these production classes, but really I was simultaneously teaching these
- 14:37Speaker 1: dance fitness classes. Because I got to college and I
- 14:40Speaker 1: felt so sad because I wasn't on stage, I wasn't performing,
- 14:44Speaker 1: and I felt like a piece of me kind of died.
- 14:47Speaker 1: And I started also really getting nervous because I was,
- 14:51Speaker 1: you know, a gay man eighteen going to college, and
- 14:54Speaker 1: I had no idea how to have a healthy relationship
- 14:57Speaker 1: with fitness. And the first thing that I decided to
- 14:59Speaker 1: do it was take this dance fitness class that reminded
- 15:03Speaker 1: me of an old Zuba class that I took in
- 15:05Speaker 1: high school. And it was this moment where I felt
- 15:07Speaker 1: like I got to be on stage and feel confident
- 15:10Speaker 1: in myself and feel that that rush of euphoria that
- 15:14Speaker 1: I got when I was on stage.
- 15:16Speaker 2: You mentioned coming into college being a gay man. When
- 15:20Speaker 2: did you come out.
- 15:22Speaker 1: I came out at I think it's sixteen or seventeen.
- 15:24Speaker 1: It was right before my senior year of high school.
- 15:28Speaker 3: Talk to me about that experience for you.
- 15:30Speaker 1: So, I mean, it was really hard. It's not something
- 15:32Speaker 1: I planned on doing. I come from a conservative Christian
- 15:36Speaker 1: family and there were very traditional values implanted in my
- 15:39Speaker 1: brain and I don't think that for a second anyone
- 15:42Speaker 1: thought that this tap dancing sky dancer's Barbie loving boy
- 15:50Speaker 1: wouldever like be anything but a CIS straight man. And
- 15:56Speaker 1: it was something that I had to I guess. I
- 16:01Speaker 1: guess I was kind of forced out in a way
- 16:03Speaker 1: because I had a boyfriend when I was, I think
- 16:07Speaker 1: set sixteen seventeen. My mom went through my phone and
- 16:10Speaker 1: found text between us, and then, I mean all hell
- 16:14Speaker 1: broke loose because she was like, you're never seeing him again.
- 16:17Speaker 1: The whole family knows about this. This is not happening.
- 16:20Speaker 1: Why are you doing this? It was all and it
- 16:23Speaker 1: was so crazy because it was all about them. It
- 16:26Speaker 1: was all about how they felt. Meanwhile, I'm terrified. I
- 16:30Speaker 1: have been struggling with my sexuality since I was a child.
- 16:33Speaker 1: I mean, my first prussures in kindergarten. I can remember
- 16:35Speaker 1: I had like little butterflies for a boy. My entire life,
- 16:37Speaker 1: I've been so scared that at some moment I'm going
- 16:40Speaker 1: to be found out and I'm going to be exposed
- 16:43Speaker 1: and everything's going to be over. And so that moment
- 16:46Speaker 1: finally happens, and then somehow it becomes all about how
- 16:49Speaker 1: my mom felt, how my grandparents felt, how my dad feels.
- 16:52Speaker 1: And so it took a minute for I think everyone
- 16:56Speaker 1: to realize, wait a minute, I'm the one going through this,
- 16:58Speaker 1: Like this sucks for me not choosing this. It's not
- 17:01Speaker 1: like this is the shirt that I decided to try
- 17:03Speaker 1: on today, Like I'm stuck with this for my life,
- 17:06Speaker 1: and at that point in time, I had still been
- 17:08Speaker 1: trying to like pray the gay away my whole middle
- 17:12Speaker 1: I mean middle school, high school. It was awful, and
- 17:14Speaker 1: so I had gotten to a point where I accepted myself,
- 17:17Speaker 1: and I was so frustrated that everyone around me was
- 17:20Speaker 1: kind of where I was in middle school, and I
- 17:22Speaker 1: was like, no, I'm already here, like this is who
- 17:24Speaker 1: I am, and I not a single part of me
- 17:27Speaker 1: thought about going back in the closet breaking up with
- 17:30Speaker 1: this person. It's like we talked about I mean, I
- 17:34Speaker 1: am who I am. I'm passionate about who I'm passionate about,
- 17:36Speaker 1: and if you don't like that, then I'm so sorry.
- 17:40Speaker 1: But it took a while for them to kind of
- 17:44Speaker 1: learn and accept. And it only took them, I would say,
- 17:46Speaker 1: about a year to really integrate my partner with the
- 17:49Speaker 1: family and for everything to be okay. A lot of
- 17:51Speaker 1: kids don't have that. Kids get will get kicked out,
- 17:54Speaker 1: will never speak to their family again. Like my family
- 17:57Speaker 1: loved me enough to learn, but it was not something
- 18:00Speaker 1: I think anyone was prepared to have to even start
- 18:03Speaker 1: thinking about. So I'm really grateful that I still have
- 18:05Speaker 1: the relationship with my family that I do, but it'll
- 18:09Speaker 1: always be sad that it's something that I had to
- 18:14Speaker 1: help other people go through, because it's really it'd be
- 18:18Speaker 1: really nice to grow up and just feel loved and
- 18:19Speaker 1: accepted from the beginning. And that's what I think is
- 18:21Speaker 1: really exciting for gen Z and like the new generations
- 18:25Speaker 1: that are going to have just a lot more understanding
- 18:27Speaker 1: and acceptance because of the generations who didn't have that.
- 18:31Speaker 2: Yeah, can you even imagine what you would have done
- 18:34Speaker 2: if she hadn't found your phone?
- 18:38Speaker 1: No? I mean really, I don't know if I ever
- 18:40Speaker 1: would have had the courage to have that conversation. Like,
- 18:42Speaker 1: I hate confrontation. I loathe it. I would rather you
- 18:47Speaker 1: can just put me in a barrel and roll me
- 18:50Speaker 1: down the hill and I just would never have to
- 18:53Speaker 1: talk to you about it again. Like I think that's
- 18:56Speaker 1: really difficult for a lot of people, and so I
- 18:58Speaker 1: never That's why I hate when people were forced out
- 19:00Speaker 1: of the closet or people get upset at other others
- 19:03Speaker 1: for not coming out or making this big statement. But
- 19:07Speaker 1: it really is such a personal and terrifying journey. And
- 19:11Speaker 1: so while I'm grateful that I was forced out and
- 19:13Speaker 1: I was actually forced out of my friends too. I
- 19:15Speaker 1: had friends when I was like fifteen. They sat me
- 19:18Speaker 1: down and they said it was like a group of
- 19:21Speaker 1: like four of them, one being the guy that I
- 19:22Speaker 1: ended up dating as my first boyfriend, and they were like, Caleb,
- 19:26Speaker 1: we love you. You are homosexual. We know it. You know it.
- 19:32Speaker 1: You are gay. And I was like, oh my god, stop, no,
- 19:34Speaker 1: I am not. And then I just had a moment
- 19:39Speaker 1: where I could like kind of start inching my way out.
- 19:42Speaker 1: And I'm so grateful they did that because it allowed
- 19:45Speaker 1: me to live my truth. But again, everyone's journey is unique.
- 19:48Speaker 1: So for someone else that might be terrifying and awful
- 19:51Speaker 1: for them to be like forced out or found out.
