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Is He Flirting or is He a Player? · Secrets They'll Only Tell a Matchmaker with Gina Hendrix

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  Is he flirting or is he a player?
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  Let's talk about it. People play games on both sides.
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  You ladies play games with the guys where you expect him to be
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  a mind reader. It's called I'm Not Going to
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  Tell You What I like or What I Prefer, and I just want you to
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  figure it out, right? And then there's the game that
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  you guys play, and I think you don't even realize you're
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  playing it. Whereas sometimes you ladies are
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  leading men down this rabbit hole, and it's almost like a
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  trap for them. All right.
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  I'll tell you a situation that just came up today.
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  That is what inspires this conversation you and I are
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  having today. One of the women that's working
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  with me through my mentor program, you know, where I
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  mentor you ladies for six weeks. I take you under my wing and you
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  and I are working together. She wrote me a message today and
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  she said, Gina, she said, this guy, I'm, you know, I'm going to
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  stop talking to him, she said, because I just think he's a
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  player. I said, hold up, let me see the
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  message. I need to see the message.
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  Let me just see what went wrong. And she sent me the message.
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  And this is what happened. She was trying to be flirty.
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  And it got off to a start where she's saying, oh, about
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  breakfast. And I know what the men think
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  immediately, right. So, oh, what are you going to
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  make me for breakfast? Well, if you flirt with a guy
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  and you say, what, are you going to make me for breakfast or what
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  is your favorite food? And he says breakfast.
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  And then you say, well, what are you going to make me for
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  breakfast? And then do you see where I'm
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  going with this? Breakfast usually happens after
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  you've stayed with them, right? So this guy was just playing
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  with her. He was just simply flirting
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  back. He was like, oh, well, you know,
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  I don't know it it was harmless enough.
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  But he was joking because she opened the the door to talk
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  about breakfast. And sometimes you ladies, you
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  don't even realize it. Sometimes you're setting these
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  guys up to walk into something and then you go, ha ha ha.
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  But that doesn't always mean anything, OK?
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  However, however, there are some things that are tried and true
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  ways these guys show themselves as a guy who is a toxic guy and
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  it's just playing you. So hang on.
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  I think the first thing is when a guy is playing you and he's
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  not being flirty is when he makes you question, it's
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  gaslighting. When he makes you question
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  yourself, when he makes you question what you said or what
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  you did, right. And then there's just so many
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  red flags, There's so many things to know.
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  And This is why I wrote an e-book for you ladies and it's
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  called the Love Fraud pages from his Toxic Playbook.
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  OK, because what I found from my own dating life to seeing what
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  happens when people are dating and they give me the scoop,
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  'cause I see everything behind the scenes, right?
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  Especially when I'm reading these messages and giving you
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  ladies advice when we're working together, OK, I know what some
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  guys do consistently over and over and over.
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  It's not all guys. It's not all guys.
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  It's some guys that just aren't good guys.
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  But those good guys know how to prey on you.
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  Know how to prey on you. OK, And you have to know exactly
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  what they're doing. So I wrote an ebook, and it's
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  free. It's free.
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  Oh, by the way, also RSVP here on TikTok, because I'm going
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  live Sunday night. And if you RSVP, then you'll get
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  a reminder to join me live.