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My father DEMANDED I invite his new wife -r/AITAH | Reddit Stories | EP3074 · ok storytime

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  Speaker 1: Hey, this is Dakota.
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  Speaker 2: And this is Riley, your favorite OK Storytime host. And
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  Speaker 2: we got some great stories coming up.
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  Speaker 3: But before that, we have a quick two-minute break from
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  Speaker 3: the sponsors that keep this show alive. My father demanded
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  Speaker 3: I invite his new wife to my graduation, but I
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  Speaker 3: don't want her there.
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  Speaker 2: She's not as good as your old wife.
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  Speaker 3: My 18-male parents had a rough divorce, and my dad
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  Speaker 3: immediately moved on and got married to his former high
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  Speaker 3: school girlfriend he had before my mom. So my dad's
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  Speaker 3: wife was someone who was forced into mine without me
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  Speaker 3: wanting her in it. She doesn't have kids, so she's
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  Speaker 3: always clingy and trying to make it seem like me
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  Speaker 3: and my sister are her kids. Horrible vibe every time.
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  Speaker 3: And we're all this one big happy family. In my opinion,
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  Speaker 3: excuse my language, she is emotionally and socially an idiot.
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  Speaker 1: She just doesn't know how to act.
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  Speaker 2: Wait, did they actually say that?
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  Speaker 3: Once when they first got married, they had a get
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  Speaker 3: together and me and the kids were apparently making lots
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  Speaker 3: of noise. So she took us to a room and
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  Speaker 3: locked us in. Oh, but she was also inside the
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  Speaker 3: room with us. She refused to let us out unless
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  Speaker 3: we vowed to not make any more noise.
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  Speaker 1: We were six and seven. I would love to add
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  Speaker 1: the fact that I got a lot of crap for
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  Speaker 1: that because she was just joking and I don't know
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  Speaker 1: how to take a joke.
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  Speaker 3: Ha ha, I locked you in the room and wouldn't
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  Speaker 3: let you out when you're six. You don't know how
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  Speaker 3: to take a joke.
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  Speaker 2: So you know how gaslighting got popular and people started
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  Speaker 2: catching on to it? I feel like that was just
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  Speaker 2: a joke is about to do that same trend within
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  Speaker 2: the next two to three years.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, that was just a joke is essentially just gaslighting.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
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  Speaker 1: That's all it is.
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  Speaker 2: But I feel like it's going to be its own
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  Speaker 2: niche movement pretty soon. Because half of these stories that
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  Speaker 2: I've read recently... Someone does something completely absurd and it's like.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, it's just a joke. Do you remember the prank
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  Speaker 1: era of YouTube?
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  Speaker 2: Kind of.
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  Speaker 1: That's what that was.
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  Speaker 2: Just a joke.
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  Speaker 1: She just does not know how to act.
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  Speaker 3: This is going to sound crazy, but I actually love
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  Speaker 3: her mother, my dad's mother-in-law. She has stood by my
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  Speaker 3: side during a lot of problems and has called out
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  Speaker 3: her daughter's behavior. And by the way, this comes from
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  Speaker 3: user Ruluwa. And if you want to submit your own stories,
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  Speaker 2: I'm Dakota. I'm Riley.
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  Speaker 3: We're going to read this story. We're going to have
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  Speaker 3: our thoughts. They might not be perfect. We don't know everything.
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  Speaker 3: Let us know what you think down in the comments.
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  Speaker 3: And OP says, Now my graduation is coming up. My
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  Speaker 3: mom thinks I need to invite her, my stepmom, because
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  Speaker 3: I have previously stayed over at her vacation home in
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  Speaker 3: addition to the fact that she doesn't have kids and
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  Speaker 3: I am the closest thing she'll ever have to kids.
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  Speaker 1: Now, she and my.
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  Speaker 3: Dad were very horrible to me in their first year
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  Speaker 3: of marriage, so personally I've never liked her, and still
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  Speaker 3: kind of resent my dad for the way things went.
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  Speaker 3: I don't have enough tickets to invite her anyway, in
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  Speaker 3: addition to the fact that even if I did, I
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  Speaker 3: want to invite people that in one way or another
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  Speaker 3: raised me or helped my parents raise me. Those include
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  Speaker 3: my grandparents and my aunt and uncle, who... one of
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  Speaker 3: which doesn't have a kid, and I'm the actual closest
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  Speaker 3: thing he'll ever have to a kid, in addition to
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  Speaker 3: the fact that I share a last name with him.
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  Speaker 3: My mom thinks it's going to be a very awkward
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  Speaker 3: situation for my dad to leave the house to go
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  Speaker 3: to my graduation, and then his wife asks him, where's
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  Speaker 3: he going? And he has to reply, Opie's graduation. I
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  Speaker 3: think it's insanely inappropriate for her to be there. My
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  Speaker 3: mom is trying to avoid problems with my dad. But
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  Speaker 3: what business does she have being at the same event
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  Speaker 3: concerning me with my mom and grandma?
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  Speaker 1: Personally, I don't care about what people will think. I
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  Speaker 1: care about my happiness and the fact that I don't
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  Speaker 1: want my stepmom there. I feel like I just shouldn't
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  Speaker 1: need to justify this to anyone. And it's my decision.
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  Speaker 2: Well, you are 18. Here's my first decision as an adult.
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  Speaker 2: Let's make it one we'll all remember.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, like, so what? Oh, I'm going to the graduation. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: he only had a select amount of tickets. He gave
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  Speaker 3: them to me, his mom, his grandparents, his aunt and uncle.
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  Speaker 1: You're not on the list. Get over it.
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  Speaker 2: It's going to hurt your dad's feelings. You're going to
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  Speaker 2: have to have the consequences of that. But he chose
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  Speaker 2: this in a way.
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  Speaker 1: He chose this life. He chose this life for himself.
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  Speaker 2: And he chose a partner that wasn't really crazy about
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  Speaker 2: his kids. Or kind of was, but didn't really show
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  Speaker 2: it in the right way. That's on him.
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  Speaker 3: I probably need to get over a lot of things
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  Speaker 3: that happened in the past, but that's an issue for
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  Speaker 3: another day.
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  Speaker 1: Inviting her won't change that fact.
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  Speaker 3: Just to add, if I wanted to invite her, I'd
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  Speaker 3: have to sacrifice inviting one of my aunts or uncles,
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  Speaker 3: which I'm not doing. And I'd rather not have a
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  Speaker 3: graduation than invite her. Also, I wasn't invited to their wedding.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, well, we should have led with that.
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  Speaker 1: You weren't even at the wedding!
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  Speaker 2: Dude, yeah, no, you don't have to invite her to
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  Speaker 2: the freaking graduation then.
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  Speaker 1: Do not come. Do not come.
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  Speaker 2: So the real problem is how are we going to
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  Speaker 2: handle the dad whenever he figures out this news?
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  Speaker 1: Be like, you can come.
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  Speaker 2: He will be upset, though.
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  Speaker 1: She cannot come.
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  Speaker 2: Is there anything we can do to mitigate this? We're
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  Speaker 2: just going to let her run.
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  Speaker 3: And go, dad, do you know basic math? I have
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  Speaker 3: a certain number of tickets. Do you understand basic math?
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  Speaker 4: Mm-hmm.
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  Speaker 3: You go ahead and tell my aunt or uncle, whichever
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  Speaker 3: one you choose, that they're less important than your wife,
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  Speaker 3: who I'm not related to and don't really care for.
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  Speaker 1: Ooh. Go ahead, I dare ya. I double dog dare ya.
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  Speaker 1: Don't make me triple it.
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  Speaker 2: There we go. I wonder what OP does here. I
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  Speaker 2: think they'll be mature. This is a bold decision to
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  Speaker 2: make right at 18.
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  Speaker 1: Let's see. There's an update.
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  Speaker 4: Two months later.
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  Speaker 3: When I wrote the post, I wrote it as a
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  Speaker 3: hypothetical scenario. Despite my mom and brother's warnings, I thought
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  Speaker 3: my dad wasn't going to ask me.
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  Speaker 1: To invite his wife. Boy, was I wrong! After I
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  Speaker 1: wrote the.
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  Speaker 3: Post, I went to my mom and I told her
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  Speaker 3: that there will not be a graduation if my stepmother comes.
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  Speaker 3: I then listed a bunch of crap she did over
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  Speaker 3: the past few months.
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  Speaker 1: Oldest was November 2025. And my mom was shocked.
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  Speaker 3: One of those things was her trying to turn my
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  Speaker 3: dad against me because I don't tell him my school grades.
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  Speaker 3: The reason is because he goes and runs to her
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  Speaker 3: and tells her everything. My mom sided with me, ultimately.
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  Speaker 3: Two weeks after the post, I was in the supermarket
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  Speaker 3: with my dad, and he told me to do a
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  Speaker 3: favor for him. Invite your stepmom. Initially, I told him
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  Speaker 3: I wished I could, but there wasn't enough tickets. He
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  Speaker 3: then told me, no problem. I'll call uncle and tell
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  Speaker 3: him not to come. He was really willing to not
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  Speaker 3: have his brother come just to appease his wife.
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  Speaker 1: I told him, no, there's not enough tickets and.
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  Speaker 3: That it would be very inappropriate for her to be
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  Speaker 3: there with my grandma and mother attending. He told me
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  Speaker 3: that I'd be making him a huge problem and that
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  Speaker 3: he might not be able to come. You're going to
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  Speaker 3: pick your step. You're going to pick your wife over
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  Speaker 3: your child. And it's like not a situation where your
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  Speaker 3: wife is like, right. And you just have to, it's like,
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  Speaker 3: there's just not enough tickets.
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  Speaker 4: Really?
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  Speaker 2: Do I want a cool, chill two weeks at home
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  Speaker 2: or a rowdy two weeks at home? That's really what
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  Speaker 2: he's deciding here. Do I want to be in the
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  Speaker 2: doghouse for two weeks or not?
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  Speaker 5: I told him good riddance.
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  Speaker 3: Now you're making it so I can be able to
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  Speaker 3: invite my friends who weren't going to be able to come.
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  Speaker 3: Then he secretly went to my brother and started getting
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  Speaker 3: mad at his wife, saying that she's causing him problems
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  Speaker 3: and he's sick of her and whatnot. After I got home,
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  Speaker 3: he started talking badly about my mom and her family,
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  Speaker 3: saying that she He's paying for the tickets, 200 bucks,
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  Speaker 3: and that they're coming on his pay. He then started
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  Speaker 3: insulting my mother's brother and my grandma, saying how they're.
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  Speaker 1: Coming on his dime and how he doesn't like them.
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  Speaker 3: So I immediately went to the bathroom and messaged my
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  Speaker 3: mom to pay for the tickets, to which she did,
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  Speaker 3: to which he was at shock.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, dude. 200 bucks. 200 bucks.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. For graduation. That's already ridiculous. But I bet you
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  Speaker 1: this guy is the guy who would turn around and
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  Speaker 1: be like, no.
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  Speaker 2: I wanted to pay.
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  Speaker 1: I wanted to pay.
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  Speaker 2: I wanted to do something nice. And that's my love
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  Speaker 2: language is paying for things. And you took that away
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  Speaker 2: from me.
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  Speaker 1: I don't like your dad.
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  Speaker 2: That'd be weird.
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  Speaker 1: I don't like him. I mean, it's as simple as that.
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  Speaker 2: Seems like he made a mistake in his journey as
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  Speaker 2: a father when he couldn't work it out with your
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  Speaker 2: original mom.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe just maybe. Then he started saying how upset his
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  Speaker 1: wife would be and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
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  Speaker 3: I told him it's your job as her husband to
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  Speaker 3: tell her when you can't get something done for her.
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  Speaker 3: It's not everything that she asks is going to be possible,
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  Speaker 3: especially at my expense. He then started breaking and told
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  Speaker 3: me that his wife came to him and said, why
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  Speaker 3: did OP not invite me to his graduation when I
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  Speaker 3: want to make a large family gathering to celebrate him?
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  Speaker 1: Boom! Yay, we got this party for O.P. Oh, but
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  Speaker 1: where's O.P.? Good on you. Yeah, of course, dude.
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  Speaker 2: I'm just shocked he went back to his high school sweetheart.
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  Speaker 6: Are you?
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  Speaker 2: Oh, it's the first love theory.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and it's just with everything that we've seen about
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  Speaker 1: this guy, he's just like a little... He's just a
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  Speaker 1: little baby. He said, oh, but my wife is going
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  Speaker 1: to be.
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  Speaker 3: um, maybe we don't invite your uncle who you actually
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  Speaker 3: care about.
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  Speaker 1: And you bring my wife so that I'm not in trouble.
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  Speaker 2: This is just the consequences of all the actions that
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  Speaker 2: happened before this event happened.
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  Speaker 1: You feel me?
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  Speaker 2: If you treat people like crap, they're not going to
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  Speaker 2: treat you like family down the line.
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  Speaker 1: You treat me weird my entire life and try to
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  Speaker 1: muscle my own mother out. I don't like you. Put
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  Speaker 1: me in a room. Lock me in a room.
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  Speaker 2: When I was six or seven.
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  Speaker 1: And you say, I was just kidding, idiot. No. Crazy.
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  Speaker 2: Crazy work here.
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  Speaker 1: Anyway, a couple of days later was my senior trip.