- 19:53Speaker 1: So it is all so individual. But in my experience,
- 19:57Speaker 1: I'm glad that I had my friend friends there first
- 20:01Speaker 1: who kind of knew about my sexuality for I would
- 20:03Speaker 1: say almost a year before my family did. And it
- 20:06Speaker 1: really gave me that feeling of having my chosen family
- 20:09Speaker 1: because even if my family didn't accept it, my friends
- 20:12Speaker 1: loved me so much and so that made it so
- 20:15Speaker 1: much easier. And that's why I'm a big proponent of
- 20:18Speaker 1: chosen family and family doesn't have to be blood it's
- 20:21Speaker 1: the people who would love you when are there for you,
- 20:23Speaker 1: and who fill you up and can grow with you.
- 20:27Speaker 3: With a reach like yours.
- 20:29Speaker 2: You probably get asked a lot of questions about coming out,
- 20:34Speaker 2: and for someone who may be struggling with doing so
- 20:38Speaker 2: in their home, I mean again, very big difference for
- 20:40Speaker 2: you being forced out, being found out versus coming out
- 20:44Speaker 2: on your own choice. But what do you say to
- 20:46Speaker 2: those people who come into your dms and are like, help,
- 20:49Speaker 2: I don't know what to do.
- 20:50Speaker 1: It's really it's really difficult because it is so unique.
- 20:54Speaker 1: But I think that the most important thing is that
- 20:56Speaker 1: everyone is living their truth and is able to be
- 21:00Speaker 1: confident in who they are. And when you tell people
- 21:04Speaker 1: who don't agree or who you're scared to tell, that
- 21:07Speaker 1: is their own journey. So if they don't accept you
- 21:10Speaker 1: for being you, if they try to change you, that
- 21:12Speaker 1: is their baggage. That doesn't mean you could have told
- 21:15Speaker 1: them any differently. That doesn't mean you did something wrong.
- 21:18Speaker 1: That doesn't mean you should change who you are. That
- 21:20Speaker 1: means that they have something they need to work on
- 21:22Speaker 1: within themselves. So have the courage and the bravery to
- 21:26Speaker 1: tell your truth. But know that someone not receiving that
- 21:29Speaker 1: well has no bearing on you, and that is the
- 21:33Speaker 1: hardest thing for people to accept. But whoever is there
- 21:37Speaker 1: for you after you are living as your most authentic self,
- 21:40Speaker 1: those are the people who are supposed to be around you.
- 21:42Speaker 1: So it's kind of a necessary spring cleaning, a necessary awakening,
- 21:47Speaker 1: and it's uncomfortable, but just know that all of that
- 21:51Speaker 1: that is going to be happening after is other people
- 21:54Speaker 1: working through their own shit. Not You.
- 21:57Speaker 2: Love that piece of advice, And again, as you said,
- 22:01Speaker 2: chosen family is kind of what happens as a result
- 22:04Speaker 2: as a result of that. So you mentioned taking those
- 22:08Speaker 2: dance cardio classes in college. Do you remember in college
- 22:12Speaker 2: the first dance cardio class that you actually went to?
- 22:15Speaker 2: Because when I think about going dance cardio class, I
- 22:18Speaker 2: feel like there's like that initial hurdle, so to speak,
- 22:21Speaker 2: when you get in there and you're like, am I
- 22:23Speaker 2: really just about to be like completely in inhibited and
- 22:26Speaker 2: like go completely wild in here?
- 22:28Speaker 1: There there was this and I remember the instructor, her
- 22:31Speaker 1: name is Kayla, and she she was leading this like
- 22:35Speaker 1: the first week of college classes and it was this
- 22:37Speaker 1: Far East Movement song, and I remember we were like
- 22:41Speaker 1: like making this big movie. Were like driving our arms
- 22:43Speaker 1: like this, going backside to side and everyone just having
- 22:46Speaker 1: so much fun, like pretending they're driving a car down
- 22:49Speaker 1: like Las Vegas Boulevard, and I was like, oh my god,
- 22:52Speaker 1: this is so fun, like this is a big party.
- 22:56Speaker 1: And it was the same feeling like I took a
- 22:59Speaker 1: Zooma class in high school and I got the same thing.
- 23:02Speaker 1: It was Sean Kingston's fire burning on the dance floor.
- 23:04Speaker 1: I remember we were like, shohtie bay get burn it
- 23:06Speaker 1: on the dance and it was so much fun. And
- 23:09Speaker 1: that was my teacher, Natalie. That was like my dance
- 23:11Speaker 1: teacher from middle school was teaching the Zooma class to
- 23:14Speaker 1: me in high school. And it's all these like little
- 23:17Speaker 1: things that kept happening, and I kept having the same
- 23:20Speaker 1: euphoric rush when I was in these dance cardio classes
- 23:23Speaker 1: that I thought were just for somebody else's mom, and
- 23:26Speaker 1: then I was like wait a minute, no, like this
- 23:28Speaker 1: is exactly what I need.
- 23:30Speaker 3: Somebody else's mom. But so true.
- 23:35Speaker 2: I mean, I think growing up, like we're all exposed
- 23:38Speaker 2: to dance in such a way, especially dance cardio where
- 23:40Speaker 2: it's like mom goes to step aerobics, Mom goes to zoomba,
- 23:43Speaker 2: like moms loved dancing growing.
- 23:45Speaker 1: Yep, yep, But moms get it. Obviously they're doing something
- 23:49Speaker 1: right because it is fun. It is not just for
- 23:53Speaker 1: one type of person. And also, I think that notion
- 23:57Speaker 1: of what's cool and what's in is something that I
- 24:00Speaker 1: dispise because I remember spending so much of my time
- 24:05Speaker 1: worrying about what's the end thing, what should I be doing,
- 24:09Speaker 1: what should my body look like, what's the new trend?
- 24:12Speaker 1: And then I realized there is no cool for a
- 24:16Speaker 1: certain age. It's just what do you have fun doing,
- 24:18Speaker 1: what do you enjoy doing, and that's all that matters.
- 24:21Speaker 1: If you're having a great time doing it, then it's correct.
- 24:24Speaker 1: It doesn't need to be the trendiest or whatever that
- 24:28Speaker 1: may be. If you are connecting to it, then you're
- 24:30Speaker 1: in the right place. And I think that's what I
- 24:32Speaker 1: love so much about the fitness martial inness space we've created.
- 24:35Speaker 1: It's it doesn't matter what your body type is, it
- 24:38Speaker 1: doesn't matter what age you are, it doesn't matter what
- 24:40Speaker 1: kind of music you're into, your dance experience, your sexuality,
- 24:43Speaker 1: your gender expression. Like, get on the dance floor and
- 24:46Speaker 1: move your body. Let's party.
- 24:48Speaker 3: Period my job. We're done that. We can be done
- 24:50Speaker 3: with this podcast. Now we're good. So you remember we
- 24:53Speaker 3: just recounted your first dance cardio class. It was great.
- 24:56Speaker 2: You were driving down the boulevard as you go to
- 24:58Speaker 2: graduation and you're trying to think about what you're going
- 25:00Speaker 2: to do in the world, and you're like, holy shit,
- 25:03Speaker 2: I'm going to launch a YouTube channel.