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  Speaker 3: So on the day before, I called my dad and
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  Speaker 3: told him that just to get the facts straight, I
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  Speaker 3: don't want your wife there. It's not my mom or grandma.
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  Speaker 3: It's the fact that I don't want her. He was
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  Speaker 3: kind of shocked at that. But then I was boarding
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  Speaker 3: the plane, so I had to hang up.
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  Speaker 1: Nice.
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  Speaker 3: I haven't seen his wife really since a couple of
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  Speaker 3: days before the original post. I saw her briefly at
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  Speaker 3: a funeral two weeks ago, to which I was very
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  Speaker 3: cold and distant. Going forward, I'm not going to their house,
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  Speaker 3: and I'll be cutting contact with her completely. Yesterday was
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  Speaker 3: my graduation, and his wife did not attend, but my
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  Speaker 3: dad did.
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  Speaker 1: All right. Nice.
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  Speaker 3: It was a lovely day where I was surrounded by
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  Speaker 3: people who love me and respect me. Not people who
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  Speaker 3: try to force themselves into my life.
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  Speaker 4: Smiley face.
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  Speaker 2: There we go.
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  Speaker 1: And that is the end of that story.
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  Speaker 2: I like that. I like that. I guess I see.
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  Speaker 2: I always say it. Dakota and I would love to
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  Speaker 2: just sit down with your family and understand the complexes
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  Speaker 2: through dinner. So we understand, oh, this is how the
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  Speaker 2: mother-in-law is. You could pick up on those little nuances
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  Speaker 2: pretty quickly at a dinner.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I would spill something on purpose to see how everyone reacts.
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  Speaker 2: That's good.
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  Speaker 1: See who's gracious. See who's forgiving.
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  Speaker 2: See who's like, all right, cool. Little things like that
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  Speaker 2: I try not to make a big blip about. I'm
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  Speaker 2: just like, all right.
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  Speaker 1: What's happened has happened. If they get all mad, I'd
• 11:55
  Speaker 1: be like, you know what? I was going to give
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  Speaker 1: you $ 100 million. But you passed. You didn't fail. You
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  Speaker 1: failed the test.
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  Speaker 2: Excuse me, man. Will you buy these two pumpkins for me?
• 12:08
  Speaker 2: I really want to make pumpkin pie. Will you buy
• 12:11
  Speaker 2: these two pumpkins for me? Sure, sweetie, I will. You
• 12:15
  Speaker 2: just got a million dollars. Have you seen those videos?
• 12:17
  Speaker 2: We're like, no, I'm not going to buy you anything.
• 12:20
  Speaker 2: And they go to the next time. Hey, will you
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  Speaker 2: buy these?
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  Speaker 1: Like, yeah, man. Oh, dude, here's a thousand dollars.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you. And the person that sees is like, ah,
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  Speaker 2: that's my money.
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  Speaker 1: But that's not fair. That's not fair. I'm suing you.
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  Speaker 2: And that's the end of this story. We're going to
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  Speaker 2: read the next one.
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  Speaker 4: My family wanted me to use a name they came
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  Speaker 4: up with for my baby, but I hate it.
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  Speaker 1: It's my baby. I get to name it.
• 12:45
  Speaker 4: Shut up. I, 27 female, and my husband, 28 male,
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  Speaker 4: are expecting our first child in the fall. It's a girl!
• 12:52
  Speaker 1: Congrats.
• 12:53
  Speaker 4: We're both really stoked and have wanted kids for a
• 12:55
  Speaker 4: long time now. Ever since we decided to start planning
• 12:59
  Speaker 4: on having kids, my husband has been using a joke
• 13:01
  Speaker 4: placeholder name for our baby. He's second generation Irish and
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  Speaker 4: has been calling our baby Siobhan. He likes that it's
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  Speaker 4: traditional Irish, and don't get me wrong, it's really a
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  Speaker 4: pretty name, but my major hang-up is we live in
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  Speaker 4: the U.S. We were both born and raised in the U.S.,
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  Speaker 4: and the U.S. is known to be kind of garbage
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  Speaker 4: at pronouncing traditional Irish names right. That is stupid. That's
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  Speaker 4: kind of stupid. Yes, it's true, but that's kind of
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  Speaker 4: a stupid reason not to name your kid.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and I mean, even if they do pronounce it Siobhan,
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  Speaker 3: that's not a bad name either.
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  Speaker 4: It's a pretty cool name, Siobhan, on the first try anyway.
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  Speaker 4: I do not want to send my daughter to 12
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  Speaker 4: years of public education and have teachers, substitutes, and fellow
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  Speaker 4: students unable to say her name right on the first try.
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  Speaker 4: I don't know, dude. I don't know. I think that's
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  Speaker 4: kind of a silly reason. If you think the name
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  Speaker 4: is pretty and your husband really likes it because it
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  Speaker 4: has meaning to him and it literally can, the interaction
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  Speaker 4: can be this. Sibhan? No, it's Siobhan.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, okay.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, Siobhan, that's it. My name is a pretty standard
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  Speaker 4: name here, but it's spelled differently because my dear sweet
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  Speaker 4: mother wanted me to be unique. But all I got
• 14:16
  Speaker 4: was grief for it. Kids can be mean, and I
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  Speaker 4: don't want my kid to have a name that might
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  Speaker 4: get her bullied or cause teachers to call her Siobhan.
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  Speaker 4: Not at all how you'd pronounce it every time they
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  Speaker 4: call her name in class. The problem, everyone's telling me
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  Speaker 4: that I totally need to use the name Siobhan. Yeah,
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  Speaker 4: I'm here telling you, you need to call your daughter Siobhan.
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  Speaker 1: It's kind of a cool name.
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  Speaker 4: It's a cool name.
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  Speaker 1: And Siobhan is not a bad mispronunciation.
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  Speaker 4: I don't know. Like, talk to the teachers before and say, hey,
• 14:48
  Speaker 4: her name's Siobhan. By the way, this comes from Accomplished
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  Speaker 4: Owl 8796, and if you want to submit your own stories,
• 14:54
  Speaker 4: go to the r slash okay story time subreddit. I'm Sophia.
• 14:57
  Speaker 1: I'm Dakota.
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  Speaker 4: And we're here to give good advice goofily, but we
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  Speaker 4: don't have all the answers. We only know what we'd do.
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  Speaker 4: So let us know what you would do in the comments.
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  Speaker 4: And Opie says, My own parents say that it's pretty
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  Speaker 4: and unique. Again, with that word. Mom rolling my eyes.
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  Speaker 4: My aunt and cousins are saying, well, that's what you
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  Speaker 4: call her anyway. My husband does.
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  Speaker 6: I don't.
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  Speaker 4: And my husband's family gush over it, too. I've told
• 15:20
  Speaker 4: everyone that it's not what I want to go with,
• 15:23
  Speaker 4: but it's like talking to a brick wall. My husband's
• 15:26
  Speaker 4: cut down on calling the baby Siobhan since he knows
• 15:28
  Speaker 4: it's not what I want and that it bugs me.
• 15:31
  Speaker 4: He's told them that it was really just a joke name,
• 15:33
  Speaker 4: and he kept using it to tease me. We have
• 15:36
  Speaker 4: a very playful teasing type relationship. I've given as good
• 15:39
  Speaker 4: as I've gotten in that respect. He's said multiple times
• 15:43
  Speaker 4: it's not what we're actually going with, but things are
• 15:46
  Speaker 4: starting to get out of hand. My mom and sister
• 15:48
  Speaker 4: have already tried getting embroidered blankets with Siobhan ordered for
• 15:53
  Speaker 4: the baby. They only failed because they called me to
• 15:55
  Speaker 4: confirm the spelling and I shut it down hard. It
• 15:59
  Speaker 4: is tough. It is tough to be like, no, you
• 16:02
  Speaker 4: should do Siobhan. And Opie's like, people can never spell
• 16:05
  Speaker 4: it right or pronounce it. And they're like, no, do
• 16:07
  Speaker 4: it anyway. Also, how do you spell it? That's a
• 16:10
  Speaker 4: tough one.
• 16:10
  Speaker 1: You could just like make it the phonetic.
• 16:13
  Speaker 4: Yeah, Siobhan.
• 16:14
  Speaker 6: Aunt.
• 16:15
  Speaker 4: Siobhan.
• 16:15
  Speaker 1: S-H-A-V-O-N-N.
• 16:17
  Speaker 4: Yeah, Siobhan.
• 16:18
  Speaker 1: Siobhan.
• 16:19
  Speaker 4: Yeah, we could do that. Now they're pissed because I
• 16:22
  Speaker 4: still can't make up my mind on what I actually
• 16:24
  Speaker 4: want to name my daughter, and I'm just a mess.
• 16:26
  Speaker 4: I'm pregnant, my head hurts, and I don't know. Am
• 16:29
  Speaker 4: I just making a big deal of her nothing? Should
• 16:31
  Speaker 4: I just name the baby Siobhan and get it over with,
• 16:34
  Speaker 4: or is this worth putting my foot down on? Am
• 16:36
  Speaker 4: I the a-hole if I don't name my baby Siobhan?
• 16:39
  Speaker 4: And there is an update. no, you're not the ale
• 16:41
  Speaker 4: if you don't name your baby Siobhan.
• 16:43
  Speaker 3: Unless the baby tells you in a psychic message that
• 16:46
  Speaker 3: its name is.
• 16:47
  Speaker 1: Siobhan, you're not in the wrong.
• 16:50
  Speaker 4: Name me Siobhan.
• 16:52
  Speaker 1: It's just maybe your reasoning is questionable.
• 16:55
  Speaker 4: Yes, I do agree with that. Because if we're basing
• 17:00
  Speaker 4: what we're naming our child, especially like a traditional name,
• 17:03
  Speaker 4: off of, oh, well, some people are going to get
• 17:08
  Speaker 4: that name wrong. It's like, Let's not base it on that.
• 17:11
  Speaker 4: It's a pretty name.
• 17:12
  Speaker 1: Let's just name everybody Jimmy.
• 17:14
  Speaker 4: But if you really don't like the name, then pick
• 17:16
  Speaker 4: a different name. Seems like your husband's on your side,
• 17:19
  Speaker 4: so who cares about everyone else? But we got an update. Guys,
• 17:23
  Speaker 4: you made a pregnant woman cry in a good way.
• 17:26
  Speaker 4: I am so glad to see all your comments and everything.
• 17:29
  Speaker 4: Even the year of the a-holes and downvotes were welcome
• 17:31
  Speaker 4: looks at both sides. So I want you all to
• 17:33
  Speaker 4: know that I really appreciate it. I got a DM
• 17:36
  Speaker 4: from someone with the name Siobhan. And not only was
• 17:38
  Speaker 4: it validating, but it gave me a great idea. They
• 17:41
  Speaker 4: told me they'd go by the nickname Bunny, and I
• 17:44
  Speaker 4: almost instantly fell in love with it. After more pregnancy crying,
• 17:48
  Speaker 4: I ran the idea past my husband. His response was
• 17:51
  Speaker 4: we could give her Anne for a middle name like
• 17:53
  Speaker 4: The Pirate. My husband's a pirate nautical geek, but I
• 17:57
  Speaker 4: love him for it. So we have a new working name,
• 18:00
  Speaker 4: Bunny Anne. If we end up not liking it when
• 18:02
  Speaker 4: she's born, we'll switch things around, but for now, that's
• 18:05
  Speaker 4: what we're going with.
• 18:06
  Speaker 1: Wait a minute. What if people don't pronounce Bonnie right?
• 18:10
  Speaker 4: Yeah, they're like, Bonnie?
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: Is your name Boonie?
• 18:13
  Speaker 4: Boonie-oon?
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: Are you the king of the Earth kingdom? Boonie?
• 18:20
  Speaker 4: I feel like you figured it out. So all is well.
• 18:24
  Speaker 3: Although now that I think about it, given the current climate, maybe.
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: By the time they're grown, maybe it'll calm down. Bonnie
• 18:35
  Speaker 1: could be a controversial name.
• 18:37
  Speaker 4: What's wrong with Bonnie?
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: I don't really want to say.
• 18:40
  Speaker 4: We got a little bit left.
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: People who know will know what I'm talking about.
• 18:43
  Speaker 4: Because I don't know. I haven't told our families yet,
• 18:46
  Speaker 4: and I think we're going to keep it that way,
• 18:48
  Speaker 4: at least for now. I have stressed that we want
• 18:51
  Speaker 4: it to be a surprise angle, and while we got
• 18:53
  Speaker 4: some flack for it, it's gone down some. My mom
• 18:56
  Speaker 4: and sister were sour because apparently they wanted to do
• 18:58
  Speaker 4: a name reveal at my baby shower coming up. And again,
• 19:01
  Speaker 4: I've personalized gifts made. But they're sticking to my boundaries
• 19:05
  Speaker 4: for the time being. For all the Siobhans out there
• 19:08
  Speaker 4: and all those who also love the name, I see you,
• 19:11
  Speaker 4: I really do. It's a beautiful name from a beautiful culture.
• 19:14
  Speaker 4: Wear it with pride, my dudes. But for us, there's
• 19:17
  Speaker 4: just too much negative energy around it for us personally.
• 19:21
  Speaker 6: What?
• 19:22
  Speaker 4: Literally what negative energy? I think it's only you who
• 19:25
  Speaker 4: has the negative energy.
• 19:26
  Speaker 2: OP is the most sensitive person on earth when it
• 19:30
  Speaker 2: comes to mispronunciation.
• 19:32
  Speaker 4: OP's like, oh, just grins my gears if anyone mispronounces
• 19:37
  Speaker 4: any name. Overall, I made this account for this dilemma specifically.
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: I don't use.
• 19:42
  Speaker 4: Social media a lot, as it's not great for my
• 19:44
  Speaker 4: mental health. So I don't know how long I'm gonna
• 19:47
  Speaker 4: keep it up but i want to share this update
• 19:49
  Speaker 4: with you guys and thank you again for all your
• 19:51
  Speaker 4: help me and baby maybe bonnie are doing just fine
• 19:55
  Speaker 4: and that is the end of the story nice job
• 19:58
  Speaker 4: lovely you got there you sure did may.
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: You and seal pond have healthy happy lives and.
• 20:05
  Speaker 2: That's the end of the story we're gonna read the
• 20:07
  Speaker 2: next one.
• 20:08
  Speaker 3: My sister kept using my stuff despite me asking her
• 20:11
  Speaker 3: to stop, so I banned her.
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: That's actually my stuff! I have extremely sensitive skin and
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: reoccurring dermatitis.
• 20:19
  Speaker 3: After years of painful trial and error, I finally found
• 20:23
  Speaker 3: a routine that doesn't leave my face burning or covered
• 20:26
  Speaker 3: in dry patches.
• 20:27
  Speaker 2: Yay!
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: Takes a lot.
• 20:31
  Speaker 3: Most of the products are fragrance-free and fairly expensive, including
• 20:34
  Speaker 3: a $ 95 treatment.
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: Cream that I have to order online.
• 20:39
  Speaker 3: I keep everything together in a small tray in my bathroom,
• 20:42
  Speaker 3: and I replace each item on a schedule because I
• 20:45
  Speaker 3: just can't grab random products from a drugstore if I
• 20:48
  Speaker 3: run out. My younger sister visits me pretty often. A
• 20:51
  Speaker 3: few months ago, I noticed my cleanser and moisturizer were
• 20:53
  Speaker 3: disappearing much faster than usual. She's admitted she had been
• 20:58
  Speaker 3: using them whenever she stayed over because she liked how
• 21:00
  Speaker 3: they felt.
• 21:03
  Speaker 2: Don't care. Honestly, set up a subscription. Bless the. Set
• 21:08
  Speaker 2: up a subscription if she wants to do that. Pay
• 21:10
  Speaker 2: me 20, 30, I don't know, whatever it costs a month.
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: Yeah, let's open a dialogue where you say, hey, don't
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: do that. That's step one. Here we go. I told
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: her clearly that I needed her to stop. I even
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: put regular guest products in the bathroom so she would
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: have something else to use.
• 21:26
  Speaker 2: Okay, that's fair.
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: You've solved the problem. Yay! Unless your sister creates a
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: new one in which she doesn't respect your boundaries.
• 21:34
  Speaker 2: I doubt that.
• 21:35
  Speaker 3: Last weekend, she came over and brought one of her friends.
• 21:38
  Speaker 3: They stayed for a few hours while I finished some
• 21:40
  Speaker 3: work in my bedroom.
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: When I went into the bathroom later, my skincare tray
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: was completely rearranged, two products were open, and the treatment
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: cream felt much lighter than it had that morning. By
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: the way, this comes from Velvet Toast Box. If you
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: want to submit your own stories, go to the r
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: slash ok story time subreddit. I'm Dakota.
• 21:56
  Speaker 2: Hi, I'm Riley.
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: We're going to read this story about goop that you
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: put on your face.
• 22:01
  Speaker 2: And someone with OCD.
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: And we're going to give you good advice, Goovely, and
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: you guys make your comments down there.
• 22:06
  Speaker 2: We love you. And OP says, felt like a Smiling
• 22:11
  Speaker 2: Friends intro.
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: I asked my sister about it immediately.
• 22:14
  Speaker 3: At first, she said they had only tried a little bit,
• 22:18
  Speaker 3: but her friend was holding a small travel container in
• 22:20
  Speaker 3: her bag. My sister eventually admitted she had filled it
• 22:24
  Speaker 3: with some of my cream because her friend has similar
• 22:27
  Speaker 3: dry skin and wanted to test it at home.
• 22:29
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: If you're broke, just say that, Brokey McBrokerson.
• 22:34
  Speaker 2: That's crazy.
• 22:36
  Speaker 3: She acted like it was no big deal because there
• 22:39
  Speaker 3: was still some left in the original jar. That cream
• 22:42
  Speaker 3: usually lasts me around three months if I use the
• 22:45
  Speaker 3: correct amount, and based on how much was missing, she
• 22:47
  Speaker 3: gave away at least several weeks' worth. I also had
• 22:50
  Speaker 3: to throw out one of the open products because they
• 22:52
  Speaker 3: had both put their fingers directly into it after I
• 22:55
  Speaker 3: specifically told my sister not to touch anything. I told
• 22:58
  Speaker 3: my sister she was no longer welcome in my apartment
• 23:01
  Speaker 3: for the foreseeable future. I said we could meet at
• 23:03
  Speaker 3: our parents' house or somewhere public, but I wasn't comfortable
• 23:06
  Speaker 3: having her here after she ignored the same boundary multiple
• 23:10
  Speaker 3: times and then gave my belongings to someone else. She
• 23:15
  Speaker 3: started crying and said I was treating her like a
• 23:17
  Speaker 3: thief over some face cream.
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: Girly Pop! You stole... You stole from a person.
• 23:25
  Speaker 3: I'll always tell people, if you steal from a company
• 23:28
  Speaker 3: that's worth millions or billions of dollars, I'm not going
• 23:31
  Speaker 3: to call you a thief. I'm going to call you
• 23:33
  Speaker 3: a shoplifter, because that's what you are. If you steal
• 23:36
  Speaker 3: from another person directly, P2P, you're a thief.
• 23:40
  Speaker 2: P2P, not B2B?
• 23:41
  Speaker 5: No.
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: B2B, okay.
• 23:42
  Speaker 2: P2P, no.
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: P2B? I mean, you know, there's a debate there, but
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: I'm not going to call you a thief.
• 23:49
  Speaker 2: B2B' s fraud.
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: B2B is, yeah, B2B I don't like. P2B, I'll hear
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: you out. P2P?
• 24:00
  Speaker 7: Nope.
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: Into the sea.
• 24:02
  Speaker 2: Crossing the line.
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: You're a thief.
• 24:04
  Speaker 3: My mom also thinks banning her from my place is
• 24:06
  Speaker 3: too extreme and says I should just keep the products
• 24:08
  Speaker 3: in my bedroom when she visits.
• 24:10
  Speaker 2: Oh, yeah, let's put it all in a basket. Honestly,
• 24:14
  Speaker 2: one up. Put it in a safe. Come on.
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: Yeah, why don't you just lock it down? This is
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: your fault. Wait, do you smell that? Do you smell that?
• 24:20
  Speaker 2: I don't, no.
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: I smell the smell of a mother who ruined her child.
• 24:26
  Speaker 2: I thought that was just broccoli.
• 24:27
  Speaker 3: Any reaction other than, oh, your sister shouldn't be stealing
• 24:31
  Speaker 3: your expensive, very particular skincare products?
• 24:34
  Speaker 2: Also, I know OP's not going to ban her for life.
• 24:36
  Speaker 2: This is just probably for like a week or two.
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: Just for now. Until you stop being a thief.
• 24:41
  Speaker 3: I told them I shouldn't have to hide my things
• 24:43
  Speaker 3: inside my own home from a 24-year-old woman who has
• 24:46
  Speaker 3: already been told no. Now my sister says I embarrassed
• 24:51
  Speaker 3: her in front of her friend. You did that to yourself,
• 24:53
  Speaker 3: girly pop. And I damaged our relationship over skincare. I
• 24:56
  Speaker 3: feel like this stopped being about skincare the moment she
• 24:59
  Speaker 3: just decided my no didn't matter and that she was
• 25:02
  Speaker 3: allowed to give my property away.
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: Am I wrong for banning her from my apartment? Absolutely not.
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: Your sister's being childish and is a thief.
• 25:10
  Speaker 2: This is more than skincare. This skincare helps you not
• 25:13
  Speaker 2: turn into a monster physically. She's not respecting that. She
• 25:17
  Speaker 2: wants you to look ugly.
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: You know what really.
• 25:20
  Speaker 3: solidifies her as a thief, she knew she shouldn't ask.
• 25:24
  Speaker 3: She did it without asking because she knew the answer
• 25:27
  Speaker 3: was no. Knowing that, she said, I'm going to take
• 25:29
  Speaker 3: it anyway because she's a little thief.
• 25:32
  Speaker 2: Non-consensual P2P. And that's the end of this story. We're
• 25:35
  Speaker 2: going to read the next one. Hey, this is Riley,
• 25:38
  Speaker 2: the host that can't really read that well. We're going
• 25:39
  Speaker 2: to get back to the stories, but here's three minutes
• 25:41
  Speaker 2: worth of ads from our sponsors. I told my sister
• 25:45
  Speaker 2: I don't want her getting married again. She had a meltdown.
• 25:48
  Speaker 1: Well, how'd the first marriage go?
• 25:51
  Speaker 2: My 25 female sister, 28 female, is essentially a human disaster.
• 25:56
  Speaker 2: When she was young, she would end up in juvenile
• 25:59
  Speaker 2: detention centers because she would get in fights or steal
• 26:03
  Speaker 2: from stores. It was out of control that my dad
• 26:06
  Speaker 2: shipped her out to a boarding school. They sent her
• 26:09
  Speaker 2: back at 18. She shaved her head in the middle
• 26:12
  Speaker 2: of the night. and refused to make eye contact with
• 26:15
  Speaker 2: anyone for the rest of the day. She carried on normally,
• 26:18
  Speaker 2: just wouldn't stare at us directly. The next day, she
• 26:21
  Speaker 2: glared at everyone, even if it was inappropriate for the situation.
• 26:26
  Speaker 2: When she was 19, she got married to a boy
• 26:28
  Speaker 2: she had met at a bar and had been dating
• 26:31
  Speaker 2: for two months. Okay, well, you met at a bar.
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: I mean.
• 26:36
  Speaker 2: At a bar! It's, uh... He's old enough to get
• 26:39
  Speaker 2: in there.
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: It's concerning... But I feel like you guys never did
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: your sister any favors here, did you?
• 26:47
  Speaker 3: Just a general sense I've got that maybe she's always
• 26:50
  Speaker 3: felt like everyone around her thought she was bad and
• 26:54
  Speaker 3: worse than them.
• 26:55
  Speaker 2: She got pregnant and told everyone that she was going
• 26:58
  Speaker 2: to make her baby famous.
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: That's crazy.
• 27:01
  Speaker 2: At that point, she was still living at my parents' house.
• 27:05
  Speaker 2: She left her baby in his crib and left in
• 27:07
  Speaker 2: the morning without telling anyone where she was going. She
• 27:11
  Speaker 2: turned up three years later and demanded they give back
• 27:13
  Speaker 2: what they stole?
• 27:14
  Speaker 8: Oh!
• 27:15
  Speaker 1: Oh no!
• 27:18
  Speaker 2: My parents did not. Since then, she's been married twice more.
• 27:22
  Speaker 2: Her first husband divorced her over the baby abandonment. She
• 27:26
  Speaker 2: never told him what she had done and divorced him
• 27:30
  Speaker 2: almost the second she found out she was pregnant. She
• 27:34
  Speaker 2: was married to her second husband for five weeks. and
• 27:37
  Speaker 2: he divorced her after she shoved him off a pier
• 27:40
  Speaker 2: while wasted. Her third husband was her longest marriage, lasting
• 27:45
  Speaker 2: a whopping eight months. They divorced when she ripped up
• 27:48
  Speaker 2: family photos when his mom expressed disapproval over their relationship.
• 27:54
  Speaker 1: Your sister sounds like she's fun at parties and nowhere else.
• 27:59
  Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from HopHopHop333, and if you
• 28:01
  Speaker 2: want to submit your own stories, you know where to go.
• 28:04
  Speaker 2: I'm Riley.
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: I'm Dakota.
• 28:05
  Speaker 2: And I'm really excited to read this story with Dakota
• 28:07
  Speaker 2: because we're going to read it goofily. We're going to
• 28:09
  Speaker 2: read it excitedly. If you have anything you want to add,
• 28:11
  Speaker 2: please add it down below. Opie says, my sister has
• 28:15
  Speaker 2: been seen by mental health professionals and she's basically just
• 28:19
  Speaker 2: a dysfunctional and awful person. You see the part where
• 28:22
  Speaker 2: they listed the diagnosis?
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: Yeah, no, I missed that part.
• 28:27
  Speaker 2: It's called dysfunctional.
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: I really hate to break it to you, OP, but
• 28:33
  Speaker 1: if this has been the vibe your whole life, You're
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: kind of partially responsible for how crazy she is. Maybe.
• 28:40
  Speaker 2: We don't know. We don't have that context, though.
• 28:42
  Speaker 1: I'm really feeling it in the way OP's writing it,
• 28:45
  Speaker 1: that their whole childhood, there was always this air. I
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: don't know when it started.
• 28:52
  Speaker 2: I could see that. But this is wild, though. Abandoning
• 28:56
  Speaker 2: a baby?