- 25:04Speaker 1: It's funny, say graduation. I didn't even go to my graduation.
- 25:08Speaker 1: I sat. I sat on my porch. I made myself
- 25:13Speaker 1: a really shitty margarita, and I had my cap and
- 25:16Speaker 1: gown on it, and I took the selfie and I
- 25:18Speaker 1: said happy graduation, Caleb. And graduation was happening, like literally
- 25:23Speaker 1: so close, and I was like, you know what. I
- 25:26Speaker 1: at that point, I was again so disconnected from my
- 25:30Speaker 1: major and the whole idea of you graduate and now
- 25:34Speaker 1: go find corporate job b and go do that. That
- 25:38Speaker 1: was not on my mind. I remember the summer between
- 25:41Speaker 1: junior year and senior year that I was going through
- 25:45Speaker 1: this awful time. That's when the guy that I was
- 25:48Speaker 1: dating we broke up. So but that was like my
- 25:51Speaker 1: first relationship and my it was like a five year
- 25:53Speaker 1: relationship and so I lost that, and then I was
- 25:56Speaker 1: having this moment of Okay, so my relationship's gone, and
- 26:00Speaker 1: I'm about to go into my senior year of college
- 26:02Speaker 1: and have no concept of what I want to do
- 26:04Speaker 1: for the rest of my life. And it was this
- 26:06Speaker 1: big aha moment of wait, you keep coming back to
- 26:10Speaker 1: these like cardio classes. The only thing you care about
- 26:13Speaker 1: is what new dance you're going to do next week.
- 26:16Speaker 1: If that's so important to you and that makes you
- 26:17Speaker 1: so happy, then let's make something out of that and
- 26:20Speaker 1: see if see if it sticks, Like, what's the worst
- 26:23Speaker 1: that could happen? No one watches your videos? Okay. So
- 26:26Speaker 1: I went home from this summer internship and I created
- 26:30Speaker 1: a YouTube channel and I created a brand behind it,
- 26:33Speaker 1: and I took the fitness Marshal because my last name
- 26:36Speaker 1: is Marshall, and I made it kind of like army
- 26:39Speaker 1: themed because my family has all been in the military.
- 26:43Speaker 1: And I think it's also really funny, like little game
- 26:45Speaker 1: me like dancing around mary pants. So it was just
- 26:49Speaker 1: really fun. And I just started pumping out like videos
- 26:53Speaker 1: every week. And I was remember in my senior year,
- 26:56Speaker 1: like I was doing all these projects, trying to I
- 26:59Speaker 1: was getting great, great but also at the same time,
- 27:01Speaker 1: all of my mental effort was in this YouTube channel,
- 27:04Speaker 1: and in eight months of starting it, by the time
- 27:07Speaker 1: I graduated, I had one hundred thousand subscribers, and so
- 27:10Speaker 1: that was really what I needed to know, Okay, this
- 27:13Speaker 1: is working, Like it's not like, Okay, you've gained just
- 27:17Speaker 1: you know, a thousand subscribers in a year, which it's
- 27:19Speaker 1: still really cool and amazing, but it was like it
- 27:22Speaker 1: gave me enough confidence to not run out and go
- 27:24Speaker 1: get a job I didn't want, and so I just
- 27:28Speaker 1: put everything I had into this YouTube channel that with
- 27:32Speaker 1: one hundred thousand subscribers was making me zero dollars because
- 27:36Speaker 1: I use copyrighted music and so I still to this
- 27:39Speaker 1: day don't monetize my videos, and I think that is
- 27:42Speaker 1: also a huge misconception. Yeah, that's a huge misconception because
- 27:46Speaker 1: people think once you have views, you have money, But
- 27:50Speaker 1: I mean, I have a copyright pan on every video
- 27:52Speaker 1: I put out, Like that's just that was never the
- 27:54Speaker 1: case with me, and so I had to be even
- 27:55Speaker 1: more creative. And luckily, like I found my partner who's
- 27:58Speaker 1: also my manager camera and we started dating a couple
- 28:01Speaker 1: of months after I graduated, and he's really like business brains.
- 28:06Speaker 1: I'm like, dance, creative, be happy, and he was like,
- 28:11Speaker 1: but how are you going to pay it? Rent? I
- 28:12Speaker 1: was like, be happy, dance and so it was a
- 28:16Speaker 1: really good kind of merging of two worlds and he
- 28:19Speaker 1: kind of helped build out all of the business parts
- 28:22Speaker 1: of it. And we've really in six years, me, Cameron
- 28:25Speaker 1: and my two best friends from high school who are
- 28:27Speaker 1: our backup booties, have built kind of this empire together
- 28:31Speaker 1: and now we're we were touring where we have our
- 28:34Speaker 1: own active whereline, We're working on other projects on the side.
- 28:37Speaker 1: There's just so much happening that happened out of necessity.
- 28:41Speaker 1: We didn't have the luxury of just getting views and
- 28:43Speaker 1: getting a big paycheck. It's been a constant hustle and
- 28:47Speaker 1: a constant pivot to keep this going as a career.
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- 31:11Speaker 2: When you started creating this YouTube content, did you think
- 31:14Speaker 2: extensively about like the format that you wanted to create
- 31:17Speaker 2: things in, or what types of dances that you would
- 31:20Speaker 2: be doing, Like talk to me about where it started
- 31:22Speaker 2: versus like maybe where it is now.
- 31:24Speaker 1: How it started, how it's going. It was so intentional
- 31:27Speaker 1: from the beginning. I often I feel I can criticize
- 31:33Speaker 1: for overthinking things, but in this case it worked because
- 31:37Speaker 1: I thought to myself, Okay, if you start this and
- 31:41Speaker 1: it blows up, what could you do potentially forever? And
- 31:47Speaker 1: that's a lot to think about. But I knew exactly
- 31:51Speaker 1: how I wanted it to look. I saw, like a
- 31:53Speaker 1: lot of fitness videos were they had like different angles
- 31:58Speaker 1: in like moving camera and things like that. I was like, hey,
- 32:01Speaker 1: I want my camera on a tripod. I want you
- 32:03Speaker 1: to be able to see this like you're at an
- 32:05Speaker 1: actual fitness class and you're looking at it and the
- 32:09Speaker 1: camera doesn't move, so you know exactly what's going on.
- 32:11Speaker 1: So that was one thing that I think set me
- 32:13Speaker 1: apart from other fitness videos. And then I was intentional
- 32:17Speaker 1: from the beginning about I want to have a mic
- 32:19Speaker 1: on and I want to use the master track of
- 32:21Speaker 1: the music. And so I had no equipment, which is
- 32:25Speaker 1: why most videos you see don't have a high production
- 32:28Speaker 1: value because it's expensive to have a microphone and lights
- 32:31Speaker 1: and a camera and all of this. So my friend
- 32:34Speaker 1: was in the production school because I had already graduated,
- 32:37Speaker 1: and so I had my friend rent out production equipment
- 32:40Speaker 1: from the school so I could use it to shoot
- 32:43Speaker 1: all of my videos. And I did that until I
- 32:46Speaker 1: had enough to save up for actually my own microphone
- 32:48Speaker 1: and my own equipment. But it was always about I
- 32:52Speaker 1: want the music to be popular and exciting everyone. From
- 32:55Speaker 1: the beginning was like, use royalty free music, use copyright
- 32:58Speaker 1: free music, and I was like you and get it.