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: No, that's crazy. I'm not saying that your sister's right,
• 28:59
  Speaker 1: but it's like, maybe let's not ignore the fact that
• 29:02
  Speaker 1: she didn't just become like that for no reason overnight.
• 29:05
  Speaker 2: She lives on her own now. near my parents' house
• 29:07
  Speaker 2: so she can visit her son. Most of her visits
• 29:11
  Speaker 2: consist of her showing up, drinking their wine, and leaving
• 29:14
  Speaker 2: having only said hello to him. Now my sister has
• 29:17
  Speaker 2: announced that she's marrying a man who got her pregnant
• 29:20
  Speaker 2: after dating for three months. My parents told her that
• 29:24
  Speaker 2: she should reconsider, but she declared that it is for
• 29:27
  Speaker 2: her baby's sake as she wants to raise this one right. Well,
• 29:33
  Speaker 2: in order to raise one right, You got to be
• 29:35
  Speaker 2: living in a right way.
• 29:37
  Speaker 1: I don't think you should be raising anything, not even crops.
• 29:40
  Speaker 1: Not even like a little creature, like a frog or something.
• 29:44
  Speaker 2: Like a box turtle.
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Nah, you should not be in charge of anything
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: that has a pulse. Besides yourself. Agreed.
• 29:52
  Speaker 2: Work on that first. Do a good job at that,
• 29:55
  Speaker 2: and maybe you can get another living thing in your house.
• 29:58
  Speaker 1: But a baby?
• 29:58
  Speaker 2: Ha ha ha. Fun fact about babies, you can make
• 30:01
  Speaker 2: those on your own. You just need a special friend.
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: She knows exactly how to make babies, clearly.
• 30:06
  Speaker 2: They told her that she should at least try to
• 30:09
  Speaker 2: raise her son. And she rolled her eyes and called
• 30:12
  Speaker 2: them selfish for trying to take attention away from her baby.
• 30:16
  Speaker 2: We're just redirecting the attention on your first baby. Yeah,
• 30:19
  Speaker 2: you've already got one of these, bro. What are you
• 30:23
  Speaker 2: on about? My dog needs a dog vibe.
• 30:27
  Speaker 1: Yeah, no, I want to raise this one right. You
• 30:30
  Speaker 1: know you could still raise the other one. Shut up!
• 30:32
  Speaker 2: That was so three years ago, man.
• 30:36
  Speaker 1: God, you're so selfish.
• 30:38
  Speaker 2: A few nights ago, she asked me what I thought
• 30:41
  Speaker 2: about her fiancé. I told her that I didn't know him,
• 30:45
  Speaker 2: but I felt like she was making a mistake. She
• 30:47
  Speaker 2: asked me to elaborate, and I told her that she
• 30:51
  Speaker 2: had gone through too many men to make this work
• 30:54
  Speaker 2: because I can't shut up when given the chance to
• 30:57
  Speaker 2: speak I reminded her that she already had a baby
• 31:00
  Speaker 2: that she's been failing for for the past eight years,
• 31:04
  Speaker 2: this poor child. I made sure to hammer in the
• 31:06
  Speaker 2: point that she barely knew this man at all. And
• 31:09
  Speaker 2: all he had done was got her pregnant. She got
• 31:12
  Speaker 2: very quiet and told me I was a crappy sister
• 31:16
  Speaker 2: and she didn't want to talk to me again. I
• 31:19
  Speaker 2: told her that she was a crappy person and walked out.
• 31:22
  Speaker 2: After that, my parents called me and said my sister
• 31:25
  Speaker 2: had told them about the conversation and that while they
• 31:29
  Speaker 2: agreed with me, they said I should have been nicer
• 31:32
  Speaker 2: as she was very upset. I haven't talked to her since,
• 31:37
  Speaker 2: as I've been trying to strategize what to say to her.
• 31:40
  Speaker 2: My sister is still my sister at the end of
• 31:41
  Speaker 2: the day, and I want her to make the best
• 31:44
  Speaker 2: choices she can. My nephew is also my nephew, and
• 31:48
  Speaker 2: her new baby will also be my blood, and I
• 31:51
  Speaker 2: love them all and want what's best for them. What
• 31:55
  Speaker 2: she's doing now won't work out for any of them.
• 31:58
  Speaker 2: And I feel like in trying to articulate, I just
• 32:02
  Speaker 2: effed up our relationship. Can I go back on this?
• 32:06
  Speaker 2: I meant what I said, but how can I make
• 32:08
  Speaker 2: it better? Is there any way to apologize? We got
• 32:11
  Speaker 2: an update. She wants to build back the bridge that
• 32:16
  Speaker 2: she tore down with her sister. Seems to be all
• 32:20
  Speaker 2: over the place. Is there a way back?
• 32:22
  Speaker 1: I have no idea how to guide you through this.
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: I would have had absolutely nothing to do with my
• 32:27
  Speaker 1: sister the moment she abandoned her child for three years.
• 32:31
  Speaker 1: She's done.
• 32:32
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I think she'll be once back in so that
• 32:35
  Speaker 2: whenever she has a second kid, she'll at least have
• 32:38
  Speaker 2: some influence on that child's life if something were to
• 32:40
  Speaker 2: go wrong.
• 32:41
  Speaker 1: I mean, maybe, but.
• 32:42
  Speaker 2: So what I would do is I would get some wine,
• 32:46
  Speaker 2: get three bottles of wine, pour it all out, put
• 32:48
  Speaker 2: grape juice in it, reseal it, Hey, sister, let's talk.
• 32:52
  Speaker 2: Then drink over some wine, in quotation marks.
• 32:54
  Speaker 6: Oh, no.
• 32:55
  Speaker 3: See, she'll know it's not wine right off the bat.
• 32:58
  Speaker 3: And then she'll get angry. She'll break the bottle and
• 33:00
  Speaker 3: start threatening you with it.
• 33:01
  Speaker 2: Oh, my gosh. She'll go, where's the wine?
• 33:04
  Speaker 1: Where's the real stuff?
• 33:05
  Speaker 2: I was thinking about getting Snoop Dogg's new wine. Ah,
• 33:08
  Speaker 2: he must have not known how to do it right.
• 33:10
  Speaker 4: He just, oopsie.
• 33:13
  Speaker 8: Mr.
• 33:13
  Speaker 1: Snoop, stick to rapping.
• 33:15
  Speaker 2: Come on, man. Stick to rapping and rolling blunts, dude.
• 33:19
  Speaker 2: I think, honestly, it's the betterment for the second kid.
• 33:22
  Speaker 2: This is crazy. Real thoughts? I feel like we should
• 33:25
  Speaker 2: find her ovaries and take them with us. Hold them hostage.
• 33:29
  Speaker 2: We should hang on to those until she is responsible
• 33:31
  Speaker 2: enough to use them herself.
• 33:32
  Speaker 1: There's not many people who I'm like, they should never
• 33:34
  Speaker 1: have kids.
• 33:37
  Speaker 2: But this one made the list, huh?
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know. I got to say, from everything
• 33:42
  Speaker 1: I've been hearing, I don't know if this person should
• 33:44
  Speaker 1: ever be allowed to have kids ever. Update.
• 33:46
  Speaker 2: Thanks for everyone for their advice. I tried to take
• 33:49
  Speaker 2: the no contact option, but my parents really asked me
• 33:53
  Speaker 2: to at least tell her we wouldn't be speaking. So
• 33:56
  Speaker 2: I went over to my sister's house. She invited me
• 33:59
  Speaker 2: inside for the first time. It was an absolute disaster zone.
• 34:03
  Speaker 2: There was adult soda on the floor, cig cartons smushed up,
• 34:07
  Speaker 2: cig butts everywhere, holes in the wall, cig burns in
• 34:11
  Speaker 2: the carpet. To say that I was disgusted is an understatement.
• 34:15
  Speaker 2: This is the first time she's ever been to her house.
• 34:17
  Speaker 1: That is some more evidence as to why this person
• 34:21
  Speaker 1: is fully unfit to have a child to raise.
• 34:25
  Speaker 2: I asked where her cat was. She said that her
• 34:28
  Speaker 2: fiance had let him out. Her cat was an indoor
• 34:30
  Speaker 2: cat because he wouldn't stop meowing and subsequently darted into
• 34:35
  Speaker 2: the street and got hit by a car.
• 34:38
  Speaker 1: I just imagine her saying that like so like nonchalant.
• 34:41
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, got hit by a car. Just didn't want
• 34:43
  Speaker 2: him in here.
• 34:44
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but we're going to raise the next one right.
• 34:46
  Speaker 2: I asked her if that was not at all disturbing
• 34:49
  Speaker 2: to her, and she shrugged. You were on the money
• 34:52
  Speaker 2: on that one.
• 34:53
  Speaker 1: Meh.
• 34:53
  Speaker 2: I sat down in the only chair that wasn't moth-eaten,
• 34:57
  Speaker 2: and I tried to lay it out for her. I
• 34:59
  Speaker 2: still didn't approve of her choices. I still thought she'd
• 35:02
  Speaker 2: be a bad mom, and I still thought she was unreliable.
• 35:06
  Speaker 2: She was silent for a little bit, while then told
• 35:09
  Speaker 2: me that I had no right to judge because I
• 35:11
  Speaker 2: wasn't married, had no children- and hadn't moved out of
• 35:14
  Speaker 2: my apartment since graduating.
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: So, that's the moment when you just go, hey, I
• 35:19
  Speaker 1: want you to just look around.
• 35:21
  Speaker 2: Take a glance.
• 35:22
  Speaker 1: Just, like, take in your surroundings and ask yourself, is
• 35:26
  Speaker 1: this a normal environment for a household?
• 35:30
  Speaker 2: Where would I put a baby?
• 35:31
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, let's make it fully baby-centric. Is this
• 35:36
  Speaker 1: the kind of environment... Suitable for raising a child.
• 35:41
  Speaker 2: Where baby gonna go?
• 35:43
  Speaker 1: Here?
• 35:43
  Speaker 2: I'm already sitting here. Baby can't stay here. Then I
• 35:47
  Speaker 2: pointed out that this was what I was talking about.
• 35:51
  Speaker 2: She was making bad choices, but no one else could
• 35:54
  Speaker 2: point that out and it wasn't fair. Especially because her
• 35:58
  Speaker 2: choices had an impact on others and mine didn't. When
• 36:02
  Speaker 2: I said that, she dissolved. She started crying, which elevated
• 36:06
  Speaker 2: to screaming Bloody Mary, and I told her to take
• 36:10
  Speaker 2: a walk and mellow out before I talked to her again.
• 36:14
  Speaker 2: And in response, she just laid down on the floor
• 36:17
  Speaker 2: and sobbed. It was so frustrating that I told her
• 36:20
  Speaker 2: she had to act like a grown-up or I wouldn't stay.
• 36:23
  Speaker 2: She shrieked at me and was completely incoherent. So I left.
• 36:30
  Speaker 2: That was four days ago. A day afterwards, my parents
• 36:33
  Speaker 2: called me while I was at work, and explained that
• 36:36
  Speaker 2: my nephew was too sick to go to school, but
• 36:39
  Speaker 2: they had gotten a call that they needed to leave
• 36:41
  Speaker 2: the state to help figure out some family stuff. I
• 36:44
  Speaker 2: agreed to come over and take care of him. Luckily,
• 36:47
  Speaker 2: he slept most of the time I was there, and
• 36:49
  Speaker 2: all I really had to do was snuggle him and
• 36:51
  Speaker 2: make sure he wasn't going to overheat from his fever.
• 36:56
  Speaker 2: Awesome aunt stuff right here. I can't wait to be
• 36:59
  Speaker 2: called in to help out for a sick kid.
• 37:02
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like you'd do a good job.
• 37:04
  Speaker 2: In the middle of the day, my sister came by.
• 37:06
  Speaker 6: Oh, God.
• 37:07
  Speaker 2: She said that our parents had said my nephew was sick,
• 37:10
  Speaker 2: that she wanted to help. Her son was sleeping in
• 37:13
  Speaker 2: the other room, and I just asked her to leave.
• 37:15
  Speaker 2: It didn't seem fair to him to have to deal
• 37:18
  Speaker 2: with the suckiness of being sick and his terrible mom.
• 37:22
  Speaker 2: My sister again said I had no right to interfere
• 37:25
  Speaker 2: with her relationship with her son. Well, who did the
• 37:27
  Speaker 2: parents call? Who did the parents that take care of
• 37:30
  Speaker 2: this child call? Was it you, sister, or was it O.P.?
• 37:34
  Speaker 2: I said she had no right to be his mother.
• 37:37
  Speaker 2: After giving him up, she had another meltdown and went
• 37:42
  Speaker 2: into the kitchen. Part of me had hoped that she
• 37:44
  Speaker 2: would just mellow out, but instead she went into the
• 37:47
  Speaker 2: cupboards and threw all of the good china on the floor.
• 37:50
  Speaker 2: I followed her, yelled at her, and had to physically
• 37:53
  Speaker 2: restrain her. Afterwards, I called my dad and told him
• 37:56
  Speaker 2: what had happened. He asked me not to call the police.
• 37:59
  Speaker 2: and said that he would be home later to deal
• 38:01
  Speaker 2: with her.
• 38:01
  Speaker 1: Honestly, bro, this is the problem.
• 38:05
  Speaker 3: Your parents absolutely failed your sister, because I'm getting the
• 38:10
  Speaker 3: feeling they never gave her consequences.
• 38:14
  Speaker 2: There was radio silence from my sister for longer than expected.
• 38:19
  Speaker 2: When my dad tried to get a hold of her,
• 38:21
  Speaker 2: she wasn't answering her phone. I had to go over
• 38:24
  Speaker 2: to her house, and she wasn't there. Her fiance said
• 38:27
  Speaker 2: that she had left. and returned her engagement ring. Yesterday,
• 38:31
  Speaker 2: my sister called, saying that she was far away and
• 38:35
  Speaker 2: that we wouldn't have to deal with her. I told
• 38:38
  Speaker 2: her she sounded insane, and she needed to get home
• 38:41
  Speaker 2: ASAP before someone called the police and got her institutionalized.
• 38:46
  Speaker 2: She said she didn't care, and I gave up. That night,
• 38:49
  Speaker 2: I was on my phone and decided to set up
• 38:51
  Speaker 2: SnapMaps because I was bored and just wanted to do something.
• 38:55
  Speaker 2: When I checked it out, my sister was on the map,
• 38:58
  Speaker 2: Less than 10 miles away at a friend's house.
• 39:02
  Speaker 1: Ah, would have been cooler if she was in the woods,
• 39:04
  Speaker 1: but I should have known she doesn't have the, you know,
• 39:07
  Speaker 1: self-reliance to be able to pull that one off.
• 39:10
  Speaker 2: This is where I now have a problem with sister.
• 39:12
  Speaker 2: She said far away and proceeded to just go 10 miles.
• 39:16
  Speaker 1: That makes her a liar.
• 39:17
  Speaker 2: That makes me so pissed off that she cannot geologically
• 39:21
  Speaker 2: estimate where she is away from people. Like 10 miles
• 39:24
  Speaker 2: is not even far for people that walk.
• 39:27
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I think she was just trying to say that...
• 39:30
  Speaker 1: to get them off their scent. I think she knew
• 39:32
  Speaker 1: she wasn't far away, bro.
• 39:34
  Speaker 2: I was so horrified. I called my parents and they
• 39:37
  Speaker 2: said that she might have left her phone at the
• 39:40
  Speaker 2: friend's place. To double check, I called a friend who
• 39:43
  Speaker 2: confirmed that my sister was staying there and said something
• 39:46
  Speaker 2: very odd. When I told her the entire story of
• 39:49
  Speaker 2: what had happened, my sister's friend said that she had
• 39:53
  Speaker 2: never been pregnant and suspected she was just effing with
• 39:58
  Speaker 2: us for sympathy. Pregnant this time or last time?
• 40:02
  Speaker 1: Huh.
• 40:03
  Speaker 2: That's my next question.
• 40:04
  Speaker 1: You know what my big question is? How does she
• 40:07
  Speaker 1: have friends?
• 40:08
  Speaker 2: Well, sometimes when you need to buy things from people,
• 40:12
  Speaker 2: you create a relationship. That's what I think this friend is.
• 40:19
  Speaker 2: I told my parents, who called my sister, who admitted
• 40:21
  Speaker 2: to lying to the family and her fiancé because she
• 40:24
  Speaker 2: was pressuring her to have a baby. Otherwise, they would
• 40:28
  Speaker 2: break up. She was planning an elaborate story to get
• 40:31
  Speaker 2: it all out. Opie says, my parents picked up my
• 40:34
  Speaker 2: sister in the morning and are keeping her at their
• 40:37
  Speaker 2: place under very strict rules until she gets it all together.
• 40:41
  Speaker 2: And Opie, how do you feel about that? The parents
• 40:43
  Speaker 2: are now stepping in.
• 40:45
  Speaker 1: Bap!
• 40:45
  Speaker 3: 12, 13 years too late by my estimation.
• 40:49
  Speaker 2: Yeah, she's 27, 28.
• 40:51
  Speaker 1: Sent her to boarding school, they sent her back.
• 40:54
  Speaker 2: Yep, you're going to military school now.
• 40:56
  Speaker 1: You're just going, I'm going to leave you in the
• 40:59
  Speaker 1: woods with a survival manual, and if you can make
• 41:01
  Speaker 1: your way back, welcome.
• 41:04
  Speaker 2: Until then, my nephew is staying with me, which I'm
• 41:07
  Speaker 2: super excited about. I've taken care of him for the
• 41:10
  Speaker 2: past for long periods of time, and he'll be seeing
• 41:13
  Speaker 2: my parents at their place. So his routine isn't shaking
• 41:16
  Speaker 2: up too much. But he'll be in my care for
• 41:19
  Speaker 2: a while now. My sister had to apologize to him
• 41:22
  Speaker 2: this afternoon, and he was so confused about it. So
• 41:26
  Speaker 2: we had a chat about what being a good person
• 41:28
  Speaker 2: is like in the car. He didn't seem to think
• 41:31
  Speaker 2: his mom had done anything wrong, which stung the absolute worst. Informally,
• 41:36
  Speaker 2: I've disowned my sister. I told her I didn't want
• 41:38
  Speaker 2: anything to do with her, especially after what my nephew said.
• 41:42
  Speaker 2: And yes, I know my sister is bat crap crazy. Well,
• 41:48
  Speaker 2: you're doing your part.
• 41:49
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you are.
• 41:51
  Speaker 2: That was so sad.
• 41:53
  Speaker 1: God, we had a discussion about what being a good
• 41:56
  Speaker 1: person is like. Yep. Yikes.
• 41:59
  Speaker 2: Good people keep the good china in the cupboards, not
• 42:04
  Speaker 2: on the floor. And that's the end of this story.
• 42:06
  Speaker 2: We're going to read the next one.
• 42:08
  Speaker 4: My girlfriend disappeared before we're supposed to sign a lease
• 42:12
  Speaker 4: and blamed it on me?
• 42:13
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you knew you were dating a magician when you
• 42:16
  Speaker 1: signed up.
• 42:17
  Speaker 4: We had been a couple for almost two years now,
• 42:20
  Speaker 4: two years in November, and I thought everything was going fine.
• 42:23
  Speaker 4: We signed a lease last month for renting a home
• 42:25
  Speaker 4: with a move-in date of November. Last weekend, we had
• 42:28
  Speaker 4: planned to go visit her parents a few hours away.
• 42:30
  Speaker 4: On Friday, she called me and sounded pretty upset and
• 42:34
  Speaker 4: said she needed a weekend by herself to think and
• 42:36
  Speaker 4: sort out feelings. She didn't seem to want to volunteer
• 42:39
  Speaker 4: any information. I said that was fine. And she said
• 42:42
  Speaker 4: she would call me on Sunday or when she sorted
• 42:44
  Speaker 4: out her thoughts and feelings.
• 42:46
  Speaker 1: Strange.
• 42:47
  Speaker 4: Saturday evening, I texted her. Are you feeling better? Do
• 42:50
  Speaker 4: you want to talk or do you need anything? She
• 42:52
  Speaker 4: responded with, please, just leave me alone now.
• 42:54
  Speaker 1: Please, I can't. I'm overcome with vapors. Stop it.
• 42:58
  Speaker 3: Oh, Lord.
• 43:00
  Speaker 4: I was pretty hurt by how blunt the message was
• 43:03
  Speaker 4: and just dropped it. She didn't call me Sunday, so
• 43:05
  Speaker 4: I let her be. Monday evening, I sent her another
• 43:08
  Speaker 4: text asking what was going on and got no response.
• 43:11
  Speaker 4: By the way, this comes from throwawaypanic191, and if you
• 43:14
  Speaker 4: want to submit your own stories, go to the r
• 43:16
  Speaker 4: slash okstorytime subreddit. I'm Sophia.
• 43:19
  Speaker 1: I'm Dakota.
• 43:20
  Speaker 5: I'm Keon.
• 43:20
  Speaker 4: And we're here to give good advice goofily, but we
• 43:22
  Speaker 4: don't have all the answers. We only know what we do.
• 43:25
  Speaker 4: So let us know what you would do in the comments.
• 43:26
  Speaker 4: And Opie says, I called her Tuesday, and my phone
• 43:29
  Speaker 4: calls were going immediately to voicemail. I got extremely concerned,
• 43:33
  Speaker 4: so I drove out to her apartment and noticed her
• 43:36
  Speaker 4: car was missing. So I decided.
• 43:38
  Speaker 1: Somebody stole her car?
• 43:40
  Speaker 5: Somebody stole my car. Someone broke into her house and
• 43:42
  Speaker 5: stole her car.
• 43:44
  Speaker 1: Well, she had the vapors. Oh. Oh.
• 43:47
  Speaker 4: So I decided to send a Facebook message to some
• 43:49
  Speaker 4: of her friends that I knew. It was at that
• 43:51
  Speaker 4: point that I realized she was no longer on my Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, etc.
• 43:56
  Speaker 4: I sent a message to a few of her friends
• 43:58
  Speaker 4: who I knew. One finally got back to me late
• 44:01
  Speaker 4: last night and said, I need to learn to know
• 44:04
  Speaker 4: when I have been dumped and I need to move
• 44:07
  Speaker 4: on with my life and leave her alone.
• 44:09
  Speaker 5: Oh.
• 44:10
  Speaker 8: Oh.
• 44:11
  Speaker 4: Today I received a text message from one of her
• 44:13
  Speaker 4: friends telling me my ex said she was able to
• 44:16
  Speaker 4: convince the landlord to remove her from the lease and
• 44:20
  Speaker 4: she paid six months her share of the rent out
• 44:22
  Speaker 4: of her own pocket. Any of my things she had
• 44:24
  Speaker 4: of mine were just left with my parents. Anything I
• 44:27
  Speaker 4: have of hers can be thrown out.
• 44:29
  Speaker 1: Wow. It's infected.
• 44:31
  Speaker 4: Yikes.
• 44:32
  Speaker 5: Infected.
• 44:34
  Speaker 4: I don't know. Her friends also suck if they're letting
• 44:36
  Speaker 4: this behavior go just unquestioned. That's it. My parents had
• 44:42
  Speaker 4: no idea what was going on. It wasn't my ex.
• 44:44
  Speaker 4: It was someone my parents are not familiar with came
• 44:46
  Speaker 4: by and gave it to them without explaining anything before leaving. Oh,
• 44:50
  Speaker 4: this is the person who dropped off all of OP's belongings.
• 44:53
  Speaker 4: Was not his ex.
• 44:54
  Speaker 1: Is this just how dumping happens today?
• 44:56
  Speaker 4: I hope not. That's so cruel.
• 44:59
  Speaker 1: They pay six months of rent and then they're like,
• 45:01
  Speaker 1: leave me alone.
• 45:02
  Speaker 4: I don't understand. We went out last Wednesday and had
• 45:05
  Speaker 4: a great time. She stayed at my place. I don't
• 45:07
  Speaker 4: understand why she was upset on Friday. Am I missing something?
• 45:11
  Speaker 1: Clearly.
• 45:12
  Speaker 5: That's how they get you.
• 45:13
  Speaker 8: You know, that's how they, they sense of security. It's
• 45:16
  Speaker 8: not laying you down gently. It's laying you down with
• 45:19
  Speaker 8: a positivity and being nice.
• 45:21
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 45:22
  Speaker 4: Letting you down out of the blue. I feel confused, panicked,
• 45:25
  Speaker 4: and I just feel lost. I got no goodbye. I
• 45:28
  Speaker 4: don't understand. And we got some relevant comments. But what
• 45:31
  Speaker 4: do you understand, Dakota?
• 45:33
  Speaker 1: Well, there's a couple of theories in the comments. The
• 45:36
  Speaker 1: first theory was there's someone else.
• 45:38
  Speaker 8: Oh.
• 45:38
  Speaker 1: There's another theory that says he's lying. He's playing the victim.
• 45:41
  Speaker 1: He's probably a terrible person. Who knows?
• 45:43
  Speaker 4: Who's to say?
• 45:45
  Speaker 1: We'll never know. But I know this isn't how you
• 45:48
  Speaker 1: break up with somebody.
• 45:49
  Speaker 6: Almost.
• 45:50
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 45:51
  Speaker 4: Unless this guy is awful. making her feel unsafe and
• 45:56
  Speaker 4: she had to get out of there like this, then
• 45:59
  Speaker 4: this is.
• 46:01
  Speaker 1: Which I gotta say.
• 46:01
  Speaker 8: Unacceptable.
• 46:03
  Speaker 1: Not really hitting my radar on that one.
• 46:05
  Speaker 4: I mean, it doesn't seem like it. He's like, we
• 46:07
  Speaker 4: had a good time. We were having a laugh and
• 46:10
  Speaker 4: now she's gone. Strange. Fascination Street says, oh wow, you
• 46:14
  Speaker 4: have no hidden stuff that she may have found out. Cheating,
• 46:17
  Speaker 4: a kid you didn't tell her about, massive debt, criminal record.
• 46:20
  Speaker 4: OP says, nope, no skeletons in my closet, never cheated
• 46:24
  Speaker 4: or anything. The only thing I remember is about three
• 46:26
  Speaker 4: months ago when we were having... Spicy sleep. I blurted
• 46:30
  Speaker 4: out that I loved her. I really did.
• 46:31
  Speaker 5: Ah, that's what it was.
• 46:33
  Speaker 1: Hold on.