- 33:00Speaker 1: One day this is going to pay off, Like one
- 33:03Speaker 1: day someone is going to see this, and so I
- 33:06Speaker 1: wanted that to be a thing as well. I had
- 33:08Speaker 1: the camo pants and the tank top on. That was
- 33:10Speaker 1: my branding. For like five years, I wore the same outfit,
- 33:13Speaker 1: which is to anyone else exhausting, but it became a
- 33:17Speaker 1: point of recognition. People knew me not only for my
- 33:22Speaker 1: dance or my personality, but even if you just saw
- 33:24Speaker 1: it for a minute at some point, that was going
- 33:27Speaker 1: to be repetitive enough, like a cartoon character for you
- 33:30Speaker 1: to recognize me based on my outfit. And so that
- 33:32Speaker 1: was another way I got it out there. And then
- 33:35Speaker 1: I mean the branding of the name, I came up
- 33:37Speaker 1: with a fitness marshal backup booties were the people, but
- 33:41Speaker 1: the girls behind me. Then it was like the fans
- 33:43Speaker 1: were called the booty Army. Like it all was just
- 33:46Speaker 1: very strategic in a way that I kind of built
- 33:48Speaker 1: a brand from the before even getting out there. And
- 33:51Speaker 1: so like my first set of videos, I released fourteen
- 33:54Speaker 1: at a time and just to have like a full
- 33:56Speaker 1: hour long set that people could do and actually work
- 33:59Speaker 1: out to just kind of build off of that. But
- 34:01Speaker 1: if you look at the videos. The format's the exact
- 34:04Speaker 1: same six years later. I do more fun effects, I'm
- 34:07Speaker 1: better at editing the qualities better, but it's the exact
- 34:10Speaker 1: same video now as it was six years ago. And
- 34:13Speaker 1: so when you're building a workout, you can pick any
- 34:15Speaker 1: video you want and it'll fit perfectly into that format.
- 34:18Speaker 1: And so it's it all works together so well.
- 34:22Speaker 2: I love that tidbit you said about well, I didn't
- 34:25Speaker 2: have the right equipment, so I just figured it out
- 34:27Speaker 2: and I started anyway. And I think that oftentimes so
- 34:31Speaker 2: many people let logistics like that stand in the way
- 34:34Speaker 2: from going after what it is that they want. Like
- 34:37Speaker 2: you didn't know the first thing, I'm sure about starting
- 34:40Speaker 2: a YouTube channel, or how to get people to subscribe,
- 34:44Speaker 2: or you know, all the filming and the product, like
- 34:46Speaker 2: you went you had a degree in production, but you
- 34:48Speaker 2: get what I'm saying, Like there were so much.
- 34:50Speaker 1: Watch YouTube before I started a YouTube channel.
- 34:52Speaker 3: I didn't listen to podcasts before I started a podcast.
- 34:54Speaker 1: I love that. It's so great because it's just you'll
- 34:58Speaker 1: figure it out. I mean, longer I do this, And
- 35:01Speaker 1: I don't know if you feel the same way. It's
- 35:02Speaker 1: just like everyone is just figuring it out. As they
- 35:05Speaker 1: go and making the rules up as they go. If
- 35:08Speaker 1: you create good content, people will find it and you
- 35:11Speaker 1: can always make it better, and that's exciting. My first videos,
- 35:16Speaker 1: I am horrified by some of them, the way I
- 35:18Speaker 1: am instructing, the way some of it looks, the way
- 35:21Speaker 1: I am dancing completely off center, which I still sometimes do.
- 35:26Speaker 1: But it's not like, oh my god, I'm so embarrassed
- 35:28Speaker 1: I should have never done that. I'm so proud of
- 35:31Speaker 1: how I've grown because I'm like, when people watch that
- 35:33Speaker 1: in twenty twenty one and then watch my current videos,
- 35:36Speaker 1: they can see the progress, and I think that's so important.
- 35:39Speaker 1: And I hate how I feel like we're in a
- 35:41Speaker 1: place where people go back and just erase all of
- 35:43Speaker 1: the things that they don't like or the embarrassing things,
- 35:46Speaker 1: because then that makes other people feel like they have
- 35:49Speaker 1: to be perfect before they start. Like, No, I want
- 35:51Speaker 1: you to see my journey because that, I think is
- 35:54Speaker 1: the most human thing you can do, and it's something
- 35:57Speaker 1: I'm proud of. I'm not embarrassed of it. Like I've
- 35:59Speaker 1: come a long way and that's really cool.
- 36:01Speaker 3: Yeah, it's really cool.
- 36:02Speaker 2: So speaking of coming a long way, obviously so much
- 36:06Speaker 2: farther along in the journey than you were right after college.
- 36:09Speaker 2: When do you realize I mean, one hundred thousand subscribers,
- 36:12Speaker 2: a lot going on, But when does it really start
- 36:15Speaker 2: to feel like it's super taking.
- 36:16Speaker 1: Off side a video go viral. It was Megan Trainer's
- 36:20Speaker 1: me Too, and I remember I uploaded that to Facebook
- 36:25Speaker 1: and then overnight it had one hundred thousand views on
- 36:29Speaker 1: Facebook and I was like, whoa. And then the next
- 36:32Speaker 1: day it had like five hundred thousand, and then a million,
- 36:36Speaker 1: and then ten million, and then Megan Trainers retweeting it,
- 36:40Speaker 1: Megan Trainers following me. A clothing company in Australia, cotton On,
- 36:45Speaker 1: is reaching out to me asking me to do a
- 36:46Speaker 1: world tour with them, and all of these things start
- 36:51Speaker 1: happening at once, and I'm like, whoa, this is just
- 36:54Speaker 1: the craziest moment. I'm getting so many emails from media
- 36:57Speaker 1: companies being like, do you want to do a reality show?
- 37:00Speaker 1: And that was that was the craziest moment, just the
- 37:04Speaker 1: me too video, Because I think virality is I mean,
- 37:07Speaker 1: what's even viral anymore? Like someone can go viral and
- 37:11Speaker 1: get a billion views, and someone can go viral and
- 37:13Speaker 1: get up you know, ten thousand views, like it's all
- 37:16Speaker 1: based on your own perception of what that is. But
- 37:19Speaker 1: for me, that was just the biggest, most immediate growth
- 37:25Speaker 1: I guess in a video, and the most attention I
- 37:28Speaker 1: got in at one time. And so that's when I
- 37:31Speaker 1: got really excited and thought that, Okay, this is something
- 37:34Speaker 1: really really cool, Like we can for sure make money
- 37:37Speaker 1: off this at some point or somehow. But then that
- 37:41Speaker 1: is also what started my decline and what started probably
- 37:45Speaker 1: one of the saddest times for me in this career,
- 37:49Speaker 1: because every video was chasing that success, and every time
- 37:53Speaker 1: I put out a video that didn't get as many
- 37:56Speaker 1: views or didn't get the attention, I was like, you're
- 37:59Speaker 1: not as good anymore. That was your peak, You're not enough,
- 38:02Speaker 1: And it was just this negative self topic kept happening,
- 38:06Speaker 1: and until I broke out of ever trying to do
- 38:08Speaker 1: that again. Like I was just miserable trying to recreate
- 38:12Speaker 1: I mean miserable. I wasn't miserable. I still have always
- 38:14Speaker 1: had a great job, but it was just the most
- 38:17Speaker 1: soul sucking time to try to constantly compete with yourself
- 38:22Speaker 1: or keep trying to live up to a standard that
- 38:25Speaker 1: is just not realistic and not attainable. I didn't make
- 38:29Speaker 1: that video with all of those things in my head.