• 46:34
  Speaker 4: She got awkward and told me she wasn't ready for
• 46:37
  Speaker 4: that yet. They've been dating for two years. Did I
• 46:41
  Speaker 4: misread something?
• 46:42
  Speaker 5: Mid-coitus.
• 46:43
  Speaker 1: She went, oh no, we've just been cool for two years.
• 46:46
  Speaker 4: They've been a couple for two years and he said
• 46:49
  Speaker 4: I love you?
• 46:50
  Speaker 1: Nah, they've been a... Two months ago? They've been a
• 46:53
  Speaker 1: situation-ship for two years.
• 46:55
  Speaker 5: She wasn't ready for all that. She skipped steps. She
• 46:57
  Speaker 5: obviously goes.
• 46:59
  Speaker 4: Someone skipped steps. I really need to know who skipped
• 47:03
  Speaker 4: steps here.
• 47:03
  Speaker 8: You need to get married first, and then she says,
• 47:05
  Speaker 8: I love you.
• 47:05
  Speaker 4: Fascination Street. Says at two years, she wasn't ready to
• 47:09
  Speaker 4: hear you say that you love her. Are you sure
• 47:12
  Speaker 4: the two of you were dating? OP says she has
• 47:14
  Speaker 4: been introducing me as her boyfriend for ages now. And
• 47:17
  Speaker 4: we signed a lease for a house together.
• 47:20
  Speaker 1: What's going on?
• 47:22
  Speaker 4: We have pretty much been spending five out of the
• 47:24
  Speaker 4: seven days of the week together. That's most of the days.
• 47:27
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that checks out.
• 47:28
  Speaker 4: For months now. I know it was weird, but she
• 47:31
  Speaker 4: said she wasn't ready and said she would tell me
• 47:33
  Speaker 4: when she's ready. Has OP met her family? Maybe contact them.
• 47:36
  Speaker 4: I met her parents a grand total of two times
• 47:39
  Speaker 4: so far. In two years? How far away do they live?
• 47:43
  Speaker 1: Depends on where they are.
• 47:44
  Speaker 4: And both were very short affairs. Dinners, since they live
• 47:48
  Speaker 4: quite far away.
• 47:48
  Speaker 8: Okay.
• 47:48
  Speaker 4: But I did write her mother via Facebook and explained
• 47:51
  Speaker 4: how weird it was as suggested. I will see if
• 47:54
  Speaker 4: I get anything or if she even uses Facebook still.
• 47:57
  Speaker 4: Has OP cheated or the girlfriend? Never cheated. I was
• 48:00
  Speaker 4: extremely happy with her. We had common hobbies. We got
• 48:03
  Speaker 4: along great. We were spicily compatible. I was very happy
• 48:08
  Speaker 4: and had no reason. I guess that could happen. I
• 48:10
  Speaker 4: guess I'm just confused about the time frame. We were
• 48:13
  Speaker 4: playing games until late Thursday night, spent Wednesday together, and
• 48:17
  Speaker 4: she seemed fine. And we do have an update, folks.
• 48:20
  Speaker 6: Hmm.
• 48:20
  Speaker 1: She seemed fine.
• 48:21
  Speaker 4: She seemed fine.
• 48:22
  Speaker 1: And that's where you made your mistake.
• 48:24
  Speaker 6: All right.
• 48:24
  Speaker 5: Yeah, she was not fine.
• 48:26
  Speaker 4: We've gathered the evidence. OP's girlfriend, in quotes, didn't say
• 48:32
  Speaker 4: I love you within two years. First red flag. He
• 48:35
  Speaker 4: had met the parents twice in two years. That's once
• 48:38
  Speaker 4: per year.
• 48:39
  Speaker 8: Yeah.
• 48:40
  Speaker 1: Statistically.
• 48:43
  Speaker 4: It's not looking too good. It's not looking hot.
• 48:45
  Speaker 8: What do you think?
• 48:46
  Speaker 1: I think you should have ghosted her after she was like,
• 48:48
  Speaker 1: it's weird. You said I love you. I agree.
• 48:50
  Speaker 6: I agree.
• 48:51
  Speaker 1: I agree.
• 48:51
  Speaker 5: I think you should have disappeared.
• 48:52
  Speaker 8: Wait, I need, I need, again, context. Did he say
• 48:55
  Speaker 8: I love you mid?
• 48:56
  Speaker 1: Yes.
• 48:58
  Speaker 5: And her response was?
• 49:00
  Speaker 4: She got awkward.
• 49:00
  Speaker 5: That's that, that, not into that. I'm not into that.
• 49:05
  Speaker 4: We've got an update though. One week later on Sunday,
• 49:08
  Speaker 4: she sent me a very long message via email, pretty
• 49:11
  Speaker 4: much explaining what happened. Pretty much. It boiled down to, well,
• 49:15
  Speaker 4: she wanted to try having a serious relationship with her
• 49:18
  Speaker 4: friend every who said that there was another person.
• 49:22
  Speaker 1: Uh-oh.
• 49:22
  Speaker 4: Seems like they were right.
• 49:24
  Speaker 1: Uh-oh, Spaghetti-O.
• 49:26
  Speaker 4: Oh, her friend is the same person who sent me
• 49:28
  Speaker 4: the extremely blunt message about her dumping me.
• 49:31
  Speaker 5: Makes sense.
• 49:31
  Speaker 6: Oh.
• 49:32
  Speaker 4: Apparently for a year before we started dating, she was
• 49:34
  Speaker 4: having an on and off again relationship with her. I
• 49:36
  Speaker 4: never knew this and nobody ever mentioned it. Apparently it
• 49:40
  Speaker 4: wasn't serious and they broke it off because her friend
• 49:42
  Speaker 4: got cold feet about actual commitment. Oh, wow. I wonder
• 49:46
  Speaker 4: how that felt. I wonder how actual commitment not being
• 49:50
  Speaker 4: reciprocated feels, girlfriend.
• 49:52
  Speaker 1: How does it feel?
• 49:53
  Speaker 5: How does it feel?
• 49:54
  Speaker 4: I never really knew how close my ex and her
• 49:57
  Speaker 4: friend were, but I'm probably just dumb. She says she
• 50:00
  Speaker 4: never cheated on me, but apparently the night after I
• 50:02
  Speaker 4: last saw her, her friend confessed to my ex when
• 50:05
  Speaker 4: she heard about us moving in together.
• 50:06
  Speaker 2: I don't know.
• 50:07
  Speaker 4: According to her, she needed to give this a try
• 50:10
  Speaker 4: because she's apparently in love with her and has been
• 50:12
  Speaker 4: for years.
• 50:13
  Speaker 5: Oh, there's the word.
• 50:14
  Speaker 1: Wow. There it is.
• 50:15
  Speaker 4: So she can say it.
• 50:17
  Speaker 5: She just wasn't in love with you.
• 50:19
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah.
• 50:20
  Speaker 3: She just couldn't say it to you because it was
• 50:23
  Speaker 3: a lie.
• 50:24
  Speaker 1: Tough.
• 50:25
  Speaker 4: She said she was a coward and really sorry. She
• 50:27
  Speaker 4: also offered to be friends in the future, just not now.
• 50:31
  Speaker 4: I rejected that.
• 50:32
  Speaker 5: I love when people try to do that.
• 50:34
  Speaker 4: Like, hey, we could be friends.
• 50:35
  Speaker 2: Why?
• 50:36
  Speaker 1: Yes, and the moon could be made of cheese. No
• 50:38
  Speaker 1: one knows for sure.
• 50:40
  Speaker 4: No one knows. Folks, if people don't say I love
• 50:44
  Speaker 4: you within two years of official dating, they are not
• 50:48
  Speaker 4: the person for you.
• 50:49
  Speaker 1: Yeah. I would have to agree.
• 50:52
  Speaker 4: It's like if you're in one of those relationships where
• 50:55
  Speaker 4: you really want to get married and the other person's like, yeah,
• 50:57
  Speaker 4: maybe when I'm ready. And they keep pushing it down
• 51:00
  Speaker 4: the line and kicking that rock down the road.
• 51:03
  Speaker 1: I'll marry them. Until it turns into a sphere.
• 51:05
  Speaker 4: They're not going to marry you.
• 51:07
  Speaker 1: Fushigi.
• 51:07
  Speaker 8: Fushigi?
• 51:08
  Speaker 2: Fushigi?
• 51:09
  Speaker 1: Your rock turns into a sphere. I can't marry you.
• 51:13
  Speaker 1: I'm married to Fushigi.
• 51:17
  Speaker 4: Uh, there's a little bit left, though.
• 51:18
  Speaker 1: Fushigi.
• 51:20
  Speaker 4: Anyways, so that aside, now we had a bit of communication.
• 51:24
  Speaker 4: We both signed a lease amendment taking her off the lease.
• 51:27
  Speaker 4: She also sent me the money for a chunk of
• 51:29
  Speaker 4: the rent for the year, as she felt she needed
• 51:31
  Speaker 4: to make stuff right somehow. I'm still going to move
• 51:34
  Speaker 4: into the house as I can pay the rent myself,
• 51:36
  Speaker 4: even without her help. Honestly, at the end of it all,
• 51:39
  Speaker 4: I guess I was just way more into her than
• 51:42
  Speaker 4: she was into me, and I never really noticed it.
• 51:45
  Speaker 4: Considering how often this friend was around, I probably should
• 51:47
  Speaker 4: have noticed something, I guess. However, I will say that personally,
• 51:51
  Speaker 4: even before this, I found her friend to be pretty manipulative,
• 51:55
  Speaker 4: and I doubt it's going to work out how she
• 51:56
  Speaker 4: thinks it will, but I'm done with her.
• 51:58
  Speaker 8: Maybe she likes that.
• 52:00
  Speaker 4: Maybe she wants that. She seems like she has some
• 52:02
  Speaker 4: mixed up feelings about relationships.
• 52:04
  Speaker 1: She's like, yeah, I want to feel bad.
• 52:06
  Speaker 5: Maybe it's Maybelline.
• 52:07
  Speaker 1: I want to be with this guy who's going to
• 52:08
  Speaker 1: make me feel bad.
• 52:10
  Speaker 4: She is a girl.
• 52:11
  Speaker 1: I want to be with this guy who's a girl.
• 52:14
  Speaker 1: Who's a girl. Who's going to make me feel bad.
• 52:16
  Speaker 4: So bad.
• 52:16
  Speaker 7: And that's the end of this story. Let's head to
• 52:19
  Speaker 7: the next one.
• 52:20
  Speaker 4: My friend tried to steal my boyfriend and he didn't
• 52:23
  Speaker 4: say a word to me.
• 52:24
  Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, that makes sense.
• 52:26
  Speaker 4: A friend of mine tried to hook up with my boyfriend.
• 52:29
  Speaker 4: He turned her down, but I'm sussed out by the
• 52:31
  Speaker 4: fact that he didn't tell me. I only found out
• 52:33
  Speaker 4: from my boyfriend's friend who was there when it happened.
• 52:36
  Speaker 4: He thought that my boyfriend already told me about it
• 52:38
  Speaker 4: since it was her who hit on him and he
• 52:40
  Speaker 4: turned her down and there was no reason to hide it.
• 52:43
  Speaker 4: I confronted my boyfriend about it later and he said
• 52:45
  Speaker 4: he didn't want to ruin our friendship and that he
• 52:47
  Speaker 4: told her if she doesn't stop being weird, he'll tell me.
• 52:50
  Speaker 4: He says he wanted to give her a shot at
• 52:52
  Speaker 4: saving the friendship. I've already decided that I'm done being
• 52:55
  Speaker 4: friends with her because I don't want friends that would
• 52:57
  Speaker 4: do something like that. Besides, I've always thought she had
• 52:59
  Speaker 4: a thing for him. Anyway, she thinks that just because
• 53:02
  Speaker 4: they met first, that means she's entitled to him or something.
• 53:05
  Speaker 4: I don't need that kind of BS in my life.
• 53:08
  Speaker 4: So if he had told me, I would have cut
• 53:10
  Speaker 4: her off immediately, which is what I did when I
• 53:12
  Speaker 4: found out. By the way, this comes from throwawayjjio91122. And
• 53:17
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• 53:22
  Speaker 1: I'm Dakota.
• 53:23
  Speaker 5: I'm Keon.
• 53:24
  Speaker 4: And we're here to give good advice goofily, but we
• 53:25
  Speaker 4: don't have all the answers. We only know what we'd do.
• 53:28
  Speaker 4: So let us know what you would do in the comments.
• 53:30
  Speaker 4: And OP says, The problem for me right now is
• 53:33
  Speaker 4: that it's weird that he didn't tell me about it.
• 53:35
  Speaker 4: I understand that it must have been an awkward spot
• 53:38
  Speaker 4: for him, but you'd think he'd want to tell me
• 53:39
  Speaker 4: immediately to avoid a misunderstanding. Besides, it's weird that he
• 53:43
  Speaker 4: cares more about potentially saving my friendship with her than
• 53:47
  Speaker 4: he does making sure he doesn't come off as a cheater.
• 53:50
  Speaker 4: Is that a green flag or a red flag? I
• 53:52
  Speaker 4: can't tell. I think it is the wrong choice.
• 53:55
  Speaker 1: It's a gray area.
• 53:56
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 53:57
  Speaker 1: It is a weird position to be put in.
• 54:00
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 54:00
  Speaker 1: You would think the gut instinct would be to tell.