- 38:32Speaker 1: I made the video and it just happened to connect
- 38:35Speaker 1: a lot of people. And that was not intentional. It
- 38:38Speaker 1: was just by chance. And so the only way that
- 38:40Speaker 1: was going to happen again is by having that same
- 38:44Speaker 1: authentic reaction.
- 38:47Speaker 2: Interesting you talking about what happened after that video went
- 38:51Speaker 2: viral and all the offers that were coming your way,
- 38:56Speaker 2: did you at the time take any of them? Because
- 38:59Speaker 2: I feel like some of that, if you had, would
- 39:02Speaker 2: have deterred you from like your original mission, which it
- 39:05Speaker 2: sounds like you were pretty steadfast on and kept working on.
- 39:09Speaker 1: It goes a couple of different ways. I like the
- 39:12Speaker 1: like the world tour like that aligned with what I
- 39:14Speaker 1: wanted to do. I wanted to go and I wanted
- 39:16Speaker 1: to perform, and so I got to go to literally
- 39:18Speaker 1: like South Africa and New Zealand, Australia and Singapore all
- 39:22Speaker 1: in two weeks and perform. That was probably the coolest
- 39:24Speaker 1: thing I've ever done. But then the other things that
- 39:27Speaker 1: kept coming in, like the reality shows and things like that.
- 39:30Speaker 1: It's not even that I was saying no, but I
- 39:33Speaker 1: think it's important for people to understand that nothing in
- 39:36Speaker 1: this industry is real until it's real. You will have X,
- 39:41Speaker 1: Y and Z person talking to you, Oh, I got
- 39:44Speaker 1: a call from this giant network or whatever. There can
- 39:48Speaker 1: be so many background conversations that ultimately amount to nothing
- 39:52Speaker 1: except maybe like a relationship that you can have with
- 39:56Speaker 1: this producer or this person. So most of those just
- 39:59Speaker 1: completely through. And I think that was hard for me,
- 40:02Speaker 1: being new to this industry and getting so excited at
- 40:05Speaker 1: every new opportunity, and every time something didn't follow through,
- 40:09Speaker 1: I took that as a like a personal defeat, Whereas
- 40:13Speaker 1: now I understand like it can be as simple as
- 40:15Speaker 1: like everyone's on board and then this one person's like,
- 40:18Speaker 1: oh but wait, we're pivoting to unicorns this quarter. So no,
- 40:22Speaker 1: you're no, we're not doing fitness this quarter. And it
- 40:25Speaker 1: can be a billion things. It could be budget, it
- 40:27Speaker 1: can be just one legal issue that doesn't get worked out.
- 40:31Speaker 1: And so it's just like knowing that nothing is real
- 40:34Speaker 1: until it's real, and again, not riding the hives, not
- 40:37Speaker 1: riding the lows, just staying steadfast on doing what you love.
- 40:42Speaker 1: That's the only way to make it, because if not,
- 40:44Speaker 1: you will get thrown up and down. And left and
- 40:46Speaker 1: right in the entertainment industry.
- 40:48Speaker 3: I totally hear it.
- 40:49Speaker 2: I mean I'm in a completely different place than you are,
- 40:52Speaker 2: but I have certainly had to have some serious pep
- 40:56Speaker 2: talks with myself after like stuff that gets really exciting
- 40:59Speaker 2: like comes your way, and then you're on this mountain
- 41:02Speaker 2: and you're talking for months and months about like the
- 41:04Speaker 2: biggest deal of your career, and then like on Friday
- 41:07Speaker 2: at ten am, you get into a meeting where it's
- 41:09Speaker 2: like completely off the table now, and that's it.
- 41:11Speaker 1: I mean, if that's so funny you say that because
- 41:13Speaker 1: that just happened.
- 41:14Speaker 2: To me, I get it, because it sucks and it hurts,
- 41:17Speaker 2: But I think that what's really special and what I've
- 41:20Speaker 2: come back to, and I'm sure that you've come back
- 41:21Speaker 2: to it as well because of the way that you
- 41:23Speaker 2: talk about this is like, holy shit, I had a
- 41:26Speaker 2: seat at that table.
- 41:27Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, that's that is exactly it. Like whoa, I
- 41:33Speaker 1: had that conversation. They know my name, they care about me,
- 41:36Speaker 1: like it's it's they.
- 41:38Speaker 3: Care about me. Sometimes I'd like to think that they
- 41:40Speaker 3: care about me. I mean, like they they know that
- 41:43Speaker 3: you exist though it is great.
- 41:45Speaker 1: Like they cared enough to have that call, you know,
- 41:48Speaker 1: it's just like it's really cool, and you have to
- 41:50Speaker 1: keep reminding yourselves of those little victories because that's what
- 41:53Speaker 1: you have to hold on to. It's not about the
- 41:56Speaker 1: end result, because there are too many variables in that
- 41:59Speaker 1: and if you let yourself get so defeated by those moments,
- 42:04Speaker 1: then you're never going to find the next door to open.
- 42:06Speaker 1: Like you have to be willing to just stand up
- 42:08Speaker 1: and be like, okay, dust my shoulders off. I wanted
- 42:11Speaker 1: to go through that door more than anything else in
- 42:13Speaker 1: this world. I thought that was the golden door. But
- 42:16Speaker 1: here's another door that's not golden, but it's blue, and
- 42:20Speaker 1: I'm going to see what's through that one. And then
- 42:22Speaker 1: you find out that something even more amazing is a waiting.
- 42:24Speaker 1: I mean, I've had that moment happened so many times
- 42:28Speaker 1: in my career where I'm like it's all over, I
- 42:30Speaker 1: can't anywhere, and then a few months later, amazing things happen.
- 42:36Speaker 1: And so it's just about holding on to your passion
- 42:40Speaker 1: and the why of why you're doing. And I think
- 42:42Speaker 1: that's what helps people really have longevity in this industry
- 42:47Speaker 1: is because if you're here for the quick check, you'll
- 42:50Speaker 1: be out really fast. Yeah, you'll be out really soon,
- 42:53Speaker 1: because I mean, for me, money didn't come for a
- 42:58Speaker 1: very long time. Like when I say money, I mean
- 43:01Speaker 1: like paying rent, buying a haircut, Like it was not easy.
- 43:06Speaker 1: It was struggle, struggle, struggle for so long and just
- 43:09Speaker 1: doing what I love. And that's that's what I ate.
- 43:12Speaker 1: Was was passion, Like that is what really got me
- 43:16Speaker 1: through and got my friends through. Like my friends gave
- 43:18Speaker 1: up a lot as well to kind of be on
- 43:20Speaker 1: this journey and believe in what this is all about.
- 43:23Speaker 1: My partner, Cameron gave up. He was his dream was
- 43:26Speaker 1: to work for the CDC. He had a degree in
- 43:28Speaker 1: public health, and he's like, Okay, we're gonna go out
- 43:30Speaker 1: to California, we're gonna build this fitness brand, and we're
- 43:34Speaker 1: all just gonna hope it works out. So it's just
- 43:36Speaker 1: having people around you that believe in you and believing
- 43:40Speaker 1: in yourself and not being so controlled by the immedia
- 43:44Speaker 1: dollar amount, which is a privilege, because if you can't
- 43:46Speaker 1: pay your rent, it's it's you can't just say, oh,
- 43:49Speaker 1: but I'm like, I'm passionate, like you have to pay
- 43:51Speaker 1: your bills, and so it's really difficult, I think to
- 43:55Speaker 1: make a career out of I guess to build your
- 43:58Speaker 1: own career and follow your own dreams because the reality is,
- 44:01Speaker 1: in this society you're expected to pay your bills on time,
- 44:05Speaker 1: and there are only a few ways that happens.
- 44:09Speaker 2: For someone who's listening to this and they're like, oh,
- 44:12Speaker 2: I've here, I've heard this so many times before. Follow
- 44:15Speaker 2: your passions. If you're not passionate about what you're doing
- 44:17Speaker 2: for work, what are you doing with your time? And
- 44:19Speaker 2: then they bought up with that other thing that you
- 44:20Speaker 2: were saying just now about well I need to pay
- 44:22Speaker 2: my bills if I'm not ready to jump into X
- 44:24Speaker 2: or why, Like what do you say to those people
- 44:27Speaker 2: because sometimes again, like if we're talking about being realistic,
- 44:30Speaker 2: not everyone gets to do a job every single day,
- 44:33Speaker 2: where they're like, I am so passionate about it.
- 44:35Speaker 1: No, and you know what, you don't have to And
- 44:37Speaker 1: I think that's the other thing, And I don't want
- 44:38Speaker 1: to be misconstrued on this podcast, for I mean, I
- 44:43Speaker 1: am so painfully aware that my story is incredibly rare
- 44:48Speaker 1: and it is exceptionally unlikely even if you do everything
- 44:53Speaker 1: right for everything to work out, like life isn't just
- 44:56Speaker 1: a fairy tale. I've worked really hard and I am
- 44:59Speaker 1: urried to determined to figure it out. But I also
- 45:03Speaker 1: think that there is nothing wrong with just loving your
- 45:07Speaker 1: life and loving the people in your life. And I
- 45:09Speaker 1: mean I just hung out with friends yesterday and they
- 45:11Speaker 1: were like, I work to live. I do not live
- 45:16Speaker 1: to work, and that's okay. Like, if you have a
- 45:19Speaker 1: family that you love, friends that you love, hobbies that
- 45:23Speaker 1: bring you joy, that's the whole point of life is
- 45:27Speaker 1: be happy, like do good in this world and just
- 45:30Speaker 1: find fulfillment. And so if you have to have a
- 45:33Speaker 1: job that you don't love, but it allows you to
- 45:36Speaker 1: have a life that you love and people in your
- 45:38Speaker 1: life that you love, then you've made it. That is
- 45:40Speaker 1: success in my book.
- 45:42Speaker 3: Love That Love That Now these days.
- 45:45Speaker 2: You mentioned that at first, and still you're like, I'm
- 45:48Speaker 2: going to dance to what I want to dance to.
- 45:50Speaker 2: This is not how we're going to monetize. Then you
- 45:52Speaker 2: started going on these tours and like accepting different partnerships,
- 45:55Speaker 2: and now you're thinking about and now you have a
- 45:57Speaker 2: membership structure. Talk to me about kind of the cornerstones
- 46:01Speaker 2: I guess of what do make you money? In your business,
- 46:04Speaker 2: because I'm sure that's a question you probably get quite often.
- 46:07Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean as of twenty nineteen, Yeah, as of
- 46:13Speaker 1: twenty nineteen, there was no monetary structure. It was well,
- 46:16Speaker 1: it was tour. So we had these shows and the
- 46:20Speaker 1: only way I made a check is if we went
- 46:22Speaker 1: out and we performed at a venue. And so that
- 46:25Speaker 1: meant like Cameron, my partner, calling a venue, setting up
- 46:30Speaker 1: a show, renting our own stage, renting our own sound,
- 46:34Speaker 1: Cameron at the door, checking in tickets, also running the
- 46:38Speaker 1: stuff backstage, Cameron also taking meet and greet photos, like
- 46:42Speaker 1: whilst lugging our own step and repeat banner in a
- 46:46Speaker 1: suitcase to every single city we went to. It was
- 46:50Speaker 1: it was just a grind and it was the most
- 46:53Speaker 1: rewarding thing but also the most taxing thing. And I
- 46:55Speaker 1: think it became very clear that it wasn't going to
- 46:59Speaker 1: sustain us, Like we can only hop on a plane
- 47:02Speaker 1: every single weekend for so long before it's like we've
- 47:05Speaker 1: got a new something else. And so we also had
- 47:10Speaker 1: a really hard time because we i mean, the music
- 47:13Speaker 1: we're just it's been a battle with the music industry
- 47:17Speaker 1: this whole time. It's like you feel as if you're
- 47:20Speaker 1: promoting all of these people's songs and they're treating you
- 47:23Speaker 1: like a cockroach who is like somehow abusing their music
- 47:28Speaker 1: or misusing it. And so it was really difficult, and
- 47:31Speaker 1: we had a really just bad year right before Funny,
- 47:35Speaker 1: right before twenty twenty, and we were like, it's just
- 47:38Speaker 1: getting exhausting at this point, and we were about to
- 47:41Speaker 1: quit using popular music because it just I was so
- 47:44Speaker 1: tired of like looking over my shoulder and like wondering
- 47:47Speaker 1: for the next person to come at me when I
- 47:49Speaker 1: literally like I was not making money, like when we
- 47:53Speaker 1: were touring, we were paying for the stage and the
- 47:57Speaker 1: sound and the people to run the show. Like the
- 47:59Speaker 1: profit margin was bad. It was so bad. But we
- 48:02Speaker 1: love doing it. But we just got really tired like
- 48:07Speaker 1: four years into it, and once twenty twenty came around,
- 48:12Speaker 1: we couldn't tour and it was like, okay, so this
- 48:15Speaker 1: is it, Like we're done, this is not meant to be.
- 48:19Speaker 1: And that's when YouTube memberships opened up, and it was
- 48:24Speaker 1: just the craziest timing. And YouTube is like, hey, you
- 48:28Speaker 1: can have a membership program on our platform, and so
- 48:30Speaker 1: then we got together and we're like, oh wait, if
- 48:34Speaker 1: we're not touring. Let's just do these like sixty minute
- 48:37Speaker 1: classes once a week for our YouTube members and that
- 48:40Speaker 1: way they can still have all of our regular content
- 48:42Speaker 1: for free, but if they want, like this full length
- 48:45Speaker 1: sixty minute workout, they can do that with us every
- 48:48Speaker 1: week and we can actually get paid for it. And
- 48:50Speaker 1: so it was this pivot that I don't think would
- 48:52Speaker 1: have happened without the pandemic, and it allowed us to
- 48:55Speaker 1: open up what we do in a way that's so
- 48:58Speaker 1: much more sustainable because we're not getting on a plane
- 49:00Speaker 1: and traveling and exerting ourselves. And I think that kind
- 49:04Speaker 1: of got our minds going in the place of how
- 49:06Speaker 1: can we work smarter and not harder? And so many
- 49:09Speaker 1: people say that, but it's so true, Like you have
- 49:12Speaker 1: to be so weary of burning out and over exerting yourself,
- 49:16Speaker 1: so you have to really maximize how you spend your time.