• 54:04
  Speaker 1: But that's exactly the thing that might have happened where
• 54:07
  Speaker 1: he had the gut instinct and then his brain. And
• 54:09
  Speaker 1: he said, wait, but if I say that, am I
• 54:10
  Speaker 1: going to ruin their friendship and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
• 54:13
  Speaker 4: I think it was obviously the wrong choice, but I
• 54:17
  Speaker 4: think potentially could have been coming from a misguided, you know,
• 54:22
  Speaker 4: attempt to do the right thing.
• 54:24
  Speaker 1: Yeah, because it's also like you wouldn't want to be
• 54:25
  Speaker 1: friends with someone who would do that. Yeah, no. You know?
• 54:28
  Speaker 4: My friend thinks he hid it from me because he
• 54:30
  Speaker 4: was interested, but I don't think he's that kind of guy.
• 54:32
  Speaker 4: I mean, he turned her down.
• 54:34
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 54:34
  Speaker 8: Yeah.
• 54:35
  Speaker 4: Granted, we've only been dating for four months, and I
• 54:37
  Speaker 4: still don't know him that well, so anything is possible.
• 54:40
  Speaker 4: What do you guys think? Is it a red flag
• 54:42
  Speaker 4: that he didn't tell me? We do have an update.
• 54:45
  Speaker 4: What do you guys think?
• 54:46
  Speaker 1: I'm not going to lie. I love that people put
• 54:49
  Speaker 1: their stories on the internet for us to read. It's
• 54:51
  Speaker 1: almost more of a red flag that you did this
• 54:54
  Speaker 1: instead of just talking to him.
• 54:56
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 54:56
  Speaker 1: You know what I mean? No, I mean, I don't know.
• 55:00
  Speaker 4: I think it's okay to ask for advice. And OP
• 55:03
  Speaker 4: now has lost one of her friends. Maybe doesn't have
• 55:05
  Speaker 4: as many friends to ask for advice.
• 55:07
  Speaker 6: I suppose not. A friend may be testing him. Yeah,
• 55:11
  Speaker 6: he could have thought that. I think talk to him
• 55:14
  Speaker 6: and say, hey, where was your hat at? And if
• 55:16
  Speaker 6: he says, well, I wasn't sure.
• 55:18
  Speaker 2: Which one?
• 55:20
  Speaker 4: I wasn't sure if I was destroying your friendship. And
• 55:22
  Speaker 4: then you get to say, okay, well, going forward, please
• 55:25
  Speaker 4: tell me if something like that happens again, because let
• 55:29
  Speaker 4: me decide whether or not I want to keep that friendship.
• 55:31
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 55:32
  Speaker 4: Update. So I told my boyfriend that I understand why
• 55:34
  Speaker 4: he did it and that I get that he wanted
• 55:36
  Speaker 4: to avoid hurting me, but that he doesn't get to
• 55:38
  Speaker 4: make that choice for me.
• 55:39
  Speaker 1: Nice.
• 55:40
  Speaker 4: He said he understands that he should have told me,
• 55:42
  Speaker 4: but that he had kind of hoped that she was
• 55:44
  Speaker 4: just having a weird moment and that it wouldn't happen
• 55:46
  Speaker 4: again and we'd avoid the entire thing completely. I told
• 55:50
  Speaker 4: him that from now on, I want him to be
• 55:52
  Speaker 4: upfront with me. about this kind of thing. I also
• 55:55
  Speaker 4: told him that if he was worried about if I'm
• 55:57
  Speaker 4: going to believe him over my friend or not, he
• 55:59
  Speaker 4: shouldn't be. Because honestly, I suspected that she was into
• 56:02
  Speaker 4: him anyway, and I would have definitely believed him. There's
• 56:05
  Speaker 4: a little bit left. What do y'all think?
• 56:07
  Speaker 1: I believe this guy's in the green. Yeah.
• 56:11
  Speaker 3: Like someone said on TikTok, if it happened more than once,
• 56:14
  Speaker 3: definitely say something.
• 56:17
  Speaker 1: I think he did a good job. I think his
• 56:21
  Speaker 1: arithmetic was just fine.
• 56:23
  Speaker 4: I think his intentions were good.
• 56:25
  Speaker 1: He's only been four months.
• 56:26
  Speaker 8: Could be scared of conflict.
• 56:27
  Speaker 1: He's like, maybe she's just weird. Yeah. Because if she
• 56:30
  Speaker 1: does it again, then it's like, all right. All right.
• 56:33
  Speaker 1: You are weird. All right, we're done. And I need
• 56:36
  Speaker 1: to spread the word.
• 56:39
  Speaker 4: I think OP handled this A +. But we got
• 56:42
  Speaker 4: a little bit left. Anyway, I feel like he totally
• 56:44
  Speaker 4: understood where I'm coming from. If anything, this whole thing
• 56:47
  Speaker 4: kind of made us be on the same page about
• 56:49
  Speaker 4: this type of stuff. I want to thank everyone for
• 56:51
  Speaker 4: the advice because I was honestly getting paranoid because I've
• 56:54
  Speaker 4: been cheated on before. And my friends are kind of cynical,
• 56:57
  Speaker 4: so they expected the worst, which made me do the same. Ironically,
• 57:00
  Speaker 4: because of this whole thing and the talk we had after,
• 57:03
  Speaker 4: I feel like I can trust him more. For now,
• 57:05
  Speaker 4: I'm going to try to stop assuming the worst. Thanks
• 57:07
  Speaker 4: to everyone who chipped in. And that's it.
• 57:09
  Speaker 1: You're welcome.
• 57:10
  Speaker 4: I did chip in.
• 57:11
  Speaker 1: Yeah, we threw some chips in there.
• 57:13
  Speaker 4: Ah, and guac.
• 57:14
  Speaker 1: We splashed the pot on that one.
• 57:16
  Speaker 4: Yum, yum, yum. Take some of my chips. Take some
• 57:19
  Speaker 4: of his chips.
• 57:20
  Speaker 1: Take my chips. Take my chips. Don't you dare do
• 57:24
  Speaker 1: a dip with my chips. Don't you dip my chips.
• 57:29
  Speaker 7: And that's the end of this story. Let's head to
• 57:31
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• 57:37
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• 57:40
  Speaker 1: My girlfriend is pressuring me to get married as soon
• 57:43
  Speaker 1: as possible and turned on me when I refused.
• 57:46
  Speaker 5: Why won't you marry me?
• 57:47
  Speaker 3: We, both 29, were together previously when we were both 22,
• 57:52
  Speaker 3: right out of college. I was kind of in the
• 57:54
  Speaker 3: friend zone until I asked her out when we both
• 57:56
  Speaker 3: ended up working in the same city. We dated for
• 57:59
  Speaker 3: nine months and I thought she was the one until
• 58:02
  Speaker 3: she got really distant out of nowhere. At the time,
• 58:05
  Speaker 3: she never wanted anything serious. Thoughts of going to the U.S.
• 58:08
  Speaker 1: For her master's.
• 58:10
  Speaker 8: Oh.
• 58:10
  Speaker 1: I wanted to get serious. She thought I was being
• 58:12
  Speaker 1: needy and indicated that I should be happy that she
• 58:14
  Speaker 1: gave me a chance. Oh, yeah. She was really a popular.
• 58:20
  Speaker 1: She was really popular in college and is very attractive.
• 58:25
  Speaker 3: But I was building my own confidence and felt I
• 58:27
  Speaker 3: was becoming a catch too. So the fact that she
• 58:30
  Speaker 3: thought she was out of my league made me feel insecure.
• 58:33
  Speaker 3: We stay in touch because of some mutual friends. From
• 58:36
  Speaker 3: what I saw from 23 to 27... She dated quite
• 58:40
  Speaker 3: a lot of men.
• 58:40
  Speaker 1: Cool. When she was 27 or 28, apparently I hear
• 58:44
  Speaker 1: her parents tried setting up some arranged marriage type of deal.
• 58:48
  Speaker 1: The mutual friends said none of them worked out. She
• 58:50
  Speaker 1: then asks me to meet and one thing led to
• 58:53
  Speaker 1: another and we're dating.
• 58:55
  Speaker 4: Why? You seem pretty, I don't know, like rightfully offended
• 59:01
  Speaker 4: about how she approached your relationship the first time. Why
• 59:05
  Speaker 4: go back to that?
• 59:07
  Speaker 1: Well, it was seven years ago. Maybe they're all hot now.
• 59:09
  Speaker 2: You know?
• 59:10
  Speaker 5: They were young.
• 59:12
  Speaker 1: We're still hot.
• 59:13
  Speaker 4: Maybe she's changed.
• 59:14
  Speaker 5: Brain wasn't fully developed.
• 59:15
  Speaker 4: All right, then.
• 59:16
  Speaker 1: We're hot and we're dating now.
• 59:17
  Speaker 4: We're hot and we're dating.
• 59:20
  Speaker 3: She asked me at the start if I'm looking for
• 59:22
  Speaker 3: a serious relationship, and I said that I never dated
• 59:25
  Speaker 3: anyone without serious intentions. But I also said that I
• 59:29
  Speaker 3: wasn't in a rush to get married, and that if
• 59:31
  Speaker 3: she was because of parental pressure or anything, she should
• 59:34
  Speaker 3: look elsewhere. By the way, this comes from SmoothGazelle9629.
• 59:40
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• 59:42
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• 59:44
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• 59:46
  Speaker 5: I'm Keon.
• 59:46
  Speaker 1: We're going to read this story.
• 59:47
  Speaker 8: Wow.
• 59:48
  Speaker 1: We're going to have thoughts. We're going to say them.
• 59:51
  Speaker 3: You get to say yours in the comments where we
• 59:54
  Speaker 3: can read them and you can all get along for
• 59:56
  Speaker 3: a hundred years.
• 59:57
  Speaker 1: And Opie says, we dated for half a year. Honestly,
• 1:00:00
  Speaker 1: one of the best six months of my life. The
• 1:00:03
  Speaker 1: spices sleep was great. She's been super accommodating and sweet.
• 1:00:06
  Speaker 1: She brought up marriage and I said I wasn't ready.
• 1:00:09
  Speaker 1: A lot of friends are divorced, which is crazy, so
• 1:00:12
  Speaker 1: I just want to be sure. She accuses me of
• 1:00:14
  Speaker 1: lying about my intentions, but I show her the messages
• 1:00:18
  Speaker 1: where I say yes to having a serious relationship, but
• 1:00:20
  Speaker 1: not to anything rushed.
• 1:00:22
  Speaker 3: She claims that overall we've dated for over a year,
• 1:00:26
  Speaker 3: and she needs to settle down. I don't think the
• 1:00:29
  Speaker 3: math works that way.
• 1:00:30
  Speaker 4: Yeah, it kind of starts over.
• 1:00:32
  Speaker 1: After this conversation, things became super distant since. No matter
• 1:00:37
  Speaker 1: all the sweet goodnight texts I send her, she sometimes
• 1:00:39
  Speaker 1: doesn't even reply. Never wanted to meet. A month goes by.
• 1:00:42
  Speaker 1: So you're broken up again?
• 1:00:44
  Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah. If we didn't talk or see each other
• 1:00:47
  Speaker 4: within a month, it's over.
• 1:00:49
  Speaker 3: She tells me that I should either marry her or
• 1:00:51
  Speaker 3: move on, saying that she could get any guy and
• 1:00:54
  Speaker 3: that I'm lucky.
• 1:00:55
  Speaker 1: Just leave. And that's when you say, okay, good luck then.
• 1:00:59
  Speaker 2: Go ahead.
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  Speaker 4: Hasta la vista, baby.
• 1:01:01
  Speaker 5: Then why are you here with me?
• 1:01:03
  Speaker 4: I'm out.
• 1:01:03
  Speaker 1: If you could get any guy, why don't you get
• 1:01:05
  Speaker 1: my Uncle Ricky?
• 1:01:06
  Speaker 4: Why don't you get freaking Brad Pitt? Why don't you
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 4: get Elijah Wood?
• 1:01:11
  Speaker 1: Why don't you get Joseph Stalin?
• 1:01:13
  Speaker 4: Why don't you get Che Guevara? Can't do that. Those
• 1:01:17
  Speaker 4: guys are deceased.
• 1:01:20
  Speaker 8: OP.
• 1:01:21
  Speaker 1: You're better than this. Way better. This, again, hurt like
• 1:01:25
  Speaker 1: it did in the past. I am a humble enough guy,
• 1:01:29
  Speaker 1: but I believe I have become a catch, too. Despite
• 1:01:31
  Speaker 1: how much I liked her, I said I wasn't going
• 1:01:33
  Speaker 1: to be forced into marriage, so we broke things off.
• 1:01:35
  Speaker 5: And that was the end of the story. Imagine getting
• 1:01:37
  Speaker 5: married to her after that.
• 1:01:38
  Speaker 1: You know what?
• 1:01:39
  Speaker 5: You're right. Let's get married.
• 1:01:40
  Speaker 4: After she says, you'd be lucky to marry me. Okay.
• 1:01:44
  Speaker 1: And? Don't go back.
• 1:01:45
  Speaker 4: Please don't.
• 1:01:46
  Speaker 5: Fool me once.
• 1:01:47
  Speaker 4: Let's not try this again.
• 1:01:47
  Speaker 1: Don't ever go back.