- 49:18Speaker 1: And so the YouTube memberships has truly like been life
- 49:22Speaker 1: changing for us. It's been amazing. And then also this
- 49:25Speaker 1: year we got to partners. So music works in a
- 49:29Speaker 1: weird way, but there's like three like music titans, and
- 49:33Speaker 1: so one of them is Warner Music Group, and they
- 49:36Speaker 1: reached out to us and we have just the best
- 49:39Speaker 1: relationship now and now we are getting to actually work
- 49:43Speaker 1: with them to promote their songs on our channel, and
- 49:46Speaker 1: they gave us our own Spotify workout playlist, so every
- 49:49Speaker 1: week I get to like update this playlist and it's
- 49:51Speaker 1: like the official Warner Music Spotify playlist. And it's just
- 49:57Speaker 1: this craziest thing because last year I was like, the
- 50:00Speaker 1: whole music industry hates me, no one wants me to
- 50:02Speaker 1: do this, we can't tour anymore, Like I'm actually going
- 50:05Speaker 1: to quit. And then the year after that it's I mean,
- 50:10Speaker 1: we're making money, we're working with record labels, we're doing
- 50:14Speaker 1: things we never thought possible. We're launching an active wear line.
- 50:18Speaker 1: Like it's just all of these doors kept opening, even
- 50:21Speaker 1: when I thought that they kept closing, Like we just
- 50:23Speaker 1: kept standing back up and be like, okay, maybe one
- 50:27Speaker 1: more try.
- 50:29Speaker 3: What other lessons did you learn during the pandemic.
- 50:32Speaker 1: I think that it was really it was just more
- 50:36Speaker 1: of a reset for me. I think because it was
- 50:38Speaker 1: the worst time for so many people, and it was
- 50:40Speaker 1: really weird because we were kind of like, I don't
- 50:44Speaker 1: it's weird. I don't want to paint a picture and
- 50:47Speaker 1: negate all of the bad that happened, because it was
- 50:50Speaker 1: a it was a fucking awful year, Like it was awful,
- 50:53Speaker 1: and there was so much bad that happened. But I
- 50:55Speaker 1: think if any of us can figure out, is there
- 50:58Speaker 1: anything good that came out of it? And for me,
- 51:00Speaker 1: it was like, Okay, I have to have this whole
- 51:02Speaker 1: reset and rethink about how I look at the world
- 51:07Speaker 1: and what I'm doing. And I was like, I can
- 51:10Speaker 1: help the world online. I can do these fitness classes.
- 51:14Speaker 1: I can take this time and really create an active wordline,
- 51:19Speaker 1: and let's think about how to make it inclusive for
- 51:23Speaker 1: even more people and really dive into and spend more
- 51:25Speaker 1: time on things that I wouldn't have had time to
- 51:27Speaker 1: because I was going to be on a plane going
- 51:28Speaker 1: and doing a show. And so it was really this
- 51:32Speaker 1: moment of we are stuck in here, let's meet, let's
- 51:37Speaker 1: figure things out, let's plan, let's strategize and get ready
- 51:40Speaker 1: because we knew at some point things were going to
- 51:42Speaker 1: get better. But our job right now is really just
- 51:45Speaker 1: to help people who were inside and humble ourselves and
- 51:48Speaker 1: just dance in our living room. And that's really what
- 51:51Speaker 1: we did because, like my videos are usually highly produced
- 51:54Speaker 1: in our shows like on tour there's lights and smoke
- 51:57Speaker 1: and effects and it's amazing. But I think really what
- 52:01Speaker 1: people wanted last year was to know that we were
- 52:02Speaker 1: all in this together, and that was something really cool
- 52:05Speaker 1: that we got to do, and we were just working
- 52:06Speaker 1: out with people inside, and I think it really helped
- 52:09Speaker 1: us connect with people in ways that we didn't connect
- 52:11Speaker 1: before and realize how important this was outside of the
- 52:19Speaker 1: glitz of it all. This was a way for us
- 52:22Speaker 1: to feel like people again, and for people who are
- 52:25Speaker 1: struggling with their anxiety and their depression and isolation to
- 52:30Speaker 1: have a moment where they can just release some endorphins
- 52:33Speaker 1: and some serotonin and they can't even go outside for
- 52:35Speaker 1: a walk like this became more important than it's ever been,
- 52:39Speaker 1: and so I felt that responsibility and it also helped
- 52:43Speaker 1: me I think just as much. I mean, I need
- 52:46Speaker 1: this as well, so it's not like I'm just doing
- 52:48Speaker 1: this for other people. But it was really cool to
- 52:51Speaker 1: realize the gravity of what movement can do for the
- 52:54Speaker 1: body and the brain.
- 52:55Speaker 2: You mentioned earlier back in college, not feeling really comfortable,
- 53:00Speaker 2: are at home in your body?
- 53:01Speaker 3: How do you feel these days?
- 53:03Speaker 1: I feel good. I feel good these days and it's
- 53:07Speaker 1: and I say that while also scrolling on Instagram and
- 53:11Speaker 1: being like, I don't look like him. I don't look
- 53:13Speaker 1: like him. He's more defined than me, he has a
- 53:15Speaker 1: better hairline than me, Like I mean, I don't think
- 53:17Speaker 1: we ever get away from comparing ourselves to others. And
- 53:21Speaker 1: I just like was thinking the other day, I think,
- 53:24Speaker 1: right now, I'm in the best shape of my life,
- 53:27Speaker 1: and still that doesn't change me seeing someone else and
- 53:31Speaker 1: being like, ah, but I don't look as good as them.
- 53:33Speaker 1: And so I think, just remembering that there is no
- 53:36Speaker 1: point in your fitness journey that you are not that
- 53:40Speaker 1: you are going to feel like the best. You're always
- 53:42Speaker 1: going to look at someone and wish that you could
- 53:44Speaker 1: look more like them. And so taking that knowledge and
- 53:49Speaker 1: just deciding to be happy and confident in your body
- 53:53Speaker 1: where it is right now is the most powerful thing,
- 53:56Speaker 1: because that stole so much of my joy for so long,
- 54:00Speaker 1: Like not I remember I would I would go to
- 54:02Speaker 1: the swimming pools in like middle school, and I would
- 54:05Speaker 1: never take off my shirt. I wouldn't go on, like
- 54:07Speaker 1: to the water park trips that my friends went on.
- 54:09Speaker 1: I missed out on so much just because I was
- 54:13Speaker 1: so worried about people looking at me and what they
- 54:15Speaker 1: thought about my body. But then you realize that everyone
- 54:18Speaker 1: is also thinking about that, like are thinking about themselves?
- 54:21Speaker 1: Like are they looking at me? And we're all just
- 54:24Speaker 1: so insecure, but we all assume that everyone is so
- 54:27Speaker 1: secure and confident who they are. And so I think
- 54:30Speaker 1: it's just so important to embrace the right now because
- 54:33Speaker 1: you do not know if you're going to be here tomorrow,
- 54:36Speaker 1: you don't know what's going to happen tomorrow, And I
- 54:39Speaker 1: just think that you should celebrate yourself right now because
- 54:42Speaker 1: it's a really beautiful and amazing feeling when someone else
- 54:44Speaker 1: doesn't have the power to validate how you feel about yourself.
- 54:48Speaker 2: When you started to gain a bigger following, I'm sure
- 54:54Speaker 2: that that came with a fair amount of external criticism
- 54:57Speaker 2: as well. How have you come to a place where
- 55:01Speaker 2: you can handle the unsolicited feedback and stay in your joy?
- 55:06Speaker 1: I think it goes back to not riding the highs
- 55:10Speaker 1: and not riding the lows. That sticks with me every
- 55:14Speaker 1: time when I make a video, I try my best.
- 55:16Speaker 1: I'll look at the comments for the first day, see
- 55:18Speaker 1: like what the actual fans or like the super fans think,
- 55:21Speaker 1: all should I should say, But after that, it's just
- 55:24Speaker 1: people who are discovering the video, and who knows why
- 55:29Speaker 1: they got there, what mood they were in when they
- 55:32Speaker 1: got there, what their purpose is for leaving a comment
- 55:35Speaker 1: on that video. So there's just so much that you
- 55:37Speaker 1: don't know when it's just a username and a comment
- 55:41Speaker 1: that you can't put weight into it, Like someone could
- 55:43Speaker 1: be having a really awful day and feel really bad
- 55:45Speaker 1: about themselves and then try to take you down too,
- 55:48Speaker 1: or someone could be trolling and just I mean, there
- 55:51Speaker 1: are accounts dedicated to just leaving me in comments to
- 55:54Speaker 1: get attention. So it's like I do not pay attention
- 55:58Speaker 1: to the comments or what people say at all. I
- 56:01Speaker 1: know what makes me happy. I know that if something
- 56:04Speaker 1: stops making me happy, I'm not gonna do it anymore.
- 56:07Speaker 1: But I need to base what I do in this
- 56:09Speaker 1: world off of how I feel and the impact that
- 56:11Speaker 1: I have, as opposed to what Sally from New Jersey
- 56:15Speaker 1: s doaes Oh Sally, Sally, Sally's just having a bad You.
- 56:20Speaker 2: Just have it a bad day, all right? What excites
- 56:22Speaker 2: you right now? What excites me right now is the possibilities.
- 56:27Speaker 2: I feel like it almost in This may be because
- 56:30Speaker 2: I'm such a naive, like overly optimistic person, but I
- 56:34Speaker 2: just feel a renaissance coming of people really appreciating life,
- 56:39Speaker 2: appreciating people and what really matters. And I think this
- 56:45Speaker 2: past couple of years, this past year and a half
- 56:48Speaker 2: has just humbled us and I think humanized us. And
- 56:50Speaker 2: I really am excited to see the genuine joy that
- 56:54Speaker 2: people have just coming together, dancing, being in person, going
- 56:58Speaker 2: out to brunch, like just doing things that human beings
- 57:02Speaker 2: used to do and getting on and I think it's
- 57:05Speaker 2: going to be something that sticks with this generation forever.
- 57:09Speaker 1: But I think it's also going to make us a
- 57:11Speaker 1: group of people who all realize the value of the
- 57:15Speaker 1: little things that we all took for granted, because we
- 57:19Speaker 1: could be stuck inside behind a computer screen for the
- 57:22Speaker 1: rest of our lives for all we know. So yeah,
- 57:25Speaker 1: I think there's just so much joy and excitement that's
- 57:28Speaker 1: going to be coming out of this next year.
- 57:32Speaker 2: When people come to your Instagram page, they see this
- 57:39Speaker 2: guy that loves to dance and has a shit ton
- 57:43Speaker 2: of followers.
- 57:43Speaker 3: The same thing goes for YouTube.
- 57:45Speaker 2: You're having a great time and you know, enjoying yourself
- 57:49Speaker 2: when you look in the mirror.
- 57:51Speaker 3: What is it that you see looking back at you see?
- 57:54Speaker 1: I see the same kid in high school who really
- 57:56Speaker 1: loves musical theater, and really he likes hanging out with
- 58:02Speaker 1: his friends and playing Pokemon Go and watching funny YouTube
- 58:08Speaker 1: videos and just enjoying the regular life. It's so funny
- 58:14Speaker 1: that we have this perception of people who have a
- 58:17Speaker 1: following as if they're unreal. But I don't see myself
- 58:20Speaker 1: as any different. I don't think that people in my
- 58:23Speaker 1: life see me as any different, and I really wouldn't
- 58:25Speaker 1: want it any other way. I just feel like Caleb
- 58:27Speaker 1: from Indiana, who really just wants to go hang out
- 58:31Speaker 1: with his friends.
- 58:34Speaker 2: All right, Caleb from Indiana, Right now, you have an
- 58:37Speaker 2: opportunity to offer the Caleb from Indiana, fresh into college,
- 58:43Speaker 2: feeling a little unsure of his path, a piece of advice.
- 58:47Speaker 2: Looking back on that time, right now, what do you
- 58:50Speaker 2: tell him?
- 58:53Speaker 1: I would say, stop looking in the mirror every single day,
- 58:58Speaker 1: pinching yourself, wondering why you have a pudge here, why
- 59:03Speaker 1: you have a pudge there. Stop praying away your sexuality.
- 59:08Speaker 1: Stop thinking that you constantly have to get validation from
- 59:12Speaker 1: other people because you're not enough as you are. Just
- 59:16Speaker 1: be confident and do the things that you love, and
- 59:19Speaker 1: the people that are around you will stay if they're
- 59:21Speaker 1: supposed to stay, and if not, they weren't supposed to
- 59:24Speaker 1: be in the first place. But just keep being yourself beautiful.
- 59:30Speaker 2: Caleb from Indiana, Tell me, tell us, tell the hurdlers.
- 59:35Speaker 2: How do we keep up with you? How do we
- 59:37Speaker 2: follow along with you? Give me all the details.
- 59:40Speaker 1: You can follow me at YouTube dot com, slash the
- 59:43Speaker 1: Fitness Marshal on Instagram, The Fitness Marshal on TikTok. I
- 59:48Speaker 1: also have an inclusive activewear line called active Booty that
- 59:51Speaker 1: you can find on activebooty dot com and we're I
- 59:55Speaker 1: don't know if I can say that yet, but I'll
- 59:57Speaker 1: say that right now. We offer extra small to three
- 59:59Speaker 1: X and we're so excited to keep including more people
- 1:00:02Speaker 1: in that and keep expanding The Fitness Marshal to so
- 1:00:07Speaker 1: many other avenues and really spreading the joy of movement
- 1:00:10Speaker 1: and just self love.
- 1:00:13Speaker 3: Thank you so much.
- 1:00:14Speaker 2: I'm over at Emily a Body and at Hurdle Podcast
- 1:00:17Speaker 2: Another Hurdle conquered.
- 1:00:19Speaker 3: Catch you guys next time.