• 1:01:48
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 1:01:49
  Speaker 4: You're already on, like, a fool me twice list.
• 1:01:51
  Speaker 8: This is the Fool Me Twice.
• 1:01:52
  Speaker 4: Yeah, this is Fool You Twice. You've been fooled twice.
• 1:01:54
  Speaker 1: Another month goes by.
• 1:01:56
  Speaker 3: Oh, no.
• 1:01:57
  Speaker 1: And then she starts texting me again, and we restart
• 1:01:59
  Speaker 1: the relationship.
• 1:02:00
  Speaker 4: So you're on thrice.
• 1:02:02
  Speaker 5: I don't feel bad for you. I don't feel bad
• 1:02:04
  Speaker 5: for you.
• 1:02:04
  Speaker 1: This is your fault.
• 1:02:04
  Speaker 4: You've been fooled thrice.
• 1:02:06
  Speaker 1: Brother! Brother!
• 1:02:09
  Speaker 4: You are the coyote, and she is your roadrunner, and
• 1:02:12
  Speaker 4: there's an anvil straight above your head.
• 1:02:15
  Speaker 8: This is me going for your throat, saying, what are
• 1:02:17
  Speaker 8: you doing?
• 1:02:18
  Speaker 1: Brother! Brother, stop! Just fully reaching out.
• 1:02:22
  Speaker 2: Pfft.
• 1:02:23
  Speaker 4: I'm spider webbing.
• 1:02:24
  Speaker 1: Just to wind up for the throat grab.
• 1:02:26
  Speaker 4: I'm webbing you to the wall.
• 1:02:28
  Speaker 8: Bro, if this was any of my friends, I'm going
• 1:02:30
  Speaker 8: straight for your gullet saying, what are you doing?
• 1:02:33
  Speaker 4: You're on three times right now? Pardon?
• 1:02:37
  Speaker 1: What are you doing?
• 1:02:38
  Speaker 4: Pardon, brother?
• 1:02:39
  Speaker 6: Nah.
• 1:02:41
  Speaker 4: She cannot be that hot.
• 1:02:43
  Speaker 3: It has been three months. She has gone back to
• 1:02:45
  Speaker 3: her sweet self. Says that she was wrong to say
• 1:02:48
  Speaker 3: she could get some other guy. And that was the
• 1:02:50
  Speaker 3: right one for her. She had a hard three months
• 1:02:53
  Speaker 3: out there, huh?
• 1:02:54
  Speaker 5: Again, go through your notes. Quoting you.
• 1:02:58
  Speaker 8: Yeah.
• 1:02:59
  Speaker 1: Any guy.
• 1:03:00
  Speaker 5: Yeah, I could get any guy.
• 1:03:02
  Speaker 4: Guess you kind of struck out there.
• 1:03:04
  Speaker 1: You know what? Maybe you should just marry her and
• 1:03:06
  Speaker 1: cheat on her.
• 1:03:07
  Speaker 4: That's terrible.
• 1:03:08
  Speaker 1: No, don't do that.
• 1:03:09
  Speaker 5: I'm doing this to you.
• 1:03:10
  Speaker 1: Don't do that. That's not what you should do.
• 1:03:13
  Speaker 4: Break up with her again.
• 1:03:15
  Speaker 1: Just imagine what that would do to her, you know, insecurity.
• 1:03:19
  Speaker 1: Don't do that.
• 1:03:20
  Speaker 4: Aye, aye, aye. Get this guy out of there.
• 1:03:23
  Speaker 1: Don't marry her and cheat on her.
• 1:03:25
  Speaker 3: She said that she wants marriage as soon as I
• 1:03:27
  Speaker 3: am ready and keeps telling me her parents are pushing
• 1:03:30
  Speaker 3: her to get married, but I can take my time.
• 1:03:33
  Speaker 3: I obviously feel smothered by marriage right now and also
• 1:03:36
  Speaker 3: concerned about how she can switch between being sweet and
• 1:03:40
  Speaker 3: distant at the drop of a hat.
• 1:03:42
  Speaker 1: Is she being sweet just so that I marry her? Yeah, maybe, probably.
• 1:03:46
  Speaker 1: My notes would say yes.
• 1:03:47
  Speaker 4: Yes, that's exactly what's happening.
• 1:03:49
  Speaker 3: I like her, but there's a feeling that this won't
• 1:03:52
  Speaker 3: work well long term, and I feel marriage is getting
• 1:03:55
  Speaker 3: increasingly forced rather than it being natural.
• 1:03:57
  Speaker 1: Any advice? And there is an update.
• 1:04:00
  Speaker 4: Um, my advice is to do what you've done before,
• 1:04:03
  Speaker 4: but make it stick.
• 1:04:04
  Speaker 1: Leave her. There's an update.
• 1:04:06
  Speaker 3: The day after I made the original post, people's well-thought-out
• 1:04:08
  Speaker 3: comments made me realize I have to end things.
• 1:04:11
  Speaker 4: What?
• 1:04:14
  Speaker 1: Probably should have realized without needing to post. Yes.
• 1:04:17
  Speaker 3: Last Saturday was absolutely crazy and I'm really glad I
• 1:04:20
  Speaker 3: listened to the advice provided. I dumped her and now
• 1:04:23
  Speaker 3: I feel like it was the obvious choice.
• 1:04:26
  Speaker 1: Yes.
• 1:04:27
  Speaker 3: I called her in the morning and I told her
• 1:04:28
  Speaker 3: that I couldn't deal with the changing between cold and distant.
• 1:04:31
  Speaker 3: I told her that she should find someone on her
• 1:04:33
  Speaker 3: timeline and I didn't want to be pressured into marriage.
• 1:04:36
  Speaker 3: I told her that it really hurt me that she
• 1:04:38
  Speaker 3: thinks she's better than me and that she's out of
• 1:04:40
  Speaker 3: my league. I want someone who treats me as an equal.
• 1:04:43
  Speaker 3: I say I want to end things on good terms
• 1:04:44
  Speaker 3: and I wish her well. She gets really angry. She
• 1:04:48
  Speaker 3: tells me that I never loved her and picked at
• 1:04:51
  Speaker 3: some of my insecurities that I do not want to
• 1:04:54
  Speaker 3: even share anonymously.
• 1:04:56
  Speaker 1: You should have married her and cheated on her. Things
• 1:04:58
  Speaker 1: get heated and all. Okay, clearly that's not true. Clearly don't.
• 1:05:03
  Speaker 1: Marry people and cheat on them just to upset them, okay?
• 1:05:06
  Speaker 3: Things get heated and although I try to calm her
• 1:05:08
  Speaker 3: down and end things nicely, she's adamant that I have
• 1:05:11
  Speaker 3: wasted her time and I.
• 1:05:12
  Speaker 1: Am not a real man. Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
• 1:05:15
  Speaker 1: So things end badly.
• 1:05:17
  Speaker 3: She then sends a text saying she would like to
• 1:05:19
  Speaker 3: end things on better terms.
• 1:05:20
  Speaker 8: Stop.
• 1:05:21
  Speaker 4: Stop. Stop letting her get away with this.
• 1:05:25
  Speaker 1: Computer, play Hot and Cold, Katy Perry.
• 1:05:28
  Speaker 4: You're hot and you're cold.
• 1:05:30
  Speaker 8: You're yes and you're no.
• 1:05:31
  Speaker 4: Grilly Pop, honestly, dude, you are wasting your time because
• 1:05:34
  Speaker 4: you keep coming back to her. Yeah. And you're wasting
• 1:05:37
  Speaker 4: my time.
• 1:05:37
  Speaker 2: Well, yeah.
• 1:05:39
  Speaker 3: She says she'll come over so that we can grow
• 1:05:42
  Speaker 3: from our relationship. When I see her, she's looking better
• 1:05:45
  Speaker 3: than she looks.
• 1:05:46
  Speaker 1: Ever has. Dang it.
• 1:05:47
  Speaker 4: She's a freaking siren, bruh. She's drawing you in. She's
• 1:05:52
  Speaker 4: gonna eat ya.
• 1:05:54
  Speaker 5: Watch out. Here she comes.
• 1:05:55
  Speaker 1: She's a man eater. We decide to exchange criticism. Like
• 1:05:59
  Speaker 1: true professionals.
• 1:06:01
  Speaker 6: Finally.
• 1:06:01
  Speaker 1: Finally. I make it clear nothing is going to change,
• 1:06:31
  Speaker 1: that this is over. She then proceeds to start trying
• 1:06:34
  Speaker 1: to give me a little, uh, a little, uh, a little.
• 1:06:38
  Speaker 5: A little bit of Monica? A little, uh, a little suck.
• 1:06:42
  Speaker 5: That's all, that's what you got?
• 1:06:44
  Speaker 4: A little bit off the top.
• 1:06:46
  Speaker 5: Whoa!
• 1:06:47
  Speaker 8: That's better, actually.
• 1:06:48
  Speaker 1: This has always been a request of mine that was
• 1:06:50
  Speaker 1: turned down because she always thought it was disgusting. I
• 1:06:53
  Speaker 1: enjoyed it even more than Great Spicy Sleep. Afterwards, she
• 1:06:56
  Speaker 1: said that I could take till tomorrow to decide whether
• 1:06:58
  Speaker 1: or not we were over. And that I should know
• 1:07:00
  Speaker 1: that she will do what it takes to fix it.
• 1:07:03
  Speaker 4: She's too good.
• 1:07:04
  Speaker 1: I say that it's over.
• 1:07:07
  Speaker 3: And that I cannot live in a relationship where I
• 1:07:09
  Speaker 3: have to threaten to end it to get any semblance
• 1:07:11
  Speaker 3: of respect, love, and compromise.
• 1:07:13
  Speaker 1: I got to get my doubloons back.
• 1:07:14
  Speaker 4: It's absolutely hilarious that he said, she said, I'll do
• 1:07:18
  Speaker 4: whatever it takes. Gave him a little something. And then
• 1:07:21
  Speaker 4: he said, okay, well, hold, hold. He waited until finished.
• 1:07:24
  Speaker 1: I'll do whatever it takes.
• 1:07:25
  Speaker 4: And then he said, okay, now it's over. Now it's over.
• 1:07:29
  Speaker 1: She said, I'm just saying. And he said, OK, OK,
• 1:07:33
  Speaker 1: we're done.
• 1:07:34
  Speaker 4: He said we weren't done before. He said, pause. We're
• 1:07:36
  Speaker 4: back together. Now we're done.
• 1:07:37
  Speaker 1: I don't think I don't think I don't think they
• 1:07:39
  Speaker 1: did do it. I don't think they did it.
• 1:07:41
  Speaker 4: But he just said that they did.
• 1:07:42
  Speaker 1: No, I think it was. I think it was. She
• 1:07:44
  Speaker 1: tried to go for it. He said no? And after
• 1:07:47
  Speaker 1: her trying.
• 1:07:48
  Speaker 4: Oh, I thought he accepted.
• 1:07:50
  Speaker 1: She said, oh, take till tomorrow to think about it. Okay.
• 1:07:53
  Speaker 4: Sounded like he accepted.
• 1:07:54
  Speaker 1: Yeah. She begins to cry.
• 1:07:56
  Speaker 4: She's so good. She's too good at this.
• 1:07:59
  Speaker 5: Give her a roll or something.
• 1:08:01
  Speaker 4: She's too good.
• 1:08:03
  Speaker 3: She tells me how I was always the one for her.
• 1:08:06
  Speaker 3: the ones she'd end up with. She told me that
• 1:08:08
  Speaker 3: some of her friends were interested in me over the years.
• 1:08:11
  Speaker 3: We were just friends, but she never let me know
• 1:08:13
  Speaker 3: because she wanted me in the end. After continuing to
• 1:08:16
  Speaker 3: stand my ground for over an hour where she basically
• 1:08:18
  Speaker 3: begged me, she accepted things and left. I then got
• 1:08:22
  Speaker 3: a screenshot from a friend of an Instagram story she
• 1:08:24
  Speaker 3: sent to just her close.
• 1:08:25
  Speaker 1: Friends, which I was on that list earlier this week.
• 1:08:28
  Speaker 1: Clearly not anymore. It's the special list. in green where
• 1:08:30
  Speaker 1: you share it with a subset of your followers. It
• 1:08:32
  Speaker 1: basically berated me as someone who wasted her time, blah, blah, blah.
• 1:08:37
  Speaker 3: I sent her a message saying that this is my
• 1:08:39
  Speaker 3: last message to you and then I'm blocking you. I
• 1:08:43
  Speaker 3: said I hope everything works out well in her life
• 1:08:45
  Speaker 3: and that we stay out of each other's way. I
• 1:08:47
  Speaker 3: feel free and I'm going to get a woman who
• 1:08:49
  Speaker 3: is nice to me without reason and loves me for me.
• 1:08:52
  Speaker 3: Thanks everyone for the support. I didn't expect such a
• 1:08:55
  Speaker 3: huge response.
• 1:08:56
  Speaker 1: Wow.
• 1:08:58
  Speaker 4: What a what a time. What a time you had.
• 1:09:02
  Speaker 4: I am not impressed with you, but I am glad
• 1:09:05
  Speaker 4: that your relationship is over.
• 1:09:06
  Speaker 5: You know, it takes it takes a couple tries for
• 1:09:09
  Speaker 5: you to learn.
• 1:09:09
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 1:09:10
  Speaker 1: And that's the end of this story.